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August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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chocolatesolveseverything Tue 08-Jan-13 21:48:20

Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!! grin

JollyToddles Tue 08-Jan-13 21:57:59

I certainly can't wait to be shot of this sickness!

I'm in bed. Despite having had a 1 hr nap this afternoon. I think I may have to hire a cleaner to get through the next few months!

Have you all seen www.pregnology.com/ this site? Some good wee pics smile

RuckAndRoll Tue 08-Jan-13 22:04:30

checking in smile
I've always had anxiety but never enough to need the Dr, it's ramping up now. dh watching me like a hawk at the moment. can't wait for scan to calm me down now.
sleep time now!

8+some

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 08-Jan-13 22:20:10

Found the latest (I think!) stats list back on page 20 of the old thread. I know loads of people have joined since then and several EDDs have changed, but I'm afraid I didn't have time to go through the thread and add them. Anyone missing feel free to copy and paste again with your details.

We must make a new year's resolution to keep our stats more easily-findable in future smile!

I've also tried to keep track of those who have very sadly left this bus but huge apologies if I've accidently included any names I shouldn't have.

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August

ruthietoothie Tue 08-Jan-13 22:29:20

Yay to new thread! Must mean we are making progress through this icky first trimester of worry and sickness...

amelia really sorry to hear your news. Take lots of care

ScubaSarah Tue 08-Jan-13 22:31:05

Adding myself to the list:

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)

CarriePie Tue 08-Jan-13 22:35:17

Adding myself to the list:

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)

Added myself in xxx

Yay, new thread!

So sorry to hear your bad news amelia, that was me in early November, it's really crap. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to heal and grieve, other people will forget long before you do unfortunately but you will be ok. I wish you all the best for when/if you choose to ttc again. I conceived again two weeks after my mc, not recommending that course of action exactly as many people need time to recover physically and emotionally, but it can happen. Take care of yourself x

Rainbox that's good news, must have been very stressful for you!

Full of admiration for those of you working full time during this tired and sicky phase! I'm a sahm with two dc, I am exhausted, I just want to sleep. The only time I don't want to sleep is bedtime, when I cannot f-ing sleep for the life of me. I had hardly any sleep last night and today I nearly cried with tiredness. But once again now it's 11.30pm and I'm wide awake and chirpy hmm

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)

Stopsittingonyoursister Tue 08-Jan-13 23:51:55

amelierose very sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself.

Rainbox that must have been such a relief, enjoy the rest.

noodle 9 flights sound exhausting when feeling on top of the world, never mind when feeling a bit ick. Don't work too hard!

ruck did you decide what to do about your private scan?

oxford if I were in your situation in my company, I would tell the uber-boss. Does she have a family of her own? I just think you need to come clean with her, explain that you want to do your best for the company and your colleagues, it's not fair to your colleagues that you lead the project when you aren't 100% well, but you are 100% committed and will provide support and input into the project as much as you can but you can't lead it. I think chocolate's idea of trying to work from home one day a week might also be useful, especially as the pg progresses. Do you usually work very long hours on top of a 4 hour commute?

I told my boss at work today. I already work PT (3 days 8.30 - 3.30) but I do supervise a team. When I told her I was pg but keeping it quiet until the 21st (scan), she said "I am saying congratulations to you, but inside I'm thinking oh shit, what are we going to do with your work?!". Quite flattering really, I always think I am pretty expendable as a (very) part time worker, so I didn't really think they'd notice when I wasn't there for a year. Next step is for me to have the scan, and then if all is well they want a round table meeting with my team to discuss dividing up the work and planning for me leaving (which will hopefully mean just winding down my current caseload). All very efficient, which is helpful, and no big dramas. This is my third mat leave with the firm, so I was bit worried that they might think I was taking the P, but so far, so good.

Very very tired but like you James I can hardly keep my eyes open during teatime with the kids, and then wide awake at about 9.30pm, and cannot get out of bed in the mornings. Need to get this sorted out!

Added myself to the list.

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Tue 08-Jan-13 23:58:41

Hello! I've been part of the September club but a dating scan yesterday confirmed that my EDD is 16th August blush

Can I perch here? I'm not usually always a total idiot.

Locketjuice Wed 09-Jan-13 00:02:56

amelierose very sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself.

Rainbox that must have been such a relief, enjoy the rest.

noodle 9 flights sound exhausting when feeling on top of the world, never mind when feeling a bit ick. Don't work too hard!

ruck did you decide what to do about your private scan?

oxford if I were in your situation in my company, I would tell the uber-boss. Does she have a family of her own? I just think you need to come clean with her, explain that you want to do your best for the company and your colleagues, it's not fair to your colleagues that you lead the project when you aren't 100% well, but you are 100% committed and will provide support and input into the project as much as you can but you can't lead it. I think chocolate's idea of trying to work from home one day a week might also be useful, especially as the pg progresses. Do you usually work very long hours on top of a 4 hour commute?

I told my boss at work today. I already work PT (3 days 8.30 - 3.30) but I do supervise a team. When I told her I was pg but keeping it quiet until the 21st (scan), she said "I am saying congratulations to you, but inside I'm thinking oh shit, what are we going to do with your work?!". Quite flattering really, I always think I am pretty expendable as a (very) part time worker, so I didn't really think they'd notice when I wasn't there for a year. Next step is for me to have the scan, and then if all is well they want a round table meeting with my team to discuss dividing up the work and planning for me leaving (which will hopefully mean just winding down my current caseload). All very efficient, which is helpful, and no big dramas. This is my third mat leave with the firm, so I was bit worried that they might think I was taking the P, but so far, so good.

Very very tired but like you James I can hardly keep my eyes open during teatime with the kids, and then wide awake at about 9.30pm, and cannot get out of bed in the mornings. Need to get this sorted out!

Added myself to the list.

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think

Locketjuice Wed 09-Jan-13 00:03:44

Ok did not mean to do the whole message lol!
I'm on my phone I do have an excuse I'm not always this thick!

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 00:09:20

checking in smile

weeweewee - I think I could do with having your username blush couldn't even last through a trip to the cinema without a pee before it started, one halfway through, and then one at home as soon as we got in, big horse pees too!

LoveBeingAMrs Wed 09-Jan-13 00:21:32

Can someone add me to list? Am on my phone so struggle to copy it! Im 24th aug!

Sorry to read about peoples losses lately :-( my heart goe out to you and lots of baby dust sent your way!

I've been ridiclously fatigued lately, sleeping easily 12 hours + a night, then beig tired all day! Had cold last 2 days and it absolutly knocked me and was in bed for 2 days (my 2 days off work, boo!!) Today when i woke up i felt amazing, just like i have a boost of energy so fingers crossed am out of the fatigued stage!! Midwife booking in appt on thurs! Yay!

I too am struggling with my jeans, i cant see much difference but struggling to do up jeans anymore, am 8+4!

Hope your all doing well and not too ill!!

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Wed 09-Jan-13 00:27:15

foof Ha, there's nothing quite as satisfying as a massive horse wee! It hasn't got to me that much (yet, probably) but I could really do without the constant nausea and upchucking. Bleurgh.

lovebeingamrs I'm 8+4 too but my EDD is the 16th. Is that because of different cycle lengths? <<dunce>>

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Wed 09-Jan-13 00:30:42

Adding myself and LoveBeing in:

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think

southportmum Wed 09-Jan-13 04:12:03

sorry being a bit naive whats the list about and dc???

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 05:55:15

Southport - the list is all of our estimated due dates and DC stands for Dear Child. So we can keep track on who is on the list, when we're each due and how many sproglets we already do/don't have. Hope that helps smile

Skinnydecafflatte Wed 09-Jan-13 06:08:25

Hello! Can I join please?

I found out today that I'm nine weeks plus. I had a mc at end of October and had not had a period since. I did a test just before Christmas thinking that if my brain knew I was not pregnant then my period would start, I was completly taken aback to see it was positive. Although they tell you you are very fertile after a mc I did not think it would happen as we have fertility problems and the last pregnancy was after two years of trying. We have one DC who has just turned three and he was after 2.5 years of TTC.

So blood tests show I'm nine weeks plus, thrilled to get past the 8 weeks that I was last time. Scan booked for 28th at which point I should get an accurate date. Could someone add me to the list as I can't do it on this. Stats are:

Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)

James very pleased to see you on the list too, we both fell off the June one about the same time. Fingers crossed

Look forward to getting to know you all.

Skinnydecafflatte Wed 09-Jan-13 06:10:01

Oops I mean I found out yesterday, forgot its morning. My sleep is rubbish at the moment, think i'll be falling asleep at my desk again today.

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 06:32:12

Welcome Skinny and congrats!! I'm with you on the rubbish sleep, I get a lie-in on Weds but I'm wide awake anyway :-(

EggyM Wed 09-Jan-13 06:58:58

adding myself to the list .

also there with the rubbish sleep!!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think

Hi ladies, sorry to hear about crappy sleep and being sick, hope you all start feeling better soon!

Thank you gary and foof I am trying to calm down despite still bleeding (lightly so far fx) and its looking a bit more pink now... Never before have I examined loo roll in so much detail!!

Trying to hold out until my booking app on Monday to ask the midwife to take my blood again to check hormone levels have gone up (progesterone was 19 and hcg was either around 1,100 or 11,000 I was so shaky I wasn't taking it all in). Will also check when they will offer me another scan as mine isn't booked until 7th Feb and don't think I can last that long. Will have a look into private if they won't offer me anything sooner, peace of mind is priceless...

Added myself to the list as the original EDD, as beckie said, it's an early scan so let's wait until the 12 week scan... One day at a time, thank you all for being here this is such a help and I really hope all goes well so we can all start enjoying some lighter hearted chat soon xx

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!

LoveBeingAMrs Wed 09-Jan-13 07:54:31

weewee not a dunce! Took me ages yo figure it all out, yes i have a long cycle so technically i'm 8+5 now! This date is EDD until my first scan!! Thanks for adding meto the list aswell!! :-)

I forgot to add DC1 after my entry to list!! (doh!) lol x

Noodles80 Wed 09-Jan-13 08:23:10

Added myself to the list! I think I am last one due in August!

Zen1980 - Thanks for the comments re thyroid. I have telephone consultation today, so will see what they say and go from there.

Hope everyone has a good day. Halfway to the weekend!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)

MrsPennyapple Wed 09-Jan-13 09:27:52

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPenyapple DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)

Morning all, just changed my name on the list as I was still on as TiredofZombies. Also put it in date order smile <anal>

Hope everyone is well, I'm feeling a bit ropy today. Still, got my booking in appt later today so that's something to look forward to. I know it's not very exciting but at least it feels like something is happening.

beckie90 Wed 09-Jan-13 09:29:59

feminist mine was done at 6+6 by lmp it was 36556, which was well in the range for that time seen as the range is so huuge, but then had my scan and thats when they put me back a week, and although its very possible for hcg to be that high at 5+6, for me I've always had average hcg levels its never been that high at 5.5 weeks with any of my pregnancys its always avaraged around 2000 at 5ish weeks with my other 3 pregnancys. But I know this could be different. It's gutting when its put back lol pregnancy is long enough as it is.

I sympathise with so tired but lack of sleep, I'm so so tired through day, then it gets to night I get it bed, still shattered but can't sleep mind on overdrive...then as I drop off ds2 wakes up, he's still a very bad sleeper at 21 months, he's averaging on getting up about 10x a night, does anyone have any sleep tips for him? Ds1 was the same, he just stopped in his own time

10+0

Aaw congratulations Skinny! grin Really pleased for you, fx for us both this time, I've got way more symptoms this time so I feel like it's going to be ok, even though there's no guarantees in life. I'll pop you on the list.

Fem, sorry to hear you've been bleeding, it's so stressful and worrying. Are you able to take it easy and rest? Have you already had an early scan at all? you can usually push to get one if you're bleeding. If you get any cramping or aching, even if it's mild, I'd ask for a scan/another scan. Fx it's nothing though, I bled for weeks in my 2nd pregnancy due to a cervical erosion. Totally harmless but very stressful as it could have been something more serious and they just weren't that bovvered about getting to the bottom of the bleeding. hmm

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 09:57:44

Skinny congratulations, welcome & well done you for not testing earlier and missing out on most of the early pg worry!
There are a huge number of us pg after mc so you're in good company. x

James, I'm with you, no way I could manage working & early pregnancy. I think we'll be stopping after this one as 2dc & pg sounds rough too!

Found heartbeat last night on the home doppler! I know it doesn't mean I'll get a baby at the end of it, but for now I'm feeling a bit more positive.

9+4

MrsWajs Wed 09-Jan-13 10:06:06

Following on from the mat jeans convo we had on the last thread, I've found blossom jeans with 70% off at the brand alley outlet if anyone fancied a pair - a much more reasonable £40-£50 rather than £100+ smile

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 10:12:16

I've just given myself quite a fright on the bathroom scales. I know I pigged out a bit over Xmas but I wasn't drinking so figured it balanced out!

I have put on 4kg (!!!) since my BFP and I'm only 10+3. Eeek! I reckon 2 kg is pure boobage growth but if I keep going at this rate I'll be WELL overweight by my EDD hmm
Help! Is it just me?

MrsWajs Wed 09-Jan-13 10:21:00

I have avoided the scales for precisely that reason Scuba I piled it on first time around with DD and had put on nearly a stone in the first 3 months but then it evened out a lot and I actually started losing weight once I got to 7/8 months (also worrying) might weigh myself this avo at my mums, I know what I weighed the day before my BFP so it'll be pretty accurate! hmm

Noodles You're definitely not last on the list, I think that might be me!!

MrsPennyApple You're not alone in your anal-ness, I was going to suggest a date order too wink

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
MrsWajs DC2 EDD 30th August (unconfirmed)

Hi everyone, mainly just marking place as I feel totally rotten with a cold/cough/achey thing going on, but I now have my 12 week scan date smile Next Tuesday lunchtime. By dates I will be 12 + 2 then, but I am expecting them to put that back a bit.

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 10:30:11

Waves, we have same EDD and same date for scan smile
Good luck xx

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 10:31:23

Sorry, pressed send too soon
MrsWajs - thanks for the reassurance. I guess we've made a lot of new blood and amniotic fluid already but I'm going to be super healthy for next few weeks smilesmile

MrsPennyapple Wed 09-Jan-13 10:43:29

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyapple DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
MrsWajs DC2 EDD 30th August (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August

Somehow it still had me as TiredofZombies so did it again.

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 12:21:21

stats thread

Hope no-one minds, but I started a stats thread (using most upto date) because it's hard to scroll/keep track of convo with moosive lists.
If anyone can't add themselves, post here/pm me & I'll add you, not adding self until 12wk scan....exciting to think we can start adding sexes to the list in 10 weeks!!

MrsWajs - Yay, cheapo blossom jeans! Seriously they are the best, still have pair from last time, def getting another pair. Check ebay out too smile

Gary - Ooh, that is exciting to think! Not sure whether to find out sex this time, we didn't last time, tho my friend scanned me at about 38 weeks and she had a guess (not a lot of space in there to be certain at that point) and she was right. Last time I felt like I knew it was a boy from the very start so it was no surprise to me. This time not so sure...feeling like...maybe a girl??

MrsWajs Wed 09-Jan-13 12:36:45

I think I'm having a boy this time, no reason I just do. Will find out again if I can as I like to know these things - surprises aren't my thing! DP wants another girl but before we had DD he only ever wanted boys!! Funny how things change.

JollyToddles Wed 09-Jan-13 12:51:53

Can someone add me to the stats thread?

JollyToddles DC2 24th August ish

Thanks.

This pregnancy seems really different to last time. I do not recall feeling this rough. So I think it's a girl this time or there's two in there.

jolly - i know, first time mums and multiple pgs and girls are supposed to make you feel the sickest - but i was this bad with DS too, and again now so i guess im just a freak of nature!!

Isisizzie Wed 09-Jan-13 13:56:43

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyapple DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Isisizzie DC1 12th August (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
MrsWajs DC2 EDD 30th August (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August

Isisizzie Wed 09-Jan-13 13:58:38

Just adding me and JollyToddles

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyapple DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Isisizzie DC1 12th August (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
JollyToddles DC2 24th August ish
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
MrsWajs DC2 EDD 30th August (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 14:16:26

Updated the list.

Sarah, with DS I put on 20lbs in the first trimester then another 20lbs in the last few weeks (and that all fell off in a few weeks) so I wouldn't panic about it!

snow, wajs...so convinced this is a girl that I've only been looking at girl bits (with DS I was convinced he was boy so didn't bother with girl stuff), it's depressing how much more nice stuff there is for girls out there!

RugBugs Wed 09-Jan-13 14:23:19

Can I have a non-pg related rant please??
Bought myself a lovely new winter coat in the boden sale and bloody bloody yodel are saying they left it 'at my front door' after calling twice yesterday. The fuckers absolutely did not and we have cctv coverage of our front door to prove they're lying!
It's so bloody cold and foggy here and my coat doesn't do up [cry]

Gary but boys have such funky t-shirts! DP loves his music and if we have a DS he'd go crazy on the band t-shirts (that and tigger, why is tigger stuff always for boys?)

rugbugs - yeah the little Ramones t shirts and football tops are v cute! Sorry about your coat smile

gary - havent started looking at baby thingys yet but i know it will be a pink explosion to counteract all the little boy blue smile

Yvonney Wed 09-Jan-13 14:37:45

Just adding myself. Sooooo tired, could sleep for 24 hours just now :-(

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
Skinnydecafflatte. DC2 10th August (best guess)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyapple DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Isisizzie DC1 12th August (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
JollyToddles DC2 24th August ish
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Yvonney DC2 26th August
MrsWajs DC2 EDD 30th August (unconfirmed)
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Wed 09-Jan-13 15:32:45

rugs at least you can catch them out grin

Anyone not planning on finding out the sex? We did with DS (convinced he was a girl, spent the next 20 weeks adjusting to him being a he!) but I think with this one, we'll leave it as a surprise.

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 15:39:22

Afternoon ladies smile

Welcome Skinny smile that's such a lovely story, and no you aren't alone in being here after mc, I had mmc in April 12, also had secondary infertility since 2005 til that pregnancy (can only count from then as when started trying! could have been longer).

