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February 2014 - Part 4 Beginning to bloom (hopefully)

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ChocoFrog Tue 06-Aug-13 15:06:06

New thread and ever hopeful as we move into second trimester that we'll all feel wonderful soon...

LovesToBake Tue 06-Aug-13 15:24:59

Thanks for setting up a new thread Choco - just marking my place.

11+5 and looking forward to my scan on Friday!

CubanoHabana Tue 06-Aug-13 15:32:41

Marking my place!

laura0007 Tue 06-Aug-13 15:33:50

Nice name! Lets hope so!!!!

Shropshiremummy2b Tue 06-Aug-13 15:39:45

Sadly I was blooming before becoming pregnant!

Malteaser1982 Tue 06-Aug-13 15:48:29

Thank you for the new thread Chocofrog

I had posted a reply to you on the other thread. Anyway I'm posting it again here in case you might not see it.

My DD weighed 5lb at birth at 37+3 weeks - she is still a tiny munchkin at almost 3 years - she weighs around 25lb although she is average height.

This time round I'm taking aspirin which is supposed to help. Having said that, baby measured 2 days behind. When I checked DD's notes, she also measured 2 days behind at 8 weeks - so it's likely to be happening again. With DD the consultant wanted to check whether there were problems with the placenta or whether I just produced 'mini minors' (consultant's words). At the end, it was a mixture of both. I'm just hoping the placenta holds on till the end so it's just the 'mini minor' factor this time.

Champagnebubble Tue 06-Aug-13 15:49:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bearfrills Tue 06-Aug-13 15:56:08

Carry on from the previous thread about birth I just wanted to say that I've had two hospital births and both were positive experiences.

DS was a normal delivery but it was a very long labour - 36 hours from start to finish. I was at home for the first 26 hours and spent the last ten at hospital, three and a half hours of it was second stage (the 'pushing stage') as he was face up with his head tilted, plus his head was massive (39cm).

I had the same MW with me for the whole ten hours, then her plus another MW for the last three as they had to have two in the room for the delivery. I wasn't left alone for so much as a second and there was always a MW in the room as well as a consultant doing 'rounds' every 3-4hrs, DH was with me throughout. When DS was born, once we were all sorted out, we were given time completely alone in the delivery room with him - I had him at 1:32pm and didn't get to the postnatal ward until 5:30pm. On the ward I was in a bay with three other people but there were plenty of MWs and they seemed to do regular rounds to check on us as well as answering call buttons. I was pretty clueless and when DS was sick in the night I ran into the corridor with him, there was a MW there like a shot to reassure me and change the sheets. Next day I was shown how to bath him, change him, feed him (he was bottle fed), look after the cord stump and dress him. I stayed two days.

With DD I had an EMCS. They realised at 40+3 that she was breech and so I went for a scan to see if she could be turned. The scan revealed a whole host of problems. Not only was she breech she had half the cord in a figure-8 around her hips and legs, the rest of the cord was under her - right over my cervix. She also had very little amniotic fluid, the only pool she had was 3cm deep and was right in front of her face. I went directly to theatre for an emergency section.

It was all still very positive. I asked if I could try for a breech delivery. They explained that it was my choice an they'd attend me either way but that once I dilated far enough, the cord would likely prolapse. If it didn't prolapse then as DDs legs descended the cord she was wrapped in would compress and possibly even snap. If this happened the placenta could detach. There were lots of what-ifs. I'm not trying to scare anyone, sorry. It was a unique situation and the odds of such a set of circumstances are very, very low.

I had a MW stay with me throughout the operation and I was awake for it. All of my questions were answered, DH was with me (looking very yummy in a set of scrubs - hello, doctor!), for all it was an emergency it didn't seem rushed and they look lots of time to make sure I was comfortable and that I was fully numb, the team was introduced to me by name and so on. They all chatted to me right the way through. The surgeon showed me DD as soon as she was out and once she'd been checked over by the paediatrician I was able to hold her. In recovery they stripped her to her nappy and put her inside my gown for skin to skin. I wanted to BF and a MW came to show me how, although she didn't need to as DD figured it out for herself while she was in my gown. I had the same level of MW care on the ward, including one who sat and hugged me at 3am when I couldn't stop shaking as it sank in that we could have died if I'd gone into full labour. I had lots of drugs to keep me comfortable and a lactation consultant visited the ward daily to help everyone. Even the Bounty lady was unobtrusive grin

Also, I did tear with DS but didn't feel it happen, it was stitched and healed really quickly - we were DTD just over a fortnight later. I even walked to the postnatal ward shortly after the stitches were done.

I'm not having a birth plan this time as I've never had one go to plan yet! I'm just going to play it by ear and see how it goes on the day. The best advice I ever got is that the delivery is one moment out of one day and its over with. The most important bit is all the years that follow.

misskatamari Tue 06-Aug-13 15:56:30

Thanks for the new thread Choco!

