To be not too pleased by this comment?

(123 Posts)
MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 16:24:46

Just met some new neighbours today. My 5yo dd was very excited and chattering away like mad to them.

"Glad mine isn't the only one with verbal diahorrea."

Wasn't said in a nasty way, but didnt come off jokey, either. I didn't really like the comment. I mean, dd is a chatterbox; she does talk a lot but I prefer to say that as opposed to the verbal diahorrea thing. I would prefer to hear that from perfect strangers, too.

I guess the neighbour could have been nervous and/or it just popped out ...

Anyway, AIBU?

It wouldn't occur to me to be offended by that, I don't think.

StarGazeyPond Sat 08-Mar-14 16:26:24

Yes, YABU. It is only a jokey saying.

Joules68 Sat 08-Mar-14 16:26:25

You can't expect people to speak in the way you personally 'prefer'!! Yabu

NickNacks Sat 08-Mar-14 16:26:47

Or perhaps it's true and just a saying and you're being a bit precious?

EatShitDerek Sat 08-Mar-14 16:26:49

I'd have laughed tbh

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:09

I think you are over-reacting to a new neighbour trying to make friendly conversation. Most people would take it as a light hearted, jokey comment.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:24

I can be oversensitive. That's why I'm checking here smile

RevoltingPeasant Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:25

Oh probably just something they say about their own DC and it popped out without thinking. I can see why you wouldn't like it, but it was likely not intended to be rude.

shakinstevenslovechild Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:28

I wouldn't be offended by that, it's just another phrase for chatterbox, not an insult.

Driveway Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:43

Really... You are being a bit over sensitive.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:50

Thanks everyone, I'll forget about it smile

WorraLiberty Sat 08-Mar-14 16:27:51

Blimey I couldn't be offended at that even if I was paid to be

Nocomet Sat 08-Mar-14 16:30:05

YABU I've been guilty of verbal un-spellable-ness all my life.

I'd waste a lot of energy if I was offended when people comment.

Impatientismymiddlename Sat 08-Mar-14 16:30:44

I use the phrase verbal diarrhoea all the time. My youngest one is often overcome by a severe case of it. Fortunately it isn't contagious like other forms of diarrohea grin.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 16:31:34

i wouldnt like it ethier, and im not pfb.. much.. you can gladly tell my children off.

i wouldnt say it.. becasue it is like an insult.. to h er it is important.. theres nicer ways of saying it.
also dont like calling thier children gits or little shit even when you can hear the tone is loving... :/ to me their the same.

that said i wouldnt hold it agasnt them, keep being friendly, maybe they where just keen to be friendly and reached the over familer barrier to soon.

VoyageDeVerity Sat 08-Mar-14 16:37:19

I think it's a rather crude saying and they must be pretty blunt kind of people. But it's not malicious, no.

Both mine are non stop talkers, the older they get the more they talk!

I take it as a compliment as they are confident and polite and are happy to talk the hind legs off a donkey. Much better to be like this than shy and clam up I think grin

diddl Sat 08-Mar-14 16:39:45

I think that it's a horrible phrase tbh.
Sounds more of an insult to me-ie a load of crap is coming out.

If it wasn't meant nastily then that's something, but I'd be wondering how friendly I'd want to be with someone who said that about a child!

Impatientismymiddlename Sat 08-Mar-14 16:40:38

also dont like calling thier children gits or little shit even when you can hear the tone is loving... :/ to me their the same.

It isn't even similar. Verbal diarrhoea is just a way of saying that someone talks a lot of non important nonsense, it's a comment about the persons behaviour. Calling somebody a little shit or a git is a personal insult about the actual person rather than about a specific behavioural trait.
You ARE a little shit
You HAVE verbal diarrhoea.

2 very different things.

midnightagents Sat 08-Mar-14 16:43:21

Teachers always used to say that when i was in primary school in the 90's, it was meant in a lighthearted way. Echo everyone saying dont be offended by it.