Well I felt so full of energy yesterday, that has gone lol! Slept well last night, struggled to get up, went to work, came home, went right back to bed and slept another 4 hours confused will be interesting to see if I sleep tonight!

Doppler hearing thingies (what are they actually called again? blush baby brain, forgot the word for yogurt last week!) - can I get recommendations please? Also I was really surprised to hear that you can hear from this early? How do you know it's not just you lol

very glad the list is in order now, was getting itchy fingers! <anal also>

9+1

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 15:41:13

Re gender - they don't tell you at scans where I live, so would need to be a private scan, am mildly wanting to know purely as the technology wasn't there with my previous 2 dc <ancient mom alert> but OH doesn't really want to know. So I'll be guided by him really, he may change his mind smile I keep picturing a girl, although am sure OH will be picturing a boy lol

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 15:52:15

Foof, I have this doppler.
Trailed through google a few weeks back and it would seem in the USA some Dr/MW's check with a doppler from 9wks, and there were loads of women on Babycentre/other sites that have said they heard it from 9wks at home.
Found my hb first (least I knew where to look!)...then had a poke around downstairs and found the thundering train of a baby hb (think they're between 120-150bpm at this stage)...I would assume it's harder for a 1st time mum to tell the difference?
I had the doppler with DS, but couldn't find his hb until 15wks...I was looking too high blush

Rugbugs, H&M always have awesome band shirts, they had a lovely Beastie Boys one recently but it was in orange (who wears orange?!).
Was considering getting a Metallica one for DS, to give MIL a heart attack.

9+4

greenj1 Wed 09-Jan-13 15:56:06

adding myself to list!!!
nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
greenj1 5th august(uncomfirmed)

when will this sickness and tiredness go away lol!!!

JollyToddles Wed 09-Jan-13 16:15:07

We won't be finding out the sex. We didn't last time either.

A waste of ££s when we'll find out at 39 weeks for free we figure!

We have an AngelSounds Doppler. Won't be getting it out until 16 weeks or so as I don't want to panic myself. One thing you need to remember is that they work best with some kind of oil or gel improving the contact. We used bio oil last time and it worked fine.

LexiLoganberryBump Wed 09-Jan-13 16:16:49

Gary Could you pop me on the stats thread Lexi, dc1, due date 26th August.

weeweewee We'd like to find out the sex. We wanted to find out with our dd but she kept her legs firmly shut, we feel it's a boy but that based on pure guesswork, we're having this baby in a different area and not sure whether they tell parents or not.

RugBugs Wed 09-Jan-13 16:28:07

Don't think we'll be finding out the sex, I like a surprise and all the guessing! If we do give in to curiosity we won't tell anyone that we know grin

DP was chuffed when he found a Rolling Stones dress for DD once in H&M Gary, I really like their baby and young boys clothes.

CarriePie Wed 09-Jan-13 16:35:47

I think id worry if I bought one of those hb monitor things. I would be using it far too often and would panic if I couldn't hear anything when probably all it would be is me using it wrong!

Q for you ladies:
Not impressed as just found out Dh has to take time off as holiday for my scans. I think this is so bad of his company - government legislation says that a company is not legally obliged but "encouraged" to allow partners off for antenatal appts. Does anyone else's dp/Dh have to use holiday?

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 16:38:02

Lexi, you're on the stats list! Four babies due on the 31st July & 4th of August, going to be a busy start to August!

Rugs, it's so hard finding nice stuff for a little boy I'm wondering if I just hope it's a girl so it's easier to dress (having said that, she'll live in Ds's castoffs mainly, he gets mistaken for a girl head to toe in blue).

green, 'glad' you're so ill & tired after your scare!!

9+4

greenj1 Wed 09-Jan-13 16:44:12

I know I'm glad for the sickness and tiredness although I can't wait for 2nd trimester when it gets better! How is everyone dealing with ms? This is my 4th dc but its a big gap and I have forgotten how I got through it!! Xx

Autumn12 Wed 09-Jan-13 16:51:01

Adding myself to the list!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
greenj1 5th august(uncomfirmed)
Autumn12 DC1 7th August

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 17:19:08

Gary 20lb+20lb - wowsers!! Were you underweight to start with? my BMI was 29 at the start so I was hoping with healthy eating to keep the gain lower :-/ I am a runner though so maybe once I feel well enough to get out running again it might help …? That all said I'm jones'ing for a Dominos pizza tonight [cry]

Rug so sorry to hear about your coat - that sucks! Presumably they will have to send a replacement?

WeeWee we are going to find out the gender - we really don't care all that much either way - I flip on a daily basis which I want. DH wants to be gender appropriate with the cloud scheme - I want a DS to dress in pink dresses and a DD to play with action man but that cos I want to destroy the crap assumptions about gender we grow up with grin

Foof I'm SO glad it's not just me with baby brain already - doing my nut in! I am an intelligent woman, not that you'd know it righ..., why am I here again?

LexiLoganberryBump Wed 09-Jan-13 17:35:02

Gary Thank you.

Should of said that we don't mind either way what gender our baby is, we feel we're having a boy but we thought that last time and had a dd.

I'm the opposite I keep looking at lovely boy's clothes, little cardigans, blazers with elbow patches and gorgoeus babygrows with little collars that look like shirts.

Has anyone brought any clothing bits yet? We were looking the other day but felt a little early, settled on some bibs.

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 17:35:14

SS yesterday i was tasked with throwing away one pair of OH trousers and putting another pair plus two shirts in the wash. No prizes for guessing how that one turned out blush

Feeling quite grotty again, just making tea for OH and not bothering myself, will just pick at bits tonight I think.

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 17:38:20

Oh no - Foof that sounds like the kind of nightmare I would create for myself… was it recoverable?
Hope you feel better soon, it's no fun at all is it! I had vision of me being this natural earth mother who glowed and glided through the whole process - instead I resemble a crack-whore on a bad day most of the time! oh for a wine

RugBugs Wed 09-Jan-13 18:01:45

Scuba Thanks and yes, there was still one in stock which they sent using parcel force 24 today!
I was hopping mad and I'm usually so even mannered, the poor yodel driver who delivered DPs gap order this afternoon got moaned at blush

I saw some amazingly cute boys babygrows in next, they have little dogs on them. I'm tempted to get both colours now but of course the next sale will be right before our babies are due!

RugBugs Wed 09-Jan-13 18:02:40

Erm managed to delete a sentence! Next also have pink babygrows with kittens on.

Yvonney Wed 09-Jan-13 18:13:18

Ok think I'm being blonde but I added myself to the list earlier and now I've disappeared?!?! Am I not allowed to play anymore lol?! I'm due 26th Aug DC 2

We're going to find out this time if its a boy or girl, our DS will be dying to know too. Plus he's said in the past he wants a sister so would be good to prepare him incase its a boy! smile

LexiLoganberryBump Wed 09-Jan-13 18:20:55

Yvonney We have the opposite, Have a dd who really wants a brother, although she did say to me earlier that girls rule and boys drowl (she doesn't know we're expecting, she's incapable of keeping a secret).

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 09-Jan-13 18:25:52

Sorry Yvonney, you're on the list now!
Wasn't trying to be stats thread King or anything, it's fine for anyone to post on it (just looks like I'm replying to myself atm), but so help you if you don't post yourself chronlogically <shakes fist>

Lexi, will be getting buggy earlier than I'd like (ordering from USA, not sure if company has stocklists over here?) but not planning on buying much else until baby gets here.

Sarah, at least crack whores get paid for looking like crap, where are those lucky caahs that 'glow'?!
My bmi was 20.7 before DS (and exactly the same weight when I got pg this time too!), not sure why I put on so much...have put on 4lbs in the last week so I'll probably bloat out again! Mmmm pizza.

Rug, oooh was wondering when the sales would be on around August (aside from the bank holiday), damned if I'm paying full price for baby stuff!!

MrsWajs Wed 09-Jan-13 18:26:59

Soo, weighed myself this afternoon and have so far put on 3lbs. Not sure if that's good, bad or indifferent since i've only known i'm pregnant for 2 weeks!! Ach well i'm not worrying about it anyway it'll be the last time for me so might as well embrace it!

Yvonney Wed 09-Jan-13 18:30:03

Gary - yay thanks for that! I don't know how I disappeared? and I promise I put myself in chronological order lol wink

beckie90 Wed 09-Jan-13 18:51:18

I gained just over 4st with ds1 blush liked my chinese food bit too much. ds2 I lost 1.5st in first 3 months. Bit out that back on in last 4 months. Went into labour weighing about same as pre pregnancy. And this time I've lost 4ib can't eat loads, I feel so full all time. I don't own scales no moresmile x

EggyM Wed 09-Jan-13 18:53:38

foof and scuba so glad it's not just me with baby brain- I thought it must be far too early on to be getting it but the other day at work I had an argument with my boss as I was convinced there was only 4 weeks til one of the deadlines. He was very confused and kept on repeating that it was 8 weeks. It took me a good few minutes to realise that I had completely forgotten February existed...

We definitely want to find out the sex- I am so impatient I want to find out now! Would so love a girl. But then I feel guilty for saying that as obviously I would be happy with a boy so long as it was well and healthy.

gary I would also like to find these 'glowing' women. I look bloody awful- am wearing so much makeup to work to cover the bags and spots (spots! not bad enough that I feel dog-sick all the time but I break out like a hormonal teenager at the same time) I'm sure someone will say something soon as I am not usually one for wearing much makeup!

mrswajs I've also put on 3lb but think this was only natural as I lost over half a stone through the sickness and I'm starting to eat a bit more now. Though still throwing up at last half of it...

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 18:58:59

I suppose it's hard to tell what weight gain is just from xmas excesses though, I know I felt like I had put weight on in the last few weeks but this week feel a lot less bloaty/fat.

eggy wouldn't it be fab to slip a whole month, would mean a month less to wait!

Briarrosy Wed 09-Jan-13 19:06:29

Edinburghers - I went for my booking in today and was chatting to the midwife about NCT classes. She was saying that some of them can be quite pressury about natural births, and if so to take it with a pinch of salt. She said the midwife-led ones are more likely to be realistic than ones led by e.g. a doula. I'm still quite keen to go to make mum-friends, but does anyone have any experience of which ones are the best?

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 19:12:50

You can make mum friends in loads of other (free!) places smile I'd save my £250 for something else lol

I know a lot of people here knock Netmums, but for local stuff and meet a mum/ Netmums meet-ups it's really the best. Then of course there are baby groups, meeting the mums on your ward, baby clinics, breastfeeding groups, massage classes, aquanatal, preg yoga etc etc

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 19:14:55

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/groups

Just search your town smile

Jollymummy2 Wed 09-Jan-13 19:24:36

Just having a catch up on our new page. Glad that so many are doing well, and sad for those who are not still on the August journeyhmm

I'm still feeling blergh most of the day and feeling SO TIRED!
DD2 had her tonsils removed on Monday and DS came down with Chicken Pox on Monday night shockwhich hasn't helped with the tiredness as they both wang Mummy love when they are ill.
At least they have kept me busy, and not worrying about little bean.

Have my booking in apt tomorrow, and hopefully scan soon. I have got a definite tummy already (8+5 ish) so want to make sure it's only one! Keep having dreams about twin boys!!

Briarrosy Wed 09-Jan-13 19:31:50

Thanks Foof! Will have a browse. I already know 3 people in Edinburgh who'll be on maternity then (all 4 months ahead of me though) so that's a start!

Feel so crap today, and had some more bleeding, Utterly cheesed off, if I lose this one too I'm not ttc again, it's too hard. Having said all that it's probably just my old cervical erosion playing up, but every slight twinge is making me think it's the start of a mc, I'm driving myself crazy. I might see about getting an early scan. Wondering if I can contact the epu directly or I have to faff about with the gp again this time. hmm

Mayanbob Wed 09-Jan-13 19:49:32

Hey everyone- just checking in...

Finally heard from the midwife- YAY!!!! Booking in appointment next Thursday at 8pm at my flat! Am alarmed by this as obviously means I will have to clean like a lunatic. Does anyone else have home appointments? According to Midwife it will be all 'home care' . Convenient - yes- but paranoia inducing!

carrie DH is taking flexi for any appointments that he needs to attend.

I have lost weight thus far, but not a lot and will probably put it all on again over weekend as am going to Lakeside Darts with DH and it is not known for it's healthy foods... (may have mentioned already.. sorry...)

foof, scuba and other baby brainers... I think I am losing it a little. too. xx

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 19:56:44

James so sorry to hear - fingers and toes crossed for you and (apparently un-mumsnetty) hugs heading through cyberspace too
sticky-bean vibes
x

Mayanbob Wed 09-Jan-13 20:03:10

oh James I am sorry to hear that. I am no expert on the matter but perhaps try contacting EPU to see what they say fingers crossed and lots of hugs to you too. xxx

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 20:23:19

James give them a ring and see, it can't hurt. I think after a mc every twinge is held up to itense scrutiny and it's impossible to relax.

Carrie, not fair is it but I suppose that from their point of view YOU are the important one.

Will anyone's OH be taking their paternity leave?

Chuckaluck Wed 09-Jan-13 20:32:43

Hi all, just checking in on this new thread! Sorry to all those with worries and hugs to all struggling!

I am now 10+4 and starting to feel a lot better. Constipation and nausea pretty much gone but still very tired but can't sleep past 5am! This is DC1 so don't even have a DC that's waking me up!

Getting excited and a bit scared for our scan on 21st Jan! Carrie yes DH has to take holiday to come. He works for Royal Mail and they are very inflexible! He probably will take his 2 weeks paternity leave though.

When will you all start buying the big purchases like pram and cot? I have been looking but I know it's far too early but want to spread the cost if possible! Also seen some lovely baby clothes in sales but managed to resist so far! Not for much longer! grin

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 20:53:03

Chuck - Not til 20 weeks. I've bought a babygro set and a pack of cotton swaddling blankets after my early scan where I saw a hb, just needed to make it feel a little more real and like this was actually going to happen this time smile

Nothing more though till as I say after the 20 week scan. I've picked the pram (Obaby Zezu around £200 or if we win the lottery, Bugaboo Cam3! around ££££££!!!) and I know roughly what kind of cot/bouncy chair/etc I want. I'm pretty much a strictly babygros/soft leggings kind of person when it comes to babies, hate seeing them in crispy denim! Have been looking on www.woolworths.co.uk and the Next and H&M webbys as they seem to have more of the kind of stuff I like.

Planning on breastfeeding but will also get a couple of bottles and ready made formula boxes in case of 3am emergency! Will just get a bottle of Milton for cold water sterilising <oldskool>

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 20:53:24

oh is anyone watching One Born Every Minute btw? If not you should be!

ScubaSarah Wed 09-Jan-13 20:54:44

I haven't been - it's on in 5 mins so I'll be switching over - food inspectors is freaking me out now anyway!!

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 20:58:47

I normally enjoy watching food inspectors but not right now, have been watching cute babies doing daft things on you've been framed smile

Yvonney Wed 09-Jan-13 21:03:45

Yeah I'm watching One born every minute, can't help myself! smile

Mayanbob Wed 09-Jan-13 21:15:59

yvonney me too!

today's madness for me.... my boobs aren't aching and as that's pretty much the only symptom I've been having. So obviously i'm now paranoid.

JollyToddles Wed 09-Jan-13 21:21:28

Mayan I don't know how far on you are, but I was looking at my posts on mn from last pregnancy and basically all my symptoms disappeared at 11 weeks even though everything was fine.

FoofFighter Wed 09-Jan-13 21:30:49

Mayanbob, maybe put a post up on pregnancy board asking roughly when peoples symptoms started to edge off? Would put your mind at ease smile

Mayanbob Wed 09-Jan-13 21:37:56

nice idea foof... will get on it!

SendMum Wed 09-Jan-13 21:41:01

Just adding myself to the list!

Added myself to the list! I think I am last one due in August!

Zen1980 - Thanks for the comments re thyroid. I have telephone consultation today, so will see what they say and go from there.

Hope everyone has a good day. Halfway to the weekend!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
TiredofZombies DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Sendmum DC3 2nd August

One born every minute? Are you kidding? Gives me the jitters, just can't watch it! Brings back too many memories I was hoping to forget! Lol I'm a coward clearly x

10+6

MrsPennyapple Wed 09-Jan-13 22:06:26

I see I've reverted to being TiredofZombies on the list, and it's all not-in-order again. <sigh> Oh well.

Went for my booking in appointment, and the lovely lovely midwife managed to get a doctor to give me a quick scan, and we saw a heartbeat! Woo hoo! I hoped they might be able to do one before 12 weeks but I didn't think they'd do one today. Hurray! Might even consider telling the family.

My mum annoyed me today though before my appointment, by asking outright if I'm pregnant again yet. I will tell when I'm ready to tell, I have very good reasons for not saying anything yet, and I don't appreciate being backed into a corner. I mumbled something non-committal and said that when there was anything to tell her, I would tell her. She said she wasn't trying to push me, and she knew I might not be ready to say anything yet, but I just thought "why ask the question then?" It was over the phone and we don't see each other often, so it's not like she's seen my belly and suspects or something. Anyway, rant over, I am relieved and happy that all is well.

Oh and I don't think we'll find out the sex this time. We did with DD, because I was immediately convinced I was having a girl, and knew I'd need time to adjust if it wasn't. I am happy with a surprise this time round smile

Silver15 Wed 09-Jan-13 22:10:14

Hello ladies,

Just checking in on the new thread. Can someone please add me on the list as I'm always on the phone.

Dc3 edd 29 July.

I have my first booking in appt tomorrow at Hosp 1 and booking in and scan for hosp 2 next week. Will make my choice between the 2 after the scan at hosp 1 on 22.

My nausea has eased a bit but started to vom(tmi). I stopped taking pregnacare and have started taking seven seas preg vits. They have folic acid and ginger in them.

Still struggling with the poo and bloat. Ive started putting on maternity stuff as im showing. Got some nice skinnys from h&m.

