To have told ds that babies come from a vagina.

(58 Posts)
ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 21:50:26

It looks like the wacky stories about babies have hit the playground.

Ds asked me how do babies come out of the mummy's tummy.

I didn't want to lie to him, so I told him.

I am now worried that he will tell his classmates and his teacher will pull me aside.

The stories he was told was quite funny, that babies come out of the belly button and they come up like vomit. Most sensible one which I explained was also correct was they cut open the belly.

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 21:52:48

I doubt the teacher will pull you aside

Many many parents tell their kids the truth and the schools manage fine

Burren Tue 13-May-14 21:54:35

Of course YANBU. How old is your son, though? Because my two year old knows where babies come out of the mummy, and that sometimes the doctors and nurses cut open her tummy and take the baby out a special way.

littlepeas Tue 13-May-14 21:55:00

I think it is fine! My ds (5) asked me this just the other day and I said that mummies have a special place where the baby comes from and I'd explain more when he was older - cop out! I had c sections, so I told him about that too - much easier!

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 21:55:56

You've just reminded me of something

When I was little I overheard my Aunt telling my Mum about the midwife delivering her babies.

From that day on, whenever I saw our local midwife riding her bike in the street, I thought she was delivering babies to various houses.

She even had a little basket on the front of the bike grin

phantomnamechanger Tue 13-May-14 21:56:04

of course YANBU! the teacher would have no business telling you off.

I've heard the vomit one before - it's kiddie logic - baby in mummy's tummy keeps making her sick - Mummy goes to hospital and comes home with baby - now no longer sick, therefore she has successfully sicked up the baby!

MagnaCharge Tue 13-May-14 21:58:00

I told DS they come out like doing a giant poo but not out of a lady's bum but a special baby hole. The daddy uses the same hole to put a seed in. I was never spoken to by a teacher about it and he was about 5 or 6 when he asked. He didn't ask what it was called though and I never volunteer more than the exact answers to his questions.

rideyourbike Tue 13-May-14 21:59:21

You aren't being unreasonable, when my twins were nearly5 we watched a birth on one born every minute (I picked a calm quiet birth!) they loved it and had so many questions aftersmile

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 22:00:04

I can't believe he asked, it was so random while I was bathing him.

LumionaMoonsplash Tue 13-May-14 22:01:32

DD is 6 and knows there's a hole for wees, one for poos and one for babies. We've left it at that for now.

LumionaMoonsplash Tue 13-May-14 22:02:13

Tbh she's seen obem so know that babies are pushed out and it hurts.

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 22:04:56

I can imagine the kids nodding along when the other kids tell them that babies are sicked up, or come out of the belly button.

Then the OP's DS says they come out of the vagina and all the other kids laugh and say, 'Now that really is ridiculous' grin

summertimeandthelivingiseasy Tue 13-May-14 22:04:58

YANBU. My mother laughed at me when I thought babies came out of your belly button (what else is it for?) at the age of 7 (a more innocent time). She never did tell me where they came from - may have said 'bottom' in a coy and embarrassed manner. Fortunately, I had school friends who were more helpful.

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 22:06:36

I doubt they will believe him, he has a vivid imagination.

IFoughtTheLaw Tue 13-May-14 22:07:45

grin Worra

everlong Tue 13-May-14 22:09:17

That's cute Worra and quite sensible if you think about it grin

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 22:14:51

I told my brother I was going to ask the midwife if she could re-deliver him to another address grin

GetKnitted Tue 13-May-14 22:16:03

As others have said, YANBU, ds (aged 6) knows all about it too, since he likes to ask me questions about everything from dinosaurs to computers to circuses to babies and back again. I did suggest that he doesn't talk about it with his friends because all the mummies and daddies get to decide how to tell their children about it.

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 22:16:26

smile worra.

Ds has asked a million times to take dd back to the hospital < wish I could of today >

I showed my kids loads of water births like this after I caught them watching day time US birthing programmes that had a lot of screaming and cutting.

2min 20 of this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0FBLEaTOGpQ

This: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JUOl4rz-HwI

They both know where babies come from and when their baby brother came they both asked if he came out of my vulva.

