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TTC 6 mths+ GRADS THREAD(743 Posts)
I thought I'd start a Grads thread for those of us previously on the TTC 6 mths+ thread. I've been lurking on the ttc thread recently to see how everyone is getting on (having only very recently qualified to move off it!) and a few people were saying what a nice idea it would be if there was a grads thread so we don't lose each other.
Anyway, would be lovely to hear from other lovely ladies that were on that thread - or even if you were never on the ttc thread but had a sticky time of it getting your bfp then come and settle down with a decaf cuppa for a chat.
<lays out some freshly baked goodies to tempt people in>
Ha ha Gin I share your horror! Apart from the woman who can actually sing, X factor is like end of term karaoke. Mr A thinks Louis Walsh is a news report waiting to happen with his little boys. I think he's probably right.
Just popping in quickly while waiting for Mini Art to finish one of her never ending late feeds. She's dozed off at least 3 times but as soon as I unlatch her she cries to go back on. We've had a lot of excitement today with her 4 small cousins and she's been a bit grumpy as a result. I hate those busy days when she's passed around like some novelty toy, thankfully we don't have to endure them very often.
Good to hear everyone is well, hope you're feeling better now Princess. I had a milder version of your bug last weekend & had to miss my first post-baby night out, though at the time I didn't care. Terrific news Mellow about the little man's sight and good to hear of BLW and kiwi poo ele! I am going to a weaning seminar later this week and looking forward to the messy stage. Waiting in anticipation too for the next round of 10+ babies! Hope the fertility gods wake up soon, we are long overdue some more BFPs.
I need to try to get Mini A to sleep but just wanted to pop in and prove I haven't disappeared! I do keep checking for news - exciting times
lemons yay, lovely to 'see' you over here. Hmm we need to tempt mad, as I think you're at a similar stage? Exercise class? I managed one preggo yoga one, but was then too knackered to do any more!
sar your scan sounds terrifying and the sonographer totally incompetent. The bump size thing is such bollocks. It does annoy me and I'm sure causes lots of unnecessary stress. Have you got any more scans or is that it? Re the gender, I think it's meant to be more obvious to see if it's a boy and even sonographers can struggle to confirm girls. However the sonographer should have respected your wishes and kept well away from the boy/girl bits.
I totally know what you mean about not being able to wait to meet the baby. I've got EVEN more immobile and can do v little now, apart from worry bout things going wrong! I just want the baby safely here. The waiting is hard...
buzz 5 days, wohoo! Enjoy your last week. I too get scared about ginster not moving. She's sometimes impossible to stir, but then 5 mins later starts thrashing about.
ele eewwww re blood dripping off your fingers. I'd have fainted at that! What on earth did they do to you?! I'm pleased you still have a moments in which to watch tv and eat chocolate Hamish sounds just adorable.
critter I know what you mean re posting bump pic on FB. The last thing I wanted to do was upset people (some of my v dear friends are having really tough ttc times at the mo, as well as some of the lovely ladies on here) but I felt I had to stop being in denial about the pregnancy, plus lots of people didn't know we're expecting, as we didn't do the big announcement thing. Just have to make sure I'm not one of those people who floods timelines with baby pics!
Waves and luffs to everyone else. Currently being horrified that the little Scottish kid has got through to X factor finals...
You are all so near... It's quite unbelievable! Can't wait for your flurry of births, just hope it comes with some long overdue bfps on the other thread!
All is well here, i've not been sick once, just knackered. I seem to be feeling a bit better, so I went to a pregnancy proof exercise class, it was wonderful but I have been unable to move since...
sar I have seen 3 scans of my babys bits and honestly couldn't make anything out sorry about the numpty sonographer.
lemon good to see you here
critter you are tiny my lovely and beautiful as always, I wasn't sure about putting up my picture up but thought why not, people still think i'm fat but my bump is huge, sometimes I feel she is going to explode 'alien' style
princess sorry you haven't been well
mellow good news on little m's sight
gin I have 5 days and counting work is a bit quiet so best to stop now although as I feel better I could have worked to the 20th but now have too many tea and cake afternoons planned, and 3 work do's aswell before xmas. Not to mention too many crafty projects to finish
Had a bit of a scare this morning with minibee not moving
most likely slept through it was trying not to freak Barry out about it all, tried lying on my stomach, Barry gave my belly a good rub to see if anything happened but nada, I was about to call the hospital when I finally felt a bit of movement, so she is like her dad and can sleep like the bloody dead
Had to take Kayla to the vet today, talk about traumatic
for us the vet has survived unscathed for another year
Sar how annoying about the scan. Grr at stupid sonographer stressing you guys out without good reason. On the gender front, we had a similar thing in that we asked not to know but they showed us a quite revealing shot of its bum too. Mini sar could still surprise you though! Even sonographers make mistakes and I have more than a couple of friends who got a surprise at delivery when they thought they knew what try were getting.