Mayanbob Wed 09-Jan-13 22:24:11

Hi penny ... congrats on your surprise Scan. Can I just ask- is your name a Familyguy reference , if it is, I should just inform you that I read all your posts in the voice of Mrs Pennyapple. If not.... then just ignore me grin am adding me to the list so will re-pennyapple again.

i'll pop you on silver. Hope the vomming eases soon x

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Silver15 DC3 29th July
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyApples DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
Mayanbob DC1 14th August
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
FeministInTraining DC1 21st August- subject to change!
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Sendmum DC3 2nd August

MrsPennyapple Wed 09-Jan-13 23:19:20

Yes Mayan, tis a Family Guy reference. I'll have to read over some of my own posts and do the voice in my head, could be fun! Thanks for re-pennyappling me smile

Stopsittingonyoursister Wed 09-Jan-13 23:54:44

FX for you James - can I ask, were you on the May 2010 MN list? I recognise your name I think?? Hugs to all others with worries.

I avoid OBEM, otherwise I end up with snot and tears all over my face from weeping, and I look bad enough already!

Whoever was asking about NCT v MW antenatal classes - I did both with DS and I am still friends with mums I met on both courses. I found the MW ones very medical - just talked about the mechanics of the birth, and gave tips on different birthing positions, some stretches to do if you have eg back ache, and told us how to access the maternity unit (the entrance is hidden away round the back at York Hospital). However the NCT class was much more emotional IYSWIM - made the DHs/DPs talk about how they were feeling about the birth, for example, and gave much more info on practical stuff like how to bath a newborn, what stuff you really need for the first few weeks at home. I found both really useful for different reasons, but it depends what you need really. Having said that, I made a lot more mum-friends from just taking DS and later DD to the local baby and toddler groups, because those people were more local to where I live (we are in a village, so everyone with children goes to the same playgroup etc).

I too am suffering with the baby brain - I keep forgetting what I am saying half way through sentences. I think it's because my brain is full!!

Foof bugaboo prams are lovely, I shall be using my lovely red and white spotty pram from mamas and papas that I've used for the previous two DC, but I will definitely treat myself to a new pushchair when the baby is older!

Jolly hope your DC feel better soon.

I think we will find out the sex with this baby. We didn't with DS because we didn't really mind what we had, but we did with DD because it was easier for DS to process that I had a girl or a boy rather than just an unspecified baby in my bump! DS has very clearly specified that he would only want me to have another baby if it was a brother this time, so if it's girl, he may need some time to adjust! We didn't tell him until I was well over 25 weeks last time though, as he was only just 2. I am planning on telling him after the 12 week scan this time, as he is now 5 so able to understand a bit better. DD will just be thrilled to have a baby to look after, she loves mothering her dolls!

I am not going anywhere near the scales again until I stop snacking on bags of salt and vinegar hula hoops and min cheddars - I am addicted!

RuckAndRoll Thu 10-Jan-13 06:43:07

Morning all, looks like I've missed quite a lot since last reading. Work is chaos and when I get home I sleep (or try to).

Impressed at so many of you fools going near scales. I don't weight myself normally so I'm not going to start now! I asked the midwife if I was badly overweight and she just looked at me funny and said it'll only get worse.

We've always said we won't find out the sex as this is our first and we really just want baby here safely and don't care either way. DH is now starting to bring up 'if we find out the sex' now so I think he's changing his mind.

SIL went into labour last night, as far as I know no baby yet, she likes going into lots of detail, need to get in there first and say I don't want any horror stories afterwards!

Edinburgh people, if any of you are north of the city, PM me and I can give you the details of a really good mother and baby/toddler group that's ran at my church.

RugBugs Thu 10-Jan-13 11:03:57

We borrowed/were given a lot of baby things for our first but am older and wiser this time around so I'd rather buy things that will be useful.
Top of my list is a gliding crib for our bedroom and the baby bjorn bouncer - I learnt the hard way how much a pita a bouncer with a fixed cover is.

Ruck My younger Sister is due on Sunday, she's not known for her patience so I bet this waiting is driving her crazy!

rugbugs - yeah, same here - we did buy oand borrow some fab stuff for DS which I have kept but couple of things i would like to get for this time round, new car seat and maybe a co-sleeper cot tho those are a little pricy so have to wait and see what finances are like..

Brave ladies watching OBEM. I flinch even hearing the screaming at the start, brings it all back lol grin

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Thu 10-Jan-13 11:25:04

scuba I'm exactly the same about challenging gender roles (woo look at the life of excitement I lead!) and DS was dressed in pink, wore tights (so practical) etc

mrspennyapple we found out the first time too as we were convinced it was a girl and needed time to get our heads round is he was a boy but this time I'm not fussed (although leaning slightly towards wanting a girl) so surprise time it is.

Bad parent alert: I'm feeling so knackered I'm starting to wibble about whether this is a good idea or not. I know people have 4 under 4 etc so a 3.5 year old and newborn should be a walk in the park (and I work with under 5's!) but I can't see how I'm going to cope. Having 1 DC means you can tag team it but 2 will mean a 1:1 ratio. Eep. <<please ignore my self indulgent pity party posters who are on DC3+>>

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 10-Jan-13 11:25:34

lis is all updated! And in order, MrsPennyapple you're you again (I read your name in Stewie's voice too)...great surprise scan!

Ruck, I know some people ask the sonographer to write the sex down (in a sealed envelope) incase they change their mind!
Hope SIL has baby soon!

9+5

weeweewee - feeling your pain!! I think it's cos i'm so sick with this pg and i'm signed off work, and i really can't look after DS on my own at the min (28 months) and when you're feeling this sick and rubbish it's almost impossible to imagine feeling normal again and then you imagine feeling this sick and wrecked and having a 3 year old and a new born shock shock shock i'm sure we'll figure it all out as we go!

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 11:47:19

weeweewee think its a normal feeling, I certainly think oh dear lord at times, this one will be my 3rd, and it is hard with my 2 ds's cause there like non stop all day never sit down and both not good sleepers, but were women we can do it smile when I had ds2 I thought wow this is so much easier than I thought, its when they grow older all the fun begins Haha. Don't worry

Growing quite impatient now regarding dating scan, 10+1 and will be impossible to sort someone out to look after kids at last minute, my mums off work for next 2wks so could have asked her, but only problem is I still havnt told her, I darent sad

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Thu 10-Jan-13 11:50:37

Glad that I'm not the only one, although sorry that you're felling the same IYSWIM.

beckie Have you got a mother who is on the unsympathetic side of the spectrum or is it that you'd prefer to wait til 12 weeks before telling anyone?

Hi ladies, my journey ends here- another scan after horrendous pain and clots last night showed no bean sad
On the more positive side, was a complete miscarriage and so no need for further prodding- and everything looks fine in there so will be cracking on as soon as I feel up to it.
Wishing you all lots of luck for your pregnancies, enjoy xx

MrsPennyapple Thu 10-Jan-13 12:23:26

So sorry to hear that Feminist, you take care of yourself.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 10-Jan-13 12:38:02

So sorry to hear that Feminist, 'glad' it's properly over for you & you don't have to endure further tests & probing.
Good luck for when you feel up to ttc again & hope to hear a positive update from you soon. xx

Weeweewee, I feel the same. No matter how many people say 'ooh, get your sleep now, when newborn gets here...' nothing prepares you for the sheer hell that is life with an under 3 month old.
How we'll all deal with not falling asleep standing up & a small person saying 'wassat?' & prodding toast into your/babies face I don't know. I assume coffee is the answer.

LexiLoganberryBump Thu 10-Jan-13 12:42:53

Not feeling to good this morning, I've been so tired and went to bed last night at 9:30, thankfully I managed to sleep and my dh who's on his days off got up and took our dd to school, dd kept coming in to tell me things about jack frost visiting and flippin moshi monsters, got mad and shouted at her because I'm just so so tired and now feel really guilty.
Got up at 9 when the phone rang and had a nice long bath, hadn't had anything to eat till 11:30 so was feeling really sick and sluggish.

I've got obem on now, dh doesn't like so I watch it when he's not around generally, he's really quesey about blood and stuff and gets annoyed when the women say they can't do it anymore. He did managed to watch dd being born though and thought it amazing.

Dh will be taking his paternity leave, very doubtful that he'll be able to attend many antenatal appointments, he has a odd shift pattern so will have to try to fit things around his work where possible but he'll take annual leave for scans if needs be.

LexiLoganberryBump Thu 10-Jan-13 12:45:06

Sorry to hear that feminist

Take care of yourself.

bzzbee Thu 10-Jan-13 12:50:33

So sorry to hear your sad news Feminist, i hope you feel better soon.

I've finally added myself to the stats list, still very anxious (9+5 today). I (thankfully) haven't had the painful previous mc experiences that many of you have had, but I had been undergoing fertility investigations after 3 years of ttc with no BFP ever. So this strawberry (apparently at 9 weeks that is the size, according to something i read) is a very precious and unexpected surprise! I just wish we could all relax and enjoy but hopefully when the first scans start to happen we'll be able to breathe a bit.

I feel a lot better this week (not so nauseous) and it's been a huge pleasure being able to eat and enjoy food. I had lost half a stone over Christmas due to the constant nausea. So far this week I've had 2 Indian curries and one (gorgeous) Thai curry, and that isn't the half of it. Is anyone else craving really spicy/flavoursome food? Mmmm i could totally eat another one now.

Has anyone on the thread has gest diabetes previously (prob too early for any first time mums to get diagnosed)? I did with DD, so preparing mentally that I am highly likely to have it again. Though it was the healthiest I've ever been (low GI diet essentially) so I'm not overly concerned. And I was lucky to have a totally natural birth despite all the evidence to the contrary, so it's not all doom and gloom if anyone finds themselves in the same boat. Better eat those curries whilst I still can though!

Sorry feminist sad Take care of yourself..

bzzbee - I haven't had gest diabetes but a friend of mine had it with her first and she's just had twins but no gest diabetes in second pg so hopefully you'll escape this time round. I am having insane sugar cravings that go hand in hand with nausea, want to eat red licorice and haribo all the time, fizzy drinks, stuff i wouldn't usually touch and this never happened with DS so i'm a bit concerned about my blood sugar levels this time round. Did you have anything like this before?

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 13:44:43

So sorry feminist

weeweewee she's really supportive and adores her grandkids, but with my age 22 and expecting my 3rd, I just think mum and dad will be a little upset, so I'm just a little scared of telling them and the further along I get the more I get more scared. I've told my parents within days of finding out with both ds's and I know they were upset then. Of course it all changes though after the shock and once there here, there so proud of my boys and are always here for me just still so scared :/

Nightwish Thu 10-Jan-13 14:08:19

beckie I am 21 and this is my second DC.
I was really worried about telling my parents and although they were obviously worried but they were excellent.
The support you get from them is worth the stress of telling them. Good luck.

Everything fine here.
Still feeling tired and unable to sleep well but hoping that will get better soon.
Looking forward to scan on 22nd.

10+4 today.

Nightwish Thu 10-Jan-13 14:08:54

And best of luck feminist for the future.

Bund Thu 10-Jan-13 14:20:23

Hi just coming onto new thread, hello everyone and so sorry feminist. Hope to see you (and your brilliant name) on another of these threads soon.
I'm due 25th August ( sorry on phone so skills not up to adding to list). Finally had proper dr appt last night - last dr refused to refer me as I had just moved house (even tho only 10 mins up the road), who knows when scan will be! Had to face the terror of being weighed but the dr was very kind - measured in kilos which I don't use & when I asked him what it was in stones he said I didn't need to know!

parttimer79 Thu 10-Jan-13 14:34:49

Sorry to hear your news Feminist, do take care.

I've added myself to the list finally. At 9 +4 it feels a bit more real and my overinflated boobs definitely feel more real, I had to give in and get a new bra to retain a bit of dignity when i start teaching again next week
Booking in tomorrow and scan on 28 Jan which just feels like ages away. I'm unnaturally paranoid that something will go wrong so trying not to get too excited until then!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Silver15 DC3 29th July
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyApples DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
parttimer79 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
Mayanbob DC1 14th August
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Sendmum DC3 2nd August

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 15:08:44

nightwish for over a month both times my dad didn't speak to me totally ignored me whenever he saw me I just dont think I'm strong enough to face that at the mo, I know its really different this time I'm older now, was 20 when I had ds2. 22 now got my own home n been with there dad for 6 years, but still can't shake the nervous feelings sad x

Locketjuice Thu 10-Jan-13 15:23:12

Beckie, my parents were fine about it but my partners went NUTS last time like you would have thought we were admitting to being crazy killers or something!

This time they just said FUCKING kids! Not that I would say we can really be classed as 'kids' anymore :s

FoofFighter Thu 10-Jan-13 16:46:19

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
[sound of a maternity bra being put on]

www.nctshop.co.uk/Emma-Jane-Next-Generation-Nursing-Sleep-Bra/productinfo/2578/

Highly recommend it! Not sure it's enough support for me while out and about as am large of norkage (F cup) but it's certainly fine for me for sleep and around the house.

Right going for a read back now, couldn't wait to share my joy!

Feminist so sorry to hear that, poor you. Best of luck for trying again. x

Stopsitting, yes I was on the may 2010 thread, you've got a good memory! Did you have a different name then? I don't remember yours now. My dd is a great big proper child now, high time for another little one to snuggle!

Weeweewee, you're not the only one having the "omg what have I done?" wibble. I'm on my third and I feel so sick and tired I'm just doing the basics for the first two right now and feeling sorry for myself/them. They're nagging that they want friends round, they want to go swimming, they want me to pick them up, they're boooooored - I'm so knackered, I just find myself saying" "that's nice, go and play now" blush

I know someone up thread described the first three months of having a newborn as hellish, I had a different experience really. I found the end of pregnancy hellish as I couldn't sleep, I was massive, knackered, overdue and had heartburn, terrible spd and a bladder the size of a walnut, but afterwards it was great. Don't get me wrong I was sleep deprived, sore and achy but I don't remember it being awful.(Bearing in mind my baby didn't have colic or anything) Don't dread it, remember that you get used to be woken up several times a night and they're all worth it. I'm sure as soon as they come along they'll just slot into the family and we'll wonder why we ever thought "oh shit, what have we done?" smile

I haven't really looked at any baby stuff other than deciding which pushchair I want. Think I might go for a maclaren techno xt as they come with excellent reviews.

FoofFighter Thu 10-Jan-13 17:05:52

oh feminist I'm so sorry to hear what's happened sad thanks be gentle with yourselves, I can really recommend posting on the pregnancy loss board, the people over there basically held my hand throughout and kept me sane, they are totally luffly. Wishing you lots of good luck for your next bus xxx

For those worrying about the jump from 1 to 2 DC, please don't worry, the jump from 0-1 is far far harder and more of a shock to the system believe me! you will cope just fine smile remember you won't be bloated and uncomfortable, puking/nausea/pneumatic tits etc

I feel like this could be my first as the age gap is so huge between this one and my last baby - they've left home now!! (although it is OH's first child)

james I have a pathological hatred of maclarens!

mrspennyapple congratulations on your scan smile

had my booking on today, back next weds for bloods and pee and BP. In my area they test NOW for diabetes too, anyone else?

ScubaSarah Thu 10-Jan-13 17:16:15

Feminist, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Wishing you a swift recovery and hope to hear some good news soon x

On buggies I've decided on the Out'n'About Nipper 360 but we won't buy much til 20 weeks I think...
Currently arguing with DH about what to get new and what to get off eBay - thoughts?

FoofFighter Thu 10-Jan-13 17:26:02

The Nipper is one of my favourites (well as a double, can push it with your little finger, fantastic!!) [ex pramaholic emote]

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 17:26:06

locketjuice Haha I know, my mums always been ok but cried her eyes out for 2 weeks both times and dad went nuts especially first time, I was still young to be fair and they just didn't expect it at all, OH is my only partner I've had so when I hot pregnant with ds1 we had only been together a few months so of course they was shocked and angry...not as bad with ds2. But I just don't know how they will take this news, I think my mum has a big idea already shes seen how dizzy I am and questioned why I wasn't having wine on Christmas day, so she's probably just waiting for me to say it

Locketjuice Thu 10-Jan-13 17:44:42

Same with me we got 'your too young' 'you are ruining your life'....What they meant was you are ruining my sons!
It pissed me off the first time as they said well what are you going to do..and really pushed me to try and get rid when I told them where to go I was banned from there house! Stupid I know! Anyone would think I was 15.. I feel it writing that haha!

But as I was at there house on Xmas..(they are over ds1 shock now obviously and adore him) I thought it was so obvious I was as I didn't drink and that's not me at all.. But apparently they thought I had the arse so my partner thought he would be brave and just tell them!

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 18:56:31

My partner kept making hints on Christmas day to them, and my uncle shouted she's eating pickled onions shes pregnant, although I was just eating them with the cheese board cause I like them Haha.

Think Il have to tell them after the scan, so better start getting brave

Yvonney Thu 10-Jan-13 19:19:31

Feminist - sorry to hear your news, wishing you all the best for the future thanks
Back at work today after couple of days off cos I felt yuck. Work think I had sickness bug! hmm A few of the girls thought I looked a bit peaky today, if only they knew! Sickness not as bad but could sleep all day. Also feeling a bit of a bad mum, DS age 7 cutting up Christmas cards for fun - I just want to sleep! Left him to it with scissors and glue!!!! shock

7+3

MrsPennyapple Thu 10-Jan-13 19:22:42

We're thinking of telling family at the weekend. Am tempted to be evil - tell MIL and SIL separately, and ask them not to say anything - see who crumbles first! I know they'll be thrilled, as they had pretty much given up hope of DP providing any grandkids - he was 42 when DD was born. It's sad that some of you are worried about the reactions you'll get.

Part of me is wondering how the jump from one to two DC will be. DD will be just turned 2 when this one is born, I suppose I just worry that she will feel jealous, or pushed out. Obviously it's our job to make sure she doesn't, but it does worry me that I'll be spending a lot of time doing things for baby and not able to do what DD wants at times.

foofighter - bravado bras are fab, some of them are prettier than others but the really utilitarian, extremely functional looking ones are the best. So comfy for preg, so practical for feeding and good for big boobs!! I'm a DD at the minute but went up to E when pg with DS and F when milk came in, so feel your pain!!

mrspenny - I guess with your DD being 2 she'll still be kind of young enough to be a bit put out to begin with but accept the new status quo fairly quickly probably. My DS will be just about to turn 3 and I can't see him accepting the big change to his circumstances very easily!! Hopefully only one set of nappies to change tho lol

Because I've been so bloody sick we had to cave and tell our families very early on, ditto with some good friends and the people I work with. I've been basically housebound for a fortnight now, so it's pretty hard to cover that up - because of my mc in summer I would have much rather waited til after 12 weeks but wasn't to be!! Mum and MIL have both being very fab at helping me out looking after DS and dropping in groceries etc.

