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Hey there insanity! Wow, no surprises you've been too busy to post recently, what a mad fewer or so! Glad things are starting to improve (and you dumped the nasty 'friend').

We moved threads - link from possom a few lines up. Serves you right for disappearing for longer than 24 hours when you know how we like to talk...

Anyway, I'm happy (despite having been up since an unearthly hour) as I get to kill the thread & post the 1000th post ambition realised

See you over there

Hi again guys. Been a while since I checked here and have to admit I haven't bothered going back over the 10 or more pages (lazy mummy emoticon).

Am huge (as was last time so no major surprise) and still shattered. Was feeling v stressed as house building/architect/planning officers meetings all came to a head last week and we had to rush paperwork in in 2 days rather than 2 weeks as our planning officer suddenly announced he was going on holiday Mad rush ensues.
Various other issues involving my ex happened on the same day and then a friend who I haven't seen for a couple of months suddenly announced to me that she felt I was a sh*te friend because I hadn't asked her how she was in the last 6 weeks and became rather nasty about my previous birth (no I have no idea why she bought that into it, imagine it was all she could think of to hurt me with) which she knows I still worry about and especially now I am pg again. She basically said 'hope you don't find this birth too difficult like the last one' after a lot of sarcasm. It hurt as I had an EMCS and heamorraghed after being able to feel my catheter throughout the op. Anyway - you get the idea, things have been a bit haywire. Oh and in amongst that my new OH signed himself into a hugely exorbitent car deal and skipped telling me a lot of the financial highlights on the repayments and interest... Just when I was thinking we were getting on OK too

All changing now though. Plans are finally in so now don't give a stuff if permission refused (if I can't have an attic for storage and they are insisting on the damn flat roof I don't want to live in that house anyway), 'friend' is no longer a friend so issue of me being a crap friend solved, lovely meeting with an After Birth specialist at my hospital and she finally told me who my midwife was and went over my medical records - I remember it all pretty much to the letter, which I wish I didn't! And finally it looks like we are better off if I just fork out for this bloody car and buy it outright. At least I know what to do though and so no big stress other than it being my savings and my OH is a complete knob end with money. Oh and my dad is really really unimpressed with him, which will be torture for quite a while.

Long rant over! Phew! Hope everyone is starting to feel less sicky. I still haven't managed my 5 a day once yet and feeling v. guilty.

Possom did it before manda - just a few posts up. Come and mark your place!

just briefly ... on the new thread (well spotted tiddley!) is it just 'start a new thread in this topic'?) happy to do it if no-one else has a burning urge! but the important thing is - what will we call ourselves?!

Evening ladies,

Zoey that is awful and made worse by our horrible system, good behaviour , but it sounds like you are dealing with it as best you can, brave woman

Manda with dc3 I got a graco travel system type thing, the pram bit was more like a buggy so I found it did the whole time where as with the first 2 I got a really fancy one, ended up with a buggy, had a mothercare double buggy for awhile the when dd1 got bigger I went back to single buggy for ds

I've completely forgotten whoelse I was thinking about
Pregnancy symptoms mine have eased off too but very tired now so at least better than sickness

Very jealous of jumping bean scans but so pleased for those of you that have pics, I got dd1s baby book out as she is a March baby and was having a look at her scans #eversoexcitedemoticon
I also wrote a pregnancy diary with her but it must be packed away in attic

Sundae sorry to hear about your cat,

That's it I can't remember anything else I will blame being on phone

Afternoon or are we in evening yet?

I can't even begin to put in words how I'm feeling at the moment. The boys are being absolute bastards. Being naughty, disobeying me, laughing at punishments and making a mess after I've spent the whole day cleaning. It's obvious I'm a bad mother and can't control my own children. Really I should call the in-laws, they'd love this.

To add DH is stressing BIG TIME over money. He's acting like we're going to go bankrupt any second, when the reality is he earns 80K a year plus bonuses and collectively we have more money than most people and they seem to survive okay. He's taken to getting up in the early hours of the morning 2am because he can't sleep. However, my problem with this is in doing so he wakes me up and then I can't sleep because I'm stressed over his behaviour. In addition to this, he txts me through the day wanting to know the hours I work and when he's home stares at a spreadsheet of figures and goes on every 5 minutes about how we have no money.