Ooopps lemon - 14 not 24 weeks x
Mellow - so so pleased that your baby is starting to see some more, truely wonderful news. Like critter I can imagine myself re-reading your sleeping advice in a few weeks.
Welcome lemon - and hooray for 24 weeks. I agree pregnancy does speed up from here. I had a great deal of nausea and sickness and heartburn throughout but mostly managable from 18 weeks ish - but that's not usual. Make sure you ask us any 2nd trimester questions. My bump came about 24 weeks but slightly rounder at about 19 weeks but no one could tell.
princess - oh you poor thing. Being spectacularly poorly plus baby sounds awful! Glad you are on the mend. Did any family come down and take over any duties?
Gin - so glad that your girl is head down and engaged!! fantastic that you can have the mw led unit birth. We just need these December babies to cooperate now. You are right about fingers and depth of engagement. 1/5 is very engaged so I was indeed 4/5 last time. Yes am loving mat leave and not sleeping well at night either.
On that note I am now at least 3/5 engaged so going in the right direction, but nothing exciting to report. Although my sister thinks my face and lips look more swollen - lovely.
Doll - you are right, its better to expect a late birth rather than expect something soon which is unlikely. How are you all getting on? Have you had family visit?
critter - your photo is beautiful, I think we have all made the right decision to just post one or two to mark the pregnancy journey.
ele - the baby dinners sound yum! Id quite like yo eat them.
Buzz - thinking of you. Hope you are feeling glowly and lovely.
Got referred for another growth scan this week due to ongoing small bump issues. Baby is 6.4 pounds which is fine but the stupid sonnographer told us there was significant blood flow/placenta problems and excessive amniotic fluid. He refered us to the consultant and we sat and waited to be seen, expecting an emergency induction. Not the nicest hour of my life. Then a very nice midwife eventually comes and takes us in to her office to say all is fine, go home. She was confused as to why we looked so shocked and couldn't understand why the sonographer interpreted our results as problematic. So that was that. Felt a lot like the ttc days where we had constant misdiagnosis and wrong advice. But the main thing is all is well with mini sar. The other annoying thing about the scan which felt really intrusive at almost 38 weeks was that I think I saw the gender (girl). After all this time of waiting for a surprise, I felt a bit cheated. Having a girl will be ace and of course I cant be 100% sure as im not a sonographer but I just feel it was a scan I wasnt meant to have. Ah well. All is good and just cant wait to meet my baby, tis wanted so much.
Yay lemon!! <envelopes in over enthusiastic hug> So happy you're here, hurrah! How are you feeling? Was the first trimester rough? For me it was totally the crappest part as I felt knackered and sick but couldn't feel the baby move yet. t didn't have an obvious bump until about 20 weeks I think, and didn't feel obvious movement until around then either. Pregnancy seems to speed up as you go along - the earlier part drags on forever, and then things seem to get faster and faster.
eleth hand knit things from friends are totally the best of both worlds. I have never fainted, but your description sounds scary - the sense of not being in control. I do feel sick at the sight of blood and gore though. Mr C is a fainter, or at least he used to be… hope he'll be alright during delivery, eek .
mellow I hope I have a good sleeper too. I'll no doubt be looking up your post in a couple of months for tips!
Up very early here but luckily as it's Saturday I can have a nap later.
Marking my spot, altho I am still sans bump at 14 weeks. I've lurked on and off but you inhabit a space I am nowhere near, despite the diffment! It's interesting but I have little to add!
gin I put my fainting down entirely to Mr E. He's a bit phobic when it comes to blood and stuff (so amazed he survived being there at two births) so i was looking at his face turn green when he was staring at the cannula, this made me queasy (combined with the feeling of all the blood dripping off my fingers). Fortunately, having fainted before I told the midwife 'I'm going to faint' and then did :-D
Great insight into how emergencies go down though, I passed out with just me the midwife and Mr E in the room and when I came too about 10 seconds later, there were at least 12 people in the room all doing medically stuff! Felt mightily shamed, but they wanted to make sure the faint was just a faint and not some scary pregnancy thing (when I faint my hands go into claws and medical folk always think it's some kind of fit). Made you feel like you were in safe hands though.
