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September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

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KamikazeeKid Sun 03-Feb-13 13:38:51

Created as other thread filling up!

andadietcoke Sun 03-Feb-13 13:57:12

Marking my place smile

HettySunshine Sun 03-Feb-13 13:58:00

Good work kamikazee. Just marking my place. smile

Kilkers Sun 03-Feb-13 14:04:33

Me too!

SGJ Sun 03-Feb-13 14:16:41

Hello shiny new thread!
Kamikazee, what a nightmare! Has she removed the post now? I would be livid too.
We still haven't told anyone yet except my sister & BIL, if we were to mc I wouldn't necessarily tell people right away, so the more people know pre-12 weeks, the more I'd feel I'd have to worry about them, if the worst happened, rather than worry about us - if that makes sense?!
I'm sure my mum and other sister suspect though, as we've always said we would have this approx age gap but thankfully they know not to ask!
Scan is Feb 22nd so holding out until then. Will be 12+3.

MrsMc82 Sun 03-Feb-13 14:54:02

Marking my place too smile

Eeeknumber3 Sun 03-Feb-13 14:58:13

hello, oops just wrote big post in old thread, won't copy and paste as was basically a rant anyway! After complaining about not having symptoms, I am now ready to barf at inappropriate moments. I feel particularly queasy right now, but could be to do with the whole bag of Werthers caramel chocs I just troughed, highly recommended. Went in poundland on fri and spent £15 on chocolate alone, I appear to have an 'issue'...normally can take it or leave the stuff wink

MrsMc82 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:16:38

kamikaze - sorry to hear abt your Mil being so indiscreet what a PITA!

I hd private scan on Fri and am about 10 days behind my lmp dates so oonly 7 weeks tomorrow and not 8+ but Im not worried, there was a wee bean in there with a strong litter heart beat so that's all that matters. .... not quite as reassured by early scan as last time tho as with ds I was def 8+ weeks so ws 98% that all will be ok whereas this early it's only 80/85% but I kind of suspect ed that I'd ovd pretty late so its not a surprise - just wish I'd waited that bit longer so the 80pounds was better spent!..... and with ds we could see a baby a very weeny baby but not just a bean!...... tho to be fair it did still make it feel real and the relief when she showed the heart beat was amazing! ........

Feeling exhausted this weekend tho still no sickness. .... just knackered! Dh being ace tho and taken on housewife duties today...... he and ds made hash browns for breakfast and yummy soup for lunch!!

Creamtea1 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:28:58

Hi all, marking place
Am quite frankly sick of friends just asking me outright 'are you pregnant' at any given moment. I haven't put on lots of weight and you can't tell, they are just so nosey. I missed a night out and all I got was the third degree from all of them. I know when I do tell them in a couple of weeks they are going to have the hump because I've lied to them. I'm being forced into telling them at 11 weeks as there's a night out and I can't deal with the interrogation again (and any oh you're so boring comments re driving) - that means I will have to tell them before my own DCs, brother, family etc and ask them to keep it to themselves for a week until the scan. I don't trust them 100% to do that and have visions of DCs coming back from school having been told by other kids...

juniper904 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:33:23

MrsMc82 where are your stats from? Are you saying that at 7 weeks, it's 85% chance of continuing, then 98% by 8 weeks?

I've been looking online and reading my dp's medical textbooks trying to find percentage chances so would be really interested to know.

I'm tempted to have a private scan. My sister had an ectopic due to endometritois and I have suspected endometritois. Don't know when my first scan will be- I have a midwife appointment at the end of feb (when ill be 10+4) then the nuchal scan at 12+1. Don't know if the feb appointment will also be a scan.

KamikazeeKid Sun 03-Feb-13 15:47:17

Creamtea your mates sound like mine withmy DS....used to wind me up. They are all saying how this years going to be great cos of all the non baby stuff we can do but about to wreck that girls holiday lol as its due date! Don't get me wrong I enjoy a night out but they dont have kids nor do they want them so dont understand that my weekends are precious family time as I work FT....plus im still catching up on savings having had over a year off!
Priorities change and they soon learn!
Plus you gain lots of understanding spew covered friends :-)

KamikazeeKid Sun 03-Feb-13 15:48:53

Ps not sure whats worse. ...no ones asking me if preg just assuming im fat. ....which actually is the case! Eating constantly to cure nausea.

badguider Sun 03-Feb-13 15:53:51

Hi new thread.
So I'm about to embark on three very tough days at work - a five hour train journey to London. Two days work then a five hour journey back arriving at 11:30. Back on the train at 7am the next morning for a four hour journey in the opposite direction and back again that same day!!!!
I'm beginning to wonder if its possible to just die of exhaustion??
We haven't told anybody yet. We're skiing in wk 12 then scan the first Monday back. Will have to tell skiing friends. We were going to tell parents before we went but now I'm thinking I'd rather not. I just don't feel I can deal with all the hugs and excitement till I know for sure it's ok in there. Think DH wants to tell the mums. Will need to have a chat.

Creamtea1 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:57:52

Lol kamikaze same here - constant eating to keep sickness away! But good time of year to hide it anyway. It's mainly my older friends who are being annoying, as they are all 'so over' the baby phase OR will be v jealous as would secretly love another dc but OH's have overruled or friend themselves are too old. I work FT too which at the moment is handy for avoiding them all, work people wouldn't notice anything even if I shaved my head and turned up looking 9 months gone!
I'm still in my normal jeans but can't wear a belt anymore as it digs in, I'm 10 weeks on thurs.

Someone else said they peeked at August thread - bad idea, they're all worrying even more than we are!

KamikazeeKid Sun 03-Feb-13 16:28:06

Yep that was me....don't recommend that thread at all!!!

Funny enough I wonder if the same guy who sussed me last time suspects again. Annoyed tho as was most probably down to me looking washed out by a cold but I was wrapping myself up and he gave me THAT look

Kittenkatzen Sun 03-Feb-13 16:30:21

Ooh shiny new fred smile

We just told my parents...my mum squealed, grabbed me in something that was half hug and half headlock and then jumped up & down confused My dad cried bless him grin

We've asked them not to tell anyone else (other siblings etc) as we want to keep quiet until after the scan. It's booked for 3 weeks Tuesday so not too long for them to keep shtum. Fingers crossed!

andadietcoke Sun 03-Feb-13 16:39:40

Oh Kitten that's so lovely smile

We're going for dinner in an hour and since I haven't thrown up yet today we're going to take the scan photos with us in case we have to explain away any extended bathroom visits!!

cravingformilk Sun 03-Feb-13 17:14:15

Hi juniper

I came across this last week when looking for some stats. The info is about 3/4 of the way down, HTH. (This is my first attempt at a link so fingers crossed it works)


So sorry to read of those who have had such sad news.

We've told a fair few people already, (but not the world). I'm the sort of person who wears my heart on my sleeve and if the worst was to happen I suspect I would want to talk about it. I've also told work because of health and safety issues relating to my job. Sadly there is one person we haven't told...our DS. I would love to tell him but he's too young to understand if things didn't work out and also it's just too long for him to wait, 8 months seems forever to me so only knows what it would feel like to him!

Anyone have any ideas when you'll tell you're DC? I was thinking 20 weeks ish? confused

Poonli Sun 03-Feb-13 17:14:44

Marking my place

amiready Sun 03-Feb-13 17:17:22

oh - I've just found you lot after still posting on the old thread! There are still a few slots over there - you guys are quick off the mark!

What's funny is that there is now an October 2013 thread - so we have pretty much completed our bus! Or at least apart from the odd newcomers who are out there and haven't realised they are pregnant yet....

I just took a look at the August 2013 thread too - after a few people mentioned it - they are all talking about the nuchal scanning! Get a bit jealous that they are further on and all having their dating scans etc. Roll on the 1st of March...

We still haven't told anyone our news - going to keep trying with the doppler at work and then maybe tell a few close people if I hear a heartbeat. Also still having real contract nightmares with work and would really like that sorted before I can be all happy and smiley about it all. Here's hoping SO much that it gets sorted this week and I can stop with the sleepless nights worrying about it....

frogchops Sun 03-Feb-13 17:20:36

Just marking my place here....hope everyone's feeling ok, or not ok depending on how you feel about symptoms! I for one would live to be sick!! Is that strange? Lol.

frogchops Sun 03-Feb-13 17:21:20

* love to be sick......not live. Obviously, crap phone.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Sun 03-Feb-13 17:26:41

I'm 10+1 today and according to the midwife's records I'm 12+1 (going by LMP, long cycle). But I haven't yet received my scan letter yet and getting a bit worried now.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Sun 03-Feb-13 17:27:58

Anyone else who's reached about this time and still not had the scan appointment fixed?

jennimoo Sun 03-Feb-13 17:57:07

Zombie - you should call and hassle them tomorrow! I had that first time, got to 11 weeks and no scan date and moving at exactly 12 weeks so very stressed and spent aged on phone to solicitors about move and midwives/hospital about scan and got it scheduled for the following week. I've got my letter and scan is less than 2 weeks away (exactly 12 weeks)so not too long a wait round here I don't think.

Dorita75 Sun 03-Feb-13 18:03:33

I've only got my booking in appointment at the moment, 13th Feb. Last time my midwife booked the scan at the booking in, for few wks later when I'd be 12+2. Unfortunately it didn't last until then but I'm assuming it will be done the same way this time and just hope there's not a queue!

We've told several people but just closest friends, parents, brothers, sisters, and my boss. If anything goes wrong these are the people who'll either need to know (my boss) or we'll need support from. Plus, it was nice to get excited about it as last time I waited and didn't have that.

Going back to work tomorrow after a week off, not looking forward to coping with the nausea.....badguider I really feel for you, I hope the next few days go fast for you.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Sun 03-Feb-13 18:50:02

cravingformilk I'm not sure about telling DS either. It has stopped me telling parents too as he'd pick up on it and tell the world I'm sure. I think we'll have to do it after the scan as he'll pick up on it but it feels a long time for him to wait.

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Sun 03-Feb-13 19:00:39

O m g!!! Facebook ground rules?? And from m I L !?!?!

We have told people who we are close with and only if we have seen them face to face. Reason being that if we mc then I know I will need my pals to support me, and I know my dh will be too gutted to share, so will need his mates to drag him out

We went pram shopping today. Premature I know but thought we would do some research. Weights of and heights of etc.

Decided that I'm gonna get most things from gumtree - other than bottles, and car seat. It's so expensive!!!

I had a dream last night that my babe was born blonde.

Marking my place

I've been reading the last thread just never posted as I felt I'd just be moaning about how ill I feel. Sorry to all those who recently got off the bus, makes me wonder if I shouldn't have told anyone, but what's done is done. Hoping to get my scan date through soon as I'm about 10+1 and I can't stand the suspense much longer! Can't afford a private scan so that's not even an option.

My nephew thinks its twins so we'll need to wait and see what's going on in there!

batfuttocks Sun 03-Feb-13 20:34:30

Hello all, old and new.
Just marking my place on this shiny new thread!
For those asking when to tell dcs, we did at about 6 weeks, as I was so sick. Just said, we think there might be a baby in my tummy as I am so sick. Then, when the scan was done (dd age 4 came with me) we said we were looking to see if we could find one. Now they have seen the scan they know there's a baby there at the moment, but sometimes things go wrong whilst they re being made and we are going to check how things are going in a few weeks time (nuchal scan). They are being great about it.

MrsMc82 Sun 03-Feb-13 20:42:21

Hi juniper

Stats from here
Sonographer said 80/85% at 6+4 ish. .... and read 95% at 7weeks some where too another private scan place I think.....

MrsMc82 Sun 03-Feb-13 20:51:31

Oh and we've told ds..... he heard Dh snf I talking send asked "is there a baby in your tummy mummy?" He's 3.... don't liketo lie to him so told him yes, but it's going to take a really really really long time to come out and left it at that seems unphased!

badguider Sun 03-Feb-13 21:10:52

I've had to stop yoga as I did ashtanga which is pretty intense and it just felt wrong in my abdomen. My yoga studio does pregnancy fitness yoga (so not birth prep) and I REALLY want to go... But we haven't told anyone yet... am wondering if I can sneak a peak first to check there's nobody I know in there? Feels very cloak and dagger...

andadietcoke Sun 03-Feb-13 21:15:13

badguider I love the idea of your covert mission to the yoga class. It made me laugh after the GP's on Wednesday. Big neon sign bleeps up with 'andadietcoke - midwife - room 5'. Brilliantly discreet.

Wincher Sun 03-Feb-13 21:52:14

I walked home from my booking appointment with my great big bounty folder under my arm labelled 'pregnancy information' - was desperately hoping not to bump into anyone knew! I wished I'd taken a bigger bag!

We have told quite a lot of people - close family, close friends. People who we would tell anyway if things go wrong. I am rubbish at keeping secrets.

SGJ Sun 03-Feb-13 22:32:25

I like that approach,*batfuttocks*, and lovely that they're being so great about it.
Am going shopping with my sister tomorrow who has a hospital doppler as she's a midwife... might ask her to try and find a heartbeat!

MeanMrsMustard Mon 04-Feb-13 07:23:34

Morning - hope you all had good weekends.
I have been reading the August thread too, but actually found it quite a comfort. I'm 11 weeks and over the past week my sickness has been easing and changing. (it used to be a sort of deep nausea and appear at the same times every day staying quite a while. Now I feel like gagging a few times a day mainly whilst travelling or if i'm too warm. Thinking about it, it's gone back to how the ms started off 6 weeks ago) . Anyway, a lot of the August ladies had their sickness easing after about 9 weeks, and have as far as I can see, gone on to have healthy scans.

My scan is 2 weeks tomorrow. Still so far away! I was going to tell my mum the day after so had already arranged for her to come round that evening for a meal. Had also booked in to see in laws and my oldest friend (who is very hard to pin down!) later in the week. It was all so perfect and organised but now mum has text to say she is going away that week so my plans have been thwarted! I am unreasonably pissed off! I can't imagine my mum not being the first person I tell so will have to have a complete rethink. Gah. Serves me right for being organised for once. It was probably tempting fate anyway...

Sorry for the long and indulgent post. Am nearly at work now so will leave you all in peace!

HettySunshine Mon 04-Feb-13 08:04:20

Morning ladies, another week begins! I have my booking in appointment on Friday so only a four day working week, hurray! I think we're going to visit my mum this weekend (I told her a few weeks ago but haven't seen her since Christmas). She's a retired health visitor and before that she was a midwife so a very useful person to talk to.

I mentioned my lack of symptoms and she said she never had any ms with me, or many other symptoms, apart from the metallic taste in her mouth that I have had once or twice. That has made me feel much more relaxed about things. Have those of you who have told your mums done the same? Might put some minds to rest.

LexyMa Mon 04-Feb-13 09:12:45

Hi all. Symptoms have all dropped off here other than total exhaustion, sore boobs and I had a bit of pain in my fanny-bone when I was moving furniture on Saturday... probably slightly foolish to do that but we had a sofa being delivered and needed the old one into another room.

Booking in is this Thurs but I can't find where I have put the notes book that the GP started off!!

Still haven't told anyone. My dad was visiting this weekend and I managed to claim I had a long running cold which was making me so tired. Also joined in the wine drinking but only half a glass.

I got asked outright by one of our friends who is keenest for us to get on with having another.. on New Year's Eve (!!!) we had been talking about school choices or something and in context of my old plan to take a big chunk of leave and possibly trying to time the arrival of DC2 when DS starts the complicated short days going into reception, she asked when my last period was (!!!!!) and I blustered a bit and said I dunno off hand, it's all on my phone in an app. Of course at that point I was 4+6 and absolutely not about to tell her, lovely as she is. I bet when we do announce it she will claim to have known from then.

Am also wondering how to make sure PILs don't broadcast it on Facebook, they didn't do FB last time and to me it seems less intrusive that they would have phoned their family/friends etc. Whenever they put a picture of DS up or I do and tag them so they spot it (they're not on FB all the time) I get a flurry of friend requests from random distant cousins who I've never met, or have met and find zero in common with them. I just ignore but always worry that I'm coming across as snooty.

Eeeknumber3 Mon 04-Feb-13 09:21:17

Me zombie! Been told I wont get one til 12-14 weeks and that won't hear about it for another 3 weeks or so, am 7 weeks today...feel like I've just been left! Also no midwife qppt at GP til 16 weeks, I understand this is my third, but still?!