BillyBanter Sat 08-Mar-14 16:43:57

I wouldn't take any offence by it.

fideline Sat 08-Mar-14 16:45:55

Yab quite impressively U

I think that you would have to be a bit over sensitive to be offended by it, tbh

mummy1973 Sat 08-Mar-14 17:14:14

I personally don't like that expression (queasy) but yabu as it isn't usually meant to offend.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 17:36:04

put a different tone on it and yes it can be ofensive.. your basicvally saying you talk shit, your stupied.. to me any way.. thats why i class them both the same.

but i also register that it can be light hearted.. but one that is normally said between friends, not some one you just meet.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 17:37:44

and i think thats what i dont like about it the most.. the sense of being over familer on the first meeting..

Coffeethrowtrampbitch Sat 08-Mar-14 17:40:55

Offensive. But then lots of people think it's OK to talk to children like shit.

At least you know not to waste any more time welcoming them to the neighbourhood.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 17:45:27

WanderingSoul and didl have said very well how I feel about the term and why I felt weird about what my new neighbour said.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 17:48:20

Whoops wondering

Coffee, yes, it'll be a passing 'hello' from me from now on. Friendly, but not friends. I will however, not dwell on what was supposed to be a small-talk comment (I think. I still don't like it, though.)

It's a jokey quote, I really would not be offended by that.
Don't most 5yo's chatter away for britain, I know mine does!

LaGuardia Sat 08-Mar-14 17:52:11

If your new neighbour MNs, then you have just made an enemy anyway confused

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 17:54:29

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

natwebb79 Sat 08-Mar-14 17:59:56

Bloody hell, you've actually judged them based on one light-hearted non-offensive (really!) widely used term?! Think they're probably better off making friends with less uptight neighbours...

Thetallesttower Sat 08-Mar-14 18:01:34

It was a jokey, trying to bond type of remark. Obviously it failed, not sure this will count as a loss to them tbh, I would hate to watch what I said around a new friend.

BubaMarra Sat 08-Mar-14 18:05:48

YUNBU. Too blunt, specially if coming from a complete stranger.

TwoJackRussellsandababy Sat 08-Mar-14 18:07:43

I say things like that and half an hour later realise it might be taken in a different way to the one I meant! I'm sure they didn't mean anything bad

anchories Sat 08-Mar-14 18:10:21

You dont know her enough yet to know either way.

Nanny0gg Sat 08-Mar-14 18:10:45

yes, it'll be a passing 'hello' from me from now on. Friendly, but not friends
So, possibly very pleasant people have been damned because of one off-the-cuff jokey comment?

hmm

FabBakerGirl Sat 08-Mar-14 18:11:46

Friendly but not friends? Really? Seriously? All because she said her child and yours both have verbal diarrhoea. Blinking heck.

Yet you said you were checking because you can be over sensitive and you will forget about it. You managed that for 1 hour 21 minutes.

Wouldn't be offended no, especially not enough to post on mumsnet.

Euphemia Sat 08-Mar-14 18:16:40

I teach P1/2 - I've yet to meet a 5 year-old that didn't have verbal diahorrea! grin YABU!

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 18:17:19

Haha, yes, the 1hr 20 mins comment is true grin Sorry, complete contradiction.

She probably meant nothing by it; I will cut her some slack when we next speak. To be fair, with neighbours I like to say 'hello' but don't like popping in for tea/them coming over. I value my privacy at home.

Honestly, I'll try not to hold the comment against her but I might be a little wary for a while.

missymarmite Sat 08-Mar-14 18:20:05

YABU. It's a little lighthearted jokey comment, and if you are going to get insulted by every little remark like that, perhaps it would be better to remain a hermit and avoid people altogether, for their sake at least.

Here, have a biscuit

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 18:23:30

A biscuit? Really?

You utter arsehole!

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:28:44

OMG 'wary' - why on earth do you need to be wary of her? She didn't tell you she was a member of a weird cult and ask if you fancied joining. She didn't blow fag smoke all over your pfb or ask you where the neighbourhood dealer lives. She didn't start effing and blinding. She made a mild comment about your child being a chatterbox like her own (a comment clearly designed to try and bond and build friendship), which you seem to be deciding to be offended about based on the fact some posters on MN have also said they find it offensive.

