expensive kids menu

(73 Posts)
MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 12:46:21

just after some opinions please. I'm getting my son christened and having a meal at a hotel afterwards. I have just been sent the kids menu and it's £15 a head!

my best friend and godmother to my ds has a 2 and a half year old. Will this child require a meal of their own? am loathe to spend this much on a meal for a child if its not going to get eaten. Parents with kids of this age, would you expect a kids meal or would you take something along for them? I don't want to upset or insult my friend so just wondered what others would do. thanks!

BrianButterfield Mon 21-Jul-14 12:49:19

I would prefer to get a meal for a 2.5 year old BUT if you told me it was £15 I'd happily bring something along for them instead! It's a bit of a cheek charging that much really.

LastTango Mon 21-Jul-14 12:52:49

But it's not just 'for the food' is it? It is for electricity, cleaning, staff, chefs, waiters, receptionists, for using their premises, etc.

Is he going to be the only child there needing a meal?

If so , I'd pay the £15.

Icelollycraving Mon 21-Jul-14 12:54:06

I doubt they will let you get out a few Tupperware boxes!

bumbleymummy Mon 21-Jul-14 12:54:18

That sounds expensive for a kids meal for a 2.5 year old.

Mintyy Mon 21-Jul-14 12:55:41

How much for the adults? I don't think £15 is extortionate, the cost of the food (and the presumably smaller portion) isn't necessarily the biggest factor in restaurant pricing.

Littleturkish Mon 21-Jul-14 12:56:17

I would call the restaurant and clarify the cost of a meal for a 2.5 yr old. How much is it for an adult?

Enb76 Mon 21-Jul-14 12:56:36

How much is it per adult

Wow - where I work its �5.50 for a kids meal and that includes a free drink.
�15 seems excessive. Could the 2.5 YO share with someone else?

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 12:58:05

other kids are a 7 year old, my 2 year old who eats like a sparrow so i won't be getting a meal for her, then a few babies

Mim78 Mon 21-Jul-14 12:59:20

Yes they need a meal provided at 2.5.

Negotiate with venue re price as he won't need big meal but if that fails you will have to pay.

Mim78 Mon 21-Jul-14 13:01:30

I took dd to a wedding at 20 months and would have been bloody annoyed if she had no food! Mind you wedding was in Italy so they wouldn't have dreamt of not providing something...

If you're providing food for the 7 year old then I'd do the same for the other children.

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 13:03:52

adult meals are £25.

I don't mind paying as it's my best friend it just seems a bit steep.

Good advice to speak to the hotel. I will do that this afternoon

Artandco Mon 21-Jul-14 13:07:55

I would get her a meal tbh. Mine have always eaten well in restaurants and from 18/24 months I would order them own meal ( child's size or starter)

I actually think £15 is quite reasonable tbh for child's meal if adult version is £25. They have already given a £10 discount for portion size

theowlwhowasafraidofthedark Mon 21-Jul-14 13:09:51

YWBU not to provide a guest with a meal

ChickenFajitaAndNachos Mon 21-Jul-14 13:11:56

Could you try and negotiate a price of �12.50?

BomChickaMeowMeow Mon 21-Jul-14 13:12:24

I would pay for a 7 year old but get the two year old a plate so he/she could have some of mine/DH's. DD2 is a good eater but I never bought kids meals for her anywhere until she was 3/4.

windchime Mon 21-Jul-14 13:12:43

Is £15 for a plate of food in a naice venue expensive confused

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Mon 21-Jul-14 13:12:47

I think the comparison to the adult price is what makes the difference for me. If the adult price was £18, and child £15, then unreasonable. But for £25 for adult, then £15 for child seems reasonable.

drivinmecrazy Mon 21-Jul-14 13:12:48

Of course not! At that age they can eat bits off the parents plates. How much does this child eat?
DD2 is 8 and we still often don't order her a meal but let her eat off our plates (unless it's one of her favourite restaurants). Most places are happy if you ask for an empty plate.

BomChickaMeowMeow Mon 21-Jul-14 13:13:33

Just ring your friend and see what she wants to do.

Mintyy Mon 21-Jul-14 13:16:43

Well, I wouldn't make the assumption that my friend would want to share her meal with her child. I certainly wouldn't! Have never just allowed one of my kids to "eat off my plate" and considered them properly fed.

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 13:17:16

Thanks for the advice all - the hotel will do 2 courses for £10 and 3 for £15 so I will ask my friend what she wants.

It's not that I begrudge paying for a meal for a guest btw - it just seemed an expensive meal for such a small person!

