To be grateful for having a boy so I don't have to worry about ponytails, plaits, braids and bows!!!

(58 Posts)
BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:02:42

Was out today and saw a mum desperately pulling on dd's fine hair (aged 10 months) to put it into one of those micro ponytails like Yorkshire terriers wear whilst her dd screamed and squirmed. Then finished it off with a clip on bow. I can't do a french plait (my girls world head of hair was clearly wasted on me) and I just think those tiny weeny sprouts of hair look ridiculous. I feel blessed I have a boy as in the country where I live, bows, bands and clips are de-rigeur from birth for girls.

Aeroflotgirl Tue 29-Jul-14 15:07:53

No you can't. On bling lung up baby, there was a blinged boy potty saying Prince in swrovsky crystals. He can have a blinged dummy and blinged trousers grin

squoosh Tue 29-Jul-14 15:07:56


If I have a son I plan to dress him in a huge powdered wig from day one. So there!

Aeroflotgirl Tue 29-Jul-14 15:08:27

Meant bringing up baby

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen Tue 29-Jul-14 15:10:22

Ha ha ha ha ha. How old is your son now?

Because the young lads I know dye, perm primp and straighten their hair and spends a fortune on products.

MrsWinnibago Tue 29-Jul-14 15:12:07

I hate those awful ponytails on babies who've got about three hairs! They look painful! I like the idea of boys in powdered wigs though.

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:12:08

And before anyone jumps up and down about stereotypes for boys and girls, if ds wants a French plait when he's old enough to ask, I'll happily do it for him but he'll have to expect it to be utter crap!!

I like the wig idea though.... Will keep the nits off his real hair once he starts school!

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:13:46

hotpink, he's only 10months but a very pretty boy so everyone thinks he's a girl.

Pagwatch Tue 29-Jul-14 15:13:53

Dd pulls her own hair into a ponytail for school. That's it.

Its exhausting. Really.

MegMogandOwlToo Tue 29-Jul-14 15:14:04

YABU! DS(2) is currently sporting a lovely headband (one of those stretchy bobble things), and every time it falls down, he brings it over to me asking me to "make it look nicely please".

I think he's borrowed it from one of the nursery staff!

squoosh Tue 29-Jul-14 15:14:54

My first born son at 18 months. Chubby cheeks courtesy of hourly sausage rolls.

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:16:54

Love it, has a certain Brian May look about him.

Idontseeanyicegiants Tue 29-Jul-14 15:20:25

YABU, You get to worry about exactly what they're going to have done when your stupid enough to let them go to the barbers on their own instead...
<pointed looks towards DS's head which currently looks like a mushroom>

LoblollyBoy Tue 29-Jul-14 15:26:52

YANBU. DD is old enough to wear her lovely stretchy hair band thingy, but it was only when I tried to put it on her five minutes before leaving the house that I realised that I had no idea what I was doing. It hadn't occurred to me that I wouldn't know how to do it, but I didn't. I now need to buy an adult sized one to practice on me, I think. Would be worth it, it is very nice and it was a gift.

Acolyte Tue 29-Jul-14 15:27:44

Dd2 has a pixie cut and has done since she was 4.
Dd1 has hair half way down her back.

I could only cope with one head of long hair in the morning blush

Idontsee - ds3's hair is the least of my worries at the moment. Heading the list are the lads' holiday to Agia Napa that he and his friends are planning for next summer, and the tattoo (of retractors holding open the skin of the chest over his heart, showing clockwork within) that he would like to get!

Luckily L'Oreal do plenty of products for me to cover up all the grey hairs he's giving me! grin

CarbeDiem Tue 29-Jul-14 15:38:22

I love a little play with my dnieces hair, curling, plaiting and brushing but I couldn't be arsed do it every day- hell no.

