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October 2014 - thread 5. Bigger bumps!(981 Posts)
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Does anyone know what happens if you decide not to go back to work? Do you have to pay back all the pay you get when off?
Pebble you wont pay back your smp but will prob have yo pay back all or some of any additional pay you get. It should be in your employee handbook or contract.
You don't have to pay back any statutory pay but you may have to pay back any occupational pay. It depends on your terms and conditions.
I didn't weigh myself beforehand but I reckon I've gained about 10lbs as well, all in the first trimester as I was eating like a horse to stop feelng sick! Thankfully tailed off now though.
We're thinking about me not going back to work after the baby comes as well, not deciding anything for definite yet though, I'll see how I feel nearer the time.
I didn't have any sickness at all and my weight really hasn't changed at all: not more than a pound or so at 15 weeks today. Should I be concerned? The weekly email I got today was saying that I should expect to have put on about 5 pounds by now but I just don't have much appetite so I'm not eating any more than I normally would. Should I deliberately eat more, or stick to eating when I feel like it? (I bet I'll regret worrying about this in another couple of months once I'm the size of a house...)
Yes I am thinking about not going back to work, maternity pay is good so have tried to look into whether or not I need to pay it back but it doesn't say it anywhere which makes me think you probably don't. Guess I will just have to ask HR near the time but it's not the kind of thing you want to ask until you've made the decision!
You employer would be pretty mean if they ask for it back. I'm worried about weight gain. I was a stone heavier upon getting pregnant with this one as opposed to my first two. Although I did naturally lose it previously by breast feeding and generally being busy looking after a baby!
My employer makes you pay back any maternity pay they give you in addition to smp if you dont return for a minimum of 3 months after baby. I know of women who came back and did the 3 months then left...
That's the thing, it doesn't make sense for them to get me to come back and work my notice which is three months then leave as will cost them money to recruit another person to replace me when they could just keep my maternity cover person on? Oh well, we shall see I don't mind going back for three months will be easiest three months ever knowing I won't be there long !
Our contract also says we have to return for 3 months or pay back the additional pay. However I'm only contracted until end of August so I dont have a job to go back to and don't get the additional. I've found it nice to have had the decision taken away as I really want to be a sahm for atleast a few years, but I think the additional pay would have swayed me! I now need to learn how to stick to a budget!!!
I'm going to go back part time. Having the conversation about that with my boss almost physically hurt. I love my job, my career is really important to me, but I also strongly believe that there is no point in having kids if you put them in nursery from 8 til 6, which is what we'd have to do. It's hard marrying up those two feelings though - I guess that's why it's handy to have 9 months to get used to these things. After 2 years, boyfriend may take the career hit and do 2 years of part time too before child starts school.
In my company we get 9 months on full pay then 3 months SMP. Sounds amazing but you repay the full 9 months in a lump sum if you leave within 6 months of returning to work.
Also, there are no part-time jobs in my function so it's back full time or nothing...talk about golden handcuffs!
Binglesplodge don't worry about not gaining weight I've lost 1.5 stone so far and the baby's doing fine I had my 16 week appointment ( a week late ) yesterday and the baby's heartbeat was thumping away.
I've got a gender scan today I really feel its a girl so will be in shock if we see any dangly bits at the scan
Oooh, so excited gun!
I knew I didn't want to go back to work so didn't take the enhanced pay, just the SMP, that way I didn't have to worry about paying anything back.
I mean excited for you gun!
Just checking in. Been really busy with holidays being full to bursting but have been keeping an eye on everyone's posts. So sad to hear care bears news. If you're still reading then I really hope you're getting lots of RL support.
Bumps are looking great ladies. I'm getting quite a bump too but a lot of that is fat. I was dieting before and fell spectacularly off the way on so have put a hideous amount of weight on. Next week I'm done with birthdays and stuff so should be better at controlling impulse eating!
16 week appt today, heartbeat was strong and clear and urine tests all fine. Now just 4 weeks to scan!!!
Hope you all have a great week and manage to avoid the stinking breath of you ohs
bingle i think the advice is definitely not to eat more than previously. Iirc you need 300 calories more per day in the third trimester, everything else comes from your metabolism slowing down and working more efficiently to extract maximum nutrients and energy from your usual diet. Having said that, if you don't gain much overall by the end of the pregnancy then be prepared for aggro from dr/midwife. I only gained 8kg with dd, which the dr moaned about, but when I told her I was eating a massive bowl of ice cream and fresh fruit every evening she let me off . A friend in the UK felt under a lot of pressure though for not gaining enough weight in either pregnancy - has two healthy children, though.
ohthegoats don't underestimate how differently your feelings and views might be after the baby is here. I find working part time lets you have your cake and eat it and it doesn't have to mean you are letting the sisterhood down .
I've unofficially registered as yet unborn dc2 at dd's kindergarten for a place from 12 months. Dd started at 2.3, but I had lots of help from PIL that I can't rely on this time round due to their age. Still don't know if it's the right thing to do, though.
Lovely to see more bumps!
I have a different work pressure: I set up working for myself years ago because I wanted to be a SAHM in future and hope I can fit my work around the childcare. If it doesn't work very well I am going to be devastated. Really hoping it pays off and not being a naive fool!
Saw Dr and he thinks my breathing thingamy might be the start of mild asthma. Got to keep an eye on it as not bad enough to need treatment at this point but nothing that can't be handled if it gets worse.
Am 16 weeks today and planning to tell some friends this eve. Feel SO much better this last week, really feel like myself again. Only real symptom now is all the growing bump related aches/pains/twinges.
Planning to sign up for antenatal pilates too now I've reached their minimum requirement of 16 weeks. Starting to feel like I can enjoy this now Hope everyone else feeling well.
Hi london hope working from home is a success. I have asthma too, mine isn't serious either and it won't cause you any problems.
Good luck telling your friends. I'm feeling better than I was. Still have some nausea at some point during the day but apart from that just tired which is a major improvement but still frowned at by DH when I announce I'm off to bed at 9.
Hi everyone, please can I join and be added to the list? Due 10th October DC1.
I'm a little bit late to the thread, but better late than never!
At 15 weeks I'm now anxious for a more prominent bump rather than just looking like I've put on weight (which I think I have anyway!).
Anyone else not got an obvious bump yet?
Just back from the scan definitely no dangly bits so its a girl!
Everything looking good ive got a anterior placenta but it doesn't look like a major thing from what ive read. Anyone else had this?
I think I had an anterior placenta with at least one of my previous pregnancies, I can't remember even worrying about it so I'm assuming it wasn't a problem! Good news on a girl though!
I'm just back from seeing the obstetric consultant's team which was fine - she said I could cancel the pointless cervical scan the sonographer wanted me to have and wasn't too worried about my high-ish BP which I had been working up as a THING in my head. I had an idiot receptionist who couldn't count weeks on his calendar though when trying to book my next appointment and was about 3 weeks out and refused to admit he was wrong.
Congratulations gun! I so want to know, 4 weeks to go!
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