Not to manicure my nails?

(65 Posts)

I'm in a professional job, wear makeup and decent clothes to work, but I find beauty stuff all a bit of a drag and tend to do the minimum I can get away with. Recently my DH commented that I should "treat myself to a manicure" and I realised that I am probably not getting away with my unevenly trimmed unvarnished nails as well as I thought I was. However, for me, "manicure" and "treat" do not belong in the same sentence.

AIBU to just trim my nails? Or if not, to file them myself into something that resembles a symmetrical shape and then varnish them with clear polish? Or do I need to do more in order to not look like a messy weirdo? If you hate spending time on beauty treatments, what do you do with your nails? Basically, what is the minimum I can do and get away with?

2whippetsnobed Thu 27-Mar-14 07:09:51

I think the minimum is neat and clean.

My nails are clean, trimmed and filed so there aren't any jagged bits.

PostHocErgoPropterHoc Thu 27-Mar-14 07:12:45

Does he honestly think it would be a treat? If so I'd take the opportunity to re-educate him. if he's being snarky about the state of your nails then tell him to sod off. You go one step further than me with the clear nail polish. I'm sure your nails are perfectly neat and professional.

MrsKCastle Thu 27-Mar-14 07:14:33

In what possible world could what you do with your nails matter to anyone else? Bloody hell, why are you giving this even moment's thought?

KiwiBanana Thu 27-Mar-14 07:19:11

Neat and clean sounds fine to me!

HairyGrotter Thu 27-Mar-14 07:19:15

Fuck that shit.

If they are clean, and not long and yellow, where's the issue?

I don't do the whole beauty regime thing, I had a manicure once, in 2001, was horrible and the nails got in the way.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Thu 27-Mar-14 07:20:08

I think the minimum is sensible length (which could be short, but I think they need to be more or less equal to each other), neat edges and clean. I think that applies to men and women. I don't think clear varnish is required. As an alternative, you could use a nail buffer, that would make them look smoother and shinier and it won't peel/chip off like varnish so I think it's worth the extra effort at the outset.

Delphiniumsblue Thu 27-Mar-14 07:21:35

I have never bothered, it is too boring. Ignore. Clean and trimmed is fine. Men in professional jobs don't give their nails a thought.

Thanks, all. They aren't varnished at all. They are clean and not yellow - however they are not neat. Anyway a picture is worth a thousand words...

And a close up so you can see they're really pretty ragged....

TestingTestingWonTooFree Thu 27-Mar-14 07:23:28

In what way are they not neat? Photo's only little but looks ok to me.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Thu 27-Mar-14 07:23:49

No close up?

soundedbetterinmyhead Thu 27-Mar-14 07:24:05

What Dephinums said. Life's a bit short - I would put a manicure on a par with going to the dentist for 'treat' value.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Thu 27-Mar-14 07:24:27

Now I see it. Sort out the raggedness, but that's all.

Soundedbetter, going for a manicure is worse than the dentist I think - at least you don't have to make small talk with the dentist!

Ok I will sort the raggedness and leave it. Which are better - nail clippers or a file?

MusicalEndorphins Thu 27-Mar-14 07:28:29

Why not book you both in for his and hers manicures and pedicures?
I think if your nails are neat and clean, that is enough, but no harm in trying a professional manicure just to see what you think. Look at these beautiful nails. If you like it, maybe show it to a manicurist and tell her you want your nails to look natural.
imabeautygeek.com/2013/09/23/mani-monday-what-nails-look-like-after-years-of-uv-gel-manicures/#axzz2x94e1Gd3
If you do go, let us know what you think afterwards!

Dilidali Thu 27-Mar-14 07:33:56

I would either cut them shorter or apply some nail varnish,OP. As they are, they look like you haven't got round cutting them yet. Equally, if it doesn't bother you, they're absolutely fine.
I can't stand nailvarnish on fingernails, so for me it is cut short, file (I use a glass file), buff, cuticle oil, hand cream. I have a mavala cuticle pen, it's got it's own oil, takes 2 seconds.

PostHocErgoPropterHoc Thu 27-Mar-14 07:43:53

I'd say nail clippers are fine to keep them short, that's what I'd expect men to do after all. If you want them as long as that then file them to take the edges off.

KiwiBanana Thu 27-Mar-14 07:51:55

I'd just cut them short and make sure you keep on top of it.

Pigletin Thu 27-Mar-14 07:53:58

OP they do look a bit ragged. You don't need to treat yourself to a manicure but you might want to at least file them or cut them shorter. Sorry, they don't look so "neat and tidy" in the second photo.

CoffeeTea103 Thu 27-Mar-14 07:57:13

I think a trim, file, buff and clear Polish is quick and easy to maintain.

Now cut short - I just have to remember to keep doing it. Thanks, all.

