to think that AIBU threads which start "to ask you..." should be banned?

(67 Posts)
MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:22:09

Yes. I'm still on my thread-policing high horse.

But if someone is "asking you", then they are just posting here for traffic.

Singlesuzie Sat 14-Jun-14 10:24:47

YANBU! At all. Those ones really grate. Just post in the right topic!

"AIBU to ask you all to recommend a steam mop/eyeshadow/primary school in kent?"

Yes, yes you are!

MilkandCereal Sat 14-Jun-14 10:24:52

And so what if they are? YABVU.

And ones that start AIBU that?.

Grammer mattars dontchano?

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:28:03

Milk. Because it reeks of queue-jumping and bad etiquette to me. And irks my sense of fair play.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:28:52

What about spelling Chaos? [wunk]

pluCaChange Sat 14-Jun-14 10:29:01

I always ignore them, as they're dull.

gamerchick Sat 14-Jun-14 10:30:07

This irritation about AIBU is highly entertaining though. I wonder when somebody is going to pop up on a thread to bitch about where it's been posted grin

Singlesuzie Sat 14-Jun-14 10:30:29

Yes chaos!

"AIBU that a car has blocked my drive?"


MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:32:42

I just wish more people would use Active Convos and hide unwanted topics. Then there wouldn't be this over reliance on one section of MN.

Perfect example, Suze!

Wunkbackatya, Mards.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:34:16

I am very tempted to spam Aibu with a whole load of inane/dull threads just to demonstrate how annoying it is.

picnicbasketcase Sat 14-Jun-14 10:36:32


Aibu to ask what colour is fashionable on toenails this summer?

Yes, you are. It'll probably just be nude beige anyway.

usualsuspectt Sat 14-Jun-14 10:36:43

I think some posters only post in AIBU and they don't know MN has any other topics.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:40:37

I do occasionally report threads to MNHQ. (Yes. I'm that sad). In the olden days they used to move them. The last reply I had was

"We're going to let it stand on the AIBU board because she has posted it as an AIBU question - sorry!"

So, basically, it's a free-for-all. You can post whatever inane shit you like.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 10:44:14

Mind you, I've just noticed the home ed thread starts 'to ask you..." think that one qualifies as a bunfight though.

NynaevesSister Sat 14-Jun-14 10:59:00

I will delete mine if you like. I wasn't meaning to queue jump. I meant it as a genuine AIBU. I used the To Ask You format. Why be so passive aggressive you have to start a thread? I'm happy to delete it if I've broken some sort of etiquette rule. I've posted in AIBU for a long time and not ever noticed this.

MilkandCereal Sat 14-Jun-14 10:59:43

Honestly I find the thread/grammar police much more annoying. I really don't see why it matters.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 11:02:03

I don't know which thread is yours, I'm afraid, Nyn

NynaevesSister Sat 14-Jun-14 11:02:03

And I posted it in AIBU because this is where I see people complaining the most about this sort of thing. You don't need to friggin report the post or go all cats bum on a separate thread about it.

Just ASK me to move it and I will! I'm a normal human being you can talk to smile

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 11:03:05

I'm not singling you out and certainly not being passive or aggressive btw.

NynaevesSister Sat 14-Jun-14 11:03:11
FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 14-Jun-14 11:03:28


Except for the Scottish thread, which rocks.

OwlCapone Sat 14-Jun-14 11:04:28

Surely this thread is just as wrong.

You are not unreasonable to think what you like but, personally, I think that the thread and grammar police should just butt out.

NynaevesSister Sat 14-Jun-14 11:05:01

Ah ok then MardyBra! I just saw you had posted this not that long after mine. Coincidence then! Anyway as said happy to remove/delete if asked smile

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 11:05:29

Nope. Missed that Nyn. It was three hours ago.

MilkandCereal Sat 14-Jun-14 11:08:23

What's 'unfair' about posting such threads in AIBU? Of course people want responses. There's little point in posting something where others are unlikely to see it.

usualsuspectt Sat 14-Jun-14 11:08:25

Do you want people to agree with you on your thread,NynaevesSister ?

If you do, it's in the wrong place.

Tangerinefairy Sat 14-Jun-14 11:08:49

So what? I've posted things like that here for traffic and have had many great, helpful responses so clearly most people are not bothered by it being "in the wrong place". People have a burning question, they would like to hear responses fairly quickly, does it really matter? If you are pissed off or bored by someone's thread don't read it or don't respond, if enough people feel the same it will soon go away!

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 11:10:19

they should always be answered with a FUCK OFF

that will stop them

I always want to go onto the BORING threads about a particular school, ( which always smack of libel to me) and say ' oh you know they have a big drug problem there"

In fact I did quite often till one day I realised we were talking about some kind of prep school. grin

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 11:11:20

grin at Karl.

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 11:14:23

I might restart

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 11:14:55

Well it looks as if your thread has had a bump nin. But possibly not the responses you were hoping for.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:22:35

Yeah! One of my threads has been deleted!

But shouldn't it have been moved though? That's a bit heavy handed isn't it MNHQ?

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:23:32

And no thread deletion message either?