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 19:58:47

littlemiss I'm same I don't go anywere too exhausted and ill when mum comes up I tell her I've come down with cold (which is true too) but she knows thats not the whole truth, pretty sure of that, and my aunty keeps asking me if I'd like to go out, I say Ohhh no I can't I don't like going out I'm boring. Feel horrible not been honest, cause I'm such an honest person, but can't find the courage

zen1980 Thu 10-Jan-13 20:17:41

hey everyone
so sorry feminist about your news, here's hoping your not far behind picking up the next thread x
well hosp appointment was pretty uneventful as just went through with thyroid consultant how I had been doing an how much he thinks he needs to see me. We did laugh when he lifted out my file with everything in from dc it's huge!! forgot how drama filled my pregnancy an birth was! anyway receptionistgave me booking in when I'll be 12weeks on 21st Jan. She said they could do a scan but I'm doubting it an think I'll end up with another appointment date. So I need some peace of mind so have booked a private scan on Sunday. My best friend has just had . miscarriage which has kind of now frightened me again.

10+3

Thanks for the nice comments, can't wait to start TTC again! X

Can I join? Due Aug 29 ish, I'm 40 and this will be my 3rd pregnancy, one 10yr old DD, and ectopic in 2008. I've already had 4 scans and finally saw a little heartbeat today grin They thought this one was ectopic too hence all the scans and bloods low HCG, but all turned out good.

Boosiehs Thu 10-Jan-13 22:31:36

So sorry feminist. Fingers crossed for when you ttc again. Xx

8+2 today. Still feeling sick as a dog and cramps a gogo. Meh. I think I've lost weight (was overweight before BFP). I think giving up wine and feeling sick have certainly contributed. If I can maintain weight I will be most happy!

I really feel for you ladies back at work. I've been in hols since Xmas and spent most of it asleep! I am not looking forward to going back on Monday!

I think my edd is Aug 23rd. Can someone pls add me to the chart? I have booking in on Tuesday next week. Depending on the dates I might look for a private scan. Does anyone have any recommendations in central London?

Beckie. Good luck with telling your parents. Xx

beckie90 Thu 10-Jan-13 22:51:49

Welcome feet smile so glad you saw the little heartbeat. Xx

feminist good luck with TTC, hope your ok sad xx

boosiehs thankyou smile xx

Percephone Thu 10-Jan-13 23:13:32

Stopped feeling sick about 5 days ago but totally exhausted and absolutely starving! Have eaten so much today I should be ashamed (but I'm not!) grin

8+0

JollyToddles Fri 11-Jan-13 07:19:46

Sotry to hear your news Feminist, good luck for next time.

And beckie, I'm sure telling your folks won't be fun, but you're probably worrying about it lots at the moment so at least it'll be over and done with.

i had a bowl of porridge before bed last night and actually managed to get to sleep (been feeling too sick to sleep). Thank you mumsnet for this tip. I feel almost human again today!

8+0

MrsWajs Fri 11-Jan-13 08:18:11

Sorry to hear your news feminist and good luck for TTC in the future smile

As for baby brain....jolly I read your post as your DD was having her nostrils removed!!!? WTF? Although maybe that's not baby brain at all and just stupidity!

Had MW appt yesterday for first part (?) of booking in, just got my notes and loads of leaflets etc, I go back again on 21st for 2nd part of it, i.e. taking bloods and going over notes. Then scan should be on 12th February grin so only really 4 weeks to wait til then - seems much more bearable now! They have dated me a week ahead based on LMP and a 28 day cycle despite me telling them I was a definite 32 day but hey ho just means I get my scan sooner and if it's wrong they'll take me in for a second one the following week.

MrsWajs Fri 11-Jan-13 08:19:15

Oh yeah so now I'm 7+6 according to MW but 7+0 by my dates!

Thankyou. Glad to be part of the gang. Been TTC since the last ectopic. It's been a long road but we got there grin

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Fri 11-Jan-13 09:16:03

feministintraining so sorry to hear your news flowers.

MrsWajs How strange that they'd ignore you! The doctors (and midwives from last pregnancy - haven't seen any for this one yet) always wanted to know how long my cycles were and listened to what answer I gave them.

Did your GP refer you to ante natal care? I haven't heard anything from the midwife yet, and at the dating I was told to give the information to the GP so he could pass it onto the midwife but the first appointment available is on the 22nd, when I'll be 10+4!

beckie I told my parents on New Year's eve and they went completely silent. My mum still isn't really talking to me properly (although I've maintaining my distance as well --which is more than a little bit tricky as we work together--) and her response was just so cold. I was expecting it, and I know that once more people know and get excited for her, she'll become excited too but it's still bloody hurtful when the person who's supposed to be unconditionally on your side just isn't. I hope you have a better reaction - hugs to you for being in a horrible position.

beckie90 Fri 11-Jan-13 10:03:16

So I got my scan date through Il be 13+2, will I still beable to have nucal screening? Xxx

Beckie - No idea about nuchal screening, sorry. Good luck telling your mum, sorry that you have that stress at a time when you need extra support

weewee - Sorry about your mum too sad

MrsWajs - I habe pcos and my cycles can be all over the place, and I know that and it's on my medical notes but with DS they still insisted on going by dates so my original EDD was 3rd Aug which I knew just couldn't be right. EDD eventually changed to 28th Aug. It's frustrating when you know your cycles better than that but I think blanket NHS policy is to just go by dates until dating scan tells them otherwise. But it means going in for your dating scan sometimes and being weeks behind where you 'should' be and having to come back in again!!

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 11-Jan-13 10:55:20

Welcome feet! Congratulations on getting here after so long waiting.

beckie, anything up to 14wks is fine for the nuchal screening.
Good luck for when you tell your parents.

Wee, hope things improve with your mum soon.

MrsWajs, even though I had my private scan (so pretty sure of the date), dr ignored it & made up her own due date.

Boosiehs, added you to the list!
No recommendation for scans in London, I travelled out to West Malling (near Maidstone) for my scan.

James, I have the Maclaren Techno XT, it's fantastic. I would buy it again.
Downsides are; if you/OH are tall (DH is 6'2), even extended the handles are too short.
Basket is really only big enough for a 4 pint milk & loaf of bread.
Really fiddly to get the headsupport out/change position of the shoulder straps (haven't washed the liner yet because I don't think I could get it back in).

9+6

beckie90 Fri 11-Jan-13 11:11:28

I've had it changed anyway as oldest was off nursery and can't be taking them both lol, its now on the 29th so should be around 12+6. Thankyou

FoofFighter Fri 11-Jan-13 12:12:13

Morning all, well nausea hasn't hit yet, this is a first, hopefully now the pregnancy is progressing ( 9+3) it's easing off, my boobs aren't quite as tender too although this could be more to do with the soft maternity bra!

Maclaren XLR have higher handles I think plus you get the option of the soft carrycot too.

beckie/others with horrid parents - I find sometimes with people telling them news you know they aren't going to be too thrilled with comes better if you go in all excited and bouncy and happy, rather than feeling embarassaed and ashamed almost?
No problems here re parents - I don't have any and his are very pleased - telling my granny might be a bit sticky, when I was referred for IVF at 35 she was all oh you are past it, too old and when had the mmc last year she was very much all oh nature knows what it's doing, you are old etc etc.

I'll not be telling her till 20weeks.

FoofFighter Fri 11-Jan-13 12:13:22

Welcome feet btw, a few of us here have experience of secondary infertility, it sucks, very glad you are here smile

private scan tomorrow afternoon, starting to get anxious. Going to whack a post in pregnancy board about concerns I have

Locketjuice Fri 11-Jan-13 12:42:42

... I don't feel sick.... Please be the end of constant sickness... Please smile

Locketjuice Fri 11-Jan-13 12:45:36

Oh and 10+4

CarriePie Fri 11-Jan-13 13:04:42

Boosiehs I know not quite Central but I had a 9 week scan at Babybond near Heathrow. They were very helpful and had lots of weekend appts which suited us.
I think it was £90. Worth every penny.

beckie90 Fri 11-Jan-13 14:03:03

foof there not horrid they just never expected it, and I was planning on access to nursing this year so theyl prob be abit dissapointed that won't be happening now. Always after initial shock theyv been there dad used to take me to and from my midwife appointments with ds2 cause it was quite far from my home and mums seen them both been born and been there all way through Its just the first shock specially from my dad that puts me off. I can't really act excited cause at min it dusnt seem real and I'm absolutely petrified, due to complications when I had ds1 that I'm still at risk of, I was exact same with ds2 really terrified. So my mind is boggled lol sure Il find the courage soon, my mums got pneumonia so don't want to tell her yet anyway. After scan is my plan, fingers crossed x

beckie - you're young, though, and in a way it kind of makes sense to have your kids before you have a career established because once you've gone to uni and started into work there never really seems to be a 'right' time. I'm 29 next month and I got unexpectedly pg with DS in final year of a PhD which was not excellent timing but everything has worked out absolutely fine and I'm sure it will for you too!

James - I had Maclaren Techno XLR with DS and thought it was great but alas my DS is very tall for his age and a chronic feet dragger so we had to swap him into one much higher up off the ground when he got to about 16 months. Other than that tho I thought it was great

beckie90 Fri 11-Jan-13 15:32:58

I know that's a real plus to me littlemiss its only up until recently I've become a stay at home mum cause my partner works 12 hours a day 6 days a week, but I was unhappy in my career anyway I worked in retail, I've always wanted to be a midwife, so when this baby is born I will try get into that x

MrsPennyapple Fri 11-Jan-13 19:11:57

Will be thinking of you tomorrow foof, hope you get to see a lovely bean and a good strong heartbeat.

Silver15 Fri 11-Jan-13 19:28:36

Hello ladies,

Welcome Feet.

Mayan thanks for adding me onto the list.

I have my scan next week. Looking forward to it as I think I need to lnform my manager soon. I had to get out of a meeting today to go and vom. I had to do it silently as our toilets are not very privately located. It was tough and i think it was obvious I had been there long. Felt a bit embarrassed coming out.

Sorry for the self indulgent post.

Silver15 Fri 11-Jan-13 19:29:56

Foof thinking of you.

Good luck tomorrow foof!

silver - feel your pain cos i am v bokey so i'm signed off work & i had to come clean to my manager - i work in a small organisation tho and we hav quite a big deadline next week so i said it was ok for my boss to pay me a housecall in monday (she said i can stay in my pjs) bevause she wants to talk over some details of the bid with me. Should ve flattered that im needed but now im seriously worried about throwing up all over her!!!

beckie90 Fri 11-Jan-13 21:06:02

Good luck tomorow foof xx

ScubaSarah Fri 11-Jan-13 21:26:28

Good luck tomorrow foof I'm sure all will be perfect smile
Will be eagerly awaiting an update ...

In other news my rumour-mill organisation have put together my lack of pre-Xmas drinking, ill /crack-whore looking return and 3 cup size increased norms (now GG) and have deduced I'm up the duff. 1st tri scan on tues so only one more day to struggle through lying my face off shock

FoofFighter Fri 11-Jan-13 21:47:07

Thanks all, will not be able to update till I get home in the evening so don't panic! It's a loooonggggg way away, over 100miles round trip!

SS I too have been rumbled by a friend on facebook although I have not told them they are right yet, I'll tell when I am ready despite you asking me outright! that annoyed me I have to say.

Keeping thing quiet this end until my next scan in 2 weeks. Back to work after 2+ weeks off (trips to epu) my hcg dropped and rose very slowly they're now thinking it was vanishing twin.

My immediate boss and supervisor know (because of the sick note) but they are sworn to secrecy and I do trust them. They'll have risk assessments in place for me when I get back.

Thanks for all the info on the maclarens folks! Is it worth getting the xlr for the carrycot?

9 weeks today, I'm excited because (all being well) I'm hoping I'll start to feel movement at about 11 weeks like I did with my last pregnancy smile just like tiny tiny popping/tapping sensation very low down in constant but random patterns when I was lying down. (Definitely not my pulse!)

the consultant told me it was "impossible" for me to feel anything so early (probably because I'm overweight) but as he didn't even have a uterus I discounted his opinion hmm and the taps just got stronger til they were pokes and thuds and swooshes (and eventually they try to lever your ribs off with their feet whilst head butting your cervix, which is nice...) lol

Anyone else ravenous? I am, between sickiness anyway. I'm in bed but I'm going to have to get up and get something to eat, my stomach is growling at me but I don't fancy anything! hmm Night grin

Chuckaluck Sat 12-Jan-13 06:21:49

Hope all goes ok Foof.

I was wide awake at stupid o clock this morning abs gave finally given in to not sleeping and caught up with the last few days. Have had a stressful couple of days with family problems on DH side and then travelling and long days for work. Feel shattered but can't sleep. Have to go into the office today also angry I have been having some funny sensations in my uterus like it being knots almost and am a bit worried as I thought I saw the tiniest drop of blood when I wiped this morning (sorry TMI). It was so small I can't be sure but will keep an eye on it. Don't think I need to ring the midwife yet. Anyone else had this after something stressful?

Chuckaluck Sat 12-Jan-13 06:37:01

Sorry should have said am 11 weeks today

OxfordToLondoner Sat 12-Jan-13 06:51:06

Thanks for all advice about my work situation. Mrs Uber Boss now knows the situation, and a younger more energetic colleague is working on it with me. I feel much more relaxed about it - phew!

OxfordToLondoner Sat 12-Jan-13 07:24:16

Oh, and adding myself to the list....

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Silver15 DC3 29th July
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyApples DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
parttimer79 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
Mayanbob DC1 14th August
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Sendmum DC3 2nd August
OxfordToLondonder DC2 5th August

James - I got XLR for extending handles and a couple of other features but didn't bother with the carrycot cos it does recline the whole way anyway and I didn't have a car when DS was just born so I didn't feel like I would have gotten a lot of use out of it. I know other mums who had the cot tho and they thought it was handy, so maybe it would be a good buy if you can find a good offer online?

Like james i've also been feeling...something...down below. Too early to really be kicks or pokes but it's more like a kind of bubbling or rolling sensation, it's weird because i only noticed DS being in there towards 20 weeks and only 10 weeks today but there's def ... something going on!

beckie90 Sat 12-Jan-13 09:24:53

james I also felt that with ds2 at around 11.5 weeks I was convinced I was abit further on but I was only 2 more days further. Ds1 was around 17weeks.

Keep an eye on it chuckaluck it should be fine. But if your concerned give your midwife a call xx

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat Sat 12-Jan-13 10:53:46

Hi all, I am recovering from a really bad headache yesterday. It started out as a migraine type behind one eye and some nausea and because I am seemingly unable to say the words 'I am sick and will have to go home' I stayed at work and developed tension pains in my neck. Has anybody asked a Midfwife, Dr or Pharmacist about paracetamol in the first trimester? I thought it was ok, but went without after reading you should avoid all meds if possible. I was too scared to take it but could have really done with something.

I had my booking in on Monday! I took my bloods with me and packaged them up to send to another lab than the one I work in. I can be very sneaky when I need to be. My scan is boomed for the 30th January, I should be bang on 12 weeks by my estimate, but I had 4 days of spotting before my last period when I normally have one or two.

I am veering between anxiety and excitement. I am not convinced everything is ok, my boyfriend has asked me to stop talking about anything bad happening but the thoughts won't stop whirring around my head. It is normal to panic isn't it? I don't feel pregnant, I don't think I will until I see a baby on the screen. I feel like I am building all our hopes around this, ad something might have gone wrong and I wouldn't even know.

Hanikam Sat 12-Jan-13 11:33:53

Have to drop out of this post sad
I'm miscarry ing. Started bleeding on Thursday, on and off, then had cramps and clotting. Called midwife who was lovely and advised me to to A and E.

We stayed at the hospital and I eventually got examined by the gynae doctor at 2am. Internal (horrible, lots of pulling)

Need to back tonight to check if HcG levels are falling, and it has to bexactly 48hrs after first blood test, so 10pm.
Feeling drained and emotional. Thank God I hadn't told many people.
Good luck to rest of you.

MrsPennyapple Sat 12-Jan-13 11:35:43

James Yes, I'm hungry all the time. I had a peanut butter sandwich at 11.30 last night and STILL woke up ravenous at 6.30.

Trenchcoat I haven't had official confirmation but I was under the impression that paracetamol was the one thing you COULD take when pg. I took one last week when I had a headache that wouldn't shift. Maybe ring NHS direct and ask them. It sounds like you're in some discomfort though. Would a bath help?

I got my scan date, 28th Jan. I'll be 12+1. (Currently 9+6.)

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Sat 12-Jan-13 11:42:28

Hanikam I'm so sorry to hear that, hope you feel better soon thanks.

parttimer79 Sat 12-Jan-13 11:57:13

Hanikam sorry to hear your news, take care of yourselves.

trenchcoat i am also on team nervous wreck.
Speaking of which I am 9+6 today and not feeling sick, boobs are smaller and less sore, basically I'm feeling less pregnant than I was after 3 weeks of feeling pretty much queasy all the time.
DP thinks I am just being paranoid (and pointed to the fact that I was crying all over him as a sign of my hormonalness) and am a sleepy hormonal shadow of what I am normally like, thus still pregnant! No bleeding or cramps at least but I am so worried that something is wrong. sigh.

Is anyone else finding their symptoms fading at almost 10 weeks?

beckie90 Sat 12-Jan-13 12:08:46

You can take paracetamol in pregnancy, I was advised by epu to take them for the stomach pains I got.

hanikam so sorry to hear that sad

Xx

beckie90 Sat 12-Jan-13 12:11:01

parttimer im 10+3 not been sick now, do get nauseous at times, headaches arnt as bad, so my symptoms are fading, think its pretty normal at this stage though x

MrsPennyapple Sat 12-Jan-13 12:12:34

X-post with hanikam, so sorry. Take care x.

