At husband and his clothes fetish

(69 Posts)
dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 14:43:38

Ok, don't get excited - it's not about rubber mankinis or such. But, we are moving soon to a smaller house with less storage and I'm trying to get rid as much stuff as I can. I think husband has far too many clothes, he complains as it is that he feels hard done by at what he sees as his lack of wardrobe space or drawers. So did a quick inventory and

26 pairs sports socks
25 pairs work socks
27 pairs pants
37 t shirts
8 smart jumpers
9 hoodies
10 jackets
35 work shirts
6 dress shrts
7 suits
17 sports tops
15 sports shorts
10 Football jerseys
20 pairs trainers

This is a conservative list and not included works shoes, boots, jeans, shorts etc.

AIBU I wrong to think this is excessive?

Have you counted your stuff?

I personally think that's far too many clothes but then I only have three pairs of well fitting jeans (I have some terribly fitting ones that I use for decorating / gardening etc). I don't think I can comment because I don't think I have enough clothes (but only because I want to buy more!!!)

MaidOfStars Wed 12-Mar-14 14:48:22

As the owner of 26 bras and 52 pairs of pants, that doesn't seem too excessive.

Apart from the trainers. Nobody needs 20 pairs of trainers.

Scuttlebug Wed 12-Mar-14 14:49:44

Boring, only came on thread to see if was about rubber mankinis!

Seems like a lot of clothes, stop shopping.

How did I miss 20 pairs of trainers?! I don't own one pair!!

Thisvehicleisreversing Wed 12-Mar-14 14:55:39

DH owns:

2 pairs jeans (1 smart, 1 every day)
1 pair tracksuit bottoms (decent ones)
4 polo shirts
2 sports tops
1 plain Tshirt
1 hoodie
1 coat
1 pair shorts
1 smart white shirt
1 smart grey shirt
Suit bottoms
1 pair trainers
1 pair smart shoes
1 pair football boots

He doesn't think he needs anymore clothes grin

KittensoftPuppydog Wed 12-Mar-14 14:56:03

Sounds like my dh, but then he is a big girl's blouse.

OOAOML Wed 12-Mar-14 14:58:04

52 pairs of pants - why, are you planning to go on holiday for two months??

Sid77 Wed 12-Mar-14 15:06:47

Honestly, that's more than DH and me combined. Wow. 35 work shirts? Wow.

dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 15:09:09

True, I perhaps need to count my clothes. Least I'm chucking stuff out. He brought a t shirt to the pile, looked at it with pain in his eyes then took it back again!

CinnabarRed Wed 12-Mar-14 15:11:19

52 pairs of pants - why, are you planning to go on holiday for two months??

Or one for each week of the year!

OOAOML Wed 12-Mar-14 15:18:51

Annual pant wash day!

AdoraBell Wed 12-Mar-14 15:19:59

Is he like my DH, feels the need To have lot's of clothes because his parents didn't have money for buying new clothes for all of them? Did he have hand-me-downs, or if he's the eledest, clothes 2 sizes too big for him To grow into?

I don't look in my DH's warbrode it's a scary place but I would hazard a guess that he has moré than your DH because he almost never gets rid of anything and every gap is filled.

In fact, we're trying To sell and viewers and EA's all comment on the "his and his" wardrobe. It's walk-in and open plan so he can't hide the amount of space he takes up.grin

SinglePringle Wed 12-Mar-14 15:25:15

I can't comment as I have over 200 pairs of shoes and about 60 bra and knickers sets (each bra has 2 pairs of knickers). And my jeans probably count into the 50's...

dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 15:56:15

Actually, he was quite poor growing up. Maybe there's something to that. He's more of a luxury spender than me.

GilmoursPillow Wed 12-Mar-14 15:58:18

Bloody hell, that's a lot of clothes and shoes shock LOL!

YANBU I struggle to get my DP to buy clothes! He didn't even buy a coat all winter!! shock

NoodleOodle Wed 12-Mar-14 16:26:40

If his clothes habit is not causing you any financial difficulties YABU to complain. My DP and I don't have that many clothes combined, no where near but, if he likes owning clothes, where's the harm?

WowOoo Wed 12-Mar-14 16:33:14

He's got a lot compared with my Dh.

