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Due August 2013

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Silver15 Wed 21-Nov-12 19:45:27

We had our BFPs in November.

Welcome aboard ladies.

Let's do this Journey together.

Silver15 Wed 21-Nov-12 19:51:29

Hello ladies, how are you? Just feel a bit tired and always hot (body temperature).

zippyrainbowbrite Wed 21-Nov-12 20:01:47

Ooh! Ooh! Can I join please?!

After trying for three and a half years (and much lurking on the conception boards!) I POAS yesterday because it was about to go out of date and it was positive! grin did another one this morning as DH didn't believe the first one, and it was +ve too!

I've worked out my due date is 30th July so was waiting for an August thread to start as the July one is so long!

Silver15 Wed 21-Nov-12 20:59:55

Zippy Congs and welcome to the thread. I was also waiting for an August thread for days till I decided to start one. Are you having any symptoms yet? I was so tired at work today and for a minute I thought it was obvious that i am pg. I don't want to tell colleagues yet and was hoping to keep it under wraps until after the scan. But i work in the health sector so I don't know how I'll manage to keep it a secret.

Is this your first? It my third as I have two DS.

I'm planning to book an appoint with the Gp next week. I'm not good at working out due dates. Both my dc were overdue.

zippyrainbowbrite Wed 21-Nov-12 21:14:39

Congrats to you too! It's my first, but sounds like you're a pro!

Only symptoms so far are very tender boobs (like I usually get before AF but even more so). I'm feeling a little bit crampy too, but different to AF cramps if that makes sense?!

Oh, and definitely feeling the tiredness too - it's just me and zippydog tonight as DH is away with work, and all I've done since getting home from work is veg on the sofa - think I'll be heading off to bed soongrin

Silver15 Wed 21-Nov-12 21:42:15

DH is at work too so it's just me and the DCs. I'm no expert as all PGs were different. I got the cramps in the first 2 weeks but they are gone now. I shd be in my 3rd week now. I thought the body was adjusting to accommodate the sticky bean.

Off to sleep. Good night.

sploj Wed 21-Nov-12 21:47:36

Hi silver and Zippy, congratulations. I'm in, had a faint line on the test and I'm extra tired. Will be my second, dd is five. I can't wait to tell her but am going to keep it quiet as long as I can.

shineypeacock Thu 22-Nov-12 14:47:09

Hello Ladies,

Can i join you, got my BFP this mornning and have a due date of 30th July also.

Dont have any real symptoms apart from a mouth ulcer and a positive pregnancy test! Feeling a bit tired too, but I have been racing around for a few days.

Dont really know what to do now, have made a doctors appointment for next week and checked what I can and can't eat!

Just hope it sticks!!


zippyrainbowbrite Thu 22-Nov-12 18:52:27

Hi Sploj and Shiney! Congrats!

Are you supposed to make an appt with a GP straight away, or do they prefer you to wait until you're X weeks along?

Silver15 Thu 22-Nov-12 20:40:33

Hello sploj and shiney, Congs!!!!!

Shiney, I remember you from one of the conception threads. I'm glad you made it.

Sploj, dont worry so much be positive I pray it will stick. My understanding is that you have to be easy on your back especially during the first 3 months. It makes a difference ( though I have no scientific proof).

Zippy I think it is best to make an appointment as soon as possible so you can be booked in with the midwife and have tests.

Silver15 Thu 22-Nov-12 20:44:08

Shiney is it your first?

The midwife will guide you through it. When I was pg with DC 1 and 2, we got a bounty pack with helpful info. I don't know if they still give these out. My youngest is 4.

shineypeacock Thu 22-Nov-12 23:12:09

Yes its our first, both DH and i have had silly grins on our faces all evening!!

I think you still get packs, friend had a baby in August and got loads of info, just got to wait i guess!

Hello everyone, another person checking in with a November BFP - well, 6 actually (takes a while to convince me of anything confused)

Will be DC 3 for me, although DC 5 for the family as DH has 2 DS from previous relationship, and I have DD and DS also. But first for the 2 of us, after we got married in July. Super excited, if a bit overwhelmed as we have lots of work to do on our new house. At least we have the space for another one now smile

I am guessing things have changed a bit since DD - she will be nearly 8 when I am due. Well, things like advice etc - I am thinking the physical process is as it always was.

Silver15 Fri 23-Nov-12 12:14:34

Welcome Waves!!!!! Congs on your BFPs.
I tested 2 times to convince myself. Stopped at 2 as they were Frers and couldn't imagine peeing on more money.

Anyway I have booked my Gp appointment this morning. I have been given one in December so hopefully that will settle it.

Does any one feel any cramp like pains? I thought these would be gone by now. I never paid this sort of attention to pg symptoms before hence my ignorance. I'm really excited about this pg.

zippyrainbowbrite Fri 23-Nov-12 12:34:32

Hi Waves! Congrats!

I've taken 3 tests so far, mainly just to show DH! We've been trying for a long time, and were going to have our 1st appt at the IVF clinic next week, so I don't think he can quite believe it!

I think it's different for me as its my body and it just feels different at the moment.

I'm getting occasional mild cramps, but not like my AF ones (which are usually horrendous).

Have just phoned the IVF clinic to cancel our appts, and the GP - am booked in for next week!

Right, I should probably stop browsing Mumsnet and baby sites and get back to work!

Silver15 Fri 23-Nov-12 19:29:14

Wow Zippy, that's amazing. It makes the little miracle even more precious. Why don't you ask DH to join you at the appointment. My DH enjoyed going for the appointments with me the previous pgs. He even claimed to have suffered cravings during my first.

zippyrainbowbrite Sat 24-Nov-12 18:37:01

It does seem like a miracle!

I don't think DH will make this 1st appt - it's difficult for him to get time off work, so I'd rather save it for when he really needs to be there.

I told my sister today which was very exciting! She's the only one (apart from you lotgrin) who we're telling until we get further along - she's been so supportive in the whole ttc journey, and she knew we were about start on the ivf, so it would have been hard to hide it from her!

chocolatesolveseverything Sat 24-Nov-12 22:39:35

Hi everyone,

Nice to see some familar names from the conception forum smile

My due date according to online calculators is 28/7/12 but that's based on an assumption that I ovulated earlier than I think I did, so am tentatively putting myself down for the August thread.

I've been getting the first twinges of morning sickness over last few days. Nothing very bad, just generally feeling a bit 'urgh' and doing acidy burps whilst brushing my teeth, etc. It doesn't seem to last long. Hope getting it so early isn't a sign that it's going to get really bad further down the line!

Like others, I've had mild cramping too, but that seems to be less common now.

First doctor's appointment is on Tuesday. I can't wait. It'll make it seem so much more official!

Morning everyone smile I've had my daily ration of real tea, so onto green tea for the rest of the day. Sigh.

Also getting a bit of the nausea, but the worst for me are the floods of tears! I found a very dead, very large rat in the middle of the garden this morning whilst marching up to the compost heap with old rabbit bedding. Screamed my heart out whilst flying back down to the house, then once DH had disposed of it, I sat at the kitchen table sobbing my heart out. Tears streaming, full on sobbing. Not quite wailing, but was close to that! I was muttering about how rats eat through babies faces to get to their tongues. I blame it ALL on George Orwell's 1984 which has given me a permanent fear of rats. And now I am all hormonal, everything is setting me off.

Need to make a GP appointment for next week I guess - 6 IC BFPs, then FRER positive yesterday and CB digital this morning so no denying that I am well and truly upduffed.

Zippy what a wonderful early christmas present for you - it really does sound like a miracle, and I bet your sister is very excited for you both.

Hope you all get on well with the GP appointments smile

thehomesecretary Sun 25-Nov-12 13:54:56

Hello ladies can I join? Got my BFP this morning after almost a year of trying for %232 - DS is 21 months. Due date is 2nd Aug!

So excited and so is DH, although he is a lot more cautious and wants to wait a few weeks before he really gets excited.

Not many symptoms as yet...just a bit of nausea and a few cramps. I'm kind of hoping they ramp up soon so I really feel pregnant...I may regret saying that!

Anyway, congratulations to you all!

thehomesecretary Sun 25-Nov-12 13:55:42

*Number 2 not 232!!!

Silver15 Sun 25-Nov-12 16:51:37

Hello ladies,

Chocolate and thehome, congrats and welcome to the thread.

Chocolate I remember you from the conception threads. My due date is 29/07/12 but I chose this thread as I wanted to be able to relate to the experience. I found the July thread a bit advanced. Also my experience in the past is that I went overdue with both DS. The first was 7 days overdue and the second was 10 days overdue so August seems a safe bet.

In terms of symptoms I now have nauseasness and fatigue. I also get cramps.

Silver15 Sun 25-Nov-12 16:59:02

Ooh 'thehome' I understand yo feeling regarding wanting symptoms to come on. This morning I tried to convince my DH that my bump is showing already. His answer was that it's all in your mind.

chocolatesolveseverything Sun 25-Nov-12 21:20:29

Agh, I forgot to add Gaviscon to the internet shopping list for this week... Couldn't manage to finish my chocolate and peanut slice last night due to heartburn, and can't even start on the remainder tonight because of the same sad. Anyone want a bite?

I'd like some NICE pregnancy symptoms please!

LolaDontCryOverSpiltEggnog Sun 25-Nov-12 22:38:50

hi all

BFP(s) friday

Due date is apparently 1st august, 7 months trying DS is almost 2

Haven't sorted out doctors yet, that's my plan for tomorrow, when are you all shouting the news?

duende Mon 26-Nov-12 07:53:40

Morning everyone smile
My approx due date is also 1 August. Already have DS who will be four when the baby s born.
At the moment praying this pregnancy sticks.

chocolatesolveseverything Mon 26-Nov-12 07:59:06

Welcome lola and duende - congratulations!

We'll be telling close family at Christmas. Not sure about everyone else. Possibly a new year announcement.

Silver15 Mon 26-Nov-12 10:22:04

Good morning Ladies,

Welcome Lola and congrats.
I am waiting for the scan before I shout about the pg. Intend to inform my employers in January if I am successful at keeping it a secret as I work in the health sector. I have told my mum and a close friend who knew about TTC.
I'm at work so will catch up later.

Silver15 Mon 26-Nov-12 10:24:09

Welcome Duende.

Chocolate have tried drinking cold milk. I find it helpful with the heartburn.

thehomesecretary Mon 26-Nov-12 11:51:12

We're planning on telling family at christmas too- have already told my sister and two close friends who knew about TTC. Just wishing these first few scary weeks away so I can relax and be as ecstatic as I want to be!

Stopsittingonyoursister Mon 26-Nov-12 23:10:14

Hi all, please can I join?

Due date apparently 3rd August, but I'm not really sure because I had a 21 day cycle the month before, so my "average" cycle length is a bit uncertain!

This will be DC3 for me and DH; we have a DS who is 5 and a DD who is 2. We had been trying for DC3 from July, but am not looking forward to telling family and friends because I think everyone will assume DC3 is an "accident" as we have one of each already.

Going to ring Drs soon to make booking in appointment. Need to get up to date on all the info; isn't there some new advice about the supplements we should take?

Congrats to everyone else, looking forward to sharing this experience!

Hi stopsitting It's DC3 for me too - I have DS8 and DD7. Although it is the first DC for DH and me (but also DC3 for him as he has DS10 and DS8).

I also need to get an appt with the gp - sure things have changed a lot since I was last pg.

In terms of when to tell, I think we are also going to wait until after the first scan, then I think we plan to tell our mums and sisters. Then, once the 12 weeks is up we will tell the DCs and I'll let my employer know.

My due date is probably 1 August, but my cycle was a bit WTF recently so I think the scan will be a better indicator.

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 27-Nov-12 10:22:02

Welcome stop (Great name BTW!),

I've just come back from the GP. He didn't bother testing me, just took my word for it that I'm pregnant. Must've looked honest :-)

He says that as I only came off the pill in mid-August it's impossible to guess my due date properly yet. He's recommended I get a fairly early scan for them to get a better idea. So just waiting for the appointment to come through the post now. Ideally it'd be lovely to get a scan before Christmas, FX, but it'll probably be in January I guess.

BraveLilBear Tue 27-Nov-12 13:10:14

Hello ladies <waves> Congrats on all the BFPs! Please may I join you?

I got a BFP after 5 days of expecting AF to arrive last week. Was totally shocked but over the moon! Right now praying it sticks, but trying real hard to be positive, hence me joining you guys.

Theoretically, I'm due 29 July. But I identify more with a summer holiday/August baby so may I please be accepted into this particularly friendly looking band of people?

thehomesecretary Tue 27-Nov-12 13:18:05

Hello brave! Welcome and congrats!

Chocolate I saw the GP this morning too- she took my word for it, gave me a lot of bumph and arranged my booking in with the midwife. It's on christmas eve, so that will hopefully be a nice start to christmas!!

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 27-Nov-12 13:38:23

Hi Brave, congratulations!

the home, oh that's a lovely thing to look forward to just before Christmas.

What a lovely Christmas eve treat the home

I've finally managed to get an appointment with the GP for next Monday morning. Hopefully that will put things in motion quite quickly, but will wait and see.

Silver15 Tue 27-Nov-12 14:15:25

Hello Ladies,

Welcome Stop and Brave.

Brave we theoretically share the due date but I won't know till I have had a scan. I came off the pill at the start of November. They normally recommend to wait for pill free cycle but my DC2 was conceived same way. I was on the mini pill.

BraveLilBear Tue 27-Nov-12 14:46:57

Thank you for the welcome everyone!

Silver I'm in a similar boat as I've caught pg straight after an early mc in October so I'm in WTF city too! Amazing to catch straight off the mini-pill though, congrats!

Big question - anyone planning to spill the beans at Christmas? Was originally resolutely waiting til after 12-week scan, but as I don't see my family face-to-face very often, and in the spirit of positive thinking, am leaning towards an immediate family only announcement at Christmas. It will be the first next-generation child for the whole of my side of the family, so it would be nice to share it with them in person rather than on the phone...

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 27-Nov-12 20:43:46

D'know what, I think I'll be Brave & join in too!
Due 9th Aug, however, like Bear it's a wtf cycle as I had a mc last month....not going to see GP until I'm at least 5 weeks (want to get past the point I was last pg).
We've got one DS (1yr next month).

We're, positive thinking, going to tell everyone on Christmas Eve...that way if I have another mc we don't 'spoil' Christmas for the future.

Look forward to getting to know all of you.

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 27-Nov-12 21:56:46

Welcome Gary and FX this pregnancy goes well for you. I think we're all at that early nervous stage, but it must be even more so for those who've had mc experiences in the past.

But as I keep telling myself, lots and lots of people manage to have babies, and if they can, we can too!

duende Wed 28-Nov-12 07:16:35

Good morning everyone. Anyone else not suffering from any morning sickness? In fact without many symptoms at all? I'm burping like there's no tomorrow (sorry if tmi), sense of smell is stronger, but I have no sickness and no sore boobs this time.
( and I'm of course worried its not a good thing :/ )
THe good news is I managed to book an early scan when I'm in Poland for Xmas, hopefully this will put me at ease at bit.

shineypeacock Wed 28-Nov-12 07:30:07

Morning all,

duende i'm the same have no real symptoms, feel a bit tired and burpy and get waves of indigestion but thats it!! Feel a bit of a fraud tbh!!

Got drs appointment this morning, then we are telling our parents (im 5 weeks) have family party this weekend and i know my mum will suss if i dont have a drink!!! Asking them to keep schtum tho!

Also got to tell my sister, we are very close and she has been ttc for nearly 2 years, she had a miscarrige in April and should have been due this week, she went off on hols on Monday so wont see her for 8 days but feel that although she will be thrilled for us, she will be very upset. What makes it worse is on Monday am she was asking if we wanted to join them on holiday in July (Spain) had to say provisionally yes, but i know we cant go!!

Hope you are all feeling ok, welcome to all the new BFPs


BraveLilBear Wed 28-Nov-12 12:38:52

Hey Gary <waves at TTC thread buddy> glad you're being brave too!

Having previously been very anti-early telling, I now really want to tell my family at Christmas. The challenge will be telling my mum and dad separately 1-1 (divorced) ahead of the rest, then keeping the info strictly under wraps. OH is now coming round to the idea of going down there for Xmas Day, but I need to get him on board for a late Xmas Eve arrival - the best chance to pick off the key players from the group will be Xmas Eve.

I've not been sick yet, but have felt really rough this morning - felt like I had the start of a cold, and was then gagging a bit before I left the house. Keep feeling like I'm going to wretch, which is a challenge in the offic! Def a step up from just feeling sick all day...

Silver15 Wed 28-Nov-12 19:33:45

Hello ladies,

Thanks Brave.

Welcome Gary.

I'm not breaking the news on Christmas. In the past I have waited for it to show before I let the extended family know and it's usually when we meet face to face. I have informed my mum and will let my sisters know when I see them in January.

diyqueen Wed 28-Nov-12 21:48:21

Please can I join? I think I'll be due in August - got a positive test last week. It is a planned pg, but I forgot to note down the date of last AF and now can't remember exactly when it was (duh). Was expecting conceiving to take longer this time, took 18 months for dd (who's now 20m), but only about 5 months trying this time so was a really nice surprise. Dp is happy too though his initial reaction when I told him (first thing in the morning) was to groan and pull the duvet over his head. Memories of dd as a small baby still a bit fresh I think...!

We have told our parents and I've told a close friend as well - if only so I can get a bit of sympathy if the going gets tough in these early months. I'm not going to tell anyone else til after the first scan though, whenever that is (January probably?).

Stopsittingonyoursister Thu 29-Nov-12 00:14:30

Hi All

Congrats on all the new BFPs!!

Only symptom here at the moment is very tender boobs. I've previously been VERY lucky and not had morning sickness, so I'm hoping that stays the same!

We haven't decided yet when to tell family. My Gran is in hospital at the moment after falling and breaking her wrist, and may not be allowed to go back home as she lives on her own, so family just dealing with that atm.

Haven't been to see the GP this time round, just made a booking in appt with the MW for the 10th. Makes it all seem very real!!

Shiney, I am in a sort of similar position to you with my DSis. She has a little one born 5 months after my DC2, traumatic birth, abd LO is allergic to loads of foodstuffs and we have just discovered has some sort of metabolic problem that means she gets hypo attacks (a bit like diabetes). DSis was due to start trying for her DC2 in Jan 13, but has just told us they are putting it off for a year to get their DD sorted out first. Seems so hard on them, it's almost like we are rubbing it all in their faces iyswim? But I know she will be thrilled for us (once she gets over the shock!)

Can I join in? (seems polite to ask, but I'll probably just elbow my way in anyway)
I've no idea when I'm actually due yet, but presumably sometime in August. I had just been to the fertility clinic & started Clomid because I wasn't ovulating. I took the Clomid but had terrible nausea & fatigue and my mum convinced me to POAS. Turns out it wasn't side effects to the Clomid - I was already pregnant! (Clomid would theoretically have me ovulating next week!)
Still feeling really tired & nauseated. I can't eat bread, which I normally live on.
Told my mum & dad (because they both suggested I was upduffed when I still thought it was impossible), but waiting to tell everyone else until after the scan.

Hippymama Thu 29-Nov-12 07:25:59

Can i join too? Got my bfp last night and think I am 4 weeks today smile got lots of crampy type pains but got them last time too so not as frightened by them as I was in my first pregnancy. Last time I had hyperemeis and threw up for nine months, have been sick twice so far (which is what led me to take a test!)

shineypeacock Thu 29-Nov-12 07:40:27

Morning all,

Well an exciting day yeasterday, went to the Dr yesterday morning(who is a family friend) and he was delighted for us, he then gave me a booking in firm for the childrens centre and a maternity form to sign, so all delt very real!!

Told both sets of parents yesterday too, DH works with his and we have family party with mine at weekend.

Then took my booking in form to local childens centre and i can see the midwife for my 1st appt on Monday, will only be 6 weeks next week! Feels all a bit fast!

Also had to tell my auntie as she is a community nurse from the drs practice and would suss my out at the weekend.

My keeping it quiet wont last too much longer i dont think, i live in a very small town, and lots of people i know use the childrens centre, so me pitching up there on Monday (only time its a midwife clinic) is a bit obvious!!!

Also does my DH need to come to the first meeting with me?? Will it just be a form filling in exercise?

Sorry for the rambeling post xxx

Christelle2207 Thu 29-Nov-12 09:50:08

A very tentative hello from me. I got my first ever bfp on Tuesday after 1 yr TTC #1. This was my first cycle of clomid. My EDD is I think about 7th August - i'm not even properly "late" yet.

Took another test this morning (am on internet cheapies) and it was darker than tuesday (this morning was FMU, Tuesday wasn't) but not very much - anyone else got experience of this?

I have been having mild cramping for about a week now - just like AF coming though it never did! Also intermittent boob pain.

Ideally we would tell everyone at Christmas (perhaps after an early private scan) however we are booked to go skiing at the end of Jan so more likely to tell when back from that. Was not planned this way! Too late to cancel so going to go anyway and take it very gently and stick to the gentle and quiet runs and if I don't feel like it just have a nice week in the mountains. I have not fallen over skiing for years so am more worried about people judging me for going skiing than actually skiiing when pg - my mother mostly hence not wanting to tell her.

On a more pressing note though what about the blinking work Christmas parties and not drinking excuses? We actually have two, a client one which is tonight which is ok because will use the driving excuse as have early client meeting tomorrow. The 7th is the biggie though and it's always really lairy - what are others doing?

Welcome to all the new BFPs grin I have the sore boobs, feeling sick, and achey and needing to go the toilet alarmingly regularly!

We aren't going to tell people for a little while - probably til after the first scan.