Percephone Sat 12-Jan-13 12:24:40

Sorry to hear your news Hanikam. Hope you are feeling ok sad

I've virtually no symptoms now at 8+2. Not sick for the past week. Hope it's not a Bad Sign.

parttimer79 Sat 12-Jan-13 12:32:48

Thanks beckie.
I mentioned how anxious I was to the midwife and she said to call her rather than worrying - she is very lovely. And said that I can always talk to the specialist mental health mw if I feel things get on top of me. I'm not normally a worrier!

Hanikam Sat 12-Jan-13 13:22:40

Thanks evryone. Aside from feeling utterly heartsick, no physical pain

Good luck to all on here! Will be thinking of you in August

chocolatesolveseverything Sat 12-Jan-13 13:27:32

Hanikam - so sorry to hear your news.

OxfordtoLondoner - Really pleased that your work situation is looking brighter. Hope all goes well with the big project.

Foof - Hope today goes well!

Trenchcoat - Hope you feel better soon. Yes, you can take paracetemol in pregnancy.

I've not been on for a few days after having a really horrible cold. On the upside, my nausea seemed to go down significantly whilst I was all snotty and croaky, but sadly it seems to be coming back again now. Maybe not with the same intensity though perhaps? <Desperately trying to keep positive about this>

I've had my booking in last week and the midwife was lovely. I automatically have greater trust in any medical professional who makes a particular point of explaining who I contact if I need to complain or express any concerns about them (which she did). Is that just me?

It was a funny start to the appointment though. My meeting at work overran and I had to quickly grab a sandwich from the hospital shop, taking it upstairs to eat in the waiting area. Didn't expect they'd be quite so efficient with the times though. Five mins before my appointment I was urgently munching on the first chicken sandwich when the Support Worker arrived to weigh and measure me. Then still had my mouth full of the second when the midwife came over. It broke the ice a bit. DH (all smart and suited after spending the morning in court) was rolling his eyes at the staff like, "I can't take her anywhere..." grin.

chocolate - ha ha nom!

Im 10 weeks today and no let up in symptoms for me so feeling quite jealous of ladies starting to feel a lot better!!

Briarrosy Sat 12-Jan-13 14:30:47

I'm 11 weeks today and morning sickness seemed to go about 3 days ago. Still a slight hint but generally feeling more human. When you read the '11 weeks pregnant' websites they all say I should be feeling less symptoms around now so think its normal.

Having said that I went climbing and though I was fine throughout I had the worst nausea ever that night! Think it might have been to do with my heart rate going up too high.

Foof, any news about the scan? Was it you 12-week one?

Hanikam, so sorry to hear that, it sounds like you're being very brave through the whole thing. How many weeks were you?

OxfordToLondoner Sat 12-Jan-13 15:26:50

Hanikam I'm so terribly sorry

ScubaSarah Sat 12-Jan-13 15:27:56

Hanikam - hugs heading your way, so sorry to hear your news!! Hope you feel better and find a sticky bean soon x

RuckAndRoll Sat 12-Jan-13 16:05:13

Afternoon everyone

hanikam sorry to hear your news, look after yourself.

foof crossed fingers here that your scan went well.

chocolate I understand what you mean about trusting someone who is open from the start. I liked the fact mine called me in then said congratulations and spent a few minutes gushing about how exciting it is, which is nice after the GPs totally bored response.

Well I'm still feeling a bit rough but that might be down to the UTI the midwife found. Got a voicemail whilst in a meeting with a client on Friday lunch time telling me I had to collect a prescription from the GPs before 5pm, and the meeting was 1.5hrs away. Stressful dash back but made it.

SIL gave birth on Thursday night, a 9lb girl who needed forceps after a 24hr+ labour. She's beautiful, but the birth is scaring me slightly!

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Sat 12-Jan-13 16:11:44

Foof got my fx for you!

chocolate Gosh, I don't think I've ever come across a HCP whose told me where or how to complain about them! It would definitely make me trust them more though. Is she to be your midwife throughout the whole pregnancy or will you be seeing different ones each time?

JollyToddles Sat 12-Jan-13 17:07:33

A 9lb baby! My first was 8lb 3 and involved forceps. I've got size 10 hips so that was a bit of a shock.

Certainly won't be telling you lot my birth Story, but please be reassured that despite something v unusual going wrong, the medical professionals were absolutely brilliant and DS was perfect and I recovered very quickly.

A long time to go before we have to worry about that though! Says me who's already stressing about breastfeeding!

Sorry to hear your news Hanikam.

Hope today went well, Foof.

Hope everyone continues to feel better. I was pretty busy today but it seemed like I felt sick less often. I also managed to sleep okay last night which helps!

feminist and hanikam I am so sorry to hear your news. Hope you have people to give you lots of support in RL as well as the support you will find here on MN.

I've been poorly again this week. Fainting easing up (I think thanks to the litres of water I am trying to drink each day) but being sick a lot. My children both have slapped cheek (parvovirus?) so I need to get a blood test asap to check my immunity as it can be a problem in pregnancy. Endless worries....

DH and I are arguing like mad today, culminating in him saying he never even wanted a baby! He wanted it, we discussed is, I had the coil removed a month before we moved house and now he says he never thought I would get pregnant?! confused. We are having hideous blended family issues at the moment, and he has point blank refused counselling so I don't really know what the future holds anymore. Mum has been lovely today though. She has even said she will do the lions share of childcare when I go back to work which I wasn't expecting. But she hasn't worked since Dad died last year (they ran a dental surgery together) and with being 62 she has not managed to find anything else. In a way that helps me practically, but I am feeling so gutted about the way DH is talking, and devastated for our baby. I raised my 2 DCs as a lone parent, and now see myself going through the rest of this pg alone, and once again bringing a child into the world with a far from ideal family. I am beyond gutted. DS was planned, but exDH had a serious accident and emotionally withdrew from the world, then became abusive. I found out I was pg with DD the day we got back from a safeguarding meeting about DS following exDH assaulting me, and spent the whole pg on egg shells, and even when I got very sick in the last trimester he refused to come to hospital etc. I really thought that this LO was going to have such a better start, and now I feel like my world has fallen in.

Sorry for the ramble, I just feel very alone, and poorly, and like I have betrayed my baby already. sad

Oh, and I'm 11 +6 by my dates, but likely to change at scan on Tuesday

JollyToddles Sat 12-Jan-13 17:14:34

Oh my gosh waves, what a tough time. It can't help that you're feeling crap too. Sending you lots of hugs.

ScubaSarah Sat 12-Jan-13 18:18:20

Oh Waves, that sounds really tough. Thinking of you and sending positive vibes. I really hope things look up for you soon x

waves - sorry to hear all the pressure you are under, glad ur getting good support from your mum at least xx

beckie90 Sat 12-Jan-13 19:20:02

jolly I share that worry ds1 was 6ib 8oz 2wks over, ds2 was 9ib on time, so a 2.5ib difference im size 6/8 he took some getting out and was transverse too. So I worry that this one will increase quite alot too, I'm hoping he's no bigger than ds2 was :/ I'm worrying about birth and everything and still have 7 month to go...Jeeez x

Silver15 Sat 12-Jan-13 19:26:33

Waves thinking of you. Be kind to yourself. You have not betrayed yo Lo. Hope all gets better soon.

GaryBuseysTeeth Sat 12-Jan-13 19:32:56

Hanikam, so sorry for your loss. Hope tonights hospital visit was quick & everything is over without you needing intervention. x

Waves, that sounds really tough, I hope he's just having an 'oh shit' wibble moment & gets back to being supportive & decent soon. Your mum sounds like a star. x

Trench, paracetomol is fine, but like you I'd rather solider through without any meds (until I get into labour)..

Hope all is well today Foof & you're just enjoying the scenic route to MN to update us! grin

9lbs baby!? Congrats to your SIL Ruck.
DS was 7lbs 6 and I had an episiotomy as a last ditch attempt to avoid forceps/ventouse, which worked...didn't sting to pee after either! Hurrah!
Although why no-one thought to mention the glamorous post-labour haemorrhoids blush

FoofFighter Sat 12-Jan-13 19:47:49

Hanikam, am very sorry to hear what's happened sad make good use of any counselling offered you, and the pregnancy loss boards here are fantastic, sending thanks to you and yours xxx

Sorry for delay guys I did warn you it was a bloody long trip! Only just got in.

All is fine smile baby waving a little arm, kicking little diddy legs, jiggling about moving, measuring bang on dates again, nice strong heartbeat, so relieved! I will attempt to get a picture up on profile tomorrow sometime.
The sonographer did say that I had a small area of potential bleeding but it was so so tiny, probably left over from implantation and would most likely be reabsorbed but could potentially be a very very small bleed at some point - please remind me of this should it happen!!

Yvonney Sat 12-Jan-13 19:53:19

Hanikam - sorry to hear your news, all the best for when you ttc again thanks
Waves - sorry ur having such a stressfull time. I agree with Gary, maybe he just freaked out a bit and will come round wink
Chocolate - your sandwich story really made me chuckle! grin
I also had a forceps delivery with my son. Not what I had planned but he was 'back to back' and I needed help. I still cross my legs when I hear the word forceps sad but he got here safely in the end x

7+5

Yvonney Sat 12-Jan-13 19:55:50

Foof - aw that's fab, glad everything was ok smile

GaryBuseysTeeth Sat 12-Jan-13 20:01:21

Foof, fab news! And 'great' that you've got a reason for potential future bleeding...won't make you worry less but I'll gently remind you if it happens.

Did a bit of exercise today, no bleeding or cramps (had spotting last time I did some heavy lifting) so taking that as a green light to stop being flabby.

Yvonney, sorry to hear forceps is upsetting. Will you mention it to MW?

Had a rubbish labour with DS, I'm terrified of going into labour again, but been watching birth programmes to try help me, will mention to MW at booking, he was induced early & took 61hours from 1st pessary to DS arriving so as long as I can avoid being induced & strapped up on the monitor I hope I'll be alright. <wibble>

10wks!

Yvonney Sat 12-Jan-13 20:02:26

ps my DS was only 6lb 6oz

beckie90 Sat 12-Jan-13 20:06:26

Yay thats great news foof smile I had an area of fluid too on my first scan they said it was most likely a bleed, they never mentioned it on 2nd one though so think it was absorbed back in x

Locketjuice Sat 12-Jan-13 20:08:51

Sorry to hear some are having a rough time sad

Can't stop eating ice cream.. Currently poking the other half to get him to go to the shop.. Ben and jerrys chocolate fudge brownie! Nom nom nom!

Yvonney Sat 12-Jan-13 20:09:32

Gary - yeah will def mention my fear of another forceps delivery, and I def want an epidural this time round, didn't get one last time as anesthetist (sp?) was busy with another patient! shock I know the chances of that happening again are very slim tho x

Yvonney - me too! No epidural and flipping rubbish management of a delivery that went on just way too long, gave me a naty uterine infection and wrecked my pelvic floor. But because it was a 'natural' birth and relatively pain relief free that's supposed to be a success!!?? angry I'm thinking about asking for a section this time... not decided yet...

foof - yay!! good news!!! little legs...awww!!!

So flipping sick still, pro is that i'm losing weight a bit which is making bump beginnings stand out! Hyperemesis really sucks grrrrr

Yvonney Sat 12-Jan-13 20:43:26

Littlemiss - oh no, you have my sympathies! I'm also thinking abt a section, although I know the recovery is a lot worse x

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat Sat 12-Jan-13 22:10:21

I am so sorry for your loss Hanikam, hope you are as well as you can be.

Foof that is great news! How exciting to see your little one.

I am making a concerted effort not to think too much about the birth yet. I am addicted to OBEM and anything else conception/pregnancy/birth related but am not picturing it too much yet. I have always wanted children but used to think when I was very young I wouldn't have them because I wouldn't cope with birth. I am starting to think now, well everybody else copes, why not me?

There is a hypnobirthing class local to me, has anybody with other children used hypnobirthing before? I am really drawn to it, I think my fear stems from being out of control and this would help me cope, would love to know if it has worked for any of you.

RuckAndRoll Sat 12-Jan-13 23:08:10

locket you can have the tub of Ben and jerrys that's in my freezer if you'd like?! bought it 2 weeks ago and still haven't fancied it yet. dh keeps asking if he can eat it but I bought us a tub each at the time, it's not my fault he chose to eat his! <evil wife smiley needed>

sorry to all I've freaked out my mentioning SIL and her baby! I'm hoping for a birth more like dm had with me and db - less than 2 hrs from first twinge to babe in arms, 7lb babies.

Thanks for the hugs and support earlier and so pleased your scan went well foof

Things still pretty crap at home, dh has pissed me off by drinking 4 litres of cider. Idiot. So no sense out of him at all, and he is passed out on the sofa whilst I am in bed feeling a bit blue. My DCs are at my mums tonight, they needed a night off step sibling tensions, and I'll go down there tomorrow first thing. Hoping for a proper chat with dh tomorrow evening (nausea permitting)

I have no exciting birth stories apart from turning up for work in labour with DS and trying to reassure my boss I was fine to teach as first labours take ages confused. Second minor story was that I vomited bright blue stuff after DD was born. She was induced due to me having kidney problems so was a bit early, but fine. Midwifes were shocked by the colours of my vom though! Both were really normal, no intervention apart from the induction, not much pain relief and no instruments or stitches, and I'm quite small; 5'4 and a size 8 usually. I am however praying that the SPD stays a million miles away this time.

Hanikan, so sorry to hear about the mc, it's so shit. sad Best of luck for when/if you decide to try again.

Waves, men do and say stupid things sometimes when we get pregnant. My dp freaked out for months and wouldn't talk about the baby until v late in the pregnancy (my first was a total surprise) but he was on board at the end and adores ds. It probably is just a wobble, perhaps don't talk about it for a while, let him get his head around it? That's what I did. I remember mine drinking too funnily enough, and he hardly ever drinks, he drank loads of Newcastle brown (ugh) and was really really sick, bless him. grin

I'm feeling a bit less tired and sick today too (9 + 2) haven't had a nap all day. Definitely should be asleep now though, it's 2am! Oops. confused

ScubaSarah Sun 13-Jan-13 06:37:33

Foof that's brilliant news grin I'll remind you re:the bleed should it not be absorbed...

trenchcoat I'm thinking about hypnobirthing too. Like you I'm concerned about the birth and really want to be as natural / pain relief free as possible assuming all is ok. I found a book I'm going to start with. DH thinks its Mumbo Jumbo.

Waves men are idiots, sadly. Mine said he would not drink through my PG in solidarity (he does drink a little too much and stopped before for 18 months) I'm now at 11 weeks and he sank a bottle of red last night, again. Which isn't loads I know but I'm wondering why say you'll stop when you have no intention. confused sorry, I'm grumpy with him anyway cos I was woken up 35 mins ago by him ripping my pillow from under my head. He was asleep and thought it was his. I'm now wide awake and REALLY could do with more sleep grump

AIBU to want to wake him up too (don't answer, I know IABU and I won't do it, but the thought is making me smile a teeny bit smile)

MrsPennyapple Sun 13-Jan-13 07:33:58

Scuba If my DP did that I would be absolutely enraged! I'm afraid I'd resort to violence. It's bad enough when he shoves his arm under my pillow. (Oh it's comfy for you, is it? No matter that my head is now five inches higher than I'd like it to be, who cares whether I'm comfortable or not, eh?)

Waves So sorry your DH is being an arse. What does he think he's achieving? Tell him to grow up. In all seriousness though, I hope he does buck his ideas up and decide to start supporting you.

Locket During my last pregnancy I consumed litres of ice cream. I love it anyway, but normally exercise some restraint. I may have to go and see what they've got at the supermarket smile

Foof brilliant news, how exciting to see baby wiggling about!

SendMum Sun 13-Jan-13 07:50:12

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat I used hypnobirthing for my second child and it was amazing. My husband thought it was mumbo jumbo too but now is a total convert! I couldn't afford the classes which cost hundreds of pounds (well worth it if you can, I'm sure) but it was enough for me to read the book and listen to the cd which came in the back of the book. I wrote down the breathing techniques and some of the imagery which I thought would help me and practised those. It just totally changes your mindset about giving birth and makes you feel totally relaxed, confident and in control and utterly convinced that this is what your body is designed to do. Instead of being crippled with fear, panic and pain like my first hospital birth which ended in epidural (nothing wrong with that if you want one but I didn't) I had a lovely totally drug free water birth at home, and i'm sure it was all down to hypnobirthing!

duende Sun 13-Jan-13 08:09:25

SendMum how interesting! Your birth sounds lovely. I'm currently reading the effective preparation for birth and will buy the cd soon. I'm really hoping to be more relaxed and more in control this time round. With DS labour was really painful, I ended up having an epidural after a good few hours in lots of pain and whilst he was born without complications or intervention, it didn't really enjoy the whole experience. If I find he cd nod exercises really helpful, I may ask to go to our midwife led unit this time.
Which book and cd did you use?

SendMum Sun 13-Jan-13 08:37:23

Duende I used an older one i think, hypnobirthing: The Mongan method. My first birth sounds very similar to yours, it was ok as nothing bad happened and my baby arrived safely, but I felt really out of control and I knew I didn't want it to be like that again. Hypnobirthing gave me the confidence to make sure I got the birth I wanted! I also had a great team of homebirth midwives who completely believed in as little intervention as possible, so they didn't examine me once apart from listening to the baby's heartbeat to check he was happy. So I never had the dreaded "you're only 5cm" or whatever which just knocks your confidence!

Yvonney Sun 13-Jan-13 08:40:06

Sendmum - that sounds fab, I may look into hypnobirthing. I actually know someone who does it but not sure how much they charge. My last labour was fine, I just breathed through the contractions and even the midwife commented on how calm I was. Me and DH were laughing and joking as I felt drunk with the gas and was singing along to the radio! It was just right at the pushing stage, it was out of my control and I needed forceps. I think if DS had been the right way round I would of pushed him out no bother x

7+6

OxfordToLondoner Sun 13-Jan-13 08:40:57

I'm thinking about the birth too. I had a record breaking (?!) 75 hour (1st stage) labour with DS, culminating in a C-section. I recovered super quickly - walking around happily 8 hours afterwards, driving in 3 weeks etc. So I'm wondering if I just ask for a C-section again! Though I worry that I won't recover so easily (I'll be 42) and it's harder with a 5 year old to look after too.