Lottapianos Thu 27-Mar-14 07:59:26

YANBU at all, and this is from someone whose nails are her pride and joy and does her own manicure every week. Short, clean and tidy is absolutely fine. I use nail clippers and then file any jagged bits. Use hand cream at least twice a day. Clear polish if you can be bothered

do you use handcream?

SissySpacekAteMyHamster Thu 27-Mar-14 08:03:02

I quite regularly get manicures, but I don't get false nails, they are cut/filed quite short, as I get the gellish type of finish, so they last longer and don't chip so easily.

I used to just file mine once a week and use a buffer on them, and they looked great then. I made it a habit, and it didn't take long, used to do it whilst watching telly on a Friday night.

GreenLandsOfHome Thu 27-Mar-14 08:08:24

Buy a nail whitener pencil. It's like a white eyeliner, you dip it in water and run it under your nails. It makes a huge difference to them looking more manicured and takes 2 minutes.

I do this every couple of days, and file and clear polish. It's a natural white tip without the horrible square sparkling white tip, which I think looks awful.

CrabbySpringyBottom Thu 27-Mar-14 08:22:49

I can't bear the sensation of jagged nails (always carry an emery board for that reason) so your nails would drive me absolutely insane - does it not bother you when they scrape your skin or catch on clothes?

Long/short, varnished/unvarnished: totally up to you and doesn't matter either way. But clean and smooth is important, I think. Is it possible that your DH suggested a manicure because the sensation of being touched by jagged nails bothers him?

Emery boards (much better than metal nail files) are cheap as chips and it'll take you less than 5 mins to file them perfectly smooth.
fashion.telegraph.co.uk/beauty/news-features/TMG4795259/Back-to-basics-how-to-file-your-nails.html

almondcake Thu 27-Mar-14 08:34:40

There is nothing wrong with your nails. Life is too short.

If you don't like the feel of the ends, trim them with nail clippers. Otherwise, leave them as they are.

I assume a lot of this is what people are brought up to think is 'normal.'

I don't even know what buffing your nails means, much less notice if somebody else has done it or not.

I've never had anybody suggest I looked unkempt etc, and my mum looks great at 70, having never gone in for this kind of stuff.

Travail, no. My mother told me recently I have the hands of someone who does hard manual labour - however I work in an office. I think I need to take a bit more care over my hands in general. I will get one of those whitener pens I think. And yes it's the concern over looking unkempt that bothers me. I don't have to look pretty but I don't want to look half mad!

samandi Thu 27-Mar-14 08:51:23

Of course you don't need to manicure them confused How odd that your DP would comment on that, I doubt mine even notices my nails! :-)

samandi Thu 27-Mar-14 08:52:15

They would look better clean and neatly trimmed though - that applies to men and women!

samandi Thu 27-Mar-14 08:54:15

I cut my nails neatly, probably about once a week. Nail varnish only comes out for VERY special occasions. I don't own an emery board either.

Trills Thu 27-Mar-14 08:54:44

I wouldn't blame him for calling it a treat - we've all seen advertising or heard other women talk about "pampering".

Some people find this kind of thing enjoyable. Others don't.

TheBigBumTheory Thu 27-Mar-14 09:00:45

I cut mine if they are getting long or if they break and have a sharp edge. I don't do anything with my cuticles, and not sure exactly what they are...nail varnish feels horrid to me, like a tightness on your fingers.

Bunbaker Thu 27-Mar-14 09:06:37

A ragged nail would annoy the hell out of me. Why do you leave them ragged. Don't they snag on clothes?

No obviously they don't bother me, bunbaker, otherwise I would notice them.

I've never been for a manicure in my life and don't generally do pampering. However I do feel more groomed with short. neat nails and a pale nail varnish and it only takes 10 mins if you use a very natural colour and fast drying topcoat. I keep my basecoat, topcoat and neutral colour in the fridge (stops them going gloopy plus the kitchen table is the easiest place to do it). Get ready for bed, 10 mins of nail polishing, into bed, read for 10 mins while they dry, job done.

Contraryish Thu 27-Mar-14 09:21:15

I had my nails done four weeks and two days ago with Biosculpture, but there are other similar products, I believe. It took less than an hour, including soaking off the old ones. Since then, I have had to do absolutely nothing to them and they still look great (light colour, so the regrowth doesn't show). I've decided this is the ultimate lazy option and takes much less time than any buffing, filing, clipping, polishing, etc. as they are literally no maintenance.

BumPotato Thu 27-Mar-14 09:24:28

I wish I had your nails.

Buffing your own nails makes them shiny without the need for polish. I like that look. Buffers usually have a file bit too. That would sort out any rough edges. Only if you wanted to. Would take under a minute once or twice a week.

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 09:24:54

i dont get the whole beauty as a treat thing go for a facial no it is gloopy, what about a mani pedi urgh no they will be touching my feet, oh a spa day i can sit in my dressing gown at home ta very much grin it really isn't for me

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 09:26:03

I cant stand nailvarnish on my my nails and the filing gives me the creeps

Buffing wrecked mine, I will never do it again. I think I probably overdid it, because the shiny effect never lasted more than a couple of handwashes.

