To put my baby in a red coat when...

(103 Posts)
missknows Wed 30-Apr-14 21:50:10

She has a purple pram?

Because a random old lady who wanted to look in the pram and see the baby (as they do) told me off for exactly that! Are the fashion police going to arrest me? Will my daughter be scarred for life?

P.s obviously this is a light-hearted thread but the lady was genuinely disgusted in me and made a point of telling me so. Thought she was going to phone childline on my baby's behalf.

TheLastThneed Wed 30-Apr-14 21:52:08

How could you do such a thing? You'll have to buy a new pram tomorrow... grin

EatShitDerek Wed 30-Apr-14 21:52:18

You did what?!

Jeez, bad parenting. I hope she does phone childline. No coat would have been better


IsChippyMintonExDirectory Wed 30-Apr-14 21:52:54

Or not. Old women are weird
The other day when I told my mum I don't go out my way to match DDs clothes I just take out whatever's at the top of the drawer she called me cruel hmm she very nearly fainted when I said I don't iron her clothes either unless they're very creased. She's 1 FFS!

Shockers Wed 30-Apr-14 21:53:43

I quite like red and purple together.

(Child of the 70s)

meditrina Wed 30-Apr-14 21:54:15

I've seen bright orange prams containing pink-clad infants.

I have wondered how widespread colour blindness really is.

missknows Wed 30-Apr-14 21:54:41

Ooo I don't iron either. I'm going to hell aren't I?

ClockWatchingLady Wed 30-Apr-14 21:55:31

Social services have been informed.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Wed 30-Apr-14 21:55:32

You don't have co ordinating prams and outfits? I'm calling child line myself.

Morgause Wed 30-Apr-14 21:55:48


ouryve Wed 30-Apr-14 21:56:22

Why not start em young?

I love red and purple together!

Passmethecrisps Wed 30-Apr-14 21:57:17

Also a fan of red and purple.

All old people. All of them. Thing that my dd is a boy. Sometimes I make a massive point of dressing her in head to toe pink and she still gets mistaken for a boy.

candycoatedwaterdrops Wed 30-Apr-14 21:57:24

I hope you're saving up for the years of therapy your daughter will need as a result of your shoddy actions. Shame on you!

fluffyraggies Wed 30-Apr-14 21:57:53

Purple and red - lovely.

How about this though - i've bought a lipstick red travel system, but just realised my only favorite mac is the exact same colour.

too much red hmm

MyFabulousBoys Wed 30-Apr-14 21:58:48

WTF is wrong with you?

Purple and red? Like a bruise? On a baby?


BlackeyedSusan Wed 30-Apr-14 21:58:58

what's ironing?

missknows Wed 30-Apr-14 21:59:42

Ouryve that's brilliant. I might print a copy in case I ever meet her again!

Tangoandcreditcards Wed 30-Apr-14 22:01:41

Eek. My purple pram has red trimmings. I had no idea it was a faux pas!

Chocoholism Wed 30-Apr-14 22:02:03


KatieKaye Wed 30-Apr-14 22:02:06

Passmethecrisps - are you parting her hair on the boys side? wink

sherbetpips Wed 30-Apr-14 22:06:33

I had an awful mamas n papas car seat when DS was newborn, it kind of scrunched him up. When out with my MIL she used to say loudly to everyone who looked at him 'He's not disabled it's the seat'! Only the over 70s can do un-pc like that.

Raskova Wed 30-Apr-14 22:06:45

Perfectly reasonable.

Red and pink on the other hand... hmm

Passmethecrisps Wed 30-Apr-14 22:06:45

I think her failing is a lack of her. My fault obvs.

She does have a cardie with car buttons on. And apparently it buttons down the boy side

Amy106 Wed 30-Apr-14 22:10:46

Awful! Just plain awful!
You can either spray paint the pram, dye the coat or never, ever go outside. Choice is yours. grin

I pity your child. sad

Why did you not buy her a pink pram and a nice pink coat? How will she know to grow up nurturing, feminine and creative instead of bold, masculine and decisive? shock

Passmethecrisps Wed 30-Apr-14 22:17:11

Hair my post should read. She has little hair. She has a bit of her I suppose

brdgrl Wed 30-Apr-14 22:18:22

Not the same thing, I know, but certainly a mumsy fashion crime. I have accidentally (I swear!) bought DD and I almost matching (as in same colour or print) coats - twice. I love the coats (and bought them at totally different times without really thinking about what the other one of us already had) but I hate knowing that people will think I have done it on purpose.

hardbeingme Wed 30-Apr-14 22:23:45

dd had a black pram - i thought it was unisex - apparently not; 'why have you put her in a boys pram?!' more than once
and twin's red pushchair was also a no no as i had two boys.

