To be annoyed with the person next to me in the car park

(78 Posts)
SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 14:33:52

It's a lovely sunny day, nice and quiet in a small car park about to collect the DCs from school and the idiot in the black BMW next to me has been sitting with their engine running for the last ten minutes, really, thus spoiling my quiet time and polluting the air as well.
I wish I had the guts to say something....

Etihad Fri 06-Jun-14 14:40:08

YANBU - however a possible explanation seeing as it's a black car, is that it was really hot in there so they had the air conditioning on, and didn't want to flatten their battery.

Bearbehind Fri 06-Jun-14 14:44:11

Er- drive somewhere else for your 'quiet time' then. hmm

He might be keeping his air con on while he works in his car?

HannerHet Fri 06-Jun-14 14:46:42


SantasLittleMonkeyButler Fri 06-Jun-14 14:46:48

That's the trouble with car parks - full of cars.

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Bearbehind Fri 06-Jun-14 14:50:28

I wish I had the guts to say something....

I'd love to know what you would say - I know you're in a car and it's in a car park but please can you turn your engine off so I can enjoy my quiet time - I reckon you'd make his day!

BlondieBrownie Fri 06-Jun-14 14:54:51


It's a car park confused

EyelinerQueen Fri 06-Jun-14 14:56:45

Oh please say something to him OP you loon grin .

YABU btw.

MrsRuffdiamond Fri 06-Jun-14 14:56:53

Oh, dear, I do this, and yes, it's to keep cool. I've often wondered if anyone is secretly judging me. Now I know!

AndHarry Fri 06-Jun-14 14:57:32

Why are you there 20 minutes early? Bagging a space? Walk next time!

Ahem grin

MargotLovedTom Fri 06-Jun-14 14:59:04

Why doesn't he get out of the car if he's that hot?

I hate cars idling for ages I have to admit.

Canus Fri 06-Jun-14 14:59:53

Jesus OP, whatever you do don't go into the school building to escape the car in the car park.

The people might be breathing and all sorts. grin

hmc Fri 06-Jun-14 15:00:13

YANBU - In that it's a waste of fuel and an unnecessary pollutant. If he wants to keep cool and work in his car then he should open his windows.

AgaPanthers Fri 06-Jun-14 15:01:02

If it's a lovely sunny day, what the bloody hell are you doing sitting in your car?

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 15:02:31

If it's the car park I am thinking of it's to zoom off quickly before the gridlock starts. grin

chipshop Fri 06-Jun-14 15:10:53

I do this a lot because I'm charging my iPhone, which has a pretty crap battery.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 06-Jun-14 15:15:33


You expected not to hear car engines in a car park? Really?

YABU. Very much So.

TheReluctantCountess Fri 06-Jun-14 15:17:28

There is a cur running in a car park. Shocking.

TheReluctantCountess Fri 06-Jun-14 15:17:44

Cur? Car.

Oh dear. I never do this this but am right now because the small yins are asleep and it's boiling. But I'm not in a BMW or in a car park so not offending the OP, phew.

Bogeyface Fri 06-Jun-14 15:25:52

I was pissed off with the twat next to me. He parked up all windows open with his music blaring so loudly that DD put her hands over her ears and our windows were shut. When I opened the door to get her out she started crying as it frightened her.

Ass hole, he was in an Audi though.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 06-Jun-14 15:26:50

YANBU. Its an offence in Scotland, don't know about rest of UK.

LadySybilLikesCake Fri 06-Jun-14 15:28:13

My neighbour used to do this. He'd start his engine at 7am then piss off inside for 30 minutes, leaving it running. I didn't need an alarm clock! angry

Mintyy Fri 06-Jun-14 15:30:04

"Yabu, bloody nosy busybody. What's is got to so with you confused"

Do you honestly think that is a reasonable way to answer this op CoffeeTea? You are so consistently rude to everyone and frankly I am sick of seeing it - so much so that I have done something I very rarely do and reported your post to HQ.

RiverTam Fri 06-Jun-14 15:30:16

he'll have the air-con running, is my guess. YANBU, I'd be right annoyed.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 06-Jun-14 15:31:01

Agree with you there mintyy

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat Fri 06-Jun-14 15:33:46

I'm with the OP on this one. It's always something like a BMW isn't it?

Showing off that they have so much money that they don't worry about the cost of petrol and don't give a toss about everyone else and the environment.

SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 17:39:32

Sparkling no, it was one of the others!
I was late leaving work and didn't have time to go home first so parked up and went for a walk in the park - or rather to sit on the park bench with my Kindle. That said, I do park in the other car park every day as well - probably seen you in there without knowing (up the back by the trees near the canal)

Obviously I didn't talk to him, was joking about that bit.