Christelle - we are off to Scotland and hoping to get some skiing in on the Nevis range early January - also planning to take it easy and if I don't feel like snowsports, I will happily drink hot chocolate whilst DH and the DCs are speeding about. My Christmas do is on 7th as well. I am going to drive, and say that I have early plans on Saturday as my excuse. For when we have family round over Christmas, I have invested in some becks blue, and may get some alcohol free wine so I can appear to be drinking smile

In terms of the ICs, I did 6 tests with them, and got varying degrees of darkness, so I bought an FRER which straight away was a dark pink line, and the next day I did a CB digital which came up with the magic words pretty soon.

chocolatesolveseverything Thu 29-Nov-12 10:35:33

Hello all,

Congrats to all the new bfpssmile

So far I've avoided alcohol at parties by saying I'm feeling under the weather (which is true!) I have a reputation for often going without a drink anyway so it doesn't seem to have raised suspicions yet...

Christelle2207 Thu 29-Nov-12 10:50:41

Hi waves so relieved im not the only one contemplating skiing!!

i have also bought a digi but not going to use before the weekend as they are less sensitive than the others ive been using and i wont be officially late till tomorrow.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 29-Nov-12 11:38:09

Congrats on telling everyone Shiney & getting the first appointment out of the way.
I would bring DH along to the first appointment, they'll ask about family history of illnesses/problems with childbirth & your family background (if you've got Asian/African/Caribbean/E.Europe roots your blood will get extra tests for things like sickle cell)...I was so nervous first time around I don't think I could've given them my name!

Welcome everyone new!!
Hippy, hope you avoid hypermesis this time around!
Christelle, the day before the Xmas Do, could you develop a terrible headache which means you don't want to drink?
Or you're going straight from the Do to stay over with family?
Anything other than 'I'm on antibiotics & can't drink'...that just screams pregnant lady!

As my mc was last month, we didn't think I'd get pregnant again so soon, so booked our family holiday for next Sept. Will be fun with a 1 month old (hopefully).
DH has agreed to us going for an early (private) scan, so will book that next week.

No real symptoms here yet, although I've gained a 1lb(!). With DS I gained about 20lbs in the first 6-7 weeks & then nothing until about 30wks.

GBT We also potentially have a family holiday with a newborn to look forward to - mum's given us a week in a cottage in the Lake District as a late wedding present. Was going to be the 4DCs, DH and I, but fx we will have a very tiny new addition to take along as well. Due to be travelling on 24 August, so hoping that I have an early August arrival!

Shiney what was the reaction to your news?

Christelle2207 Thu 29-Nov-12 11:58:57

blimey waves number five! thats amazing.

It's only DC3 for me, but I have 2 DSSs who are with us over 50% of the time! So, effectively, will be number 5 for the family. My biggest worry is the fact that our youngest will be nearly 8 when LO arrives, and I don't think I can remember ANYTHING about babies or toddlers confused

BraveLilBear Thu 29-Nov-12 12:28:17

Hello everyone! Congrats on all the BFPs grin

I passed a milestone yesterday (the ppoint where I lost my last pg) and this morning got a 3+ on a CB digi so I'm feeling more confident than I was...

Skiing or supping hot chocolate all cosy sounds fun! We are heading to Greece in May for a friend's wedding, will be c. 29-30 weeks then, which hopefully be manageable.

Am very worried about <not> drinking - especially around my family. Think I will take some non-alco wine/schloer and ask other half to pour it for me in the kitchen. I'm planning to tell immediate family, but we often have more extended family around as well and I'm not sure I'd want them to know just yet!

I've just realised that we're due to be at BIL's wedding in France around the time this baby is due. (no idea about how pregnant I am yet, hoping the scan will reveal all). Not sure if this'll mean DH going alone or going with a newborn. eek.

Congrats BraveLilBear.

Christelle2207 Thu 29-Nov-12 12:45:48

good news bear. i said to dh last night that i wanted a nice week away somewhere warm may/june, greece would be perfect.

Silver15 Thu 29-Nov-12 17:26:53

Hello ladies!

Welcome to all new BFPs.

Nothing much happening with me so I will just lurk around today.

wonderwomanislost Thu 29-Nov-12 19:14:43

hey guys, can i join you? We have been trying for years! had a mmc last month so very scared at the min blush I got my first faint positive yesterday, so fx!!

I have one dd 11, it is sooo scary, but exciting grin

hey hippy I also get severe hypermesis so can sympathize sad

wonderwomanislost Thu 29-Nov-12 19:16:05

oh and should be due 10th aug wink

DD is the 5th and Im the 10th grin

Silver15 Thu 29-Nov-12 20:31:16

Hello ladies,

Welcome wonder.

Just wondered if someone can help put together our EDD stats. I'm on my phone so I can't. These can be amended once we get confirmation by scans.

Thanks in advance

zippyrainbowbrite Thu 29-Nov-12 20:53:33

Hi all!
(waves at all new BFP's!)

I had my GP appt today - she makes my due date 31st July. Other than that she just took my BP, gave me an info pack and told me to book an appt with the midwives - bit of an anticlimax really! grin

Am feeling v. tired, but have had a restless couple of nights - poor zippy dog has cystitis (I cried in the vets when he told me, am feeling a bit emotional!). Her antibiotics seem to have kicked in today though so I'm hoping for a better nights sleep tonight!

EggyM Sat 01-Dec-12 07:53:08

Hello everyone I would like to join please!

I am due 2nd August I think.

Like a few others on here I had a miscarriage 11 months ago at 6 weeks, but then a scan showed a load of complications from an appendix operation I had 20 years ago so I ended up having quite invasive surgery and having to have my right fallopian tube removed.

So the last year has been hell and I am so thrilled that I have finally got pregnant again with just one working tube. But quietly thrilled as am also so nervous that something will go wrong again.

duende Sat 01-Dec-12 09:13:31

Welcome Eggy and everyone else. Congratulations! Eggy, I imagine you must be nervous but fingers crossed you will be absolutely fine this time, having had the op.
we're at centerparcs this weekend, its unfortunately raining ATM but trying not to let it dampen our spirits.

RainboxFX Sat 01-Dec-12 14:12:13

Could I tentitively dip my toe in this thread? BFP this morning, due date of August 13th (ish).

This is number two for us after a neonatal death earlier this year.

Excited and terrified in equal measure.

Christelle2207 Sat 01-Dec-12 14:57:24

Welcome newbies. rainbox so sorry for your loss all the best for this one x

Silver15 Sat 01-Dec-12 19:16:04

Welcome Rainbox and Eggy.

Must have been tough for both of you. Fx crossed this will turn out well.

I have been stuck in the same room with DCs all day as I have builders around. It was too cold for me to go out and I was desperate for some rest after a hectic week at work.

Hope yo weekends have been better.

FishTrouserElephantInPeking Sat 01-Dec-12 20:28:23

Can I very nervously join you lot please? I got bfp today and have a due date of around 5th (although due to irratic periods I expect it to go back a bit).

I'm freaking out a bit tbh as I had a miscarriage earlier in the year and I am so worried about it happening again. I see a few of you are in the same boat, it's tough to let yourself get really excited isn't it? I miss the naiveity of when I was pregnant the first time round when I never thought anything could go wrong!

Christelle2207 Sat 01-Dec-12 20:32:05

Hi fish I haven't had a mc but was TTC for over a year, it's very nerve wracking isn't it.

Sorry for all those who've had losses. I'm nervous enough as it is.

Anyone else crampy? Really worrying me, I can't sit still without feeling strange things going on down there.

woose Sat 01-Dec-12 21:02:01

Hello, can I join too!! I have due date 31/1 August. This is number 3, a total surprise, I am in denial a bit and my DH is not that thrilled to say the least. I definitely think I will be in need of support. I have been to doc and I have first mw app on 19th Dec.

Congrats to all of you!!

I don't have too many symptoms yet. A little worried about that! I have a few cramps and slightly sore boobs. Very tired climbing stairs etc.

GaryBuseysTeeth Sat 01-Dec-12 22:22:44

Welcome Wonder, Eggy, Rainbow, FishTrouser & woose (phew!).

Fish, what I would give to feel like I did when I was first pregnant!
We told everyone at 5wks with DS...we should be telling people at 7weeks ish, but I'm still not very happy with the idea, would rather wait until I was holding a healthy, happy baby to spill the beans!

Christelle, it's frustrating isn't it? That all the symptoms that something could be going wrong are the same you should be experiencing now anyhoo!
I'm not feeling v.pregnant (last 2 I was in bed by this time) but 'every pregnancy is different' GAH!!

Silver, hope you get the house back to yourselves soon, it's far too cold atm (typical that all of us will be getting our extra padding just in time for the summer heat waves).
Hope everyone is having a peaceful weekend?

MyWaywardGirl Sat 01-Dec-12 23:01:28

I was FishTrouserElephantInPeking but have decided to have a name change, there was a reason for the name but I'm not sure I want to be known as the shortened FishTrouser!

Gary, I know what you mean about putting off telling people. There will be no Facebook announcements from me ths time! (well not for a while anyway)

I'm exhausted so off to bed... Putting Christmas decorations up tomorrow! Yay! Does anyone else have there's up yet?

How's everyone doing? Anyone else suddenly developed insomnia?

DH is itching to get our Christmas decorations up, but it's too early for me.

I've been feeling nauseated most of the time and struggling to figure out what to eat. Haven't been sick at all though, fortunately. I'm really hoping it won't be obvious when we visit the ILs in a couple of weeks. We're staying for 4 days! I bought some sea sickness bands yesterday & I'm giving them a go to see if that helps. Strangely though, when I start to feel better, all I do is worry that something's going wrong. I can't wait for the scan so I can relax a bit.

littlemisstax Sun 02-Dec-12 10:37:21

Can I join? BFP last night smile

Will be DC no 2. Due 17 August, but DD was three weeks early, so we'll see! No symptoms yet other than the constant feeling of nausea that I had for six months with DD (although I was only sick 4 times during the whole pregnancy)

nicnicw Sun 02-Dec-12 12:19:23

hiya !!! got my bfp 16th november .. . due 26th july so thought i would be better joining the august ladies.. im in my 6th week now,
i love the fact im pregnant but the early symptoms are making me miserable sad
had the flu jab on friday as reccomened by my gp so part of my gripe could be that. been off colour bit of a cough and snuffles .. and the usual exaustion on top . i actually was 30 minutes late picking my dd from scholl on wednesday , i fell asleep on sofa.. was proper embarrassed

Sugarkane Sun 02-Dec-12 12:21:21

Hi everyone can I join? According to last period Im due the 28th July, but I think its after that so I thought I would fit in best here.

This is DC 4 for me, I have DD 4, DS1 3 and DS2 8 months. Have a few symptoms but nothing major atm. I haven't told anyone, (apart from 40 odd women from last anti natal group) and doubt I will be telling family this side of Christmas

nicnic79 Sun 02-Dec-12 12:29:45

slight name change from nicnicw cos decided to change my surname soon lol so still me !!

RainboxFX Sun 02-Dec-12 13:01:30

Thank you for the welcome! We are understandabley a wee bit terrified. So sorry there seem to be so many others who have had sad experiences in the past.

I am only 4 weeks along but so far insomnia, too hot and cramping pains! If this is anything like my last pregnancy I predict morning sickness will kick in Christmas day! Joy smile

Looking for advice as well, I do a pretty physical job with a lot of driving and heavy lifting (like 14-18kg boxes quite regularly). At what point do you think should I tell my employer? I don't want to be the hysterical woman who goes a bit odd when she is barely pregnant but don't want to take unnessecary risks at the same time! Will call for a Doctors appointment tomorrow as well, I am going to be very closely monitored this time round and I am still not sure that will entail.

How is everyone doing this weekend?

Silver15 Sun 02-Dec-12 13:51:45

Hello Ladies,

Welcome Nic, Myway, Littlemiss, Wonder, Sugar and Woose.

I'm excited the club is growing so fast. Glad to have you all on board.

Gary, I have a bit of respite today but the builders are back tomorrow. Will be at work though.

I woke up today with a fever and flu. I feel really poorly but I don't want to take time off work so early in the pg. A colleague mentioned that my clothes look tighter so time off will be telling. I still intend to keep it a secret till after the scan. I still have the cramps as well. My GP appointment is on Tuesday so looking forward to it.

Wow Sugar it number 4 for you. It's DC3 for me and yesterday found myself wondering how I will cope with all. DH is quiet supportive though.

bluishmist Sun 02-Dec-12 15:06:57

Hi all

Can I join? Got my bfp 10 days ago, due 3rd august I think. First pregnancy, first time trying ai with a known sperm donor ( we are same sex couple) very shocked it worked as I had two failed ivf attempts last year.

Mrsd77 Sun 02-Dec-12 16:15:07

Hi there. Can I tentatively stick my toe in?! Am 4+3. Already have one DS and had a missed mc in May at 12 weeks that turned out to be partial
molar pregnancy. Trying to not be petrified and DH thinks posting on here may be helpful as I've been lurking on conception boards for ages!! I have an early scan booked for 6 weeks. Eek!!

woose Sun 02-Dec-12 16:56:40

I have told quite a few people about pg so far. I am not sure why really. I think it is because we weren't even tic and so I was so shocked. Saying the words has made me believe it could be true. However, the last time I did that (tell people before being 12 weeks) I had a mc so I feel like I have made a mistake telling people. Also, it has not really helped me to come to terms with things. Me and DH have hardly spoken about it at all. Everyone knows it was an 'accident' I have DS 6 and DD 4, and had always said I wouldn't have any more because DH really didn't want any, even though deep down I did. I am so confused and emotional.

Mummyin2012x Sun 02-Dec-12 18:47:03

Hi all, so glad I found this thread' I am 4+2, ttc for over a year so very happy to finally get my bfp (or 6!!! - is anyone else a compulsive POAS'er???!!)
Already told my mum, dead, OH mum & a few friends, want to keep schtum a bit now!
Only symptoms so far are sore boobs!
When do you all plan on telling your work?

Hi mummy and all the other newbies smile I am possibly about 6 weeks, but cycles have been a bit weird, so really waiting for my scan to find out... I never used the OPKs, but managed to get 8 BFPs, which I think means that I am definitely a compulsive POASer!

Only DH knows about the BFPs - we are going to get Christmas over and done with first I think. We have 4 kids to tell, and no idea how they will react (DSSs are 10 and 8, DCs are 8 and 7) but really hoping they will be happy.

I have the ridiculously heightened sense of smell, bursting into floods of tears and sore boobs symptoms, but other than that, not too too much. My main struggle at the moment is my general mood. I came off anti depressants when we started TTC (mid September) and now I am finding things getting to me a bit. We have a lot going on with house renovations, and the DSSs have been pretty awful to me recently; coupled with ridiculous amounts of work it is quite stressful.

Seeing my GP tomorrow to get the midwife referral, and will mention my mood as well - just see if she has any good ideas as I don't want to go back on ADs again. Hoping that I don't have to wait too long - mainly wanting a scan so I can find out when I am most likely due. Will tell work once the scan is done I think - my job is desk based so no health risks, but once I have told them I get time off for the appointments which will help a lot!

Really hoping that all our beans are super glue sticky!

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 02-Dec-12 20:39:18

My name is(nt) Gary & I am also a POAS addict. I've done 9? 10? the last week. I've got one CB digital left, I'm saving it for Wednesday & hoping to see a 3+ (I know it's not massively accurate but I didn't get past 1-2weeks when I mc @ 6wks so want to get over that hurdle).

((waves)), I was on anti-d's for the few months before I was pg with DS & I had to see the 'high level care' midwives team, meant I got to see them every week (and home visits if i wasn't up for going out) which was really helpful.
Although being told I could anti d's whilst pregnant because they couldn't harm baby, but I wasn't supposed to whilst breastfeeding because they might harm baby was a bit hmm

Welcome & congrats littlemiss, nic, sugarkane, bluish, MrsD and mummy!

Rainbow, I would let them know whenever you're comfortable tbh, just incase you're not comfortable heavy lifting or are getting knackered quickly.
Have they got anything in place which says pregnant employees need more breaks or something?

nicnic79 Sun 02-Dec-12 21:14:48

my close friends and family know I'm pg and all very pleased . only my ex husband to tell but that's not pressing till after 12 weeks . I'm fairly confident about being pg I choose not to think about what ifs . I am actually registered disabled due to mental health . stopped all other psyke med . except my anti ds . I'm fairly stable so manageable . still have some bad days but nothing that out of the ordinary. got plenty of professional support if I need it so no worries . pg planned down to the last dot . . the fatigue gets me down . and flu jab has made me a bit poorly. but other wise no complaints positive thinking is the key !

nicnic79 Sun 02-Dec-12 21:19:38

a good book that always helped me cope with my thoughts is by dale Carnegie . it was published 1948 it was my dads but you can still get it . how so stop worrying and start living . has some great methods of dealing with stress and coping skills . relaxation helps too

Stopsittingonyoursister Sun 02-Dec-12 22:41:26

Hi Everyone, especially all the new people! We are getting a big group already!

Rainbow- once an employer knows an employee is pg, they should do a specific risk assessment for your job, in consultation with you, so you can both spot the risks and come up with solutions or a list of "safe" jobs that you can perform. If you are worried about the impact of your job, then you need to tell them so they can carry out the risk assessment.

Fortunately, my job is part time and desk based, so not planning on telling my employer until after the 12 week scan.

Have my booking in appt with the MW on the 10th. Round here, you can just ring and request a direct appt with the MW rather than going to the GP first, which is much easier! All starting to see quite real now, although still no symptoms except sore boobs...

Had a "what if Mummy had another baby" discussion with DS and DD yesterday. DD said I could have another baby, but only if it was a boy! I'm thinking we might need to find out the gender at the 20 wk scan, just in case DC3 is a girl - DS might need some preparing for the shock!

DH has been away a lot this last week, working ridiculously long hours and then Christmas Do on Saturday night. Managed to get myself into a real panic, trying to work out how I will get three kids bathed and in bed by myself every night, which was then made worse by trying to sort out where I am going to put everything that is currently in the room that will become the nursery...had to sit myself down and give myself a stern talking to!

Hope all those with other health issues are OK, it's a worrying enough time already xx Woose - hope you can work through the emotions, and you and DH can start talking again soon xx

Vixjane Sun 02-Dec-12 22:48:18

Hello waves

Please can i join you? Got my bfp this morning so only 4+1 due 10 Aug 13 and very nervous after a miscarriage in August. We've decided not to tell anyone till after new year (although family members may guess at xmas!).

Congrats on all your bfp's
Vix x

Christelle2207 Sun 02-Dec-12 23:18:04

mummy i have also been ttc my first for over a year. this was my first cycle of clomid so kinda scared there may be two!!!
also a poas addict, have done 6 so far and noted the darkening lines.
plan not to tell anyone for as long as possible, apart from dh.

Hi ladies - marking my place, got tentative bfp on Sat, then a stronger one y'day so just really hoping it sticks! My cycles are a bit irregular but i'd guess i'd be due around 11th Aug. This is no. 2 for me (DdS will be 3 on 30th Aug next year!), have been ttc since March, had mc in July, so v nervous this time round. Also I've had HG both times i"ve been pg and it usually kicks inaround 6 weeks so just nervously (& strangely...hopefully!) sitting round waiting for the extreme puking to start...right before xmas lol Better have an early turkey dinner while I still can!!

vixjane - sounds like we are kind of in same boat! hard to tell ppl ur pg again after a recent mc but also hard to avoid telling them, esp at xmas!!

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 08:19:35

Wavesandsmiles: Hi there. I am also trying to come off anti-depressants and I am struggling. I am on citalapram and the doc told me this was not a good one to be on in pregnancy. I have had a really tough weekend. I am thinking of trying to phone doctor today. I will be interested to know what the doc says to you. My doc before said I could have an early scan to put my mind at rest but there are no appointments at all. I don't see the mw until 19 Dec. I have no idea how I am going to get through the next few weeks.

We are also doing house renovations and we have no kitchen at all at the moment, just a microwave, washing up in the bath etc. This has been the situation since september. It is doing me head in!!!

Thanks for the words of advice Gary and nicnic, and woose I will let you know what my doc says to me. I was on citalopram when I was pg with DS (now 8) and was treated as high risk as a result. I just came off fluoxetine (prozac) and kind of wishing I hadn't, so will see what the doctor says. Am in a right panic as my mood is completely unregulated at the moment, and I am spending a huge amount of time hiding in my bed which is not good. I really need to get this sorted as I can feel myself falling into a pretty bad place, and can't let myself go there, for the sake of DCs, DH and the little bean. Fx the GP can let me know if it is safe to go back on something, and maybe sort out an early scan to avoid the ongoing panics.

In terms of the house renovations, I also totally sympathise woose. We have a kitchen (sort of) but the downstairs electrics are proper dodgy so anytime a pan boils over it fuses everything. I am mostly hating the lack of bathroom - we have a teeny shower room that works in the attic, but I am hating not being able to chill out in the bath!

Welcome again to anyone with brand new BFPs - I guess we should try and get some stats together, but I have nooooo idea where to start with that!

beckie90 Mon 03-Dec-12 09:13:23

Hey may I join too? Got my bfp Friday due date is around 7th of Aug but think it may come up bit later. This will be my 3rd I have 2 boys already xx

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 09:52:44

waves I have just tried to phone the doctor. They are so unbelievably unhelpful at our GP surgery, the receptionists are so rude. I asked if there was a way I could have someone to ring me back to discuss my situation and she said I could at 3.45 today. I said I could't as I am at work. and she said that is all there is.

I have been told by them that I need to sort everything out myself with early scan at the EPU and get the midwife to phone me back, but then when I phone the EPU up they say its nothing to do with them and I need to be sent by a doctor, so I am in a no win situation. I just have to wait! The only thing is I feel like you waves I feel like my mood is sinking and I can't get out of it. I am crying all the time and DH is getting very frustrated with me.

Hi beckie smile DC 3 for me too - I have DS 8 and DD 7, but first DC for me and DH together...

woose what a horrible situation for you. Can you not somehow get an appt with the doctor for a referral to the EPU? I am now really scared about my appointment, and the fact that I really have to tell the GP about my mood and symptoms. DH is coming along, I think mainly to make sure I am actually honest about how things are. Trouble is, he is blaming everything on my coming off my ADs, when really, I think the problem is that his DSSs are being so unpleasant and making me feel like I have to hide in my room whenever they are with us (all weekend and 2 nights mid week). It's probably a combination of both, but I am gutted - I wanted this to be a really happy, exciting time, after my previous pgs were fairly crap due to exH drinking/abuse.