Really??? some people worry about odd stuff.

alita7 Wed 30-Apr-14 22:26:40

we don't iron anything except shirts and suits. and get this... we don't iron dsds uniform :O she comes home covered in creases so why bother?!

WooWooOwl Wed 30-Apr-14 22:27:08

Didn't the Beckhams have a red and purple theme for their wedding reception?

ICanSeeTheSun Wed 30-Apr-14 22:29:46

How could you Op, not 2 colours too much stimulation for a baby. I bet that's what's keeping her up at night.

Zara8 Wed 30-Apr-14 22:38:04

YABVVVVU. I will call social services on you shortly.

I am also U apparently as I dress DS is in jeggings and stretchy pants from Uniqlo rather than stiff unstretchy cargo pants. Comfortable on 18 month boys old apparently is the same as dressing them in a tutu and a floral cardigan.

People are seriously weird

KatieKaye Wed 30-Apr-14 22:40:51

According to my friend's (German) mother it is totally unreasonable to dress any baby, regardless of sex, in any colour at all until they can sit up.
Have you made this terrible error too?

Your child is going to be scarred for life. You do know that, don't you?

LittleBearPad Wed 30-Apr-14 22:46:27

You must go out at once and buy several prams in different colours to avoid this faux pas again.

Clearly this is what tamara Ecclestone was doing grin

IsChippyMintonExDirectory Wed 30-Apr-14 22:52:39

KatieKaye what do they wear then?! White?

rootypig Wed 30-Apr-14 22:56:13

DD was in a red coat and yellow dungarees today. I have an orange rain jacket. We are like a bag of skittles grin

I was told off by a middle aged woman for having her in a green hat when she was tiny. A green hat! for a girl!!!!!


IneedAwittierNickname Wed 30-Apr-14 23:02:38

When my dc were babies they always had lovely colour co.ordinating outfits even down to the socks. If someone gave them an outfit and I didn't have socks the right colour, I would buy some. I ironed everything too. Even vests (not socks though)

They didn't match the pram though sad
well, actually, ds1 had a grey and turquoise buggy, and a did wear turquoise sometimes. And ds2s pram was grey and red, and he did wear red.

As an aside. Mum and I were talking about that poem, I said it was red and purple, she insisted it was just about red!

KatieKaye Wed 30-Apr-14 23:03:45

White - or maybe cream at a pinch. Ecru would be pushing it...

Mind you, this was the same lady who sent her son to school in lederhosen. Which might be fine in Germany, but tends to raise a few eyebrows in Scotland. My friend's dirndl was quit conservative by contrast.
Her mum was lovely, but slightly eccentric!

I got asked how old "he" was five times in one day. She was wearing a Batman onesie, admittedly, but underneath a pink cardigan, with a pink cat hat, pink scratch mitts and a pink blanket. When I pointed this out, the person looked quite pissed off and said "But she's dressed as Batman" hmm

I need a pink pram or to stop dressing DD as Batman

AlpacaPicnic Wed 30-Apr-14 23:11:45

Love the idea of baby batman!
I knew a wee girl with a batman hoodie that had a cape attached to the sleeves. She wore it well. I was very jealous...

Shewhowines Wed 30-Apr-14 23:17:17

One should have co-ordinating buggies for each outfit. Why have you failed your dd in this way? YABVU

eurochick Wed 30-Apr-14 23:18:20

A baby batman would be cool.

My niece is very, very ginger. She is ALWAYS dressed in pink. I have considered alerting social services. It looks awful. Poor child.

QuizzicalCat Wed 30-Apr-14 23:31:29

I always seemed to attract old ladies who felt a compulsion to tell me babies should be dressed in white.

DD did have a white snowsuit when she was tiny, and this woman spent ages telling me how lovely it was to see a baby dressed 'properly' in white, oh its wonderful, oh how lovely repeat ad nauseum.