Karen81 Mon 21-Jul-14 13:17:18

I rarely by a meal for my 2.5 year old as she eats like a sparrow, and so much food is wasted. Speak to your friend, if it was me, I would be happy to share my meal with my DD rather than you spend �15 on something she probably won't eat anyhow.

ChickenFajitaAndNachos Mon 21-Jul-14 13:21:26

I would go with the �10 2 course option for all DC, keep it simple, no asking people.

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 21-Jul-14 13:23:06

My DD would want her own meal at 2.5yo. However, it seems you have the 2 course option. Though she'll be upset if she saw others have a course and she doesn't sad. Mostly it's us not having dessert and her having it. She's fine with that! I have to agree £15 is very steep for a 2.5yo given how little they eat. I can see if you have two, you can split the meal between two preschoolers, but what hotel will let you do that? I'm sure tupperware isn't allowed either.

And besides my 3yo will only eat chips, peas, chicken nuggets, fish fingers, but all puddings and fruits. So it's hard to imagine paying £15 for that stuff.

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 21-Jul-14 13:25:36

Oh and my 3yo eats chips very well. She can polish off all given on her plate and then try to steal ours grin. She can also easily eat two scoops of icecream or a large piece of cake.

She's just very selective.

Runningforfun Mon 21-Jul-14 13:25:57

Don't think I ordered a kids meal for my two till they were at least 3.5. dd bf solely until she was over 3 years old. I would take finger food in tupperware. dfs dd is 6 and eats so little that there is no point in paying good money for food she would not eat.

If you have two 2yos going can you ask them if they'll split a child's portion over two plates? We have two preschoolers and often do this -most places are happy to do it and £7.50 is a much less depressing amount of money if it doesn't get eaten, and will less on the plate it's less likely to over-face the little ones.

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 21-Jul-14 13:29:35

Runningforfun I think it depends on the child. Mine (3yo) can eat an entire child's meal at wagamamas, if it's either the stir fried rice or the cod and chips. Same with pizza express child's meal, which has dough balls for starters, pasta for main and pudding, she can eat them all. On the other hand, if it's Nandos, she'll only eat the chips and frozen yoghurt. Pubs usually have fish fingers and chips.

Though I'm not sure she'll like fancy hotel food!

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 13:36:29

I don't think she will be bothered about not having a course, I might ask if they can bring hers out with the starter though to avoid that issue! As my DD barely eats a thing, I don't know what it's like to cater for other kids!

SaveTheMockingBird Mon 21-Jul-14 13:38:48

I would go for the 2 course option (main meal and pudding).
My DCs at 2.5yrs old ate very little in one sitting. If I was your friend I would be happy to share my meal with my 2.5yr old especially if I was getting 3 courses, but then again I would never actually ask my friend to share her food with her toddler....it's a difficult one!

wink1970 Mon 21-Jul-14 13:55:10

Take away your emotions, and think of this neutrally..... you want to use their facilities, presumably will expect a highchair and baby-changing, and even the tidiest child makes a huge mess. You may even turn up with some of your own food and demand they re-heat it right in the middle of service, not to mention the fact that a proportion of other diners will resent children in their midst & that increases their complaint levels.....

I know you are paying for adults as well, but a child is a disproportionate 'problem' to a venue, and that's why they are charging so much.

disclaimer: I don't run a restaurant, and I think children should be encouraged to eat out from an early age, I am merely pointing out the reasoning behind the pricing.

creampie Mon 21-Jul-14 14:18:43

Get a main and dessert for £10, and ask them to bring the main with everyone else's starters. That way they're not sat waiting while everyone eats a starter. It always takes mine ages to eat anyway so they'll just about be done in time for pudding.

Mintyy Mon 21-Jul-14 14:55:27

Hang on a minute! Your dd had nothing but breastmilk until she was over three years old Running? have I got that right?

Notso Mon 21-Jul-14 15:12:49

It depends what you get for £15. We have paid £15 for my 3 year old to eat three good sized courses that were half portions from the adults menu. I would be pissed of paying £15 for the usual poor quality food e.g something with chips and beans or peas and a scoop of ice cream with a wafer.

BrianButterfield Mon 21-Jul-14 15:41:37

I think it's reasonable to say to your friend "I'm happy to order your DC a meal - however it's £10/£15, so do you think they'll eat it? Or would you rather bring along something they will eat?" That was you'll know if it's going to be a waste of money - the DC might eat lots all the time or be picky (as many 2.5 year olds are). Then ask the venue if they can charge just a cover fee for cleaning expenses etc. one child isn't a massive issue if you're already having a party there and presumably spending a fair amount.

