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June 2013 - Thread 7 - Getting closer!(993 Posts)
We got full! Hope everyone manages to find their way back here:-)
Created new thread here
I was wondering if we should start out with a refresh of the stats? I've lost track slightly of who is due when!
Keep on trucking, drink plenty of water as well as it helps and get thee to some proper BFing people who can see you feed. I hope that you are being looked after and just resting and feeding. He sounds like he is doing very well x
Thank you you lovely lot your kind words set me off crying again! Since they left at 4 he has had 4 breast feeds and 3 cup feeds its keeping him awake for the cup feeds that's difficult i strip him off and tickle his feet and we just about get through the 20 ml DH has been doing the cup feeds and think its helped him feel like he is helping.
My auntie runs parent education work shops on feeding at one of the hospitals she came over this afternoon and showed me how to cup feed observed me feeding too it was really helpful.
There is a support at the local sure start and once i feel better to walk i will go to that too.
Hopefully things will be better tomorrow.
Arlandria That is so stressful, I hope it gets easier for you soon.
arlandria I think it's good he's starting to feed properly, you'll get there, at our hospital we have a bf lady who's number she gives out or you can get hold of, she comes out to see you if you want as well, or theres cherubs too, which is her follow on I think. you'll soon start to wonder how you were ever worried about weight loss when you have a chunky monkey!
I am feeling really fidgety this evening, got pressure right above my pelvic bone, am up and down, have made of swapped seats, can't lie down, can't sit up, can't slouch,
come on baby get a shift on so I can sit comfortably again!
Arlandria ring the breastfeeding support network they are absolutely wonderful, we went to hell and back to feed DD and they stood with us the whole way.
arlandria I'm sorry you're experiencing stress because of the loss of birth weight. If there is a breastfeeding drop in in your area I would really recommend going or even better if there are any breastfeeding counselors in the area who can do a home visit. Midwives are not breastfeeding experts. Try and get the help you need.
Although it definitely sounds like you're doing well already with baby starting to feed from both sides now and having wet & dirty nappies. I honestly think it just takes a little while to find your feet and the whole focus on how much birth weight they've lost can add unnecessarily to the stress when your baby is in all likelihood doing fine. It's all a learning curve!
Oh arlandria poor you- what an afternoon You are not a failure! You are doing really well and should feel proud if yourself. If you keep breast feeding and it all works out well- you are doing a brilliant job. If you decide to formula feed- you are doing a brilliant job. Please don't be down on yourself! It sounds like he's getting the hang of it all now too- that just hadn't had time to kick in with tangible results by the time the midwife came around. Trust your instincts and ask for any help you need. Sending hugs!
Dontmind and redwelly- I don't know how I'd cope with the lack of food/drink either. I don't understand how that all works with emergency c sections either where the woman wouldn't have been restricting food or drink. I'm worrying about all sorts to do with vaginal birth but there's a whole other set with c section too isn't there.
Arlandria, I was in the same boat. Frequent feeds, expressing... It does pass and one day everything just seems easier. DS has to undergo suck retraining, so if they have a bf expert either on the hv, MW or health trainers team it's worth seeking them out.
Ps when our baby was in hospital last week the midwifes were a pain in the butt with breastfeeding and not as supportive as they should have been we had to cup feed as well after I fed and omg what a nightmare that was! How I didn't hit the women who said I had to put a teat on a bottle! Sometimes they say things just to scare you and different midwifes have different opinions, so try not to be too hard on yourself, you are doing amazing and to be expressing that amount is fantastic x
Arliandra - I'm so sorry to hear your struggling with breastfeeding, it can be so hard, with dc2 I was so determined to feed him I used nipple shields for 4 months! I've just found national breastfeeding helpline - 03001000212 www.breastfeeding.nhs.uk / breastfeeding network support line - 0300 100 0210 / nct breastfeeding line - 0300 330 0771 www.nctpregnancyandbabycare.com / la leche league 24 hrs - 0845 120 2918 www.laleche.org.uk
I hope one of those can help even just a bit of encouragement and support sending lots of good vibes for the night, will check in when little one has me up in the night xx
Oh please don't think you're a failure arlandria, breastfeeding is really difficult at first. You'll get the hang of it soon. Is there a helpline number you could try? Just for a bit of emotional support if nothing else.
Didn't go so good with the midwife baby has lost over ten percent of his birth weight so i have spent the rest of the afternoon crying thinking i am a failure :-(
They didn't send us to hospital as he isn't showing any signs of being dehydrated and he is weeing and having dirty nappies. I did tell them he only started feeding off both yesterday and only really got the hang of it I did tell them i asked for help in the hospital and they just looked at my positioning and said that was okay they never helped with anything else :-(
I have to feed him every two hours followed by cup feeding of 20ml i have expressed after every feed so far he has had two feeds and two cup feeds.