You have zero reason to be offended.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 18:29:19

and if you really want to dumb it down..

chatterbox = talks alot

verbal dioreah= you talk shit that is of no importance, which said about a young child is just a bit mean bassically, by not using the nicer " chatterbox" you are applying an insult.

i just dont see the need to belittle or embrasse some one like that.

its funny h ow people see words/ sayings differently.

bellablot Sat 08-Mar-14 18:30:44

YABU

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:30:50

Neighbour commenting OPs child has verbal diahorrea = offensive.

OP calling a poster 'you utter arsehole' apparently ok

confused

FastWindow Sat 08-Mar-14 18:32:10

nocomet here's Carol Vordermans mnemonic for 'diarrhoea'

Dashing
In
A
Rush
Running
Hard
Or
Else
Accident

grin

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 18:32:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheOriginalSteamingNit Sat 08-Mar-14 18:32:20

I think of diarrhoea as meaning that what comes out is uncontrollable!
I think you are probably being a bit over sensitive though personally I would not say that (in case someone took offence, not because I think it is actually offensive).
Don't call people arse holes though.

meganorks Sat 08-Mar-14 18:32:25

Fucking hell - YABU

Poppylovescheese Sat 08-Mar-14 18:33:37

You are being precious especially since you acknowledge she is very chatty.

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:35:02

doesn't come off as a self-deprecating joke Cours. Comes off as an unpleasant comment to Missy

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 08-Mar-14 18:36:00

What adoptmama said.

She was obviously trying to bond and make friends and what she said wasn't offensive.

FastWindow Sat 08-Mar-14 18:38:17

adopt I've just seen the ops attack. Nice.

Start a fight in an empty room comes to mind.

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 18:40:01

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FastWindow Sat 08-Mar-14 18:41:49

No, it didn't corus if it was meant as a joke, then the op is asking us to give her the benefit of the doubt, which she didn't give her neighbour.

Badly judged joke, then.

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 18:45:39

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FabBakerGirl Sat 08-Mar-14 18:46:16

The OP is a snob. No other explanation for such an over reaction.

BrianTheMole Sat 08-Mar-14 18:49:05

A biscuit? Really?

You utter arsehole!

Really? How rude. So you want people to speak in a way you prefer, but you're happy to call people names when it suits you?
Here, have a packet. It will give you something to do with your mouth.

biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit
biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit biscuit

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:49:26

No it doesn't come across as an obviously jokey response.

Or indeed an appropriate response.

Can't think when calling someone an 'utter arsehole' would be an appropriate response.

Unless you are pissed, hugging your BFF and telling this to them this as they tell you they want to take their ex back.

Then it is probably an approprate response.

In the context of a forum poster simply saying YABU and offering a biscuit it comes as a rather nasty attack by the OP who has professed herself to be offended by something far less offesive and which was not a deliberately insulting comment.

What the OP did was deliberately rude and insulting.

Although obviously had the OP said 'you have verbal diarrhoea, you utter arsehole' it would have been much, much worse.............

Impatientismymiddlename Sat 08-Mar-14 18:50:14

'You utter arsehole' is much worse than saying that your kid has verbal diarrohea just like my kid. I agree with the teacher above who said that all five year olds have verbal diarrohea.
I think your new neighbour will be better off not getting to know you any better as you will take everything she says as an insult but deem your own more offensive comments to be fine.

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:51:32

or shove your fucking biscuits up your arse

that would have been pretty rude too

wink

someone pass the bourbons over, I could do with some to dip in my wine (is that terribly ill mannered of me?)

FastWindow Sat 08-Mar-14 18:51:55

Great nn btw 'coruscate' lovely word altogether.

Impatientismymiddlename Sat 08-Mar-14 18:52:26

Brianthemole - save some biscuits for me, people who call other people arseholes don't deserve the whole packet; unless they are garibaldis and then she can have them all grin. If they are chocolate digestives then I want some........

winterhat Sat 08-Mar-14 18:53:19

It's an unpleasant phrase IMHO. Who wants to be reminded of stomach upsets? Much nicer to describe someone as chatty, talkative, friendly etc. And compliment the parent on the child, rather than "glad mine isn't the only one".

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 18:55:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

"verbal diarrhoea" is a term used to describe a person who talks constantly. The diarrhoea part presumably related to the ability to stop. It does not mean that the individual is talking shit.