To add to the stress of the boys and DH I'm also learning to drive.

So basically, I'm just waiting to miscarry, I don't have a chance, I 'm under far too much stress for a healthy pregnancy.

Still having cramping and sharp pulling pains and my tummy is practically flat (I never had a flat tummy to begin with).

I feel like crying.

Really looking forward to putting these two little bastards to bed and then I can clean the rooms again.

We've got a fucking playroom full of toys so can someone please explain to me why they will only sit watching TV or if they do play with toys, why do they bring them into the sitting room and mess that up?

sundaesundae that's horrible. I'm so sorry. I have a PHD in being insensitive. And with that in mind...

zoeymlucas I have to ask, how? What did he do and how was he able to? From what I'm aware, there are proceedures in place to stop this. I've never known there to be just one person in an operating theatre. Plus, if he's done this before, how was he able to get work in your hospital?

here

I'll sort it if you like? Give me a sec...

I can't either this time - on phone and no broadband. Help guys, we're running out of post space!

Hope you're ok harpie, wherever you are...

I don't know how to start a new thread but on my phone so not sure if it would work anyway!!
I've not seen any recent posts from harpie.

By the way, anyone heard from harpie lately? I do hope she's ok - have I missed a recent post perhaps?

Who is starting the next thread?? Thinking caps on ladies

sundae what an upsetting day you've had. So sorry your beloved cat ran out of lives - I hope you are able to bury him Tomorrow is a new day - try not to predict the worst, you are sad and vulnerable. My preg symptoms dropped away considerably at 9 weeks - maybe its the norm?

Hi all, just been catching up on the monumental number of posts since I was last on (yesterday!!)

ZOey that is horrendous, no wonder you are stressed about hospitals.

Tay and rainbow just heartbreaking reading your posts.

Sarah and possum (I think) great news on scans!

Train is just pulling into station so will post more later...

sundae sending you hugs, my cat is my baby too and I constantly worry about him. I hope you find him to bury, if you don't find him maybe planting something or donating his food to a cat rescue place may help a little? Thinking of you xx oh and don't ms symptoms calm down at 9-10 weeks? That's what my MW said x
zoey that's terrible, I don't blame you at all for not wanting to be alone in hospitals, I can't believe he got let out early either, it's awful and I hope everything goes well for you
pipsicles scan buddy! What time is yours? Mines the first one we could get in the morning as I'll just wind myself up if I have to wait much longer!

I'm sorry, I feel very selfish, so many of you have been through so much worse than losing a cat, no matter how precious he was to us.

I apologies if my post was insensitive at all to anyone.

zoey that's awful, you poor thing, no wonder you are anxious about it.
sundae that's such a shame, lost a cat this way myself & it's heart breaking. Hugs to you.
rainbow I can't even imagine what you and your DH have been through. I'm keeping everything crossed that all goes well for you with your pregnancy & that you have sensitive & reassuring medical staff with you.

Big hoorays to possom and sarah! So happy for you both and your beans!

But big hugs to sundae for your lost cat and to zoey for your awful, awful experience in hospital. There are no words...

Thanks for the pram recommendations, Insanity! I'm a bit baffled by all that, really. I think I'd prefer them to lie/sit side-by-side and I want something robust that I can jog along the (fairly smooth) towpath with ah, as long as I can get it over the lock first! A question for those already with kids: do you usually have one pram (with a kind of car seat thing) for when they are a small baby and another for when they are a bit more robust and can sit up properly? Or can you have one 'travel system' (sounds so American!) right from the beginning? I don't think we want to spend a ridiculous amount of money, especially if we'll have to replace it after a few months or a year. I don't think we'd mind a secondhand one, so perhaps we'll get something through the local TAMBA (twins) group.

Thanks, tiddley - two girls, eek! I would love one boy though. DH hopes they are the same sex as he thinks it would be easier once they are at school and wanting all the latest fashions with gender-specific toys etc. (Till then we imagine we'll be able to bring them up fairly unisex: both will help with baking, both will love lego - are we naive?! Our tiny niece is a little princess all in pink so there is of course the MIL factor to bear in mind…)

Poor Haitch - but it sounds like you know your own mind on this which is important. Good to stick up for yourself in these situations.

