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Graduated elderberries

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janey1234 Tue 08-Jan-13 21:24:59

Hello all..,
Let's clog up a brand spanking new club over here smile

(By hello all, I guess I mean hello hazle. Hopefully the others will join us soon...)

Crawls in, slumps down, purplemonster has barely slept for two nights now and is no longer capable of any higher functions, which is difficult when you're at work.
Everything hurts, not even Kit Kats can cheer me up today sad

janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 11:07:54

Oh and hazle - 1 in 1400 is amazing odds. I was soooo jealous of your odds when I saw them! I went into the scan saying that I'd consider CVS/amnio for odds worse than those for my age (1:182) and that if it was 1:300 or less I'd be over the moon and finally relax. Mine were 1:3000 or something, and I almost cried. I genuinely do think that anything less likely than 1:500 is amazing and nothing to worry about at all. lol yours are unbelievable though!!

rache - I think my DP would empathise with you over the parent situation. It's so hard. My folks are both amazing, still together, so ridiculously supportive and just good fun to be around. His Mum is just lovely too. But he hasn't seen his dad in a year, and he barely bothers with DP sad. Anyway, I've been nagging saying that he has to tell him I'm pg or it will be weird, so he did, and sent a text asking to meet up. His Dad asked why, assuming he wanted money or something (I don't think DP has borrowed money off him in years, and has paid every penny back) and DP replied saying he was going to be a granddad. His dad replied asking if he was married, then nothing else sadsad. Am so hurt on his behalf. It's hard to understand why you wouldn't have much interest in your first grandchild, but there you go.

janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 11:08:44

Oh no, cross post purple

Are you OK?? <hugs>

BraveLilBear Wed 06-Feb-13 11:21:13

Hey Purple what's up? Where did your sleep go? Poor you!

Janey that's terrible, your poor DP sad My OH has a similar crazy situation with his mum. She sends Christmas and brithday cards (and I think he did actually send them a card back at Christmas this year) but they don't talk. One time, she came to the house and pushed a Christmas card through the door - must have been her, his sister would have knocked - but she didn't knock on the door to say hi or anything. He says if he saw her in the street he'd say 'hi', and that when we get married he'll invite her out of politeness.

I so desperately want things to be better between them but he's not interested at all. Learning to keep my nose out is very difficult. I assume she knows he's having (another) via his sister, but as far as I know she's not acknowledged it in any way. It honestly breaks my heart but there's not much I can do without really upsetting OH.

Family's are hard sad

janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 11:28:42

I know brave - it's so sad. And really hard for me to understand as he's behaving in the exact opposite way to my Dad (tearful when we told him as he was so happy, and bending over backwards to help us get our house ready for when the baby arrives, and will provide as little or as much support as we ask for when needed). I kind of feel like I bullied him into telling his Dad, as I felt that if he didn't it could spell the end of their relationship altogether (thinking that if I was his Dad, I'd be devastated not to know). Now I'm just upset that DP, and our baby, has effectively been rejected due to me sticking my nosey old beak in. Thankfully that isn't what he thinks, and he says he chose to do it and I didn't bully him, but I find it pretty heartbreaking on his behalf. I guess he's used to it sad

HazleNutt Wed 06-Feb-13 12:14:28

Purple but what about those amazing new coconut Kit Kats I heard you guys have? I haven't seen any here and I love anything coconut.

As for parents, DH asked if I am planning to raise the baby pretty much as my parents raised me, or I would do something totally differently. I said that pretty much the same - he on the other hand says that he will certainly be everything his dad wasn't when he was a kid.

PILs are not bad people, not abusive or anything, I guess they did the best they could. But they were busy with their farm and DH spent most of his childhood in front of TV, they never did anything together as a family. So nowadays, while they get along and it's nothing like some other parents described here, I would not describe the relationship as warm and loving either. I certainly hope we'll manage to do a better job.

Rache1S Wed 06-Feb-13 12:14:47

Hazle we did a rainforest tour in Puerto Rico while waiting for our flight home. I didn't have time for shopping but we did drive past loads of good shops which I would have loved to go into. I bet you can't wait?

Families eh, who'd have one? The sooner scientists learn how to grow babies without parents the better grin

Sorry you're feeling shit Purple, have you been to the doctors?

Hey? What? COCONUT KIT KATS? Where? Why did nobody tell me! I must find one immediately! (perks up)

Thanks for the sympathy lovely ladies, I'm ok, just SHATTERED, I was already virtually falling to bits before I got pregnant and I don't think my body is coping too well with the recent changes and weight gain. My back hurts, my stomach hurts, my hips hurt, every time I roll over in bed something clonks or clicks. It's not very conducive to a good nights sleep and I can't even self medicate with wine. No doubt this too will pass and I'll be on to another horrid symptom soon! I'm afraid, given how absolutely useless, rude and unhelpful my GP surgery have been previously, I think I'd have to actually think I might be dying before I'd bother to phone them again. Actually, from what I can tell, you can't get an appointment with them unless you're actually dying anyway...

HazleNutt Wed 06-Feb-13 12:51:08
janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:58:41

Seen them in the canteen hazle. Can't say I'm tempted though, always too busy stocking up on fanta these days sad

You can vote for your favourite and then that one stays!

