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Martians 2014: thread 10. More scans, bigger bumps and eating for two! Nearly halfway there, ladies!

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IceNoSlice Wed 25-Sep-13 21:16:51

Thread 9

Shiny new thread. Welcome all those due to pop out a baby in March 14, whether you're an old hand or a newbie, come join the fun!

BadlyWrittenPoem Wed 02-Oct-13 20:47:57

I can't believe we're six pages into a new thread since yesterday!

grey I just had the hypnobirthing book/CD and I also downloaded a random hypnobirthing MP3 onto my ipod which I listened to (or mainly fell asleep to) quite a bit. The CD and the MP3 I had did both sound pretty silly (I used headphones because otherwise DH wouldn't have been able to resist making silly remarks and making me laugh at it) but if you just go with it/ignore any bits you don't want to try then it's great.

I want to know what Pram said.

gawjus there are loads of constipation meds that are safe to take in pregnancy - if you ask your Dr or pharmacist they should be able to give you something. I'm on lactulose and eating dried apricots and drinking prune juice because constipation is a side effect of the medication I am on for sickness aside from the fact that it is more likely in pregnancy anyway. DO make sure you are drinking plenty as dehydration can make it worse.

Cass, hope your trip to Paris wasn't too tiring.

At my hospital you stay in the room you gave birth in unless it's busy in which case you're transferred to the post natal ward but visiting hours are still the same. I think it's something like 10am-8pm although DH stayed later than that when DD1 was born because we were supposed to be being discharged and then weren't. (DD hadn't fed and the MW went on about how we wouldn't have any help with feeding problems if we went home although in actual fact we didn't have problems until after we were home anyway.) Being able to all stay together is another factor in my choice of a homebirth. It's also much nicer using your own bathroon than the hosptial one.

Pram I am cross on your behalf at the rude people at Equifax!

"I think I have become upset because it has hit me that this information - this history of my life - will become known to my child as s/he is growing up. What will they think of their mum having been a homeless alcoholic? A stripper? A prostitute? Never having achieved anything whatsoever with her life? It's hit me like a ton of bricks how shocking this stuff is to those who do not know me or love me. To an outsider I appear to be nothing but a complete loser. I don't want my daughter or son to see me in that way"
Pram, I've known you online for about two weeks and I do not think you are a complete loser. Everyone has things in their past they are not proud of (and anyone who says they haven't is probably lying) and you have managed to turn your life around which in my opinion is a huge acheivement. You will be your child's mum and he or she will love you and will not see you as a complete loser.

apprentice, antenatal depression is common in hyperemesis sufferers so I've come across quite a few people who have been put on amitryptilene - I'm guessing it must be the anti-depressant of choice for pregnancy as it's the one I've always hear mentioned.

I've spent most of today in bed after having gone to out of hours GP last night about a very painful boil which makes sitting rather difficult. blush I'm now on antibiotics (which have made me feel really sick just when I was almost feeling normal) and paracetamol and codeine. I was told that if it's not improving by tomorrow morning I have to go see my GP as it may need to be removed so have had a hot water bottle on it half the day in the hopes that that will help speed up the healing process.

But on the plus side, since DH was home due to me being ill he went and picked up a copy of my slapped cheek results and I was definitely already immune. smile

Beccadugs Wed 02-Oct-13 09:57:41

I know, Jolls. She's a fair bit older than me but I cringe at her behaviour. She's like a teenager with a first crush. At least I can be smug in the knowledge that he's with me and will never be with her again grin

New thread is created but I can't link to it as I'm on my phone. Hope y'all find it.

Jolleigh Wed 02-Oct-13 08:49:49

Lyra - what about exes makes them conveniently blind to their own behaviour? I'd be mortified if I caught myself behaving like that!

I really don't want to go down the route of enforcing no contact simply because if the situation were reversed, I'd be livid that he thinks he can tell me who I can talk to.

gawjus - please refer to my 'Operation Bowel Movement' pic on facebook wink

I know angryangryangry

I also found texts on his phone where she'd texted him to tell him about some funny thing that happened in her day or to ask him "do you remember when we xxxx. Happy times!" Grr. I think in her head she was still in a relationship with him. I was pleased to see all her texts had been ignored by him. I ended up texting her and telling her to stop trying to chat to my boyfriend. She stopped but complained his his family about what a bitch I am angryangryangry She keeps in contact with them and goes to visit them in a desperate attempt to hold on to some part of him because she knows, deep down, that he's never going to want her. She's obsessed, unfortunately, and she's caused many an argument between us angryangryangry

I can't think of a witty title for thread number 11. Someone else do it!