Artandco Mon 21-Jul-14 15:45:18

£15 for 3 course is excellent. It will just be a small amount each course catered to them. Mine would love it. They usually aren't that big for children

Last meal out ds (age 3), had calamari starter (3 small pieces and dip), Risotto main ( perfect small amount), and jelly and ice cream ( small portion also). Was very happy

FatalCabbage Mon 21-Jul-14 15:56:40

We went to a recent event where the adults had a three-course dinner and the children didn't. It was horribly awkward - the children's food was brought between our starter and main hmm by which time they'd had bites from several plates. Then they had a sort of party bag of biscuits and sweets for pudding and we had, um, actualpudding.

Please please go for the three-course option, even if it doesn't get eaten, because it will give them something to do.

slithytove Mon 21-Jul-14 16:01:25

Minty you beat me to it!

Is that true running, nothing but bm for 3 years?

AuntieStella Mon 21-Jul-14 16:01:54

I think TwelveLeggedWalk is right.

The child menu will be geared to the likely appetite of children about 8-10 years. I'd approach the venue along the lines of 'One child meal for a 7 yo, and one child meal to be split for two toddlers please' and I doubt very much they'll say no.

RiverTam Mon 21-Jul-14 16:03:08

could a couple of the smaller ones share a meal? The trouble with kids meals is that they are the same price and size for a 10 year old as a 2 year old. I don't think my 4-year-old has finished a child's meal yet, she's lucky if she gets through half.

AuntieStella Mon 21-Jul-14 16:03:54

I think TwelveLeggedWalk is right.

The child menu will be geared to the likely appetite of children about 8-10 years. I'd approach the venue along the lines of 'One child meal for a 7 yo, and one child meal to be split for two toddlers please' and I doubt very much they'll say no.

Vintagejazz Mon 21-Jul-14 16:06:18

It depends on the child really. Some 2.5 yr olds eat practically nothing and seem to live on bread rolls and milk, so it would be a complete waste forking out £15 for a meal they will refuse to eat. If, on the other hand, it is a toddler who will eat most things I would probably order a two course meal for them. Three courses seems a lot of a toddler.

Vintagejazz Mon 21-Jul-14 16:06:58

a lot 'for' a toddler. I wasn't suggesting you turn him into a two course dinner. grin

SergeantJarhead Mon 21-Jul-14 16:11:04

My son is now 14 months old and I have bought him a full childs meal every time we have gone out, it costs on average £5/6.00, he never touched a bite. Recently I have started to just share with him without any problems, (he helps himself with a fork) and has never been left starved.
Rambling a bit but I resent the implication that 'sharing' with my child leaves him starving and malnourished - hardly.

That aside, some good ideas on here for the OP.

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 16:17:23

I would split the meal but one of the 2 year olds is mine and she is the worlds worst eater. I'm seeing my friend tomorrow so will show her the menu and let her decide.

The starters are definitely geared towards older kids and I don't think they will appeal to the 7yo either!

Am leaning towards 2 courses with kids main brought out at same time as adult starter. I imagine this is what my friend will go for too

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 21-Jul-14 16:24:35

My 2 year old would eat a proper meal and wouldn't be happy with just eating off my plate. I'd have no food!

Mim78 Mon 21-Jul-14 20:12:42

It just seems unfair on the mum to expect her to share her meal when no others guests have to.

It's one thing to make that decision for yourself in a restaurant but another thing to expect your guests to share.

Sirzy Mon 21-Jul-14 20:16:40

I don't think £15 for a childs 3 course meal in somewhere decent is expensive at all.

Figster Mon 21-Jul-14 20:19:13

Of course they need fed

Try not feeding my 2.5yr old ds when others are eating ........World war 3

Xmasbaby11 Mon 21-Jul-14 20:25:10

Yes they need feeding. It isn't expensive if the food is good quality .. let's hope it's not sausage chips and beans!

Darquesse Mon 21-Jul-14 20:37:00

I think in the grand scheme of paying for a party, an extra tenna won't break the bank.

If you suggest splitting a meal your friend might feel obliged to agree, I know I would, and then I would be left hungry when my toddler scoffed the lions share of my tasty meal.

LewisNaiceHamilton Mon 21-Jul-14 20:59:57

running milk alone, be it breast or formula, for three years is pretty unusual. Isn't it? confused

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 21:03:19

i was never going to ask my friend to share her meal, I just wondered if people would normally take something they know their toddler will eat along with them

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 21:04:14

but then my friend would probably end up sharing anyway!