When my 3 ds were all at school I simply handed the boys the gel - job done smile

StrawberryGashes Tue 29-Jul-14 15:38:59

Yabu, my son is always wanting his hair spiked, gelled and shaved into different hairstyles and it is really difficult. A pleat I can do, a perfect 'stylish' mohawk is a lot harder than it looks. I dont see it getting any easier as he gets older either, dp has his own mens ghd's and spends longer on his hair than me sometimes.

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:41:20

Sorry strawberry, I think I misread your post, did you say "men's ghds ?????"... Seriously???

softlysoftly Tue 29-Jul-14 15:43:30

Acolyte snap! DD1s hair is all I can cope with so DD2 has a short cut and fringe. DD3 will just have to be shaved grin

RawCoconutMacaroon Tue 29-Jul-14 15:46:04

Yabu, one of my DS sported a magnificent ponytail from age 13-17 and now spends as much time and money as any girl on hair products, straighteners etc... Gender is no protection against hair drama wink

YABU... purely because someone saying 'AIBU to be grateful for having a girl so I don't have to worry about mud and dirt and smells and climbing trees' would be torn to shreds on here.

Offler Tue 29-Jul-14 15:47:19

DD is 7 and I only mastered a french plait a couple of days ago. She's very proud of me now grin.

DS is 2, and I could get his hair into bunches if he'd let me wink

And... my brother used to faff about with his hair far more than I ever did, I think he went through 2 pots of gel a week on his long curly hair, cost my mum a fortune!!

cashmiriana Tue 29-Jul-14 15:50:20

DD1: long slightly wavy hair. Occasionally puts it in a bun, pony tail or plaits for dance class.

DD3: long dead straight hair. Has a packet of dark brown elastics to put it in a pony tail for school.

No hair drama here.

And at least girls' favoured hair styles (complicated plaits, pleats, buns etc) are allowed at school. If I had boys who wanted shaved patterns and hair gel it would be more of a battle, since both high and junior schools ban both.

MummaB1014 Tue 29-Jul-14 15:51:07

Oh it gets more complicated than ponytails and braids too...

I'm not a 'girly' girl, but my dd (4 1/2years) is very much so! Everyday I go through the same conversation which essentially boils down to listing every potential hairstyle she can think of and which hair bands and clips might work with her outfit... It's agonising for me, but she loves it!

She has just finished nursery for the summer where she was with a large and diverse group of girls, which is where she's developed the hair obsession. I'm currently in the bad books because I won't let her dye parts of her hair (like her nursery worker had), or buy brightly coloured hair extensions like some of the other girls have. Last week it was because I had the audacity to not have the correct genetics for super curly hair...

It's never ending!

MrsLindor Tue 29-Jul-14 15:52:43

I recently mastered the inside out French plait, I was unreasonably pleased with myself.

iliketea Tue 29-Jul-14 15:53:27

YANBU - dd's hair is half-way down her back (she's 4). Try as I might, I cannot persuade her to get her hair cut into a nice chin-length bob (I know, I am the mother, but I can't pin her to the hairdresser chair!). And it is a faff - I can manage a pony tail and skew whiff bunches, but that's it, and combine that with the drama every bloody morning of brushing and tying up - it's a nuisance. At least when they get into teens, they can do there own hair grooming; if I let dd do it herself now, she end up in a big tangle with 17 random hair clips in it!

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 15:55:40

Dd1 loves a bow she has messy wavy hair says if all else fails thro w a bow at it grin yabu though if people want bows or ponytails in their girls hair what harm are they doing although those hair bands on babies look a wee bit silly

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 15:56:31

Dd2 loves a bow rather dd1 would stab u in the eye with a bow

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 15:57:42

I used to be a dab hand at the frech pleat most of the 90s thats how I wore my hair

MammaTJ Tue 29-Jul-14 16:04:48

You'll be able to do his hair like this soon though!

vickibee Tue 29-Jul-14 16:08:41

Agree costs a fiver at our local barber for short cut plus tramlines

StrawberryGashes Tue 29-Jul-14 16:12:56

Yes boca, they are just normal ghd's but very thin so theyre easier to use with short hair, he bought them from a barbers though so that makes them all manly wink

DefiniteMaybe Tue 29-Jul-14 16:23:21

I love playing with my dds hair but she's not so keen. We've been practicing keeping pigtail french plaits in her hair ready for starting school in September, I've got it down to taking 8 minutes which when added to helping her with her shirt and tie is going to make us in a rush every morning.

