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A thread for conception friendships to be rekindled

(67 Posts)
BelissimaLol Tue 27-Nov-12 19:44:27

Got my bfp yesterday after mc in July. Am in complete shock and am hoping some of my old friends will come and hold my hand!
Nic, pear, frustrated.... Anyone else? I'm lol by the way. Slight name change!

Ellie092 Wed 28-Nov-12 08:27:18

Congrats and all the best I hope all is and goes well <3

Hello old friend. <holds hand firmly> how are you feeling? Has the ms kicked in yet?

BelissimaLol Sun 02-Dec-12 19:27:07

Hey hun!!! Long time no see! No ms yet. Feeling massively hungry and tired all the time. Boobs extra sore, having to sleep with sports bra!
Currently alternating between fear of mc and fear of ectopic. Lovely.
How are you? How is your ms?

Wish my ms would just do one. But the anti-sickness meds work most of the time, unfortunately they make me sleepy which doesn't help the feeling knackered all the time
Gee I sound like a moaning Minnie.

Sore boobs sounds positive, can safely say that that will pass. grin

I'm so excited for you, you must try not to worry, this isn't your perfectly placed sticky bean.

(Ps nic and pear are in the Gemini thread)

Aah meant to say this is your perfectly placed sticky bean.

BelissimaLol Sun 02-Dec-12 21:30:14

Haha glad your corrected yourself! Maybe show nic and pear the way here and we can all catch up.
I can't help but panic. But hopefully after the next two weeks I will get calmer!

CatchingMockingbirds Sun 02-Dec-12 21:53:57

smile hello there and congrats, we chatted in the mc thread after my mc in August, I think my nn was pedantic. I'm 15+4, have had my scan and there's a happy bouncy little baby in there. How far along are you?

CatchingMockingbirds Sun 02-Dec-12 21:55:21

Oh frustrated is Pear pg too? That's really great.

BelissimaLol Sun 02-Dec-12 22:01:04

Hey I remember you too!!
I only found out I'm pg last week. I'm 5 weeks today and driving myself up the wall.
Think pear is the one furthest along of all of us!

CatchingMockingbirds Sun 02-Dec-12 22:33:27

That's so great belissima, will you be having an early scan? I waited until my 12 wk scan and was so nervous, but then when I had it I was told I could have had an early scan done at the EPU instead of worrying all that time.

BelissimaLol Sun 02-Dec-12 22:36:53

I haven't decided yet re early scan. I will speak to doctor tomorrow and see what she says. At the moment I'm not keen on having a private one but if they refer me then why not!
Why did they say you could have had one? Because you had a mc before?

CatchingMockingbirds Sun 02-Dec-12 22:53:09

Yes it was because of the previous mc. I had no idea that I could have had it otherwise I'd have taken it.

MrsBri Mon 03-Dec-12 06:28:46

Hi Lol! There you are :-)

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 07:31:21

Hey nic! How are you? When is your scan?
I managed some sleep but now have pain in my arm and am back on the ectopic panic confused

MrsBri Mon 03-Dec-12 08:23:53

I'm good :-)

I had that fear too...think it was the corpus luteum though. Or ovary you ovulated from.

Scan is a week tomorrow. Can't wait. Need to know it is all ok.

Try not to worry too much (do as I say, not as I do!). Worrying is very normal though.

I have days where I really don't feel pregnant and panic. Then it all comes back later / the next day. Pregnancy is just inconsistent! Which doesn't help us ladies. :-/

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 10:04:56

Congratulations LoL yay grin I had sore boobs and extreme hunger and things so far are good so I would say you're showing positive signs! However, because of my little ectopic scare at the start I worry all the time and DH is trying failing to wean me off the Doppler so I completely understand how you must be feeling. I know a mc experience is a lot worse then what I went through so I think you're doing very well so far. Give yourself a pat :-) I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and have a reassurance scan on Wednesday which I'm very much looking forward to...2 more sleeps!

Mockingbird have you had a name change? I don't remember your name :-( but to be honest baby brain has seriously kicked in recently so I'm forgetting a lot of names!

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 10:14:53

Hey pear! I knew it was a good move to get chatting to you guys again. I feel better already.
Well I'm at the doc and she referred me to the EPU because of the mc and also because I'm having some ovary pain. I'm terrified but I suppose its a good thing.
Pear how far gone were you when you had that scare? Could they see anything in the scan?

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:13:50

It was my left ovary that had a little harmless cyst on it that caused me pain from week 1-6. The sonographer said it would sort it self out which I think it did because the annoying nagging pain stopped. It wasn't a breathtaking pain but it did worry me. At scan 1 I was 3 weeks pregnant (1 in real life) and saw a black shadow where the yolk was forming. At 6 weeks we saw a sac with yolk. At 8 weeks we saw a sac with a wriggly worm which was the embryo and at 12 weeks we saw baby with hands and feet. If you google scan at 5 weeks you will be able to see what it might look like. That's what I did smile

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:57:38

Lol when are you getting your scan? Today hopefully?

