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August 2013 - Part 4 - Half way there already!

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RugBugs Fri 15-Mar-13 19:00:11
Abilee90 Mon 18-Mar-13 14:06:57

Ruck - hopefully she'll be a great support and wont get in the way. I dont always see eye to eye with dm so hopefully this can be as relaxed as possible. My mil also said this to me about whos gonna look after me, i wasnt so nice as dh is a man and should be able to cope. Plus she only lives 5 mins round the corner. I just wanted to say typical. Hopefully your mil will also help with baby and you. Not just the son.

Congrates on your scan duende and a pink bump aww! I have a dd and i love it. Cant wait to have a boy this time

4 days til scan
20 weeks smile xxx

FoofFighter Mon 18-Mar-13 14:31:32

ahhh another girl to even it up a little smile how lovely Duende

Locketjuice Mon 18-Mar-13 15:00:45

They have postponed my scan until 5th April hmm and just got a letter to say I will be under extra care as first baby had a complicated pregnancy and went in to labour and 24 weeks but thankfully they gave me hormones and stopped it, so have a appointment for that too... Also have a water infection which is what made me go into early labour last time so been doctors for her to not realise I was pregnant and give me the wrong ones only once she said oh use extra precaution as you can get pregnant on these did I realise she hadn't noticed and had to tell her, she then said ohh sorry don't get the dirt antibiotics I have given you a prescription for then it will harm the baby!! Didn't seem bothered at all!! hmm

beckie90 Mon 18-Mar-13 15:19:21

Scan also done here too, still team blue smile all is well.

Congrats to the other ladies on scans today :D xx

MrsPennyapple Mon 18-Mar-13 15:45:16

Ruck That's sad about your church. How do they expect the congregation to carry on, and even grow, if they won't tolerate children and babies? It seems a little mean-spirited. I'm afraid I'd continue going to the same one, change is a fact of life, they'll have to live with it. Let them think of it as a lesson in tolerance if it helps them! Remind them that God welcomes all into his house? (I should say I'm not actually religious, but I was raised in a very religious household so I am aware just how much it means if you are.)

Snufflebabe I am 20 weeks today and only this week have started to feel proper kicks and thumps. I didn't feel very much at all until a few days ago, when I felt baby do a big roll over, he / she must have been in a position where I just couldn't feel the movements.

Abi Glad you got a positive response from your mum! Must be lovely to be able to share the excitement with her now.

Waves to everyone else!

TrixieLulamoon Mon 18-Mar-13 16:15:02

Afternoon Ladies,

Well I had my scan on Friday and, sorry to rock the uneven team boat again, I am team BLUE! Have 2 dd so DH is made up (it's his first so I think he would have been either way).

We have chosen a name. We LOVE it, only MILFH (mother in law from hell) hates the name and even said it was STUPID. We are not changing our minds though, we still love it and she can go take a long walk off of a short pier. Sorry, rant over!!

I have fallen in love with the Bugaboo Cameleon in the Sahara colour. Im soooooo gutted it is probably out of our price range though maybe, just maybe we can manage it? Argh, i love it! If we don't manage to get that, the Icandy peach that DH doesnt like Sola is our second choice.

Ruck Im not religious either but totally agree with MrsPenny , I would just carry on going anyway. Church is not some kind of exclusive club where they can pick and choose the congregation!

Stig YAY for no more sickness! I seem to have replaced my sicky feelings with heartburn sad

20+1

muddybloodypuddles Mon 18-Mar-13 17:24:57

trixie - congrats on your team blue scan - am intrigued about the name now... yes MILFH can do one lol!

Duende congrats on your pink scan!

Ruck - our church tries to welcome children but not sure if the congregation agree! We're not regular attendees though...it does seem too much hassle!

Stiggy - how fab your sickness has ended! Just need to get some of that for waves now

locket - i really do wonder about some of these doctors!! They're really hit and miss!

My scan is on Wednesday - am excited but also getting a bit nervous in case there's anything wrong, I know odds are they would have spotted something at the 12 week scan but doesn't stop me worrying. Hopefully everything will be okay and will also be able to see which team we are!