Oh no! you said Kit Kat, you didn't say 'the abomination that is Kit Kat Chunky which is basically a good Kit Kat RUINED'...(sulks)
This is nearly as bad as when Tesco had run out of smoky bacon crips yesterday! (I admit, I'm tired and hormonal so perhaps not ENTIRELY rational at the moment grin)

Rache1S Wed 06-Feb-13 14:48:08

I nearly spat my Fanta out chucking at that Janey grin

bingeddybongo Wed 06-Feb-13 14:54:32

HELLO!

<crashes into thread>

I'm not quite sure how I just found you all but I'm very excited to see there's a graduate elderberry club smile I disappeared off MN after my first failed month of ttc towards the end of last year because I could see myself starting to obsess a bit... but I got a surprise bfp (having stopped thinking about it at all!) two weekends ago, am coming up to 7 weeks on Saturday and am due October 1.

So, congratulations to all of you, I am very excited for you! :D <raises glass of... water>

HazleNutt Wed 06-Feb-13 15:05:51

Congratulations! Glas of Fanta here! wine

Rache1S Wed 06-Feb-13 17:07:26

Welcome Big and massive congratulations! We have all been saying it's about bloody time we had some more BFP's!

It's interesting you saying you got caught after stopping thinking/obsessing over it. I've heard a few people say that so there's got to be more to it than just hearsay. There's obviously much to be said for a spot of relaxation. But if you've already got a few weeks under your belt (literally!) you have probably realised by now that pregnancy and obsessing go hand in hand grin

bingeddybongo Wed 06-Feb-13 17:20:57

Haha too right Rache, in my case mostly AM I ALLOWED TO EAT THIS???

Thank you both for the congratulations... how are you all feeling? <scrolls up to find out how far along everyone is>

Rache1S Wed 06-Feb-13 17:33:06

I'm 20 weeks today. Half way already, I can't believe it! It seemed like time stood still until about 15 weeks but has speeded up a bit now the nausea has stopped (at 16 weeks for me sad). I almost feel human again at the moment. A quite tubby human that is!

How about you? Have you had any morning sickness? If you Google any foods during pregnancy there always seems to be a reason why you should avoid it but I think you just have to take everything with a big spoonful of common sense.

I think Zombies will be really pleased you've joined us. I think she's about 10 weeks and feels quite far behind us.

janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 17:33:48

Yay! Massive congrats bing. We have been sat here with baited breath waiting for a new graduate, so it is very lovely indeed to see you. smile

I think you have a good point. We should start a little summary thingy so we all know where we are?

Janey - 18 weeks - due 9th July

Oh, and bing, whatever you do, STEP AWAY FROM THE FANTA. Rache selfishly introduced us all and I think we are all now hooked...

janey1234 Wed 06-Feb-13 17:34:33

Oops cross post rache. Glad to see you haven't been fanta-pushing yet wink

Rache1S Wed 06-Feb-13 17:45:12

Janey I will wait until she is indoctrinated fully before I introduce my slightly embarrasing Fanta addiction blush

Janey - 18 weeks - due 9th July
Rach - 20 weeks - due 26th June

bingeddybongo Wed 06-Feb-13 18:06:49

Hahaha just the mention of it's got my mouth watering... I've got a Haribo problem at the moment... a big bag of gummy bears seems to be the one of the only things that takes my mind off the nausea. This belly I've grown at 6.5 weeks, it's definitely the baby, right? <cough>

I'm just getting the hang of managing my morning sickness a bit, it's been pretty horrible but I'm just relieved to only have exhaustion and nausea, not actually being sick, and I've fully embraced the idea of all-day snacking (see above re Haribo) which has really helped. That and the ginger tea. I'm getting lots of spots now as well, which I'm obviously thrilled about, but I was really excited about my boobs getting bigger until I realised they weren't turning into lovely perky pornstar boobs but are morphing into big saggy testicles instead.

Anyway... I am thrilled to have such fab company, even if you're all waaaay ahead of me!

Janey - 18 weeks - due 9th July
Rach - 20 weeks - due 26th June
Bing - 6.5 weeks - due 1st October

BraveLilBear Wed 06-Feb-13 18:15:17

Welcome and congrats Bing!

I'm Brave (tho not really) and the scan says I'm 16+2.

Big tip - eat what you can when you can, it might not last forever! (My proper morning sickness kicked in at 7 and a half weeks and only just shed it recently) Happy reading!

BraveLilBear Wed 06-Feb-13 18:17:29

X-post due to starting typing an hour ago and having to crisis-whack at work in the interim!

Janey - 18 weeks - due 9th July
Rach - 20 weeks - due 26th June
Bing - 6.5 weeks - due 1st October
Bear - 16 weeks - due July 22 (tho starting to tell people Augst so I don't get 'is it here yet?' texts when the time comes)

bingeddybongo Wed 06-Feb-13 18:27:11

Thanks Brave smile The trouble with me and food right now is, I usually think about it all the time, I love cooking and am usually constantly dreaming about what I'm going to make next... but all of a sudden I've totally lost all interest in it. It's very suddenly become something functional to keep me going, not something I actually enjoy and enjoy making... I just can't be bothered! sad But at least I know it won't last forever smile

Yay! Someone new! Welcome and congratulations Bing! All day snacking definitely helped me with the nausea so I advocate eating whatever you can, even if its Haribo grin I know I felt like I'd felt sick FOREVER but it does pass honest! (Then you get lots of other horrid symptoms instead but we're not going to mention those)

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