Really hoping baby gin makes an appearance before 41 weeks - I always fancied giving birth in the midwife led centre - really hope you get it.
gin and critter totally agree we need more 10 plus bumps on here (otherwise this thread might all dry up and that'd be a shame).
mellow well done on gaining the disapproval of your nct group I'd have thought they'd have been well into blw - mind you, annabel karmel is a pull for some (but I find her scary and in my mind have always associated her with gina ford - don't know why...)
Agree about baby mellow just being ready to go down for the evening with DS1 we spent three weeks upstairs with him for bedtime and we changed his 1am bedtime slot to 7pm. We spent 5 weeks upstairs with Hamish and it changed from 11pm to 10:30pm - we gained 30 minutes! Since then, it's been great and he'll now go down about 6:45 then wake for feeds at 7:45, 9pm, 10:30pm ish. I don't mind though as it's only a 5-10 minute feed so I still get my evening to watch telly and eat chocolate.
I was really lucky as one of my mums friends loves knitting so i got loads of lovely hand knit baby stuff without having to do any of it myself (best of both worlds, although I don't get the smug/achievement of having done it myself).
princess a week of vomiting and illness sounds absolutely awful - so sorry for you and really hope you've turned a corner now and mini princess gives you a nice week to recover.
I met up with some work colleagues for lunch today (we always used to have an xmas lunch together and spend the afternoon in the pub, changed times, but I still did the food bit, then had an earl grey..) was greast to see them, and hamish was grumpy for him, but generally well-behaved (he's so content that generally his 'grumpiness' isn't really noticed by anyone but me and Mr E) but reminded me how much I really need to win the lottery....
Gosh princess that sounds tough, hope it is all over now. I invested in the 'no cry sleep solution' recently, but have been too tired to read it
I have no secret re the sleeping - we were really consistent about dark night, light day from day 1 and from 6 weeks a consistent bedtime routine (feed, bath, feed, story and lullaby, sleep) which led to a 45 minute nap followed by 3 hours of screaming until about 14 weeks. I kept saying, he will eventually not wake up after 45 minutes and it worked! Since then, apart from a couple of evenings, he has slept between 7-11. The dream feed has only been working for about 3-4 weeks. Oh, and from about 8-9 weeks, I have put him to sleep for naps at the first hint of tiredness - almost to the point of ridiculousness early on- sometimes at 45 minutes! To be honest, I'm not convinced any of it made any difference!! I think he just reached a developmental point where he could do it.
ele sounds like feeding is going really well - particularly curried okra! I have also described myself as 'too lazy' to do purees - much to the disapproval of my nct group who are buying annabel karmel trays and pots by the bucket load and pureeing any veg in sight….
Well done on the knitting critter - I have envy of all the babies I see in home knit clothes, they look so cute and cosy! I think I need to dig out my needles. It is fiercely cold!
gin hope baby gin comes soon!
look forward to news of babies!
Eleth that's interesting about the banana, makes sense actually because mashed banana goes into little dark strands when baked into banana bread, I suppose the baby's stomach is cooking it in a similar way! I am a very slow knitter but have just embraced the fact that it takes me ages and I have to focus on it. I would love to be faster though!
Princess oh honey I am so sorry about your horrible week. Sounds miserable. I think you're coping fantastically. We had a childbirth class last night where the teacher went into detail about post partum stuff and it sounded like a wonderful but really rough period in many ways. I hope you can rest and recover a bit. Poor you. Sending get well wishes!
Gin that is so cute that your little girl was scared of the Doppler. You are so close now. Wonderful that she is still head down, and that you're getting engaged, although I bet you're feeling ready to meet her at last. Great news too that you can use the midwife led unit. I can't wait to hear how it goes, buzz and I are right behind you! I was a bit nervous about posing a bump pic on FB but yours and sar's inspired me to go for it. Totally agree we need more ten plussers - mad and lemon are both in the second tri now! And we really really need some more grads from the conception thread. Some good news is long overdue there.
Love to everyone else. Can't wait for Christmas when I'll have some more time off!