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 09:35:52

eek I'm on number 3 too and was told at booking that if I was under midwife led care I wouldn't get another appt till 16 weeks. As it turned out I had to be under consultant led so means I get an appt at 12 weeks on same day as scan. So anyway I think for old timers smile like us it is the norm to have booking, 16 weeks, 24 weeks and then a couple more after that.

Kilkers Mon 04-Feb-13 09:52:35

Excited as I've got my booking in appointment on Thursday! MW sounds very nice, we've moved areas so she's different from the one I had when I had an MC. Sounds like a very lively Geordie lass!

I'm naturally worried because of my previous MC, I'm not yet at the stage of asking for an early scan but I wondered if I ask her will she ask the hospital to check my hgc levels to set my mind at rest a bit. Does anyone know?

fl0b0t Mon 04-Feb-13 10:08:24

Ooh busy new thread smile

hetty my mum mentioned at Christmas that she was very sick when pg with me (chatting to sil about pregnancy) so at least I hope she will understand!

I've git to briefly brag about how absolutely wonderful my husband has been. I always knew he was a bloody good catch but he's looking after me so well. Hes done all the food shopping and washing up and emptying the bins and the clothes washing whilst I've laid on the sofa groaning for 4 days. He's made me small, plain snacks, not complained that I can't bare to be touched, he's let me book an early scan and has put together a schedule to tell close family this week to take the pressure off me! I feel very blessed right now.

My boss has also been great. I've now been off work for 6 days but I said I'd call her after my Dr appt today. so I guess I'll be telling her! Hope she takes it well! (she's gay with no maternal interest!)

I'm still feeling mad about the mil thing if I'm honest. I really hate it when people are unable to respect other peoples personal news. I'd love to tell my best girl friend but feel unable to as she is terrible at secrets and her fiancee is even worse!

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 10:13:30

I know this is far, far, farther than far too much information, but I feel the need to tell you I just did a 2lb poo grin

fl0b0t Mon 04-Feb-13 10:23:34


Kilkers Mon 04-Feb-13 10:49:28

I can identity with you CreamTea as I did a huge poo yesterday and it felt goooooood!

I've been so backed up I even saw my GP on Friday and he prescribed me some pg-safe laxatives/stool softeners. I haven't taken them yet as I'm too scared!

LexyMa Mon 04-Feb-13 11:23:03

A bouncing 2lb-er!!! Did you need to bear down for that?!?!

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 11:27:39

Ladies the relief was immense!!! I should have thought of it as a practice! I can literally see the difference in my (less bloated) tummy.
I think it was the apricots that did it...recommend smile

Kilkers Mon 04-Feb-13 11:35:17

I can literally hear the MWs on OBEM shouting "just push into your bottom"! I've tried prunes and they didn't work so I might give the dried apricots a try.

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 11:39:06

klikers they need to be the soft ones, not the totally dry ones. I got a big pack in sainsburys for 1.89, they were whitworths ones. I know m&s have small packs as snacks too

CrikeeThree Mon 04-Feb-13 12:09:51

Just signing in, so that I'm on the new thread.
Still queasy/pukey, still off work, still feeling sorry for self, but won't write any more about that, as I'm beginning to bore even myself with it all!!

The poo talk is making me giggle. Not a symptom I've experienced.... yet.... just the constant puking... oh joy!

Eek this is number 3 for me, and I remember not seeing the MW/GP very often even for number one.... think it really changes depending on where you are.
I'll be consultant-led this time so, like creamtea1 , I'll be having annoying chats with whichever consultant happens to be there on the day I have an appointment at the hospital.
I find them quite frustrating, if I'm honest (had them in pregnancy no.2). They never seem to have time, or to listen to you... and they treat you as if you know nothing at all and have no right to an opinion
(I understand that it must be annoying if patients try to second-guess stuff, but I don't! I just want them to explain stuff to me "properly" and not just expect me to accept everything they say as read... anyway....!!)

Wibblytummy Mon 04-Feb-13 12:44:35

Ooh another new thread already! Marking my place really. Nothing exciting in this household, other than my unrelenting exhaustion! DS1 is teething with his back molars too so that's just a treat. Booking in went all well, was a little sad it wasn't my lovely community midwife from last time but apparently she is in the unit now so may see her come birth time! Am going to be consultant led this time round though as my very long DS came out over 10lb. She said I may get a few extra scans so that'll be great!

KamikazeeKid Mon 04-Feb-13 13:09:46

Ooo creamtea you have a lot to answer for....I read your post with a mouthful of juice in......the guy that sits opposite now has it on his glasses!!!

3 week countdown to scan for me. I'll be 11+2 I thought that might be too early.

Interesting to see above reports on consultant led care....I'm apprehensive about birth due to hospital mistakes last time nearly losing me my boy and also the almighty cock up with my epidural. ...

KamikazeeKid Mon 04-Feb-13 13:12:44

Can someone enlighten me as to what to expect at consultant appts?

Im considering a section following emerg section last time but not decided and not ruling out attempt at vbac
Although the thought of natural birth scares me more....bloody smarts a bit from what I did experience last time!!

MrsMc82 Mon 04-Feb-13 13:58:29

If anyone asks its bean who wants me to have crisps and skittles for lunch ok? Its not me
...... that s all! grin

fl0b0t Mon 04-Feb-13 14:01:08

Sorry for brief subject change- anyone got a pet that's being funny? My cat cannot stay off my (non-existant) bump. He's not really a lap cat but loves sitting with all his paws on my womb and bladder at the moment! He is so funny!

Anyone else a Blogger?

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 14:22:03

Ha ha kamikaze re juice on colleagues glasses smile

Re consultant apps, I think all it means is that you have 3 appts at hospital (12, 20 and 30 something) with a random consultant about your risk factors and monitoring them etc, but you still have your normal appts with your midwife to do your blood pressure, wee check, measuring etc. so as mine is because of pre eclampsia before I guess that later on it will be the consultants decision whether to do anything special (ie induce etc) rather than being left to midwives.

Got a pounding headache today, guess maybe I over exerted myself with the mega poo!

Whyriskit Mon 04-Feb-13 14:42:02

Kamikazee - was in exactly the same position as you with my last preg. Consultant appt just consisted of talking through the options and making a plan.

SGJ Mon 04-Feb-13 14:49:00

Congrats, Creamtea! I'm clearly feeling sympathy delivery pain as I too have a pounding headache and extreme tiredness. Finally my killer cold is easing off though and I'm back to experiencing pg symptoms again, whoop!
Bit gutted though, my sister's Doppler is in for a service, so no heartbeat for me today, boo.
Oooh, advert for Graze Box on telly - now off to buy fibrous goodies...

Kittenkatzen Mon 04-Feb-13 14:50:04

Arf at all the poo talk and resultant juice spitting! grin

kamikazee 3 weeks scan countdown starts tomorrow for me - I'll be 11+5 which I also thought was a bit early but I guess not!

fl0b0t yes one of my cats is being all weird with me too - she's always been affectionate but just lately she wants to cuddle up to my tummy every time I sit down! The last few days I've even woken up to find her snuggled under the duvet next to me! Bless smile

Kittenkatzen Mon 04-Feb-13 14:51:23

SGJ my favourite part of the working week is Monday morning when my Graze box gets delivered grin

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 15:55:58

SJG I love graze boxes, formulated quite an addiction and had to step away...realised that engineering my preferences so it was always honeycomb flapjacks, Belgian chocolate and raisins, and apple and toffee sauce arriving wasn't actually that healthy! But soo yummy and certainly fibre-liscious smile
My 12 week scan is 3 weeks today...literally the month of jan was the slowest month in history, presume feb will be the same.

loubeebaby Mon 04-Feb-13 17:17:11

Hi Girlies.....Ive been AWOL for a while due to sh*tty work training course and exam etc.
So sad to see some of us have hopped off the bus. Sending big hugs to all.
Have had a good chuckle at the poo situ....have had that symptom slightly but nothing as bad as a 2lb'er!!
Had my booking in appointment, they said there was a slight trace of protein in my urine..!!? but when I phoned for results......receptionist said....very unconveniencly that all test results were normal with no action to be taken. Really hope this is not an early sign on pre-eclampsia :-(
Morning sickness seems to have passed now....touchwood....and energy levels seem to be on the rise! Thank the lord!! 10+5 today....2nd trimester here we come!
Have got nuchal scan in 2 weeks. Very nervous as my uncle was Down's bless him.....and I know I couldnt cope if I was told high risk.
Great to hear all your updates x

CheeseStrawCraving Mon 04-Feb-13 18:09:09

Marking my place. Hello everyone! hetty my mum said she threw up on the day she found out she was preggers with my oldest sis, then was fine. I've been largely fine too. She also said that (like us) they were the first in their group to have kids, so when the doc asked her to bring in a urine sample, she managed to turn up with a 2ltr bottle half full as she didn't know how much they wanted> they didn't say anything at the time... I giggled so hard when she told me that I wee'd a little bit. Hehehehehe.

Hope you're all having a great, non-sicky, positive day. Just counting down the (very slow) days until my scan on 25th Feb. So come on, which lucky so and so has the earliest scan date here??

NHS rant alert!!

Called the hospital to check they'd went me out a scan/booking in date and they've no record of receiving my referral from my midwife. I called my midwife and she said she would fax it again and I should call them back in the afternoon to check they've received it.

So when I call back they said they still haven't got it. Arg!! Either my midwife is useless or the hospital are useless angryangryangry

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Mon 04-Feb-13 18:17:09

Loubeebaby - I think we are sharing the same due date :-)
I'm going to be consultant led, not due to my mental health history but for my high BMI. A joke!!
I love juice over colleague. Well done!!
I used to have graze boxes but found the healthy ones never got eaten.

I have roast chicken for dinner ...... Mmmmmm

CheeseStrawCraving Mon 04-Feb-13 18:19:28

Ooh is anybody on a device that can copy and paste our latest stats list over to the new thread?

Dorita75 Mon 04-Feb-13 18:19:36

Ah mrsmc82 I want skittles now!!

Cheese I haven't even got a date for my scan yet so will probably be near the end of your list! Booking in on 13th when I'll be 9+5 so hopefully won't be too much longer after that.

CheeseStrawCraving Mon 04-Feb-13 18:26:59

Dear lord - now we pretty much have everybody for Sept, it will be a lovely milestone to get everyone past the first scan, then we can move on the the next set of worries!

Doc just rang following my booking in, apparently I have 'bacteria in my urine', which means three days of antibiotics sad. Still, if that's the only results that have come back as a worry that's pretty good going I'd say, spesh as I have zero symptoms of said infection.

Hit 9w today so feeling pretty positive, anyone else having a good day?

Eeeknumber3 Mon 04-Feb-13 18:29:46

Afternoon ladies...oooo creamtea congratulations and jubilations on mission 'bum buster'...I had a similar experience yesterday, most satisfying and oh the relief!
creamtea and crikee I expect I'll be consultant led too at Macclesfield as I have been the last two babies. Due to the fact they are fixated with a Deep Vein Thrombosis in my early 20's (36 now), which was a direct result of an injury, making me no more predisposed to DVT's than any other person?! But hey ho, means I get a bit more attention, I did insist I didn't need the Clexane (sp?) jabs (blood thinning) with number 1 though, and they seemed to listen...never bothered asking me with number two! They also enjoyed scaring me to death both times that I was having 12lb to 13lb babies (was enormous), DS1 was 9lb and DD2 was 8lb 5oz?!

Babyboo79 Mon 04-Feb-13 18:37:00

I apologise in advance for my rant, but I feel the need to share!!

A close friend and colleague of mine returned to work today after a long holiday. She is the only person I have told that I am pregnant. After having a face to face conversation with her in the office she emailed me to say that she had Rubella while away and may still be contagious....shock queue total freak out by moi!

I had a quick read on nhs & if I caught it there would be a 90% chance of the baby having multiple defects as I am only 8 weeks!

I called the midwife as soon as I got home & thankfully I have the antibodies but she still advised me to avoid her until safe..... Needles to say, i shall be working from home for the next few days!

KamikazeeKid Mon 04-Feb-13 18:45:10

With DS I never got angry or hormonal but this pregnancy I feel close to injuring my hubby for deliberately being fking annoying. Im not even 9 weeks in....he best watch himself

frogchops Mon 04-Feb-13 18:45:46

Anyone been prescribed higher dose of folic acid?? My dr has out me on 500mg, duno why. Also have a water infection, so a weeks worth of anti biotics :-( have booking in on 13th, and I see lots of others have too!!

andadietcoke Mon 04-Feb-13 18:47:16

Anyone who's had consultant led care before...

I've had an appt through today for an antenatal appt at the hospital a week tomorrow - I'll only be ten weeks then so it seems a bit premature. Is this normal? No mention of a scan or anything; it just says it may be a two hour appt. I've also had a date through for my GTT in June. Could the antenatal clinic appt actually be the fatty nutrition appt the mw mentioned? Confused!!

andadietcoke Mon 04-Feb-13 18:49:01

frogchops yep, I'm on 5mg folic acid. I think it's because my BMI is over 30.

Kittenkatzen Mon 04-Feb-13 18:59:57

babyboo shock at your colleague, some people just don't think do they. I'm sure you'll be fine though if you already have antibodies.

dietcoke that sounds like your booking appt to me, so perfectly normal smile

I've ha a really random craving for cheese scones all day - couldn't find any to buy so I think I'm going to make some when I get home! Mmmm....warm cheesy buttery goodness....smile

andadietcoke Mon 04-Feb-13 19:04:35

kitten but I've had one booking appt with the mw already - is this just now a hospital booking appt?

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 19:20:14

coke I think it sounds like your first hosp consultant appt - just a bit early. You could always try and change it although knowing what the system is like the next available one probably wouldn't be until 16 weeks or something!
Mmm skittles, I was dreaming about profiteroles earlier...

andadietcoke Mon 04-Feb-13 19:29:20

I need to change it anyway - I've got a meeting in London that day with a very important contact - the kind that you wait for years for a meeting with!! Will ring them tomorrow and see what they say. Thanks both smile

SGJ Mon 04-Feb-13 19:31:45

Kitten - I actually have 2 homemade cheese scones sat in the kitchen right now... oh wait.... only 1 now!

MrsGAT Mon 04-Feb-13 19:44:07

Hello ladies,
Just found out I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago, with my first at 39! Very happy and very scared in equal measure. Am working abroad at the moment and no-one here knows about it so feeling a bit isolated and also like the whole thing is a bit unreal. Just thought I'd say hello to make it all feel a bit more real. Anyone else feeling slightly detached at this point? (apart from the nausea and sore boobs, obv!)

Kittenkatzen Mon 04-Feb-13 20:23:33

I made the cheese scones. Have demolished two already....amazing. I am happy smilesmile

dietcoke I had a first meeting with midwife at 6wks, and tomorrow I have my booking in at 8+5, so I guess it's another of those things that differs between areas!

Kittenkatzen Mon 04-Feb-13 20:24:57

Oh and welcome mrsgat and congrats smile. Agree with you about it all seeming unreal to begin with - we told parents this weekend which has brought it home a little bit!

frogchops Mon 04-Feb-13 20:39:40

I'm glad someone else is dietcoke....and obviously I meant 5mg not 500! Am a bit stressed about water infection tho, hope its not done any damage so far :-/.

I'll be 8+3 ish at my booking appt, I think this about the kinda time everyone seems to be having theirs.

Was in the toilets at work talking on my mobile to my mum about water infections and pregnancy etc....and didnt realise someone else was in there. Luckily it was just my boss, who already knows and came into my office later to check I was ok.

KamikazeeKid Mon 04-Feb-13 20:55:18

Frogchops I had a nasty water infection from 5 weeks with DS...hes fine and dribbling on me now ;-)
I had to have antibiotics that are not the preferred ones to take in pregnancy as im allergic!

Peabody25 Mon 04-Feb-13 20:56:47

Anyone tried travel sickness bands for nausea? Feeling incredibly sorry for myself today! Have constant nausea not been sick thankfully today but really room spinningly dizzy! Got docs spot tomorrow to see whether I've got ear infection as nausea and dizziness aren't a good combination! hmm

chocciemousse Mon 04-Feb-13 21:04:38

Hi everyone. Just marking my space. As everyone is talking about scans, i have received my scan date for 22 Feb. I will be 11+6. Do you have to be over the 12 week mark? I know it is close but should I be rebooking?