I can't understand why he'd need 35 work shirts. Dh has 8.
We did have a cull and anything he hadn't worn for 3 months he got rid of or put in a storage bag in the spare room.

AdoraBell Wed 12-Mar-14 16:33:52

Dancing I think there is, at least for my DH and me. Neither family had much and whereas he needs To possess many nice things I tend To think

"hmm, do I really need moré than 2 pairs of jeans?"

I do have a thing for nice bras though, which I hand wash To make them last a looooooong time, so that I can justify the expense in my head.

mumminio Wed 12-Mar-14 16:39:31

How often does the washing get done?! Joking aside...could you fit more in the cupboards if the space is well organized, making use of every nook and cranny? Perhaps that could be a DIY job for him smile

If you really want to dump the extra clothes, try making note of which clothes he wears most often. I bet 80% of it barely gets used. Put the least used clothes in a box in the garage for a few months. If he doesn't open it after a year, he might realize he actually doesn't need it after all. But in the mean time, he knows that it's there if he needs it.

TheWomanWithTheMysteriousLump Wed 12-Mar-14 16:47:48

I've probably got the equivalent of that many clothes, and I'd be livid if my DH tried to make me ditch them. He's a grown adult, not a hording three year old. Unless some of them have holes in, dont' fit, or are terribly stained then let him lie - but finding a storage solution is his problem.

TheWomanWithTheMysteriousLump Wed 12-Mar-14 16:48:13

- oops "hoarding"

dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 17:58:04

He can afford them and they are all good condition, good quality stuff. It's the storage and the fact he's already complaining at the moment when we are in a mahooosive house - how he thinks they will fit not a smaller house - I've no idea! He already uses 2 doubles and a single wardrobe and a big chest of drawers.

Just wanted to know if anyone else's husband had this amount of clothes.

TheWomanWithTheMysteriousLump Wed 12-Mar-14 18:07:22

Does the new house have an attic? New bed with storage drawers? Vacuum packs can be v useful for out of season clothes. But basically, his collection, he should find the solution.

Preciousbane Wed 12-Mar-14 19:07:05

That is an amazing amount of clothing. I have never counted DH but it is so small here is a guesstimate

4 work suits
1 DJ
8 to 10 work shirts
25 t.shirts but this includes gig t.shirts that are 30 years old
5 jumpers
Lots of ties, probably 50
2 pairs of jeans
5 fleeces
3 casual shirts
1 hideous football manager style coat
1 goretex walking jacket thing
1 posh coat, cashmere that cost a fortune
Set of cricket whites
2 pairs of trainers
3 pairs of work shoes
1 pair of casual shoes
2 pairs of walking boots
2 pairs of sandals

Not a clue on socks and pants but one draw full each.

I have far less clothes than your DH, one double wardrobe with two draws underneath and then a large suitcase.

dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 19:09:36

Oh yes, he has two fshmancy cashmere coats too and two formal/ dinner type outfits.

magicalmrmistoffelees Wed 12-Mar-14 19:28:25

Argh this sounds like my DH, so I can sympathise! He refuses to throw any items of clothing away unless they are damaged beyond repair, even if he hasn't worn it for years. He owns far more clothes than I do.

magicalmrmistoffelees Wed 12-Mar-14 19:30:26

PS he has 52 work shirts...

RhondaJean Wed 12-Mar-14 19:31:55

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Bogeyface Wed 12-Mar-14 19:35:56

I didnt ask H the last time we had a clear out, I just did it. He hasnt mentioned that half of his t shirt collection has disappeared, so presumably he hasnt noticed.

35 work shirts is a ridiculous amount.

I would be inclined to say "Look, we have X space and I expect to use 50% of that. I dont care what you do with your clothes, but I am going to be using my 50% for my stuff, you will need to make alternative arrangements for yours" And STICK TO IT.

Once he realises that half of his stuff is up in the loft he may well change his tune. If it is good quality and good labels then he may be able to flog them on ebay.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Wed 12-Mar-14 19:46:12

No, nothing like that amount.

Does he wear them all?

Preciousbane Wed 12-Mar-14 19:50:03

My appalling sentence structure looks like I was counting husbands!
A sock club, good grief, DH socks cost a fortune as he has size 14 feet.

Does the sock club have a web page?

dancingnancy Wed 12-Mar-14 19:51:13

Couldn't just throw stuff out, he pays a fortune for it and is very much in control of his wardrobe unlike my BIL, where my sister does all his shopping and he doesn't care what he wears.