Apparently though, antenatal depression is pretty common - it gets hidden though as people are afraid to admit that they aren't feeling the pg glow or whatever it is called. So, trying to get myself along by reminding myself that plenty of other people feel like this, and that I am going to do the right thing by openly speaking to my GP about it. Hopefully I can get things better, and then start to enjoy this time. Really hope you manage to get some help soon woose

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 10:38:27

waves Thank you for being lovely smile I have managed to get an appointment at the doc for later today eventually, but I really had to work at that!

I definitely think you are doing the right thing being honest with your GP, it will be better to get things out in the open and tell someone how you are feeling, someone who is outside the family, they can help you look at things objectively. It sounds as if you are having a really tough time with your DSS at the moment, that must be hard what with everything else added to it. I am not surprised you are feeling low. I am also worried about the appointment as i think they will say I need to switch ADs to one that you can take in pg. I was on AD with my first DC but managed to wean myself off, I was fine. However, things were different. I was desperate for a baby then and I was so happy about it.
I know my DH does not want a baby, he even said it is the worst thing that could happen. We are hardly speaking at the moment and have been arguing all weekend.

I think you are right that depression in pg is more common than we think it is just not spoken about too much. I don't feel happy about being pg really, I feel scared, shocked, in denial and I am dreading having another mc. I am sure like you say there are many others out there that can relate to these feelings.

Kepp us updated about how it goes later xxx

Nightwish Mon 03-Dec-12 10:50:09

Hey all.
Please can I join you?
BFP yesterday morning.
Not sure due date however because cycles have been a bit over the place.
Probably somewhere between 4th and 10th Aug.
Doctors appointment today as taking DS (3 and a half) who might have an ear infection.

Vixjane Mon 03-Dec-12 10:52:10

littlemiss sounds like we're on very similar dates with mc and then this pg.

Fingers crossed for you this time!

This thread's getting huge already!

Rang the dr's this morning for an appt (thinking end of week) and they gave me one for 9am this morning! so seen the dr and we had a chat, she asked me to book in with mw (3rd Jan) so hopefully i'll make it to the appointment this time!!

Woose hope things go ok for you at your appt this afternoon and both you and waves feel better about things soon.

V x

BraveLilBear Mon 03-Dec-12 11:02:10

Hello everyone! You dropped off my threads! sad

Welcome and congrats to all the newly upduffed members - totally appreciating the caution of those who recently had a mc - I'm in the same boat as you, having lost first pg at 5+2 in October.

But, am now 6+1 today so thinking positive as best I can. Will try and collate a big due date list at lunchtime if I get a few moments free...

BraveLilBear Mon 03-Dec-12 11:04:57

Have also called midwives (we have direct access here too) and they said they'd send me an appointment through the post in the next 1-2 weeks shock so not much hope of a booking-in appt before Christmas for me.

Was hoping I might be able to get that one ticked off and make it all feel more real. Anyone else considering an early private scan? One here costs £80 - I don't really have that money knocking around just before Christmas, but am really tempted...

Christelle2207 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:31:12

bear they're about 100 here. i too am very tempted for christmas time.though though may ask gp first if there's any chance of an early scan on nhs. i was on clomid so one in ten chance of multiples in theory.
if not i am unlikely to get nhs scan before i am back from hols in early feb which seems like ages.

Hi again, and thanks for the good wishes vix

I have just got back from seeing my GP, she was more concerned about my state of mind than the pg, although really pleased that I am focussing on what is best for the little bean in terms of my coping strategies and things. As such, she has referred me to the psychiatric team which isn't really what I wanted, but as she said, they are best placed to assess what is the safest way forwards, especially in terms of medication. DH came along and said he was so proud of me for being completely open with her.

Anyway, as a result I am back there on Wendesday morning for blood tests and the proper pg appt when she will do my blood pressure and things like that and refer me to the midwives etc. Was very reassured that the antibiotics she prescribed the day before I found out are completely safe. Phew.

I wish we could have an early scan, but none available here, so we are going to have to wait a little while - I am expecting it will be mid January which seems like a lifetime to wait, especially as that is going to be the only accurate way of dating where I am at - possibly due 28 July based on a standard cycle, but I have a hunch it is going to be a week or 2 after that.

Best wishes for your appointment woose have some flowers to cheer you up for now. So sorry that you and DH are having a hard time and that things start to get better for you

LolaDontCryOverSpiltEggnog Mon 03-Dec-12 13:32:40

Ok doctor today she gave me a due date of the 29thAugust, every calculator i have looked at says 31st july.

Please help me out, my last period started on the 24th october.

Going by a 28 day cycle which they use i get 31st july.

Adding 9 months and 7 days i get, the 31st july.

On the bloody NHS calculator i get the 31st of july.

I do not trust her because she counted on her hands. grin

Will one of you lovely ladies work it out for me?

Lola I think it sounds like 31 July is your due date, and I am sure that the midwives will put that right. I am terrible for counting on my hands blush but then my work doesn't involve much in the way of numbers! Usually the doctor would have a little chart thing to look at...could just be a bad day.

Silver15 Mon 03-Dec-12 15:52:27

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to all new ladies.

Waves and Woose, I work in mental health and my experience has been that people who suffer from depression are prescribed sertraline as this is considered safe for the baby. Breastfeeding mothers are also prescribed the same. I would advise you to speak to a psychiatrist.

Silver15 Mon 03-Dec-12 16:33:45

Also wanted to say that there are specialist psychiatrist service for expectant mothers. These will offer you all treatment methods available and it does not always have to be anti depressants.

Maternal mental health probs are quite common and with the right support one can really do well. At least have all the info you need as a back up.

Mrsd77 Mon 03-Dec-12 16:51:10

Thanks for the welcome ladies! Sorry to hear that some of us have bits and bobs to worry about already. Fx that the professionals give everyone the help and support they need.

I'm feeling proper ropey today. Really nauseous and swimmy headed. Boobs are killing too! All good things though I hope. I have back ache too but I seem to remember that early on with DS. Sometimes I feel a bit womby though which concerns me. Anyone else a bit too aware of their womb?!

Anyway, that's enough of me banging on. I'm off to try and resist the advent calendar choc! smile

GaryBuseysTeeth Mon 03-Dec-12 17:04:08

Welcome Nightwish!

So which one of you is Kate Middleton?? [hgrin]

Lola, your Dr is so out on the dates, if you were due 29th Aug you'd probably wouldn't have a positive pee stick yet!!
Sounds like the 31st to me.

Well done on being open with GP waves, I always freeze up!

((*woose*)), I hope things improve at home for you.

Private early scan is anything between £200 (Harley St) & £50 here (backwaters of Kent)...so I'm going for the tightfisted option!

Mrsd, if I prod about (gently) I think I can feel my womb, it's like a really large hard nut atm.
Blaming my post DS stomach muscles!

I feel like I'm going to throw up at anypoint which is GREAT!!

Pingu82 Mon 03-Dec-12 18:07:48

Hi everyone,

Congrats on all your BFPs! I got mine on 23rd nov but only just found this thread! Glad to have found you all smile

I've prob done about 12 HPT, so another compulsive POASer! I'm saving a CBD for weds when I should be 6 weeks.

This is my first pg so very new to all this. Any other first timers out there?
Also had some bleeding yesterday so feeling v nervous now. Only a bit first thing in the morning but it was bright red blood so quite worried. Nothing since though so fingers x! I rang the EPU but they said they couldn't offer me a scan until 6 weeks so to get back in touch after that if still worried. Any other experiences like this? I guess I kind of know it could go either way.


It's me! I'm Kate Middleton! lol no but I do sympathise with the hyperemesis, it seriously killed me with DS and in my last pg too and I was feeling decidedly queasy in work at only 4 weeks, so looking forward to it kicking in again. Went to chip shop at lunchtime today to do some early carb loading - if last two pgs are anything to go by I'll be skeletal again. For a while. And then fat!

Pingu - Sorry about the bleeding, all I can suggest is leaning on the EPU or if you have any more just go straight to casualty. There's not a whole lot they can do but if you're more than 5 weeks gone an early internal scan will be able to show a heartbeat at that point. I had bleeding at 9 weeks and they really more or less refused to see me because my booking scan was at 10.5 weeks. Unfortunately in that instance it was not good news for me, but it has taught me to not be afraid about being pushy if you are concerned, it's better to know what's going on. Fx for you x

woose - I moved house when I was 9 weeks pg, suffering from hyperemesis and with a toddler in tow at the end of July. You have my full sympathies, all you want is to be snoozing quietly in a nice warm clean house when you're in first tri! (And last tri lol)

BelissimaLol Mon 03-Dec-12 18:43:27

Hello. I've been lurking here for a few days and decided to be brave and join. Terrified due to mc in July so not getting carried away just yet.
Think I'm due 4th August.
Had first doc app today and she referred me to EPU which caused me to panic a bit more!
Had the scan this afternoon and all looks well for 5 weeks. Seen the sack and pole and cried when I saw the black blob . I will now go back in 10 days for another scan.
Is one of you secretly kate? Come clean now grin

Christelle2207 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:39:17

bel welcome and great news you had a scan! wish my hospital was that organised.

BraveLilBear Mon 03-Dec-12 19:54:40

Hello and welcome Pingu and BLol grin , LittleMiss and Mrsd77 and everyone else smile

Cue I'm Spartacus-style Middleton claims grin

Have had another awkward phone conversation with my dad... 'so how's things with you... any news to report?' me: 'no, nothing really... we have our Christmas tree up...'

Keep worrying I'm going to accidentally slip and tell someone too soon!

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 20:22:54

Hi there everyone. Thanks for all your advice.

waves it sounds as if your appointment went well. It seems like they are getting the ball rolling in terms of mw app and with sorting things with your medication.

My appointment was similar to yours actually. The doc was much more concerned with my state of mind. He said that it was better to stay on the AD I was a bit confused though because the doc before said citalopram was not good to be on but this doc said it was fine. He also said it would be difficult for me to switch medication now. He has also lined me up with some counselling and will try to contact the mw for an earlier app and scan, see we will see what happens next.

I have been having a lot of pains in my left side, down quite low, what could this be? Is it bad news do you think? Does anyone else have these pains?

Sugarkane Mon 03-Dec-12 20:50:52

Stats add yourself in date order below.

Sugarkane DC4 28th July

Glad to hear your appt went well woose and hope that it has made you feel better. I got proper panicked by aches in my womb before, but I am pretty sure it is something to do with ligaments, and the uterus stretching or some such thing! Trying to chill out a bit this evening, and feeling reassured that I feel sick and my boobs hurt - surely that has to be a good thing confused

Brave I keep worrying about the slipping up and spilling the beans as well. Hard work, but determined to say nothing til the first scan in out of the way. Right, will add myself to the stats now - although due date is a guess until I have a scan!

Stats add yourself in date order below.

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 21:35:49

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)

woose Mon 03-Dec-12 21:39:22

I think my cramps may have been wind! Well I hope so anyway. Only time will tell.

waves I am sure the sickness is a really good sign.

I am having a chill out eve too. I have done nowt! Just watched X factor and Strictly and done some knitting smile

So we are all pg at the same time as Kate!! How exciting!

woose - glad it's not just me that's incredibly windy!

I'm having an early scan next week to see what's going on, because I'd just had tests that showed I wasn't ovulating & been started on clomid. Somehow I managed to get upduffed just before I took the clomid. Hoping that's not going to cause problems.

RainboxFX Tue 04-Dec-12 09:20:07

I am also crampy, windy and constipated. Nice to know I am not alone!

Due to my last pregnancy, I am also incredably paranoid and have managed to convince myself using google that this is an ectopic one sad Have a doctors appointment on Thursday morning so will hopefully be refered for a scan then. I will be classed as high risk and monitored closely, as they have no idea why I went into early labour last time, but I have no idea what this will entail!

Thinking about everyone. Anyone else covered in snow? It's mad up here!

RainboxFX Tue 04-Dec-12 09:21:52

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)

BraveLilBear Tue 04-Dec-12 09:47:16

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)

Woose I've been having loads of cramps last two days... had an actual stompy moment as I was going to bed, only to realise that a release of air moments later blush made me feel lots better. Fortunately it was SBD, and OH was safely tucked out of harm's way. But still blush

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 04-Dec-12 10:23:36

Welcome pingu & Blol!

Not going to add myself to the stats list until 12 weeks scan.

woose, my mum gave birth shortly after Diana had Will and apparently there were loads of free stuff given away to new mums to celebrate the birth, so hoping for some excellent deals on stuff...and that Kate doesn't use the names anyone here wants!

I have quite possibly the worst pregnancies ever; with DS I went off chocolate & still can't enjoy it... and now I cannot stomach Marmite. sad
Those who've been pregnant before; what were your craziest cravings?

shellshock7 Tue 04-Dec-12 10:49:28

Hi everyone, another (very) newbie here.

Brief history is a MMC at 10 weeks with first pregnancy and I now have a lovely DS who is 8 months. Got my BFP yesterday after being convinced AF was due after cramping Sat/Sun so relieved to have heard some of you had cramps too, had none with either previous pregnancy.

Still not real tbh, am just very happy as I go back to work in Jan and was desperate to be pregnant so it wouldn't feel like I was abandoning DS for long smile

Only real symptom is bad gas blush and a little pot belly, I was showing from 7 weeks last time and became a whale vey quickly so not sure how I'm gonna keep this quiet for 12 weeks!

Hi Gary, have already started on the balsamic pickled onions ha ha

shellshock7 Tue 04-Dec-12 10:50:51

Can someone add me to the stats please, can't do it from iPad

Shellshock7 DC2 10 August

Thanks smile

BraveLilBear Tue 04-Dec-12 11:16:55

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)

Have had a few coffee aversions which has been a total shock to me (I love the stuff). Actually think this will be how I get sussed out at work so trying to have half a cup of filter in the morning, just not on an empty stomach.

The other day, OH decided we should have sandwches for lunch. No big deal. BUT I insisted that he went and bought some pickle for me to go with the cheese. I can't tell you how happy I was when he returned with some a few minutes later! Was the BEST sandwich ever. I also may have eaten a couple of spoonfuls of pickle on its own blush

Have also found that I'm most inclined to lose the plot and have an emotional shouting moment when hungry. Oops.

Gary I can't imagine going off marmite, I'd be distraught! But having said that, I had some the other week and it gave me dreadful heartburn.

Weirdest/worst cravings: With DS I craved pepperamis. Not so odd, until you consider the fact that I have been a militant vegetarian (and was vegan for 4 years) since I was 15. I have NO idea where that came from and I have to confess I actually gave in and ate 3.

With DD I wanted cake and chocolate. All the time. And I don't have a sweet tooth! Soon as she arrived, that was it, back to the cheese for me smile

Kind of curious as to what I might crave this time round. So far, I am just having aversions - especially to tea. Not sure how I am going to cope with out my brew, so far I have managed decaff coffee and hot water with lemon. It's just not the same though sad

Sugarkane Tue 04-Dec-12 12:09:50

Shellshock your DS is the same as my youngest, where you on mn before?

I did a stupid excited dance in the kitchen when DP brought me some ready cooked sausages, nasty greasy things normally, but all I wanted in last pregnancy too.

Nightwish Tue 04-Dec-12 12:31:38

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 12:33:20

I won't add myself to the stats thread just yet. Will also wait for 12 week scan.
Feel knackered today. Just want to sleep! Also more relaxed due to scan and even managed some sleeps at night!

Nightwish Tue 04-Dec-12 12:35:41

That was awful... date ordered, as I didn't read the previous page, sorry!

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)

shellshock7 Tue 04-Dec-12 12:57:46

Thanks grin

sugarkane I joined the TTC after miscarriage thread and then the pregnant after miscarriage thread on the conception board and Totally's grads thread on the pregnancy board. You? Are you nervous about being pregnant with a young DS and the small age gap?

Christelle2207 Tue 04-Dec-12 13:37:28

i too don't want to be on the stats until I'm a bit further along.

I have had this very general swollen feeling since implantation (guessing) and although I did have these little pains over the weekend, tiny cramps far below (uterus strecthing?) but now just back to the normal feeling, which tbh is really mild. So I complain when I get the little pains then complain when I don't!

Feel slightly sick but I think sick with worry more than anything else.

Anyone else NOT tired? I guess at only five weeks, I might have all this to come?

Gary - When I have hyperemesis none of the usual morning sickness cures like ginger tee or crackers etc work for me. I take these manic, OCD type things were I can only eat small amounts of certain things and that's all I'll eat / drink for a fortnight and then a new manic urge starts! Last time round it was City Kitchen Sicilian Chicken meals and diet 7-Up confused I'm having a Christmassy food binge at the min cos by the time Christmas rolls round in a few weeks I prob won't be able to stomach any of it lol

Re: Wills and Kate baby stuff, my DH was born same month as Prince William and cos his grandad was called William he has that for a middle name lol Hope they don't steal one of my names but I'd say it's pretty unlikely!

Anyway here's updated stats..bit nervous about being on here so early but feel like I might as well think positive! Booked in with midwife at 11 weeks and I'm off work this afternoon so decorating tree with DS grin

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)

woose Tue 04-Dec-12 18:15:29

Hi all

I didn't really have massive cravings. Just wanted to eat everything that is unhealthy. Crisps mostly. I put on 4 stone with DS, and then next time round I swore I would be better, but I failed and again put on 4 stone. I am sure most of that was due to all the rubbish I was eating.

I hope Kate doesn't choose my name I had in my head. It has just come to me and I love it. I don't want to mention to my DH as he may just say oh that's horrible and I couldn't bear that!

Does anyone else think they are showing yet? I feel like my stomach is huge and getting a bit worried people will notice.

Glad I am not the only one suffering cramps. It sounds as if it could all be normal. I have not really had any today, thank goodness.

wonderwomanislost Tue 04-Dec-12 18:34:34

hi all hope everyone is good??
just adding myself grin

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

Been to the doc yesterday got confirmed, asked about meds for hyperemisis as it gets very severe for me (went from a 12/14 to an 8 while carrying DD!!) and I want to be prepared. As the meds cost so much Im not sure I can have them, so need to wait and see a consultant confused

I am having cramps now, and was very windy and giggled over it the whole day yesterday grin

MyWaywardGirl Tue 04-Dec-12 18:47:27

I don't want to add myself to the list quite yet (I feel I might be jinxing things being on the thread at all let alone on a list of dates). I realise that's neurotic but hey, as I keep on saying to dh when I can't be bothered to get off my arse and am ordering him about I am with child smile

I'm glad I'm not the only one with cramps, I can't remember if I did first time around but if loads of us are the same then hopefully it's not a bad sign. A weird thing happened last night when I was in the bath, I seemed to have a hard lump above my belly button that you can't notice when not underwater but it made me feel properly pregnant. Has anyone else had that?

I haven't had any nausea yet but have lost my appetite again. woose I also craved crisps when pregnant with dc1, I remember driving home crying as I was hungry by couldn't think of anything I wanted to eat. I stopped at a shop, saw the huge multi packs of kids crisps (quavers etc.) and bought about 3 of them. I was in heaven!

Hope everyone's ok today

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 18:48:40

I'm feeling so tired and hungry!!!! Am worried I will end up the size of a house. No sickness at all. Just hunger. Scary!

wonderwomanislost Tue 04-Dec-12 18:54:41

Hey myway appetite too just dont feel like eating, but then when I eat it tastes lush and I feel as if I havent eaten in a week!! haha

I dont know about the lump you saw, but I almost fel asleep in the bath earlier shock

hey Beliss Im sure the hunger will wear off soon, as for tiredness I know exactly how you feel

wonderwomanislost Tue 04-Dec-12 18:56:48

lost my appetite is what I mean blush

Hi all, Conratulations to you all. I'm due with no. 2 in August. Just wondering what everyone was planning on using as not drinking excuses over Christmas or are you just going to announce it early?

Also got the munchies at the minute! Been nibbling on xmas goodies all afternoon getting the tree and decorations up, then sat down to spaghetti for dinner blush I was in a training course in work y'day and it wasn't easy to constantly graze like a cow snack tho and when I wasn't eating I did notice I was feeling a bit queasy. And I'm also really thirsty...all the progesterone! Not helping the general water retention first few weeks bloat thing I got going on, jeans hardly zipping up. Glad this only really lasts first couple of weeks and then brief return to normal size before start showing... January sales for maternity clothes tho...bonus!!!

sunflower - I was pg with no.1 over festive season in 2009 and i kept wheeling out 'having a sinus infection' (gross) but nobody believed me anyway! Think it'll be easier this time cos it's easy to use having to get up early with DS as a plausible excuse for passing on the vino? Let us know if u come up with something better tho!!

thehomesecretary Tue 04-Dec-12 20:02:54

Hi all,

Being brave and adding myself!

My nausea has come on in earnest- since Sunday I have been constantly nauseous. It's horrible...but at least makes me feel a little more pregnant
belissima I am also worrying about ending up the size of a house, as the only thing that makes me feel better is eating!! Ahh

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

BelissimaLol Tue 04-Dec-12 20:05:30

Welcome home.
I have 3 work parties so yesterday when I left for the scan I told them I have a kidney infection and am on antibiotics. Don't think anyone believes it though.
Will spend Xmas with the in laws and plan to tell them when we get there on the 22nd.

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 04-Dec-12 20:22:07

Hi everyone and welcome to home and all other recent newcomers,

I've added myself to the stats list below:

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

Symptoms-wise, not much to report. I still get occasional nausea but to my surprise it hasn't ramped up into proper ms yet. (There! Jinxed myself!) I was soooo tired at work today though. By 4pm I felt dead!

Sugarkane Tue 04-Dec-12 20:32:42

Shell, I'm used to small gaps, this baby will make 4 under 5, that doesn't mean I don't worry as I do but I just know I can cope, because really there is no other option but to. I was on the February 2012 baby bus, we progressed to a closed facebook group in the end as we felt it was more personal. Lovely bunch of ladies, first and only people I have told.