Gosh I'm well and truly pregnant - had to come back to the hotel for a lie down after wandering round York for a few hours. Now I'm really hungry and fantasising about the ginormous meal I am going to eat for tea (when I decide what I fancy).

It's great to hear so many positive things about home births - I'm really coming round to the idea. Laura - I'm prettified of tearing etc too but am gonna be massaging and using the epi-no like a mad woman in advance to try and prepare the area! Lol! The thought of an episiotomy scares the crap out of me!

vix206 Tue 06-Aug-13 16:19:04

Marking my place wink

Champagnebubble Tue 06-Aug-13 16:20:44

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barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 16:33:13

Oh my God... ive been up in the loft sorting stuff and i found a pregnacy book from the 1940s!!!

'So many expectant mothers allow themselves to 'go to pieces" during the last few weeks of pregnancy...... try to keep your appearance as pleasing as possible"

HA!!!!!

Its also got babies routine timetabled to the minute!

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 16:39:54

1-2pm in play pen in garden
2-4pm out in pram

According to the time table babies wake at 6 am on the dot!

Love it bare please post more useful tips from the 1940s grin

jazzcat28 Tue 06-Aug-13 16:48:39

Marking place on the blooming thread grin

Loving the 1940's tips bare! Do share more!

Milkandtwo Tue 06-Aug-13 16:49:15

bare that's brilliant - keep 'em coming!

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 16:49:39

We should be eating liver once a week.
We should rest on backs for an hour after the midday meal.
(work wont be up for thatgrin )
Two pints of milk a day!!shock

laura0007 Tue 06-Aug-13 16:50:19

Love it bare! Now ladies lets all remember not to let ourselves go in the last few weeks grin

I fully intend to spend my last few child free weeks sat n the sofa, watching crap and eating chocolate!!

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 16:54:52

foods to avoid
*Highly seasoned food such as curries and pickles.
*new bread
*strong tea... never drink tea after it has been brewed for some time. onlt when fresh.

thats it for the avoid list... not like now!

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 16:56:20

me too laura
im doing that now in fact...wink

marzipanned Tue 06-Aug-13 17:05:50

Thanks for the new thread! Maybe by the time we fill it up we'll all be blooming smile

Bear, your birth experiences do sound very positive, (albeit potentially terrifying with your DD), though I think I recall from another thread that your hospital is extremely good? My fear is that our nearby hospital has no such reputation!

These tips are fantastic bare. Well I'm definitely resting for an hour after midday meal. And...erm...every meal. And snack. Jolly good. Now, what exactly is new bread?

Ooh, do they have anything in there about morning sickness?

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 06-Aug-13 17:08:21

Haha! Loving the 1940s pregnancy tips... how things have changed!! grin

Feel ok today, made it through my course this morning (thanks to free hot chocolates and biscuits) but feel rougher now. That seems to be my pattern of the last few days - feeling worse as the day wears on, headachey and tired in the evenings (well, I haven't stopped being tired the past couple of months, but worse than usual!)

Champing at the bit now, waiting for tomorrow's scan. DH has the whole day off work and (assuming all is ok) we're going out for lunch afterwards to tell the boys. Hopefully I will have a lot of excited phonecalls to make tomorrow - lol smile Stupidly, despite how uncomfortable most of my clothes are, I have refused to get all my maternity clothes out of the loft thus far (though my mum bought me a maternity summer dress and I have bought one pair of comfy trousers this time round) However, tomorrow, assuming all is well, I shall be breaking out the boxes of comfy clothes, which I know make me look pregnant so everyone will know once I'm in those. I've been trying to disguise the bloat/ bump when I go out up to this point!

laura my plan precisely wink

I will put my birth stories up here when I have more time - got a lesson to teach any minute now...

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 17:09:57

marzi
according to the book it occurs when the stomach is empty.
treatments include: nnot eating fat and eat more sugar.
Morning sickness returns with 'the quickening'

barebranches Tue 06-Aug-13 17:11:55

ooh ohhh!! i have a detailed list of the clothes i should be knitting!!! plus a voucher for the knitting instructions! grin

gnittinggnome Tue 06-Aug-13 17:13:16

Haha, Bare, that's so funny! Just think, our grandchildren will be looking at cached copies of MN in 60 year's time going "oh my God, what were they thinking!" grin

Re actually giving birth, I am planning (hoping) on having a doula present at the birth, so that if I don't get my ideal scenario of two relaxed and ever present MW I will have someone there to hold my hand and help me through it. DH was a bit put out when I first suggested it, but I explained that I would need him at my side, not running around trying to find a nurse or ice chips or whatever.

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