Think its going to be a long night but anything to make sure he is okay! I can see why people give up and go to formula i was very tempted so upset :-( and if the midwife had paid more attention yesterday they would picked it up earlier! :-(
Also. DH doesn't understand tidying. At all. He hides things, or piles things up but proper sorting and tidying he is clueless.
Last time one reason we didn't have people help was because the house was so cluttered and horrible. Not dirty as such but just really cramped. So this time I'm determined to let people help if they want to, but I can't do that if there isn't some sort of organisation
The lack of food is worrying me too - not sure, they said about an hour until you're back up in the ward, and normally that's when you're given
the food of the gods the toast and jam - be sure to ask at your pre-op meeting and tell me!!! I also have low blood pressure, oh this could be entertaining... make sure DH is ready to catch me.
I'm also trying to get my head round the fact i'll feel the c section, but not feel pain. I know what you mean, I think i should be focussing on tidying the house, not the op itself...
don't mind I have many many concerns about the CS, but the food element is the one which worries me most - I have low blood pressure and not eating makes me flake out fast, did they say how long it would be before you can eat again?
I've got preop on Friday. Am getting quite wound up about it now.
Re the lengthy list I know it sounds insane but I think it's a control thing - I cannot think about the CS so I need to think about everything else instead. Somehow in my head if the house is straight and organised, then it will all go more smoothly. Plus how much can DD and DH muck it up in three days?!
But I've broken down tasks into little steps in order to delegate at least a few things to DH!
53 jobs?? Please tell me you're delegating a lot of those...
I had my "pre-op" meeting today - apparently they will shave me on the morning of the c section if it's deemed to be required, we were told strickly not to shave or wax ourselves as risk of infection or something. Now, three issues with this, 1) i don't want to be dealing with pant topary on the morning of the c section, 2) if they just shave the bit they need then it might not be even and 3) shaved regrowth itches, I'd much rather have waxed regrowth. Debating seeing if I can get an emergancy wax at my (very clean) beauticans this weekend and go for full hollywood, if there's nothing there, then it is bound to be removing what htey need to be removed and at least it'll regrow at the same rate and not itch. Or is this very silly as I've been told not too?
Oh and as well as not eat, I've got to restrict what I drink prior to the ELCS, I'm a bit nervious about that, if I'm dehydrated, I'm more likely to faint and I do tend to faint at needles, I'm going to have a line put in my back, one in my hand, it's going to be a lot of needles, when I'm going to be not able to use one of my calming down techniques of drinking a lot of water.... hmm, this could be entertaining...
Congrats Maisie. Sorry it took so long for you but glad you have your little one now!
Um red, I am having a baby and then moving country and still only have about 15 things on my to do list currently (although it is organised by month, so that is just for the next two months). So....what are we all forgetting??!
Red I'm a bit scared if you have 53 jobs on the list as you seem so much more organised than I am so I'd probably have about 100 if I attempted to write such a list ( she says, burying her hand firmly in the sand)!
Mrsbri yes it's strange this mix of excitement at seeing the baby again and still feeling a little scared as you so desperately want it all to be ok.
Congratulations Maisie, lovely name!
Rue how are you getting on with your tea drinking relatives? and hope both baby Rue and baby camper are gaining weight, arlandria pleased things are settling down
Re the movements some days and not others some of it will be influenced by where the placenta is lying (it moves up and down) yesterday when we had the 38w growth scan the sonographer said placenta had moved higher as it had been behind my tummy button last time and I certainly felt more yesterday.
I didn't do any baking today after all, state of the kitchen put me off. We've someone refitting lots of cupboards for extra storage and everything is everywhere. DD came home from nursery looking like stig of the dump so bubble bath and washing machine on!
I wrote a list of jobs to do and its got 53 items on it
name choosing is so hard! but dp have managed to agree on one of each we both like, so if he isn't here for the birth I can at least know what he liked!
just hoping bubs suits the name or that could open a whole New can of worms
whoever recommend antenatal group - this is my evening sorted. I am curling up with the kindle and reading.
glad everyone seems to be having more positive days today - always good.
oli hope all is going ok for you - sending lots of hugs and anything else required
Haha I thought at first it was me not baby
throbbing fanjo so was relieved when I figured out it was hiccups (they got a bit more vigorous!)
There really is nothing more disconcerting than hiccups in your bits!
And it does sound like baby is head down if that's where you feel them :-)
I had a look at your name thread...I should have put my choice on there, shouldn't I?!
And I've been told that if if my measurement is the same on Monday I have to have a growth scan, which I'm a bit apprehensive about, so I know where you're coming from. Odd, isn't it?
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