Aw princess sounds like a shitty week with the vomiting bug. Hope you are all feeling better now. And well done on the sleeping - amazing!
mellow that is such fab news about mini m. It must be magical to see him discovering the world. And what is your secret re the sleeping?!
critter I love the pic of your bump on t'other place! You look gorgeous and so happy. Apart from our pre term scare at 30 weeks, I too enjoyed the first half of the 3rd trimester. It's a great stage, knowing your baby is viable, feeling them move and beginning the nesting, without any MS. Now I'm too big and uncomfortable to enjoy it so much! I think I'm due about 4 days before sar!
ele and doll thank you for the reassurance re the ARM. Pleased to hear it's not hideous. I find internal stuff generally uncomfortable <ignores fact huge baby will be coming out of there soon>, but could maybe ask them for some gas and air. ele I did giggle at the cannula making you faint, sorry!
doll are you back home now?
ele I'm v impressed at Hamish's diet so far. He eats more veg than Mr Gin! And yay for kiwi seeds in nappies
sar I think 1/5 engaged is basically fully engaged! 4/5 is the least engaged - it's to do with no of fingers they can get between your bone and the baby's head. I'm hearing you on the waddling. Walking is hard now and if I do much, my pelvis aches like I've done a long bike ride, not just waddled 5 mins down the road! Are you enjoying mat leave? I'm v thankful not to be at work, as I'm really not sleeping well at night and need my daytime naps.
buzz not long until your leave starts now, wohoo. So pleased you are feeling better off the meds.
We need the newly upduffed 10+ers to head over here, as I don't think we have any more babies after buzz and critter's...
We had a MW appt yesterday and she confirmed that the baby is still head down and partly engaged, phew! It's funny how I really can't tell, but she said the head is pretty far down in my pelvis. The Doppler scared the crap out of the baby - she tried to move away from it and her little heartbeat shot up! Anyway, everything was fine so as long as the baby arrives before 41 weeks, I can use the MW led birth centre at the hospital, yay. Can't wait to meet the baby now. Just have to encourage her to come on time...
A very quick post...
MrsM I'm delighted that baby mellow is starting to see. Absolutely thrilled An evening you say? You are doing well! Yy to the entertaining all day being a little gruelling sometimes!
Critter I second Ele in her words about poo stuff. You suddenly find your world often revolves around poo matters!
Doll glad to see your with us. Hope all is ok.
Ele BLW all the way but I agree it's soooo messy. We washed mini princess's hair last night and I swear there was more food in her hair (and there's a lot, it's growing down her back, like little girl hair!) than her nappy!!
We've had a horrible week... Poo and sick virus that made us shake with fevers, gave is headaches and meant we couldn't eat for days. Mini princess didn't get it but fed constantly and didn't sleep for more than 3 hours at a time. We seem back to normal today and put in place the strict bedtime routine last night where baby goes to bed at 7 and doesn't go downstairs or get interrupted with tv. This worked well. I had a good chunk of evening (5 trips up and down between 7 and 11.30) and a great chunk of sleep (11.30 til 6). I must say, mrsm you inspired me to be stricter as I felt when you mentioned your evenings!! Plus a really horrific night on tues (me - 2.5 hours sleep) plus downloading / reading a sleep training book at 5.30 in the morning...
mellow yes, bfeeding the distracted baby is challenging (a nightmare..) but you must be so pleased to have a distracted baby :-)
No, we're not doing purees (I'm way too lazy to be filling ice cube trays with blitzed up vegetables). I'm doing baby led weaning so mainly doing finger foods just now (as we've just started) and giving him some preloaded spoons of slurpy stuff (yoghurt etc) which he delights in waving around when he's not sticking them in his mouth.
He's loving most things just now (apart from broccoli -think the bitty texture of it was too soon for him) so he's tucked into curried okra, steamed baby corn, carrots, parsnip and asparagus, crusty bread dipped in cheese sauce, baby rice cakes with hummus, banana, pineapple, kiwi, satsuma, strawberries, cheese on toast.
He can't sit up in his highchair yet, so he's eating on our knees which gets very messy (we need a bib as much as him!) but it's great seeing him get stuck into stuff :-D
As I mentioned to art if baby mellow doesn't fancy a bottle again, you could just try him with a cup and see if he takes to that instead? But it may be, he'll go back to bottles all by himself :-)
critter it's amazing how much attention you pay to pooh when you have a baby, as well as the kiwi seeds, banana comes out as black strands (weirdly enough!)
Congratulations on doing the baby cardigan - feel so ashamed that I never learned to knit (my mum taught herself when she was expecting her first and has been a great knitter (done wonderful aran cardigans in her time) but I just found it too slow when I was younger and never tried since (ridiculous really as I love handknitted stuff (esp baby clothes) but I think I just got frustrated at how slow I knitted, compared to my mum who could knit full speed while watching telly!)
