Aibu to let ds sleep naked?

(47 Posts)
pyjamaramadrama Fri 04-Apr-14 00:04:53

Not a taat but the other one got me thinking.

Ds 5 has had the same bedtime routine since he was a baby. Bath, brush teeth, story, cuddle and kiss. He gets put to bed properly.

The past year or so he has taken a real dislike to pyjamas. He has loads, cotton, character ones. But he prefers to sleep with nothing on or just boxers.

At a push I can get him to wear just pyjama bottoms.

I prefer to sleep naked myself but it somehow doesn't seem proper for a child. But if he's most comfortable?

LuisSuarezTeeth Fri 04-Apr-14 00:07:21

Can't see a problem with that, as long as he's happy.

Nothing wrong with that if that's what he prefers... it'd be worse to tell him that there was anything 'wrong' with being naked!

Mydelilah Fri 04-Apr-14 00:08:30

Hmmm. I took a strong pyjama stance on the other one, but thinking about it, it's about being comfortable and cosy (and not wearing the same clothes you've had on all day, which is yuk). If au natrel is how he wants to be (my Dnephew, age 10, is the same) then so be it I think. Interesting question though.

AnythingNotEverything Fri 04-Apr-14 00:08:33

I think I would encourage boxers in case of an emergency but pjs aren't compulsory.

If he's comfy and warm enough, let him get on with it.

Weegiemum Fri 04-Apr-14 00:10:20

My ds is a "hot" child (he's 12) and often sleeps in only his boxers, has done for years (it was Postman Pat Pants when it started!!)

He happily puts pjs on in the evening but strips down when he goes to bed. As long as he's sleeping I don't mind obe bit!

(The Iron Man Onsie has challenged this though! Some nights he's wearing that with the window thrown wide!!!)

NoodleOodle Fri 04-Apr-14 00:12:47

Can't see a problem here. Maybe boxers and dressing gown in very easy reach in case of emergencies.

pyjamaramadrama Fri 04-Apr-14 00:13:32

Getting ds to wear clothes in the house in general is a challenge.

When he gets in from school it's uniform straight off, but he wants to sit around in his boxers. I've bought him character onesies, comfy jogging bottoms and T-shirts for lounging in, but he just wants his boxers on.

He will wear his fleecy dressing gown though or prefers a fleecy blanket wrapped around him like a cape.

He dislikes coats and hoody type jackets too, but I do draw the line there if it's cold out.

The boy wants to roam free.

afromom Fri 04-Apr-14 00:32:17

Pyjamaramadrama my DS is exactly the same! He only ever has clothes on in the house when someone come around. He is going camping this weekend and I'm having a real struggle to convince him that he does indeed need to take a onesie with him as it WILL be cold in the night!!!

Theas18 Fri 04-Apr-14 00:39:15

Pants at night ( clean ones) as a minimum - from a practical point of view you will, at some time be visited by threadworms.... And sleep scratching of bums is what spreads them/ keeps a child re infecting if pants/jama bottoms at night is what is worn usually then it's a battle you don't have to have with a grumpy itchy bottomed child!

And some sort if night time bum covering is probably a good habit if you're ever going to visit people that aren't immediate family too...

KristinaM Fri 04-Apr-14 00:44:58

Several of my children are like this and it never occurred to me to worry about it. If the house goes on fire in the night we can grab some clothes from the floor where they usually hang them.

And we've never had threadworms here in more than 20 years of parenting. So we will worry about that if it happens.

I'm sure the nakedness will be urged by adolescence

Menolly Fri 04-Apr-14 00:53:08

I've given up on pyjamas with DD(5), they live on the chair at the end of her bed with her dressing gown, in the theory that if we need to we can grab them while getting her out of bed and get her dressed once she's out the burning house, or more likely I can throw them on her when MIL turns up unannounced early on a Saturday morning.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Fri 04-Apr-14 00:57:20

DS starts every night in PJs, but somewhere between going to bed and getting up he strips off entirely. So yanbu, even if you try and put them in PJs the cheeky little ones will just take them off when you're not looking!

Mintymoomoo Fri 04-Apr-14 07:21:53

My dd now nearly 11 is the same, every night she will just wear knickers or a pair of pj shorts, she has been the same since she was really small, in fact she would rather be naked the whole time, she was forever stripping off as a child and would just wonder about in wellies!

