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Anyone else wanting to celebrate being an older mum and laugh away others' judgemental comments such as my personal favourite of the week, " Do you know that when your child is twenty you'll be sixy?"

What I wish I'd replied #1 " yeah, I aim to take early retirement so when they go to uni/work I'm going to get a round the world ticket to all the countries I still want to visit!

What I wish I'd replied #2 "Wow you can do basic math!"

All I actually managed was a sarcastic "no?". hey ho!

Due date 22 May 2012 and so excited yippee

Hi Im at an age when 40 is still young! what lovely news, a baby at any age is a pure gift you lucky lucky girl
All the very best xx

Jealous.
(i'm 42)

Congratulations!! I was pg at 40, my DD turned 1 last month and I'm holding up ok against the younger mums. There's more of us elderly first timers around than you'd think - enjoy!

Congratulations! I had my son at 39 and had a great pregnancy. Guaranteed the doom mongers are also whinging about '"feckless" young mums too. Ignore and enjoy.

Congratultions!
I had a great pregnancy too,i was 42 when Ds arrived!

i'm 43, will be 44 when my little bean is born. Long way to go as am only 6 weeks but i know more than a few women who have healthy babies in their 40s. I'm not worried about my own health as am very fit.

Congratulations from one who has been there and done that and loved it...............twice

40 and 43 when DD and DS were born. Super-duper easy pregnancies and births and now enjoying the run-up to my 50th birthday next year with a soon-to-be 9 year old and a 6 year old in tow. Chocolate cake WILL be involved.

Work on those answers, you may need them but there are lots of us out here having a ball

Hi All, Congratulations too and thank you, so nice to hear positive stories rather than listening to "the doom mongers" ( madammoose I love that phrase!)
At 18 weeks and having just had a good anatomy scan I am really rather enjoying being pregnant again (had DD at 38), especially as I'm on holiday for Xmas so don't need to hide the bump. Letting it all hang out at last! Oh and no more morning sickness ... double result!

hi all 7 weeks and 41 years old, have 2 older children, but this feels like first time again, only difference this time around is all the tests needed, any advice please as trying not to worry but easier said than done

I am 40 and due in April, I must know more polite people than you as when they ask how I am feeling, and I answer honestly "too old and tired for this", they tell me 40 is not old!

I didn't have any testing as it would not personally change my mind about continuing with the pregnancy. Knowing in advance there was a disability would not be useful to me, just worrying. I had a 12 week dating scan and that's it. Do whatever you need to do to feel in control / informed, but remember that scans and tests are optional.

I'm 40 and 6 weeks with dc4.

Couldn't give a stuff what anyone says about "older mothers". Although I am finding the sickness with 3 dc around pretty tough.

Having said all that, I won't be telling people until after my anomaly scan. Pushing my luck there as I might be quite big but just don't want to have to explain myself to anyone in RL should there be any problems with the baby.

My mum was 41 when she had me! And she still keeps up with me....i am now 23. She is such a brilliant mum! No need to worry about being an older mum, its more normal now than when it was when i was born. x

40 when had first and only child- pregnancy a breeze - parenthood fine feel a lot calmer than some other younger mothers- although now some mistake me for grannie in the playground (often would be more than possible to be as well) but you'll be surprised by how many older mothers there are

I am 42 in August and expecting my 3rd in 5 weeks time after a gap of 12 years! Totally unplanned and unexpected but must admit I have felt fab in myself right the way through and have had loads more energy this time than with either of the other two. I did suffer with normal pregnancy stuff and it's a case of never again but have enjoyed it.

I am much more excited about this one than the last two for some reason. Aot more laid back, secure and looking forward to it. I am nervous about the sleepless nights and possible PND which I had last time but hey ho I am more confident of coping with it this time.

And I get 39 weeks paid to stay at home with my baby. Last time I had 18 weeks and a paltry £40 per week!

Hi. Congratulations everyone. I have just found out I am pregnant after a 6 year gap. (44) Not planned but I am thrilled but aprenhensive. Haven't even told dh yet as I know he won't be pleased.
Definately going to keep baby though.
Deardear how did your partner react?

This is giving me hope. I have two younger ones and I'm hoping to have another.

Me too Punch. Would love no.3 but age is a big factor in us thinking 2should we/shouldn't we"

I think it was the novelist Angela Carter who said 'no one should have a baby until they are in their forties'. I often think of that when I hear people saying stupid and nasty things about older mothers.

I had mine at 41 and 44 and now, with my fiftieth birthday tomorrow, will be celebrating it with my lovely 9 and 6 yo boys. (Yes, chocolate cake will be involved here too.) My life has been blessed by them and I'm incredibly grateful they are here. My age is of no importance beside the fact that they exist.

I'm 25 weeks and 41 too. I'm happy about this and where I live (london) I'm not considered old really!

I feel alright although slightly concerned that I'll be pushing 60 when this one leaves home! (but my mortgage ensures I'll be working until I die anyway).

I had DS aged 43 and am expecting another DC next month (age 47). I was very worried that everything would turn out alright, especially as I had 3 miscarriages the year before DS was born, but he is gorgeous and I have felt relatively reassured this time around by the various non-invasive investigations I have had.

I feel very, very lucky to have my wonderful little boy and also to have this second chance at motherhood.

That is lovely Here Comes the Sun - so lovely to hear things like this. I'm 40 and currently 21 weeks. Feel happy and blessed xx

I am 41 and almost 30 weeks pregnant with number 4 after a 16 yr gap.

I had my first son when I was 19 and unmarried and to be honest there was so much stigma attached to be a young unmarried mother then it ruined my experience. I didnt attend antenatal classes or get involved with groups for support and so ended up very isolated. My eldest is now 22.

I have experienced some odd responses to my being pregnant but to be honest i feel more mentally and physically equipped to bring this baby into the world than I did with my others. I think the funniest is the 'double take' look in the street ....face bump face again then quickly look away lol !! I feel I am healthier than I was 20 yrs ago, much more intune with my body and so much more sure of my needs and how I want to bring my child up. My GP was very supportive as she had had her last child at almost 48

My new partner hasnt got any children also I have 3 sons and this is a little girl so it is such a special and wanted pregnancy ......plus she will have 3 very loving and protective brothers We cant wait

Hello everybody, and a big hello to you, beattiebow!!!! (waves).

I'm 40 and have just found out i'm pregnant. The joy!! I had been TTC for two months and we are over the moon that this has happened so quickly for us. This will be my first baby and i'm so excited i can hardly breathe....

beattie have you found out the sex of your baby yet?

Congratulations to all you ladies x

P.s...am i on the right thread here, as i don't give a rat's ass how others' perceive my pregnancy?!!