Whoever said pregnancy 2nd time round whilst looking after a toddler is a lot more tiring I def agree!! Glad its not just me! At first thought I was being a bit crap but I suppose sitting down at a desk most of the day in first pregnancy compared to running around and entertaining a 3yr old are quite different!

muddybloodypuddles Mon 18-Mar-13 17:25:43

oh yes forgot to add 20 weeks today!! Exactly half way there now!! grin

Chuckaluck Mon 18-Mar-13 18:20:58

Hi all, congrats on all the scans. We have scan tomorrow - am feeling worried but hopefully all will be well smile

RugBugs Mon 18-Mar-13 19:32:59

Hurray for good scans today!

Muddy I'm still waiting for this rise in energy I've been told to expect. DD is 28mths and I'm sure she's teething at the minute, lots of drool and clinging.

Wavering about finding out the sex now.
Realised we have enough white newborn so the planning clothes reason is out. The only positive I can think of is that with DD I was so out of it when she was delivered I didn't understand what the mw was showing me! Didn't help I had to take out my lenses so couldn't see the mw let alone the baby she had in her hands!
DD doesn't understand boy/girl yet so can't use that as a reason.

How did everyone else decide?

FoofFighter Mon 18-Mar-13 19:45:42

trixie, congrats on your boy :D Re the cam - could you get a normal one in sand (or an older one?) and get some extra orange or brown fabrics to kind of fake your own sahara?

Woofers Mon 18-Mar-13 20:13:57

Re finding out sex of babe. Dh has always wanted to know at 20w for practicalities
I was undecided.
Then a friend said she found out because her dh was insisting on calling her bump a boy, so she thought it would be important for him. And my dm has said finding out the sex helps the dad to bond and be involved in the pregnancy.

I think my dh needs to know its a girl so he has 20 w to get used to the idea. At the moment bump is a boy.

Me "what if Herbert is a girl?"
Dh "we will call HIM herberta"

I think I may have some work to do if its a girl grin

Ps we aren't calling it Herbert, or herberta - Bertie for a boy. Family name.

beckie90 Mon 18-Mar-13 20:14:10

Congrats trixie smile

chuck are you finding out tomorow or staying a Suprise? Good luck smile

Xx

MrsWajs Mon 18-Mar-13 21:04:31

Woofers Bertie is cute! DP is hell bent on this baby being a girl so I think he needs to find out at 20 weeks incase it's a boy. It took him a good week to get over the fact that DD was a girl!

MuddyPuddles I'll definitely agree that second time round with toddler is much more tiring!

Congrats on all the scan news, we're still pretty top heavy with boys though!!

My scan is exactly a month away now hmm and I have an appt the day before at the dental hospital to have my wisdom teeth removed - don't think that will be happening as I will need a general anaesthetic and they won't do it whilst pg! Anyone any experience of having it done under local?? It's not the pain thing that's the issue it's the noises and the pulling whilst I'm awake that freaks me out!

muddybloodypuddles Mon 18-Mar-13 21:24:00

mrswajs - i would call the hosp and tell them you're pg (if they don't know already), you can't have general - I was on the waiting list for wisdom teeth to be removed and had consultation a month or so ago, we agreed it would be better to wait until I wasn't pg anymore, so we re-made the consultation appt for Sep which means I will be re-put on the waiting list from then. We agreed it was better not to have chemicals pumped in unless absolutely necessary.

rugsWith regards to reasons for finding out sex, it is both for me and DH to bond and also so I can tell DS it will be a brother or sister. I found it a bit difficult to bond with DS when he was born as I fully expected him to be a girl!! i also want to buy a few colour bits and sell the huge amount of boxes of clothes I have for DS if not a boy - as we will not be having any more DC's. With DS main reason for not finding out was it's the only part that is still a surprise with pregnancy, a secret only the baby knows (and thought it may help with final pushing lol)

PixieBaby Mon 18-Mar-13 21:28:45

Hello everyone - I am due in early August and just found this thread. My scan is on Thursday, I am excited but also nervous in terms of hoping everything is okay.

