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Thread for the spotting and cramping, slightly freaked out Jan 2014 baby due date club

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Mythreeknights Wed 15-May-13 12:23:47

Given a fair few of us have been freaking out over spotting and cramping at the very start of our pregnancies, I thought we should start a new thread where we can share our 'symptom's with each other and guide each other through our own experiences.
I got my BFP on Monday this week, started spotting on Tues morning (yesterday) with stringy brown CM, one and off, cramping finished up by mid afternoon but spotting is ongoing.
I've not had this with either of my other two pregnancies so this is all new to me and is slightly freaking me out, but it's reassuring that in most cases it is implantation bleeding. Those who say spotting without cramping and not reassuring me much since I have had both!!

So, join in if you are in the same boat as me!

MTBMummy Mon 10-Jun-13 09:21:16

MissMedusa mine passed naturally, they basically look for you to pass a clot the size of a 10p -50p piece to be sure.

I'm really sorry to you and everyone else who is going through this.

To those of you with cramping, particularly if it's to one side, please try and be aware of any pain in the tips of your shoulders, apparently that is one of the first signs of an ectopic, and one of the reasons they were so panicked about mine.

Frizz1986 Sun 09-Jun-13 18:35:37

mythree scan went well thanks. Bean is in the right place and i have been dated exactly where I thought with ov dates (but 3 days later than mw said based on period dates)
She said everything seems fine for what point i am and she coudnt see any bleeding in there.
Heart beat was about 170 as well which is apparently good.

Am feeling much happier after having the scan and would recommend for anyone with worries as it really puts your mind at rest.

I am going to try and stay calm now (as much as I can).

Mythreeknights Sun 09-Jun-13 10:10:32

Sultana whooppeeee :-) that's fantastic news honey, clever clever bean and you for staying strong throughout.

I have been feeling decidedly sick / constantly nauseous and pretty tired in the afternoons so I'm pretty sure this pg is sticking at the moment but I don't have a scan date or any other form of 'proof' available to me yet.

Frizz how is it going? How did your scan go? I think Sultana's experience gives us all a huge amount of hope and support that bleeding and cramping can be 'random' and that all is ok in the uterous. Pain is probably not a good thing (I have had sharp pain when I stand up quickly but I think that's things stretching) so hopefully your bean is in the right place. Crossing fingers and toes for you.

Kwalk I had strong period pains, cramping and heavyish spotting (not quite dripping into the loo but enough to wear a pad) for two days at 4 weeks pg - I had tested on Monday and the cramps started that afternoon and went on for 2 days. That's why my GP said I might have mc'd, but as far as I know, I haven't. So, fingers X for you!

Sultanajo Sat 08-Jun-13 15:38:10

Well thats positive frizz the spotting has stopped and the cramping is easing. It feels like forever until you can get some reassurance, but hopefully the scan tomorrow will give u reassurance. Will keep everything crossed for you. I was told spotting although not normal is very common and 9 times out of 10 they wont know the cause.....

Frizz1986 Sat 08-Jun-13 15:00:50

Well my brown discharge has stopped again (it appears I only had it for 2 toilet trips but it still scared me beyond belief)
Cramping seems to come and go and just feels uncomfortable really now, not painful.

I spoke to my midwife about it on friday and she reitterated what another midwife had told me when I called in a panic on wednesday. She said if i keep getting bad cramps and the spotting continues for a few days then call my gp and they will refer me for a scan but otherwise there is nothing that they will do. I appear to just have to wait and see. Our epu is only midwife or doc referral as well so unless things get worse I am in limbo. They said the gp wont really do anything yet as I have only had a bit of cramping and only a small amount of spotting so they will just make me monitor it all.

I have a private scan booked tomorrow as I was worried in the week so I guess they will tell me if things are ok in there so far so its just fx and see.
My mum keeps reminding me that the whole of pg is a wait and see scenario and you just have to cross ur fingers and hope all is ok. So here goes for fx!

Hope others get the advice they need and it works out well.

Sultanajo Fri 07-Jun-13 20:28:38

Thanks amanda still cant quite believe it! I wish u all the luck in the world with your TTC journey and hope its quick and your next little bean is super sticky! grin

AmandaMae Fri 07-Jun-13 20:25:09

Sultanajo, that's AMAZING news! Always nice to hear about positive outcomes! I will be keeping everything except my legs crossed (we are going to get back on the TTC wagon!)

Sultanajo Fri 07-Jun-13 20:05:08

amanda so incredibly sorry to hear your news. It absolutely sucks and I really hope u escape a d & c, although thats what I had last time and I think it helped me move on as I knew it was "over".

missm really sorry things havent properly started for you. Do you have any scans booked in to check on things?

kwalk I am not surprised you are worrying after what you have been through. I have been paranoid all the way thru and am now 11 weeks. I echo what the others have said - blood tests would be your only option at this stage for reassurance. Have you seen your GP yet?