BikeRunSki Mon 21-Jul-14 21:14:19

You can't invite someone and not cater for them. Not to would be incredibly rude! Their age and appetite is irrelevant, as is the cost. If the cost is too high, reconsider your guest list or your venue.

I would be rather offended if my dc were not considered important enough to merit a meal. They'd both eat one (2, 5).

Pimmsoclocknow Mon 21-Jul-14 21:29:41

We went to a wedding when dd was 18 months. I assumed she would get a meal and she didn't. So I ended up very hungry as she ate most of mine. It totally ruined the whole event for us. 15 is not expensive for a decent venue

Nicknacky Mon 21-Jul-14 22:11:45

But what would you bring a 2.5 year old? Different if it was a 7 month old who was on a bowl of puréed veg.

I would just pay the money, in the scheme of things it's not much.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 21-Jul-14 22:17:09

Exactly. There's no way if I had a hot meal my DS would be happy with a sandwich!

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 22:22:33

as I said before I will speak to my friend and do whatever she wants. I will not tell her about cost, just about the courses and choices. I will then do exactly what she wants, be that 1 course, 3 courses or full on adult meal grin

Thanks all, been good to get the full spectrum of opinions

lornemalvo Mon 21-Jul-14 22:31:43

At 2 and a half there is no telling what they might like. They might only eat pasta dishes or potatos and mince. Asking is definitely the way to go as you may need to order a plate of chips or some bread. You are not going to want to spend £15 on that.

AuditAngel Mon 21-Jul-14 22:38:37

At that age DS and his cousin (6 months older) would have had the adult meal split between them, and eaten the lot. DD1 would gave eaten a full child's meal.

DD2, it depends on her mood, she will either wag nothing or the lot. She is always happy with soup, so often we will just give her our starter.

Mrsgrumble Mon 21-Jul-14 22:43:37

For the sake of a tenner. Wouldn't bring it up with your friend to be honest. She will know you are hinting at costs. Just pay it.

naty1 Mon 21-Jul-14 22:43:42

I have bought a couple of kids meals for dd, now 2 but even though she has a goid appetite and not really fussy she doesnt eat all of it, so unless it is a sure thing she is hungry enough and likes it/ i want something she cant/wont have then we share off all our plates. Its great she gets a variety and has better stuff/other suff than on kids menus like fish/ salmon sausages beans egg pizza, peas, cheese, baggette.
We just ask for a plate (really most meals are too much for me anyway, DD is my diet tool smile
The cost to the restaurant of a 2.5yr old, negligible they have all the equipment already. If the kid was under 6 months they could still need all the same facilities but not get a meal
2 yr olds eating meals designed for much older kids portionwise does not sound like a good idea.
Sharing with them also avoids issue of what if they dont like what parent has chosen

GermyElephant Mon 21-Jul-14 22:49:35

DS has had his own meal since he was about 14mo. At 11mo DD doesn't yet.

I would never bring food to a restaurant for my children. It's a restaurant.

MrMacadoo Mon 21-Jul-14 22:53:38

I'll need to speak to my friend as the venue has requested everyone's meal choice beforehand

EssexMummy123 Mon 21-Jul-14 22:57:38

Is £10-15 really going to make that much difference? why not order it anyway.

BomChickaMeowMeow Tue 22-Jul-14 12:50:24

I'd still speak to your friend. If I were your friend I'd feel worse that someone had wasted money ordering food that was hardly then touched and wouldn't mind being asked at all.

MidniteScribbler Tue 22-Jul-14 13:07:53

I went to an event where they did not cater for 2yo DS. Exceptionally rude to invite someone and not cater for them. They did the 'oh we just thought he'd pick at yours'. For one thing, I don't want a 2yo sticking their fingers in my food, and for another thing, he ate all of my meal. I had to stop at McDonalds on the way home.

Ask her which choice she would like, since everyone needs to submit a choice, but don't hint that it is because you are being a cheapskate.

MrMacadoo Tue 22-Jul-14 14:23:25

I'm not being a cheapskate I was just canvassing opinions. At no point did I say I would not get a meal, just that I thought £15 was excessive for a meal for a toddler they may not eat anyway. All I have said to my friend is that we will need everyones menu choices before the event so I will get her a copy of both adult and kids menu and she can let me know. She is my best friend and I wouldn't cause bad feeling for the sake of a tenner.

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