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 22:18:01

Aww bless him grin

gordyslovesheep Tue 13-May-14 22:21:28

2 of mine DID come out of my tummy ...just to confuse things grin

Mim78 Tue 13-May-14 22:23:56

I told my dd they came from the middle bottom or baby hole. She knows where this is on the body.

WaitingForMe Tue 13-May-14 22:24:40

DSS1 was 7 when I was pregnant with DS and pondered aloud when God put the baby in my tummy.

I was horrified, bough Babette Cole's book (thank you mumsnetters) and set the record straight with him and DSS2 (then 4).

We gave them the facts in an age appropriate way which is surely our responsibility. Bless DSS1 for casting me as a born again Virgin Mary (he was going on the nativity) but no, they need the facts.

StickEm Tue 13-May-14 22:27:08

I got 46 seconds into the water birth.

I don't know how you all do it

thanks
My poor muvva.

StickEm Tue 13-May-14 22:29:33

Now up to 1.14. I couldnt watch anymore!

Awwwwww

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 22:41:09

When did we get a bike shock ???

And more to the point, why?

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 22:43:05

Good point worra, haven't notice that before.

phantomnamechanger Tue 13-May-14 22:44:18

Must be in honour of your comment below worra, its the new code for midwife wink

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 13-May-14 22:46:26

Call the bike

WorraLiberty Tue 13-May-14 22:48:13

It freaked me out phantom, you know like when you mention something and an advert for it appears in your side bar? grin

Wait a minute...

Cock, cock, cock

<< Watches emoticon list with interest >>

AllDirections Tue 13-May-14 22:49:58

DD1 used to give birth to her dolls by pulling them out from under her top. Then she was present at DD2's birth when she was 3. A few weeks later I walked in to the living room and DD1 was laying on one sofa and my nephew (also age 3) on the other sofa both giving birth to their dolls vaginally grin

HavannaSlife Tue 13-May-14 22:51:25

Out the vagina? Get on your bike grin

Thenapoleonofcrime Tue 13-May-14 22:51:57

If he's 7 or above, he may well have been taught the 'right' words at school, mine had a letter stating they would be taught them and my dd2 came home and proudly shared her new knowledge. No reason not to be honest.

NinjaLeprechaun Tue 13-May-14 23:02:24

I don't know how you all do it
By the time you get to that point, you really have very little choice. grin

selsigfach Tue 13-May-14 23:02:25

How annoying is the "oh my god" woman in video #2? I'd have had to had to punch her or at least yelled "shut the fuck up" if she were my birth partner!

slithytove Wed 14-May-14 00:37:27

Those water birth videos are amazing

<must have dust in my eye>

emms1981 Wed 14-May-14 13:03:54

Mine are 5 and 7 and I've told them, I said its like doing a big poo just from a different place, I will save telling them how they get there for another time. I think its much better than them thinking up all kind of strange things, one of my sons friends said the other day about cows peeing out milk hmmm

Whyamihere Wed 14-May-14 13:37:09

I had a discussion with dd the other day (she's 9), she's known where babies come from for a while and knows all about puberty in both boys and girls but didn't know the details of sex - it's never come up in discussion, but she asked me the other day how babies get in a mummy's tummy and she wanted the proper version so we discussed it with proper names - all about where the penis goes etc, at the end the conversation went -

dd - soooooo, does that mean you and daddy did that?
me - yes
dd - ehhhhh, that's disgusting.

It was a classic moment of disgust that I'm sure every child has when they realise their parents have had to have had sex for them to be there.

I did tell her that what we'd discussed was not for giggling about in the playground as other parents might not have told their children.

RedHatNoDrawers Wed 14-May-14 13:45:01

DS1 is 3 and he asked me the other day how babies come out, so I told him, I think it's important to tell them the (age appropriate) truth when they ask questions.

SuperSophie Wed 14-May-14 16:12:48

Baby hole? Is that really a sensible name for the vagina? The average woman during her lifetime uses her vagina about TWICE to deliver a baby and many never use it all for that purpose.

Wouldn't 'rabbit hole' make more sense?

selsigfach Wed 14-May-14 16:28:16

Ha, rabbit hole! Love it.

x2boys Wed 14-May-14 16:28:59

My seven year old knows its like having a big poo but he has never asked specific questions yet !