Sheldonella, this is our first year on a full-size lottie and I'm hoping that the babies won't mind coming down with us in early spring next year as we do want to keep it on

Oooh, and it's probably not a good idea to sleep in our bedroom tonight now I've gone and painted it with colour squares from the tester pots, is it? Hmm...

Ooops, cue tears for Trotter's gold medal ...

I put a maternity bra on this morning and it was just bliss. Aaaah! Have ordered a couple of pairs of maternity trousers - one pair for work and a pair of skinny jeans. I still have a flat stomach (despite a 3 year old DS!) though, but I was in maternity trousers at work at 10 weeks last time as I was so bloated!

Zoey what an horrific story! I'm so sorry they let this monster out early, makes me sick.

And Sundae how sad. Take care x

Oh Sundae, I'm so sorry to hear all of that evenif your DH doesn't find the body, make sure you grieve properly and perhaps plant something in his memory in your garden?

Don't despair about not feeling pg - you have a lot going on right now, physically and emotionally, so you need to be kind to yourself.

Zoey I am horrified to hear your story! Even worse to know that he's not had to do his full term! I never quite understand that. I am not surprised to hear that you are keen to stay in control of things.

I hadn't though of eBay either...! I just got an order from bumps maternity, which seems quite good. I got a belt extender kit which will allow me to carry on wearing my normal trousers for much longer. I dug my maternity jeans out last night (bliss), but am looking forward to trying this contraption out!

zoey how awful! Don't blame you being worried about hospital.
Mine is just down to anxiety& need to be in control.

((sundae))

Having a dreadful, dreadful day. We put up posters about our missing cat and someone called DH to say they saw him hit and killed on Wednesday night but his body was gone when they went back next morning. Devestated doesn't begin to cover it. Just put his bowl away and will put his bed away. DH is going to look for his body after work so we can bury him. he was my baby.

I am worried I don't feel pregnant any more and have a weird pressurey pully feeling low in my abdomen. I went to tell GP about preggo this AM so now worried I am going to MC and then get scan appts and midwife appts to cancel.

Just sat at home sobbing. And my work laptop just died.

zoey how awful! I can't express how dreadful that is. Just (((hugs)))

Hitch glad to hear someone elses epidural didnt take and then did the following time as this has been really stressed me out that if it didnt work once it wont work ever, lol me, slightly dramatic, never!
I have a laminated piece of paper that tells the hospital I am allowed someone with me at all times and in any theatre recovery so got very upset and freaked out when things changed so fast as when I go to hospital I plan everything and I think this time is going to be even worse for me
I had my hip op in Oct 09 and a member of staff sexually assulted me in theatre recovery - he got 5 years as done the same to another lady in Hull while on bail for me and then finally pleaded guilty. But he was released about 3 weeks ago after doing 2 1/2 years 'for good behaviour'. I know he can never work there or anywhere like that again but when I get there I freak and operations etc are out of my control and since this have become a super control freak and spend alot of time planning things so I am always in control and know whats going on - changes that happen really dont sit well with me!

Cant believe I didnt think of ebay for maternity clothes - off to visit there right now!!

thereis this will be a budget pregnancy too. I'm buying as much as poss off eBay and christmas and birthday lists are just going to be mothercare vouchers though my birthday is my due date so that could be a little late.
I want to be really specific with my pram choice. I don't have a brand in mind but know I want big wheels for rough terrain and would prefer 3 wheeler! Pref travel system but I'm open to suggestions from those in the know! Needs to be a smooth runner on rough hilly ground! Easy to manoeuvre - size isn't really an issue here so I don't mind if it's a chunky style

Hey everyone! So happy about scans... But a bit lot jealous! I am 9 weeks tomorrow, but worried today as symptoms are definitely fading. I've felt horrible these past few weeks cramps, boobs and sickness but these past few days nothing. Do you think I should be worried? thisis you're not far from me - I'm in wilmslow are you going to wythenshawe?