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 12:01:24

Scan at 3:10 today. I'm so scared!

MrsBri Mon 03-Dec-12 12:05:50

Fx, Lol xx

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 14:30:00

Good that you will be seen today smileThinking lots of positive thoughts for you!

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 14:31:58

Thanks girls. I'm terrified but know its best to find out now if there is something wrong. I'll let you know later x

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 16:19:42

Had the scan and all looks normal for 5 weeks gringrin
They will rescan me in 10 days to check progress. I'm so relieved!
I have a cyst on right ovary despite pain on left. They said its the stretching!
How are you all today? Are you over MS yet?
Thank you for holding my hand xx

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 16:54:21

Yay Lol grin good to hear all is well!

CatchingMockingbirds Mon 03-Dec-12 17:18:13

That's great Belissima! You must be on cloud 9 right now grin have you told many people yet?

pear I think my nickname on the mc thread was pedanticpanda smile

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 17:19:50

Ahhh yes Panda I remember you smile hello!

CatchingMockingbirds Mon 03-Dec-12 17:22:27

Hi, how are you and tinypear doing?

peardrop2 Mon 03-Dec-12 17:26:03

Good thank you. I panic at the slightest twinge which is maddening but things are going OK. How are you?

MrsBri Mon 03-Dec-12 17:52:23

Excellent news, Lol :-)

My MS appears at all times of day / night. Threw up just before leaving work! I'm a classy bird. :-)

It hasn't been awful though, just a touch annoying. I'm very good at throwing up and moving on as I'm normally too busy to dwell on it! My sister thinks it's hilarious that I'm comforted by sick though, as I like to know the hcg is running round my system.

Are you ill yet? Mind started at about 6 weeks with just all day nausea. Took another week or so to actually be sick!

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 18:12:27

I've not felt sick. Been so hungry an eating like a horse!
I'm relieved its not ectopic. One positive step forward.
Oh pear I can see myself being like you on the worry side. DH won't let me buy a Doppler though which is probably a good thing lol.
How many weeks are you panda? Can't remember your new name!?

CatchingMockingbirds Mon 03-Dec-12 18:27:53

I'm the same pear, every time I get some ligament pain I panic. I've felt small flutters though so hopefully I'll start to really feel the baby move about and will stop worrying so much. I thought about getting a Doppler but it would probably make me more paranoid if I'm constantly checking so decided against it.

Belissima I'm 14+5 now and get to find out the gender in January grin the pregnancy itself has been tough though. I had awful ms and was ill for the whole of the first trimester, the pregnancy has made me anemic too and I have pelvic girdle pain so walking, sitting, lying down (or anything really!) is painful. A tumour on my kidney was also picked up on a scan in the first weeks of pregnancy and the consultant said that pg causes tumours to grow so that's causing problems too. But I'm still so happy to be pregnant and can't wait to hold my baby.

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Mon 03-Dec-12 18:28:15

Yay for scan lol grin

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 18:36:42

Frus do you have what the future queen has??? Or yours just plain ms?
If you were less than 12 weeks and I didn't know your real name I would think you are kate grin

CatchingMockingbirds Mon 03-Dec-12 18:59:07

I just seen that in the news belissima, "an acute form of morning sickness." Isn't that hypermesis?

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Mon 03-Dec-12 19:06:33

Yeah they're the same thing mockingbird

Yep lol same thing, but mine is less severe, but I think I got on the meds early enough before it got too bad. (But having had 2 before and being on here I think I knew it wasn't right, ms shouldn't stop you functioning, and I wasn't function properly, luckily I had a sympathetic dr who didn't let it get really bad before prescribing something for it.

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 07:54:35

Frus do you have to take these meds throughout pregnancy? Does it ever end? Must be a nightmare.
Thanks for the idea of looking at pics online pear. When I saw the black blob on the scan and the sonographer nodding I knew it was ok -- and cried--
Nic I'm not sick yet. I'm hoping I won't! Is that possible?

MrsBri Tue 04-Dec-12 08:23:36

Pear hasn't been sick, Lol. And mine isn't that bad. Could be far worse! I find it reassuring though. But I'm weird!

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Tue 04-Dec-12 08:29:30

Just as long as the sickness lasts lol which isn't yet. As I still feel nauseous if I take them late. Fx it ends before 20wks.

peardrop2 Tue 04-Dec-12 11:33:23

No sickness from me. Most of my friends haven't had ms and have had healthy babies so it doesn't worry me now smileI'm not even sure if its genetic. MIL had no ms with DH but my mum had bad ms with all her children.