Creamtea1 Mon 04-Feb-13 21:08:40

No choccie 11+6 is fine, usual window for scan is between 11 and 13 weeks smile

Would also like to know if anyone's tried the sea sick bands? My friend said they helped her but I'm sceptical.

CharlW1 Mon 04-Feb-13 21:17:30

Have been off the thread for a couple of weeks so thought I would check in. I have my booking appointment on Thursday and a 10 week private scan on Saturday - crossing everything and praying everything will be alright this time

badguider Mon 04-Feb-13 21:54:16

Peabody - I tried the bands and they don't seem to do anything for me sad worth a try though.

Bleeding gums today sad - anybody who's been through this before got any gum/teeth care tips? I want to keep mine!!!

andadietcoke Mon 04-Feb-13 21:56:53

badguider the Hygenist told me to keep using the inter dental brushes, even if it bled a fair bit. That was all she suggested really.

1sttimepg Mon 04-Feb-13 22:04:51

I found out I was pregnant today and roughly I'm 4weeks gone, I want to be happy but I can't be I have worked myself up enough to think I'm going to lose it because I've been drinking as I dint know I was pregnant, I keep getting pains like period pains and I get scared all the time :/ how can I settle my mind.

Wincher Mon 04-Feb-13 22:12:43

My scan is three weeks tomorrow when I'll be 11+3. My midwife told me they like to get women in for scans a bit earlier these days, so that may be why so many of us have scans at 11 weeks plus. Last time I had my scan at 11+3 and they moved my dates back a whole week so I was only 10+3 - that was gutting!

frogchops Mon 04-Feb-13 22:17:43

Am getting the occasional sharp - make you jump - kind of pain in my lower tummy, along with back cramping. Worth getting checked out or am I fretting unecessarily?? Have had no other symptoms. :-/

SGJ Mon 04-Feb-13 23:11:11

I think any random pains in the groin/back area are considered normal at this stage as everything's growing/shifting around/being shoved out of place by larger bladders and bowels, etc. I get a funny sensation when I cough, so have taken to coughing in a foetal position!

Don't be too worried 1sttimepg, at 4 weeks the placenta isn't actually developed, so any drinking you've done so far won't have an impact. The placenta develops between 5-6 weeks so you've found out at just the right time. Congratulations!!

Dorita75 Tue 05-Feb-13 06:52:08

Welcome and congrats new ladies! I'm 8+4 and still not accepting it's going to last, that's that mc does to you...all we can do is wait and try not to go mad!

I've got the wristbands, I don't think they work for full on ms but mine seems to have gone down a level thank god, and I think they're helping a bit now...

I can't read any posts about food, makes me do an internal shiver! Cannot wait to feel normal about food again. Last night I was in bed at 7.30 because the smell of dp's chicken cooking made me feel so sick. I associate the kitchen with horrid smells now so have trouble going in there..not very convenient!

juniper904 Tue 05-Feb-13 07:52:45

I've been given another hospital appointment, which is weird. I've got my booking in at the end of feb, the nuchal in mid march and now another one.

The letter doesn't say why, and it's on a Sunday confused with obstetrics. Also, it's earlier than the other two. Will have to ring and find out what's going on!

Anybody else had an appointment with an obstetrician before their booking appointment?

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 08:02:22

Dorita I'm with you. 9w today, and even though I've seen two heartbeats I can't stop thinking it's all going to go wrong (again). Every ache and twinge and I'm convinced it's vanishing twin syndrome. Then I worry about the other one. The next few weeks can't go quickly enough!!

TripleRock Tue 05-Feb-13 08:47:44

Day off work with my DD today, just cuddled up on the sofa in our dressing gowns watching cbeebies!

Keeping nausea at bay with constant munching of carbs atm, dreading being weighed at my booking appointment on Monday! Also had a little kip in my car yesterday lunchtime!

We spent the weekend with various family members and still managed not to spill the beans! We don't want DD to know just yet, but also want her to be the first to know, so got to keep secrets a while longer yet.

jemimahpuddleduck Tue 05-Feb-13 08:57:46

Morning All

A little worried this morning as have had some brown tinged CM so off to the docs this morning. Has anyone else had this?

jm233 Tue 05-Feb-13 09:10:04

Hi all,

Have had some dreadful news- found out my mother has passed away yesterday. It was really sudden and a complete shock. I feel an absolute mess and terrified for my little bean at the same time. Trying to keep it together and just desperately want to get through this awful month in one piece.

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 09:14:42

Oh jm I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through. Be kind to yourself. thanksthanksthanks

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 09:17:28

jemimah yep, for about 10 days, not just on and off. Ended up with a scan at the EPU because I had some pain too which I think now may have been wind but I panicked

There was no reason for the bleed on the scan - the sonographer said she thought it was probably left over from the foetuses bedding in and everything settling down. How far along are you? Mine started about 7w I think, but I'm 9w today and still had some yesterday.

jemimahpuddleduck Tue 05-Feb-13 09:29:42

I am so sorry Jm how awful for you. I hope you have lots of support thanks

I'm 8+2 andadietcoke I'm having some pain to but it may just be in my mind. Thanks for your reply it has helped knowing there is someone else who had it and has been ok.

So sorry to hear your news jm. Unmumsnetty hugs.

I'm finding tuc biscuits are keeping me going at the moment. Salty and buttery, ate 3/4 of a packet a few days ago, in one sitting! blush

nerual Tue 05-Feb-13 10:07:33

Jemima, I had a big bleed on Thursday evening, a whole gush of bright red blood. I had a scan yesterday and still have heartbeat, although there is a small 'area of bleeding' that they can see on the scan. I haven't bled since Thursday, so hoping all ok. Was terrifying though. I think bleeding in first trimester is actually relatively common, and isn't always bad news...try not to worry too much.

jm, so sorry about your mum, what a terrible time for it to happen sad

Kittenkatzen Tue 05-Feb-13 10:14:45

Oh jm that's awful, I'm so sorry for your loss sad do you have lots of rl support? We're all thinking of you thanksthanksthanks

Creamtea1 Tue 05-Feb-13 10:22:58

jm really sorry to hear your sad news, hope you are being looked after

coke I keep forgetting you are having twins! - I bet that's why you have been called in for the extra appt at the hospital.

Belvedere Tue 05-Feb-13 10:25:27

Hello All,
I had my booking appointment last week and now am booked in for a scan on the 21st february when ill be 12+1. Am 10 weeks tomorrow and feeling very fat especially in the evening so its all becoming a bit more real.

JM - really sorry to hear about your Mum, what a horrible time for you.

Good luck to everyone else smile

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Tue 05-Feb-13 10:36:45

I'm really sorry to hear that JM.

fl0b0t Tue 05-Feb-13 10:38:52

jm what awful news, really thinking of you at the moment.

Told in-laws yesterday which went well on the whole (I'm just sensitive and ill). FIL insists in calling me "mummy" even though I said I wasn't comfortable with that at least until end of 1st trimester. SIL told me that when she had ms, she found that she felt worse "wallowing at home" so went to work instead. Which sounds lovely, if you're well enough to leave the house. (* grumps grumps grumps *). On the whole it was fine, telling my parents tonight, and I've got my cheeky early private scan later. Very excited but quite nervous about going out today- I've got to get a train to meet my husband at the scan centre, and last time I got a train it was Very Bad (tm). Will be getting some exercise too though which will be good- I've gone from 7-9hrs exercise a week to... 20minutes!

Eeeknumber3 Tue 05-Feb-13 11:00:54

Oh jm what a horrible time for you, take care of yourself. Do you have siblings, can you help each other? So so sorry x
I had a private scan yesterday, was 7 weeks yesterday, she couldn't get clear pic so used dildo cam...I have no shame, so just wanted her to get a clearer picture. Was amazing and she showed me the heartbeat...it was lovely. She made me laugh actually, asked me if my littlest child had just gone to school, said yes DC 2 went in September and she told me she sees lots of ladies on number 3 who have just lost their last baby to school! Obviously I am very typical!

loubeebaby Tue 05-Feb-13 11:31:55

Big Hugs JM. So sorry to hear that. Try to be as strong as you can xx

Eeeknumber3 Tue 05-Feb-13 11:59:40

I thought something was very wrong as she looked concerned and I was beginning to be that sick feeling during the scan. Eventually, I plucked up the courage to ask if everything was ok, and she said 'erm, no not really, I check for ovarian cysts and I can't find your right ovary anywhere'. I had neglected to tell the poor lady I had a complete oopherectomy, tube and all, on the right side about 10 years ago due to massive dermis cyst...oops, poor woman...

Eeeknumber3 Tue 05-Feb-13 12:00:22

**Dermoid cyst

Wincher Tue 05-Feb-13 12:51:00

So sorry jm, how absolutely awful for you.

TripleRock Tue 05-Feb-13 13:01:59

I had that Jemima, lasted for about 48 hours and never came to anything. I had an early scan and all was well. It was when I was about 7 weeks, how far along are you?

TripleRock Tue 05-Feb-13 13:06:35

And I'm so sorry JM sad

Creamtea1 Tue 05-Feb-13 13:14:06

Ladies can we do a weight/food check. Am 10 weeks on thurs and have put on 4lbs (bad?) my problem is that unless I eat very regularly it makes the nausea worse. I have tried cutting down on eating but I just end up feeling horrendous. It's like I am so hungry it makes me feel sick. For about 1 hour after a meal I feel ok, then it starts again. And only carby things seem to help. This is today's food so far:
Mini shredded wheat for breakfast
1 slice whole meal toast and marmite snack
Cheese and ham sandwich on whole meal lunch
Activia yoghurt

Will try and last till 3pm then will have grapes. At 5 pm will have to have another slice toast. Dinner will be around 8pm and will be homemade cottage pie (massive portion!)

It's like my appetite has gone into overdrive - this is totally wierd to me as pre preg I was a big follower of intermittent fasting and often skipped meals etc or went long periods without eating, with no problems.

Eeeknumber3 Tue 05-Feb-13 13:33:16

I have lost weight creamtea, but think that is due to cutting out the vino, was drinking too much I feel. Think you're doing ok on the eating, I have to eat regularly too, as I'm just blinkin starvating! Today I have eaten:
Mini fruit shreddies
2 slices toast with lemon curd
Half a tuna sandwich leftover
Half a cheese sandwich and bag of low fat crisps
Big bowl of pineapple
Now on an apricot eat natural bar
Then will eat big plate of beef stew from slow cooker and mash!

Creamtea1 Tue 05-Feb-13 13:50:13

Thanks eek makes me feel a bit better as it looks like we have a pretty identical daily intake there, and if youve lost weight it must be ok for preg purposes! And mmm on the lemon curd smile that's going on tomorrows list

Apologies to all the people who can't read the food postings, just skip through these!

batfuttocks Tue 05-Feb-13 13:58:42

Jm, so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself, your baby will be fine despite all the upset. Hope you are getting lots of love and support.

A few people were doing a weight/ food check. I am apparently unchanged ( go up and down by 2 lbs all the time and am still there). That said, I've gone from intermittent fasting Briffa type diet to no exercise and carb eating to survive ms. I reckon I have lost muscle so have probably gained in size but not weight. In my experience I am better in the second and third trimesters so just trying to go with the flow: I know how to sort it out afterwards if I get in a mess. Bye bye carbs and hello running!

Today I've eaten:
Rich tea biscuit on waking
Weetabix with hot milk and banana
Bagel with Philly mid morning at work
Handful dried prunes( medicinal!) and one thorntons choc at work
Prawn mayo Sarnie ( sainsburys pack) and fresh mango for late lunch

Dinner will be a couple of pancakes I imagine!

PurplePoppySeed Tue 05-Feb-13 14:01:50

Wow new thred is huge already!

Jm so sorry to hear your news, look after yourself, such a terrible thing to happen any time, I hope your dp is looking after you. Does the rest of your family know you are pg?

I've found my weight is going up and down lots, on the whole it seems to come back to the same as I started, but at times ive been 6lb heavier. I think I'll only worry if I'm visibly getting bigger anywhere other than boobs and belly!

batfuttocks Tue 05-Feb-13 14:04:10

I am 10+4,by the way. I find I eat loads until mid afternoon then a little dinner, otherwise I am too full to sleep

Creamtea1 Tue 05-Feb-13 14:16:27

Pancake panic - is it pancake today or next tues?

batfuttocks same here re fasting/exercise/low carb to zero exercise mega carb...I can get away with the 4lbs but I feel like I am bigger size wise than that suggests. Anyway as you say, I know how to sort it afterwards when I'm not feeling so bleurgh and tired.
(although disclaimer would rather not have to diet for 8 months all over again!)

Starfishkiss Tue 05-Feb-13 14:30:28

Hiya again everyone, these threads move so fast I can't keep up!
Just wanted to share my amazing morning seeing my new little one for the first time! - I know you lot will share my excitement much more than RL!
I had my 12 wk scan at 9am this morning, and saw my teeny tiny little baby kicking around! I saw its little face, it's little arms and legs, and it's little flickery heart, it was magical, I can't believe I am instantly so in love with something! I couldn't speak for about 2 mins when she first turned the screen around, I just couldn't believe it and very nearly almost broke down in tears of joy!
As its my second I didn't think I was going to react so strongly, so it all came as quite a lovely surprise!
The best bit is that it turns out my dates are slightly off and I'm actually only 10 weeks, so I have to come back for another scan in 2 weeks! grin Can't wait to see him/her again!!
It makes all the cramping, the sickness and the headaches worthwhile doesn't it!

batfuttocks Tue 05-Feb-13 14:34:14

Ahh, lovely news starfish.

Oh bugger, pancake day is next week. My dcs are expecting pancakes tonight!! Dilemma.

Kilkers Tue 05-Feb-13 14:49:39

That's so lovely to hear starfish, I still have 4 weeks to wait for my first scan envy I think I might explode having to wait for it!

Also very sorry to hear your news jm thanks

batfuttocks you could always have pancakes two weeks in a row!

Re all the food talk, I think I've only put on a pound or 2 as my trousers are a bit tight, can't really tell as we don't own any scales! I've also been feeling like carbs all the time, I wish it was lettuce that made me feel less sick. I'm trying not to be too naughty but I figure it won't last (touch wood) and I can be good for the rest of the pregnancy. My savour has been Tesco Value bags of ready salted crisps, 79p for 12 bags! It's great because they're not too big so I don't feel too piggy.

I've also increased my intake of fruit (and dried fruit!) as the pooping fairy is not visiting me too often these days grin

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 14:51:06

Awww starfish that's lovely. I still haven't got a scan appt through (unless there's one bundled in with my consultant AN appt that turned up yesterday).

Kittenkatzen Tue 05-Feb-13 15:16:55

Lovely to hear of everyone's happy scan news smile

Just got home from my booking appointment. Managed to only almost pass out when they took my blood so I'm relatively pleased with that! <wimp emoticon>

Food wise I seem to be snacking loads and loads, but am struggling with big portions where I never did before. I'm trying to stick to healthy-ish snacks but sometimes only junk will do - current fave is m&s salt & vinegar chipsticks. Yum. Weight wise I've put on half a kilo in the last 3 weeks, and in total am about 2 kilos heavier than normal....some of that will be Christmas poundage though.

Starfishkiss Tue 05-Feb-13 15:17:26

Ooh You may well have a scan that same day, because I also have a consultant appointment the same time as my (next) 12 weeks scan, but I thought it was just a scan IYSWIM.
What are your dates? Everyone should have a scan at or around 12 weeks, so does it correlate?

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 15:21:38

It should have been next week, so only 10 weeks. I couldn't make that appt so it's now at 11 weeks. 11 would be okay for a scan, 10 felt a bit early, so that's why I wondered what was going on.

Creamtea1 Tue 05-Feb-13 15:38:56

Just to say my consultant (first) appt and my scan are on the same day at the hospital, back to back - but they did write on the appt card 12.00 scan, 12.45 consultant.
And then small print of please allow 2 hours to see the consultant! Going on previous experience that doesn't mean seeing them for 2 hours, it means sit there waiting for 2 hours before you can start complaining your appt is late... hmm

Starfishkiss Tue 05-Feb-13 15:51:22

dietcoke maybe give them a call to ask? Because if not i would have though they would need to get your scan booked in pretty soon?