Fasterkillpussycat Wed 02-Oct-13 08:42:10

She asked him to go on holiday with her!!! That is outrageous!!

Jolls, I too feel your pain. DP and I have had issues with his ex. She even (just a couple of months ago angry) asked him to go on holiday with her, saying she'd pay for everything. Trying to buy my boyfriend with a free holiday!!angryangryangry Cheeky bitch. He of course said no. He'd rather gouge his own eyes out than go anywhere with her.
Ask your DP, if he has nothing to hide why is he deleting her texts? I would be insisting on no further contact. Delete her number, ignore all attempts to strike up conversation. Sounds like she hasn't let go and needs reminding that he's not part if her life anymore.
I'm also friends with my ex-fiancée (loooong time ago) and I'm Godmother to his first son. I even went to his wedding. He lives in Australia now but we still talk from time to time on FB etc. So, Prambo, it can be done. Jolls and I are proof.

Gawj, glad you sound happier but please be careful and don't forgive him too easily or he'll get the message that he can behave like a twat and you'll always take him back. And his controlling behaviour has to stop too. You do what you want when you want without having to get his permission or deal with sulks. Good luck xxx

MummyPig24 Wed 02-Oct-13 08:12:05

cass I hope Paris is an easy journey and meeting and you can put your feet up when you get home.

MummyPig24 Wed 02-Oct-13 08:11:19

Faster I don't know if it's pregnancy or what but I'm in a foul mood today. I've got a rotten cold, I'm shattered and I am feeling decidedly unsociable. But I will probably also sulk that I have no friends and have to spend the day alone. Argh!

ice I hope the little guy is feeling better today. Do they still do those sachets of powder? My two used to like them, I'm not sure how well they worked but it used to distract them for a while.

pram2 hello, nice to meet you.

gawj you need the following: dried apricots, prunes, figs, pears, prune juice and plenty of water. Hopefully that lot should get things moving!

commsgirl Wed 02-Oct-13 08:11:09

Joll DP has a super needy ex finacee. My policy is complete honesty. I'd rather know what's going on! It's hard though isn't it. I'm sure that nothing is going on so I'd rather make him feel like he can tell me when she gets in touch than get mad so he feels like he has to hide it. It's hard to stay calm though.

Rock I had my flu jab yesterday too. My arm aches! Hope you're still feeling okay this morning.

Cass what a nightmare! At least it's Paris though smile

Faster pregnancy rage is definitely a thing!

Gaw don't know about meds but dried apricots and fresh orange juice! And try a warm bath if you haven't already. How's your tooth now?

Rockchick1984 Wed 02-Oct-13 08:08:51

We need a new thread!! Someone do the honours, I always manage to cock things like that up smile

I miss all the excitement don't I!

Just wanted to say that though I'm not posting much (super busy at work) I am lurking and trying to keep tabs on you all - though it's not easy when you're writing pages a day!

Cassiopeia01 Wed 02-Oct-13 06:53:47

Welcome Pram2!

i stupidly arranged a meeting in Paris today with a 4am alarm call. WTF was I thinking? I am going to be shattered by tonight. And more annoyingly I woke up thinking i had slept through to my alarm for the first time in months and then realised it was, in fact, 11.30 and i had been asleep for 45 mins hmm I felt cheated!! The only good thing is my DH slept in the spare room cos if he started snoring again i might have to stab him up the nostrils with some nail scissors... angry

I was going to say lots of intelligent and witty things (if only - i can barely string a sentence together at the moment) about other posts but i am afraid baby brain has struck and i can not remember what i have just read. Again! Anyway, I hope you ladies all have a good day and I am looking forward to receiving inspiration for what to have for my dinner when you all start talking about food grin

OwlinaTree Wed 02-Oct-13 06:47:18

gawjus I don't know what meds you can take, but try dried apricots in the morning, keep drinking lots of water (or squash). Someone will know about meds soon I'm sure.