Ericaequites Tue 29-Jul-14 16:34:28

For school neckties, teach your daughter to take it off by loosening at her neck, the way drunks do. Then, one just has to pull on the short end to dress again. My brother did this in school, as he has dyslexia and dyspraxia, although only diagnosed with the former.

EndoplasmicReticulum Tue 29-Jul-14 16:35:25

Oh I don't know, I have a son who hates haircuts. He wriggles and cries and flinches, have managed to take him to the barbers once and he refuses to go again.

He's 9. Hair is now getting a bit long, so will need to work on the plaiting soon I think.

clam Tue 29-Jul-14 16:39:28

My dd told her whole class that her mum was "rubbish at hair."
Her teacher told me. blush

Clam - snap. She also told her pony club instructor for good measure.

It's not me. It's her wriggly hair. <<stamps foot>>

Skylander1 Tue 29-Jul-14 16:46:24

I have a three year with beautiful golden curly hair, it's beautiful at least once a week anyway, rest of the time it's just a frizzy mess.

Heathcliff27 Tue 29-Jul-14 16:47:09

YABU, my son takes longer to get ready than my two daughters put together, if I were you I would reserve judgement until he's older

Idontseeanyicegiants Tue 29-Jul-14 16:47:45

Oh god don't mention tattoos! He's currently counting down the days until he's old enough to get one of his own, only 4.5 more years to go grin
Your DS's idea sounds rather cool though.. wink

CrumblyMumbly Tue 29-Jul-14 16:56:05

Snap Skylander1 - I feel quite relieved if I've managed to wash my dds hair without her scaring the neighbours with her screams. There's no way she would even have a pony tail let alone clips/hairbands etc. I feel quite sad when I see all the pretty hairstyles at nursery.

YANBU. I ordered 2 boys for that very reason. wink

I have barely ever combed their hair since the day they were born (it doesn't really need it tbh). I have enough trouble with my own without worrying about theirs!

And for all who say that their DS spends more time on their hair than the average girl, that is the point. They spend their time. Their mothers don't have anything to do with it. It is those formative years when the child's hair is the mother's responsibility that the OP is talking about. If my boys want to have a perm, dye their hair purple and have a mohawk they are welcome to do that (when they have finished school) just so long as I don't have to do it. They can wear a powdered wig too - DS1 would look very fetching with ringlets.

Thurlow Tue 29-Jul-14 17:00:39


One of my very first thoughts, on finding out we were having a girl, was to wail "but I don't know how to do plaits!!!"

However you can keep it in a bob and just scrape it into a ponytail or clip the fringe back as necessary. It's not too hard. Yet.

I am going to refuse to let her grown out said fringed bob until she is old enough to wash, dry and style her hair herself. This is genuinely going to be one thing I am not going to budge on, especially as she seems to have inherited my irritatingly fine but thick hair.

imip Tue 29-Jul-14 17:04:30

4 dds here, dd1 beautiful long head of hair. She's 7, but it'd make an adult weep. Grows like wildfire. Very girly-girl. I always put her hair up for school because of nits.

Dd2 6 she's a tomboy (apparently). A short bob, but grows like wildfire, so it frequently touches her shoulders before it gets cut again. It's very, very thick. Suits her short unlike dd1 who could probably wear it anyway.

Dd3 has really fine hair. Terrible, but she is girly girl also and wants it like rupunzel, apparently. Fucking rupunzel...

Dd4 is 2.5. It's probably chin length. Can't really tell what type of hair she will have yet.

I'm pretty fussy and like their hair up when at school/nursery, because I have suffered the hell that was all of us getting nits. And <whispers> doing little girls' hair is my guilty pleasure!