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 09:29:11

MY dd buffs files and polishes every week i watch in awe and the patience she has for it

Ludways Thu 27-Mar-14 09:33:42

I love my nice long varnished nails and even to me having a manicure isn't a treat, I do it myself quickly so I can go back to whatever I was doing!

Tidy and clean is enough.

A quick question: as I day I love my nails and usually have them fairly long and painted. However, I don't wear make up and I don't do my hair, would you think I look odd? I often wonder but obviously don't care enough to do anything about it, lol

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 09:35:48

do you brush your hair i assume you do i f you look like you fell out of a hedge but have nice nails id think you were bonkers grin

ArsePaste Thu 27-Mar-14 09:36:23

Myabe he just genuinely thought that women think manicures ARE a treat, and was trying to be nice? Many women do think they are, after all. Manicured nails aren't compulsory, however, but having ragged ones is a bit bogging, especially as it's the work of seconds to fix!

Ludways Thu 27-Mar-14 09:45:50

Mrsjay, I pride myself on bonkers! I do sort of brush it, it's curly but goes frizzy if I brush too much. Lol

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 09:47:16

I am sure your nails look fabulous ludways If i see somebody with nice nails i always admire them it distracts from the hair it is fine

Bunbaker Thu 27-Mar-14 09:49:36

I don't "do" manicures either. My nails are my own - no gels/sticks on etc, but I always keep them neat and tidy.

I'm sorry, but ragged nails are not a good look. They look unkempt and send the wrong message.

RedFocus Thu 27-Mar-14 09:55:27

Clean, trimmed, filed with the cuticles cut back is perfectly fine. Add a little clear polish to protect.
Lots of people enjoy getting their nails done and I am one of them, every week without fail. wink

almondcake Thu 27-Mar-14 09:58:06

This thread makes as much sense to me as if the op had asked, AIBU to not get a gerbil when I don't one but dh said it would be a treat. Followed by umpteen gerbil owners describing their ten minute a night/once a month gerbil care routine. She still doesn't want a gerbil.

Mouthfulofquiz Thu 27-Mar-14 09:58:22

I always notice when nails aren't the same length or jagged - takes two minutes to do the minimum so you might as well! Get one of those four sided buffers from the supermarket - takes no time and makes your nails nice if you can't be arsed to put polish on :-)

mrsjay Thu 27-Mar-14 10:21:08

<looks down at nails as i type> MEH i dont know what a buffer is meant to do

Ok I went and got all the stuff and have clipped, filed (not really sure how to file but filed anyway), used a white pencil thingy and painted clear. Socially acceptable now? I will need to set a reminder on my phone for this or something!

TheTerribleBaroness Thu 27-Mar-14 12:44:54

They look much tidier! smile

CrabbySpringyBottom Thu 27-Mar-14 13:02:02

They look great, but you don't have to use varnish/pencil if you don't want to - as long as they're filed they'll still look fine.

I posted a link for you above on how to file them.

Thanks, Terrible and Crabby! And to everyone else who commented. Sorry for the most boring thread topic ever but it's been very helpful to me.

Pigletin Thu 27-Mar-14 13:25:36

They look great now - clean and tidy. Now you should ask your DH for the £35 you supposedly spent at the nail salon ;)

Dilidali Thu 27-Mar-14 13:38:15

What do you think OP? I think they look much tidier smile
It's one of those things that you need to find a time for. I do mine on a Sunday morning because they're all asleep and I just sit with a cup of coffee and listen to the radio and think of the week ahead. Maybe if you watch a certain program every week, once a week, you can bring your nail stuff bag in the living and do them while you're watching?

moomin35 Thu 27-Mar-14 14:47:13

This is such a sweet thread! I think they look fab NotJustACigar and loads better than before. It just makes you look tidy and presentable :-) Im with you I would never spend out on a manicure (Unless for a very special occasion) as I always feel its so expensive and I cant justify it but I think its important (workwise, and for your OH) to generally have tidy, filed and polished nails and clear is great because it can chip and it wont show for a while :-) x

MusicalEndorphins Fri 28-Mar-14 06:30:57

You did a great job. smile

Well done and not boring at all, you inspired me to get the polish out last night too, having not done it much recently smile

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 28-Mar-14 07:46:26

After a lifetime of nail-biting I finally gave up last year and booked a manicure at Christmas as a kind of personal reward. I thought it was lovely and I came out of it with neat, well-conditioned nails and hands (no talons here). Have since developed a bit of an expensive addiction to nail polish but that's a side issue!

fatlazymummy Fri 28-Mar-14 10:05:07

I just trim mine with nail clippers ,use hand cream and cuticle oil and buff them. Having short nails and not bothering with nail varnish and manicures feels kind of 'freeing', like wearing flat shoes instead of high heels.

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