YANBU. Pisses me off too.

Even more so when the bloody bus driver used to sit with his bus idling for 20 minutes at 5.30am.

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 17:44:00

I thought it was the First School one Spottie. Terrifying.

Long time since I have done a Primary pick up in either car park thankfully. The one by the canal is awful, and people can't park in it properly IMO. Anyway what were you doing bothering with a car park? Pulling up on the grass verges on the main road by the pedestrian crossing is the way to go surely or on the zig zags in the layby?

TheFairyCaravan Fri 06-Jun-14 17:45:39

I don't turn my engine off if it's hot and I'm waiting because I like my air con. It wouldn't be for 20 minutes, though, because I am never that early!

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 17:52:21

I would rather be a bit warm than waste the fuel/annoy everyone. Wind the windows down or get out of the car. It's the UK, it's not that hot. grin

SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 18:41:54

I will remember that advice for Monday then Sparkling smile

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 18:45:43

Gives me the rage Spottie. I passed about 2.15 the other day and they were pulling up on the verges already. shock People are weird.

One year there was a trip that came back about 5pm, loads of children on it-4 coachfuls. So where did the parents park? Oh yes-in the bus bay. hmm

BlackeyedSusan Fri 06-Jun-14 18:46:50

the waste of fuel/pollution would annoy me most. how pissed off I am with peoples parking is the barometer to when my period is due. If I am pissed off at perfectly reasonable parking it is time for everyone to run for cover for twenty four hours.

ThursdayLast Fri 06-Jun-14 18:48:56

I don't think you're being unreasonable.
I hate when cars idle for no reason. I don't count air con as a valid reason

BlackeyedSusan Fri 06-Jun-14 18:49:27

seriously lacking in intelligence there sparkling.

I did get my own back on someone who had pulled all four wheels right up into the middle of the pavement on the corner of a road. ds tripped me up as we were edging round his car and I sat on his bonnet. I am not a lightweight.

Salmotrutta Fri 06-Jun-14 18:49:47

I like the idea of a cur running in a car park grin

Catsize Fri 06-Jun-14 18:50:53

YANBU. Selfish selfish selfish. On all sorts of levels.

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 18:51:35

Ah so they weren't causing a blockage on the road then Susan-very thoughtful, just be in the way of the pedestrians instead. Did he glare?

missuswife Fri 06-Jun-14 20:37:25

YANBU, it's an offense where I live.

SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 21:43:41

Susan Sparkling and I were having a joke since we both have frequented the same school car park, sadly many people feel it is,acceptable block the bus bay so school,buses can't get in and block the road by parking on the verges etc etc. the traffic warden would have a field day....

SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 21:44:27

Oh crap, sorry Susan, tired and read your message wrongly...idiot me!

RedRoom Fri 06-Jun-14 21:52:48

If it were 5am and you had a car running under your bedroom window, you'd be reasonable, but this is in a car park! Go to a grassy park if you want tranquility...

limitedperiodonly Fri 06-Jun-14 21:55:46

I would check in case he had a hose pipe running from the exhaust to one of the windows. Just because someone drives a BMW doesn't mean they have no worries.

limitedperiodonly Fri 06-Jun-14 21:56:43

I've just noticed the time of the original post. If that was the case, it's a bit late now sad

Nicknacky Fri 06-Jun-14 21:57:24

I would do this without giving it a second thought. Warm day, keeping the air con on for baby and I. Why get your self annoyed about it?

Sparklingbrook Fri 06-Jun-14 22:00:05

It's just inconsiderate. but there's a lot of it about sadly. Especially around school run time.

SpottieDottie Fri 06-Jun-14 22:00:28

Limited, no nothing like that, I'd have noticed.

limitedperiodonly Fri 06-Jun-14 22:05:42

Oh, that's good. Probably just an entitled person. Grabby too, no doubt. There are lots of them about.

TheFairyCaravan Fri 06-Jun-14 23:33:58

It might be the UK, but it still gets hot in cars on hot days. I take medication that makes me hotter, so winding down my windows isn't always enough.

If I get to the college 3 or 4 minutes before DS2 comes out and decide to leave my engine ticking over, for the sake of my well being, I will. I am not entitled, nor am I grabby! hmm

Catsize Sat 07-Jun-14 05:29:11

Do the people who leave their engines running a lot also leave them on if someone is washing their car at one of those drive-through-wash-cars-by-hand places?

RubySparks Sat 07-Jun-14 05:39:32

It is an offence under the road traffic act 'stationary idling' and you can be fined with fixed penalty notice... Good thing just applies to cars!