He probably needs more wardrobe space than me though as he has a big works wardrobe.

And we won't have a loft. Don't even have any wardrobes yet just one rail in a cupboard, farkin hell!

Bogeyface Wed 12-Mar-14 19:55:14

HE doesnt need more wardrobe space, he wants it, there is a difference. He can only wear 5 suits and 5 shirts a week so if you are feeling generous, allow him space for that and then the rest is 50/50 and you must stick to it as otherwise, there is no incentive for change.

He is being very selfish and frankly 2 double and 1 single wardrobes for one person in a small house is bloody ridiculous. That enough for 2 adults and a child!

Orangeanddemons Wed 12-Mar-14 20:13:23

I have 2 double wardrobes, a single, all with drawers underneath, and a very large chest of drawers. Crammed to bursting blush

Underneath my bed are about 60 pairs of shoes blushblush

I think he doesn't have much tbh grin

Also, have just remembered hooks in hall crammed with my coats too

RhondaJean Wed 12-Mar-14 20:45:21

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RhondaJean Wed 12-Mar-14 20:52:09

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justmyview Wed 12-Mar-14 21:11:31

A sock club? Ha ha that's funny. What a hoot !

mymiraclebubba Wed 12-Mar-14 21:14:50

haha my dp has masses more clothes than me! and shoes for that matter....must shop more!

EatShitDerek Wed 12-Mar-14 21:18:07

I could.easily have as much. I have clothes and shoes that are 10 years old. I don't grow you see

EatShitDerek Wed 12-Mar-14 21:19:10

I could.easily have as much. I have clothes and shoes that are 10 years old. I don't grow you see

bakewelltartandcustard Wed 12-Mar-14 21:24:42

Throughout our marriage my ex and I shared one single wardrobe and a chest of drawers.
Clothes were not a priority while we struggled to pay the mortgage and bills. dancing's dp has more money than sense.

NearTheWindymill Wed 12-Mar-14 21:24:55

We have just moved house after 20 years in the same one. I made DH throw out all but three of the frayed gardening shirts, all pants and socks with holes in, trousers with holes in and his old leather jacket bought by his previous girlfriend that was well passed its sell by date. This means he doesn't have much casual stuff left sad. He does have two double wardrobes and a chest of drawers though. And he has about 8 pairs of pants open and about 12 in the packets but he won't get out a new pair until he throws away an old pair - same with socks - drives me mad

20 pairs of trainers shock. My DH has three pairs of work shoes, one pair of brown brogues, one pair of deck shoes, one pair of espadrilles, one pair of slippers, one pair of walking boots.

My DH didn't have much growing up - it has just made him make things last.

Joysmum Wed 12-Mar-14 21:28:28

I have one rail of clothes, DH has 3. He likes clithes, I like books.

Plateofcrumbs Wed 12-Mar-14 21:28:39

Yeah sounds like my DH!

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Wed 12-Mar-14 21:37:17

Jesus.

Here the kit list of a man who works with grease all week:

20 pairs socks
10 pairs of pants
6 tshirts
4 polo shirts.
4 pairs chinos
4 pairs work trousers
3 coloured shirts.
3 white office shirts
1 blue standard cut suit
1 cream jacket
1 linen mix loose cut suit, suitable for heavy drinking in good company.
1 pair shoes
1 pair work boots
2 pairs of trainers.
Some ties, usually worn when the guest of honour is being carried.

DoJo Wed 12-Mar-14 21:39:15

He is being very selfish and frankly 2 double and 1 single wardrobes for one person in a small house is bloody ridiculous. That enough for 2 adults and a child!

If you go by our family, that's enough for 5 adults and a child - husband and I share a small-ish wardrobe and have a mid-sized chest of drawers each while son just has a chest of drawers. Can't imagine finding that many clothes I even liked...

Bogeyface Wed 12-Mar-14 21:47:41

Dojo actually same here, but I was being generous!

Preciousbane Wed 12-Mar-14 22:26:28

Rhonda
The sock fetish council I was very much shock looks like a laugh though.

joydivisionovengloves Thu 13-Mar-14 08:30:22

RhondaJean my DP is a British Sock Fetish Council member too. I went to the Southern meeting and it was actually a really good night! I enjoyed the looks on the local's faces when they saw the sign that said "reserved for Sock Club" on the function room doors. Guessing the bobble hats you refer to are the Casual Connoiseur weirs? I have two and DP is green with envy. They always sell out in seconds.