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 16:17:17

Don't want to bother them, but DH doesn't want to miss a scan, and I don't want him to have to take a morning off school for no reason (although I think he would love an unnecessary morning off school)

Starfishkiss Tue 05-Feb-13 16:21:31

Ahh go'wan don't be silly! (- channelling Mrs Doyle there!)
Give em a call and put your mind to rest! grin

batfuttocks Tue 05-Feb-13 16:39:36

Oops. Opened Nutella ( was for pancakes that will now not happen) and attacked it with a spoon.

Not much left now.

My hospital finally have my referral! Hope to get a scan date through soon. Pleased at all the happy scan news!

Just ate a bag of Roysters and they tasted like the best thing I'd eaten in months smile

andadietcoke Tue 05-Feb-13 17:37:31

Mmmm. Roysters. You've inspired a Kettle Chip dinner.

KamikazeeKid Tue 05-Feb-13 17:44:16

Jm...really sorry to hear your news.

Creamtea I have to eat to stop the sickness.... Ive put on around 6 lbs after losing 2....prob due to wine withdrawal?!! I put on 2 stone with DS but fear it'll be double that at this rate!

georgie22 Tue 05-Feb-13 18:24:12

Sorry to hear that Jm - must be an awful shock. Also sorry to those who have left the thread.
It's certainly moving on - had an early scan today and had a major panic when they couldn't see a heartbeat from the abdominal probe. They were very good and could obviously sense my panic. She then did a trans-vaginal scan and we saw our little bean and its flickering heart beat. I have a retrograde uterus following my first pregnancy which explains the difficulty in seeing baby abdominally. Dates are more or less spot on - I thought I was 9+3 but my scan has dated me at 9+2. Such a relief after that initial panic.
Have felt nauseous for much of the day today but I've been very lucky in both this pregnancy so far and my last one and sickness has never been awful. That's helped me keep my news quiet - only my parents and boss know our news.
Booked my nuchal scan privately as can't face waiting a week for my result on the NHS. Had a private scan last time so think the peace of mind and speedy result is worth the cost.

Dorita75 Tue 05-Feb-13 18:24:45

I'm so sorry jm that is terrible news, I hope you have lovely people around you in RL to hold your hand x

cravingformilk Tue 05-Feb-13 18:26:45

So very sorry to hear your news JM. thanks

I don't think my weight has changed much at all. Must be lack of wine because I am eating tons of carbs - in fact I have jaw ache from chomping on so much food wink.

Went for my MW booking apt today, I was in for almost an hr! Everything went well except my urine showed signs of an infection, the MW said she will send it away and they will contact me if there is any problems. Oh, and she booked my scan in for 1st March when I'll be 11+6grin. Seems so far away!

Dorita75 Tue 05-Feb-13 18:29:07

Today I have eaten-
Crunchy nut cornflakes
Ready salted French fries
Baked potato and cheese
Rice pudding
About 6 sherbet lemon sweets

I've been eating more fruit but just not todaygrin Quite frankly, I don't give a rats ass about putting weight on at the moment, I just have to stop this nausea-am hoping for it ending by week 12 when I'll get my energy back and start exercising any excess weight off!!

frogchops Tue 05-Feb-13 20:05:21

Was a bit sad today.... For really stupid reasons, ...
At work I felt a bit crappy, and because my boss knows I told her I didn't feel good, just a bit hurty and cramps etc, she suggested I see the midwife at work. Knowing the rest of the staff would gossip, she sorted a little appointment out for me and told the receptionist I'd need to see the midwife on behalf of her regarding something work related. (Completely feasible in our work!)
However the receptionist collared me and asked me outright if I was preggers. I lied lots and said no. She said she didn't believe my bosses reasons for booking a midwife appt.
Anyway, this aside, I was laughing with my boss about this a bit later and she said I might have to tell them soon as she doesn't think I'll keep my tummy a secret for much longer. :-(
I didn't think you could tell but apparently you can. At 7 friggin weeks. Really?
Ok rant over, but think I just felt like its all running away with me and I'm not in control anymore! Really didn't want to tell anyone till 12 weeks.

SGJ Tue 05-Feb-13 20:08:11

Well done Kitten on not fainting! I hate having blood taken, uurgh.

As for food, weight and exercise: have probably put on about 2-3 lbs though hard to say exactly because seem to weigh loads more at night then back to 'normal' by the morning. Food - generally carby so need to work more fruit & veg in (Graze box arriving Monday!) and combined with lack of legitimate exercise (though looking after DD takes ALOT of energy) means I am feeling like a proper porker, though I know it's just a change in shape rather than a change in weight.

Jm - I'm so sorry about your mum. I wish there was some way we could help, or something to say that would ease your pain and worry, but I know that right now it won't feel like anything can help. My best wishes for you and your family xx

Zoon Tue 05-Feb-13 20:32:33

Hi everybody,
Havent posted for a very long time (these first 12 wks feel like a life time). I am 10 +2 and feel massive. I have no symptoms except hunger and i am eating and eating mostly rubbish food too. i have put on 4lb which according to a little app that i have is excessive. Last time round i put on 4stone but lost it all and more reasonably quickly without much effort so hope same happens again.
I had cramps and some bleeding so had early scan at 9wks but all was well. I had fairly heavy bleeding throughout first trimester with DS so have tried to keep calm and not stress. Obviously its how my body deals with early pregnancy.
I am off skiing nxt wk then having private oscar scan at 13wks. Cant wait to have this pregnancy out in the open!
I am so sorry to hear people have left us, I hope you all are well supported and that it doesnt take long to get bfp again -sending you all love and good wishes.

JM - i am so so sorry. Hang in there. Your little bean is amazingly strong and resilient. And will bring you so much comfort and love in the coming months. What a strong Example of the circle of life. Your mum would be so so proud of the bean that you are growing. Take care of yourself. Dont be afraid to cry, be sad, angry, whatever you need. And obviously vent here as much as u need. My thoughts are with you. xxx

Zoon Tue 05-Feb-13 20:34:48

Ps would somebody mind adding me to that very very long list. Bfp 22dec, due 1st sept.

amiready Tue 05-Feb-13 20:41:49

Hello everyone. Nice to hear the updates.

Tried to hear with doppler at work today but no joy sad 9+2
Still having a nightmare with work over the contract which is deeply depressing sad
Still no symptoms, wondering if anything is really in there? sad

Anyone heard anything from kimjayne ?

Still can't believe we haven't told anyone yet! In a way it's nice to know all that excitement is still to come (hopefully). Helps make the bad contract stuff better.

Wouldn't it be so cool if just for one hour we could all be in the same room and just have a big natter and get it out of our systems!

So sorry jm I can't imagine how it feels. Did she know about the pg? I'm so sorry. I hope you're ok. I don't know the words to say, it's unimaginable.

Mmmmm to crisps in general dietcoke. Really want a massive bag if ready salted chipsticks. Tescos used to do their own version but can't ever find them now.

Kittenkatzen Tue 05-Feb-13 22:21:19

Oohhhhh ready salted chipsticks...I want them NOW <wails>

frog sorry you had a rubbish day - can you maybe invest in a couple of floaty tops to wear for work? Might help for a couple of weeks at least?

kimjayne Tue 05-Feb-13 22:40:53

so sorry to hear your news JM. I hope your friends and family are looking after you.
Hi amiready! Just noticed you mention my name and realised how long it had been since i last posted. I have been desperately trying to keep up to date with everyone elses news! Anyway, I feel hideous at the mo. The nausea is back with a vengeance!!! Today I've been full on sick 4 or 5 times. My tummy muscles are killing me now. sad Feels like ive done 100 sit ups.
I will feel so much better after the 12 week scan. It will all feel worth it then.
Oh, we told family our news at weekend. It was highly emotional!! my mum was in floods. This will be her first grandchild. She's already requested a boy! (our family is 90% female currently) smile
Still not told work which is becoming increasingly hard. I feel like im constantly lying. Anyone else considering telling work?? im 9+3 now

frogchops Tue 05-Feb-13 22:42:08

We have a uniform kitten :-/
Altho my boss would let me wear other stuff as I do when I forget to wash or iron them at weekends, lol, but not everyday because the others would moan at it not being fair. I work with 46 women. U can sniff the bitchiness from here!!

Kilkers Tue 05-Feb-13 23:00:51

My OH has just made me delicious apple fritters with a liberal covering of golden syrup, why is it I STILL want salt and vinegar chipsticks? smile Gonna have to get me some of those bad boys tomorrow, gawd I'm going to be the size of a house soon!

MeanMrsMustard Wed 06-Feb-13 06:42:38

Really sorry JM. I hope you are being looked after and have lots of lovely family and friends near you.

Whyriskit Wed 06-Feb-13 07:02:32

So sorry jm and hope you're getting rl support from your friends and family.
I have my first appt with fetal medicine this morning to discuss cvs and stuff. I do get a scan before though so hoping to get a good view!

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Wed 06-Feb-13 07:10:09

Jm, much love. I lost my beloved Mum nine years ago when I was pg with DD. Please PM me if you would like to chat. I remember feeling so very, very alone despite lots of rl support.

HettySunshine Wed 06-Feb-13 07:30:41

Oh jm I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. I'm sending you strength. thanks

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 07:50:34

Hey all, feeling pretty rubbish, told my mum and dad yesterday about this baby, number 3 and they were really negative and indifferent about the whole thing.apparently, we didn't need to have another child and were too old, me 36 and dh 41, we havent considered the feelings of ds1 and dd1 and we're selfish ! Also dd1, had pyloric stenosis when born, which is no biggie and easily resolved after small operation and common, but mum says I have not considered the implications of this. I am hopeful they'll come round to the idea, but just feel really down...

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 08:20:22

Poor you eek. How rude that they responded to your news in that way. It's not their decision, and anyone with any sensitivity would not say those things to you! What on earth were they expecting you to say? You'd terminate?! Chin up. You don't need their approval. We are in a similar boat with our third and have had a lovely response from my folks even though I have heard my mum express the exact opposite when friends have gone on to have a third baby.

KamikazeeKid Wed 06-Feb-13 08:33:11

See this is the thing about pregnancy I most hate is other peoples unwanted opinions and reactions? Has your mum not thought how YOU feel about her comments? I'm fuming for you...what would she rather you terminate? ? I really don't get some people....

amazes me....am already preparing for negative response from work about being away again within a year of returning after DS....don't really care as I'm so pleased to have fallen after so much heartbreak and time trying for DS. Do worry what impact on work role will be as im sure they will restructure this time.

Manoodledo Wed 06-Feb-13 08:35:01

Eek That's rubbish. I thought my parents were bad, my mum looked a bit horrified, and there was certainly no congratulations, but I think she was taking her cue from me as we're still very much getting used to the idea, it wasn't planned. She told my dad and said, 'I won't tell you what your dad said. Eventually he said, well, I suppose it's good news' Ha ha, thanks Dad. But I know when it's here they will be delighted, they love kids. I think they were just thinking of me, they know I had other plans for the next few years which mainly involved getting DS2 off to school and getting myself properly back to work finally. Perhaps in their own way your parents were also thinking of you. They have plenty time to get used to the idea and will surely also love the baby when it arrives.

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:11:57

Sending eek a hug re parents reaction. This is number 3 here and when we told my parents it was kind of glossed over and within 30 seconds mum carried on talking about new wardrobes! I think in general when you're having a 3rd or more people feel its acceptable to ask why because this whole '2 kids' setup is drummed into people as the default. Grrrr....
(whispers....am not feeling anywhere near as sick today...unsure whether to celebrate or worry!)

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:34:43

Thanks guys, just feel fed up. Number 3 wasn't planned, but it's happened and I am happy about it, or I was. Ds1 and dd1 were hard work, as only small age gap, but now they are both at school, I am looking forward to having a baby who I can give full attention too, it always felt frantic when the other littlies were small! I know creamtea what is it with the whole, 'you must be mental to have more than 2 thing'? I suspect some of my friends will be of that opinion too, but am not so bothered about what they think!

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 09:34:57

(Cream tea me too....actually walked to school this morning for the first time in 6 weeks!)

Desperate for sushi though. Is it ridiculous to take an hours round trip in the car, in a gale, to get some?

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:36:08

Also creamtea think you have sent sickness my way, as I have just felt vile on the school run...bleurgh!

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 09:38:24

I think a third is the one you have to "enjoy" it. I was always going to have two. Three feels like an indulgence, and it's easier to argue for why you shouldn't rock the boat. But, I didn't feel done and I am sure I would have regretted not having a third if we hadn't gone for it. As it is, I know it's not the easiest option (more expense, delays my career getting back to full time etc) but I'm delighted and my two children are excited so to hell with what others think. Those who had two will never really get why you'd have another I suppose.

Plus, hopefully at least ONE of them will still want to come and see me when I am old and dribbly.

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:39:04

As my hubby said last night in his own 'special' way:
'Jesus, it's not like you just told them you are addicted to crack, pregnant and eloping with an eighteen year old wannabe rock star'...never fails to make me smile!

jemimahpuddleduck Wed 06-Feb-13 09:39:25

creamtea I had 2 glorious sick free days at the weekend was a little worried but it is now back with a vengeance!

So went to the docs yesterday about the spotting and I am being sent for a scan tomorrow lunch time to make sure everything is ok I will be 8+4. Haven't had any today thankfully but had an awful dream about it last night so glad I have the scan tomorrow to know what's going on.

Thank you to everyone who replied with their own experiences it really made me feel better.

LexyMa Wed 06-Feb-13 09:59:16

Well good morning everyone, ((hugs)) to jm and grrr to all the people who have made inappropriate reactions when they should have enthusiastically said 'congratulations'.

I had a conversation with my colleague this morning about Marmite/Bovril and have been browsing wikipedia to see nutritional content of things. Thought this was interesting:
"In the 1920s, scientists believed folate deficiency and anemia were the same condition. A key observation by researcher Lucy Wills in 1931 led to the identification of folate as the nutrient needed to prevent anemia during pregnancy. Dr. Wills demonstrated anemia could be reversed with brewer's yeast. Folate was identified as the corrective substance in brewer's yeast in the late 1930s, and was first isolated in and extracted from spinach leaves by Mitchell and others in 1941."
That's from en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Folic_Acid and also has an interesting bit about the important balance between B12, Folic acid and iron.

Also read the page on vitamin D and couldn't find a specific reference to Taramasalata, only a list of some of the fish species which have had their dietary available D3 amounts measured. Mackerel once a week I think will be good. (It's rainbow trout and spinach chez Lexy tonight though)

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 10:01:58

eek a big fat two fingers up at your parents reaction to your news. How mean spirited of them angry sad What your DH said made me laugh though, just keep that in your mind - you know you're not doing something awful and they'll come round eventually.

frog boo to having to wear a uniform - I guess seeing people in the same clothes each day must make even slight changes in body shape appear more pronounced. As for working with all those women.....nightmare!

jemimah good luck for your scan tomorrow, fx everything's ok in there, I'm sure it'll just be a little spot of erosion or something smile I've been having awful dreams too so you have my sympathies x

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 10:05:08

That's interesting lexy. You reminded me actually, at my booking in yesterday the midwife specifically said I should make sure to be taking a vitamin D supplement as well as folic acid as apparently rickets is making a comeback confused

fl0b0t Wed 06-Feb-13 10:14:09

I'm afriad I've had to skip half the last two pages as talking about food... well, we're not on good terms at the moment envy

We've been really busy last two days (read as I've stayed in bed til 1pm, vomited copiously then lay on the sofa) as FIL was visiting monday and my parents came over last night. We told them all the good news and luckily they were very pleased. I've got three siblings (I'm youngest) and I'm the first to start making a baby, so they were very pleased about it all. Sorry eek sad

I did find out that (as expected from previous conversations) my mother was very sick when she was pregnant with me. At 7 weeks she was hospitalised with hg (and apparently refused all drugs!) so she's very understanding of how sick I've been which is good.

We also went for a cheeky early scan at Berkshire Independant yesterday afternoon which was brilliant. Baby blob exactly the right size for my dates (I was 7+1, they measured as 7+2) and heartbeat was very visible and strong (150 odd bpm) which was breath taking to see! Only slight sadness or maybe more unknown was that she said that the yolk sack looked a little irregular, and may have possibly been a twin that didn't survive- but at that size she said we'd never know. I've not had any bleeding or problems so I'm inclined to say that it's not, but either way it was clearly not meant to be, and there's one healthy little 11mm lump in there. I just gotta hope it stays until the end smile (and ps, all done on tummy cam, no dildo cam! phew!)

kitten I am shitting it about the blood tests. I'm terrible at them at the best of times (we're talking a 40 minute lie down and subsequent raising of the head by 10 degrees every 5 further minutes until I can stand up again), and my booking in appt is next friday. If I'm still this sick, I'm going to be vomiting all over the midwife and passing out all over the floor. Husband has offered to come with me! Bless him, not sure that wouled help.