AlpacaLypse Sat 08-Mar-14 19:01:16

yabu, My mum used 'verbal diarrhoea' to mean 'non-stop-chatter', and so do I.

And if the OP's arsehole comment was meant to be witty or sarcastic it was a complete failure.

anchories Sat 08-Mar-14 19:03:51

uh oh. An AIBU thread meaning rudeness.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 19:05:11

miisbee it does not mean it to you.

it does to me and thouse around me... maybe its an "area" thing!

BrianTheMole Sat 08-Mar-14 19:06:40

Don't worry impatient. They are garibaldis. And they're stale too. Here, you can have one of my nice luxury chocolate biscuits that I save for polite people grin

BrianTheMole Sat 08-Mar-14 19:08:04

Here, biscuit Forgot to actually hand it to you impatient grin

CountessOfRule Sun 09-Mar-14 08:31:42

I think it was an odd and overfamiliar phrase to use on a first meeting but certainly no malice in it. Deciding now that you will not bother trying to be friends is a massive overreaction.

You describe "chatterbox", they use "verbal diarrhoea". I suspect that's like the distinction between "spirited" and "pesky" in all honesty, ie in the eye of the beholder.

AllDirections Sun 09-Mar-14 10:40:50

YABU

I didn't think that 'verbal diahorrea' had anything to do with shit. I thought it meant that the words kept coming and coming and coming.

winterhat Sun 09-Mar-14 10:54:57

It's a metaphor AllDirections so it's comparing the two.

Supercosy Sun 09-Mar-14 10:58:10

I agree you probably are being a bit sensitive but I would feel the same. Someone we know was saying to me "Your Dd is lovely isn't she?" I said "Yes, she's a lovely girl" They then added "She's a bit chatty but nevermind, other than that she's great"! I was a bit put out by that so can understand why you felt the way you do.

cardibach Sun 09-Mar-14 11:13:37

It is a metaphor, yes, but the comparison is with flow not content! It simply means uncontrollable, I have never considered the comparison to be suggesting that the person is talking shit! OP YABVU and even more so now you say you won't consider a friendship with the poor woman!

winterhat Sun 09-Mar-14 11:21:59

"the comparison is with flow not content"

Yes I know. I'm just saying it's a rather unpleasant comparison to choose when there are plenty of other ways of saying someone talks a lot!

BillyBanter Sun 09-Mar-14 18:24:22

Even if the implication was that both their children talk a lot of crap I doubt I'd bother to be offended. It's hardly a novel concept to grown ups that young children talk a lot of nonsense sometimes.

bobot Sun 09-Mar-14 18:30:18

YANBU if the neighbour said it in front of your dd. Otherwise, I'd shrug it off.

candycoatedwaterdrops Sun 09-Mar-14 18:35:23

This thread completely embodies the craziness that is MN at the moment!

Topseyt Sun 09-Mar-14 18:50:40

I can't see why this phrase could be considered a problem. I even jokingly tell my own daughter that she suffers from verbal diarrhoea because she is such a chatterbox (chatters on regardless of whether or not she even has an audience sometimes, or used to when she was small anyway).

MolotovCocktail Sun 09-Mar-14 21:41:00

Ah, now, my "arsehole" comment made yesterday was uncalled for. Sorry about that. I didn't think the biscuit was really necessary but neither was that response.

I think some posters have explained why I didn't like the 'verbal diahorrea' comment; I took it to mean the equivalent of 'talking shit'. And my dd was standing right there as it was said.

I now realise that it very probably wasn't intended that way. I also realise that I should try not to over react; not to sweat the small stuff because it really was a matter of trivia.

SleepSleepSleepSleep Sun 09-Mar-14 21:43:37

Definitely sounds like a joke and just the type of thing I might say about a chattery child. Oh and I am very talkative myself so think it is a great quality to have!!

candycoatedwaterdrops Sun 09-Mar-14 21:45:04

Wahoo, so let's eat cake

FreudiansSlipper Sun 09-Mar-14 21:47:45

I can not see what the issue is confused

ExcuseTypos Sun 09-Mar-14 21:49:15

Molotov, that phrase means talking a lot, not talking shit.

I don't blame you for being annoyed if you thought it meant thatsmile

LunchLadyWannabe Sun 09-Mar-14 21:54:52

Verbal diarrhoea?? WTAF???