Oh how I laughed when I got home and unzipp snowsuit to reveal the most glorious, bold, patterned outfit (which was representative of all her clothes bar the white snowsuit). I don't think the old lady would have been impressed though! grin

Bettercallsaul1 Wed 30-Apr-14 23:37:13

Red and purple together, OP? This is abuse.

missingmumxox Wed 30-Apr-14 23:52:34

I am beyond furious at what you have are evil!

Side note, 9 year old dts, I put the ironing board up lady week, stayed there after I used it, 1 DT walked on with a drink looked at said ironing board, and asked can I put my drink on board thing Mum... Yes that is how often I iron, he didn't even know what it was ...

I have cuffed myself after calling the police they are on their way round now... Bye

missingmumxox Wed 30-Apr-14 23:53:53

Last not lady!

ZingWatermelon Wed 30-Apr-14 23:58:53

You should carry a Dulux chart to see which colours/shades go well together.

sheesh, what an amateur!confused

HavannaSlife Thu 01-May-14 00:03:46

A purple pram, I need to see it before commenting (I love prams)

I was told off for having ds4 in a red pram as red is for girls apparently . I've just bought him one with marvel comic customs

Loads of colours to choose from when dressing him now grin

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 00:36:49


red is the best colour ever and it's for everyone.
and it is traditionally/historically the strongest, most masculine colour there is.

(yep, red is my favourite colour!smile )

LettertoHermioneGranger Thu 01-May-14 00:47:12

You don't have a pram in every color to coordinate with all your baby's coats?!


My DD Appleblossom Sunflower Redwoodtree Skyee would never be caught in an uncoordinated pram/coat combo. She may be just ten weeks, but that type of humiliation would be scarring to someone of such a tender age. Poor parenting, I'm shocked.

Nocomet Thu 01-May-14 00:58:54

DD had a blue batik romper suit covered in pink and green flowers.

Because it was blue, she was still a boy confused

daughteritsmeagain Thu 01-May-14 06:12:31

Old women are weird

Busymumto3dc Thu 01-May-14 06:17:32

I have a purple pram for my dd

She just outgrew her red coat

weebleswillwobble Thu 01-May-14 06:50:06

Pmsl at missingmumxox's 'surfboard thing'!

PickleMobile Thu 01-May-14 07:02:19

Dd's first ever clothes was a blue 'superbaby' sleepsuit. She also has a pale blue pram but it has multi coloured spots on the hood and lining so that's ok.

She's also ginger and I dress her in pink.

MostlyMama Thu 01-May-14 07:06:42

My dd is 'ginger' as someone so eloquently put it and I dressed her in pink and still do, what is the issue?

LtEveDallas Thu 01-May-14 07:06:50

DD had a red pram and I was told off by an older lady because "that colour was dangerous for her eyes". In my post natal haze (I think DD was 6 or 7 weeks) I actually thought it was a 'thing' and spent the rest of the day googling in case she was right.

DH came home and I was a neurotic mess until he pointed out that the inside of the pram (the only bit DD could see) was actually white.

Busymumto3dc Thu 01-May-14 07:08:19

Red is one of the first colours a baby can see isn't it? Along with black and white. Never heard of it being dangerous

MaryWestmacott Thu 01-May-14 07:24:33

Mostlymama, pink and orange-red hair can clash. Plus ginger children often have skin tones that make them look a bit ill in some pinks, I know my strawberry blonde dd looks terrible in purpley-pinks, and ginger DH can't do purple either. Red-pinks are fine.

I bought a camel coloured pram when I had dc1, I was complimented on my choice as it would go with most outfits, I hasn't realised this was something your supposed to do. The midwives should really tell you at your booking session...

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 07:44:47

*old women are weird*grin

they certainly are!
I was 7 months pg, feeling quite warm on a sunny March afternoon when some old biddie told me to put my coat on, because it's not that warm yet.confused

I was 35.

mummytime Thu 01-May-14 07:46:39

My Ds was usually called a girl - even when wearing just blue.
Then his sister, my DD, was always called a boy even when wearing Pink from head to toe.
Old ladies can be weird!

My DC never matched their prams, or each other or me - and lucky if they didn't clash somewhere. Maybe that explains everything...

MiaowTheCat Thu 01-May-14 08:40:10

I got told off for having DD1 in a red coat so she looked like a boy once. The person doing the telling off then mistook me for DD1's grandmother! (I'm mid 30s)

I was not impressed.