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 10:17:13

kitten I'm taking a general pregnancy supplement, just whacked it in online shop from Asda! Looking at the label, it appears to have 100% of RDA of vit d3 in it, to encourage normal cell division and 200% RDA of folic acid in it, along with a whole host of other goodies!

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 10:29:21

I am off out for lunch with my auntie, I will literally break down if they do not have a jacket potato with cheese (mature cheddar only!) and coleslaw...I NEED it...I think we should all have a special card that entitles to have whatever food we ask for in early pregnancy. My DH says I am becoming a food bore, it's all I can think about, well now the wines gone, has to be some pleasure

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 10:30:19

eek sorry that sickness has headed your way - I think I peaked too early as starting to feel a bit bleurgh now we're in that black hole between lunch and breakfast... sad

Totally agree with bat that for this third, it isn't like I had to, but I just didn't feel done - really wan't to try and enjoy the time with this one - my other two are both at school and have less than 2 yr age gap so it was really hard work with them when they were babies/little.

Great to hear the good news about scans smile

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 10:33:41

eek same here - mine said to me last night 'god do you not think about anything else other than food?' err actually no - my day goes like this food/worry/sick/work/food/worry/work/sick/food/sleep !

jm233 Wed 06-Feb-13 11:24:25

Thank you all so much for all your kind words.
I'm doing fine, and DH and friends and family are all being fantastic, although not many of them know about little bean. I think the thought of this baby is what has kept me going through this and not turning me into a complete wreck.
I am really really looking forward to the 12 week scan at the end of this month though, I think it will (hopefully) be a little ray of sunshine in the middle of a really crappy time!

Thank you all so much again, I love my Mumsnet thanks

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 11:29:38

fl0b0t sorry you're feeling so crappy - maybe when you have your bloods done the general rubbish feeling will mask the effect of the blood tests? Maybe?! <clutches straws> I really hate having it done too - I said to the nurse when I walked in the I was quite likely to pass out so she flipped the chair back flat and put a cool fan on my face. Didn't stop it happening but I did feel better a little quicker grin

Massive hugs to you jm thanks

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 11:45:59

Fl0b0t - look away now.


So happy. It's taken me three days of craving to find some. Obv the non raw kind.

I'm gonna get me some wasabi soy heaven going on when I have picked up dd from nursery. Hurray for m&s at services on motorways (only a 40 mile round trip. Easy.)

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:02:31

bat did you really do 40 mile round trip for sushi?? That is serious craving! Love your sushi dedication smile
(look away flo)
It's a marmite day here

jemimahpuddleduck Wed 06-Feb-13 12:15:25

bat I love that you drove that far for sushi!

I'm on wheat crunchies (tomato) and freddo's. Making sure I have no otther caffeine as worried about chocolate in take.

Can definately get on board with the cheese and coleslaw jacket.

Sorry Flo I can manage to read about food smelling it is another matter!

thanks JM glad you have support.

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 12:33:09

I did indeed. Cleared m and s of their supplies. ( also of fish cakes and salmon....must be missing something!)

Am eating it now. It. Is. Amazing.

SGJ Wed 06-Feb-13 12:37:14

Oh dear. Am 80% of the way through a seafood risotto and my stomach has turned. Can manage another bite.... bleurgh.

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 13:13:10

SGJ that happened to me yesterday with a bowl of homemade chilli - it was amazing until 3/4 through when my stomach just went "no thanks".

bat loving your sushi dedication grin I'm a massive fan of proper sushi, haven't been able tbring myself to go into an itsu and not get raw fish yet though - too disappointing!

I have just snuck a bag of Cadbury mini eggs into my desk drawer at work (share? me? never!) and OH MY GOD they are about 5 times as amazing as they usually are - highly recommend for anyone with a chocolate craving you can't have mine though bugger off and get your own!

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 14:25:31

Whoever mentioned kinder buenos a few pages back has a lot to answer for..mmm

kipsonline Wed 06-Feb-13 14:57:51

Hello to the new thread! Can't believe you are on to page 8 before I have had chance to mark my place!! Loving catching up on all the news....
Jm I am so so sorry to hear your unexpected news and hope that you can negotiate the minefield of grief and pg hormones, it sounds like you have great support which will make all the difference....
Creamtea, eek, manoodle and batfuttocks I am in the same boat as you expecting DC3. Ours was a v big surprise (but one that i had longed for) and DH is still struggling to come to terms with the impact on our lives... We haven't told anyone yet and I am petrified as I know the reactions will be v similar to the negative ones you have experienced, esp as I am a high risk pg given chronic health issues... I'm hoping DH starts to share my joy at the 12 week scan in just under 2 weeks, at least then we can face the world united..... At least I know my 2 DS will be excited, they will make super brilliant big brothers and are always asking about babies....

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 15:17:44

kips same here - 2 ds already constantly asking about babies, can you buy them in Costco etc!

fl0b0t Wed 06-Feb-13 15:38:20

haha sorry kips those of us esp off work with severe sickness are so bored all we can do is click refresh (of F5 for those swanky tecchie types!)

Thanks for saying marmite creamtea- I had marmite on toast and a good friend over for a chinwag and actually felt really good. It's amazing how much the pressure of keeping the bloody secret adds to the sickness! I kept down two bits of toast and marmite - smuuuug!

DMAX currently has my attention- "Pregnant and...." Current episode is "Pregnant and I have Cancer". Then Call the Midwife, then One Born Every Minute!

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 16:06:54


Is anyone else struggling this afternoon? I am ridiculously tired...literally just want to put my head on my desk and go to sleep. But theres still 90 minutes left in the office, and then a 90 minute commute home sad

CheeseStrawCraving Wed 06-Feb-13 16:37:55

Re sushi everyone..... My midwife says I can eat supermarket sushi with no probs, raw fish and all as it's always flash frozen.... Also most English soft cheese like Brie as long as you check it's pasteurised. I'm off to stock up...

Massive hugs jm thanks

fl0b0t Wed 06-Feb-13 16:52:11

I'm loosing it a bit on the cheese conversation! I did notice that mozarella is pasturized cheese but parmesan is always unpasturized? either way cheese is pretty much out at the moment anyway!

BinarySolo Wed 06-Feb-13 17:08:03

Hi everyone, I was on the December bus but totally missed these threads until now!

Expecting dc2 on 7th September and have the first scan on 21st of this month. Been feeling knackered and pukey, far more than with ds. Have told a few close friends and family but waiting until the scan to let everyone know. Can't wait.

hackneybird Wed 06-Feb-13 17:20:03

Oh JM I am so sorry to hear your news. I lost my Dad very suddenly and I know how shocking it is .xxx

Peabody25 Wed 06-Feb-13 17:25:42

Ooh loving the sound of the kinder bueno! smile

Hugs to jm and a hi to everyone else, theres too many of us to name check sorry!

Been off work since mon with fluid in my ears causing room spinning dizziness from Sunday! Not too dissimilar to a hangover from hell hmm

Docs prescribed some cyclizine which should help dizziness nausea and sickness fingers crossed!

Hope everyone else is doing okay?

Wincher Wed 06-Feb-13 17:32:36

I have just had to text dh to ask himto pick up some mini eggs on his way home!

fl0b0t Wed 06-Feb-13 17:42:55

Not quite on a pooh-level, but I just did the most amazing 10 second long sustained tone fart and feel much much better... it didn't even smell.

The cat did not look impressed though!

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 17:54:36

fl0b0t that just made me actually lol on the train grinblush

wincher I ate half the bag! Thought I was quite restrained tbh. Although I have also eaten a pack of s&v chipsticks, a burrito, a cream cheese bagel and a satsuma today. And have told DH that I NEED chinese takeout for dinner tonight. Seriously if I don't end up with a BMI of 153 off the back of this pg I'll be amazed!

juniper904 Wed 06-Feb-13 18:12:02

I've been off food altogether, but today it has really hit. I desperately want Vietnamese for some reason. Quite specific!

Also have been having cravings for fish, but have been a veggie for about 8 years so not going to break it readily. The prawn cocktail crisps scratched the spot but I really want some oily mackerel.

Kittenkatzen Wed 06-Feb-13 18:15:05

Isn't it one of the B vits you get from oily fish? Maybe a supplement would quell the craving for you?

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 18:36:58

Had more sushi for dinner. Yum. Although cheeky ds ate two packets from my stash, the little bugger!

batfuttocks Wed 06-Feb-13 18:38:54

Juniper I am all about the fish today. Isn't it odd? Couldn't have eaten it if you had paid me a couple if weeks ago!

BinarySolo Wed 06-Feb-13 18:43:53

juniper maybe you could order some 'fish' from these guys

Not bought the frozen stuff but had a meal in the restaurant years ago when I lived in Milton Keynes. The prawns and duck were amazing.

jennimoo Wed 06-Feb-13 18:49:01

Phew, caught up!

So sorry Jm.

I'm feeling really sick this week, although slightly better today. 12 week scan just 8 days away! And I have mini eggs too smile

Eek3 - I said the same thing about a card pregnant women could show to get the food they want on Monday, but I thought it should also get you to the front of the queue!

Looks like its been a crappy day for a lot of people. Think my 9mo is teething and nothing was keeping her happy today, I actually had to just stick her in the Jumparoo (crying) for 5 mins whilst I left the room. Felt bad but needed to have a moment alone. confused

I had a bueno yesterday and it was tasty, only had a galaxy today and it didn't quite cut it. All I can think about is various crisps and dreaming of a mobile shop in the area. I'd left the buggy in the car which DH took to work so we were stranded with no crisps blush

CheeseStrawCraving Wed 06-Feb-13 19:25:27

Choc fudge kitkat. Nomnomnom. Still not as good as peanut butter kitkat.

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 19:57:31

Oh peanut butter kit kat is immense..must get one of them now. Right now is my most sickest feeling part of the day - far too long since afternoon snack and waiting for dinner to cook (incorporating jacket potatoe after earlier mentions)
Another thing noticed today - am so ITCHY! Especially on my legs, cannot stop itching!
A hello too to binarysolo I remember we were on the December bfp bus together smile I'm due 5th sept but think that will be pushed back after scan on 25th

SGJ Wed 06-Feb-13 20:01:01

Was starving before but having just done a very impressive poo of Creamtea proportions, I am now so ravenous that I could eat my own arm. BAGELSBAGELSBAGELSANDSNICKERS

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:13:49

Sorry creamtea it was me that planted the seed for your jacket potato lust. Guess what, they didn't have them at lunch, I must have looked murderous, as the poor boy looked terrified and muttered something about chips also being potato-ish. Had to settle for a chicken wrap with chips! Harrumph! Still feel hacked off regarding my parents, who seem to have now made themselves unavailable to speak, so feck it! In fact, double feck, I am going to treat myself to a glass of red tonight...sorry if that offends anyone, but my sanity calls for it...I remember once being quite shocked when the obstetrician who conducted my nuchal in pregnancy no.1 said, 'don't stop drinking, one glass every few days is not going to hurt and will positively assist your mood'! He also told me he had encouraged his wife to do the same and they had 5 kids! shock

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:13:54

envy that may have to surrender poo crown to SJG !
I hope you practised your breathing grin

SGJ Wed 06-Feb-13 20:18:45

It was very pleasing! As is my dinner - bagel with poached eggs (the brainy kind), homemade cheese sauce and green veg on the side. Hooray!

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:21:04

Oooo SGJ that bagel sounds fabulous, must try! I am having chicken cacciatore with cous cous, green beans and possible some garlic bread! Bout ready now, hmmm, hmmm

Eeeknumber3 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:25:15

Bought a little unisex red duffle hooded snow suit today in local hospice shop for 20p and it's like new, intended not to buy anything early, but could not resist!

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Wed 06-Feb-13 20:48:37

Tmi alert - my bum hole is really itchy.

Weight wise I have lost 4lb but I think that was Xmas greed and alcohol.
Today I have had
1 banana
1 tin fruit salad
1 large hog roast baguette
2 packets hula hoops - nausia related cure
Several heros chocolates
Beef stir fry with rice

Reading your needs for sweet things is not turning me on at all. Marmite however........... It has replaced my ginger tea obsession.
And I absolutely can't understand why you are all able to have milk based cereal breakfasts. The thought of milk makes me gag!

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:50:53

eek I can report the jacket potatoe really hit the spot smile thanking you

And the snowsuit sounds a bargain!

flipflump Wed 06-Feb-13 20:58:46

Am I the only one struggling with food? I'm the least fussy person normally. All I can stomach is bananas, yogurt, crisps and toast - not the diet of champions!! I'm 9 weeks and becoming more fussy each day. Drinking gallons of squash and the odd water - its just not me. Also, anyone else having wind issues, oh my goodness my husband is horrified - I stink smile

BinarySolo Wed 06-Feb-13 20:58:57

Hi Creamtea. I remember you too.

Had a lovely roast dinner which I then threw up half an hour after eating! I seem to have developed some sort of extreme chocolate deficiency, which I'm working hard on rectifying. Iirc I had it with my last pregnancy too. My marmite and cucumber sandwich obsession has returned too.

I think the itchiness is dry skin. Good excuse to buy a posh moisturiser.

BinarySolo Wed 06-Feb-13 21:02:53

I see your wind flipflump and raise you diarrhoea. If you think the wind's bad now, just wait until you've given birth and everything's, erm, looser . . .

kipsonline Wed 06-Feb-13 21:10:13

Sweet chilli tofu stir fry tonight.mmmmm...for some reason, this week it all has to be spicy!!!

flipflump Wed 06-Feb-13 21:26:25

Ok Binary, let's not tell my husband that little nugget of information! So unladylike, ha

CheeseStrawCraving Wed 06-Feb-13 21:38:00

rosy just lmao at the first line of your message, even DH looked up from the sopranos to see what was so funny. Hehehehehe!

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Wed 06-Feb-13 21:49:29

Itchy nipples!!!shock

andadietcoke Wed 06-Feb-13 22:01:41

Can I have a bit of hand holding/reassurance please? I'm in Munich with work and have tripped over my suitcase and landed face down. My left arm went across me and I think my right knee and left elbow seem to have taken the brunt of it but I'm so scared. There's no point ringing maternity triage because I'm not back until Friday night. I ache all over but haven't had cramps any worse than the stretching ones I've been having. I know at 9 weeks they should be well protected by the pelvic bone but with twins my uterus is supposed to 4-6 weeks ahead of a singleton pregnancy so I'm more worried.

Can't stop crying and thinking the worse and then being cross at myself for being clumsy. DH is off to the states on Friday so I won't see him for the next ten days and I just feel scared and so lonely. sad

amiready Wed 06-Feb-13 22:05:45

yup loads of diarrhoea, loads of wind and loads of itching. No nausea at all and boobs have settled.

Isn't it funny how we all have completely different sets of symptoms! Who ever would have thought being terribly itchy was anything to do with being pregnant!!

As for my day - very possible potential breakthrough at work over the contract. Just hoping SOOOOOOOOOOO much that it works out ok. Please God, please God, please God.

Anyone else wondering about having a soft boiled egg? Or are you all sworn off? How strict is everyone being with all these things??

hackneybird Wed 06-Feb-13 22:07:45

eeek I had a small glass of wine last Friday night when I went out with friends for a meal. I don't have a problem with the occasional drink during pregnancy, when it's with food, even early on.

Most of the time I feel too nauseous for booze and don't fancy it at all, but when I'm feeling better I think I'll do what I did with ds 1 which is have 1 glass of wine, twice a week.

Enjoy it and I hope you feel better soon x

amiready Wed 06-Feb-13 22:08:56

Sorry andadietcoke just double posted. I can understand you being upset and scared but really don't worry, loads of pg women fall flat on their face/belly all the time (apparently much more than non pg women for some reason) and I have never heard of any baby ever being hurt that way. The womb is designed for protection! Partly I'm sure it's that you're on your own in an unfamiliar place. Lots of hugs. It will all be ok.