I called to book in today, was putting it off as I dont want to jinx anything, but well I cant put it off forever. you have to leave a message and they call you back within 4 hours, but no one called.

Hello to the newbies and welcome

Mrsd77 Tue 04-Dec-12 20:43:00

Hi all. I'd like to wait a little longer til I add myself to the stats too. Killer back ache last night and a little splurge of watery red stuff. Trying to be chilled and hoping its implantation?! Also, long day on my feet today and now have a bit of watery brown. Trying not to overreact. Might try and see doc tomorrow.

Sorry if I've brought the mood down now. Trying to be chilled and positive.

When pregnant with DS all I wanted was crunchy stuff!!!

shellshock7 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:54:55

I've added myself to the list as I spent my last pregnancy in a semi state of panic the entire time so am determined to be positive and not worry at all this time smile

My not drinking excuse is going to be DS, I can say I won't drink if I'm getting up to him in the night/morning....perfect! (Dunno how I'll hide my tummy if its like last time tho!)

sugarkane I haven't worried yet, I have always thought we would be trying again when DS was quite small so it's good to know you have enjoyed it and its not put you off doing it again! I suppose I am worrying abt the pregnancy more, I had PGP last time and was fairly immobile by the end (could get abt, but it hurt) so am concerned how it will effect DS. I hope you get a call back soon smile

mrsd hope you're not working yourself up into a state, there's a good chance it's nothing to worry abt, especially when it's brown, fingers crossed

huffpuff75 Tue 04-Dec-12 22:43:58

Hello, can I join? Due (according to calculator) 31 July. DC2 for me, I have DS 22months. Had a miscarriage early October so keeping everything xed. When I stop myself panicking I like to have a little giggle about the prospect of going for antenatal appointments with DH. He looks very much like Prince William (so much very like that the run up to the royal wedding was a bit of a nightmare for him, although hilarious for me). I unfortunately look nothing like Kate angry

Symptoms so far - tired (going to bed soon), sore boobs, but no sickness here so far smile

RainboxFX Wed 05-Dec-12 07:00:46

I too have added myself to the stats way too early, but like shellshock I am really worried and I need this as part of my staying positive plan! Also worried about jinxing things so whatever I do, can't win.

Didn't think I had any cravings yet, but got home from work last night and ONLY a bacon Sandwich would do.

Not noticed any hard lumps or anything yet, but I feel really really bloated and don't bend too well in the middle!

sugarkane - we did a closed fb groyp for due in 2013 and it was really nice!

Hello huff - keeping fx for you and everyone else. Had my proper appt with the GP this morning, blood pressure is good (well, rather low, so that explains the fainting etc), and BMI perfect so looking good so far. Had a ridiculously huge amount of blood removed by the nurse, and she gave me the fly jab too, so feeling a bit sorry for myself and sore in my arm.

DH and I have a big pack of information to read through, and GP has given me a due date of 29 July, although I am thinking it will be later due to irregular cycle. Apparently the early scan here is between 12 and 15 weeks so it seems ages to wait before we have more of an idea!

How is everyone today?

zippyrainbowbrite Wed 05-Dec-12 10:42:25

Hi All

Wow, haven't been on for a few days and loads to catch up on! Congrats to all new BFPs, and fingers crossed all round for sticky beans for all!

I spoke to the Midwife and have got a booking in appt on Xmas Eve, which is a nice start to Xmas!

Symptom wise my main one is that I'm so incredibly tired - I'm sleeping for 9.5 hours a night (although having to get up to pee 2-3 times!) and am still sooo tired. Also I still have very tender boobs and am very emotional - yesterday I cried when a customer told me how happy he was with a job (fortunately over the phone!), when I realised I'd left my afternoon biscuits at home, when my sister sent me a pregnacy book and when it was 8pm and I wanted to go to bed... basically at everything! confused grin

I've added myself into the stats:

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

thehomesecretary Wed 05-Dec-12 11:33:08

Anyone else look about 4 months pregnant with the bloating? Ahhh- I'm already struggling to button my jeans and this is only week 7!

thehomesecretary Wed 05-Dec-12 11:34:45

Also zippy my booking in appt is on xmas eve too! exciting

BraveLilBear Wed 05-Dec-12 11:35:23

Hello and congrats to all the new BFPs!

Don't feel sick at all today, (yet) which is cool, but did have a nightsweat episode, v sore boobs, crazy dreams and needed extra sleep so still feeling pregnant enough not to to worry grin

How's everyone else?

And have added in huffpuff too:

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

BraveLilBear Wed 05-Dec-12 11:39:28

Oh home I feel you on the bloating. Comes and goes, but yep, look huge at times, which is weird as I've always been blessed with a fairly flat frontage. I'm finding jacket potatoes are the work of the devil for creating this.

zippyrainbowbrite Wed 05-Dec-12 11:45:49

home and brave I know the feeling - wore my skinny jeans to work yesterday, then had to sit with them undone at my desk all day as they were digging in!

I'm quite excited to have a 'proper' belly, but at the moment the bloating is just making me feel a bit podgy!

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 05-Dec-12 11:46:49

Welcome huff, you should send your DH baby stuff shopping in posh London shops & see if he gets papped!

homesecretary, my jeans don't fit anymore, but I know I've not put on enough for my maternity stuff. [hblush]

Interesting to hear of everyone's different cravings. I've gone off salty food too now!

Finally got my 3+ on CB digital, so feeling more confident about a sticky baby.
Interesting (and sad) that so many of us here are post-mc pregnant, I find it really takes away from the excitement of being pregnant, but hopefully we'll all be able to egg each other on to enjoy it this time around!

Mrsd, how are you feeling today? Hope there's been no more brown/watery stuff. x

Hope everyone is having a good day?

BraveLilBear Wed 05-Dec-12 14:56:37

Afternoon GaryB!

Great news on the 3+ - must be a huge relief to finally see that damn thing.

Am giggling at the thought of huff's hubby being papped... I'd be so tempted!

Any news MrsD?

After not feeling sick at all this morning, am now back in queaseville. Wrongly I don't mind too much cos it at least re-emphasises the pg again - it's a heck of a long way between getting 3+ on CBDigi to 12 week scan!

Pingu82 Wed 05-Dec-12 15:08:23

I'm also feeling bloated and windy! Boobs are def feeling more tender today too And have a stinking cold but don't want to take anything for it just in case.
Have an appt with EPU hopefully for scan tomorrow morning because of bleeding on sunday (none since so fx) Real mix of feelings about it as hoping I get some reassurance but will only be 6wk+1 so know might not see much and could be inconclusive. am going on my own too so think that will be hard whatever the news is.

I also can't believe how slowly the time is passing. It seems like a lifetime ago since getting my BFP when actually its only been 2 weeks!

Brave - We're having a similar time of it, last two nights i've had mental crazy dreams and night sweats, also looking a bit bloated!! Ah early pg, the joy grin Constantly feeling freezing too and have to keep reminding myself to drink water. Just want nice hot coffee but trying to avoid that or replace with herbal tea. Fun!

booboomonster Wed 05-Dec-12 16:05:13

hi littlemisssnowshine! we were on the ttc after mc thread. Just spotted your name on the antenatal board and wanted to say congratulations! Really happy for you! x

Thank you booboo! I remember you guys well and hope you are all doing good!! Early days for me, exciting though grin

Ps) Good luck tomorrow Pingu - I'm sure you are feeling anxious and really hope they are able to reassure you

I'm glad to see I'm not the only emotional wreck around here. I'm crying right now because DH decided to be helpful and put some chicken in the oven, but he didn't bother to check the dates and he's cooking the wrong stuff. Crying!!!

DaveMccave Wed 05-Dec-12 16:54:58

Hi everyone.

I got a very faint positive today. Well, five very faint positives. This isn't planned, my mirena coil fell out a couple of weeks a go. I think I'm due 16/8 so only about 12dpo at a guess. But obviously it's all very early days and all uncertain. I've been in zoned out-staring at the walls-shock all day and haven't told my boyfriend yet.

Silver15 Wed 05-Dec-12 18:15:21

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to the newbies.

I saw the GP yesterday. Took my weight and pressure reading. I was disappointed no bloods done or flu jab. He has made a referral to the MW . So just waiting for an appoint.

I'm feeling too tired and struggling at work. I have requested for some leave next week but will be doing assignments as I'm studying as well. Course finishes next week.

Mrsd77 Wed 05-Dec-12 18:18:11

Hi. Had a good day. Still feel preg but still getting the watery stuff off and on. Docs tomorrow. Got quite bad bloating too. Ooo, it's like a flippin rollercoaster!! smile

huffpuff75 Wed 05-Dec-12 21:47:21

Hi everyone. Giggling about DH and paparazzi. He went through a phase of rfusing to let me take pics of him in case I posted them on some sort of lookylikey site.

I too have stinking cold which I have had for weeks and can't seem to get rid of. Am even MNing in bed as feel so rubbish.

Having total panic attacks that I am not cut out for two of the little creatures darlings after DS really led me a merry dance today. We were stuck in the house because it snowed and I couldn't face sliding my way down our hill with this cold to deal with. The day of strops culminated in him having a screaming fit when having his tea with a mouthful of food, and me having to wrestle him out of the high chair and thump him to dislodge the food. Not a happy teatime.

huff - think that about my DS too, wee angel one minute, toddler tantrum terror the next, daunting to think about that plus a newborn. But he'll be 3 at the end of Aug so hopefully / maybe out of the terrible twos!!

Evening bloat is ridiculous - got dressed at 7am, clothes looked grand. Had to go to an awards thing after work this evening and by 9 trousers were feeling tight, tummy v round and even shirt looks like its straining over boobs when it closed no probs this morning. Should be bit deflated again by morning tho!! after night sweats and freaky dreams

Gary - great news re digi test, might do one next week and hopefully get same result as u!

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 07:51:13

Good morning,

Have a few questions to put to you all today. How much caffeine are you having? I'm ashamed to say it's something I didn't give a lot of thought to in my last pregnancy (6 years a go). Do you think one cup of real tea/coffee in the morning is ok, and then green for the rest? I had a lot of peppermint for nausea last time but that hasn't started yet. Any other recommendations?

Secondly, I just did my 6th blush test, with fmu. The line doesn't seem any darker than yesterday, still really faint. Is this normal? I'm only 13 days past the day I think I conceived, (but that's not 100%) and my tests are the very sensitive ebay cheapies, I suppose it could be even less since ovulating...so I'm potentially only about 11 dpo.

It's very strange to be so early and not have any symptoms, I was violently sick right from 4 weeks last time and currently, not anything.

Christelle2207 Thu 06-Dec-12 08:27:05

dave up to two coffees is fine or three/ four teas. i have to have a coffee first thing then try to limit- have discovered decaff tea which tastes like the real thing- even dh is now converted!

ive done about 8 tests now, they get darker every 2 or so days but only ever so slightly. its not an exact science- remember the test sees how much hcg in your urine NOT how much hcg your body is producing.

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 09:21:54

Thanks Christelle, great to hear I can have an extra coffee or couple of teas later, ones just not enough!

About the decaff tea and coffee- You probably already know, but there are three different methods of decaffeination, the most popular method uses methylene chloride, which of course has been approved by the fda so most people don't mind using it but I'd rather not in pregnancy I think. Might be worth checking which ones use which. None of them remove all of the caffeine either. I believe rooiboos is completely caffeine free although I've never got round to trying it.

Good to hear about the hcg, thanks.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 06-Dec-12 09:27:19

Welcome Dave, I'm having only caffeine free stuff atm, only because I don't want to blame something stupid I've done if I have a mc again.
One cup of tea/coffee is fine, the only things I've noticed about it is apparently coffee shop stuff is stronger than the freeze dried granules so you're not supposed to have less of them.

Apparently the hcg in your body doubles roughly every 48hours so you're better off testing every other day, if you're only 11dpo it won't be massively dark for most people, should be really dark from about 16dpo...peeonastick has many (too many!) images of different brand tests at different days.

Christelle, please share the good decaff tea you drink? I've only found PG Tips decaff to be drinkable!

Huff, hope DS is better for you today!

I'm normally a size 8 and yesterday I had to bring out the size 12 trousers, bring on the bloating! Told the PIL yesterday because the 3+ had us feeling positive.

Hope everyone has a great, non-snowed in day!
Any exciting plans for the weekend?

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 09:51:32

I'm a fan of peeonastick Gary! That's how i know my very faint lines are indeed positives. The creater of the site is OBSESSED though, quite hilarious but very useful.

We don't have snow here (north west). I'm supposed to be going to a punk gig in Manchester tomorrow. Friends who have moved away are meeting us there and have specially booked a coach so we can get very drunk. So I'm not sure what I'm going to do about this yet, either cry it off or fake drink I think. Still haven't told the boyfriend the news so it's hard to decide.

Then Saturday I have a rare day off work so will be taking my DD to Chester zoo. So it's for the best I won't be drinking really.

What about you?

BraveLilBear Thu 06-Dec-12 09:53:11

I'm sticking with one filter/coffee shop coffee a day (usually a small or half cup in the morning, when I can face it) then decaff or water/hot water the rest of the day.

I tried cutting it out but got headaches, so figured it wouldn't hurt to stick with just the one to prevent that.

Exciting times GaryB you told in-laws! Congratulations grin how did they react?

Have decided we will tell my immediate family at Christmas - I'm going to get them all aunt/uncle/gran/grandad books but will 'properly' tell my parents on Christmas Eve. It's the first next generation child in the entire family (providing sister isn't secretly pg too) so want to make it special. DP's family have lots of next gen kids, including one to DP so won't be as big a deal to them (tho I think they'll still be excited for us).

Hello and welcome Dave... Like PP said, give it a few days then test again.

Nice to see so many people adopting the multiple POAS fascination - I did three. Just three. And my DP was like 'why do you feel the need to keep weeing on things?' Which I found rather amusing. If only he knew!

blondecat Thu 06-Dec-12 11:38:48


Checking in again after two lost ones. hmm
Had a positive test last Thursday morning and again Friday on day 30
Now onto 37 days and so far so good. I am keeping fingers and toes crossed all will go well at the obgyn appointment next Friday - 8 more days till I get to see if the bean is doing well.

Mummy to Marie age 2

zippyrainbowbrite Thu 06-Dec-12 11:54:30

Welcome Dave and Blonde!

Gary I usually drink the Clipper organic decaf tea and coffee - it is expensive compared to something like pg tips, but I like the taste and I'd rather have something that I know doesn't have chemicals. I only drink decaf anyway (caffine makes me go a bit hyper and then I just faint! blush ), so I usually just stock up when it's on offer.

I have an action packed weekend - I didn't think we'd actually start IVF until after Xmas, so took on a temporary Xmas retail job to keep me busy! I work 40 hours mon-fri, but it's an office job where I'm just sat on my butt all day mumsnetting and looking at baby stuff answering the phone. I used to work in retail, and love the atmospere at Xmas, so it will be fun, but I'm feeling sooo tired I don't know how I'll cope! Fortunately, they've cut my hours down from what I was originally planned in for, so it's only 3 saturdays to do now.

Sunday is DH's birthday, so we're going out for the day with friends - perfect excuse for me not to drink as I'll drive so he can have a few! grin

zippyrainbowbrite Thu 06-Dec-12 11:59:28

Also, at some point over the weekend I have to buy a new bra - all of my underwire ones are digging in, and the couple of non-underwired ones are a bit ahem flimsey!

What I really need is a completely unflattering granny bra - poor DH will be distraught as last month he bought me a load of lovely new Victorias Secret underwear to cheer me up, which is now sat abandoned!

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 06-Dec-12 12:05:33

zippy, haven't tried Clipper!
I have Twinings English Breakfast & Everyday..both the decaff versions taste rank, I may have to send DH out to buy some.
Glad your hours are cut (although less money sucks), 1st trimester tiredness is the worst.
Ahhh, 9 months of designated driver-ing, early happy birthday to Mr.Zippy!

Welcome blondecat!

Bear, MIL asked if 'we meant to get pg again so quickly?', have sworn her to secrecy (she told the world about my MC) & if she doesn't keep it a secret I'll be pissed.
Just three tests? <hands medal to Bear >

Dave (hurrah for another pg bloke btw!), will your boyfriend twig you're pg if you don't drink?
Enjoy the gig & the zoo!

No snow in belfast either but its frickin freezin (mr bigglesworth) and im off work snd at home with DS so crankin heating and trying to entertain him.at home this morn! May wrap up under a.million layers and brave park later

dave - enjoy zoo! Im going on 20th with sil & ds, get to visit santa and see.moneys unwrapping presents, shd be great!! Im having one tea or coffee a day, drinking Lipton Moroccan tea or apple&cinnamon rest.of the time

zippy - was just thinking about new bras this mornung. Hate lack of underwire cos i have fairly big boobs and they dont look great without a bit of support but i figure i can still do underwiring for nights out etc and proper comfy ones for work&hanging out at home!!

gary / brave - i got my v unexpected bfp on 23rd dec in 09 and we ended up spilling the beans on xmas day so i kind of want to do that again. After mmc in summer tho im a bit more wary this time, dont want to get ppl excited tilafter booking scan but if bad sickness kicks in im sure i.wont be able to.keep it a secret anyway!!

Hormones ALL OVER place today. Normally get on great with mil but she jas thrown.an.ill timed spanner in works re our xmas plans this year and normally i'd be mildly frustrated but still just try and work out a conpromise solution with DH but flew off handle this morning...so cross and then weepy. Geel like a teenager, hormones dictating all emotional reactions lol best be v careful and diplomatic in work and with family over next few weeks or im.liable to start ww3!!

I totally failed to give up caffeine in my last pregnancy, but I'm completely caffeine-free now. Fortunately I hate tea & coffee, but I was addicted to Pepsi max & I know that if I had even one glass I'd be back on litres of the stuff a day.

Nightwish Thu 06-Dec-12 13:18:25

Can I get the medal for the least poas?
I only did 1!

I am on my second cup of tea today, I don't think I would manage in this cold weather without it.

shellshock7 Thu 06-Dec-12 13:41:40

Hey everyone smile

I dont drink coffee, so just the odd cuppa for me, must be alright surely!

Bit crampy again today sad I don't like it wish it would stop, I'd take throwing up over this anyday!

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 14:10:53

Gary Oh absolutely he'd suss, I wasn't planning on not telling him, (in fact I'm telling him this evening) but my friends would def twig! I might suggest the boyfriend drives and we give our coach tickets away, and say I'm not drinking in solidarity? It's that or fake drinking, anti-b's wouldn't cut it, they know I'd drink anyway! I've been planning a name change for a while too, Dave can be quite unnerving!

snowshine are you going to Chester too? I think they have lanterns in the gardens for christmas too which should be nice. They had an ice rink last year. I will more than likely go in the holidays too as we have membership and I never get to fit it in during term time so we have to make the most of it. I've just got the quarterly magazine and they have had a baby boom, elephant, giraffe, orangutan, okapi and a few others smile

shellshock I'm a bit crampy today too, very dull and not painful but def aware of it. It's so strange having no other symptoms, I must have found out later last time.

eggflipped It was diet coke for me in my last pregnancy. That and creme eggs. I was completely nutritionally unaware at that stage of my life and I'm quite guilty about it now. It'll be hard to turn it down but I won't be drinking it. It's more the sweeteners I'm worried about tbh.

nightwish you are restrained! So, I just did my second test of the day, 7 I think in total now. Nipped out and bought some Boots digitals and it has (strangely to my surprise) come up PREGNANT. Much better to show that to the boyfriend than get him to scrutinize the faint cheapies. It all feels real now though.

BraveLilBear Thu 06-Dec-12 14:43:48

Exciting times for all those heading to zoos and gigs! I have a monster day Saturday with three parties back-to-back (one for a one-year-old so should manage that one fine without anyone sussing the not drinking).

DPs works Xmas do is in a casino so may mocktail it - no-one knows me anyway so wouldn't be as hard. After that tho will be the real test - meeting DPs friendship group for Xmas/birthday drinks. They drink a lot. Worst thing is, last time I saw them was for a Halloween party and I wasn't drinking then either (driving and didn't fancy it after mc) so may have to mocktail it again and make sure DP/I buy all my drinks.

Nightwish I hereby hand you the medal of restraint! That's impressive! I would ahve stuck with one but wanted to digi date it to monitor HCG. That's my excuse and I'm sticking with it!

Gary shock that's a bit blunt! I pray she keeps her mouth shut this time... for her sake wink

Weather report... bit of snow in East Yorkshire, not enough to initiate snow closures though. Freexing cold, mind!

RuckAndRoll Thu 06-Dec-12 14:44:17

Hi all,

Can I come and join you all here? You all seem so experienced and further on than me!

I only got my BFP this morning and got it confirmed by the GP later this morning (had to go ASAP to reduce and change my medication). Currently 4 weeks, was expecting AF to show up yesterday, and now all this grin due 15th August according to the doctor but if it's anything like its dad it'll turn up late when it feels like it saying 'oh sorry were you all waiting for me or something?!'

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 15:04:57

Hi ruckandroll Congrats! My EDD is the 16th august, (going by most probably night of conception, as I hadn't had periods for over a year, so could be even later!) I feel like that too, so crazy to know so early isn't it?

RuckAndRoll Thu 06-Dec-12 15:48:50

I got all excited when the doc gave me the phone number to get my booking in app and first scan, I then realised the scan won't be until the start of Feb which is ages away.

Not the best of timing for us, DH is on a fixed term contact that finished on 31st August, fingers crossed they extend it otherwise he'll be starting a new job with a very little baby at home.