WhoDaresWins Thu 13-Mar-14 08:40:15

I think it's a ludicrous amount. 37 t shirts!!! Why does anyone need 37 t shirts?

Gunznroses Thu 13-Mar-14 08:48:53

How can a grown man just have 1 work shirt? Surely you need at least 1 for each working day of the week. I'm beginning to understand now all these men in the office with awful body odour!

jemjelly Thu 13-Mar-14 09:13:20

Would he agree to keeping some of it in vacuum storage bags, I do that's with my winter clothes in the summer, they shrink down to nothing and it protects them too. Surely he can't be wearing it all all the time.

dancingnancy Thu 13-Mar-14 09:36:14

If we vacuum storage he will just buy more stuff. He just loves shopping. He was even excited at taking our 11 yr old shopping yesterday on his own and had a ball. Was really surprised when they came home with just what we had discussed he needed. Probably need to go and check the boot of his car for hidden purchases!

thebestnameshavegone Thu 13-Mar-14 11:26:18

i'm another one with a socks and shirts loving dh. he has 2 drawers full of socks. I counted the shirts in his wardrobe last night - 38 of them and that's before you count the ones in the laundry basket and the ironing mountain pile. and he's currently abroad on business so has at least 4 with him. <bangs head on desk>

Could you do that thing where you turn around all the hangers and see what's been worn? Then you can show him he has stuff he hasn't worn for ages.

My dh has more clothes than me but neither of us have many, he just has work stuff on top of what is our normal stuff

RhondaJean Thu 13-Mar-14 19:27:08

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TheWomanWithTheMysteriousLump Thu 13-Mar-14 19:31:13

Shining carpet socks!!!!!!!! Where? I gots to know!

I am clearly the lone voice of Team DH here. I think I need to go round to S&B and ask "How would you feel if your DH posted this about you?" in order to acquire a posse with flaming pitchforks.

joydivisionovengloves Fri 14-Mar-14 19:24:55

I've got the Shining hat! I love it even though it's clearly hideous! CasualCo are releasing socks in the same pattern soon! I want the British Rail carpet hat that's out soon. I am sad.

voscar Fri 14-Mar-14 20:21:52

That's pretty similar to my DH to be honest. And me actually. We've both got a triple built in wardrobe (so deeper/bigger than a stand alone one) that has double hanging the whole length. The equivalent of 3 double wardrobes each I think.

Then a chest of drawers that we share, and four big drawers under the bed.

Sounds horrendous typed out like that but we both struggle with weight so have slim, normal and a bit chubby in the wardrobes.

dancingnancy Fri 14-Mar-14 20:34:05

Well dearie me, had words yesterday and husband got a bit snappy and defensive telling me to back off. Got home tonight and therein the charity pile were 8 t shirts, 3 work shirts and two jumpers - one a brand new looking Hugo Boss jobby. Feeling a bit guilty!

c4ss3y Fri 14-Mar-14 22:11:14

I have significantly more. s long as there's some storage for it it's fine. but if there's not then either cut back or he can buy an extra wardrobe or 2!

joydivisionovengloves Sat 15-Mar-14 10:16:36

The socks based on the carpet from the shining are available now from Sockaholics online I'm reliably informed!

Lovecat Sat 15-Mar-14 10:29:55

DH finds it impossible to chuck stuff too. He keeps his shirts in the spare room and a quick look has found 25 of them. Apparently this is ok because he doesn't wear 15 of them... so why not chuck them, I ask? I haven't had an actual response to that one... he also has about 15 polo shirts that he never wears and 10 rugby shirts, of which 2 get worn in rotation. Don't start me on socks and boxers!

I suspect it's because he does all his own washing and keeps a 3-4 week stash so that he doesn't have to do it too often.

ForalltheSaints Sat 15-Mar-14 12:52:51

Seven suits is not excessive and neither are 35 work shirts in my opinion, but some of the others are.

Bogeyface Sat 15-Mar-14 16:57:03

You dont think that 7 weeks worth of shirts without needing to do a wash is not excessive?!

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