Amanda fingers crossed a miracle has happened my end as I had a scan this week which brought my dates forward and I saw a wriggly 10+5 bubba kicking and punching which was the most amazing thing I have ever seen! So really keeping everything crossed this little one makes it! Was totally convinced it was game over, which goes to show spotting and cramping doesnt always mean bad news.....(crosses fingers and toes)

Thinking of you all....thanks

AmandaMae Fri 07-Jun-13 11:41:27

Frizz I'm really hoping things calmed down overnight, and that your appointment this morning has given you some good news. From my very limited experience, the only thing you can really do at this point is ask for an HCG blood test, and a repeat 2-3 days later. In the early stages of pg, your HCG levels should be doubling every couple of days. It's a good indication of a healthy pg - and of course, if they're not doubling, it's the reverse. That was what did for me... kwalks, the same is probably true for you.

Now I've got to call and cancel scans and booking appointments. sad hope you both get better results.

Sultanajo, any news from you? Still going well?

kwalks85 Fri 07-Jun-13 10:29:43

Hi everyone hoping for some advice! I had a miscarriage 24th April and recently found out I am pregnant again, I am guessing 3-4 weeks but hard to tell. I have started experiencing period pains that have been waking me up at night and on and off through out the day - is this normal? No bleeding and not really other symptoms, think I am just worrying after what happened last time! Any advice is greatly appreciated xx

Frizz1986 Thu 06-Jun-13 22:28:42

Hi all,

Firstly I am so sorry for all the troubles everyone here has suffered and hope that anyone who has mc goes on to have another pg that goes full term. Its helpful to be able to read peoples experiences as so many people dont talk about mc.

Just wanted some advice as am starting to worry myself.

I had about 24-36hrs of light/dark brown discharge on tuesday/wednesday and had some cramping pains overnight on tuesday.
Called the midwife centre on wed morning and was told to keep an eye on it and if it continued call my gp to get referred to epu. Anyway it stopped wed lunchtime and have felt pretty good since. I thought that was it, i could relax. I have booked a private scan for Sunday just to see if all is ok.

Anyway tonight i have been having on and off mild sharp pains along my left side and towards my pelvic bone and the discharge seems to have slowly begun again (a lightish brown so far) Its only when i wipe but this with the pains is really worrying me (led to me rushing out of the bathroom to sob on dh)
I have my midwife booking app in the morning as i am 9 weeks exactly tomorrow, but I just have this really bad feeling as the pains just don't feel right!

AmandaMae Thu 06-Jun-13 19:16:41

Oh MissMedusa I'm so sorry to hear that. I thought you might have escaped...

FWIW, I am going through the "natural" thing too. I think it's tailing off, but there have been a few unpleasant and uncomfortable days. I have another scan booked on Monday morning, and hopefully they will tell me I don't need a D&C. Another horror to be faced down.

Luckily, I'm between jobs. How about this for crazy? I got a call from a recruiter on Monday afternoon, telling me that I'd won a position. Right in the middle of a mc. Wowza. Thankfully I only start a week on Monday, so hopefully I should be tickety-boo by then. Or as tickety-boo as I'm going to get.

But I echo your sentiments, MTB and MyThree - time is a great healer. I'm starting to feel like my feelings have caught up with my rational brain, IYKWIM. I do believe that our bodies do know what they're doing, even when we don't feel we can trust them.

Much love and luck to you all.

MissMedusa Wed 05-Jun-13 17:37:04

MTB were you able to mc naturally or did you have a D&C? I'm in the process of a mc now as well and just hoping my body will pass it naturally. I had a D&C last time and I really don't want to do that again. On the other hand, I'm still only spotting and I don't want this to keep going on for too long.

It's awful any way you look at it. sad

MTBMummy Wed 05-Jun-13 12:29:23

Amanda so sorry to hear your news, I keep coming back to this thread, in the hope that what I've been through may help some of the others, it does get better, but it takes time, I was lucky in that I was able to take almost a week of work, and could focus on getting myself stable.

Be kind to yourself, and I keep telling myself over and over again, it will happen soon, but I'd be lying if I said January will pass without a bit of sadness

Mythreeknights Wed 05-Jun-13 11:00:33

Oh amanda that really is shit news. I'm so sorry for you. I guess any pink cm / bleeding half way through a 'cycle' (e.g. not at 4 weeks or 8 weeks pg) would be bad news, I was just hoping that in your case all would be ok. It sounds like you have been incredibly strong and need a little more time to grieve and hopefully that's your miscarriage quota over and done with for life and now your body can get on and make a healthy baby. I do believe very deeply that our bodies know if there's something not 100% right with the baby (not just disabled, but that it couldn't survive outside the womb) and that accounts for lots of miscarriages.

Take a deep breath, ignore the world for a little longer and stay in touch with us. Big hugs. flowers

AmandaMae Wed 05-Jun-13 10:50:16

Thanks for writing back, Mythree. It's not been a good couple of days. The reason for the radio silence was that things escalated somewhat suddenly. Whilst I was waiting for my scan, the cramps got significantly worse. I'd had a blood test at my GP on Saturday morning, with a decent HCG count (3404), but the results from the blood taken on Sunday night should that my levels were dropping (2800). This is a very bad sign. sad So by the time I had the scan I knew what was coming.