Sugarkane Thu 06-Dec-12 19:01:06

zippy you need some hot milk bras, pretty and very comfy, lived in them for nearly 5 years now (different ones ovbiously)

Sugarkane Thu 06-Dec-12 19:01:20


sugar - i love hotmilk stuff too! tho also a big fan of bravado - not the prettiest of maternity gear but so so so comfy!!! can't wait to dig those out again wink ahhhh flannel pjs and a bravado bra, how i've missed u

gary - no, belfast zoo for me. Chester zoo christmas sounds lovely!

ruck - i know, i got to self refer to caseload midwives i saw last time before mmc but i still have to see gp on 20th dec to get official 'hospital referral' and i won't have booking in til around 11 weeks. And I'm only 4+4 now...so long wait!! Oh well at least there's plenty happening over xmas to keep our minds of it!

ScubaSarah Thu 06-Dec-12 19:52:30

Hello, just found this thread and I'm afraid I'm too lazy to read the past 202 messages.... Congrats to us all!
I'm due Aug 1, got my BFP nearly 2 weeks ago and currently torn between feeling pleased my symptoms are only tiredness, backache and sore boobs (up 2 cup sizes) and wishing I felt worse to prove to me I'm REALLY up the duff! I can't wait for the first scan and am thinking of paying for 7.5 wk if I could get the MW to call me back!
Looking forward to sharing this amazing experience with you all x

Hi all.
Anyone else feeling totally freezing all the time? I'm 6 weeks today and for the past week I've been cold to the core!!!
Could everyone help me out with abbreviations please! I get DS,DD ect and have just figured out POAS, FRER and MC but no idea about the others! Please help so I can keep up!!! Lol
Thanks all!!

sunflower - yep freezin!! Electric blanket on bed, having to keep it on all night. Fair enough it is cold but this is def a pg thing! Funny cos by the end we'll be a lot fatter and it'll be the height of summer so we'll all be roasted!!

RuckAndRoll Fri 07-Dec-12 07:10:58

sunflower I have been freezing the last week or so but as had DH (husband) so I think it's just the fact we live in Scotland where it's pretty cold at the moment! Ok so abbreviations, there is a tab at the top of the page, just under the purple bar that has a link for abbreviations. But a few to keep you going:

DH/DD/DS/DM/DMiL etc - Dear/Darling Husband/Daughter/Son/Mother/Mother-in-Law etc

BFP - Big Fat Positive
BFN - Big Fat Negative
AF - Aunt Flo (Period)

Is it bad that I POAS three times yesterday? The first one a cheap internet one, so shocked by the BFP, did a slightly more expensive one at work, and DH wanted me to do a digital one that says the number of weeks as well. Slightly amazed they all still say pregnant this morning and it's not a dream!

BelissimaLol Fri 07-Dec-12 07:20:33

I've been freezing too. Not sure if its pg related.
I have also poas quite a lot if I'm honest. Last one was wed and I got 3+ on digi so now I'm determined to stop.
I have a scan next Friday when hopefully ill be 6+5. I'm already scared!

DaveMccave Fri 07-Dec-12 07:43:38

I have been hot and cold a lot, never consistent. My heating is constantly up and down.

I did my 9th test this morning blush I went out and bought a boots 2 pack of digitals yesterday so I didn't have to show the boyfriend really faint cheapy dipstick lines. The display disappeared after an hour so I did the second just before he came round. Then I just did one of the cheap dipsticks this morning as I have several left I might as well get the reassurance it's getting darker as I have no symptoms yet. It was darker this morning finally smile . So thank you to those who advised me hcg doubles every 2 days and not 1.

ScubaSarah Fri 07-Dec-12 08:29:15

Congrats ladies!
I'm also feeling the cold so much more but then the night sweats are horrendous too. Blummin body can't make it's mind up!
I'm sat on the train on the way to work wrapped up in my pashmina like its a blankie!! shock

Sugarkane Fri 07-Dec-12 10:23:28

Im cold but also in Scotland, which doesnt help. Luckily I work from home so dont have to go out unless I really have to, just means I have to get dp to do the nursery run.

Christelle2207 Fri 07-Dec-12 10:32:35

Good morning.

Well quite an interesting debate about the chemicals in decaf tea - have to admit it never occurred to me that there might be nasty chemicals at play. Anyway I am on sainsbury's own brand fairtrade decaf tea which tastes completely fine - even DH now drinks it. I have looked at the packet and no nasty chemicals mentioned (just says 100% tea) but will be more vigilant next time in the shop!

Have my mw appointment - I think. Seems to be organised by a "children's centre" rather than the hospital. Anyway going on the 28th December which suits me fine because I'm off work so don't need to make awkward excuses.

Im either hot or cold all of the time. Bizarre. I've also been feeling a bit light headed and faint, though better when I eat!

So I haven't really had much boob soreness but one of them has definitely got bigger!! Is this normal - I mean for one but not the other to enlarge. Presumably the other will catch up at some point otherwise I will be seriously lopsided.

Did yet another test yesterday - my 9th or so - and the test line is finally as dark as the control line, hurray!

Christmas do later, I've already said I'm being a lightweight but I expect several eyebrows to be raised. They can speculate all they like, I just hope they don't ask me any awkward questions directly.


BraveLilBear Fri 07-Dec-12 10:34:05

Hello and welcome ScubaSarah and SunflowerLady and congrats!

I'm cold, but work in a cold office and it's freezing outside so not reading too much into it. I actually think my temperature is slightly higher than normal...

Got my booking-in appt thru for 3pm on Xmas Eve which is exciting. Still weighing up having a private reassurance scan at around 8 weeks. I'd feel so much more confident sharing the news at Christmas if I had seen a heartbeat!

Toughie. Anyone else thinking of getting one?

Christelle - I have my xmas do later as well. I am going to arrive a bit late so hopefully people have had a few, and don't notive the lack of drinking!

Was really sad this morning - my jeans don't do up. I've been size 8 for years and years and didn't expect my boobs and belly to increase so early on. Utterly broke until 14th, when I am going to have to buy new bras, and potentially some warm tights so I can switch to skirt/tights/warm boots combos for now!

DH keeps teasing me - I am having a lot of dizzy/faint spells and have been passing out a fair bit too. His diagnosis is the sudden increase in the size of my boobs! In all seriousness though, any tips on coping with the fainting? Managed to pass out in the kitchen yesterday and am counting my lucky stars that I didn't hurt myself other than a bit of a bruise on my head...

BraveLilBear Fri 07-Dec-12 10:43:08

Waves all that fainting seems unpleasant sad I've been getting a bit light headed but nothing as dramatic as that.

Tips I've read elsewhere and from a friend who was pg recently and suffered with it, were to move around slowly, especially when standing up or leaning down. The quicker you move the higher the chance of getting faint.

Also, make sure you're drinking loads and loads of water. Fluids help with low blood pressure, literally adds volume to the blood, it's why they make you down a pint <of squash, ahem> before giving blood.

If you're really struggling, might be worth talking to GP...

Pingu82 Fri 07-Dec-12 11:42:01

Hello and big congrats to those with new BFPs!

Waves - I have been feeling dizzy too but haven't actually fainted. Hope your heads ok today?

My other symptoms are extreme tiredness but don't know if this is because I've got. Horrible cold and not sleeping properly, luckily at home in bed today rather than at work.

I read the discussion some of you were having about getting non-underwired bras. Is this just a comfort thing or is there a reason for avoiding underwiring in pg? Boobs are sore but haven't grown (yet!)

Had an early scan yesterday due to having some bleeding (i would have been 6+1) Everything was fine and even saw a teeny tiny heartbeat! All quite surreal smile
Brave - before having scan yesterday I was also planning on paying for scan at 8 weeks, partly because I just couldn't wait til 12 to know if everything was ok and also because we wanted to tell family at Xmas and I wanted to have some reassurance before doing that. I'd still like to as know risk of mc really reduces if everything ok at 8wks but oh thinks it's a bit ott now we've had a scan. have you decided what to do yet?

RuckAndRoll Fri 07-Dec-12 11:46:54

All this fainting doesn't sound good. It's a specislit subject of mine on a normal day (been passing out fairly regularly since I was a child), move slowly, espcecially when standing up, bending down etc, plenty of water and food little and often to keep your sugar levels up.

I'm quite shocked at how quickly the symptoms have come on. Felt fine yesterday morning, a little bit off last night, and by now retching, queezy, light headed, really know something's going on now.

BraveLilBear Fri 07-Dec-12 11:50:05

Great news on seeing the heartbeat Pingu sorry you had the worry of bleeding first though.

Need to discuss it with OH over the weekend. No idea how to approach it. Last time we had a row talked about it, he said that if I had the money then fine. He understood it would be a huge reassurance but wished I could just be positive anyway.

Thing is, I'm not flush as we just had to buy a new boiler and Xmas is coming etc. Believe it or not, I am being positive! But lots of cramps recently has got me wobbling. Have now stopped taking full prenatals in favour of folic acid only to see if that eases cramps (I think some have been constipation/wind etc from iron)... but still!

Christelle2207 Fri 07-Dec-12 12:17:04

pingu brilliant news on heartbeat! My understanding is that you can't guarantee being able to pick it up this early (even if it is there) so extra good news.

bear yes am probably going to have a private scan around christmas. they cost about £99 around here. Can't decide if it should be just before or just after christmas though, just before and it could be good but obviously will ruin our christmas if bad. DH thinks I should just wait it out but is willing.

Never mind morning sickness I am getting evening sickness. Start the day ok and go rapidly downhill in the afternoons.

Same here Christelle. Start off fine then slowly decline as the day goes on. Would like to fast forward to End of Jan please!! Only prob then is that I will start having to think about next August, had a horrible labour with my first and had to jump overboard without a life jacket to make the decision for number two. Would love to discuss an elective c section but hear docs and midwives aren't really up for it :-(

Thanks for the abbreviations all!!!

At work now wishing was at home in bed!

pingu - fab news about the heartbeat!! Underwiring in.bras bad for.milk ducts and soft tisdue in boobs that becomes more engorged with blood etc in.later pg. In early pg its mostly about comfort - bought a super comfy seam free one for a fiver in Sainsburys this morning lol

brave - i had a scan last time at 7+5 last time and everything seemed ok but unfortunately baby stopped developing a week later and mmc was picked up at 10+4. REALLY not trying to.be a gloom.merchant but all an early scan shows is if the baby is ok that particular day which is no guarantee that it will still.be ok tomorrow. Early scan made me assume everything was fine so.mmc was a terrible shock. Im sure that wont happen to you but if money is an issue (& working part time so.i can.look after DS im def in.the same boat) i probably wouldnt bother - there wont be.much to
see and it only gives you pretty limited reassurance. I'm saving my money for some new maternity clothes!!

waves - id really slimmed down for my wedding a few months before i.got.pg with ds and i remember feeling like that too! Not so thin this time lol in reassuring.news first few weels is just water retention and bloat, usually calms down again after that for about a month and then around 18 weeks (well for number one, earlier after that) you start to properly show and thats you!!

AmelieRose Fri 07-Dec-12 16:35:00

Hi everyone! Just marking my place. I was on the July thread, but have been for an early scan today and turns out I'm less upduffed than I thought (5 1/2 weeks instead of 7 1/2), so will be due sometime at the beginning of August.

Can't work it out at all though, and have another scan on the 17th so will hold off adding myself to the stats until then.

Lovely to see so many of us here already. Let's keep thinking positive! smile

Hi Amelie - good luck for your scan on 17th smile

I am now bracing myself for my work xmas do, and how exactly I am going to manage the whole not drinking thing (particularly as it is free drinks all night). Not because I want to drink, but because everyone else will be, and people are bound to ask why not. My very lame excuse is that I have to take the DCs swimming at 8.30 am confused Hoping I can find something nice to wear that fits, now boobs are bigger and tummy bloated. Keeping my fx that the dizzyness/fainting stays away too.

Anyone have any nice plans for the weekend? Tomorrow I am very excited as SiL is looking after all the children for the afternoon so DH and I have a whole afternoon to ourselves. We are going to do no DIY at all, and just snuggle up to watch a couple of films in peace and quiet.

AmelieRose Fri 07-Dec-12 17:11:18

Thanks waves. I sympathise with boobs and tummy growth. One of my friends from work today (who knows I'm preggers) said I was looking 'thick of waist' today. She then hastily backtracked when she saw my face, but then my other friend said 'no, I don't think you look thick in the waist, but your boobs look MASSIVE!' and stared at them for about five minutes.

They are usually pretty big, so they are getting massive. No need for shouty capitals-tone yet though! wink

DaveMccave Fri 07-Dec-12 17:20:53

Hi everyone. Gosh i don't know how you all keep track of who to address in each post.

As fore the early scans, pingu fantastic news about the heartbeat. snowshine I'm sorry for your loss last time. I have heard though, that usually when a heartbeat is detected your risk of miscarriage dramatically reducues. So If you've seen the heartbeat already, I wouldn't waste money on an 8 week one, as that is just trying to detect what you already have ifywim?

Good luck to those mock drinking on nights out tonight! We decided to drive and lose the money we'd already paid on coach tickets tonight, BF doesn't want to drink without me, and it's pointless us getting home so late on the last coach when we are up early and sober! And this gives us an excuse not to drink with the friends we meet with. Normally I would have a few drinks anyway if BF driving, perhaps I'll have a couple of orange juices and say they have vodka in?! I'm not sure how fun a sweaty crowded punk gig is going to be when sober!

I've found out today that I have access to an independent midwife service for free, funded by the NHS. It's a pilot scheme in my area. So one to one care all the way through, appointments whenever I want-evenings weekends at home or in their clinic, scans in a clinic and not hospital with no long waits, and they are pro home birth and challenging of the medical model, offer free hypnobirthing class and others too. So I'm very excited about that smile Miles apart from the last time.

Can I ask when everyone's symptoms started? I'm very paranoid that I don't have any of the obvious ones yet. I'm 4 weeks today.

Chuckaluck Fri 07-Dec-12 18:31:02

Hi all, I have just discovered this forum! I am 6 weeks tomorrow, due on 3 August. I am seeing midwife for first appt on 17 Dec. Feeling a bit nervous about it all as I don't have any symptoms really. Can feel stretching in my lower stomach, can't sort out my body temperature (but think that's just the weather!) and am very tired but no sickness, no increase in boob size so feeling a bit scared. Had absolutely no bleeding though so should I be worried?? Anyone else feel like thierry stomach is stretching? Also thinking of an early scan so we can tell people at Christmas but it's £90 near to us and we dont have that lying around! smile

BelissimaLol Fri 07-Dec-12 18:45:06

Had letter with booking app for 21st dec and scan on 22nd jan! Very exciting.
I agree on reassurance scans. I'm not sure I'd have one as I think it could give me false hope. Having said that I have a scan next Friday which will no doubt give me hope anyway!
If underwire bras feel comfortable is it ok to wear them at this point?

Chuckaluck Fri 07-Dec-12 19:06:12

Hi Belissima, when did u first see your midwife to get your letter today then? I have made the appt with the midwife on 17 Dec, sort of assumed that was the booking in appt???

BelissimaLol Fri 07-Dec-12 19:09:23

I went to the gp on Monday and was sent for scan then. Doc said she would do the mw referral and I got letter today. I've no idea how this works!

Chuckaluck Fri 07-Dec-12 19:35:28

Me neither. It's so confusing! I went to docs on Monday abs he just said he could do nothing and I had to see midwife!

Hi everyone!
I had to POAS again this morning because I wasn't feeling sick. (but the stick expires next year, so if all goes well there's no point saving it, and it was just a pound shop one anyway).
I'm having a scan on Monday, so hopefully everything will be ok and I'll get some idea of how up duffed I am. Once I know I'll add myself to the stats.

RuckAndRoll Fri 07-Dec-12 20:07:24

All this talk of seeing midwives and scans, going to be ages until mine. I was told by the GP to phone for a booking in appointment and scan appointment, first at 8-10weeks and scan 12-14 weeks. At this rate, neither will be until after the holidays.

The nausea has really kicked in this evening -joy.

Christelle2207 Fri 07-Dec-12 20:10:58

Well I survived the work christmas do- started at 1 and I left at half seven. Turns out whole officr has been convinced that im pg for ages- they actually confronted me head on (in a nice way) because the not drinking was the icing on the suspicions cake. Anyway I said a flat NO then said the truth is I'd like to be, but have been trying for ages (true). That shut them up and brought sympathetic looks. Didnt want to lie but was forced to, my own mother doesnt know yet. Anyway I had no more stick after that. smile

Sugarkane Sat 08-Dec-12 00:06:30

No plans for the weekend as yet, may have to visit the in laws and have 4 Christmas presents to get so hopefully that will be sorted. Such an exciting life I lead

I show early, have never got to 12 weeks without people knowing by looking at me, and I am far from a stick, I also show more and my babies get bigger with each pregnancy.

My boobs where massive anyway as I am still bf, but now the are huge, more new bras are needed.

Christelle good handling of the situation, why do people ask? I just dont understand I mean if they think you are but you havent told its obvious you dont want them to know yet. Good luck to all hiding it at parties etc over Christmas

nicnic79 Sat 08-Dec-12 01:09:34

added myself to the stats

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)

Well handled Christelle! I hope you had fun.
I started a new job when I was PG last time. I had to wear a very baggy uniform and I wasn't showing at all anyway. One of the bosses met me for the first time a few weeks into the job, sat next to me in the coffee room and said, "Are you with child?". I was so shocked I just blurted out "Yes, but I haven't told anyone yet".

Chuckaluck Sat 08-Dec-12 06:03:14

added myself to the stats

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!

RuckAndRoll Sat 08-Dec-12 08:58:54

added myself to the stats too.

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
Shellshock7 DC2 10 August
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)

The lying and hiding is going to be really hard for me. Well done everyone surviving Christmas do's! Luckily I don't drink much anyway and am a fussy eater so that shouldn't give me away.

My boss asked me outright a few weeks ago if I was pregnant and then if I wanted to be - I told him that was a really insensitive thing to ask someone and he felt really guilty - now I am I feel bad.

I've had to tell someone at work due to the job I do but luckily she's 7 months pregnant so I trust her to keep it quiet.

DaveMccave Sat 08-Dec-12 10:20:07

chuckaluck how many weeks are you? I'm only 4 and have the same as you, slight stretching feeling, no other symptoms yet. Even my boobs are fine.

belissima Underwires were a no go in my last pregnancy over 5 years a go. I have heard that now advice has changed, they are fine if they are still comfortable, particularly in the early stages. Probably best to ask someone who has done this more recently/midwife though to check smile I can't afford new wireless bras at current though so it's wires or hanging free!

Got away with mock drinking last night I think. Bought a couple of alcohol free beers and poured them into a pint glass. DId have a friend try to force some drinks on me and kept shoving her glass in my face during the gig, I just pretended to take mouthfuls. wink

shellshock7 Sat 08-Dec-12 10:47:03

Wow this thread moves quick! DS is in the middle of his first sickness bug sad so not been on for a coupla days, I'll try and catch up!

Congrats to all the new BFPs smile

dave I've read that the cramps get worse with each pregnancy so maybe that's why we never had them before...it's made me relax abt them a bit as well.

The midwife service sounds good too, you'll have to keep us update how it's going smile

I'm not an obsessive POASer once I've got the positive, mine is doing it way too early wink

I'm off to a gig on Tues, I last saw this band at 38 weeks pregnant with DS so am looking forward to being able to enjoy them a bit more freely this time!

sunflower my extremities are freezing but my body roasting?! Very odd grin

waves my fav denim skirt doesn't fit already (only 5 weeks!) so I've asked DH for a maternity one for Xmas. Luckily I have bras in all sizes from the bust increases last time.

I had low BP last pregnancy and fainted a lot, drs advice was to lie down when it came on, very useful in meetings!

pingu glad the scan was good news!

brave I had an early scan last time and am goin to try not too this time, it's hard tho!

ruck my scan and booking in are all done together at 12 weeks, feels like a long wait! Luckily Xmas will make the weeks fly by.

Nothing much has changed for me, still cramps on and off and got lower back pain last night, all seems positive tho so remaining chilled. Hope you all have a good weekend smile

Chuckaluck Sat 08-Dec-12 11:40:45

Hi Dave, I am 6 weeks today and my first pregnancy so all new to me! I can't describe the feeling as anything else apart from it feels like my insides are plasticine and someone is stretching it longer and longer!! Very weird! Trying to chill and not to worry about lack of symptoms but want to tell our families at Christmas but worried about something going wrong! So much to worry about... I must chill out! confused

Flight socks can help with feeling faint. And not standing still - either keep moving or sit down. If your calf muscles are working, they're helping pump the blood back to the rest of your body. If you're just standing still the blood can pool in your legs.

Hello everyone and thanks for the anti-fainting tips smile I do however think that my plans for getting a day's skiing in when we are up in Scotland later this month, will have to be shelved.

I got through the xmas do with the "have to be up early for the DCs swimming lesson" excuse no bother. That is pretty much it for me now as DH and I don't have a particularly thrilling social life.

I can't wait til I get paid Friday - I am soooo in need of new bras. DH woke up this morning, took one look at me, and said "where did THOSE come from" then starting patting my tummy saying well done little one

Christelle2207 Sat 08-Dec-12 14:46:14

waves gutted you can't ski, is it because of the fainting? I am still planning on going to France next month.

I have been feeling a bit faint, not actually fainted yet though. However the past I had fainting spells and was told to take salt - packets of crisps sorted me out!

Lol at boobs growing. My right has, but not my left!!!

RuckAndRoll Sat 08-Dec-12 15:08:00

My DH has been complaining the boobs haven't grown yet, it was the bit about pregnancy he was looking forward to! Told him to give it time still a while to go.

Went to a Christmas fete at our church this morning, trying to sneak off to the loos to be sick was interesting, think 1 or 2 people may have guessed but they didn't say anything.

Hope everyone's having a good weekend smile

Silver15 Sat 08-Dec-12 18:17:42

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to all the new ladies.

I had a xmas do last night. Kept very busy dancing no one noticed I wasn't drinking.