Am also thinking about how lovely it was to do NCT last time, and that it's a shame second time mums don't seem to get that ready made friendship/support network, but seem to
just go it alone. I enjoyed my maternity leave SO much, that I want to do it again! DS is at school so I'm hoping I will be able to squeeze in coffee & cake fests, trips to baby cinema (brilliant idea), monkey music classes etc...but am I living in cloud cuckoo land?!

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat Sun 13-Jan-13 09:58:06

SendMum thank you for that, it sounds great, your second birth is just what I want. I have a fear I would just be overwhelmed by panic and something like hypnobirthing would help me, even if (maybe especially if) I have to have interventions. it's that idea of positive thought that appeals, that my body knows what it is meant to be doing.

The classes near me are £200 for a small group, nearer £300 for private. I think it is a good investment but it is interesting to know you can do it successfully without a class. My boyfriend is fairly open minded about it, I don't know if he would enjoy the classes though.

FoofFighter Sun 13-Jan-13 15:13:46

Pic on profile (I hope!?) can't really see the arms at all, and can vaguely see where legs are, head is on the right <

JollyToddles Sun 13-Jan-13 15:15:37

Foof, amazing!! I can't wait to get my first scan!

CarriePie Sun 13-Jan-13 15:19:09

Aah foof how blooming lovely. So pleased it went well for you, what a cute little bean you have!

Yvonney - Im the same re section, might be a more straightforward delivery but the pain afterwards puts me off confused I used hypnobirthing cds and while DS's birth obvs didnt go great i found the cds were good for taking some of the stress away and i'd use them again

WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome Sun 13-Jan-13 17:10:37

I'd like an <<whispers>> orgasmic birth.

T'was in the Grauniad and everything

FoofFighter Sun 13-Jan-13 17:42:43

It is rather cute isn't it smile <preen>

Weewee, I youtubed orgasmic birth once...errr.... I suppose I can see where they are coming from...

ScubaSarah Sun 13-Jan-13 19:02:15

Does anyone know how to look at profiles on the iPhone app? I'm dying to see Foof's piccie but can't work out how hmm

Silver15 Sun 13-Jan-13 19:24:00

Foof Congs.

Just read the article on orgasmic birth and the idea does not appeal to me. Just felt a bit embarrassed. Anyway I'm currently off sex and all that is related to it. Was hoping my libido would have picked up by now as I'm 12 weeks tomorrow.

RuckAndRoll Sun 13-Jan-13 19:49:24

congratulations foof
I'm Freaking out a bit tonight, I went running today in the snow and.freezing, warmed up gently, felt fine whilst I was doing it, but since getting home, defrosting, nice warm shower, I've got loads of lower abdomen pain and the period pain dragging type pain.
reckon it's me over reacting, but needed to rant!

weewee - if you can find anyone who has actually had one please drag her on here to tell us how! I cant imagine anything less sexy than labour wuth the puking and mucus and contractions lol my spd was so bad DH had to help me get my knickers on and off and i was wearing crocs too...cant imagine he was feeling too turned on by the experience either grin

i'd settle for a shortish epidural birth with no complications...but orgasmic sounds fun!

Going to check out your pic now foof!

ScubaSarah Mon 14-Jan-13 06:44:50

silver me too! It's driving me and DH a little potty but I'm really not in the mood. Ever.

Ruck hope you're feeling better and all is well after a good sleep. I ran a lot Pre-PG but feel feeling too tired and sore boobs have put me off. Was thinking of starting again this week but v gentle. Nervous tho, dunno why...

LexiLoganberryBump Mon 14-Jan-13 10:23:55

hanikan I'm so sorry for you loss, take care of yourself.

waves Hope your ok. Sorry your dh is being difficult, I hope he's just freaking out with the pregnancy becoming a reality and will come round soon, Im glad you've got your mum for support.

I've got my booking in appointment tomorrow morning, our dd is 8 in a couple of weeks and neither of us can remember what happens at the first appointment, I've seen alot of you say it's all form filling.
I'm worried the midwifes are going to keep going on about my weight, does being quite alot overweight automatically put you as high risk?

8+0 weeks

Hello everyone smile I'm getting a bit excited about the first scan tomorrow, and hopefully a more certain EDD. Really really hoping that all is ok, and flitting between scared excited.

DH and I had a loooooong chat last night. Things are looking brighter, and we have identified the "issues" so a good start. He didn't mean what he said about the baby - it is just wobbles.

Still being sick, cold disappearing though, and 12 +1 by GP/MW dates but should be able to say this with confidence after about 12.10 tomorrow!

OxfordToLondoner Mon 14-Jan-13 10:59:48

Waves that's great to hear (not about you feeling sick, obv.)

I had a 'bonus' scan this morning. Because i'm OTT worrying about everything, especially about being ancient and the chance of abnormalities, I'm having a private 12 week scan (plus the hospital one!) next week. I went in to have my bloods taken this morning and she gave me a quick free scan just to have a little look. There s/he was wriggling about! So cute! So exciting! Am worrying less now about the Nuchal test - she said from what she could see at 11 weeks everything looks tickety boo.

Makes up for feeling like shit, in spades!

ScubaSarah Mon 14-Jan-13 11:17:11

Foof Managed to see your pic today at last - on work laptop... SOOO cute!
Waves we both have our scan tomorrow and like you I'm flip-flopping between nerves and excitement. fx for both of us that we get clear piccies and LOW LOW LOW DS risks etc xxx Really pleased to hear things with DH are on the up smile

What time is your scan scuba? Keeping fx for us too! This time tomorrow I will be chewing my fingers off waiting patiently at the hospital for my scan.

Bonus of the vomiting is that I have put on no weight at all, and have even lost the 2lbs from the mince pies over christmas. Still in my size 8 work dresses, though trousers are too tight confused

Oxford how lovely that you have seen the LO wriggling about. I really really hope that I can bring a similarly happy tale to the thread tomorrow smile

RainboxFX Mon 14-Jan-13 12:13:16

Wow! I take a mini mumsnet break over the weekend and come back to 10 pages! grin There is no way I can catch up with everything smile

So sorry to hear of the losses from this thread. It is a sad and difficult thing to have to go through, wishing you peace and an easy journey from here. Sorry also people are having tough times. It's just not fair, pregnancy is hard enough on it's own without other people adding annoyances!

I am still having dark brown spotting (going on for a week now) but have another reassurance scan tomorrow so just have to sit it out til then!

With DS I was so convinced he was a boy, we found out the gender just in case I was wrong and we were confused when SHE was born! Turned out I was right though. We are a bit worried about bonding with this pregnancy, after losing our first child we are so scared of being hurt again. So I think we are going to find out the gender to help us see them as a little individual.

10+1 today, subject to change tomorrow!

ScubaSarah Mon 14-Jan-13 13:09:11

Waves My scan is at 13:45, sounds like a little after you?
Rainbow good luck to you as well x

hanikan so sorry to hear your news. take care x

waves really glad your DH has come to his senses, not sure what planet blokes are on sometimes!

foof fab picture - congratulations!

I check in everyday to see what everyone is up to but it is hard to post from my phone so I have found it's easier from work at lunchtime!

Had a funny weekend. DS was not 100% hiself on Friday and went to bed with bright red cheeks and really grumpy, nobody got any sleep on Friday night - he was in and out of our room all night. Saturday he still had bright red cheeks but seemed better in himself. Sat eve we had friends round and one of them noticed that my cheeks were bright red and covered in bumps...was a bit strange - I felt a bit off but not too bad. Anyway, went to bed thinking was too warm and that it would have gone in the morning. Sunday morning cheeks were just as bad and DS's were too. SO I called my midwife for advice and she told me to go the GP as soon as I could because it sounded like Slapped Cheek virus...off we went to the GP led walk in centre (after Googling and scaring myself half to death). He checked me out and said he couldn't say for sure either way but even if it was there was very little they can do about it and it just has to take its course. And not too worry!
I am worried. I am! How am I supposed to not worry? He said it might just be a virus that we have passed to each other and it will clear up.
Today neither of us has red cheeks and feel slightly better. Anyone got any thoughts or experience on this?

I had my booking appointment last week which went fine, new Midwife who was lovely. Got my scan on Thursday 24th when I will be 13 weeks exactly (I think).

Told new Midwife (cos old Midwife didn't want to know) my concerns about Natural Birth and she gave me some leaflets about Hypnobirthing - def going to look into it. She also said that I should consider a water birth so def going to look into that too. I'll do anything to prevent a repeat of DS birth.

Anyway hope Monday is going ok for you all, I reckon all expectant mothers should automatically be given reduced hours grin

11+4

Boosiehs Mon 14-Jan-13 13:28:42

Sunflowerlady I completely agree!! Been back 5 hours and am exhausted!!

So so sorry to those with bad news. Fx for next time.

JollyToddles Mon 14-Jan-13 14:15:23

Lexi my MW said they don't get concerned about your weight at all unless your BMI is over 30. And even then I reckon it just means you get some dietary advice and possibly an extra appointment or two.

Hi everyone else smile

I have had a crap day so far today but won't bore you with details. I am currently in the house by myself (DS is at nursery) which is utterly weird and hasn't happened in about 6 months. I think I may have to go clean the bathroom or study or something to make good use of the time.

Another vote for reduced hours. Not sure whether it is being pg, or the lack of caffeine but I am shattered too. sunflowerlady I am seeing MW tomorrow at my scan (which is at 12.10 scubasarah) as I am pretty sure my DS has had slapped cheek last week/this weekend. Have also scared myself to death after googling it, and hoping they will do a blood test to check my immunity. Might be worth following up with your MW as normally they will do a blood test, and then more frequent scanning if necessary.

FX DH and I have a good evening tonight. Still feeling vulnerable about the whole thing, and hoping that there is no repeat!

Lexi with DS (2011) my bmi was 34 or 35. Technically I was under consultant care, but as I have no other medical issues never actually saw a consultant at any point. I just had the gestational diabetes test. Oh and during labour a consultant did visit, to say that usually my BMI would mean constant monitoring but the baby was not in distress to the MW would just do regular monitoring and it would be reviewed if necessary. DS's heartrate didn't change AT ALL during the entire labour so a high BMI might make you a higher risk, but that is all. Higher. Not a definite risk.

Rant over!

I guess it will depend on the PCT and of course I've moved from Manchester to the midlands so not sure what kind of care I'll get this time round despite my BMI now being down to 31.

My booking in appt is next Tuesday. And I was hoping to not tell work till mid March as I'm on a temp 12 week contract until the start of March at which point I should move on to a permanent contract. But I'm a postie and it is snowing!! Only work Wed-Sat so fingers crossed it'll have cleared by Wed but there is no way I am getting on a bike in this weather....

FoofFighter Mon 14-Jan-13 15:28:42

Hello all, good luck to those having scans today/tomorrow x

waves can't believe that we are both worried about Slapped Cheek..that is crazy. I had not even heard of it until this weekend! Good luck for tomorrow and let me know if they do a blood test. Nobody mentioned that to me, they really didn't seem bothered by it at all TBH.

lexi / katonmat My BMI was 30, Midwife crossed through it and changed it to 29..presumably to save herself a load of paperwork/hassle!!

katonmat We moved from the Midlands to Manchester!! I had my DS in the Midlands and now we are having this one in Manchester! We have swapped places!! Which hospital did you have 1st time round?

Lexi, my bmi with my first pregnancy was about 53 (size 24) you probably aren't half as big as me, but I'll tell you what it meant for me. I had to see the consultant, not just the mw's, I couldn't give birth in the midwife led unit ten minutes away or at home, I had to be in hospital. Also a waterbirth was out of the question.

I had to have a gestational diabetes test (They test your blood, you drink some lucozade, go sit somewhere for 2 hours, then go back for another blood test) which I passed fine. My blood pressure was perfect. No complications. The consultant was a cheerful chap who took joy in doing a LOT of scaremongering, predicted I'd end up with everything from diabetes to pre-eclampsia, a baby the size of a christmas turkey, and said I would most likely end up with a c section. So I had to go and see the anaesthesiologist who did a bit more scaremongering and telling off hmm and disappointed prodding of back squidge. grin

I had growth scans because obviously because I was fat the baby was going to be huuuuge. And he was, I felt every ounce of that enormous 7lb 2oz baby. wink The birth wasn't great because they were only happy if I was strapped on my back on the bed with a stomach monitor AND a scalp clip on the baby. Lying down was incredibly painful, I wanted to be standing/moving!

Funnily enough after a couple of hours of the weight of a full term baby and my fat belly on top compressing the veins at the back of the womb, the monitor started recording decelerations in the baby's heartbeat hmm Funny that. I suddenly had every sodding midwife, doctor, janitor and tea lady in the hospital in my room shouting at me to push. He was out in a couple of pushes, no pain relief, and apart from a tear everything was fine, but I don't think I'll ever forgive the way they totally medicalised my birth DESPITE every test, growth scan etc coming back fine. (If there had been a problem I would be have been happily strapped to that monitor, trust me)

They barely spoke to me like a person, no encouragement or it was a shame. My second pregnancy and birth was better, perhaps because I didn't take as much shit, perhaps because they saw that my first pregnancy and birth was completely uneventful. I went 11 days over and they were "threatening" induction, but I refused because by my dates I was only 4 days over, it was them who had put me forward a week. They weren't happy about this at all but I'd had enough of them dictating how my births should go. I went into labour 11 days over naturally, contracting nicely until I got to hospital and they stopped because I was so scared of the hospital.

Anyway after a couple of hours of walking I got them going again and then they got me on the monitor again, stuck a really painful IV out of the side of my wrist "just in case" hmm then tried twice to do an epidural. It didn't work but I didn't need it anyway, I was actually coping quite well although I doubted myself initially. I stopped them trying to put it in a third time because I could feel the baby crowning. Once again, a couple of pushes and she was out, a truly ginormous 7lb exactly. wink At least since I was sitting up for the epidurals I wasn't flat on my back again so there were no decelerations, although due to the odd position I did tear upwards, which was nice... They wouldn't take the painful IV out for nearly 2 days because they were determined something would go wrong at some point. I'm going for an active birth next time and they can kiss my arse.

I wrote all this for you to see that even if you're a heffalump like me there's no guarantee that anything will go wrong, so don't worry, and don't let them scare you. I have two beautiful healthy (slim!) children to show for it, thank god. I'm not saying nothing can or will ever go wrong but all you can do is try to eat healthily, maintain gentle exercise, do the tests, have intermittent monitoring and hope for the best! No need to scare the pants off new mums imho! smile

sunflower how funny! I was at wythenshawe for ds. And randomly the 1st mw sat with me in the delivery suite had a sister studying in Northampton and then the one that took over was from Northampton! Both dh & I are from a smallish town in Northamptonshire.....which is why we are back here.

JollyToddles Mon 14-Jan-13 18:10:45

Morning sickness can fuck the fuck off. It is not morning sickness. It is all day long nausea which has today moved up a step to include puking too.

I don't know how on earth some of you are managing full time jobs.

8+3 ish. Far too far from 12 w anyway.

chocolatesolveseverything Mon 14-Jan-13 18:35:17

Jolly - Poor you, sounds awful! But I'm 11+4 now and it is easing a fair bit if that gives any comfort for the future.

Had a call from the hospital this afternoon to say that my glucose levels are too high and they want me to take a glucose tolerance test on Wednesday. So, no breakfast, then a full bottle of lucozade, and then to sit in the waiting area for two hours before another blood test. Sounds lovely! But I'm going to use it as an excuse for guilt-free pigging out on chips at my regular pub quiz tomorrow evening before the fast starts smile.

I strongly suspect that the test result is because of my decking down that chicken sandwich moments before the booking appointment so not very worried, but best to make sure I guess. As I have a family history of diabetes on both sides the midwife had recommended that I had this test later in pregnancy anyway. Hope this doesn't mean I have to have it twice!

Guess it goes to show the diabetes risk doesn't purely correlate with weight. My BMI when they measured me last week was 23.5. (Nice midwife then recorded it as 23 on my notes.)

Boosiehs Mon 14-Jan-13 18:36:14

JollyToddles I feel your pain. It's is fucking horrible. Constantly feeling like you are going to barf. The idea of food is not a good one.

8+5 today. I really really hope this ends soon. Work is going to be unbearable. sad

duende Mon 14-Jan-13 19:13:47

waves and scuba, my 12 week scan is also tomorrow, at 11.20.
I will be thinking of you!
Hopefully all will be well and I can start getting excited and contribute on here a bit more.

Jollymummy2 Mon 14-Jan-13 19:14:37

Ooh the nausea hmm I'm trying to eat to stop myself feeling sick, but I eat and feel sick! Can't win.
I'm also struggling with extreme thirst that nothing seems to quench. I drank a pint of milk which helped a but but gave me an upset stomach!

You would think 4th time around I would be used to this stuff. I hate this bit of pregnancy. In fact I'm not sure any part of pregnancy agrees with meshock
9+3

greenj1 Mon 14-Jan-13 19:18:24

Im finally near 12 weeks and the awfukl sickness is def getting better thank god!! Still completely shattered though, getting 9 hrs a night, taking kids to school , Then going back to bed for a few hours! I cant function otherwise!!! This is my 4th pregnancy as well jolly and i think its the worst one!! xx

LexiLoganberryBump Mon 14-Jan-13 19:22:54

Thanks Jolly, thekat, sunflower and James

I believe my bmi is at the highter end of the 30's.

James I was worried that they would make me have a consultant and that will put a stop to our early plans for a home birth, I really don't mind if they want to do extra tests but I'm not to good at speaking up for myself so will probably end up getting pushed into doing things in a way I don't want to. DH will be mad with me if it affects things too much as he's been trying to support me in losing weight for a while now, in a good way not in a nasty way, but I've struggled.

I don't have any other health problems, have one doggy knee thanks to the dog tripping me over and me landing on my knee on concrete but that it.

FoofFighter Mon 14-Jan-13 19:43:37

Lexi my bmi is 32.5 (mw put it up to 33 though sad) even though this time last year it was 37 and I stressed to them how hard I had worked to lose weight :/ I have to have a consultant appointment plus one with anathestist too. If they think i am giving birth flat on my back they can do one!

James is correct in that there is an awful lot of scaremongering surrounding overweight mothers to be, and in the medical fratnerity full stop - put it this way pretty much everything I go to the GP for has been at some point attributed to my being overweight angry There's only a hospital here anyway so that doesn't really affect where I can give birth, but sorry if someone banned me from a homebirth if i wanted one, with my weight being the only reason, then again, they can frigging do one!