FatherDickByrne Sat 07-Jun-14 05:40:41

YANBU. I particularly hate it when lorries park up & leave their engines running for ages. The noise & pollution & waste of fuel & general disregard for the environment/anyone else make me shockangry.

MargotLovedTom Sat 07-Jun-14 07:34:34

I said upthread "Why doesn't he get out of the car if it's that hot?". I'll rephrase it for those people on the thread who sit with the engine running and air con going: Why don't you get out of the car if it's that hot?

LynetteScavo Sat 07-Jun-14 07:38:52


People who leave their car running really wind me up for some reason.

adsy Sat 07-Jun-14 07:51:26

I hate it when people leave their engines running.
I was sat in a lovely spot overlooking a lake once and the nobber next to me had his engine on.
I tapped on his window and asked him to switch it off which he did with good grace

Lanabelle Sat 07-Jun-14 08:00:12

maybe hes just had a jump start, cant switch his engine off incase the bugger wont start again, been in that position plenty times. stop being so bloody whingy - if you don't like cars running then don't take your quiet time in a car park

Billynomates71 Sat 07-Jun-14 08:03:32

I do this sometimes. And I have a black BMW blush

But I only do it for either the air on, or if I am in the middle of a telephone call on the hands free, am worried that switching the engine off will cut me off the hands free?

Didn't think I might be offending anyone .... sad

TheFairyCaravan Sat 07-Jun-14 09:15:00

Margot I am disabled, standing cause me a lot of pain. Getting in and out of the car causes me a lot of pain.

It's not always as easy as just getting out of the car!

Mim78 Sat 07-Jun-14 09:21:34

Bad for the environment so from that pov he was unreasonable.

Mim78 Sat 07-Jun-14 09:23:23

So is air con so I agree with get out of the car if hot. Air con should be used sparingly IMO anyway e.g. When stuck in a traffic jam on a really hot day.

SpottieDottie Sat 07-Jun-14 09:23:45

If it's an offence under the road traffic act then IWNBU smile

lljkk Sat 07-Jun-14 09:26:52

Proves that petrol really isn't that expensive, doesn't it.

Freckletoes Sat 07-Jun-14 09:38:11

I'm another one with you. Switch your engines off and open the windows or doors!! Charging a phone is no valid reason either. I bet all those people who leave engines idling are the same people who drive to and from places for distances of 1/4 mile!

heraldgerald Sat 07-Jun-14 10:48:06

I'm amazed by how rude alot of the responses are on this thread- last time I checked the local car park wasn't full of cars running their engines. Which I do judge. I think it's selfish to others and polluting. You leave your car running to charge your phone?! Any one seen idiocracy confused

Sparklingbrook Sat 07-Jun-14 10:53:51

Do you have to have the engine running to charge the phone. Wouldn't it charge with the key in the position where you can listen to the stereo but not have engine running IYKWIM?

Cuteypatootey Sat 07-Jun-14 12:51:44

Maybe they are enjoying time to themselves and you are annoying them by being judgy?

Sparklingbrook Sat 07-Jun-14 12:55:24

Only if they are also mind readers Cutey.

Nicknacky Sat 07-Jun-14 13:01:54

Do people actually care what others do to the extent they judge them on running their engines too long? I don't pay enough attention to what others are doing, would cross my mind to care at all.

Sparklingbrook Sat 07-Jun-14 13:04:02

No, people probably don't notice everything that annoys them. Just occasionally you notice something that does that's all. Especially when you want some quiet time and folk are being needlessly noisy. grin

Nicknacky Sat 07-Jun-14 13:06:00

Like a few others said, if I was looking for quiet then I wouldn't be sitting near cars lol.

Sparklingbrook Sat 07-Jun-14 13:09:35

That's why the OP ventured to the park with her Kindle presumably.

JohnCusacksWife Sat 07-Jun-14 13:12:52

YANBU....idling cars are one of my pet hates. I think it's symptomatic of how "I'm alright, Jack" our society has become.

limitedperiodonly Sat 07-Jun-14 13:22:58

The only person who's ever bothered me by idling their engine was my neighbour who used to do it in the winter when he left for work at 5am and did it to help him scrape the ice off the windscreen.

I could see why he did it but I still wanted to kill him. He was a nice enough person in other respects though so I let him live.

I don't think I've ever noticed anyone else doing it. I certainly couldn't be bothered about how much petrol they were wasting or how they were killing the environment.

MargotLovedTom Sat 07-Jun-14 13:49:50

TheFairyCaravan fair enough, you find it difficult to get out of the car. Surely opening all the windows makes a difference though?

I agree sparkling no need for the engine to be running.

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