Creamtea1 Wed 06-Feb-13 22:17:12

Second that coke honestly you will be fine - human body is specifically designed to protect your little ones in there and your pelvis and uterus have them safe and snug. Sounds like your arm and elbow took the brunt of your fall anyway so really try not to worry. I know friends who have had car accidents, fallen playing sport, fallen off bikes and all sorts and been fine. Sending a hug and try not to stress x

andadietcoke Wed 06-Feb-13 22:33:54

Thank you both thanks

I know I shouldn't worry unless I cramp or bleed, and most googling says it'll be fine, but I can't stop thinking about it. DH is trying to book me a private scan for Saturday or Friday night so I won't worry for the next however many weeks until I have my scan.

I haven't been sick tonight either. Argh.

SGJ Wed 06-Feb-13 22:38:40

Try not to stress, Coke, that will do you more harm emotionally than the fall will physically! (I'm no doctor but that sounds v v scientific to me!)
But seriously, everything should be fine, we have ladies on the thread going skiing soon with their bumps, the body is designed to protect babies from all sorts. Hope you can get a scan to ease your mind though.

Ps, bagel & egg dinner followers, it was lovely but I ate too much & now feel sick from being too full. CAN'T WIN!

Kittenkatzen Thu 07-Feb-13 07:52:57

Just to add to the chorus of "don't worries" dietcoke. Like the others say, everything is so small and tucked away atm even with two, and it sounds like you broke your own fall anyway, you'll be fine smile it's probably just the shock of falling and being in a strange place alone that's making the panic feel worse.

amiready I would love a nice soft poached egg but haven't done so yet. I know that people have said that lion stamped eggs are fine to eat soft as they're vaccinated, and also that veined/soft cheeses are fine if cooked (eg in a pie or something, not just melted). But all the "official" info I've seen says not to, so I've stuck to that so far. We'll see how desperate I get though! smile

jennimoo Thu 07-Feb-13 08:20:08

Kitten - the current guidelines say hard mouldy cheeses are fine. I can't stand Stilton though so no good to me.

I'm trying not to worry but my mum had a small operation yesterday and my stepdad was supposed to text to say all was well and whether she was home yesterday or not and I've woke this morning to still no text. Don't want to bother them if Mum's feeling groggy but cross no ones bothered to let me know. At least hoping that's all it is...

HettySunshine Thu 07-Feb-13 08:33:49

Dietcoke. All will be well. Your little jelly beans will have weathered the storm and will be wondering when the next big exciting wave is coming. Try not to fret (ho ho!) and hopefully your dp will sort out a lovely scan for you for when you get back.

Jennimoo, I'm sure if there were any problems with your mum they would have let you know straight away. Far more likely they were both zonked last night and went to bed and forgot. No doubt they'll be mortified when they realise they forgot to let you know. I'm sure you'll get an apologetic text/ phone call any minute now.

On another note, I'm starting to show! I am pretty slim usually but there is a definite and unmistakable little pot there! This is my first dc so not sure if this is normal or not? I'm 8+5. I have my booking appointment tomorrow so will ask the mw but wondered if any one else was starting to show?

BinarySolo Thu 07-Feb-13 09:01:04

Coke I fell when 8 months pregnant with my son. He was totally fine. I had the reassurance of being able to feel him kick shortly after though, but please try not to worry.

Re: poached eggs. Totally fine if they're lion marked. I've had a few. We've got pet ducks which should start laying soon so I'll have to have those hard boiled or in cakes . . .

jemimahpuddleduck Thu 07-Feb-13 09:12:01

coke I agree I'm sure everything will be fine can understand why you're worried hopefully DH will get the scan sorted.

jenni i agree with hetty that you will probably get an apologetic text any minute.

hetty I am 8+4 and already have a little belly I bought some maternity work trousers and they feel lovely! I am quite small normally so I am really noticing.

Had my booking in last night MW was very nice got my scan at lunch to make sure everything is ok after spotting feeling a little nervous!

LexyMa Thu 07-Feb-13 09:26:13

morning all. I am off to my booking in at 10 at the local children's (formerly Sure Start) centre... Hope to get to hear something on the doppler (I did first time round) and get a scan date soon. I would like to be able to tell my parents when they come to stay the week after next, which is both mine and my mum's birthday week. I had never really thought before how crap it must have been to have spent her birthday on a postnatal ward that year!

I must either be very naive or very hard hearted but I am not finding myself worrying about anything. I suppose it will all come crashing down around me at some point. Should I touch wood or something at this point? I was on that drinking in pregnancy thread before it became a super-judgy bunfight and seriously still struggle to get as paranoid as some. Here's my confession... I'm a wine tippler, coffee drinker, brie eater, a second-trimester skier, and I was indeed up a ladder at 37 weeks last time.

Anyway I am sure your little beans are ok, dietcoke, and so is your mum jenni. But if it's worrying you, call them rather than waiting to be called.

I'd better be off - need to have a great big drink of water and make this pee sample soon. grin

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 09:33:17

dietcoke all will be fine I'm sure, but horrid to be alone with it in strange surroundings. I fell at about 12 weeks with ds1 and it was horrible, but all was well...he's fairly normal other than his clothing OCD! x

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 09:58:06

Alert, alert! I have the famed poo crown and am waving around with glee! There was just a scene in my loo that was reminiscent of the old film 'the sinking of the Bismarck '! Finally, the endless roughage and veg have worked their magic. Thank goodness I wasn't caught short at school, it would have definitely blocked the teeny tiny reception child sized toilets; lol's envisaging 4 year old screeching in horror at lois's mummy stuck on the toilet. That would have given miss c the shock of her life....ah, the relief is palpable!

jennimoo Thu 07-Feb-13 10:08:02

Mum called, obviously all is fine. Apparently they tried to leave an answer phone message on my mobile last night but it didn't work...

Thanks for reassuring words, was having a panic probably as knackered: full of cold and didn't sleep well!

In one week I will have had my 12 week scan smile

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 10:11:44

Glad all is well jenni, hope your mum is much better soon

nerual Thu 07-Feb-13 10:16:29

LexyMa, I was also a second trimester skier (well, snowboarder) and beer tippler in first pg... no skiing this year though, too tricky with toddler! Is it too early for salt and vinager crisps??

jm233 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:04:30

Just found myself stood behind pantry door, eating a bag of cheese ball crisps... Out of the bag... With a spoon...

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:11:40

Actually laughing about eek and the poo crown / reception toilet scenario - imagine the horror grin
I think I infected the thread with the poo relief!

10 weeks today. Thought I was feeling better but then nearly hurled in the kitchen sink..bleurgh...off to toast a crumpet now

fl0b0t Thu 07-Feb-13 11:14:15

dietcoke- I hope all is well, and I'm sure it well be

binary~- you have ducks?! So jealous!

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:19:17

Lemon curd on a crumpet...v nice

jemimah good luck at the scan and let us know how you get on

Peabody25 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:20:20

For those that have had their booking in appointment what questions did you ask? I've thought of things like when appts will be, when/how I should receive date of my scan, does she know of any local ante/aqua natal groups, how much water to drink before scan etc! Not even thought as far as water births etc, I know which hospital it will be. Any thing else I've missed? Got our appointment tomorrow first thing!

nerual Thu 07-Feb-13 11:24:41

You can ask to hear the heartbeat, sometimes they seem to do it for you, sometimes not...

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:31:40

Do pregnant still get the healthy start vouchers? I managed to miss them with both of my other two, think they were introduced just after number 2. Also, how do I get my matb1 card, hmmmm, not seeing anyone for booking in til same day as 12/13 week scan, and I want my root canal re jigging?!

Kittenkatzen Thu 07-Feb-13 11:47:29

creamtea NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO crumpets aren't sweet, they're savoury!! I do want lemon curd now though......

peabody that seems like a pretty thorough list of questions to me. Tbh honest though the midwife at my booking covered all of that off anyway. The only thing we ended up asking was for some extra info regarding the combined screening test (as we think we're going to decline).

eeek not sure about the vouchers, but I've already had my free prescription/dental card through - the midwife at my pre-booking gave me the form to fill out and send off at 6wks. The MATB1 is separate and I was told I won't get that until my 20wk scan appt.

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:49:07

eek I got given the matb1 form to fill in at booking appt, had to hand it in at the doctors and then recieved the matb1 in the post a couple of weeks after.

LexyMa Thu 07-Feb-13 11:49:29

just had a very underwhelming booking appt. The only question I thought of was about mastitis <somewhat premature worry!!> and everything else was completely normal. The very nice midwife even pre-empted me asking to be put in for home birth!

There was a faff with the rooms for appts because they were double booked, so I had to hang about to get in the room with the height and weight things. Didn't seem the moment to ask her to have a listen on the doppler. had blood samples taken, including one for ferritin (iron stores) which is because I mumbled something about always being a bit borderline anaemic. Got the form for free prescriptions which I guess is what you need for dentistry too Eeek but have to get it stamped at the GP surgery. Annoyingly I could have dropped in while I was over in that area but I was fixated on getting a Greggs chicken slice.

Should get 12w scan date through the post, but they keep my notes until the scan, which I thought was slightly odd, there's hardly anything in them, or maybe they are sent with the bloods. At the scan I take the notes back and keep them until the birth.

I think I'll hold off making an initial enquiry with an Independent Midwife until after the first scan and nuchal results. Any second timers thinking of doing update antenatal classes? I picked up an NCT leaflet in the waiting room...

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:50:55

Sorry yes - what kitten said - the thing I was talking about was the free prescription/dentist etc card, the matb1 doesn't get given untill 20 weeks.

fl0b0t Thu 07-Feb-13 12:27:57

Hm, my dr told me that I didn't get free prescriptions until 20 weeks? I had to pay for my prescription for ms drugs sad

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:28:27

Just got my booking appointment, chased Macc hospital, it's for the week when I'm ten weeks. They'll give me a scan date then...

hackneybird Thu 07-Feb-13 12:45:13

Lexyma I am totally with you on not worrying about what I eat and drink either. I never eat any of the banned items in excessive amounts anyway (apart from eating a lot of soft eggs), and don't really feel like boozing as I feel so sick all the time. I think there is far too much neurosis and hysteria about pregnancy diets. It's one of my pet hates.

I read that alcohol in pregnancy thread, and I knew it would turn into a massive fight, those threads always do without fail.

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:45:19

Just got my booking appointment, chased Macc hospital, it's for the week when I'm ten weeks. They'll give me a scan date then...

Eeeknumber3 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:47:48

Oops, double post, am bored today, sorry excessively chatty, day off working, eBay as a living. Now for snickers, then ironing and silent witness, DH won't watch it as it scares him...all rock and roll here!

jemimahpuddleduck Thu 07-Feb-13 12:51:06

So just got back from my scan and everything is fine. No sign of where the bleeding was coming from and I saw the heartbeat. Measured at 8+6 so new Edd is 13/09/13 I thought that would happen as was sure at the time I ovulated a bit early. grin

fl0b0t Thu 07-Feb-13 12:52:25

eek sounds like a fun day! I'm half way through week 2 off work with ms and bored to death! I've watched every bit of rubbish telly I can find, and and mostly lolling about wishing I could bring myself to eat something!

badguider Thu 07-Feb-13 12:55:38

hey, i'm back from a hellish three days working away - with hardly any sleep and hours and hours and hours of train travel - about 20hrs on the train over three days. About 16hrs sleep over three nights.

Slept till 10 this morning and still in pjs now. Got a stonking headache. I think i'm really dehydrated so drinking as much squash as i can but have to sip slowly to keep it down. Might have to cave in and try paracetamol.

I am sooooooooo happy to be home... can't believe I survived. I think stuffing my face with food helped the nausea - cooked breakfasts, buffet lunches and pub dinners... only problem is that i've put on HALF A STONE since christmas sad... damn. damn. damn. I don't know if there's any chance of making up for it by eating super healthily in 2nd and 3rd trimesters. It'll be bad enough carrying around a whole baby, fluid, giant boobs etc by 40wks - I don't want stones of unnecessary lard too, my poor knees!!

On the topic of 'risky' things - I have had a couple of soft boiled eggs (lion stamped) which I'm perfectly happy with. And a half pint of a nice beer (1.2units as it was 4.3%). I'm still riding my mountain bike (though not on tricky technicl trails) and I'm going skiing at 12weeks... I've got a long background in judo though so I'm quite body-aware and good at falling on my side/hip if I have to fall at all and I think the uterus is well protected from the side until it actually starts to stick out beyond your hip bone. I am rh- though so must read up on anti-d more before i go to france just in case, I don't know if you need it for any spotting in first trimester (as i haven't had any).

Kittenkatzen Thu 07-Feb-13 13:34:45

fl0b0t definitely get your doc/mw to double check that, I think he's mistaken about that.

jemimah yay for the positive scan grin

welcome home badguider, hope your headache buggers off and you feel better soon thanks

maybe i'll relax a bit with the egg thing then smile

andadietcoke Thu 07-Feb-13 14:03:07

Fl0b0t I got my exemption certificate at my booking in appt at 8 weeks and on the form it says the card won't start for one month after they receive the form. So that will definitely be after 12 weeks for me - maybe that's what they meant? I had to pay for my mega folic acid dose wink

andadietcoke Thu 07-Feb-13 14:11:20

Thank you to everyone for your lovely responses to my drama queen over reaction.

No bleeding or cramps still and have already thrown up twice today which is twice as many as yesterday. Can't believe I'm back to celebrating feeling like shit! Can't get a private scan Friday or Saturday so will just have to hope for the best - by Monday if I'm not bleeding then I'll be fairly reassured everything is okay - if it's going to happen it's normally within the first 48 hours or so.

Anyway thanks so much for calming me down. You're all lovely thanks

badguider Thu 07-Feb-13 14:23:17

Have just signed up for preg yoga at my yoga studio as can't manage my usual intense class anymore and they don't do anything inbetween.

Will have to sneak in in disguise though... and fake 'oh i must be in the wrong room' if i see anybody i know in there... gah!!!!

amiready Thu 07-Feb-13 14:40:50

hey all - yes Fl0b0t your GP is mixed up with the matb1 which is at 20 weeks. The free prescriptions form is called an FW8 form and it starts one month before the date it's received (i.e. they back date it). So it's for the whole way through your preg. If you google FW8 form you can actually get an online version but you'll still need a GP/midwife signature.

Re soft boiled eggs - had two and then had diarrhoea all night! But have been having loads of diarrhoea anyway - tmi! Means I'm completely out of the poo race, no chance to build up anything!

Re contract - trade union now getting involved to support me....my employer is trying to discount 8 years of service sad. Hoping so much it can be resolved soon - stress bad for ? (for what? still trying to think of a slang name - not bean, bubba? blastocyst? foetus? Bean is nice but I associate it with people on here so it doesn't feel like my name) Always cringed when people in RL named their bumps before, but now I want to! With something cool and fun...

LexyMa Thu 07-Feb-13 14:57:15

Amiready, our bump is called Project Mildred, because DS is called George. His bump name was a cross between bambino and Rambo because he kicked so much.

amiready Thu 07-Feb-13 15:01:50

ha ha, that's good. Particularly like the Project xxx thing. That appeals to me as a project manager! Hmm, that'll get me thinking!
Anyone else named their bumps/beans/bloatedness??

badguider I'm doing the same thing and joining the preg/post natal class next week! Hopefully it will be good! I haven't done any exercise for ages and want to get back in to it but feel ridiculously cautious and wary now I'm pg (hangs head as all the skiers sneer), so want it to be in a controlled environment!

Manoodledo Thu 07-Feb-13 15:12:32

Stressed out today. It turns out DH and I aren't on the same page about what to do about the Nuchal scan, or what to do if we get news we don't want. This is a particularly sensitive issue as my brother has Downs. DH says unequivocally 'we don't want a baby with Downs' and I say nobody WANTS a baby with Downs but sometimes it happens. As my mum was young when she had my brother there's a chance it could be a hereditary type, which is why I'm a bit fixated on it. Don't feel I can talk to anyone about it. The idea of terminating literally gave me heart palpitations, I really don't think I could do it. Sorry if this is really too heavy a topic, but as I say I'm really stressed about it and there's noone to talk to about it. With DS1 and DS2 there was no routine nuchal scans and I didn't even do the blood test, but I thought DH and I were agreed that there was no point as it wouldn't change anything. Maybe I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't worry as the chances are everything will be fine, but I now find I'm dreading having a scan.

fl0b0t Thu 07-Feb-13 15:27:17

Manoo I don't think the actions or thoughts of any mum-to-be could be thought of as "ridiculous"- and of course it makes sense that you and your husband will have different views on Downs with your personal experience. I think he will feel very differently once the nuchal is done because we never know how we feel until we're faced with a situation. How many of us say "I would never...." and then go and do it!? smile

Worry doesn't help anything so try not to worry, and make sure that when you are both feeling calm you chat things through- hopefully you will be able to understand each others point of view better once you've talked it through a bit? xx

Manoodledo Thu 07-Feb-13 15:40:45

Thanks fl0b0t. I know you're right that worrying doesn't help. I haven't even got the scan date through yet, although I'm ten weeks already so it can't be far off.

badguider Thu 07-Feb-13 15:41:04

Sorry to hear that manoo - we've decided to have the nt and bloods but really aren't thinking beyond that... i don't think that the pregnancy seems real (despite tons of shitty symptoms) till we see that scan picture... I guess the same is true for your DH - it's not a real fetus yet to him, just a theoretical idea..