I ve never heard this said before.

I dont like it tbh, saying my child talks shit.

Not a good impression to make at all.

ExcuseTypos Sun 09-Mar-14 21:58:57

It doesn't mean that Lunch.

LunchLadyWannabe Sun 09-Mar-14 22:01:02

It sounds that way though. Why would people say that?

BillyBanter Sun 09-Mar-14 22:02:42

Because they are normal people.

ExcuseTypos Sun 09-Mar-14 22:04:23

confused I've heard it numerous times, from every age and class of people.

LunchLadyWannabe Sun 09-Mar-14 22:05:49

Normal people? Thats not normal to say that.

I am known for being very blunt. But there is no way on this earth that i would say that

LunchLadyWannabe Sun 09-Mar-14 22:06:11

Excuse

Where do you live?

CorusKate Sun 09-Mar-14 22:07:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ExcuseTypos Sun 09-Mar-14 22:08:39

I've live in the south now, but spent my childhood in the north.

LunchLadyWannabe Sun 09-Mar-14 22:10:14

I live lancashire north west, and have honestly never heard it.

Is it a more common phrase in the south?

gamerchick Sun 09-Mar-14 22:13:10

Depends on whether they said it in front of my child or not.

DorisAllTheDay Sun 09-Mar-14 22:23:54

I wouldn't have wanted a complete stranger to say it about either of my DDs when they were that age. Diarrhoea is shit that comes pouring out of an orifice in an uncontrolled and offensive way, and I wouldn't have liked someone likening my child's chatter to it. If it had been said by a friend and I knew they didn't mean anything derogatory, then it might have been OK (though a friend would probably have realised I didn't like the phrase and/or I would have been able to tell them without it being a big deal). The problem was with its use by a stranger. As a general rule, people should remember that parents are sensitive about their DC and it's best to wait before saying anything that could be taken as derogatory, even if you think it's mild and jokey. I think the new neighbours should have been more cautious and taken more care. There were other things that could have been said which would have been safer given that you'd never met before: 'what a lovely friendly little girl' would have fitted the bill perfectly. However, we all sometimes say things without fully considering them first, and as you say, OP, they may have been nervous.

Not sure why you're being given such a hard time, though. I don't think YABU not to like the term (which after all is not a pleasant way to talk about a child even if it's meant as a joke) - and it doesn't seem to me either from your original post or the rest of the discussion that you've ruled out being friends with these people on the strength of a single ill-chosen comment.

RonaldMcDonald Sun 09-Mar-14 22:37:53

Normal

YABU

youarewinning Sun 09-Mar-14 22:52:17

I think of it as being equivalent to a chatterbox.

Can see why people equivocate it to talking shite though.

Plus - she did mention her children were the same.

In honestly though - was your DD talking too much and butting into the adults conversation and/or talking over the adults?

YANBU to be a little put out by the comment as you'd just met them. However people make the same judgements about my Ds(9) who doesn't really respond to chit chat and can stare at people who are talking directly at him. (He has ASD) They make assumptions he rude too.

I've learnt not to let it offend me greatly and I'll continue being friendly but get what your saying about being wary of a friendship. They may be perfectly nice people though OP so don't stop the friendliness developing if it turns out they are nice!

TheVictorian Sun 09-Mar-14 23:06:14

Op If that was my kid i would prefer the term chatterbox as its more polite, plus if the child is quite a chatterbox at least they are able to build up their confidence in their speaking and vocabulary.

Topaz25 Mon 10-Mar-14 00:22:22

If your neighbour had just said your DD has verbal diarrhea I would think that was rude but since she referenced her own child I think she was clumsily trying to bond with you by saying her DC does that too. Chatterbox would have been a better expression for her to use but maybe she is a bit blunt or maybe she was nervous. I would give her another chance.

jacks365 Mon 10-Mar-14 00:43:09

Lunchlady I'm Lancashire born and bred so were my parents and verbal diarrhoea is a very common phrase.

steff13 Mon 10-Mar-14 05:16:07

I've heard the phrase here in the US. I don't love it, but I wouldn't be offended by it.