I started snivelling when the lovely sonographer asked me if I was alone, but managed to get it together long enough to walk out of the hospital. Called DH at work and wailed; he knew enough to get his ass home as fast as his legs could carry him. Picked up painkillers and pads on my way home and curled up in a ball. Didn't come out till Tuesday morning.

I was super-wobbly yesterday, but I'm feeling better emotionally and physically today. I'm sure it will come and go. Thankfully we hadn't told anyone except my parents (still can't face talking to my mum - I know it will make me howl) so at least we don't have to face anyone.

I wish all of you the very best of luck - I will keep an eye on the thread and hope that I hear lots of you make it all the way to January! We will be trying again soon, so maybe I'll connect with some others who've dropped out in the not-too-distant future.

Take care of yourselves!

Mythreeknights Tue 04-Jun-13 12:17:23

Oh Amanda that's rubbish and I hope the scan revealed that all is well? Please let us know what happened. I think if there was just a bit of spotting then that's not so serious but spotting AND cramping is not so good (although that's what I had and I'm still pregnant). Could the lumpy bit have been thrush or something else like that? Write back and let us know what is happening and we are thinking of you brew

AmandaMae Mon 03-Jun-13 10:00:50

Can I join in? Having a bit of trouble keeping my hair on over here.

I think I'm about 5-6 weeks pg, going by ovulation date. This is my second pg - DS is coming up on 4. First pg was a breeze, apart from a serious dose of the vomits which went on till 20 weeks. But yesterday, I started with period-like pains and a brown discharge, which turned pinker as the evening went on (also spotted some small lumpy bits, which really worried me). I'm nowhere near as stoic as some of you, so I called Queen Charlotte's and was told to take myself up to A&E. Saw a lovely doctor from the maternity ward - had some blood taken, had an internal and am booked in for a scan later today.

TMI alert: doctor said my cervix was closed, which would indicate that I wasn't in the process of miscarrying at that particular point. So that's good news, I guess.

And again with the TMI alert...But this morning, when I wiped, there was a big lumpy bit. Cue serious wobbly moment on the loo.

I know I just have to wait and take things as they come. But it's hard. DH is a peach, but is not the most emotionally literate man in the world. Just need to know I'm not alone.

Sultanajo Fri 24-May-13 18:56:48

Hey missm well without jinxing myself today has been the lightest day so perhaps its on its way off, although not holding my breath!

mythree thats awesome! So pleased for u! As u both say, it would be amazing to relax and enjoy the experience, but its impossible! Feeling more desperate the further along I get. Not past the 9 weeks I got to last time yet and will be shitting myself at the ten week scan I have booked, but if things are still ok then it will be a very nervous wait until the 12 weeks!!!confused

Mythreeknights Fri 24-May-13 13:49:09

Hi all, GOOD NEWS smile I am definitely pregnant - did a clear blue and it said 3+ weeks which makes me 5-6 weeks as expected. I think I'll be 6 weeks on Monday. Feeling more relieved but also I'm with you MissM - I definitely don't think it's a guarantee that I'll have a baby in Jan - just want to get to that 12 week scan and then I might relax a little. Sigh. MTB thanks for thinking of me and asking how I'm doing. It's a roller coaster hey. I hope you are doing ok - where in your cycle are you now? Do you have to wait until AF comes before you can start a new cycle or does the m/c start as CD1? Where does it leave you? xx

MissMedusa Fri 24-May-13 10:31:33

Thanks for the update MTB I'm so sad for you. Nothing can erase that kind of pain and its just so unfair sad

sultana how is your spotting? Mine is back now so I'm taking progesterone supplements (in form of a suppository - fun). I'm so sick a d tired of the constant worrying, why can't we just be allowed to relax and enjoy being pregnant without being convinced we're losing our baby constantly? sad

MTBMummy Fri 24-May-13 09:50:12

MyThree I hope you got the positive result you were after this morning.

Sultanajo Thu 23-May-13 18:40:11

mythree I have never been so convinced! I really thought I knew it was over and actually said out loud "well thats that then"! Unbelievable! I actually gasped when she said all was well!!! grin Just keeping everything crossed the little bean sticks around this time! X

Mythreeknights Thu 23-May-13 14:18:46

Sultana my heart was in my mouth reading your earlier update about the heavy bleeding so it was magical to read lower down that your clever bean is ok. That's amazing - I too would have assumed it was game over.

MTB You are being so strong and wise looking forward to positive things to come in the future. It must have been a really shitty week for you :-( Thanks for the recommendation of CB HPT - I have gone and got one and am itching to use it now but GP said wait til Fri so I'll do that first thing tomorrow and fingers x it thinks I'm still pg.

Theoretically I'm 5+4 today, (only because I tested + on a Monday). How many weeks is everyone else?

Sultanajo Thu 23-May-13 13:50:13

Thanks cosmic.

!MTB thanks so much for the update and I am so pleased you have gone through the worst of it and starting to come out the other side. Its such a cruel trick of nature and so unbelievably out of our control. Thats really great news on the house and as u say u can then plant something in memory of your lost bean.

Take care of yourself xxx

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