Morgause Wed 14-May-14 16:32:00

Both DSs knew by around the age of 6. I answered every question as it was asked, rather than sat them down.

silveroldie2 Wed 14-May-14 16:33:38

WorraLiberty
"I can imagine the kids nodding along when the other kids tell them that babies are sicked up, or come out of the belly button"

Don't mock the afflicted. I fervently believed as a child that babies were born via the belly button which somehow magically opened up at the right time to enable the baby to be removed and then magically closed again. My parents were far too embarrassed to give me any sex info and in the olden days at school we taken to a nissen hut and shown an old black and white film so grainy you could barely see anything. I laughed heartily at school friends who told me babies came through the vagina - what a ludicrous idea grin.

Celestria Wed 14-May-14 16:42:07

I tell my kids they came out where I wee and laugh hysterically at their disgusted faces, always cheers me up! grin

Catflap1 Wed 14-May-14 16:48:51

My kids have always known, when I was pregnant with my 3rd they were 3 and 2 and had lots of intrest they loved watching the baby stories and delivery programe on home and health channel with me!

They have always loved hospital programs and still do now aged 7,9,11.

Now I'm pregnant with my 4th they show lots of intrest and ask lots of questions about labour etc

PrincessBabyCat Wed 14-May-14 16:49:15

I still laugh at my friend's dad for how he told her. It went something like this.

"Where do babies come from?"
"Vaginas"

End conversation.

BloominNora Wed 14-May-14 16:52:43

I made the mistake of letting DD1 watch a birth on OBEM when she was 5 - she very quickly declared (and has stuck to it ever since - about 18 months) that she will not have children because it hurts.

She is very stubborn (this is the child that spent seven hours in bed with no toys or other forms of entertainment rather than take medicine) and can quite easily imagine her sticking with it the rest of her life now that she has made her mind up.

KittyandTeal Wed 14-May-14 16:54:36

In a teacher and I would never 'have a word' about you telling yourDS the real way babies come into the world!

m0therofdragons Wed 14-May-14 16:56:04

A mum had a slight go at me fort telling dd1 the truth as she'd told her dd some random nonsense that involved magic lights and fairies!

Dd was 4 when she was talking about it, her twin sisters were born cs so she was talking about how babies get cut out of a mum's tummy and I explained that her sisters did but she came out the normal way and explained a little. She also knows mummy has periods but not much detail. I don't see the point of lying when she asks but at this age I let her prompt things rather than deciding when to explain things. My mum was going to talk to me at 10 about periods which would have been fine if I hadn't started them at 9! Won't let my dd be as scared as I was!

Starlight that first video was so lovely it made me well up (the bit at about 2 minutes where the little boy comes over and says "You're nearly there" and gives his mum a kiss… awwwwww!) and then the second one, with the squawky birth partner and the poo floating around in the pool… back to reality. grin

I've always known that babies came out of a vagina. I'd be a lot more upset if someone (i.e. an adult, not another child) told my child that they didn't!

JustAboutAdeqeuate Wed 14-May-14 16:59:54

Bloody hell, couldn't they have fished the poo out? The bath tub in the second video doesn't look anywhere near deep enough to be comfortable.

33 weeks here and wishing fairies and magic lights would do the trick confused

DangoDays Wed 14-May-14 17:00:56

Ds (3) asked me how his baby brother got out.
Me - out of my vagina
Ds - isn't that a bit yucky.
Me - Yeah...

My 6 year old knows there's a stretchy tunnel where babies come out. Despite being a nosey little beggar she's only ever asked how they get out, never how they get in even when I was expecting dd2. I'd steered away a bit from programmes like OBEM because they're a bit screamy and she's a worrier but she sat through an ep of Call the Midwife the other week which had a fair bit of screaming and she just asked if it hurt so I said it mostly does but you don't really mind because it's worth it and she was happy with that.

I'm still waiting for any other questions.

Hey, where did the bike come from?

ThisFenceIsComfy Wed 14-May-14 18:00:55

When my DSC asked where their brother was going to come out from, I said he grew in me and then he'd come out of my hooha. Why lie? For what end? In the end I had a caesarean so I told them that the doctor cut him out. Neither are emotionally scarred at all.

SlimJiminy Wed 14-May-14 18:49:14

YANBU. Magic lights and fairies indeed.

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