I have very bad evening sickness and feel very tired. A friend offered look after DCs today so spent day in bed with DH looking after me.

bunchofposy Sat 08-Dec-12 18:24:30

Hello, just thought I'd say hello. I'm a bit nervous about joining as I joined March in June, and had to leave in July sad But I got my BFP a few days ago, and so that would make me due 16th Aug, all being well (fx fx fx)

Hi bunchofposy. Fingers crossed for you this time.

huffpuff75 Sat 08-Dec-12 20:06:14

fingers crossed bunchofposy - I was nervous too for the same reason, but thinking positive is the best way forward. And it is a good place to let out some pregnancy whinges when you can't in RL.

christelle my left is bigger than my right. My theory is that I sleep on my left side so all the growing has drifted to that side. Although the right one is still mahooosive compared to normal. wavesandsmiles my DH did something v similar this morning, verging on a round of applause at one point.

Well done everyone who has managed to get away with the mock drinking. I have a night out coming up with toddler group mums and I just know they are going to guess. I told one or two when I had MC last time as it was the same week as one announced she was PG and I was a bit upset. Need a great excuse. It is a meal so it isn't even as if I can have a pretend one on the go and keep abandoning it in a dark corner of a pub or something. Because it is an all mum thing (pretty much) I'm sure they will out me.

beckie90 Sat 08-Dec-12 22:58:50

Havnt been on in a while had a lot to catch up on lol.

Congrats to all the new bfps smile

I havnt told barely anyone that im pregnany I darent sooo scared lol, my mum will go mad, although I think she has an idea. I'm expecting my 3rd and I'm only 22, it was a major shock but since I've dine 11 tests I've kinda got used to the shock now lol. The hormones are terrible this time. Went out for a birthday meal last night and just burst out crying my dmil said your pregnant arnt you? I knew it. So pretty sure my own mum knows as she's known with my last 2 ds's before telling her...Ayyy dear xx

Silver15 Sun 09-Dec-12 07:40:38

Hello Ladies,

Just a quick question, has anyone gone off sex. I'm really struggling. Can't stand being touched. This is new as in both previous pg's it was the opposite. I was kind of looking forward to it as I remember it being brilliant in the past but my body or hormones are screaming otherwise.

Silver15 Sun 09-Dec-12 07:42:49

Hi bunchofposy! Welcome and fx for you.

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 09-Dec-12 07:50:52

Silver, not gone off sex but we're not having it until the 2nd trimester...which has us both going up the walls! But I'd rather have nowt to blame a mc on.

Welcome chuck & posy and anyone I've missed (thread moves fast!)
Well done to everyone who has managed to pull off a night of not drinking without anyone noticing!

beckie, are you going to have a sit down with your mum & talk it out with her? Are you living at hers atm?

waves, hooray for boobies (to quote the bloodhound gang), not so hooray for the fainting & not skiing, I had a blackout yesterday (low blood pressure) so I'm going to eat more iron rich food & hope it helps.

Had a feeling on Friday that this pg was going to end, but feeling more positive as I feel really sick today...going to arrange GP appointment this week (for next week) instead of after Christmas.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

Sugarkane Sun 09-Dec-12 08:56:51

Yes im off sex nothing new for me in the first trimester, although when I do get in the mood the orgasms are amazing, best part of being pregnant that (well nearly the best)

becki my mum has guessed too although she hasnt come directly out and asked me, we had a conversation where she kept telling me to tell her what I needed to, I denied I had anything to tell and it ended with her saying oh you're not ready yet, well when you are dont hold back. She lives 300 miles away and we havent seen each other for ages but she still knows.

MIL will be a nightmare to tell, she is still asking when dp will be having the snip even though I have told her for the last 9 months that he wont be. Oh and she asks every week if I am pregnant and puts on a very worried face.

Wont be great telling my dad either I am his 3rd daughter pregnant at the minute think he may have a heart attack.

Sit down with your mum and sorry to be blunt but you are 22 and old enough to make your own decisions, its nothing really to do with her. This baby might not have been planned but that doesnt mean you wont cope or love he/she any less.

Will anyone be finding out the sex? I like my surprises so wont be again this time.

bunchofposy Sun 09-Dec-12 09:26:52

Thanks everyone grin I feel better about joining today, I'm pregnant right, even sharing the early worries with people is really nice.

Gary yay for feeling sick! Are you going to try and get an early scan?

Silver I haven't gone off sex but I'm wondering whether to try and avoid it til the 2nd trimester. What's everyone else doing?

beckie90 Sun 09-Dec-12 10:27:30

GARY, no me and dp have our own home, mum and dad live 5 min drive away. and I don't know I've not even thought about it, she questioned why I wasnt drinking Yesturday at a party and I just said oh I've had bacon this morn I'm really dehydrated so I'm drinking pop cause I'm thirsty. She looked at me strangely lol.

SUGARKANE, I know its what I have thought too, its not like I live at home with her, and have no support. Me and dp have our own home and got 2 boys together, we have been together over 5 years, oldest is 4 and youngest is 20 month, she knows I cope really well, and partner has a good job. My dad reacts worse, but my mum will be telling him not me lol. And I'm keeping this 1 a Suprise this time, I found out before with these 2, but I have 2 boys, and pretty certain this 1 is a boy too, so I just want a Suprise this time :-) xx

shellshock7 Sun 09-Dec-12 11:48:13

silver we never DTD all pregnancy last time blush Well until I was 10 days overdue and fed up! We were so scared of anything goin wrong this time we just opted out. We've discussed and are gonna try and get back to normal after the 20 12 week scan this time smile

sugarkane we will defo find out the sex, if we have another DS we have everything all ready but if its a DD I'm goin to have to start all over again with he nursery etc. and I'm of the thought that's its a surprise whenever you find out, I loved knowing last time , helped narrow down name choices and imagine what he would be like smile

Nightwish Sun 09-Dec-12 13:03:50

I will definitely be finding out the sex of this one again. Much easier to plan, and as with shell, if it is a DD I will need to buy loads more than for another DS.

RuckAndRoll Sun 09-Dec-12 15:31:16

Interesting to hear you're all finding out the sex, this is our first and we can't decide as it really makes no difference to us.

Is having sex in the first 12 weeks supposed to bad for the baby then? We're carrying on as normal (when I'm not throwing up), worrying I should be putting DH on a ban for a bit.

Christelle2207 Sun 09-Dec-12 16:03:07

I don't think any evidence to suggest sex in first trimester is bad but I understand some don't want to take the risk. We've had none since BFP, mostly as I feel so rough in the evenings.

I actually ran a 10 mile race this morning, some of you may be shocked about that. Did have serious second thoughts but decided to go anyway, take it easy and not push myself too far (have done that before in races and collapsed), finished waaay off my pb for that distance but really enjoyed it and felt great. Hope to carry on running for a long as I can, my best friend ran several miles several times a week until 38 or so weeks. No way am I doing that. Any other runners out there?

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 09-Dec-12 16:43:45

I don't believe I've ever read anything from a doctor saying 1st trimester sex is a bad thing, but Zita West (fertility guru) says it's one to avoid for those pg after mc/if you're spotting (but I assume that's more to do with your cervix being open if you're spotting & therfore prone to infection; zita west linky

Well done on the running Christelle! I used to run, but that stopped after I had DS & I was going to take it up after Christmas (was going to get a pair of barefoot trainers for Christmas)!

bunch, still can't decide about the early scan, plus point is we see it's in there & going well...negative is if we lose it between that & 12wk scan I'll be devasted. You?

Haven't decided on finding out the sex, we didn't last time so it might be 'nice' to go into labour knowing the sex!

beckie, do you have a gut feeling yours is a boy? I've told DH I think we're having a girl (even though I know it's neither yet!), I 'knew' DS was a boy even bought all boys stuff (MIL thought I was mad).
Hope your parents are happy for you when you tell them, sounds like you're in an excellent place to have another!

beckie90 Sun 09-Dec-12 17:08:02

I think I have a gut feeling lol, I Defo did with my other 2 ds's but its more to the fact that my OH side havnt had any girls mil has 4 boys his brothers all have boys we have boys, my OH dads parents are catholics and had quite a lot of children only 1 was a girl. So I'm pretty sure this 1 will be a boy 2 xx

DaveMccave Sun 09-Dec-12 17:26:43

waves to everyone new.

bunchofposy we have the same EDD smile what symptoms do you have at the moment, if any?

I feel much better after reading a website last night that said that it's more uncommon to feel any until 5 or 6 weeks so I'm relaxing now. Starting to feel a bit more tired and light headed at times and tests are definitely getting darker so I'm starting to relax.

I won't be finding out the sex I don't think. I did with my DD, I was so desperate for a boy I needed to know if it wasn't. blush This time round although admittedly I'd love a boy still, I am happy enough to have either and I think a surprise after a long hard labour would be amazing and make that birth announcement even more exciting.

sploj Sun 09-Dec-12 19:35:09

Hi again after long break. I'm sick as a pig and eating like one too, and sleeping 12 hours (if allowed) compared to my normal 6. I feel like I'm showing already at six or seven weeks. hadn't expected to feel like this because although I had morning sickness with dd1(5) it was nothing like this. Taking bets on twins wink

Silver15 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:38:36

Wow Shellshock, I don't think DH would agree to a ban all pg. I have 2 DS and in both pgs was active throughout and Infact doubled the effort in the last weeks as I was told it was good for preparing the body for birth. MW also advised more dtd in the last weeks to bring on labour unfortunately both DS went overdue so it definitely didn't work.
Back to the first trimester I have never heard that it is bad. Always believed that the baby is safely tucked away.

I would like to find out sex as I have 2 boys already. In the past didn't find out. Not that if it is another boy will love it less. I'm just grateful I'm pg though it will be nice to have a girl. Always wanted one.

zen1980 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:49:10

hey everyone just wondered if I can squeeze in? Have just found out this week am pregnant which is a bit of a surprise as me an dh had kind of decided would be a new year thing. Haven't taken the pill for a while an totally thought we had completely missed it this month but obviously not!!
Have a dc of nearly 3 so we have our hands full. Edd of 6th Aug ish so am quite looking forward to . a summer baby this time fingers crossed.
We haven haven' t told anyone yet but have decided will do shortly as before dc I had a MMC and was good to have their support x

Congratulations to you zen

Has been a weekend in bed for me - still not managing to go a day without passing out, although today it was mid tidying up DDs bedroom and thankfully collapsed on a HUGE pile of teddies. Only a week left at work before a whole 3 week break which is just what I need!

I think we are not going to find out what we are having. I had a DS and a DD, DH has 2 DSs. So, whilst DH is really hoping for a DD, I am not really bothered either way. I think, especially if my pg continues like this (sickness, fainting and feeling totally bleurgh) a surprise would be something lovely to look forward to. And we have NO baby stuff at all, given that my youngest will be a month off 8 when this one is due, so it is starting from scratch regardless.

In terms of DTDing, absolutely no bans here. In fact, we have managed it more since we got the BFP than we did the couple of months before.

shellshock7 Sun 09-Dec-12 21:35:00

Sorry if I've alarmed anyone but there is absolutely no evidence sex can cause miscarriage that I have read, we were just very cautious after the MMC.

Silver I am sure anyone who has been thru it had the same awful emotional experience but I think I was quite unlucky with how my body dealt with it physically. I had v painful contractions for a long time (nowhere near as bad as labour but i didn't know that at the time!) and I think it frightened the hell out of DH and I certainly didn't want to do anything that I would blame myself for after so i was super super strict.

Defo more relaxed this time round, I even had a tiny small glass of vino for my birthday last night smile

katerinaemalina Sun 09-Dec-12 22:15:31

Can I join as well?
My story is first timer (eek!) but SUPER excited. Have just got married and have been broody for about 3 years now (am 32). Was very lucky to get preg first month of trying so now I'm really really nervous that something will go wrong. I've taken 2 tests now (preg 1-2 weeks, taken 3-4 days ago) and seeing doc on tues to confirm.
Symptom wise nothing really - fainted on sat though! Otherwise burping a lot, windy! a bit bloaty, felt a bit sick the other day but think more over nerves, headache - all these things could well just be non pregnancy too though!
I'll update Tues but cross fingers for me it's all a big yes. Tests are rarely wrong are they? I took two. Have resisted taking another one for now!!
My last period was 24th Oct. Came off pill about 4-5 months ago. Had 2x periods before got pregnat. Weren't super regular but about 38 day cycle.
Anyway enough wittering. I'm now wondering how to get out of christmas parties and nye!!!

RuckAndRoll Mon 10-Dec-12 07:15:23

Morning katerinaemalina welcome and congratulations!

This is my first too, it's hard to know whats down to pregnancy and what's just a normal day to day headache etc.

DH is very please to hear there is no evidence to say no sex for the first trimester! He accepts 'be careful' though.

Hope everyone is feeling ok this womderful Monday morning grin

Morning all and hi to all new ladies!

It's lovely to hear that our symptoms and
concerns are shared, makes the whole thing
less worrying and more normal!!

I'm just over 6 weeks now and my nausea seems
to be getting worse, bought anti-nausea bands
from Boots yesterday, they are going back!!!!
Feel like I have wasted £8.99! Perhaps they work
for some people :-(
Not managed to get myself out of the door to
work this morning and dreading ringing in AGAIN!
Maybe it's time I came clean!!

Told parents and in laws at the weekend so it's
feeling more real now!

Have a good day x

shellshock7 Mon 10-Dec-12 09:49:46

Small amount of brown discharge this morning....I know it can be perfectly normal but I'm very worried sad

BraveLilBear Mon 10-Dec-12 13:01:51

Hello and congrats and welcome to nicnic, Rucknroll, beckie and bunchofposy fingers tightly crossed for everyone!

Silver I'm with you... usually I'm the sex-crazed one who's always after it but now I've turned into some sort of weird cuddlemonster. Totally couldn't care less about sex, but loving extra cuddles and gentleness from DP.

We are averaging once a week somehow, but it's totally different, soft and gentle and really really loving. It's actually quite amazing as it's as if DP is connecting with me emotionally. Did find it quite a struggle last night though, physically. Very ahem dry, despite being moderately in the mood. Damn hormones!

Saw a pg friend at the weekend who's 12 weeks and she said the same - totally not up for sex.

Anyone else feeling sick all the time but not actually being sick? I feel like a total fraud!

GaryBuseysTeeth Mon 10-Dec-12 13:23:02

zen, are you the same one who posted on the just shagging ttc thread a few times recently?

Congrats & welcome to you & katerina!

Bear, I haven't thrown up either (didn't with DS) but am feeling very close to it...had a horrible gagging session brushing my teeth yesterday morning!

Booked private scan for next week, now I'm nervous about that...but holy fudge I'm pregnant shock

shell, have you had anymore? have you told DH/anyone?

BraveLilBear Mon 10-Dec-12 13:25:59

Ok I'm such an idiot - totally didn't realise there was another page of posts before posting! blush

Welcome to Katerinamalina! I'm a first-timer too, so totally understand all the stresses and worries and wonders!

To add to further discussion, we won't be finding out the sex - I really want it to be a surprise. Although having said that, we are both convinced it's a girl. Don't ask why! My friend who has a phenomenal hit rate also thinks it's a girl.

DP has a DS from previous and would love to have a girl, but neither of us is so hung up on it that it would be bad if it was a boy or vice versa.

BraveLilBear Mon 10-Dec-12 13:29:22

Glad it's not just me GaryB! Keep gagging while walking to work, and this morning coupled a gag with a weird burp. I mainly feel sick sick if I'm standing or walking, if I'm sitting I can handle it better.

Great news on the scan! How exciting! I think I'm back in the 'i'll be brave without a scan' boat, especially as it seems there's an emphasis on buying lots of pressies this year for the family... WIll see how I feel this week.

Hello ladies and congrats new BFPS! I've been incommunicado last few days, feeling really anxious and stressed about this pg after mmc in July. I knew I would be a lot more worried this time round but last few days have just been awful - no real reason to feel like things are going to wrong again this time but just can't seem to stop myself stressing confused It'll be a lonnnggg wait til 12 weeks but i can't decide if any early scan would make me feel more reassured or not really! Meantime i'm just quietly struggling with the heartburn and feeling zzzzz

Hope everyone is doing well grin

How are you shellshock 7 ?

BravelilBear I know all about feeling sick without actually being sick. Been wandering around in a daze all day and in and out of bed, seems being asleep is the only time it buggers off. Really not good as I really need to go to work everyday!

nicnic79 Mon 10-Dec-12 14:53:16

good afternoon ladies x been feeling a bit down last few days spoke to my mental health nurse felt a little better after. I know feeling up and down is normal with pregnancy and not having mood stabilizers is frustrating been very emotional doesn't help dp is being an idiot . pg was planned but think he's in shell shock caught on first cycle it was very quick . what did he think was going to happen lol . we had a long chat so I hope now he might be a bit more understanding I just have to keep telling myself only another 5 weeks till second trimester !!! beware of recommended flu jab to I never had it before but made me quite ill on top of early pg ailments it wiped me out . hate to think what real flu would be like !! had a mad one today been cleaning and moved the living room round . Christmas tree doing my head in lol makes the room look messy!!

Sugarkane Mon 10-Dec-12 14:59:01

shellshock I had blood on wiping last night too, nothing this morning, keeping fingers crossed for us.So worried though. Booking in on wednesday will mention it then if nothing more.

BraveLilBear Mon 10-Dec-12 16:43:26

Thanks Sunflower so glad it's not just me. Feel like a right fraud. The thing I'm hating the most is feeling like I'm going to throw up so I force some food down me and feel better. Then, half an hour or so later, I get indigestion/acid reflux and feel almost as bad as before!

Also really struggling to drink enough as I don't fancy tea and coffee at all, have gone off water and the squash we have in the house makes me feel ill as DSS threw up the other week and it smells the same as that.

So drinking lots of cartons of ribena and managing occasional cups of hot water.

Any news Shellshock? Fx for you. And sugarkane

Sorry you've been feeling up and down nicnic but glad that the MH nurse helped. It's a really tricky time being pregnant with hormones everywhere and all the stress of change. Fx you settle in soon.

LittleMiss take comfort in the tiredness and heartburn, they're good signs. I totally appreciate how stressful it must be for you but the odds of having a MMC in any pregnancy are something like 3% and I'm pretty sure I read somewhere that the pg after a mc has even lower odds.

Try and cling to the positives and remember - today you are pregnant!

Hello, I'm another one on cups of hot water bravelilbear. And nicnic glad that you have had some help. I am awaiting appointments, but realised that one of my main "low mood" triggers has been DSSs behaviour, so I am taking myself off to bed with a book when things start to get a bit much. In a way it has made me feel a lot better, and also means that DH is having to do all the behaviour management which is as it should be really anyway. I'm a bit sad, as I was hoping that with the new house we would all be getting on a bit better, but I'd rather avoid everything than be feeling as sad as I have been. DH understands, and has tried talking to the boys, but there is only so much that can be achieved.

I am totally shattered today. Spent much of yesterday in bed, which was amazing, but not sure how I have stayed awake at my desk all day! So, so glad that I only have until the end of the week to go.

shellshock7 Mon 10-Dec-12 17:45:04

Hey sugarkane hope you're ok and have had an uneventful day.

Still more discharge for me, dark brown now, nor sure what that means, and cramps....it's not looking good. I'm at GP tomorrow just to let them know I'm Pregnant so will see what they suggest if things haven't progressed sad

Christelle2207 Mon 10-Dec-12 19:12:28

sorry to hear that. hope gp can help maybe with a scan. not necessarily bad news though please keep strong x

Hi, tentatively adding myself to this thread, think my current EDD is 17th August so I'm 4+2, had a mc directly before this and had to bow out of the june 2013 thread so I'm hoping all will be well with this little one. Third baby, my others are 5 and 2. Hi! smile

Silver15 Mon 10-Dec-12 20:15:34

Hello ladies,

Shellshock and sugarkane, figures crossed for you.

Nicnic sorry to hear that things are hard. Hope all will be well soon.

Just feeling nauseous. Im struggling to keep awake during the day. The boobs are also killing me.

GaryBuseysTeeth Mon 10-Dec-12 20:32:09

James <waves frantically> glad you've decided to pop over!
If you read through this thread, it would seem the majority of us are pg after a recent mc so you're in safe & understanding hands!

shell, I'm sorry it's still going on, hope GP can be of some help tomorrow.
If it's still brown & you're not filling a pad, then things could still all be ok.
Have you got any pregnancy tests lying around the house you feel up for doing tomorrow morning?

nic, glad you're feeling a bit better.
'Thankfully' I was given the flu jab when I was pg in Oct so I don't have to go through it again!

I've bloated up again, last pg I didn't show until about 28wks...so I assume I'll be showing lots earlier this time around.
Those on pg 3+....how early did you show 2nd, 3rd etc time around?

Thanks Gary, sorry to hear there's so many of us here after a mc, fingers crossed we all strike it lucky this time! I feel way more tired this time, having a bit of heartburn, smells knocking me sick etc

zen1980 Mon 10-Dec-12 21:10:05

hi guys

yes Gary tis I, I wasn't sure for a few days but there you have it I'm PREGNANT smile still doesn't feel real apart from major sickness/dizziness and painful boobs!!

Abel I know you feel I've had both experiences but with my dc I bleed brown/red up to 24/26 weeks.IT was a nightmare with constant checking but it was just one of those things.Although it will never stop you worrying even hearing good stories.

I have made my booking in appointment today, don't have to go the docs so straight to midwife next Monday!

chocolatesolveseverything Mon 10-Dec-12 21:17:38

Hugs to shell and sugar. Whilst loads of women go on to have healthy pregnancies and babies after small amounts of blood loss, it must still be horrible when it happens.

Like silver I'm getting a lot of nausea and have felt rubbish most of today. There's occasional heartburn too, though sensible-ish eating seems to help. But I find I'm more hungry than usual mid-afternoon at the moment. Twice now I've had to stop off to buy a bag of salted crisps on the way home to stop my stomach from eating itself...

Can't complain overall when some of you are actually being sick and fainting. Sounds yuk!