I don't really think it's a problem, she just seems to get hot and uncomfy in bed

chrome100 Fri 04-Apr-14 07:24:21

If the house is on fire surely wearing clothes would be the least of your worries?! I know I would far rather escape alive in the nude than be burned alive trying to pull on my PJs.

DS is another warm-bodied chap. He often sleeps in just boxers or shorts, and has been stripping off in the middle of the night from about 3. I put a top at the end of his bed in case he wants it in the middle of the night but it is rarely used.

I just wish I was that warm- I'm always cold.

Coumarin Fri 04-Apr-14 08:22:14

In contrast to the Other Thread, I think this is fine. So long as he's warm and comfy I can't see a problem with it.

pointythings Fri 04-Apr-14 08:41:34

My DDs have both started sleeping naked in the past year, up until then they couldn't be prised out of PJs/nighties though...

No threadworms in this family either.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Fri 04-Apr-14 08:44:59

Ds always used to strip off, in fact he still does. Dh always sleeps naked, I on the other hand wear more clothes to bed than I do it the day, I resemble a buttoned up Victorian grin

RedFocus Fri 04-Apr-14 08:47:14

My son is 10 and sleeps in just boxers and has done for years. He runs quite hot so pj's would just overheat him which leads to disturbed sleep. Of course if he goes to a sleep over he takes shortie pj's but they rarely get to sleep late anyway so it's not bad.
Being 5 and sleeping naked isn't a problem but when he gets older you may want him to pop a dressing gown on when he leaves his room as that can be embarrassing grin
I used to sleep naked as I run hot at night too but I have to get up a lot in the night to see to my daughter and I'm far to lazy to keep putting a dressing gown on every time so I wear a vest and pj bottoms and kick the covers off. My dh wouldn't dare sleep naked anymore, not since my youngest caught a glimpse of his penis and collapsed on the floor laughing wink

Morloth Fri 04-Apr-14 08:50:31

DH and both DSs sleep in just boxers.

I sleep naked.

Nataleejah Fri 04-Apr-14 08:54:58

My DC sleep naked when its hot or they just feel like it.

Polarn Fri 04-Apr-14 08:55:08

Haha redfocus. Your poor dh!

My 4yr old sleeps naked, has done for about a yr now. Both dh and I sleep naked too.

As pp says, if house burns down we'll just get out naked. We have lots of lovely neighbours who I'm sure would soon clothe us!

pyjamaramadrama Fri 04-Apr-14 09:16:17

Phew glad it's not weird. He does get very hot at night even with a low tog duvet. The upstairs of our house gets very warm even in winter.

I put a pair of pyjamas on the end of his bed every night but he insists he doesn't want them.

If he's staying out I do make him wear at least pyjama bottoms.

hoohah Fri 04-Apr-14 09:25:52

What a relief reading this thread!

12yo ds is another nudist, stripping off as soon as he comes home and quietly shedding clothes throughout the night. What to do when he reaches puberty?

meerschweinchen Fri 04-Apr-14 09:30:36

A relief for me too! My ds strips off all the time at home too. I thought I was the only one who had a child who lived in vest and pants! He will actually wear pyjama bottoms as well at night, so thinking about it, he actually wears more at night than he does in the day...

Any tips on how to get clothes refusniks to keep them on?!

Flexiblefriend Fri 04-Apr-14 09:34:26

DD is 6, and sleeps naked most nights, I hadn't thought of worrying about it. She happily keeps pj's on if she is sleeping anywhere but at home though.

evertonmint Fri 04-Apr-14 09:38:30

DH and I have always slept naked unless it is bitterly cold.

With DS (6) and DD (3) I just make sure clean pyjamas are available and say "put your pyjamas on if you want to". They usually don't, and if they do (which might be just tops or just bottoms) they often get pulled off in the night.

It's fine. We sleep naked so I'm not going to stop them doing it if they want.

We have had threadworms once. I just told them they needed to wear pants to stop their bottoms itching. It was fine, no arguments.

In emergencies I'd rather we were all out naked and alive than worry about any embarrassment or cold. But we do hang dressing gowns on all bedroom doors so very easy to grab.

Preciousbane Fri 04-Apr-14 09:42:52

DS wear pyjamas but is a bit of a being wrapped up hater. Lounges around in shorts and a t.shirt even in the depths of winter when DH and I are sat in two jumpers and its jeffing freezing. He jokes how its because we are soft Southerners and he was born up north.

sam86 Fri 04-Apr-14 11:48:54

My ds is just 17 months but always takes his pjs and sleeping bag off every night for the last six weeks or so.... I re-dress him when I go in to him if he wakes but he's always stripped off again by morning! Anybody else's dc start the stripping off so young?

chocoholic05 Fri 04-Apr-14 12:52:22

Whatabout sleepovers or school residentials when he's abit older?