IneedAwittierNickname Thu 01-May-14 09:54:17

I got told off (by an older lady naturally) because ds2 had so much hair as a newborn confused
Apparently I should have cut it all off so that random strangers people knew he was a boy. He was 3 weeks old at the time. It was shoulder length when he was a toddler grin

Trollsworth Thu 01-May-14 09:57:35

Someone asked me if ds1 was a premie once. He was 8lb 4oz at birth, had a head so big the paed measured it for hydrocephalus, and was abut six weeks old by this point so was actually about eleven pounds.

LJBanana Thu 01-May-14 10:04:16

Well it's more than obvious to me that non of you heathens waited until your children were born to do their colours!
Throwing about all these options before they're suitably matched to their shades.

eurochick Thu 01-May-14 12:06:07

Mostly, as someone else said, pink and orange clash horribly! My niece looks lovely in other colours but 90% of her wardrobe is pink. And it looks dreadful on her. But her mum is a "girly girl" <boak> so pink it is.

What is wrong with describing hair as ginger? My husband and brother (niece's father) are Irish and both have a tinge of ginge themselves and I was a strawberry blonde baby, so I wouldn't be at all surprised if the one in my uterus now will turn out ginger. And if he/she has ginger hair, it will be described as ginger.

Burren Thu 01-May-14 12:14:49

I think many or most redheads look astonishing in pink. (I never use the term 'ginger', as where I grew up, red hair was described as 'red', or 'foxy' - I've only come across the use of 'ginger' in England, and it's forever tainted for me by the connotations of disgust/bullying/disdain. )

A certain kind of elderly woman thinks that babies should only be clad in white or pastels, preferably in little crocheted matinee jackets with matching bootees, moving on to the kind of thing Prince George wore on his antipodean tour. It's not my look, and my son (when he wasn't wearing pink, floral handmedowns as a newborn) was wearing bright yellow, red, green, purple, grey, orange. In his scarlet pram.

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 12:32:14

pink and orange are amazingly jazzy together if good strong shades.

look at some beautiful saris women wear - they are just so cheerful!


sarinka Thu 01-May-14 12:33:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CrispyFern Thu 01-May-14 12:34:31

It was probably my mum. Sorry.

Ploppy16 Thu 01-May-14 12:38:41

Hang on, back up a bit.
HavannaSlife you have a pram that has a Marvel Comic design?? Why do I only find out this is a thing when my last is growing out of her buggy??

SaggyAndLucy Thu 01-May-14 12:42:35

only one thing could be worse than this...
shock shock shock shock
putting her in a red coat when she was.... ginger! <<faints>>

MrsDavidBowie Thu 01-May-14 12:47:18

I thought you were going to say you were taking her to Venice (if you've seen the film Don't look now, you'll understand)

42andcounting Thu 01-May-14 12:50:54

Passmethecrisps and Moomin - I feel your pain! I almost feel obliged to dress DD in top to toe pink & frills because every single blessed time we go out at least two (usually older) people ask how old 'he' is, is 'he' a good sleeper etc. On Monday she had a pink top & trousers, pink bib, pink blanket, pink hat, pink socks, pink dummy clip and a purple dummy. Apparently the purple dummy was what caused the confusion. Bah.

I am considering getting a bumper sticker made for the pram saying 'please do not call my daughter a boy as a smack in the gob often offends'. My DP can't understand why it annoys me so much. I can't understand why people don't just stay non gender specific. It's not as if she looks like an all in wrestler, she's a cute little 6 month old baby FFS!

And breathe......

42andcounting Thu 01-May-14 12:51:54

Oh, and yes, she's ginger too...... smile

Lollydaydream Thu 01-May-14 12:52:38

Thank you mrsdavidbowie for explaining why this thread title worried me - couldn't put my finger on it!
Regarding green - it's unlucky, apparently it lets the fairies know they can take the baby......

HavannaSlife Thu 01-May-14 12:59:08

Just for you ploppy it does also have a more normal black hood and seat and red liner too grin

YouHaveBeenOutbid Thu 01-May-14 12:59:46

I've got a theory there's a band of older ladies going round asking mothers of boys if 'she' is a good sleeper and vice versa grin. I'm not sure why they're doing it but it used to happen to my boy dressed head to toe in blue all the time. Seems like it's not uncommon!