No word yet on when my scan/booking in will take place. Will give the GP surgery a call if nothing arrives in the post tomorrow I think as my referral was a fortnight ago. It'll be rubbish luck if it gets scheduled when we're supposed to be visiting my family down in England this Christmas.

bzzbee Mon 10-Dec-12 21:54:22

Hi all

I posted on the 40 thread already. Got a BFP exactly one week ago after nearly 3 years of TTC #2. We had sort of given up, all the investigations for infertility had come back clear, but it's taken aaaages. I am much much more nervous this time round because we've waited so long. Thrilled, excited, worried and nervous just about sums it up!
So far so good though, am 5+2 today.
Does anyone know when pregnant women are supposed to get the flu jab? I haven't had a clear response from our surgery, they seemed unsure.
I am also trying to decide whether to tell family at Christmas time, what are you all doing that are due early/mid Aug ?

shellshock7 Mon 10-Dec-12 22:06:58

Hi gary yes I told DH straight away so at least it's not just in my head. Ive not soaked a pad at all, only on wiping, but quite a lot.....but it has stopped for the last two hours and the cramps have eased so I guess there is still hope. I hadnt thought abt testing tomorrow, will do thanks.

Thanks and sorry to everyone else, don't wanna bring a downer on the thread smile

Stopsittingonyoursister Mon 10-Dec-12 23:40:19

shell I hope everything is OK for you tomorrow, fx. Also fx for you sugar.

Hello to all the newbies, there are too many to list individually!! The thread has really started to move quickly now!

bzzbee we are having a family party on the 23rd before my DSis and her family go to her inlaws for Xmas. Thinking of telling everyone then, but not looking forward to it really. DMum and DDad have made it very clear in the past that Two Children Is Enough so the fact that we are having a third will not be met with joy, I don't think. Also, DSis has just decided to put off trying for her second due to health problems with her first, so it all seems a bit callous to just rub her face into it somehow. Any advice on how to handle that one, anyone??

gary DS1 I showed at 17 weeks; DD1 I showed at 11 weeks. I had to invest in a number of scarves to hide the bump until I was ready to tell everyone!

Had my booking in appointment this afternoon, all very straightforward. Now just waiting for my scan date to come through for some time end of Jan. We will be finding out the baby's gender this time. We didn't for DS1 but we did for DD1 and it helped DS to visualise that he was going to have a sister etc. Also meant to could crazy with the pink!!

I am with everyone getting the heartburn, and I find I get nauseous when I get too hungry = good excuse to nibble all day...

beckie90 Tue 11-Dec-12 08:52:36

SUGARKANE&SHELLSHOK, I've had exact same thing, Sunday night I had red spotting and bad cramps in belly and back that continued all Yesturday too, so I spent all day yest in epu with my youngest child running riot, hormone level took which was 2100 yest, I'm booked in for a scan at 10am in morning , to see whats happening. Keep an eye on it, brown us usually old blood, but get it checked out just incase.

I showed more or less as soon as I found out with ds1 I had hourendous bloating, he was 2wk over and 6ib11. With ds2 I didn't show til 35wk he was born on time weighing 9ibs, and I didnt barely put on no weight cause of sickness so I went into labour weighing around 9st :/

Welcome to all the new members and congrats smile

Sugarkane Tue 11-Dec-12 09:20:04

I was showing with DD1 by about 23 weeks born 7 lb11, DS1 I was showing by 12 weeks 9lb3, DS2 showing as soon as I tested born 10lb 10. I was a lot thinner wit DS2 and im not showing yet as the fat is hiding it.

Thank you for your well wishes, so far so good. Good luck today Shell and Beckie

FX for today shell and beckie and hope all is well sugar

beckie90 Tue 11-Dec-12 09:33:09

Thankyou sugarkane hope your ok, how is things now? My scans not till in morning they tried to get in today but no space, I hate waiting. I think I'm just stressed too much cause in process of moving house aswell. Thankyou too WAVES

Good luck SHELL xx

chocolatesolveseverything Tue 11-Dec-12 10:12:29

Good luck Shell and Beckie,

I've just come off the phone to the midwifery booking service. It turns out that although my GP supposedly referred me to them a fortnight ago they still haven't received anything. Thankfully they were able to book me in from scratch for 9th January. I'll be almost 11 weeks by that point and had hoped for an earlier appointment, but I suppose it's not the end of the world.

They booked me in for a scan too and sounded a bit exasperated when I explained the GP had said I was due one between 8-10 weeks. Apparently they get that from GPs regularly. But no, my scan is on 23rd Jan when I'll be just under 13 weeks.

From now onwards I'll attempt to deal with midwives only and skip the GPs!

BraveLilBear Tue 11-Dec-12 10:33:35

Morning all, good luck today to Shell and Beckie and anyone else having worries, especially Sugarkane.

Hello to James! Welcome to the bravery club grin like Gary says, there are many of us here in a similar boat so come and join in.

It amazes me how different midwifery services are across the country. I have my booking in appt on Xmas Eve and counting down to that.

If all seems well, I'm planning to tell mum, dad and sisters at Xmas. I'll be 9+2 Xmas Day. This is slightly terrifying as will have no reassurance that all is well, but hope that they'll be supportive and adhere to the strictly no telling until scan rule...

shellshock7 Tue 11-Dec-12 11:30:24

It all over for me I'm afraid, red now when I wipe and was a bit clotty this morning. Got hospital appt on Monday to check its all gone, fingers crossed. At least at this stage it should be relatively painless compared to last time and we won't feel like lots of time has been wasted.

Fingers crossed sugar and beckie and best of luck to everyone else smile

Can someone take me off the list please.

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 11-Dec-12 11:37:21

Oh shell, I'm really sorry for your loss.
Good luck for when you start ttc again, I guess you're going to try again asap?
Hope you're on the Sept/Oct bus & we get a positive update from you soon, the ttc after mc threads on here are fantastic if you're up for them, they're all really helpful. xx

Good luck Beckie, and sugarkane.

shellshock7 Tue 11-Dec-12 11:38:42

Yeah, I used them when pregnant with DS gary, this is my second miscarriage now unfortunately sad

Hope all goes well for you smile

Sugarkane Tue 11-Dec-12 12:12:25

So so sorry Shell, hoping this time is painless for you. Good luck if you decide to try in he future. Really am very sorry x

blondecat Tue 11-Dec-12 12:26:31

I am not sure about the NHS but the Swiss guidelines say any time you find you are pregnant and its the fly season. They just don't want you to get the flue. Period

I am so sorry. But at least you get pregnant. That's the most important thing.

Becky Shane - fingers crossed they stick.

I am 5 + 4 today based on ovulation date. Another early scan due on Friday. I am so so scared after 2 MCs in last year. Perhaps this time we will be lucky. Had a scan last Friday following 12 hours of bad backache and got to see a nice round sack but nothing else. Obgyn says that's how it should be. If the dates match 100 percent Friday would be the first day to see heartbeat. If they don't it is Sunday so I might try and rescan Monday.
I know he will tell me not to worry but i know now that early heartbeat is so important.

One day at a time.

Christelle2207 Tue 11-Dec-12 12:39:47

so sorry to hear this. hope dp is being supportive at this horrid time x

So sorry Shell.

Christelle I am/was a runner too. I was running about 12-14k 3-4x/week, but I had to stop due to injury & that's when I got pregnant! I'd started back before I got my BFP, but I'm only running about 6k twice a week. I'm so tired and nauseated all the time and I lost quite a bit of fitness in the time I was off. Congratulations on keeping going! I found the first trimester really hard last time too and eventually gave up running at about 5 months when it got icy, but I wasn't doing much by then anyway.

I had a scan yesterday as I'd been referred to the fertility clinic because I wasn't ovulating. Turns out I'm probably 8 weeks already! Do this should be a July baby. I've booked in with the midwife for Friday. I didn't need to see the GP first, fortunately.

We're off to visit the in-laws for 4 days this weekend, so I think I'll probably be found out, since I can't eat any of my favourite foods & I'm knackered. I really didn't want them to find out yet, but if they ask I'm not going to lie.

Really sorry shellshock. Take lots of care of each other xxxx

So sorry shell sad

And good luck sugar and beckie

I did a clearblue digi last night (too impatient to wait for FMU!) and I got bfp 3 weeks plus, so I am probably a little over 5 weeks and my hormone levels are increasing as they should be. Had some very light staining in CM (sorry tmi) this morning tho, but it was really just a very thin tinge of pale brown not at all like the bleeding I had the last time at 9 weeks which was, unfortunately, more like heavy spotting and bright red and which did not end well. Keep trying to remind myself that very light staining at 5 weeks is normal, likely to just be implantation bleeding, HCG levels are apparently fine and I have no cramping. But of course after last time even the slightest tinge of anything at all sets alarm bells ringing sad If that's all there is I'm just going to try and wait it out and discuss it with GP when I see him on 20th, hopefully he will refer me over for an early scan cos forking out £90 for a private one right around xmas will be a bit ouch... In the meantime...STAYING POSITIVE (through gritted teeth lol)

Sorry to hear your news shell sad

Good luck to everyone else with concerns, scans etc.

BraveLilBear Tue 11-Dec-12 13:50:17

Really sorry to hear that Shell take good care of yourself and good luck for next time.

Christelle and TotallyEgg I'm a runner too, but have found it so hard to get out. Had an injury shortly before BFP so was out of action for a few weeks, and have only managed to get out once since BFP. Took it very easy and really enjoyed it, but since then have felt too tired and rubbish.

I walk 4 miles every day (work and back) so that's at least keeping base level fitness up, even though I have to keep slowing down as I feel sickest when I walk quickly, especially when the air's cold (too bizarre, but true).

Thinking of taking up swimming as there's a pool across the road from me. Kind of reluctant as I find swimming such a faff, but it'll be worth it if I can stay fit.

Brave - I also find swimming a faff but I've been going once a week for past few weeks. Not even always doing 'proper' swimming cos I usually go with DS and he just wants to splash around in the shallow bit but it's good to stay active and at least swimming is indoors - fed up with all the frost, ice, cold etc outdoors!

BraveLilBear Tue 11-Dec-12 14:16:42

That's very true LittleMiss indoors rocks! Plus the pool is literally across the road, tis a poor excuse not to go. Just wish I wasn't such a hairy bear blush

brave - yes, well there is that, shaving all the flipping time. In winter. When I'm pg and I won't be dtd any time soon anyway til after first tri is out of the way. Depressing to have to shave your legs to go swimming!!! lol

bunchofposy Tue 11-Dec-12 15:40:06

So sorry to hear that Shell sad. Best of luck for a future thb.

Hello James! Nice to see you smile

Gary I am going to try not to get an early scan, I feel a bit paranoid after last time. Thanks for the info ref dtd - I think I'll just avoid it (which won't be hard with a toddler) but not worry if it happens!

Dave hello - a good EDD you have there smile Have you got over the shock yet? It has just about sunk in here.

Brave I also really want to stay fit this time. Been for a few hikes already, and might also look into swimming. Agree about it being a faff!

Hope everyone else is having a good Tuesday.

beckie90 Tue 11-Dec-12 15:53:36

So so sorry shell sad hugs to you xxx

DaveMccave Tue 11-Dec-12 17:11:54

Really sorry to hear that shell Let us know how you get on if you are up to it xx

thehomesecretary Tue 11-Dec-12 18:10:54

very sorry to hear your news shell, good luck for next time

hope everyone else is good. Today I have mostly been dry heaving - feel horribly nauseous but havent't been sick...I almost wish I could be if it would bring relief...

brave and littlemiss very impressed with your exercise efforts, I haven't felt like, and therefore haven't done anything since my BFP...terrible.

Dont want to put myself in the avid exercising camp, bit of swimming, bit of walking with buggy and housework and thats me. If i make it to second tri i'll prob sign up to do yoga but after mc in summer im not dtd or doing any strenuous bouncing around in this pg!

Sjs05 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:06:04

Hello ladies I am completely new to this forum but wondered if I could have some advice. I have taken 4 home pregnancy tests which have all come back positive and now I am waiting for my midwife app which isn't till the new year. I have worked out from last period that I am 5 weeks and 5 days pg but I have had no symptoms at all. No sickness tiredness or anything.
The only thing I do have is a bump which is really noticeable which I'm trying to hide until the scan!

I must be lucky not to be suffering with any sickness or anything, but is this normal?

This is my second pregnancy but my daughter is now 9 so this feels like the first time again x

FoofFighter Tue 11-Dec-12 19:51:04

Hello may I join you please?

I got a BFP on Sunday after a week and a half of already in my heart of hearts knowing I was pregnant - by my dates I was 5 weeks yesterday and my due date according to the MN thing is 13th august smile

This will be our firstborn together but I have 2 grown-up children already. I'll be 40 when this baby is born.

We sadly suffered a MMC back in April so really hoping that this one sticks, already feels different somehow, more positive and not very worried, and my bfp was stronger than the other tests I did last time at around the same stage so they are all good omens I hope!

A few symptoms, bloaty uncomfortable-ness, an increasing interest in oranges, cannonball boobs, tiredness, mega sense of smell (thats actually how I knew I was pg!) No sickness as of yet but I think I only ever suffered a very small bit with my DD for a short while so obviously one of the lucky ones, would give anything for some good ms just now though as another good strong symptom!

EPU last time told me to contact them first for a scan before booking in with a MW, I'm a bit scared to as I know it'll be in that same room again sad but I know it must be done, working myself up to ringing them next week in the hope of getting in just before Xmas for an early scan.

We aren't telling anyone this time round for as long as we can get away with, it was totally horrendous having to un-tell everyone last time sad

Looking forward to getting to know you all smile going to have a bit of a read back now.

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 11-Dec-12 20:54:11

Sjs, Welcome! I didn't have anything with DS until I about 7weeks, then the tiredness really hit me, so maybe it's just waiting to hit you full force!
Welcome Foof!

Snowshine, staying positive for you here.

I've downloaded a pg app to my phone, and it has a countdown timer to birth, 7months 20days to go! hmm

Stopsittingonyoursister Tue 11-Dec-12 22:06:45

Sorry to hear your news shell

Welcome sjs and foof.

Hope everyone else is well. Feeling sick today and really not liking sweet foods at the moment. But I could eat literally hundreds of bags of crisps if I let myself!

littlecupcake Tue 11-Dec-12 22:50:54

Is there room for another one?!

Got a faint internet cheapy line a week ago today, then a positive on Clearblue Digital with 2-3 weeks on conception indicator on Saturday. Very irregular cycles though, so no idea of due date. My estimates are between 2nd (based on 28 day cycle) and 12th August (based on 38 day cycle, which is the length of the previous cycle. Before that I was still taking the pill).

Went to see GP today who didn't try to establish a due date, but has given me a form so I can get HCG levels tested tomorrow to work out an EDD. After trying to find out about dating pregnancy using HCG results it doesn't seem very common, but I wasn't offered an early dating scan like others in my situation. Has anyone else experienced this? He booked me in with the midwife on 15th January and said that would give me plenty of time to get the scan done at the right time based on the HCG results.

I wish I'd asked for his idea of a due date, but DD had got bored by that point and decided to have a meltdown blush She's 2.6 and this will be our second baby.

Lovely to see so many others to share this special journey with!

Sugarkane Tue 11-Dec-12 23:12:27

Cupcake with DS1 I didnt have a clue when my last period was let alone my due date or cycle length as I had only had one period since DD was born. I wasnt offered anything, they just booked me in for a scan for the time they thought I was 12 weeks as they assumed I was 6 weeks at the time of booking in as it had been 2 weeks since my BFP iykwim.

Has anyone else developed insomnia?

Sugarkane Wed 12-Dec-12 09:02:54

Booking in today

BraveLilBear Wed 12-Dec-12 10:12:29

Hello and welcome sjs, Foof and cupcake and sorry for your previous loss foof. There are quite a few people on here who have recently experienced mc in some way shape or form, so you're in sympathetic hands!

Have off and on insomnia. Finding I often have trouble 'falling' asleep, even though I'm sleepy and my eyes are shut, I can't convince body to go with it. Very annoying. Other times I sleep like the proverbial. Figured out last week that I got pretty much ten hours sleep every night, which is unheard of for me.

Loving the interest in oranges upthread! My interests are more anti-interests! Can now add raw onion to the list of things I can't stand to go near <sob> as well as tea and coffee, water, chocolate, anything vaguely acidic...

Hope booking-in goes well sugarkane!

beckie90 Wed 12-Dec-12 11:23:41

It's not looking too good for me sad xx

Oh beckie, sending you in-MN hugs. x

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 12-Dec-12 12:47:03

Oh Beckie, I'm sorry to hear that. Have you been scanned yet? x

Brave (do you prefer bear or brave, always change what I call you!), I couldn't stand chicken (it all smelt off) with DS & it's gone the same way again. I've ordered a chicken to roast on Christmas Eve as I'm not going near rare beef, so no idea what to eat now!

Welcome cupcake
Have fun(?) booking in sugarkane!

Autumn12 Wed 12-Dec-12 13:16:53

Hi I'm just joining you all. I estimate my due date to be 7th August.
So far my symptoms are tiredness, insomnia and slight stomach cramps.

Sugarkane Wed 12-Dec-12 13:39:00

No fun booking in GaryI got there and I had the wrong day, its tomorrow.

Oh Beckie so sorry whats happening now, have you had your scan?

Sugarkane you sound like me!

beckie90 Wed 12-Dec-12 15:22:18

I got scanned Sonographer wasn't very helpful 1st said it looks like there's 2 sacs and then decided that no the other 1 is some kind if fluid maybe a bleed, and they cudnt pick anything up in the sac which that I wasn't concerned about because I had same with ds1 then 2wk later was a lovely strong heartbeat, but the fact theres fluid for some reason worried me n Sonographer seemed very blunt and didn't give me much hope, after sitting 3hrs the doctor coke and reviewed my scan, and she said shes not overly concerned at this stage, and been booked in for another scan on Christmas eve to see if anything has Changed I just hate waiting x thankyou everyone x

BraveLilBear Wed 12-Dec-12 15:23:03

Oh no Beckie what news? Thinking of you...

Gary Brave or Bear - I respond to both now lol grin but thanks for asking! I made a huge mistake offering to make DP some venison sausage sandwiches for breakfast last Saturday. First had to clean grill, then literally had to leave the kitchen. Torture!

At Xmas, we have a routine whereby everyone cooks a bit of the dinner to reduce pressure on my mum ie some do vegs, some do serving up and accompaniments. The thought of being in the tiny, hot kitchen with cooking meat in it is giving me shudders already! Good luck with your chicken wink!

Hi there and congrats Autumn12 those symptoms sound par for the course here! Welcome to the fun and games smile

BraveLilBear Wed 12-Dec-12 15:27:00

Sorry Beckie cross post - you poor thing, how unsettling. Fingers crossed you get some answers - and good ones - on Christmas Eve x

Christelle2207 Wed 12-Dec-12 15:43:22

autumn- snap on EDD and also symptoms.
Beckie so sorry you have to wait and havr another scan, but if doc is optimistic that is good news surely. I think v good chance of seeing heartbeat on xmas eve x

FoofFighter Wed 12-Dec-12 16:10:22

Beckie, I am keeping it all crossed for you, I do think that especially today all the scanning/mc findings being in the news people could be a little more informative and empathetic!!

Still peeing for the whole UK here, my bladder feels permanently full even when it isn't!

I have jjust remembered at my work xmas do this weekend I picked pate as a starter, to not arouse suspicion would a few bites be ok then I can I didn't like it?? I cannot swap unless someone doesn't show up and I can nick theirs grin I've already laid the groundwork for no alcohol consumption by saying am on tabelts I cannot drink with (have an underlying issue everyone knows about so I think I can get away with that)

totallyeggflipped insomnia, yes me! I suffer with it on and off anyway but these last tw days I've not slept properly at all. I do sleep but it's just very very light and feel like am skipping like a stone on a river across the top of sleep if that makes any sense at all?

Autumn12 Wed 12-Dec-12 17:20:16

Christelle 2207 - it will be interesting to see whether we have similar symptoms the whole way through.

beckie90 Wed 12-Dec-12 17:35:25

Thanks ladies I just really hope everything turns out ok, they didn't even check my hormone levels to see if they was doubling as they should which they could have done since I was there 3hr . Am just confused about this fluid, the nurse said I'm waiting for doctor to come and look at this blood erm I mean fluid so that worried me. Just so long to wait worrying xx hope your all well x

bzzbee Wed 12-Dec-12 18:01:21

I feel for you Beckie, fingers crossed all goes well.

I have terrible insomnia this week, not helped by working through the night at the weekend, DD awake the last two nights with earache/cough. The last night I slept was Thursday last week :0
Other than insomnia, I feel slightly ill and slightly hungry all the time, and very windy (which I don't recall from 4 years ago when I was last pregnant). I keep getting worrying stomach cramps and fearing the worst, only to realise later it was just wind! Sorry if TMI...
Have decided to skip work Xmas meal due to perma-exhaustion and the hassle of Pret ending to drink, excuse I gave was not being able to find a babysitter.
Hope ye are all doing well (which in the context probably means feeling quite rotten with pregnancy hormones!)...

foof - it'll be a dead give away but i'd give the pate a miss if it was me!

beckie - sorry things arent much clearer after scan, fx xmas eve brings better news

No staining today so hopefully it was just a one off bit of implantation bleeding or something. On tenterhooks tho!

beckie90 Wed 12-Dec-12 19:07:01

Thankyou, hope your ok littlemisssnowshine xxx

Stopsittingonyoursister Wed 12-Dec-12 21:10:29

beckie I hope you get good news on Christmas Eve, fingers crossed for you.

Fx for you littlemiss

bzzbee with you on the symptoms. I feel sick like I'm hungry, but then I eat and feel sick! Can't win....!

RuckAndRoll Wed 12-Dec-12 22:05:33

Been away for a few days, missed a lot by the look of things!

Welcome to all new people smile

We told both sets of parents today, it was my graduation so we I decided couldn't see DM and not tell her. They're over the moon, and hopefully they will keep it quiet for us.

Not many symptoms here still, just retching a bit and burping a lot!

Hi all, can I join please? Got my BFP today. Due around 4th or 10th August. We've been trying for over a year and, to be honest, I didn't think it was going to happen. Excited and scared right now. Not many symptoms yet apart from mild cramping.