LexiLoganberryBump Mon 14-Jan-13 19:58:48

Foof I've just been doing some obesity in pregnancy related reading so I can ask the midwife tomorrow some questions and it's all pretty dire, has scared the living hell out of me, like James said all the extra monitoring it suggests they'll do will only inhibite labour, I'm not saying I want to go unchecked or anything but don't want to be confined to bed, would like an active labour, also saw that it said ultrasounds aren't as clear and can make it difficult to see abnormalities, very worried about that, wish I'd never bloody looked.

I've been so excited about being pregnant but now it all feels rather scary.

Yvonney Mon 14-Jan-13 20:58:26

Jolly - yeah its crap, I felt bloody awful last week, sickness not as bad last couple of days though. Tiredness really kicked in tho, thought I was going to fall asleep at work today! sad x

Yvonney Mon 14-Jan-13 20:59:06

ps forgot to say 8+0

sunflowerlady - promise to update you about the slapped cheek tests etc after I see the midwife. Amazing how something you've never heard of can cause such a worry.

Duende - hope your scan is good tomorrow.

Super tired and off to bed soon - hope that the next trimester brings a return to energy!

CarriePie Mon 14-Jan-13 21:11:31

waves and scuba good luck with your scans tomorrow. Only two weeks for me to wait...excited.
Where do I sign for this reduced hours lark? Exhausted today!
Just a quick post from me tonight as early night is calling. I've eaten about 6 spoons of Ben and Jerrys and now feel sick so I'm going to bed to burp alone in bed! grin
Ps orgasmic birth...I'm not really sure what to say about that.

FoofFighter Mon 14-Jan-13 21:33:07

Lexi did you see my scan pic from weekend on profile? I wouldn't say it was unclear really? i'd take a lot of what you are told/read with a pinch of salt unless you have a severely high BMI to be honest, and remember also that they cannot force you into anything. You have a voice x

RainboxFX Mon 14-Jan-13 21:44:27

Just to add, my BMI is high 30s. While I am working on getting it down for health reasons (obviously not while pregnant!) it has never affect ultrasound clarity or how I felt baby's movements. There is a lot of scaremongering out there.

FoofFighter Mon 14-Jan-13 22:06:12

If anyone is interested, you can follow the Slimming World plan whilst pregnant, it's approved by the Royal College of Midwives, but you do need signed permission from your midwife to take into class.

FoofFighter Mon 14-Jan-13 22:06:57

Lexi, before I had my second I met with the supervisor of midwives to address some of my concerns, and she said that these days they can put a scalp clip on the baby (to monitor it) which is mobile, so shouldn't stop you from moving about during the birth. Unless a problem/deceleration is detected, or if you or the baby is poorly in some way obviously, there's no reason why they can't monitor you intermittently with a hand held monitor. I think it's just easier for them to have you on a stomach monitor, but as you say it's not ideal for a labouring woman.

My scans were ok to be honest, they may not have been quite as clear as a slim woman's but they were good enough to check for abnormalities, it wasn't a problem. I felt plenty of movement, I don't know why you wouldn't, the fat is on the outside, not in the womb getting in the way of the kicks hmm

Try not to worry Lexi, they see women much bigger than you (and me!) every day. smile

I'm off for a scan on Thursday, to investigate this mild bleeding I've been having. It's really only a tiny amount but it's starting to worry me now as I've had a couple of short stabby cervix pains.

Feelthefear Mon 14-Jan-13 22:33:38

Hi, I have decided to take the plunge and join after lurking for a while!

I am 10+6? Is this right if I am 11 weeks tomorrow? (Sorry, new to all this!)
All seems to be going well (I hope) now that it is finally sinking in. Was a bit of a shock to say the least.

Still waiting impatiently for my scan date but had my booking in appointments. I have also been referred to the consultant, but for low BMI which was a surprise.

Oh and I am due August 6th
xx

ScubaSarah Mon 14-Jan-13 22:39:50

Welcome FTF yes, you've got the weeks + days bit right. Hope you get your scan date soon smile

peacefuleasyfeeling Mon 14-Jan-13 23:22:41

Hi there, August sisters. This isn't "my" thread, I belong on the June thread, but I just want to share a little nugget of information with you in the hope that it might save someone some worry along the way. If it has already been covered here, I apologise for doubling up, I just couldn't read all 11 pages wink.

I know not everyone will choose to (or have chosen to) take up the offer of prenatal screening (the NHS combined test in particular), so this only applies if you are looking in the direction of such screening.

I received what I considered to be a high risk for trisomy 21 when my results for the combined test came back before Christmas. Knowing that invasive diagnostic testing (such as a cvs or an amnio) carries with it an inherent risk of miscarriage, however small, I spent a sad and frightened day wrestling with how to proceed, very much feeling like I wanted to know if my baby was OK, without risk to the much-anticipated pregnancy. Late that night, after lots of phonecalls and googling and with a heavy heart, I chanced upon a thread on here (good old MN) about the Harmony Test (it's running in the ante-natal tests and choices forum). Now, in mid December, this was only just being introduced in the UK and certainly wasn't very well known. Perhaps things have snowballed and it is now a better known procedure, but just in case someone doesn't know, I'd love to share the possibility of non-invasive screening with a high accuracy rate.

The Harmony test analyses "cell free DNA" which is basically fetal DNA present in the maternal blood stream, and is able to to pick up, with a remarkably high accuracy rate (99.6 %) evidence of trisomy 21 (DS), 18 and 13. The procedure which, I believe, can be done from 10 weeks and onwards (I was 15+4), involves a simple bloodtest (from your arm) and an ultrasound scan. The bloods are sent to the US for analysis, as there is as yet no laboratory in the UK with the necessary facilities. Results take a fortnight. The downside is that it is so far only available privately, as far as I know in London (The Harley Street Centre for Women, The Fetal Medicine Centre, The Birth Company and possibly others) and in Cardiff (Spire), and comes with a matching price-tag blush (prices vary, but appears to be roughly the same; £400 for the blood test and £170-£210 for the scan, depending on how far along your pregnancy has progressed). None of these clinics actually advertise the test on their websites yet, so it is best to ring them directly.

I had mine done at The Harley Street Centre for Women, with the thorough and knowledgable Dr Pandya. I cannot praise them enough; very professional and efficient, yet very warm and accommodating; the admin team doted on my travel-weary 2 yo DD (we'd been on the road all day) and plied her with chocolates, the nurse let her "help" take my bloods, Dr Pandya was well versed in all things Peppa, and expertly multi-tasked; taking his time to answer all my questions with patience and kindness and performing a reassuringly detailed scan while keeping up a polite chat with DD. I really felt I could not have been in better hands (but then I had done extensive research into his credentials before booking).

I had my results today, I feel confident that they are reliable and I would whole-heartedly recommend this procedure to anyone who is worried about the results of their combined test but who doesn't want to risk invasive diagnostic testing. I am aware that the price is a considerable obstacle; for me, the possibility of peace of mind won out, we've made some sacrifices in other areas.

Whereas I kind of hope I have posted this in vain, and that nobody will receive anything other than the screening results they were hoping for, I also hope that it may be of interest, should anyone find themselves in unforeseen circumstances.

Best of luck to all!

ScubaSarah Mon 14-Jan-13 23:43:05

Thanks Peaceful and congrats on your good results. I happened across the Harmony thread mere moments ago and was discussing with DH. My 12wk scan is tomorrow. I'm 39 so starting at 1:110 and nervous. Knowing there is an accurate and non invasive option for further testing, should it seem necessary, is reassuring and worth the £££ I'd say!

peacefuleasyfeeling Mon 14-Jan-13 23:53:29

Good luck, Scuba. I'm 38 so I think worrying goes with the territory. Having said that, I have a few friends of 40+ who had babies in the autumn who all had great results from the combined test, so one just can't tell. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

Congrats peaceful and thanks for info smile

feelthefear - wow, low BMI! Even tho I have been boking solidly for weeks now and barely eating anything, as usual the only things I can keep down are carby and stodgy so no chance of that for me! Good luck with consultant tho, they'll prob just recommend Complan or those little cartons of drinks they give to people recovering from surgery to build them up. Good excuse to nom!

I had perfect BMI when I got pg wth DS because it was only a few months after my wedding that I'd slimmed down for (I was a flipping size 10!) and it was good when I got pg in June last year cos I'd been eating really healthy and going to zumba once or twice a week but I don't think it's great this time round tbh!! blush And won't be able to do much in way of healthy eating or exercise for another few weeks when nausea passes. So prepared for pursed lips from MW when I step onto scales at booking appt next week lol

Chuckaluck Tue 15-Jan-13 08:09:23

James thanks for sharing, sounds like a nightmare. I am quite worried about what my birth might be like. I have a BMI of 35, having got it down quite considerably prior to getting my BFP! The midwife has referred me to the consultant although not heard anything yet. I really want an active birth but already I have been referred for a hospital birth rather than midwife led, which I would have preferred. Your story makes it clear I need to stand up for what I want rather than just think the medical people know best!!

JollyRedGiant Tue 15-Jan-13 09:01:07

My MW didn't actually weigh me this time. I was weighed by the doctor in June so she just put down that weight. Obviously things are a bit slacker round here.

I did get a new version of Ready, Steady, Baby. Which, despite its stupid name, has to be one of the best books ever smile

Feeling a bit less grumpy about sickness today. Because we haven't told anyone I've got no one to rant at except Dh and you lot.

Oh, I've nced but I'm sure you can guess who I was if you're interested. Will change my name on the stats page later.

OxfordToLondoner Tue 15-Jan-13 09:17:57

Thanks peaceful that's really great to know. I'll be 42 (am I the oldest on this thread?) so I have been worrying about a poor Combined result. Fingers crossed I won't need your advice!

On a more light hearted note...some advice of my own to all: Don't be tempted to wear maternity trousers just yet (despite the alluring comfort)...they fall down! Am just on way to work and feel like I'm wearing a nappy the crotch (ick - hate that word!) is so low! Can i keep my coat on all day?!

Oxford - I had this problem when I was pg with DS - normal leggings, trousers, tights all felt really tight and uncomfy. Maternity ones don't stay up until you're about 5 months. Nightmare!!

bzzbee Tue 15-Jan-13 10:44:47

Oxford I'm 40 and will be 41 on due date.
I'm also worried about the higher risks per-scan results, but just trying to.stay calm until scan. And eating as healthy as I can, though still down half a stone since Dec.
I received a letter from NHS in Dec with loads of leaflets about scans, trials etc.
I put it aside and continued waiting for a scan date. The other night I piulled out the pile of leaflets and there, buried in amongst all the stuff was a faint/photocopy type printed page with a scan appointment! Doh! I had totally missed it. Luckily it's not till Jan 31st.
So warning for anyone else, please check carefully if you receive anything in the post. Especially if you have early onset baby brain like I clearly do!

LexiLoganberryBump Tue 15-Jan-13 11:23:40

James Thank you for your posts, they've been very imformative and a real help. Hope all goes well with your scan.

Thanks Rainbow

Foof I hadn't seen your scan but have now, I'm quite envious of all you ladies who've had ther scans, mine will be ages yet. Was that you 12 week scan?

I had my booking in this morning and it was really good, the midwife was excellent answered all my questions and really put me at ease, she said I was being to hard on myself. She too mentioned the slimming world thing and said I could get refered, so will talk to dh but think I'll do that.
The things they tested for today were all ok and although I have to have a consultant who I'll meet in approx 4 weeks they will help me with the active birth and home birth plan everything being well throughout pregnancy.
I'm a day out on my dates, baby still due 26th August but I'm 8+2 (I thought I was 8+1). My appointment was 1hour 20 minutes, was really greatful that she took the time with me and was so lovely.

I must stay away from goggle

RuckAndRoll Tue 15-Jan-13 11:33:11

lexi repeat after me... Google is not my friend, Google does not have a medical degree...

really jelous of all these scans, hope those who have them today have nice pictures now smile
mines not until Feb 8th when i'll be 13+1.

loads of travelling with work at the moment, absolutely on my knees exhausted, but last night I slept really well. probably as dh is 200miles away and not even his snoring can travel that far grin

I REALLY REALLY need a wee. But I have to hold it in. Argh. Scan in about half an hour and DH picking me up very soon from work. Crossed legs all the way and keeping fingers and toes crossed that it is all running on time.

FoofFighter Tue 15-Jan-13 11:43:19

haha waves, good luck smile make sure you locate the toilets while you are waiting ready for a swift pee!

Lexi, it was a private scan done at the weekend, haven't even had my appointment through yet for 12 week NHS scan, am 10 weeks today.

LexiLoganberryBump Tue 15-Jan-13 11:43:36

Ruck Google is not my friend, google does not have a medical degreegrin

And it was meant to be google not goggle, I'm blaming baby brain or is it too early for thathmm

LexiLoganberryBump Tue 15-Jan-13 11:46:36

Foof Aarrhh lovely, you'll have your second scan before I have my first.

I really want a scan [stamping feet emotion]

8+2

FoofFighter Tue 15-Jan-13 12:08:42

Wouldn't count on it! because i said I wasn't interested in Downs testing they seemed to be of the mind that they can get everyone else in first and leave me a few weeks yet (am going away for a week around 12-13 weeks) as there isn't the time limit for the nuchal translucency test now.

katsatonmat we had DS whilst we were living in Leicester (with work). Back in Manchester now and booked into Wythenshawe for this one!

waves can't wait for scan news!! and hopefully peace of mind slapped cheek news!

I just want my scan now (a week on Thursday). I have made myself very paranoid about this slapped cheek business and now am symptomless - other than killer headache last night which resulted in me going to bed at 5.15pm, and feeling a bit sickly again. So yes not strictly symptomless but in my mind they are symptoms of something sinister. Really wish scan was this week, am flying this weekend and would have like the reassurrance before then really. Hey ho.

I'm going to start a petition for our 'Reduced Hours in Pregnancy' request. Will send it to Mr Cameron and his mates. Was thinking any hours you feel like in your 1st trimester, then reduced hours in 2nd trimester and then back to any hours you feel like in 3rd trimester? LOL We are doing a very important job here after all!!!

I agree with the trousers / leggings malarky. Some days I can actually wear my materinty work trousers because I am so bloated and some days they just fall down. I've ordered some next size up leggings from Next just to give me a bit of breathing room before I resort to my materity ones!!

Saw a pic of The Duchess on the news this morning....if only, if only, if only. I am sure she must have a personal hairdresser, make up artist etc etc...I am finding it a massive effort to hold the hairdryer and the hairbrush at the same time at the min and as for make up.....someone at work asked if I was ok because I was looking so 'Grey' lately!! Hmph....

11 + 5

foof I had that too. I said I didn't want the Down screenings in any way shape or form and when she called the hospital to book me in for my scan it was clear there was absolutely no rush to get me in!

MrsWajs Tue 15-Jan-13 12:31:19

Good luck to all those having scans today smile and Foof your scan pic is soooo lovely!! It's made me really excited for my scan which is still about 4 weeks away!!

Commiserations to all those who are still having terrible morning sickness, my nausea seems to come and go in waves. It's nowhere hear as bad as it was with DD and I'm actually wondering how I coped at all with that! I think tiredness is much more of a problem this time around and that doesn't help the sick feeling either.

Soo, it was my 30th birthday on Sunday and DP took me away to Loch Lomond and proposed!!!!! What a total shock. I cried like an idiot but obviously said yes. Is it weird that I feel a bit overwhelmed by it though? It's all I've banged on about to him for 2 years and now I have it I'm kinda freaked out! I think a baby coming and now a wedding to plan is maybe a bit much for my brain to comprehend just now and my hormones doing overtime doesn't help either!!

MrsWajs Tue 15-Jan-13 12:33:07

Oh keep forgetting 8+3!

Big congratulations MrsWajs That brought a tear to my eye!

FoofFighter Tue 15-Jan-13 12:39:34

how lovely mrswajs smile thanks congratulations xx

I wonder if Kate is on the due in July thread.... wink

FoofFighter Tue 15-Jan-13 12:55:48

Am pissed off angry

Just checking my notes to confirm appointment time for tomorrow with MW to find a bit I didn't see them fill in, I have been put on RED care pathway because of my BMI - just googled to see what exactly that means, basically have been lumped in with all the drug-taking, chain smoking, drinking heavily, history of abuse/social worker interaction kind of people for extra support? WTF??

Also it says on there that it's for people with BMI of 35+ mine is 32.5 (rounded up to 33)

I think words are going to be had tomorrow.

FoofFighter Tue 15-Jan-13 12:56:37

And why the hell should anyone who is overweight be assumed to have comparable needs to the above kinds of groups of people anyway?! it's madness!

Congratulations to you mrswajs thanks what a lovely place to be proposed to!

And hoping you manage to resolve some issues at your appointment tomorrow foof

Well I am back from my scan (and my wee!) and it was all perfect grin We declined the nuchal screening, so it was really making sure everything was there, and taking measurements. Baby was dancing about and pulling some quite cute poses. Was amazing to see a real -looking baby. Oh, with a heartbeat of 163. I was pretty surprised that it is measuring the same as the dates - but I only had one cycle post coil. So, ultrasound EDD of 30 July, putting me at 12 weeks exactly today smile

When I get home I shall work out how to upload a photo. I am feeling very relieved and like all of a sudden this is totally real. Need to sort out a time for a blood test for the slapped cheek immunity, but apparently most adults are immune so just a precaution. That should be later this week. Right, back to work. And I won't be looking at babythings on the internet. Oh no no no wink

Christelle2207 Tue 15-Jan-13 13:12:59

Hello again
I was on the thread near the very beginning but to be honest decided to give it a break as I was finding it all very stressful and anxiuos, especially as so many of you have had mcs. Particularly sorry to hear about those who've mc this time.
Anyway I'm now beginning to feel a lot more positive, especially as a mini bump came out of nowhere on Monday! I am today 11 weeks exactly. I had a private scan at 8 weeks 3 days just after Christmas, all was great then, and I have my (nhs) 12 week scan on the 25th. We have told close family and bosses already - immediately after the scan we are going skiing for a week (gently! don't judge me! Obviously this was all booked and paid for before i got pg, I'd been trying for a year and so assumed I'd be trying for a lot longer!) then when we get back we'll be nearly 14 weeks so plan to tell everyone then. My bf has just announced that she's 16 weeks and so excited to tell her.
We think we're due 6th August according to the 8 week scan. will add myself to the list after the 25th.
Best of luck to the rest of us xxx

RainboxFX Tue 15-Jan-13 13:13:02

Foof that is extremely frustrating. You are Scottish as well right? My BMI was higher than that first time round and I was on a green pathway. I had one additional consultant appointment where they checked me for breathing problems and that was it. Could be worth talking to your midwife? If no diabetes, heart problems etc there is really no reason for you to be red. Sadly I am this time due to pre term labour sad

Slim women have it just as bad! MY friend is very svelte and fit, a dancer, and had a horrid bout of food poisoning just after her BFP and lost a lot of weight. The midwives threatened to section her and force feed her angry

Congrats MrsW that's wonderful news! Plenty of time to make plans though, try not to get too stressed! I know That is easy for me to say.