Kittenkatzen Thu 07-Feb-13 15:46:06

manoo I don't know much about Down's Syndrome, but if you've had two healthy DC already then surely the chance are good that your 3rd will be fine too? Or is that not how it works in this case? Do you think your DH might change his mind a little once he's seen the baby on a screen at your scan? fl0b0t is right, try not to stress about it - you may not see eye to eye right this moment, but you're a long, long way off being forced to do something you're not happy with. Relax, breathe, keep talking about it smile

amiready/badguider whereabouts are you both? I can't seem to find a pregnancy yoga class near me, which I'm quite upset about tbh. Have had to give up my regular class just last week as it's a bit too twist and inversion focused (everything I can't do basically!). Have tried two different evening classes but they seem to be too gentle - I came away feeling I'd hardly done anything! Plus one teacher looked at me like i'd just offered to kill her puppy when I told her I was pg hmm. So frustrating.

We haven't really named our bump either yet - will have to get thinking about it!

In other news, I have something new to worry about - I asked my mum if she had morning sickness, and she did until week 12 each time (5 pgs). I've not had it at all.... confused

andadietcoke Thu 07-Feb-13 16:31:22

Manoo another vote for crossing that bridge when you come to it. No point stressing unnecessarily over something that might never happen.

amiready Thu 07-Feb-13 16:48:17

I am in London - it's just a pregnancy exercise class, not specifically yoga, but it's through the Virgin active gym which I am going to join on a rolling month thing. Apparently they even do free childcare if you use the gym so that's where I'm hoping to be in about 11 months time!

Sorry Manoo about the worry you have. But don't ever terminate if you don't want to, whatever the man says, its your body, your choice.

Although it does raise the issue of what to do when not agreeing with DH - DH and I don't agree over whether to find out sex or not - I don't want to because if I'm going to be in pain for 3 solid days I want there to be a 'surprise' or something to look forward to/work towards during it all whereas if I have the knowledge already I feel it won't be the same - whereas he wants to find out. My reasoning is we can find out for the second one when it will perhaps matter slightly more (as it would be nice to have one of each, and therefore to avoid any 'momentary' disappointment when you don't get what you're hoping for, although of course you would love it regardless...).

Anyone else not on the same page as DH about decision making?
I am also desperately hoping he comes round to my favourite girls name which at the moment he is resolutely refusing and it is sooooo beautiful and lovely and classy and I don't know how he can possibly not like it!

kitten no nausea over here either! But don't have a clue about my mum as haven't told her yet!

Manoodledo Thu 07-Feb-13 16:59:28

Thanks all. I know you're right and will resolve not to think about it for now. I think partly because we didn't plan to have a third I have this feeling that we're chancing our luck somehow. I will just keep my fiingers extra tightly crossed.

Manoodledo Thu 07-Feb-13 17:05:17

On a completely different note, we had our house valued today. Crazy or not, I've decided that I can't face having another baby in the country. It's so boring! When we had DS 1 we lived in a big city and it was great when he was tiny to just be able to bung him in the carrier and jump on a bus or train and go see things, museums, art galleries, beautiful parks etc. There's nowhere to go here without getting in the car and driving for about half an hour. Is anyone else planning a big move?

Kittenkatzen Thu 07-Feb-13 17:23:46

That sounds like a good set up ami. I think there's a virgin active in the next town to me, might check it out for future if not right now whilst I'm commuting still.

DH and I are on the same page about most things - with the exception of names it would seem! TBH I think it would help if he would branch his research out a bit from "girls I went to school with in the 1980s" hmm Good job we've plenty of time to argue think about it! that said, I can see a disagreement or two coming our way when it comes to discipline/smacking in a year or two...

manoo I don't think you're crazy, sounds like now is the perfect time for you to look at moving if that's what you want - certainly no point leaving it later!

cravingformilk Thu 07-Feb-13 18:54:14

I was expecting the free prescription form at my booking apt earlier this week. The MW said that they don't issue the form until 16 weeks. I tried to encourage her to sign it as I'm asthmatic and need a few prescriptions a month but she was having none of it - she advised that I take my notes to the pharmacy and sometimes they'll issue free scripts or I could try telling them that my card was on its way. If she advising pulling a fast one I don't understand why she wouldn't just give me the form?

My symptoms seem to be improving, not sure if thats good or bad? confused

amiready Thu 07-Feb-13 18:59:31

Hi craving. My midwife gave it to me at my booking appt. I have never heard of the 16 week rule and there is nothing on the form about it. You can also get it from your GP though. I think there is lots of confusion about the different forms and she probably thought she was telling you the right thing but had got it mixed up.

jennimoo Thu 07-Feb-13 19:08:56

I got my form done at GP appointment at 5 weeks!

Dorita75 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:10:17

This thread moves so quickly I have real trouble keeping up with it!! So sorry I'm not name checking...

Manoo I'm glad you're trying to relax for now. We haven't discussed it much ourselves, mainly because we're not discussing much until after the 12 week scan...

amiready I told my pregnant with no2 friend I really wanted a poached egg and she was surprised I didn’t just have one. Thanks for asking the question! I’ll be looking for lion stamped eggs this weekend!

badguider well done on getting through the week, hopefully you’ll start feeling better soon.

hetty I’m 8+6 and have a belly, more pronounced in the evening which makes me realise it must be mainly food going slowly through my tubes! Though surely the growing uterus must be taking up some room too?

I have a strange aversion to our kitchen. It doesn’t smell but to me, it has a strong smell that sent me dry retching up to the toilet before. I can’t go in there in evenings without sticking my nose and mouth inside my jumper. My mum was sick when she saw net curtains, and my grandma, when she looked in the garden so looks like I’m just carrying on a strange tradition. Anyone else having massive reactions to ‘smells’ that aren’t smells to anyone else?

frogchops Thu 07-Feb-13 19:12:37

Evening everyone....have just spent a whir catching up.
We haven't officially named bump but someone at work called it beano which I quite like.
And speaking of bumps, I'm stressed out as mine is actually a bump. At 7+5. Midwife at work says its just bloating and due to my water infection.
DP and I are kind of together on most things apart from he says we are definitely finding out the sex. I say we are definitely not!! Who's had this discussion yet and not agreed!?

BinarySolo Thu 07-Feb-13 19:14:47

I got my form at 5 weeks too.

Manoo we moved when ds was 2 weeks old. It was ace as I got out of the carrying! We did the reverse tho and moved to a village!

Whyriskit Thu 07-Feb-13 19:31:14

Manoo - I do kind of understand where you're coming from. DH & I have an appt with the genetics team tomorrow to discuss testing. Both boys have random and unconnected genetic conditions, so we feel we should probably have testing. It's the part after the testing I really don't want to think about.

BinarySolo Thu 07-Feb-13 19:48:17

Dh wants to find out the sex but I don't. I've argued that we found out last time so it's my turn to make the decision! I had a friend that used the bump names moriarty and boris. Was so tempted to nick moriarty!

SGJ Thu 07-Feb-13 19:48:55

Regarding naming the bump, my sister has always called hers Olive since her 'what to expect' book told her that it was the size of an olive! I thought that was quite a nice idea.
When I was pg with DD, however, we were slightly less cutesy and one day when discussing ridiculous names my DH suggested Rotund Bitchface and unfortunately from that point on the poor bump was called Rotunda!!

SGJ Thu 07-Feb-13 19:50:19

Ps I am so bloated at the moment that if I don't hold my stomach muscles in I could quite easily pass for 6 months pg! I'm only 10+2!

PurplePoppySeed Thu 07-Feb-13 19:56:10

I'm confused about forms too. I already have the free prescriptions form (also got it at the booking appointment) but I didn't think you got the MATB1 until 20 weeks? If you can get it earlier then that's great news as you can use it in my area to get a train upgrade to 1st class on your season ticket, so I'd love to get mine earlier!

Creamtea - did you say you have yours to fill in?

cravingformilk Thu 07-Feb-13 20:00:10

Haha that made me smile SGJ I think I'll wait for a bump before we start thinking of names - naming my many rolls of fat just isn't quite the same grin

My guess is they are holding back because she could issue the form and I could technically MC, maybe? Bloody GP surgery! I'm awaiting the results of a urine test, she dipsticked it at the booking apt and it showed signs of a urine infection - if it come back positive then I might make a fuss with the GP about it. I don't like to miss out on a freebie wink

Babyboo79 Thu 07-Feb-13 20:20:59

I'm the same SGJ, soooo bloated at the moment. I think it could have something to do with the pizza I insisted on eating for dinner last and cold for lunch today...

Having strange cravings for sour food tonight. I really want cola bottles but I managed to find a packet of love hearts at the back of the cupboard that have just about hit the spot...

Babyboo79 Thu 07-Feb-13 20:25:22

OMG, so happy. DH has reminded me that we have some cola bottles! He worked for a sweet company for a while and I forgot he has a big stash grin

frogchops Thu 07-Feb-13 20:26:05

I had my exemption form at 5 ish weeks, I've already had some stuff on free script so I duno why some of u can't have it yet?
I'm not really craving anything although I did just think, hmmm McDonald's chips would be ace.
I have horrible heartburn though, which due to the absence of any other symptom whatsoever, I'm really quite chuffed about it!

frogchops Thu 07-Feb-13 20:27:47

Nice find babyboo! We have cake, mini eggs, kitkats, crisps. I'm just mehh about them which is very unlike me.

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 20:41:45

poppy I had my free prescription form thing already, sorry got confused earlier - don't get the matb1 until 20 weeks.

Another jacket potatoe for dinner, with Heinz beans and sausage! Mmm and I also have sour cola bottles in the cupboard, and kinder buenos, and creme eggs! Fully stocked smile

Manoodledo Thu 07-Feb-13 20:54:42

whyriskit good luck with your apointment tomorrow.

KamikazeeKid Thu 07-Feb-13 20:55:51

I got my prescription form when I saw my Dr at 5-6 weeks you are entitled for the whole of preg im sure! I didn't have my card thru and my dentist didn't charge and sainsburys chemist also allowed me free prescriptions?? The lady said they can check and the form I signed at dentist actually gave a legal warning about lying!

Less constant nausea here but still sickly on and off but my life....am I tired!!! Hit 9 weeks yesterday.
I named my DS as a bump as bean my hubby calls this baby bean but I can't as that was my DS! If everything's ok at the scan im sure ill name bump again!

Me and DH agreed last time and this time we don't want to know the sex. Its a great surprise. Whilst yes I would love a girl so I have one of each I would be just as happy with another boy, just want bubs to be healthy! if we had differing opinions he would let me decide though I'm sure....as after all.....we ladies do all the hard work ha ha!

I have to rant,....

On the way to work today I saw a mum driving along texting with one hand, fag in the other, toddler loose jumping inbetween seats AND on a busy school road. ...what is up with people??!!

KamikazeeKid Thu 07-Feb-13 20:57:55

Dorita, I have the same problem with kitchens, toilets and peoples breath!!!

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Thu 07-Feb-13 21:23:19

kamakazi have you seen that fb video of a teen girl texting. It's fairly graphic and quite realistic regarding the emergency response - except I don't think they had to wait 40 min for a ambulance! But that's another story .......

I am amazed that me and dh were on the same page about nucal scan. The midwife asked at booking and I said 'its nit something we have discussed yet but I want all the tests'

We went for dinner after and I said this is what I think but I will discuss if you disagree. He said exactly the same as me which was such a relief.

I was undecided about finding out sex of babe, but actually my mum said it helps dads bond with the bump. And at the moment the bump is being referred to as 'he'. He is called ned. Dh choice of bump name.

My midwife said to me to take preg notes to all apts even dentist - that way they will usually waver the fee. Luckily my drugs are dispensed at surgery so they know I'm excempt.

badguider Thu 07-Feb-13 21:38:50

kitten I'm in Edinburgh and there's tons of preg yoga here. Literally tens of google results. I'm starting 'fit and healthy preg yoga' on Tuesday which is about me and staying fit. From about 15-20 weeks ill also do 'preg and birth' yoga at a different place which is more about birth preparation.
The first is at my yoga studio, the second is at the local 'pregnancy and parenting' centre.

KamikazeeKid Thu 07-Feb-13 21:57:51

This one? Reduced me to tears about the unresponsive parents :-(


andadietcoke Thu 07-Feb-13 22:05:38

Definitely finding out the sex(es). I dreamt that it was two girls and that DH was traumatised, so think he needs time to get used to the idea if it is.

At the moment they're very occasionally called Luke and Leia. DH likes the idea of being able to say 'Luke, I am your father'. He's a geek. I've definitely come round to the twin thing now and the thought of something happening to one of them occupies my worried mind constantly, so trying not to jinx anything by counting my chickens!

Creamtea1 Thu 07-Feb-13 22:57:18

I know people will say I'm mad, but I would love twins! Don't ask me why, I don't really know why-perhaps I am just mad as would then have 4 kids..

HettySunshine Fri 08-Feb-13 05:37:10

I have my booking appointment today and an so excited I woke at 5.00am! This is what I'm always like - Christmas, birthdays, holidays. Oh we'll, plenty of time to plan my questions. DP is asleep with his hand on my tummy grin

Kittenkatzen Fri 08-Feb-13 07:42:46

Lol at "Luke I am your father" grin

Actually I had forgotten that my bf had christened the bump when we told her and we've been using that name on and off when we remember....she called it Nige, which sounds funny with our surname and is nicely unisex smile

Kittenkatzen Fri 08-Feb-13 07:43:18

Ooh and good luck for your booking today hetty smile

Whyriskit Fri 08-Feb-13 08:45:50

badguider I'm just outside Edinburgh but work in the centre. Went to yoga at mulberry house when pg with DSs - don't know if I can justify cost this time. Also did baby yoga with preg & parenting centre.

Whyriskit Fri 08-Feb-13 08:59:25

Ooh, and I have a question! I'm normally fairly relaxed about food in pregnancy - unless the guidelines specifically say to avoid something (& even then I'll be flexible)
We're going out to a French restaurant on sat to celebrate fil's retirement. I've looked at the menu, and genuinely there's only one thing I can eat for a starter! Boring soup!
Anyway, there's game terrine which I would normally love but is terrine treated the same as pate for pregnancy?

Wincher Fri 08-Feb-13 09:03:15

I'm afraid I'd count terrine as the same as pate, sorry! It will have the same listeria/liver issues. What else is on the starter menu? They now say you are allowed cold cured meats and fish if that helps. My midwife told me to avoid cold seafood such as prawns but I'm dubious about that one.

jennimoo Fri 08-Feb-13 09:09:50

The latest guidance says cold seafood is ok, it just says it needs to be cooked. I was surprised how many changes there have been in the last few years. It seems to be much less strict!

I'm still avoiding raw / soft eggs at the mo but it does seem to be a very low risk! And no alcohol here, although would have small amount after these first few weeks, but for now the thought makes me want to puke... DH has made his first batch of homebrew and is drinking more often as a result. The smell makes me feel sick!

jennimoo Fri 08-Feb-13 09:10:58
Whyriskit Fri 08-Feb-13 09:15:31

Menu: mackerel pate, boudin noir (might be ok), terrine, salad of raclette & parma ham, moules (fine, but make me boak at the moment!)...and cream of tomato soup!

jennimoo Fri 08-Feb-13 09:17:22

I think Parma ham is ok.

Whyriskit Fri 08-Feb-13 09:31:48

Yes, with that one it's the cheese, not the ham. Thanks for the list Jenni, things have changed in 3 years!

HettySunshine Fri 08-Feb-13 09:33:02

What's boudin noir?