I'm approx 3.5 weeks pregnant (need to figure out how to do that properly is it weeks + days? Eg 3+4?)

Sugarkane Wed 12-Dec-12 23:40:42

Welcome and congrats Helga

Yes you're right weeks plus days, but to be honest at the start I just do weeks, the days come in for me when the time starts to drag smile

Briarrosy Wed 12-Dec-12 23:46:17

Hello, due August 3rd, bit nervous after my last disastrous pregnancy which I had to terminate in August. Second time lucky, eh!

DaveMccave Thu 13-Dec-12 00:45:03

Hi everyone.

Helga I'd guess that you were actually 5.5 weeks... going by lmp and including the 2 weeks before ovulation. I'm due 16th august and 5 weeks on Friday, so further than you think smile

Still not really any symptoms here. I have been quite itchy. DP said I was itching in my sleep all night last week. And quite emotional and feeling a bit more tired. But still no sickness.

foof what are the actually reasons for not eating pate? Is it listeria or vitamin A? I can't remember. I'd look up the reason, and then look up other countries guidelines. I'm pretty sure lots of countries that eat it more regularly don't ban it! I think a small amount would be fine tbh.

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 06:07:38

Hi ladies can I join? Got my bfp with #2 on sat guessing I'm about 4.5 weeks based on lmp.

Congrats new bfps!!!

Woke up feeling decidedly queasy this morning. After 3 weeks plus on digi test on Monday the queasiness is reassuring...boobs still not particularly sore though hmm i always thought first timers worried more but when you've had one healthy pg you cant help but think any differences in the way u feel must be a bad sign and after having mmc i am just paranoid it could happen again. Rant over!! thanks for listening

Sugarkane Thu 13-Dec-12 08:43:51

Opps sorry Helga I missed that, yes as Dave said you are more 5+5. Was too late last night and more interested in how to write it than noticing that you where further along.

Goig to book in for the 2nd time today, FX I have the right day now

bzzbee Thu 13-Dec-12 10:01:25

Re: pate question
I read (on the advice the midwife gave me) that all pate is not recommended, even veggie, it is due to the risk of listeria.
With my first pregnancy I was quite relaxed and had a little bit of whatever I fancied (i didn't even know runny eggs were banned!). This time round, I am feeling a lot more cautious, but that is purely personal based on how long this has taken to happen. In reality, the stats are probably quite low on the the instances of listeria, you have to decide what sits better with you. I can live without pate but I love eggs!

Hope everyone is feeling well today. I actually managed to sleep last night (with real crazy dreams to boot) which is about the best present imaginable.

Any tips on avoiding MS greatly accepted, I had terrible sea-sickness (rarely throwing up but feeling constantly nauseous) last time - for weeks and weeks - and I would love to avoid it or at least lessen it this time round.

Anyone else craving salt and vinegar crisps by the way? (i don't even really like/eat crisps normally!).

TiredofZombies Thu 13-Dec-12 10:31:55

Morning fellow Augusteers. I'm 5+4 with my 2nd, not told anyone yet, only DP and the doctor know.

I had a MC in June, but we hadn't told anyone I was pg, as we were waiting for the 12 week scan. I told a couple of friends about the MC but not family. So now I'm pg again and although I am sure all will be fine, I can't help being a little worried. Not sure when to tell family though, there is not a chance on this earth that MIL will be able to keep it quiet.

I am tempted to tell MIL and SIL, but tell them both they are the only person who knows - see who cracks and spills the beans first!

TiredofZombies Thu 13-Dec-12 10:40:43

Oops, meant to say due date 11th August but that's based on an internet calculator, and I had a short cycle beforehand as well, so not really sure.

What a brilliant idea, telling family at Christmas! I don't know why I didn't think of that. They'll love it smile

So I'm not the only one getting mouth ulcers then? Is that a common symptom?

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 13-Dec-12 10:47:34

Hi Helga, Love.

Tired, we told MIL I was expecting when I had a mc, but told her not to tell anyone...I mc-ed and then lots of people 'sent their love' hmm
We've told her this time too, but told her not to tell anyone, so will be interesting to see if anyone else mentions it over Christmas.

Sugar, hope today is the day!

bzz, I'm quite strict when it comes to following the rules...I don't know anyone in the world ever contracted listeria from deli meat or pate but I don't want to be the first pregnant person who does!
I only had terrible sea sickness (no vomit!) last time around so have no idea on MS, I just eat little and often (I've got a massive pot of yogurt in the fridge & I have a spoonful whenever I feel a bit nauseous).

Snowshine, rant away! I know how you feel. I'm still doing tests every few days just because I want to be prepared if I do have another mc.

<waves> to everyone else.

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 11:11:11

Does anyone else not feel pg at all? No sickness, boobs normal, no crazy dreams, no excessive weeing only tired but I have a 1 year old.keeping it'll be a mmc for some reason.

4.5 weeks early for symptoms or is this not a great sign?

beckie90 Thu 13-Dec-12 11:29:35

It's quite dif for every one loveyouforever, but 4.5wk is still early, mine have properly just started coming full force I'm 6wk 1 day by lmp, but think I'm less than that by a few days, given the circumstances I'm really hoping that's a good thing xx

Thanks for all the welcomes, it's my first baby so I've a feeling ill be here a lot!

With regard to how far along I am, I used the estimated delivery date calculator on here and it said my estimated conception date was 17 Novemver (which fits - we did it very little in November but we did on that date!) so does that make me 3 or 5? I'm confused by this pregnancy stuff already!

Hi all new people and welcome.

Just got back from 1st Midwife appt, explained my natural birth fears to her (from birth of DS) and she basically said I've got more chance of flying to the moon than having an elective c-section.

I thought 'that's what you think'

Well frustrations aside, I know I've got a long way to go yet but was kind of hoping for a little bit more understanding.

Hope everyone is doing ok and fellow nausea ladies are getting through it.

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 11:37:19

Thank you beckie still anxious I havent seen the doctor yet.

TiredofZombies Thu 13-Dec-12 11:47:38

I thought I was pretty much symptom free, aside from very slight tingly boobs on a couple of occasions. I'd forgotten about the crazy dreams!

The other night I dreamed that the place I worked was putting on a big event, which the Queen would be attending. I was given the job of getting her some lunch. She wanted a turkey and Twiglet sandwich.

Autumn12 Thu 13-Dec-12 12:12:12

I had a crazy Eastenders related dream last night - I had no idea it was a pregnancy related thing. I just thought my insomnia was affecting my brain!

FoofFighter Thu 13-Dec-12 12:19:11

helga you are already 4 weeks pregnant by the time your period was due if thats any help, no idea why they do it that way tbh.

hello new bfps, congratulations and good luck smile

I am gearign myself up to ringing to EPU as I mmc last time, was told to go direct to them and not through MWs. Part of me wants to just stick my head in the sand about it all though and just wait and see what happens.

Sugarkane Thu 13-Dec-12 12:26:45

It was today yaaaay. Same midwife as I had last time, she said when she saw my name she had to double check as didnt think it would be me again.

Regarding eggs you can have them runny as long as they have a lion mark, same with the "banned" cheese, that's allowed as long as its cooked fully. I have had pate in last preg at Christmas, but its only a little bit and only on Christmas day.

RuckAndRoll Thu 13-Dec-12 12:28:23

foof go make that phone call, the ostrich look is not a good one! I spend half my life with my head in the sand

Is it too early to blame cravings on being pregnant?! I'm really craving supernoodles at the moment - sat here with nice bowl of them for lunch smile

Sugarkane Thu 13-Dec-12 12:29:10

Foof Good luck with the phone call.

just checked my 12 week scan appointment.... 4th December 2012, anyone have a time machine?

RuckAndRoll Thu 13-Dec-12 12:29:59

sugarkane glad it was today smile I'm very jelous, mine isn't until 7th January.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 13-Dec-12 12:32:53

Sugar, for the 2 weeks after my mc I was getting letters & phone calls reminding me that I had my booking appointment & scan, t'was proper shit. And another reason I'm not seeing MW until after scan next week.
Well done on getting the right day!

Ruck, I'm craving/off foods atm so it's not too early. Although supernoodles are a strange one!

sunflower, hope you get the birth you want in the end.

Arf at Queenie wanting twiglets & turkey in her sandwich, I do miss my late pg crazy sex dreams (had one about Alex Reid last time, needed much brain bleach).

Gary lol for your Alex Reid dream, although hasn't helped much with my Nausea!!!
Last time round I developed a crush on James May!!!! Thank god it disappeared as soon as DS was born!

Ruck I'd say there is no time too early for cravings to start (especially if it's something totally yummy that you are not actually craving ;-) !! ). No cravings here yet, wanting to eat would be a good start!

FoofFighter Thu 13-Dec-12 13:10:46

dreams, what are they? you need to be able to sleep for those don't you?! I've not slept properly since Sunday sad

Decided I am not going to ring until mid next week as I will only be 6 weeks on tuesday and I don't want to be scanned too early and have that is there a viable or not thing going on over xmas, the later I leave it the better I think as more chance at 7 weeks of getting a straight answer, 7 weeks is Xmas Day itself, so I guess it'd be the end of that week.

[re-buries head in sand]

bzzbee Thu 13-Dec-12 14:11:41


Did someone mention a pregnancy app earlier (too lazy to scroll back pages) - pls could u post the name on here if u recommend it?

I've just eaten a weekly ratio of cheese and crackers, seemed to be the only food i could face.
That and drinking fizzy water (hic).
BTW did anyone here have gestational diabetes before? I did with no1 so preparing for same outcome again if things proceed. It was ok in the end though, strict diet control etc (Yawn).


Argh sickness is really kicking in now! Sadly even though this is my third time round of going through this I have no tips - salty crackers, oat cakes, dry Belvita biscuits all help A BIT but nothing really works effectively. I had to take cyclazine and it sort of worked for me but mainly cos it knocked me out and when I was asleep I wasn't throwing up lol Hoping to avoid that this time but have to wait and see how bad it gets!

foof - i'm with you! i know i could ask GP to just phone EPU for me when I see him next week and I'm sure they'd see me in next couple of weeks if GP asks and they'd give me an early scan. But I kind of want to stick head in the sand too!

sunflower - sorry you had a rough time last time. I did too sad Very long back to back labour, throwing up almost the whole time til I was sedated, lots of stitches, lost quite a lot of blood, just the whole works of nastiness, followed by needing an ERPC after mmc this summer. So my feeling towards labour wards and EPUs are not the warmest!! Still hoping for a natural birth this time round though, but if you feel strongly about an elective caesarian I hope that you get one x

wavesandsmilesatSanta Thu 13-Dec-12 18:43:13

Cheese and crackers cravings here too. Cheddar is boring already - any tips on other legal cheese?

Got my booking in appt in the post today. It's next wednesday and at home. Never had that before .... Still saves a trip out and both DH and I are off work next week so will both be present. Although has hit me that as our house is in a state of disarray giving we are renovating I have no idea how to make the place presentable.

Hating the nausea fainting and sore boobs but reassured that I am having strong symptoms. Still waiting on MH referral. Really could do with that coming soon and was a little bit disappointed that today's letter was not to do with that. Just got to take things a day at a time I guess!

FoofFighter Thu 13-Dec-12 19:15:56

legal cheese grin love it! Anything that's hard and/or pasteurised isn't it? or cooked through if it's not?

ruthietoothie Thu 13-Dec-12 19:34:57

Hi, room for another newbie?! I'm due on 8/8 and had an early scan today that put me at six weeks exactly. I've got a little girl already who is only just one so if all goes well I'm heading for the two under two scenario (eek)

Had to have early scan due to having op under general anaesthetic when must have been about three or so weeks pregnant (though test was negative).

Scan showed heartbeat so hoping all will be and stay fine!

Feeling constantly sick and having to snack to ward off nauseau. Going to be size of house in now time at this rate

RuckAndRoll Thu 13-Dec-12 19:55:01

8/8 is a brilliant due date, all the best people are born then! it might happen to be my birthday

Chuckaluck Thu 13-Dec-12 21:18:15

Welcome to all the new BFPs! I have been MIA for the last few days riding the pregnancy rollercoaster! Had a weekend away and had a small glass of wine. Felt immediately like a bad mother! Then seemed to get some kind of virus, had a nasty temperature and not been right since! Drove to work Xmas party last night, started the office pregnancy rumours and thought being ill had given me the perfect excuse! Wrong!

Have been having some crazy dreams but one was that I went for 12 week scan and there was no baby. Now convinced I will miscarry as been having some major stomach cramps (but no bleeding so GP not worried). I thought TTC was bad but pregnancy is even worse! Slowly going mad! confused

Christelle2207 Thu 13-Dec-12 21:42:28

chucklaluck sorry you're having a nasty time of things. Def go back to GP if no improvement.

ruthie very exciting re your scan.

Well after bragging about not feeling tired then running 10 miles at the weekend things have rapidly gone downhill for me this week. Though I start the days off ok, in the afternoons and evenings I am SOOO tired, and this is the first night this week I've not been in bed by 9pm (but had a day's leave today so slept in!). Also waking up in the middle of the night! Have had constant strange feeling in tum since before getting the bfp, seeing gp tomorrow so will ask him about that and also the pinching pains I am gettting very low down (best guess is that that is to do with uterus stretching). Also feeling constantly sick, though not thrown up yet. Gone off chocolate, cake and mince pies which is very unlike me. Not managed any exercise since Sunday, I honestly feel like all the energy has been drained out of me.
No real boob soreness though they have got visibly bigger and one pair of trousers (which are quite snug anyway to be fair) uncomortably so now (but perhaps I've just been eating too many crisps).

Really worried that I'm going to be like this for months and really emotional as well. Lots of tears this week, poor dh is looking worried, bought him a "pregnancy guide for blokes" today which he will hopefully read!
First mw appointment is on the 28th, bit of a wait but suits me ok because not at work that week so don't have to worry about skiving off and making colleagues even more suspicious. Pretty sure I will have to tell my boss and PA quite soon as it is affecting my work, but everyone else in the office can just speculate away, don't care!

littlecupcake Fri 14-Dec-12 00:22:44

Hello newbies!

Had blood test Wed morning, still waiting for result so they can give me a due date. Will call up tomorrow even though they said the results would be in next week. Then I can add myself to the list.

Overwhelmed by the amount of literature in the Bounty pack that the GP gave me, and there was even another voucher to get a mum to be pack too!

Has anyone been offered or had their flu jab yet? The receptionist tried to get me to book that when I made my midwife appointment, but I wasn't sure of the advantages/disadvantages. I remember my GP supported my decision not to have it last time, but that was three years ago and things have probaly changed. Will you or won't you be having the jab?

nicnic79 Fri 14-Dec-12 06:28:39

good morning . ladies . I'm lying in bed after having to get up for the loo. now munching digestives . been feeling a bit brighter my DP now seems to have got with the program which is great he being very helpful . had quite bad sickness and fatigue its not bothered my mood much just had lots of rest . seeing my MH nurse today so can have a good moan .then off shopping bar humbug . I'm 8+1 today not heard anything off midwife service yet . so no news

RuckAndRoll Fri 14-Dec-12 08:13:07

nic glad you get to see your MH nurse today, sometimes it's worth chasing the midwife referral, things go missing in the system quite frequently.

cupcake the GP didn't mention the flu jab to me (and I'm asthmatic as well), but then again I didn't think to ask. In previous years I've not had it after the few years I did get it I had to worst winter flu and the years I didn't I just got a cold. But this year it's not just about me. I might phone the drs surgery and ask about it.

christelle not good to hear you're not feeling too great. I'm the same as you, afternoon and evening are the worst. Off to a work conference today so need to avoid running out of presentations to retch.

chuck hope things settle down a bit for you soon.

Hope everyone else is doing well today, it's Friday grin

Christelle2207 Fri 14-Dec-12 08:20:09

cupcake forgot to mention, i was offered and given flu jab earlier this week by nurse at gp surgery. told that pg women tend to get flu worse, though the jab and in most cases the flu itself arent harmful to baby. anyway other than sore arm no problem here.
i cant find any reason on the internet NOT to have it if offered.

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 14-Dec-12 10:12:43

Welcome Ruthie!

Chuck, wait until you have the baby and are constantly checking their breathing at night...it's a rollercoster of fun hmm
Hope things settle down for you soon.

I already had the flu jab (had it at my MC booking in apt), I know I'll be offered Whopping Cough at 28wks+ & (if I get that far) I'll be having that too.
I won't be making the mistake of signing up for Bounty again, cancelled everything a billion times & I'm still getting junk in the post!

bzzbee, I have babybump (daily updates) & womanlog (weekly with an embryo pic!) pregnancy on my (android) phone, babycentre was really good when I was pg with DS but it crashes on me constantly.

What's everyone up to at the weekend?

blondecat Fri 14-Dec-12 12:19:55

Just came back from the obgyn.
The good news is that there is no bad news
Sac went from 3.6 to 11 in a week and he thinks he saw sth move next to the yolk sac. Too small to say as the cheeky monkey was hiding

The bad news is no heartbeat but its possible I am 5+5 not 6 today so it may be ok

Going again Monday. Again with the wait

littlecupcake Fri 14-Dec-12 12:32:14

Keeping fingers crossed for you blondecat.

ruthietoothie Fri 14-Dec-12 13:22:24

Thanks for all the welcomes, seems like a lovely club!

Blondecat I'll keep my fingers firmly crossed for you. The waiting is horrid isn't it... Hope the weekend goes fast for you and you get the news you want come Monday!

Christelle just to say on the morning sickness that I did find things improved drastically when made it into the second trimester - hope that's the case for you too! I know everyone says it but eating little and often really helps. Even when the last thing you can stomach is anything, half a dry oat cake really helped for me!

Have good weekends everyone when it comes

I'm not loving early pregnancy and the festive season. Don't think I'll have had such a sober Xmas in years!

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 14-Dec-12 13:32:17

blondecat 5+5 or even 6 weeks is very early to get a heartbeat. i didnt get one with dd until over 7 weeks. good luck and keep strong!

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 14-Dec-12 13:33:52

I woke up this morning around 3am feeling very nauseous.....and again around 6amish, but as soon as I was up and about it went away. Could this be be MS?

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 14-Dec-12 13:34:51

got my dates wrong previously, i think i'm 4+5.

TiredofZombies Fri 14-Dec-12 13:53:14

I have an appointment for my flu jab next week, and will have the whooping cough one too, later on. Still no symptoms really, except a painful boob when 17mo DD put all her weight on it, but I think that would have hurt pg or not!

I think I had a lucky escape with Bounty last time round, I did get the first pack and sent off the card, but never heard from them again!

BraveLilBear Fri 14-Dec-12 14:59:00

Hello new faces! On phone and suffering from short term memory fail today so forgive me for lack of name checking.

Was at docs today with infected hair follicle (on my undercarriage - ow) and she said to go back at 12 weeks for flu jab, which I thought was slightly random.

Had first proper vomit as well when I got back... Feeling rough and have 10 year old DSS coming to stay tonight. last time he was here we had a midnight vomit session so hoping he doesn't repeat that.

May see pg friend got double date Sunday, see how the antibiotics kick in.

What you planning Gary? Everyone else?

blondecat Fri 14-Dec-12 16:38:32

Thank you

I started bleeding one hour after the visit. confusedI was told to wait and see and have an appointment Monday morning.
Then either a d&c or more waiting. Unless it passes on its own.
Now I am getting conflicting advice on travel, resting the works. I am supposed to take a three hour small plane flight Tuesday am
Life sucks

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 14-Dec-12 16:45:20

Oh Blonde, I'm sorry you're really going through the mill atm.
What's the latest you can cancel going on your flight? I'd give it all weekend & see how the bleeding goes, is there anyway it's not miscarriage?
Hope you have a peaceful (as possible) weekend & the dr has some good news on Monday. x

Bear, hurrah for morning sickness! Although hope DSS doesn't see your Linda Blair impression again...although it may put him off ever having sex, so maybe it's worth it? grin
Hope your undercarriage is better soon!

Having a quiet weekend, friend coming over for a takeaway/trashy movie session whilst DH goes out & then taking DS over to extended family tomorrow (his birthday is next week, so everyone wants a piece of him)...sofa day on sunday methinks.

blondecat Fri 14-Dec-12 17:27:21

I can cancel anytime
The doc says it won't make a difference. My mother who is 40 years older and also a doctor says it might and even if it doesn't I will always wonder if it did if anything happens.
She says that if things are fine Monday I should still not fly as I am a high risk pregnancy.
And that I should not fly the day after d&c either. In truth leaving hospital at 6 to go straight to the airport doesn't strike me as smart either.

Chuckaluck Fri 14-Dec-12 17:50:12

Thanks for all your lovely comments. I am on a packed delayed train out of London - just want to be at home NOW!!! Think I need to destress! Would normally turn to wine or chocolate but gone off chocolate and not drinking!!

Blonde, how worrying for you. Will be thinking of u. thanks

FoofFighter Fri 14-Dec-12 18:33:25

Blonde sad still hoping for a good outcome for you thanks

Weekend plans? Not a lot, working both days and hoping to get OH to take me to see Rise of the Guardians in 3d grin

Blonde, I really hope things get better for you.

I had my booking appointment with the midwife today. I need to ring in a week to book my 12 week scan and I'm having my flu jab next week too.

We're off to the in-laws this weekend for 4 (very long) days. I'm really hoping I'll be able to keep the whole pregnancy thing under wraps, but DH seems to be actively trying to hint to them, despite my wishes. He's already told them I'm not eating bread and that I was taking a nap in the afternoon the other day.

Nightwish Sat 15-Dec-12 09:49:42

So I have finally and unfortunately turned the page from just feeling sick all of the time to actually being sick.
And it is just as I remember with DS, I will be happily eating, go and be sick, come back and carry on eating whatever I have just thrown up. Lovely.
I am hoping it is just the once today though as I am taking DS to see Peppa Pig this morning and tonight I am going to see The Hobbit.