IceNoSlice Wed 02-Oct-13 06:35:58

Nice to meet you Prambo2TjeRevenge.

Thanks for the teething tips F&T, yes I think there are several of the buggers coming through.

Faster, I'm a right grumpy cow at the moment too. I put it down to tiredness.

Joll, hope you sort it. Blardy men.

x0gawjus0x Wed 02-Oct-13 06:33:38

Hiya ive been constipated for like 4 days now n this morning I woke up with a banging headache and felt really sick im guessibg this is cos i am constipated and ive got no idea what we can take? Can anyone advise me thanks

Fasterkillpussycat Wed 02-Oct-13 05:16:02

I have just caught up with the thread - been busy with work and away at the weekend so have been struggling. Now my insomnia is conveniently back giving me time to read. Joll my DH had an annoying ex who kept hanging round so I can appreciate how you feel. I agree that keeping it secret makes it worse - he might think that he is avoiding the problem by deleting a conversation that he knows will annoy you but I would feel suspicious too even when you know nothing is happening.
Pram not sure what happened but glad you are back!
Hope everyone else is well. Does anyone else get pregnancy rage (is it even a thing?). Not sure if my hormones are making me extra narky or whether I am just really grumpy.

Jolleigh Tue 01-Oct-13 23:58:27

The thing is, I'm very close friends with one if my exes...him and his OH have asked me to be their newborn son's godmother. So I really wouldn't want to give him an ultimatum.

And I honestly think if he's going to cheat, he'll cheat and who it's with really isn't of importance. He's done it once (unfortunately bipolar people are very prone to convincing themselves they'll get away with it and are therefore much more prone) and we just barely got through it. He is well aware that if I have any reason to think he's cheated again, we're over.

I'm sure it's nothing seedy. It's the secrecy surrounding it that pisses me right off.

karamcleod Tue 01-Oct-13 23:39:38

I miss everything good on here! Pram2 what have you been up to? grin
OH has been lovely tonight, took me out for a meal, bought me a ceramic chicken blush and we went to watch a movie. I felt a bit like Mr.Bean pulling cushions and blankets out my handbag suitcase but was at least comfy smile OH doesn't want me watching horror movies anymore, we went to see Insidious 2 and he thought I was going to go in to labour. I was bricking it!

Hope everyone is having/has had a nice evening!

Jolleigh Tue 01-Oct-13 23:37:53

I'll come flick his nuts for you Rock - I'm in a nut punching flicking mood and if I do it, you're blameless wink

Jolls, Rock is right: deleting the post is suspect. What do you think you should do? You don't have to be a jealous bitch to ask for common decency in a relationship - and that includes not pandering to a needy and tactless ex girlfriend. Don't put up with it.

Rock, sorry you're seething. Go downstairs and flick his testicles. That will at least evoke a proper row instead of that pointless thing you've just had wink

Jolleigh Tue 01-Oct-13 23:32:17

I have done Rock...he says it's just habit and he understands how it might look. But then he goes weeks without deleting a bloody thing and happens to start again when she's in touch. He knows she pisses me off so chances are he's just avoiding an argument but I've told him to just be fucking honest about it angry

Rockchick1984 Tue 01-Oct-13 23:28:43

Jol can't you ask him why he feels the need to delete the convo? I'm sure its all innocent but I'd be so pissed off about it! I'd be tempted to put my foot down and insist on no more contact but I'm a jealous bitch

Had a completely pointless row with DH - don't even know how it started but I'm now in bed shattered but pissed off, he is downstairs pissed off sad

Oh, had flu jab today, no side affects at this stage so hopefully won't get any!

Jolleigh Tue 01-Oct-13 23:23:34

I gave up on the reaching out quite some time ago, I assure you! It's not as if she's a naive youngster Pram - if she was my age I'd probably just laugh it off. But she's about your age and seems to think this behaviour is ok!?!

I honestly believe in zero tolerance when it comes to exes. Men and women cannot be friends (unless one of them is pig ugly and even then it is impossible if they were once lovers) <smashes gavel to smithereens>

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