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 18:47:20

Girls how many people have you told before the 12 week mark?
I told my mum who lives abroad (sent her photo of test!) and my 2 closest friends. I also told my SIL who I love and had to tell my boss yesterday due to scan. We plan to tell DH parents at Xmas if all is well.
Also doc said I had to tell my dance teacher. I told her today and she wants me to take a break from classes until January. I'm gutted cause I was supposed to have a medal exam in 2 weeks but I need to follow her advice.

MrsBri Tue 04-Dec-12 19:41:20

I've told a fair few people, actually...easily into double figures. Just have to hope it remains ok, I suppose.

Scan a week today, so at least I'll know. My bump is planning to take over the world and keeps growing, so I'm assuming the baby is still growing!

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 20:06:56

How are you hiding bump at work?! I wear a uniform and it will be hard! Can't start on the maternity line until its all out.

MrsBri Tue 04-Dec-12 20:09:03

Badly! Tight shows it but baggy accentuates what I'm hiding! :-/

peardrop2 Wed 05-Dec-12 08:18:00

Lol before the 12 week mark only my mother new and then at 10 weeks my parents in law and one of my sisters knew. Everyone else found out between week 12-16. As of yesterday everyone close to us knows!

BelissimaLol Wed 05-Dec-12 16:36:26

Two girls in my branch have already clocked on. I've only got myself to blame really with a reputation for loving the booze and am not drinking at 3 work Xmas parties! There is only so much antibiotics one can be prescribed!

MrsBri Wed 05-Dec-12 17:58:06

Women clock on really easily too! Not much you can do, sadly :-/

CatchingMockingbirds Wed 05-Dec-12 18:55:12

Before 12wks only dp's uncle knew as he's s doctor and he thought my doctors were incompetent for not giving me an MRI so we had to tell him they couldn't because I was pg.

BelissimaLol Fri 07-Dec-12 18:37:47

How exciting! Midwife app on 21st dec and scan on 22bd jan! Getting a little bit excited.
Nic what time is your scan on tue??

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Fri 07-Dec-12 21:42:41

Exciting lol I bet you're getting impatient.

MrsBri Fri 07-Dec-12 21:46:09

9am...nice and early, thank god!

BelissimaLol Sat 08-Dec-12 07:37:19

I was wondering where you were frust! Was getting worried... How have you been?
Had to pee three times during the night and now have to go to work. Hmpf.

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Sat 08-Dec-12 12:30:33

Hi lol I'm good. Don't you worry about me. My eye sight has gone dodgy, so coming on my phone makes me feel sick. (Perfectly normal for me in pregnancy, they stop focusing, which makes me feel dizzy and sick to read,)

CatchingMockingbirds Sat 08-Dec-12 15:32:11

Wooo that's great belissima smile

I'm currently enjoying a very sober birthday at the moment, my friends are bringing me round some glittery J20 for me to enjoy instead tonight grin

BelissimaLol Sun 09-Dec-12 14:49:08

Has work Xmas do last night and had to fully describe the symptoms of my fake kidney infection! Bearing in mind they all know about my mc I reckon they clocked on. But hey.
5 days until scan. Last time I started bleeding around now. I'm so scared.

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Mon 10-Dec-12 20:52:12

Pre-scan jitters lol, this one is a sticky bean.

BelissimaLol Tue 11-Dec-12 07:25:38

Hope u right frust.
Nic good luck today. Let us know how u get on x

MrsBri Tue 11-Dec-12 11:00:27

Scan was lovely...got a little tearful!

Measuring 12+5 at 12+2, so not bad. New EDD of 20th June.

So relieved :-) xx

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Tue 11-Dec-12 11:12:53

Yay mrs

BelissimaLol Tue 11-Dec-12 11:40:02

Yay that's amazing news! Do they give you any indication of the sex at that stage? Do you want to find out?

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Tue 11-Dec-12 12:31:53

They don't like to do gender before the 20wk scan

MrsBri Tue 11-Dec-12 13:23:24

No, but we aren't asking.

Didn't have the NT test either.

BelissimaLol Fri 14-Dec-12 13:10:05

We have a tiny baby and a heartbeat! I cried a little tear.
Measured 3 days behind what I thought. Is that normal?

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Fri 14-Dec-12 15:48:43

Yay! Nice one lol grin yes is normal for dates to change slightly depending on completion of implantation. (Mine jumped forwards 3 days, but they can go either way)

BelissimaLol Fri 14-Dec-12 18:06:32

So could it be that I had smiley on sat and ovd on wed only?!! That's quite a few days. Does it mean I'm having a girl? grin
How u frust???

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake Fri 14-Dec-12 19:20:07

I think it's between dtd, the egg being fertilised, and the egg implanting. (I think implantation can take 3-7 days, so it's like the difference between getting a bfp on 10dpo or 14dpo)
No idea as to the sex.

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