Dr Google is no one's friend! And is actually kind of a dick!

Just counting the hours now until my scan. Have been spotting for a week now so a bit anxious! Good luck to everyone else being scanned today too!

RainboxFX Tue 15-Jan-13 13:15:24

cross posts!

Waves so glad to hear of your excellent scan, really glad it has put your mind at rest a bit.

Christelle enjoy your holiday! A lovely way to celebrate.

LexiLoganberryBump Tue 15-Jan-13 14:04:51

Congratulations Mrswajs

Foof hope you get you pathway stuff amended, I feel for you.

duende Tue 15-Jan-13 14:38:06

waves very pleased to hear about your scan smile
Back from mine and it also went well. Wriggly, lovely baby, 11 weeks 6, due date 31 July.
We did have the nuchal test, measurement 1.1, need to wait for results of blood test to get the overall test.
I am sooooo relieved.
On another note, Is anyone suffering with constant headaches?

Noodles80 Tue 15-Jan-13 14:53:53

Hi Ladies,

Hope you're all ok. I'm still away on my mammoth business trip, but the end is in sight and only 5 more days to go then I get to have 2 weeks at home! All ok just ridiculously tired and no appetite at all. I was in bed at 7.30 last night!

I've booked a private scan for next Tues so looking forward to that as might seem more real then! Booked to see doctor as well that day so assume I might get something for 12 week scan after that.

MrsW - Congratulations! What a lovely birthday surprise!

beckie90 Tue 15-Jan-13 15:23:49

duende and waves congratulations on your scans, I can't wait for mine now smile

Aww mrswasj thats lovely news congratulations

Well after a week feeling not too bad, super exhaustion has hit today sad my bloatings just about all gone now though, so back to normal tummy but can feel my uterus really clearly, can see it just sticking out when I lay down smile its cute.

Hope everyone is well

10+6

beckie I think I am going to try and work out where my uterus is tonight. Anything to obsess over blush

I have put the scan photos on my profile pictures however that works - not sure if I did it "right" but fx I did smile

12+0

beckie90 Tue 15-Jan-13 17:04:35

I'm no good with measurments lol but mines around 3-4 inches above pubic bone, if I have a fullish bladder, it becomes even more prominent. It's nothing amazing but just lovely to see and feel the beginnings of bump, rather than my bloated bump smile xx

EggyM Tue 15-Jan-13 17:08:55

waves and duende so happy scans went well - I have mine on Friday and honestly just can't wait!

christelle I also came out with a minibump at about 10 and a half weeks - am 11+5 today.

Oh and duende yes to the headaches- I suffer from migraines anyway but usually am able to take my triptan tablets so not being able to take them has meant that I've just recovered from a week long one - hence my absence from this thread for a while- can't believe how many posts I've missed!

Also weirdly had a nosebleed yesterday- haven't had one since I was a kid- I've read that they are quite common in pregnancy though- has anyone else had one?

And anyone else worrying about absolutely EVERYTHING? I just can't stop. The obvious worries about miscarriage are always there, but also worrying about money, work after maternity leave etc etc. Most recently I just heard a programme on the radio about autism and got scared about how we would cope if our child had autism...

Oh and congratualtions mrswajs!

Jollymummy2 Tue 15-Jan-13 17:17:29

EggyM I think it is perfectly normal to worry in pregnancy, at least I hope so as I do grin

Feeling very stretched around my bikini line area today, and hoping that SPD has not started early, although MW has said to expect it early so not looking forward to that.

Have finally found comfort in strawberry and mango fruit tea, so can drink a warm drink without feeling sick. I had this with the last two pregnancies but can't believe I'm on it already!

I keep dreaming about having twin boys being born into the toilet!! I know that pregnancy often leads to weird dreams but this feels so real! Anyone else having odd dreams??
9+4

Briarrosy Tue 15-Jan-13 17:57:12

Christelle - i was skiing at 10 weeks and was fine, I just took it easy and it actually really helped with the morning sickness! The only dodgy bits were on the busy run back to resort when I didn't trust anyone else not to crash into me! And in Austria all the bars do alcohol free beer so you don't feel like quite such an outsider during apres ski (though they do smoke loads, yuk).

Can I just ask, I've lost my scan letter and i'm going in on Thursday - is there anything else I need to do apart from drink lots and take my blue folder? They gave me a urine sample bottle at my booking in - is that for the scan or my next MW appointment?

ScubaSarah Tue 15-Jan-13 18:40:30

waves and duende great news on scans. Mine was also great but they wriggled around so much we were in for ages and I was busting for a pee by the end. I thought I was 11+2 but actually 12+0 so due 30th July. Nuchal ~.5 and could see nasal bone do really good - will get blood test results before consultants appt next Tues (I'm high risk due to age (39) and Mums high BP (not PG related) angry
I'll work out how to add scan pic on PC later...

Foof give 'em hell!
mrsw awesome - huge congrats

envy

Christelle2207 Tue 15-Jan-13 19:04:38

Hey
well done on all the good scan news.
Briarrosy that makes me feel better thanks! My husband's not very good and quite slow so I'm just going to stick to the blues with him and probably avoid the reds. We definitely won't be able to afford to go when we have kids so gotta enjoy it while we still can. Pleased I'm not the only one doing what my mother thinks is unthinkable!
On the strange dreams front we are going on an overnight ferry to Brittany in June and had one about having to be airlifted off in Labour! I actually googled what has previously happened as they must have had a baby in the channel before and they have airlifted obstetricians in but never airlifted a mother in labour out! Having said that on most Brittany Ferries ships apparently there is a medic on board so finding that out calmed me a bit!

I doubt there is urine test at scan that will be for your next mw appointment. Nothing on my scan letter about urine test, just remember to drink and take your notes.

Yvonney Tue 15-Jan-13 19:19:10

Mrswasj - congratulations, that's lovely news, it also brought a tear to my eye smile I've been blubbing a lot recently, even Homes Down Under had me in tears today!

Eggym - I had nosebleeds in first pregnancy, not had one yet this time. And yes I'm worrying abt exactly the same things as you, especially finances and how we'll manage x

Fab news on all the scanssmile

8+1

sunflower - I am also in the grey and unglam camp at the mo lol look more like theres something seriously wrong with me than someone with pg glow!

mrswajs - yayyy big congrats! So lovely smile me and DH going away over night for my birthday next month but since we're already hitched i dont rate my chances of coming home with a new diamond!

foof - hope they are able to clarify things for you at your appt

jollymummy / chrisyelle - i read something the other day about a lady who got caught short and ended up having the baby on the floor of a shopping centre outside Waitrose shock scary things hav happened to a few ladies i actually know as well - my cousin had her third baby delivered by her DH on their bathroom floor after hospital insisted she wadnt dilated enough and had to go home! And my next door neighbour had her first DD in under an hour but despite that the hospital tried to send to send her home when she was in labour with no.2 but she insisted on staying which was just as well because she came very close to delivering on the waiting room floor 40 mins later!! So despite my epic long labour with DS i keep having unsettling dreams like that too...eep!

ScubaSarah Tue 15-Jan-13 19:40:28

briarrosy the sample is for next MW appt at 15/16 weeks. I had same thought and double checked this morning

Chuckaluck Tue 15-Jan-13 19:46:56

Foof definitely fight your corner, I am going to have the same conversation with my mw next time I see her! Let us know how you get on!

Stopsittingonyoursister Tue 15-Jan-13 23:24:02

Wow so many posts to catch up on!

Mrswajs - many congratulations!! Do you have any dates in mind yet? Are you going to do it pre or post baby?? How exciting for you x

foof it definitely sounds like someone has some questions to answer! Can they put you on the red pathway without asking you, if you have no relevant history other than BMI (which doesn't meet the criteria anyway?). Hope you get that sorted out.

Littlemiss - I very nearly had DD on the hospital floor - the hospital insisted that I couldn't possibly be in labour because I had only been having contractions for around three hours. I remember just looking up from where I was squatting in front of the desk and saying in a really loud voice "Just take me to a delivery room. NOW". Fortunately, one very sensible MW took pity on me and took me to a "spare" room (no resusc equipment, no sheets on the bed, basically a store room) and 13 minutes later DD arrived. Because of the history I have of fairly quick labours, I have ben advised to consider a home birth this time, but I just like the reassurance of everything being two minutes away if something is wrong, rather than having to wait 20 minutes for an ambulance to arrive, then get loaded up, and then 20 minutes back to hospital...I'll have to have a serious think about it all!

waves scubasarah and duende congrats on all the positive scans. How exciting that we are getting to scan time already! Mine is on Monday, 9am. How am I going to drink enough by that time of day?!

Hope everyone else is OK and sickness is starting to get better

bzzbee Wed 16-Jan-13 01:00:11

Hi all
Am worried sick, literally.
Started spotting earlier today, no preg symptoms compared to say a week ago.
Going to go to the EPU first thing but I am in a state.
sad

ScubaSarah Wed 16-Jan-13 05:21:03

bzzbee hope everything is ok. Here's a hand to hold brewandthanks

BrieMonster Wed 16-Jan-13 05:42:47

Thinking of you too bzzbee. Really hope things calmed down overnight although nothing will reassure you until you see someone I guess. I know it's a scary time but it doesn't have to mean bad news. Fingers crossed for you!

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 16-Jan-13 06:39:17

Thinking of you bzzbee, hope it's nothing to worry about. xx

Congrats on the positive scans everyone!
Sitting, I needed an ultrasound a few years back for a non-baby thing, I just drank a litre of chocolate milkshake...and felt like crap when they were jumping on my tummy. Didn't need a wee though!

Congrats to 'Mrs' or should that be MisssoontobeMrs Wajs!

Briar, they should check your wee at every single appointment, so I'd pee just to be on the safe side (can always pick up another sample pot)!

MW booking tonight for me!

10+4

bzzbee Wed 16-Jan-13 06:56:33

Thanks for the support all. Had a terrible (non existent) night's sleep.
Things are calm now, nothing when I (sorry **TMI alert **) this morning but there was during the night, though not a lot and only on wiping.
Going to the EPU first thing. DP insisting on coming too, he's in a similar state to me, so so worried.
Thank goodness for dd not giving us much chance to wallow as she's bouncing around since 6am smile

bzzbee - So sorry to hear about spotting, I bled so much in week 5 and 6 I was sure it was curtains for me, and like you went to EPU to get checked out. It's really the best thing you can do, no point worrying by yourself. Really hope you get good news!

Gary - Nom...a litre of chocolate milkshake!!

I'm still sick sick sick..no surprises there! Really started getting to me last night after I threw up my beans on toast for dinner and even with my cyclazine tablet went to bed still feeling like the world was spinning and I was sea sick. Made it out of the house for an hour yesterday though and I've got an appointment with pregnancy specialist acupuncture lady on Friday. Never tried acupuncture when I had HG before so i'll be interested to see if it improves things. Even feeling slightly better would be amazing!!!

chocolatesolveseverything Wed 16-Jan-13 09:53:59

Bzzbee- fingers crossed all is well and you have a happy little bean in there!

Little - Sorry to hear you're feeling so dreadful.

I'm now in the hospital waiting room, partway through my glucose tolerence test. I've downed the lucozade and now have to wait another hour and a half before a further blood sample is taken. Passing the time reading some work information about pensions. Bored already!

RainboxFX Wed 16-Jan-13 09:54:49

Bzzbee thinking about you. I have been spotting for a week, and worried because I felt relitively "well" and not pregnant and horrible! Scan last Tuesday when it began, scan yesterday and all well. Bleeding can mean nothing and everything is fine. Sending you good wishes this morning xx

Good luck bzzbee, I hope it all goes well. I'm spotting occasionally too, I have my scan tomorrow morning, so fingers crossed for us both x

MrsPennyapple Wed 16-Jan-13 10:37:13

Bzzbee Hope you get good news today, it is so scary isn't it?

Chocolate You are dedicated, taking work stuff to read - it sounds desperately boring!

MrsWajs Congratulations! I am getting married in May - we had planned it for post-baby when I was pg with the one I lost, but obviously that didn't work out. So I will be a bride with a bump, as I'll be about 27 weeks by then. I did want to avoid that, but on reflection, I'd rather get married whilst pg than do it with a bf baby, and I wasn't prepared to delay the wedding until after then.

When I had DD I had contractions for two days, but then once my waters broke she was here in less than 2.5 hours. I am a little worried that this time it will be even faster, and am seriously considering borrowing PIL's camper van and camping out in the hospital car park. It's about a 20 min drive to the hospital from our house though, so not too bad, but last time I was terrified that I would end up giving birth in DP's filthy landrover, which is full of lawnmowers, strimmers, and chainsaws.

Anyone got any cravings yet? I didn't last time and don't this time, but I do have this thing where nothing tastes quite as good as I think it will. I cook the same things as always, with the same ingredients, but everything tastes like it's just "missing something". Most frustrating.

FoofFighter Wed 16-Jan-13 10:37:53

Thinking of you bzzbee, good luck, fingers and everything firmly crossed for you xx

I'm starting to feel dodgy again, think my iron is low, taking bloods today hopefully they'll be back in by Monday and can see if that's why, had (non pg) anaemia before and feels very similar. Also had a bit of nausea coming back in the evenings which is not fun.

bzzbee Wed 16-Jan-13 10:56:47

Thanks all, sadly there is no heartbeat.
Our own hearts are broken too.
Back at home trying to decide whether to have the surgery or just wait for nature.
Good luck evyone and I sincerely hope I am the last to leave this thread.
Xxx

CarriePie Wed 16-Jan-13 11:03:15

Oh bzzbe I'm so sorry. Sending you a hug - look after yourself. Thinking of you. Xx

FoofFighter Wed 16-Jan-13 11:13:58

oh bzzbee, I am so so sorry sad

I waited for nature (happened just the next day) but I wish I had gone for medical management, too many memories in the bathroom.

Whatever you choose, please do log onto the pregnancy loss board on here, the people there are amazing and so supportive and you can ask them anything, even the most personal questions. And feel free to PM me if you decide to go natural way if you want any advice ok bzzbee?

Hugs for you and your OH thanks sad

chocolatesolveseverything Wed 16-Jan-13 11:15:30

So sorry, bzzbee.

bzzbee - so so sorry sad Exactly same thing happened to us in July last year, everything was going so well and then about 9 weeks I had a light bleed but since my scan was booked for a week later I didn't bother going to EPU like you did today. Scan showed no heartbeat and it really is so upsetting and such a sense of loss. Thinking about you today - fwiw I had erpc done because I had a mc years ago and I was very stressed about going through the pain and bleeding, potentially at home alone with DS, and I found the erpc great, took a lot of the stress of waiting away, really didn't hurt afterwards and I got pg again a few months later. Agree with foof, pregnancy loss board here is a great place to get support sad and thanks

OxfordToLondoner Wed 16-Jan-13 11:59:35

Thinking of you bzzbee....if it is bad news (and i really hope it isn't) I can also thoroughly recommend calling the Miscarriage Association. They have counsellors who've been through it themselves and are rather marvellous...perfect for a good old scream and cry down the phone.

blondecat Wed 16-Jan-13 12:25:41

Bzzbee I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

I checked out of this thread in late December. I had a bleed and I was sure I lost the baby. A scan three days later showed it going strong, followed by 3 nervous Christmas weeks, a travel ban and no fun allowed - no skiing, no sledging, no ...

Then got the all clear on the 7th followed four days later by another bleed in the night. Again my heart stopped, rushed to the doctor and again the baby is fine.

Today I am spotting and trying to chill out about it but can't. After to MCs every twinge sends me running to the loo. I am 10 +5 and have the scan booked for Monday.

The thing which gets me is that we had to leave London for Switzerland and while my doctor here is fantastic I think his kit is dated. I am fairly certain the ultrasound doesn't show heartrate, can't measure blood flow etc. So how can he give me accurate odds for trisomies? I wish I could go to the Fetal Medicine Centre for my tests next week but he told me not to fly. hmm

I will add myself to the stats but meanwhile - anyone have happy spotting stories to tell?

Yvonney Wed 16-Jan-13 12:30:37

bzzbee - so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you, take care thanks xxx

blonde - I spotted loads at the beginning of this pg for at least a week on and off, and after having had spotting followed by mmc last year I was also sure I was in for the same thing this time round. Esp because although I didn't have cramping and the spotting wasn't particularly heavy, I didn't have cramping or heavy bleeding the time it ended in mc either, and both times the bleeding was very red in colour. Anyway, it's settled down now and like you I am around the 10+4 mark. I'm on a thread with other ladies who are pg following mcs and quite a few of them experienced bleeding during their pgs this time round, one is still having spotting and she's 6 months along. Unfortunately I think it is more common to spot during pg after you've had a mc but fortunately, it is often not something to worry about. Good luck!

blondecat Wed 16-Jan-13 12:55:51

Littlemiss

Thank you smile
I tried to find this thread but can't. Is it under miscarriage or in antenatal clubs?

Christelle2207 Wed 16-Jan-13 13:18:46

so sorry bee xx

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 16-Jan-13 13:23:58

bzzbee, I am so sorry to hear your news.
Echo what everyone here said, the pregnancy loss board on here is fantastic & full of lovely ladies happy to talk you through everything.
Hope the next few days & months are as peaceful as can be for you, sending lots of love. xxx