Glad you're feeling so good, I loved my last 10 weeks of pregnancy (despite the unreliable bladder and sore groin) it was so good feeling him wiggle about - wow, you're going to have a gorgeous baby in your arms in 7 weeks - how amazing is that?
mellow you sound so much brighter. It's lovely. I can imagine a distracted baby would be tricky but how wonderful for him to be seeing the world around him for the first time! Just magical.
doll hope you're ok and feeling better, it sounds like you've had a really rough start to mini-doll's life. Thinking of you.
ele kiwi seeds in poo? I have all this to look forward to! Glad the feeding is going so well.
sar you're on the home stretch now - you must be at term! Hope you're taking things really easy and resting and nesting lots. Sorry you've started to feel uncomfortable. I can't wait for the next clutch of 10 plusser babies!
gin I can't remember if you're due before sar or after? Hope you're feeling ok and still blooming and eating delicious cake and enjoying this incredibly special time.
Waves to my bump buddy buzz - hope you're feeling good. I am feeling wonderful, I do feel like there's less space in there, whenever mini c turns it feels like a fat man trying to get comfortable in a tiny sleeping bag.
princess I love that you're feeling so much lighter and hooray for taking more time to be with little princess. She sounds like she is thriving.
All well here, I had a lovely 4 day weekend over Thanksgiving, and am knitting up a storm with my first baby cardigan nearly finished. Feeling so incredibly happy and excited, and definitely like the end of the pregnancy is in sight (am 33 weeks today). In a weird way I am going to miss this stage of being pregnant with my little squirrel. It's so nice feeling him or her moving around.
ele Baby M is the king of the 'micro nap' - he has about 4 small naps a day - usually 20min-30min, 45 if we are lucky! I hear this changes as they get older (please don't disillusion me!) but since his nights are so good, I'm just going to suck it up. But it is quite hard work entertaining a baby all day long! And now he can see, he's so nosy- very funny during feeds, I didn't realise how much easier it was without a distracted baby!
But, it is lovely seeing how much enjoyment they can get out of just looking around. I have to say, I'm really enjoying this age (4-5 months). non-mobile, feeding is easy, content to play with their and my fingers…
Are you doing purees? doll he used to take a bottle, just changed his mind about 4 weeks ago.. am hoping with weaning he'll forget he doesn't like them!
mellow amazing news, thanks for updating. Hope you get some joy with the bottle soon. No tips from the Doll camp I'm afraid, mine don't care where their food comes from. Does seem to be a common issue though.
mellow that is such good news that baby mellow is starting to see, much be such a relief (for you and him - seeing things now after having a dark world filled with noises). An evening and one night wakening is fantastic! Hamish has been very good with sleep in the past (that's sort of changed) but now is up 2-3 times between 7pm and 10pm and on a good night is up once between 10pm and 7am (on a bad night he's up 3 times in the night, but that is still much better than my oldest son, so I'm not complaining).
He's taking a long time to accept a 7pm bedtime (left to his own devices he'd prefer to be up in the early evening and go to bed about 10pm - bit like myself :-D He's also given up on his long naps and we get about 2 x 40 minute naps in the day, but that's fine, and his long naps were great when they lasted!
sar so glad I never saw a breaking water 'knitting needle' beforehand
think I'd have been far less relaxed during the process if I had (I'm a wimp - I actually fainted when they were putting in a canula as it went in wrong and caused a bit of bleeding - they had to press the emergency button and everything...)
We started Hamish on solids at the weekends and it's going really well, he's not tried anything he's not liked yet. Never sure how much is going in, but we did find kiwi seeds in his poohs for two days, so that obviously made the journey :-D
Hope everyone is doing well (not long now until your off buzzy :-)
I meant to say we have a bottle refuser.. I'm going to start trying in earnest over the next few weeks but he is quite adamant that he doesn't like them! Any tips very welcome...