Mine is long too, btw. I have a theory that mums and daughters tend to have similar hair styles. Though, I tend to be a chameleon...

Happydaysatlastforthebody Tue 29-Jul-14 17:09:43

Ha ha op. My teen dss spent just as long and just as much money on hair products as their teen dd sisters.

As said up thread gender is no barrier to hair drama.

I think it's quite cool too, Idontsee - so I am rather torn between 'Oh how cool' and 'Oh my god, my baby's perfect skin is going to be ruined!' I think it is going to be quite expensive (someone who knows about this sort of thing has said minimum £300) - and he has pretty expensive taste in clothes etc, so I am hoping it will take him a long, long time to save up for it!

MrsRogerSterling Tue 29-Jul-14 17:17:03

I have 2 dd's aged 7 and 3 and have never had to worry about ponytails or plaits, they both have bob's. I love bob's on little girls, so cute and no effort required, both have a selection of hairbands to wear if they feel the need for an accessory.

Laundryangel Tue 29-Jul-14 17:17:49

2yo DS likes to have his bunches put in every morning like his 4yo sister. As he has a traditional boy hair cut, this was causing me more misery than doing his sister's long, fine, wavy hair was, especially when he started throwing a tantrum if I used the wrong bobbles, put the bobbles in the wrong place etc. I had a major victory the other day when we were in the supermarket & I spied some Peppa Pig hair slides and said I would buy those as a treat if he used those rather than bobbles. It now takes seconds. Like the bobbles were, these are handed to me each morning just before we go out to the car to go out for the day or to nursery.

itsbetterthanabox Tue 29-Jul-14 17:18:11

If the girl has long hair just brush it and put it in a ponytail for school. If it's short then it's the same as most boys. Lots of boys have long hair too. Short hair can be just as annoying as you have to get it cut much more frequently.

Ledkr Tue 29-Jul-14 17:20:55

Dd2 has a head of orange curls that I ignore for as long as possible before tackling it with bribery and threats.
The mere mention of a plait or pony tail sends her into a meltdown of "idonwannaponytailinmyairmommy"
So I don't bother.

MrsPnut Tue 29-Jul-14 17:29:18

DD2 has a very short bob, no effort required and she can brush it herself - which is just as well after the nightmare of dealing with DD1's hair.

Ah but OP, dont you know that a tight ponytail is The best protection against nits!!

Clam, another mom of girls that is rubbish at hair. I can do a decent high ponytail. Never mastered French braid, and even have problems with two plaits/ponytails as I never get equal amounts of hair in both... And I use the 'just blast it dry' method with the hair dryer without using a hairbrush.

DD1(12) is showing signs of also being useless with hair, but DD2 (10) can at least dry her hair and try straighten it with brush at same time, so she is showing promise!!

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Tue 29-Jul-14 18:41:26

The key to these styles is a good you tube video. There are loads of tutorials on there and I have found some really good ones.
I can now do a French plait, or as DD calls it Frozen hair!

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 18:41:28

I cant do bunches\pigtails I always ended up unevev

wigglesrock Tue 29-Jul-14 19:38:02

I have 3 daughters, they all have short fringed bobs until they are hold enough to put it up themselves. My 9 year old has long hair, my 6 year old has started to grow it out and my 3 year old can stick a hair band in herself. I can't say I've ever found it that big a thing.

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 20:02:52

bigboobiedbertha, you've got it exactly.... When he's old enough to do his own hair, he can do what he likes and spend all the time in the world on it, but whilst he's of the age where he's asking me to do it, I can't imagine him asking me for French plaits etc, thank god!! Not that I don't like them, I just can't do them!!!

It's the Yorkshire terrier-esquema micro tails I just simply dislike.

CruCru Tue 29-Jul-14 20:11:02

I've had DD's hair cut into a pixie cut. However, she is 9 months so hasn't yet expressed a preference.

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