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 09:39:20

Good morning ladies. Today I am mainly channelling my inner monkey, I am on banana number 2!

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 09:41:36

hetty I just enquired of mr google about boudin noir, it is a 'dark hued blood sausage', a bit like an upmarket black pudding...bleurgh (small bit of bile escapes into my mouth)

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 09:49:03

I am avoiding nuts, particularly peanuts in large amounts as my mum is severely anaphylactic with all nuts (except almonds bizzarely). From eating them or coming into contact with them she has around 20 minutes till her throat starts to close up and heart goes into arrhythmia, we've had lots of near misses, it's scary. I'm sure I'm over cautious with this, but it's been a terrifying thing for us all to live with. Strangely enough, and we'll never know if it was a factor, my nana and grandad had a pub when she was pregnant with my mum and she said she lived on the strips of kp peanuts behind the bar...

Kilkers Fri 08-Feb-13 09:56:51

Whyriskit would the mackeral pate be ok? I think the risk with most pates is not only the Vitamin A thing but also because the livers are usually cooked pink (listeria blah blah blah). If it's made with fish it would definately be made fresh and fully cooked? I think fish pate is more like a mousse usually anyway.

Hope your booking in goes well today hetty. I had my appointment yesterday which went brilliantly. The MW is soooo lovely and is going to be a good giggle I think. She was very thorough and answered all my questions patiently. She even managed to get blood out of my arm first time so I didn't have to have it taken from the back of my hand which is what usually happens (I have stupid awkward veins!). The MW I had when I had my MC was nice but very old school and just a little bit scary.

Can't believe I won't see her again until I'm 16 weeks, it seems like an age away. I've just got to try and not go totally bonkers waiting for my 12 week scan! I've thought about a private one but I'm going to try and stick it out.

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 09:57:10

Having said all that I will eat them in things and occasionally, as I did with ds1 and dd1, as I intuitively feel avoiding them completely is prob not good either!

Manoodledo Fri 08-Feb-13 10:00:48

DH has just texted me randomly from the airport (on his way to a conference) to say he doesn't want us to have the nuchal scan. I don't know what to think now!

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 10:22:50

Oh noodle what is his rationale? Will you be able to talk about it later on? Fortunately, DH and I are in agreement about this, we will have the nuchal and we have always agreed that we could not cope with a child with downs (sorry if that offends, but we have our reasons). If we didn't agree, it would be a real issue for me, really feel for you x

Manoodledo Fri 08-Feb-13 10:29:57

Don't know eek, just texted him back to ask and say we'll talk about it when he gets back. I can totally understand why people wouldn't go ahead with having a child with downs though.

jm233 Fri 08-Feb-13 11:07:17

If one more person tells me to eat a ginger biscuit I'm going to lose the plot! Feel sick? Oh! Have a ginger biscuit, or some ginger ale!
... Wow! What a great brand new idea that no one else had yet suggested!

Sorry... Feeling ratty today. Sick and sad and full of gas.

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 11:09:35

Oh noodle sorry, will be a long day.
I've got to go for a blinkin blood test now to see if I have immunity to slapped cheek syndrome!! Eh?! DS1 best mate mum just rang to say his best friend has slapped cheek and they've been together all time and seemingly is doing rounds at school. Sure Ds1 has some of symptoms, and it's very contagious. So, have spent morning on phone to docs and midwife, who have panicked me as it is dangerous for pg women and can cause spontaneous m/c. FFS.

LexyMa Fri 08-Feb-13 11:18:54

It's not really an ideal topic for a text message, is it! Especially written in such a fait accompli sort of way (your DH's message I mean).

We are having the nuchal test, because we feel that we would not be able to deal with a severely disabled child, in the sense that we both feel that we are not 'good enough' to bear that responsibility and have massive admiration for those who could. For DH as far as I know the consideration ends there, but in my slightly more searching moments thinking about this, I think the issue is that the diagnostic tests (especially those in the 20w scan) seem to be unable to tell you how severe the condition is - Cystic Fibrosis, for example. So I know that there are children with (e.g.) Downs who have fantastic quality of life and bring so much joy to those around them - e.g. that lovely story of the mother of the boy in the M&S Christmas ad. But for others it doesn't turn out that way. Sorry if any of that is rude or insensitive - it's not meant to be!!

fl0b0t Fri 08-Feb-13 11:24:44

Just catching up with everything (pate, Luke, bump names and nuchals)

At the moment, bump name changes each week (not that it's a bump yet, having lost over 3.5kg sad )

I have the "I'm expecting!" app on my phone which tells me each week what (middle class) fruit my baby is the same size as. So:
Week 5: Sesame seed-foetus
Week6: Pea-foetus
Week 7: (current): Blueberry-foetus
Week 8: Raspberry-foetus
Week9: cherry-foetus
Week 10: kumquat-foetus (told you it was middle class!)
week 11: fig-foetus
Week 12: lime-foetus
And so on.....

I'm also trying out MY surname on it, as baby will have my husbands surname (as do I)..... so Foetus has a full name- starting with a fruit and ending in my surname! :D

Just read your link jenni and I was convinced we couldn't eat Parma ham. I didn't touch it during my first pregnancy and looked at it longingly in sainsburys yesterday!!
<grabs coat and runs to the shops>

HettySunshine Fri 08-Feb-13 12:05:26

It wasn't a booking appointment, just a getting into the system one. My booking in isn't until 18th. I feel a bit deflated. I'll be 10+2 by then. hmm

Wincher Fri 08-Feb-13 12:21:44

I think the parma ham and raclette one is OK - raclette is a hard cheese so that should be OK.

You're meant to avoid all types of pate, even fishy ones, because of the listeria risk. French food is a bloody pain to eat when you're pregnant! it's even worse if you're veggie, I guess!

fl0b0t Fri 08-Feb-13 12:22:41

Hetty- interesting- so did you just go and say hello to hte midwife? I've got my "booking in" appt in the diary for next fri, when i'll be 8+5 ish?

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 12:27:27

Mmmmmm parma ham, I have just eaten entire tub of waitrose green Thai chicken soup, feel bit overstuffed

badguider Fri 08-Feb-13 12:35:49

raclette and parma ham would be fine to eat.

Personally in a really good restraunt i would probably eat the fish pate as it will be fresh made that day and no different from eating cold mackerel in a salad.... but in theory yes, you're supposed to avoid fish and mushroom pates as well as meat.

badguider Fri 08-Feb-13 12:40:02

But then i'm eating runny yolks in eggs cooked at home that i know are lion stamped and only avoiding them when out so i'm not the most strict at following rules.

jennimoo Fri 08-Feb-13 12:51:13

I avoided Parma ham last time so think its changed! All pâté even veg ones are on the avoid list due to listeria, but if you'd made it at home and eaten it right away I can't see there being a risk, so if a restaurant was making fish pate quite soon before you ate it I reckon the risk would be very low...
Feeling a bit off the idea of all processed food at the mo, with all these revelations about horse etc. I'm going to try to source my meat locally and avoid the supermarkets where I can, despite the cost!

HettySunshine Fri 08-Feb-13 13:14:47

Fl0b0t - yes, exactly that. Took a few details, gave me some leaflets and the form for my exemption card and booked me in for my booking app at the hospital. I had a full bladder too, for the urine tests. I was most disappointed. I'm a bit worried about getting my scan in time too.hmm

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Fri 08-Feb-13 13:17:52

That's the one kamikaze. Thought provoking huh?!

Massive craving for whetabix this morning - I was sure we would have some because hubby loves it. But no. I can not begin to describe the disappointment.

BinarySolo Fri 08-Feb-13 13:33:26

I must be being thick here, but what's the booking in appointment and how does if differ to a normal midwife appointment?

Mw basically told me there was no point in me having the nuchal scan because I wouldn't have any further tests. I'd have had it to get a risk factor and possibly prepare for a baby with downs. I wonder if I can ask them to do it when I have the scan as I feel slightly bullied into not having it, she'd filled the relevant section on the form before we'd even finished discussing it.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Fri 08-Feb-13 13:50:29

binary that doesn't sound right of her! What did she mean, you can't have more test? Is CVS not provided in your area?

BinarySolo Fri 08-Feb-13 14:13:02

It's because I said I wouldn't have the tests that could be a risk to the baby and that I wouldn't abort no matter what the results were. So she said there was no point as I 'could worry myself unnecessarily'.

But my argument is that if I find out there's a chance the baby will have downs then I can mentally prepare for it, or as with my son I can be reassured. Don't know if I'll be able to say I wanted it but she overrode me at the scan and have it done anyway.

amiready Fri 08-Feb-13 14:55:23

Yes Binary you should push for having it. She can't make that decision for you. I feel the same as you - I want the nuchal scan so that I can have the knowledge we're heading that way if needed, but wouldn't abort or have the tests that have a risk of miscarriage. It's totally appropriate to want some warning if the baby is going to be disabled.

9+5 today! Oh going so slowly. Still haven't told anyone yet! Anyone on here still not told anyone yet??? I was wanting to hear a heartbeat on the doppler and get the contract sorted first....

Kittenkatzen Fri 08-Feb-13 15:12:25

binary we decided the opposite to you, and the mw at my booking in did look at us like we were slightly bonkers for not wanting to know - but she left the section blank on my form and just said that when I come in for my scan I should make clear to the sonographer whether we do/do not want it at that point. It shouldn't be a big deal at all if when you go for your scan you say actually we would really like the nuchal test please.

Creamtea1 Fri 08-Feb-13 15:18:24

10+1 today and am feeling a bit down...don't know if it's the nausea or the 'lieing' to people or just generally having turned into a hermit... Hopefully will feel better when we tell people. I know I'm being miserable as haven't stressed about weight or carbs or anything, just feeling sorry for myself sad looking forward to a week off work at half term though

SGJ Fri 08-Feb-13 15:23:23

We've only told my sister and BIL but not parents or my other sister or brother. I feel desperate to tell someone but it'd be a slippery slope and I keep imagining everyone knowing and then the 12 week scan showing that there's nothing there....
We've now met 4 newborns in the past 2 weeks as friends have been popping them out like mad and I am slowly allowing myself to get excited about the prospect of us having another one in 7 months!

For those of you bloated (like me!), my lovely sister the midwife said that a few drops of peppermint oil in hot water is not only a refreshing drink but will help reduce bloating. She is the voice of experience for many reasons so I'm going to try and source some peppermint oil and report back!!

fl0b0t Fri 08-Feb-13 15:43:18

hetty that's annoying- I've got DH working from home next Fri as I've got my "booking in" and I'm terrible at havimg blood taken. Hope its all over and done with that day.....

creamtea sorry you're feeling a bit rubbish, there's a lot of hormones going on I guess..... I did feel markedly better once we'd told a few people as it felt like the pressure came off a bit.

amiready I wish in a way we had a choice about telling people-we always said we'd wait until 12wks. It's hard to be signed off work for three weeks vomiting without letting the cat out of the bag a little..... You've got to do things your own way though smile as we were naughty and had an early scan, I know there's a cute little heartbeat (currently). Let's hope it sticks to 40ish weeks smile

Time is travelling very slowly though, you're right. Every day feels like a hundred days. I'm 7+5 ish and life is soooo slow right now!

I'm alternately lying on the sofa and trying to make DH a birthday cake between bouts of sickness!

Eeeknumber3 Fri 08-Feb-13 15:58:06

Back from having blood test to see if I have immunity to slapped cheek, my daughter definitely has it. Read horror stories on NHS website about people contracting it off small children and losing babies at 16 weeks, 19 weeks and have terrified myself. I have to now wait til next thurs for results to see if I'm immune or not. To make things worse, and I rue having done this, mentioned it to my mum who seemed to think it could possibly be a good thing if I spontaneously aborted....
creamtea sorry your too having a rubbish day, I'm going to stuff myself sideways as consolation!

EmmaDee Fri 08-Feb-13 16:34:58

Hi All, Hope I'm in the right place! This is my first pregancy and panicking slightly!! Had an appointment with the midwife on Wed and Im 7.5 weeks! Have toldmy mum buts that's it, waiting til scan to make sure alls ok first!

LexyMa Fri 08-Feb-13 16:51:58

Welcome Emma!

Eeek, your mum sounds quite a prize. What a horrible thing to say/insinuate. shock

fl0b0t Fri 08-Feb-13 16:58:47

Welcome emma! There's a few of us here expecting our first and also panicking! Sounds like you're due a similar time to me smile

KamikazeeKid Fri 08-Feb-13 17:17:44

Eek thats awful!!! What a thing to insinuate?!!

PurplePoppySeed Fri 08-Feb-13 17:33:34

Thanks creamtea, confusion over. Eek I think all mums and MILs forget what it's like being pg sometimes, hopefully she didn't really mean it, my MIL has come out with some odd ones at times too!
I'm massively craving jacket potato for dinner now I've caught up with the thred but had committed to a takeaway for dh's birthday dammit!

badguider Fri 08-Feb-13 17:45:55

binary you need to vcontact your MW about the nt test. I was told that I must take my notes with me as at the scan I can change my mind from yes to no but not the other way and if I don't have my notes with informed consent in it they absolutely will not do it.
We are having nt though we would not abort. We want as much info as possible and will decide about amino if the time comes.

badguider Fri 08-Feb-13 17:48:23

Thai takeaway for dinner tonight - omg I am getting so fat. Just compelled to eat anything with fat and salt in it sad

Manoodledo Fri 08-Feb-13 17:51:39

oh eek, I'm with purplepoppyseed on this. I feel for you though, it must be really stressful. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

BinarySolo Fri 08-Feb-13 18:13:48

Badguider - thanks for the heads up. I feel even more pissed off that she steam rollered over me now.

Eek - can't believe your mother feels that way. What a terrible thing to say.

CheeseStrawCraving Fri 08-Feb-13 19:23:50

binary also to add on to your nuchal thread, my mw said you should say yes now as the actual appt they book for your scan needs to be longer. As badguider says, you can refuse on the day but you can't do it t'other way round.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Fri 08-Feb-13 19:25:00

Had a right panic earlier, a spot of blood in my knickers. I was nearly on the phone to the midwife when I thought I'd better wait a bit. I've checked about 5 times and there's definitely no more blood. I think it may be from a scratch or something. I did stop breathing for a time though.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Fri 08-Feb-13 19:25:39

DH has gone to the shop to get me a Toffee Crisp for the shock.

Wibblytummy Fri 08-Feb-13 19:50:24

Hello Ladies, sorry I haven't checked in for a while. Was wondering if anyone can help me with a query. Out on a playdate with my DS and his friend today and the other mum mentions her other DC has whopping cough. Now I remember hearing lots about Whopping Cough and pregnancy on the news a while a go but have no idea if this run in with a potentially infected family puts baby at risk? When I google (trying not to look too in to far with Google for fear of horror stories..) is that pregnant mums are now offered whopping cough vaccinations at 26-28wks to help prevent newborns from contracting it... I'm in a confused state, do I need to call the midwife?

LexyMa Fri 08-Feb-13 20:13:13


here's the info about WC in general - doesn't say anything about quarantining family or it being a specific risk to women in early pregnancy.

and here's the page about the vaccine

Usually, community midwives don't mind being called about even the tiniest little worry-bead. If you haven't booked in with MW yet, call GP to be reassured.

BinarySolo Fri 08-Feb-13 20:18:50

Redandyellow I had a small bleed with ds and bled when we had sex for the first time after conceiving. Generally it's nothing to worry about and is very very common in early pregnancy.

BinarySolo Fri 08-Feb-13 20:22:05

Bums, already got my scan appointment through so I guessing it will be too late to have the nuchal measurement done. Should have insisted with the midwife but I'm not confrontational.

CheeseStrawCraving Fri 08-Feb-13 20:34:26

Binary call the hospital from your scan appt notes and tell them you want to add the nuchal if you do want it, they may just have to give you another appt date. It's your decision and you shouldn't be bullied one way or the other.

Re food, I've just eaten two rounds of cucumber sandwiches with sea salt, followed by some Cornish ice cream. Been craving both all day, no idea why as I don't regularly eat either, but hey ho, didn't argue with my body :-)

CheeseStrawCraving Fri 08-Feb-13 20:35:08

Ps just bought French Children Don't Throw Food, been after reading it for ages, anyone read it?

badguider Fri 08-Feb-13 20:53:38

Wibbly my MW said wc is a danger to newborns not pregnancy. That's why we don't get the vaccine any earlier than 28wks - cause it is for the baby after birth.