Hello all and sorry for more radio silence! We've had a busy few weeks with me talking at a conference and going on holiday (fabulous and I wish we could both be on parental leave, it is so much more fun with two!)
teu sorry to hear you are having a tough time - I have to say I look back at the first 12 weeks when I cried every day without fail and am sure I had some PND but because of the difficulties TTC didn't really want to acknowledge it. It is only now that I feel more like myself that I recognise how unlike myself I was feeling if that makes any sense?
gin great news about baby turning. I think the thought that 50% of babies come before due date and 50% after is really useful. I didn't have any pain relief in labour (no time!) but have heard of friends who had epidural with induction and highly recommended it
sar I didn't go into labour on my own so don't know, but felt completely normal right up to induction at 40 weeks! Who knows what would have happened if left to my own devices!
princess I am envious of your decision to be a SAHM. Although I have 3 more months of mat leave, I am dreading going back to work in one way. Baby M is just so gorgeous at the moment and fun and I know the next few months are only going to get better. The first 12 weeks or 4th Trimester really is tough and it seems a shame that I'll go back and leave him just as he's at his best!
Ele mines only 4 months but I'm so broody! We are going to start trying again around Easter when he is 9 months - I reckon an 18mth gap is the minimum I'm prepared for and am well aware it may take much longer!
So exciting that there are a few births to look forward to in the next wee while
For us, baby M is starting to see - he is like a different baby and so aware of things - still not looking at us and smiling and only fixes and follows intermittantly, but I am confident that it will come. And his sleep has settled, we have an evening and only one night wakening which is AMAZING!! I am a new woman!
Really looking forward to Christmas - it has been quite a year and I'm really excited to see what 2014 will bring!
sar it's possible labour is around the corner but it might also be good to try to have a longer term view in case it's not. My doctor gave my positive indications of labour before my due date at 36+4 and he didn't actually arrive until 41+1. I feel the expectation made the wait longer. There are all kinds of stats out there and it seems that the idea that first babies come later may be somewhat over played; I found the idea that around half of babies come before the due date and half after a useful idea.
Gin - good to hear that breaking waters isnt the torture that you feared. They handed round a water breaking 'knitting needle' at our ante natal class and it was surprisingly slim and unsharp. Im sure little gin is still head down. If you press firmly either side and just above your pubic bone you should be able to feel the head.
I have very suddenly gone from being mobile to awkward, waddly and with pain running through my hips when I walk. My joints have loosened up all of a sudden and any form of comfort is out of the window. Midwife says I am 1/5 engaged (so not loads) but I can feel some pressure now. Also getting slight cold type symptoms and flushed face. Is it wishfull thinking that labor might come soon? Did anyone else feell this way? I am just past 37 weeks.
just to say gin I wasn't induced but got my waters broken once fully dilated, I felt nothing at all.
gin so exciting to be at the end of the pregnancy process - I totally know what you mean about just wanting them out safe (where you can keep a proper eye on them!)
I had my waters broken in both my inductions by the same consultant aswell (which was odd but nicely reassuring in a way). He was very good, didn't feel much discomfort at all, in fact I found the normal cervical exams to be much more discomforting than him breaking my waters (the midwife was going to do it, but had trouble reaching (and it was sore when she was trying to get there!) so she called him in and it was done quickly, painlessly, no bother.
You don't get pain relief for it (at least I wasn't offered, but I suppose you could ask). You don't actually feel the waters being broken, all you feel is their hand moving, it feels just like a normal internal exam and as with all internal exams the level of discomfort totally depends on the person doing it.
Epidural is totally a personal choice, but given how little pain I found in hamish's labour compared to my first son's, you might want them to start the drip and see how you feel. Mind you, the idea of an epidural was horrendous to me, so I'd do anything to avoid it - you're much braver than me to be considering it already (very impressed!)
Before they started the drip with my first labour they talked to me about pain relief with a view to putting in an epidural straight away, so you should definitely get one at the same time the drip starts.
princess such good news that you get to be a SAHM for a while (and so glad that decision has calmed your mind and let you enjoy things a bit more just now) and your baby life sounds amazing (meeting other mums for cake and seeing reindeers - fabulous!) I'm always jealous when I hear of other mums making big social circles when they have babies, never really happened to me this time or last time, in fact if I hadn't had made friends with my NCT group (which was very small) I wouldn't have had any new mums to socialise with. This time round I actually feel less inclined to do groups to meet folk and am generally happy just hanging with Hamish (I wonder if he's missing out by not doing all the classes/groups I did with my first?)
sar home birth sounds fantastic, I would have loved one but for me falling between 2 health boards (and the complications that caused) and of course first time round I didn't have a choice and second time I ran chicken :-) I think it'd be great though, being in your own space, no other babies crying in the postnatal ward and your OH being there all the time and not having to go home - fingers crossed it all works out.
Also very impressed with you doing your own palpations, I had no idea at all (I'm rubbish like that :-)