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:24:53

Actually which of the guidelines you linked to am I actually breaking?

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:25:05

Is that grammatical?

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:26:42

Hands off the washing up liquid thread MNHQ! There's some good controversial stuff in there!

Neverknowingly Sat 14-Jun-14 12:26:53

I quite agree. There was a really annoying and totally inappropriate thread in AIBU the other day asking about new members...

LadyIsabellaWrotham Sat 14-Jun-14 12:35:37

I am always tempted to reply simply "Yes" on the "AIBU to ask you..?" threads. Or "No" if I'm in a generous mood.

But the "AIBU that my SIL forgot my birthday?" thread titles are like nails on a blackboard.

OwlCapone Sat 14-Jun-14 12:39:13

Well, you did publicly claim you were going to spam the board. Spamming isn't allowed.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:42:12

Actually I'm a bit pissed off with the deletion with no explanation. I'd have been happy with a friendly, witty "come on Mardy, stop taking the piss" note. But This feels a but passive-aggressive.

Is this what is was like on NYE when MN lost its sense of irony? anyone from MNHQ care to comment. < self reporting>.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:46:39

I thought I'd be ok if I made it an Aibu question owl

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 12:47:02


Pagwatch Sat 14-Jun-14 12:49:04

I am going to reply with 'yes' and 'don't be silly' or 'fuck off' if Karl is here too.

picnicbasketcase Sat 14-Jun-14 13:03:47

The eating food one is gone shock

EllenMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 14-Jun-14 13:05:22

Apologies to Mardybra flowers, wasn't quite sure what was going on as at our end we were getting reports of silly threads kicking off in AIBU but hadn't quite joined up the dots... Anyhow we do know it is frustrating if things get posted in AIBU that should and could be posted in a specific topic. If you report any you find, we will try to deal with them swiftly.
Hope that's OK grin.

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 13:09:15

Hooray! Thanks Ellen. flowers back. Feeling less mardy now.

As you were everyone.

Theodorous Sat 14-Jun-14 13:10:49

Yawn yawn yawn.

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 13:13:05

is that good or bad Paggy?

fuckinglondonballs Sat 14-Jun-14 13:14:50

YANBU OP. Lifetime ban I say.

'Aibu to ask you to recommend a washing up liquid?' Yes, yabvvvvvvvvvvvvvvu.

Pagwatch Sat 14-Jun-14 13:15:41

It's good. I'm standing behind you, holding your coat.
You and me - team 'fuck off'
I'm just the cowardly one. You are magnificent.

<has probably over thought this>

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 13:16:41

lol i love it
i have to go to a bloody scout camp in min. OVERNIGHT

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 13:19:12

Hope they have wifi Karl

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 13:20:14

i fear not. I know they have midges. And hearty types.
i am armed with a bottle of sauv blanc and a kindle #hopeful

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 13:22:05

And no 3G signal either probably. <shudders>

MardyBra Sat 14-Jun-14 13:22:37

Make sure that kindle is fully charged!

ppplease Sat 14-Jun-14 13:25:52

I couldnt care less where anything is posted. I look at them all anyway, and often I dont look at where they have been posted.

Surely it would only matter if you yourself spend a lot of time exclusively on AIBU?

shakethetree Sat 14-Jun-14 13:27:39

Most of the stuff posted in chat could be posted in a specific topic - but people tend to chuck it all in chat & hope for the best. It doesn't bother me. Some of the AIBU threads are just silly ( AIBU to have beans on toast for tea ) but I'd never email HQ about it. Tbh, I think there's far too many topics on here, HQ could get rid of half them & no one would notice. Chat, AIBU, relationships, patenting, pregnancy, employment & health would more than suffice.

Pagwatch Sat 14-Jun-14 13:28:57

And scouts <shudder>>

Actually it's brownies that freak me out. I'm not sure why. It's some weird thing, like being scared of clowns except they travel in a sort of swarm.

ppplease Sat 14-Jun-14 13:29:16

patenting would be a bit of a dead one! grin

shakethetree Sat 14-Jun-14 13:33:52

Sorry - parenting ( I was never good at it ) grin

AIBU to wonder if Nyn can hacherlly delete her own thread.


ComposHat Sat 14-Jun-14 14:00:29

I really can't see the problem. If you don't lime the thread title, ignore it or start your own message board where other pedants can congregate any instead and save the rest of us the tedious viligilante act.

NynaevesSister Sat 14-Jun-14 14:31:21

"Do you want people to agree with you on your thread,NynaevesSister ?

If you do, it's in the wrong place."

Usualsuspects - oh goodness no. Is why I posted in AIBU. It seems to be the sort of topic that people have strong views on. I am usually in Primary School forum so would have posted there if I wanted a different type of conversation.

Chaos - I think I have to ask MNHQ to do so. Can't actually do it myself. But they usually do so quickly if the OP asks.

KarlWrenbury Sat 14-Jun-14 14:59:32

I'm here. There's 3G. Reeeeeesult

candycoatedwaterdrops Sat 14-Jun-14 16:45:10

Annoyingly, AIBU has just become an extended part of the Chat forum.

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