This is my first child. DH and I would love to find out whether we are having a little boy or girl. Sorry to the team yellow folks!

beckie90 Mon 18-Mar-13 21:40:52

Welcome pixie smile

rugs I decided because as it was my 3rd and already having 2 boys I'd got convinced this was a girl so I wanted to know for sure rather then be shocked when he come out a he cause my mind was like 90% convinced lol. I also feel that I can bond better once i know and just the fact I'm impatient. I knew with both my boys and the births were still super special. However ds1 is really Adamant he wants a girl, he's been telling me off today lol, he said mum is the baby a boy I said yea were having another boy he said but I want a girl though and I want her to be called ruby or isabelle Haha. xx

Abilee90 Mon 18-Mar-13 21:46:43

See i dont think it matters if you know sex to baby or not, all the excitement is to meet them and have that first initial cuddle. I knew and i pushed as hard as possible to meet her. So i wouldnt take that into consideration.

I just tried to explain why i want a relaxed water birth and he told me i was silly :/ typical. Well if i can have it, i am end of. I have nightmares of my labour and wake up shaking and sweating. So i'm desperate for a relaxed and calm labour. Praying that i'm gonna get what i want. Also no 3rd degree tear please!xx

duende Mon 18-Mar-13 21:54:56

mrswajs i had two wisdom teeth removed during one appointment under just local. It was awful, like you say, It wasn't even the pain (although it was painful) but the crunching noises, the pulling, etc. the dentist who did it was really skinny and petite and it turned out she was really struggling to pull them out, as she just lacked the strength. If I had to have it done again, I'd go to the biggest bloke I could find.

RugBugs Mon 18-Mar-13 22:06:13

Abi I think you have hit the nail on the head! It doesn't matter if we know or not which makes it hard to make a decision!
DP really doesn't mind either which doesn't help.

RugBugs Mon 18-Mar-13 22:09:29

Mrswaj I've had root canal done on a molar and that was bad enough.
It was really uncomfortable how far the dentist had to yank my mouth across to get to the tooth. He used some kind of green splint thing but it didn't really stay in place well and he kept pulling it back up.

Stopsittingonyoursister Mon 18-Mar-13 22:57:01

Urrggh for all the dental talk! mrswajs I'd try and put that off for as long as possible, at least until I could be completely knocked out! Crunching and grinding do not sound pleasant!

Abilee have you ever had a proper debrief from a specialist about your previous labour experience? Waking up having nightmares about labour sounds terrible. Would you consider some form of counselling or hypnotherapy treatment to help you process what happened and give you some help towards staying calm this time round?

Welcome Pixie, best of luck for Thursday!

RugBugs we didn't find out the sex of DS1 because he was our first and we wanted to keep it a surprise. We did find out DD's gender, because we thought it would help DS bond with the baby (he was about 2.5 yrs when we told him) and it was different but just as nice to prepare a pink room rather than a beige room. When it came to pushing, it still felt just as special, because although we knew DD was a girl, we hadn't met her, seen her little face or hands etc iyswim? So it was still just as a lovely as when we were getting to meet DS1. This time, we found out the sex because again, it will hopefully help the kids to bond with this baby, and also we can start to sort out and sell/donate the small mountain of clothes for the gender we no longer need!

Totally agree it is more tiring second (or third!) time round!

Abilee90 Mon 18-Mar-13 23:13:11

Stopsitting - no i havent, i also havent seen midwife since booking at 10 weeks because i'm under comsultant care but hopefully at 24 weeks i can talk to her about it all and hopefullu get some sort of support. Its terrible these dreams, i also feel the pain in these dreams. I felt like i was being tortured let alone having a baby. Sorry all first time mummys!

Most defo more tiring this time around. Dd has me on my feet 24/7 and then there is trying to run a house.

Dh now has the hump as i said i might be up for bedrooms activity but baby is really hurting me and stomach is so tender and my knee is killing me. So will just have to go to bed with stroop on.

Xxx

MrsPennyapple Mon 18-Mar-13 23:17:25

MrsWajs I have had a wisdom tooth out under local, and it was a breeze! Admittedly, it wasn't being removed because of normal wisdom tooth problems - it needed a filling, and due to the position of the cavity, there just wasn't room for the dentist to actually do the filling, so the tooth had to come out. It was so quick and easy, I could have wept with relief. I didn't tell anyone in advance, because if there is one thing guaranteed to bring out the dental horror stories, it's telling someone you're having a wisdom tooth out.

Woofers Bertie is a lovely name smile

Christelle2207 Tue 19-Mar-13 09:33:28

just had scan @ 20+4, all perfect and still on team yellow. apparently have anterior placenta which explains not feeling much. vvv relieved.

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