Maybe she thinks red with purple is a combination reserved exclusively for women of a certain age, in accordance with the poem.

MadameLeBean Thu 01-May-14 13:08:09

I love red with purple. My favourite jumper is purple and I always wear red nail polish smile

spatchcock Thu 01-May-14 13:24:49

I also thought this was going to be about Don't Look Now, the thread title gave me the shivers.

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 13:39:39


I love that poem, thanks for reminding me! thanks

CrystalQueen Thu 01-May-14 13:42:58

Ha. My mother told me that DD often looks like she has been "sicked on by a parrot". Cheers mum.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Thu 01-May-14 13:43:15

Spatch I was just about to post just that <spooky woo emoticon>

I love read coats but because I'm petite short arse I don't as I'm paranoid about looking like the crazy woman in Don't Look Now grin

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 13:58:33

you must buy a red coat. it will be great.
sod what people think and enjoy looking awesome!smile

Summerbreezing Thu 01-May-14 14:02:47

I actually bought my nephew a t-shirt with ''I'm a Boy' written on it because my SIL was fed up of people saying 'how old is she'? etc.
I bet some people still said 'oh she's lovely'.

HelenHen Thu 01-May-14 14:22:42

Aw jaysus... I just bought a red and purple Bangor for ds shock

HelenHen Thu 01-May-14 14:23:02

Babygro lol

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Thu 01-May-14 14:49:56

Thank you zing I've got long black wavy hair too and I know I'd really suit one but that witchy little character in the film just haunts me! Totally idiotic I know! blush

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 15:16:05

what film? I don't know any film about red coats.

silence negative thoughts and be brave & bold instead! smile

KatieKaye Thu 01-May-14 15:28:17

The film is Don't look now. Very upsetting but briiliant

MiaowTheCat Thu 01-May-14 15:41:04

With the ginger thing - DD2 has a very strange hair shade at the moment- most of the time it looks dark blonde to me but in a certain light it's the most beautiful shade of copper (seriously I've been trying all my life to get hair that bloody shade!) and my mum is obsessed with melodramatically telling me "Hate to tell you this - but I think she's going to be.... GINGER!" And I just look at her like.... and so?

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 15:43:46


I adore red hair.
dark copper is lovely.
I love love love flame red and strawberry blonde and all shades really
your DD is a lucky girl

GwenStacy Thu 01-May-14 15:51:08

Havana - where is that pushchair from? I need it in my life!

GwenStacy Thu 01-May-14 15:53:12

Also, today I had my daughter in her sling, and an old lady asked if she was a boy.

"No, a little girl"
"Ahh, he's a bonny lad!"


ebwy Thu 01-May-14 16:00:28

I have been told off several times by random strangers for "putting that poor baby at risk!" by putting him in a bright lime green buggy.

Apparently green will encourage the fairies to abduct him, and if I can't do as I should and get rid of it I should at least dress him in red to put them off....

people are weird.

RedToothBrush Thu 01-May-14 16:08:05

You should have asked her to buy a new pram or coat for her if she thought it was that bad.

ZingWatermelon Thu 01-May-14 16:17:17


those people are on absinthe grin

Scaredycat3000 Thu 01-May-14 16:27:46

But, but, if you don't dress them all in white how are you going to bleach everything?!! wink ponders on quite how OP ended up allergic to bleach

ebwy Thu 01-May-14 16:34:21


that would explain it!

Passmethecrisps Fri 02-May-14 20:29:28

Today! Today my 18 m dd was being dragged walking out of the supermarket today and we were greeted by the dad of a neighbour.

"What's the matter son?"
"Why's he greetin?"
"Poor wee man!"

SHE was wearing a pink and orange (so shoot me) jumper with a big cat face on with skinny jeans and red Mary Janes.

But she has almost no hair.

Passmethecrisps Fri 02-May-14 20:30:26

Genuinely, I was not offended.
Honest guvna.

I am just interested

and considering having her wear a massive glittery hair band all the time

Marvintheparanoid Mon 05-May-14 21:33:49

DFIL told us off for getting DD a blue pram (only decent one we could afford). He also was horrified that DSIL painted DNephew's room green. shock At that point we gave up trying to figure out his colour preferences.
But red and purple? Clearly you are not thinking straight. Orange and black would have been the way to go.

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