To think that a child deserves the same respect as an adult when queuing?

(49 Posts)
shallweshop Fri 07-Mar-14 20:48:31

I took DS to McDonalds for lunch after his hospital appointment today. He wanted to get his own ketchup from the dispenser so I watched him queue up politely behind a mum who was helping her child get some ketchup. As the woman before him finished, he stepped forward for his turn and this bloke just leaned right over in front of him to get the ketchup. It just made me a bit cross - you wouldn't do that if it was another adult in the queue before you - why to a child?

ChasedByBees Fri 07-Mar-14 20:50:48

Some people are just complete tossers. Sorry you met one of them today.

SylvaniansKeepGettingHoovered Fri 07-Mar-14 20:56:36


I totally agree with you OP. Some people are so rude.

Taz1212 Fri 07-Mar-14 21:06:21

YANBU at all! One of my strongest memories as a child visiting Edinburgh was being sent to the local chippie to get fish & chips for our supper. The chippie would serve every single adult in the shop first and would only serve me when it was otherwise empty. I hated it but was only 10 and not confident enough to say anything. I used to tell my mum but she would just shrug and say that's how things were sometimes.

ilovesooty Fri 07-Mar-14 21:08:54

YANBU. He was rude.

pancakesfortea Fri 07-Mar-14 21:09:46

This winds me up no end! Happens to my kids all the time.

This happened to DS1 twice recently.

The first time was in the green-grocer: there was only one customer in front of him in the queue, but when the owner had served this customer, she then chatted to her for ten minutes while DS1 stood waiting to be served.

The second time wasn't a queuing issue, but DS1 went to buy some eggs from our local convenience store so he could bake a cake (we already had the other ingredients at home). The owner asked DS1 if he was buying the eggs to throw at people's houses! shock

caramelwaffle Fri 07-Mar-14 21:34:07


Lora1982 Fri 07-Mar-14 21:34:49

I didnt get any respect of the boy who jumped infront of me in the queue at mac d's todaysad

Syrupent Fri 07-Mar-14 21:40:45

YANBU, vert rude , your poor Ds. When I was a child a Vicar did this to me in the ice cream queue!!

Dubjackeen Fri 07-Mar-14 22:01:23

YANBU. If there is a child ahead of me, in a queue, I make sure this doesn't happen, e.g if they are a bit hesitant, or don't realise they have been called, and someone is trying to push ahead, which I have seen happen, I will say, to the child, you are next, and make sure they get served in their turn.

shallweshop Fri 07-Mar-14 22:01:49

Lora - see, it's up to us adults to teach our kids manners and respect. Sorry this happened to you but maybe the boy was sick of grown-ups doing it to him?!

FrancesNiadova Fri 07-Mar-14 22:06:30

I'll be 46 soon & I want to know when, oh when, I'll be able to push into queues & be abusive to teenagers grin!
YANBU, (but I was for that terribly ageist joke hmm)

peaz Fri 07-Mar-14 22:11:58

This happened to a boy in Asda. He was about 13 and he was waiting for one of those fast scan tills to become available. I had just finished and a woman totally ignored the queue (only boy in the queue) and jumped straight onto my till. I told the member of staff but he was totally disinterested. Boy heard me and thanked me but he did look rather pissed off and who can blame him?

slithytove Fri 07-Mar-14 22:14:09

YANBU. Why do adults expect children to have manners if they don't demonstrate them themselves.

Misspixietrix Sat 08-Mar-14 07:44:12

YNBU. Seems children aren't the ones who Need to do the learning sometimes.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Sat 08-Mar-14 07:48:33

Yanbu - I'm a gobby cow though and would have gone over and asked the man what he was playing at.

Well done for teaching your child to queue, hope the rude man doesnt put him off.

Kittymalinky Sat 08-Mar-14 07:56:57

I have a very clear memory of being about 5. My mum had taken me out for a special day and let me choose a crappy plastic tat bracelet and let me queue up and pay for it on my own.