OneMoreChap Fri 04-Apr-14 12:56:04

Went to a boarding school, and eventually decided at about 12, I think that PJs were stupid (I've always been a hot sleeper).

Bit of a shock for parents when I went home, and they realised I slept nekkid. Y-fronts or a dressing gown handy for nipping to the loo...

NOthing wrong with it at all; may have to explain he needs some sort of togs when staying at mates. Boxers are fine.

pointythings Fri 04-Apr-14 12:58:04

choc my DDs have sleepovers and nights away - they wear PJs or an oversized T-shirt and underwear. It's perfectly possible to teach children how to behave appropriately in different settings.

Menolly Fri 04-Apr-14 13:00:05

chocoholic then you pack pyjamas and explain to him that he has to wear them so other people don't see his bum. That's all mum did with me and my siblings and none of us has ever got naked at a sleepover, camp or residential.

SizzlesSit Fri 04-Apr-14 13:05:14

DS wears pjs but hasnt had a cover since he was 8 months (he's 2.6).

Its hard to go against instinct (making sure they're warm and snuggly) but its the only way he'll sleep.

evertonmint Fri 04-Apr-14 13:23:56

Yep, my 2 know that we want them to wear pyjamas when in other people's homes and do so without fuss. It's a non-issue.

Ilikepancakes Fri 04-Apr-14 15:01:12


Some people just don't like to wear clothes when they sleep.

QuinionsRainbow Fri 04-Apr-14 15:03:15

YANBU. Provided their beds are warm and comfortable, it doesn't really matter what kids wear to sleep in, and birthday suits do have their advantages. DH and I always sleep in the buff, and we had no issues with our DCs following our example once they worked this fact out. Once sleepovers and school trips appeared on the agenda, we did insist on pants/t-shirts or similar as surrogate nightwear. Now that they are effectively autonomous, we don't care any more!

We don't wear pyjamas, and dd has phases where she doesn't either, she's currently "looking forward to summer so I can go to bed without pyjamas". I can remember when I stopped wearing them in late childhood and how happy it made me!

peggyundercrackers Fri 04-Apr-14 15:27:37

when we used to go camping when we were young we all used to run about naked in the field - we didnt give two hoots who seen us - it was their problem not ours, it doesnt bear thinking about now... our DD is too little for us to be worrying about it just now but its interesting seeing the different responses.

HolidayCriminal Fri 04-Apr-14 18:40:36

It spreads worms more easily; we've only had a few bouts & they didn't spread between the kids which I think I put down to pants habits.

LtEveDallas Fri 04-Apr-14 18:43:30

DD sleeps most nights naked and is currently in her pants on the sofa. Whereas I'm freezing with a fleece on. Oh to have her metabolism.

Ploppy16 Fri 04-Apr-14 19:11:27

DS and Dd1 are both clothes shedders, DS sleeps nude and Dd in her undies. DS is a strange one thoug, complains that pj's make him too hot but every night without fail he opens his window and burrows down under his quilt like a mole. He has to be totally covered up from head to toe 'because it's nice and warm'... What's that about?? confused

Needadvice5 Fri 04-Apr-14 19:16:17

No pyjamas on my ds, boxer shorts are the way forward apparently.

Me and dp sleep naked , always have done.

dd wears shorty pyjamas.

No thread worms either!!

Sharaluck Sat 05-Apr-14 00:33:35


Just wash his sheets more regularly. I remember reading something about traces of poo on sheets of naked sleepers. I assume that would probably be more common in children as well.

dd (9) is exactly like this, she starts her sleep session in pjs but they disappear throughout the night, whether the weather is hot or not...

SunnySon Sat 05-Apr-14 06:08:39

Sleeping in boxers/ cotton shorts or pj bottoms is fine, I think most kids, especially boys do this. I'd prefer some kind of bum covering to being naked but that's just a personal thing, wouldn't judge or think twice about someone else's kids sleeping au naturale. Not in the same league at all as the other sleeping thread- that was rank. Also kids will know when they go to sleepovers etc that they've to change their sleeping attire if they're nudie sleepers, no problems.

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