For what it's worth, the Oxford Dictionaries define verbal diarrhea as "the fact or habit of talking too much." Thus, I would consider that the "accepted" meaning, rather than "talking shit," as some people have said.

I suppose how you choose to interpret it is ultimately your prerogative, though.

MichelloBarner Mon 10-Mar-14 05:23:31

She probably thought she meant it as a joke but it does come across as rather passive aggressive and it would have annoyed me too.

NobodyLivesHere Mon 10-Mar-14 05:39:05

I'd have said 'I'm glad it's not only my kid who talks a load of shit'.
Be grateful I'm not your neighbour.

jinglebitch Mon 10-Mar-14 06:00:19

Yabu.
OT- what kind of a name is coffeethrowtrampbitch. I mean, I know I have bitch in my name, but it's a modern cultural reference.wink Is coffeethrowtrampbitch also a reference that I am not aware of? Or just an invitation to throw coffee on people we consider to be tramps or bitches? Which I personally find just as insulting as people saying offensive things about children. (not that Saying verbal diarrhoea is, because it ISN'T)

TruffleOil Mon 10-Mar-14 06:09:39

I'd be slightly taken aback, I think it's a bit crass. But I agree she's trying to be friendly/bond.

PrimalLass Mon 10-Mar-14 06:30:27

FFS. Another thread that makes me think I must go around offending people all the time. Surely it just makes your life harder to be so over sensitive? People just say things to fill silence - there is no need to over analyse it all the time.

KepekCrumbs Mon 10-Mar-14 06:41:27

She was directly comparing your kid with her kid. Who she is presumably madly proud of as we all arenof our beloved offspring. Most the time. So she was actually trying to say something to make friends with you, reaching out in a way which is - as we can see - culturally acceptable to many though not all.

SO...

I think the op got that with a little blippette en route.

why do threads like these go on and on?

TamerB Mon 10-Mar-14 06:45:46

People on MN over analyse simple remarks. If I took note I would be scared to ever open my mouth!

Sillybillybob Mon 10-Mar-14 06:49:37

jinglebitch I believe (and I could be wrong) that it's a reference to the (very funny) final episode of the IT crowd where one of the characters inadvertently threw her cup of coffee over a tramp, was filmed whilst doing it, possibly on CCTV, and it went viral, leading to her becoming known as CoffeeThrowTrampBitch.

Sillybillybob Mon 10-Mar-14 06:53:20

Sorry it's Coffee Tramp Toss Bitch review here but is still assume it was the same reference.

AllDirections Mon 10-Mar-14 07:59:39

In honestly though - was your DD talking too much and butting into the adults conversation and/or talking over the adults?

This was my thought too youarewinning

I wouldn't have been impressed if I tried to have a conversation with my new neighbour and their DC monopolised the conversation because their darling angel should take centre stage at all times Not saying this happened OP, just another point of view wink

MolotovCocktail Mon 10-Mar-14 10:12:32

Whilst my dd does butt-in to conversations, what happened the other day was as a result of a comment to her about an unusual jacket she was wearing. Dd engaged (with a few too many details, admittedly) about her jacket, where she got it, why it was bought.

But I can understand why someone who hasn't yet unpacked all their worldly goods might not be in the mood to stand and listen to chatter about something like that. She probably wasn't expecting too much of a reply.

DorisAllTheDay Mon 10-Mar-14 10:27:51

I was thinking about the comment this morning. When I was growing up before the dawn of time in the 1970s the phrase verbal diarrhoea was used among kids as an insult, to be rude. Fast forward to when my daughters were growing up in the 1990s/early 2000s and I don't remember ever hearing it. Did it disappear and come back again, or is it a geographical thing? I grew up in northern England, DDs grew up in Scotland and southwest England.

LouiseSmith Mon 10-Mar-14 10:32:08

I say that about my DS.

YABU op, just a saying

sherazade Mon 10-Mar-14 12:06:08

YANBU, if it's not ok to say this about another adult in the room then beats me why it's fine to say it about a child.

DIYapprentice Mon 10-Mar-14 12:20:37

I don't like the phrase 'verbal diarrhoea' but wouldn't get offended.

I tend to say 'he could talk underwater' when describing my DSs non-stop talkathon.

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