Just as I got to the counter a woman just pushed in front of me, once she had everyone else did. I was so upset and still remember it now.

I do wonder if they thought I was with someone else though and didn't realise I was being a grown up and paying on my own.

Victoria2002 Sat 08-Mar-14 07:58:29

My pet hate is at our local indoor play area where little ones get distracted in the que for the rides, they hang off the fence watching the ride while mums aid/encourage their kids to bypass the distracted ones in the que. Makes me so cross-mean to little kids and a bad lesson about queuing for the big ones.

MummyPig24 Sat 08-Mar-14 08:08:38

Yanbu. How will children learn respect if they aren't shown any? That man was an arse.

WelshMaenad Sat 08-Mar-14 08:22:32

Dd (7) has started queuing up to pay for things herself, and I hover at a discreet distance to make sure people don't push in front of her.

Disrespect of children generally winds me up though. I got a bit PA and snippy with some rude bint in Sainsburys last week, who instead of asking dd to move out of her way, just physically shoved her way past her, nearly knocking her over. I bet she wouldn't dream of doing that to an adult. What I actually wanted to do was shove her back but it wasn't the good example I should probably be setting for the kids!

NewtRipley Sat 08-Mar-14 08:28:42


I really remember people pushing in or leaning over me when i was a child buying my weekly comic.

I watxhed a womean try and push in front of my DCs and their friend at the swimming pool a while back. It was the first time they were going alone and I stood back to let them get on with it. When I pulled her up on it she said her excuse was that there were 3 of them and 1 of her.. My response: "so you pushed in in front of 3 people!

I firmly coached my DCs after that to watch out and speak up politely, because adults will sometimes take advantage.

NewtRipley Sat 08-Mar-14 08:30:51


You are right. dometimes children are a bit dozy and hesitant, and they need us to stand up for them or encourage them.

TamerB Sat 08-Mar-14 08:32:56

It used to upset me as a child that I could be queueing in the village shop and when it got to my turn they looked over me and asked the person behind- luckily they generally said 'I think that little girl was next' which forced them to serve me.
I always say the same now because it still happens sometimes.

WanderingAway Sat 08-Mar-14 08:39:12

How fucking rude.

I am known amongst my family and friends for my hate of queue jumpers. Doesn't make a difference if they are a child or an adult. If you hear 'excuse me there's a queue' it will probably be me. grin

NewtRipley Sat 08-Mar-14 08:42:40


Me too. I'll be the one honking loudly "Excuse me, I was here first".

Never let the fuckers get away with it!

ExcuseTypos Sat 08-Mar-14 08:44:42

He was obviously an arrogant wanker who thought he was far too important to wait behind a child.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 08:46:58

i hate this to.
i was h elping out at ds1 team in the kitchien serving hot drinks n buttys. they qued up, the child was at the front and the number of people trying to order abov him was horrid.

so i bent down and took his order.. ignoring the others...
youd think id have slapped them in the face.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sat 08-Mar-14 08:48:54

YANBU My DD has experienced this! And also she has queued very nicely in places for the people behind the counter to then not ask her what it is she would like. They just ignore her!

Soditall Sat 08-Mar-14 08:52:10

I've seen this so many times.If I'm in a queue and someone goes to push in front of a child I always put the adult straight even if I don't know the child.

How are children supposed to learn how to respect others if they're always being disrespected by so called adults.

OhMerGerd Sat 08-Mar-14 08:53:26

YANBU ...And theses queue jumpers will no doubt be the first on an MN thread hoiking their bosoms, shaking their heads with that chewing a wasp face saying that young people today are so rude, cheeky, lazy etc.

They set such a poor example is it any wonder the children they come into contact with are so poorly behaved?

Damnautocorrect Sat 08-Mar-14 09:00:38

We had this at wembley, went to see cbeebies live woman was telling off person behind. Knocked ds's drink over and her chest was just in his face. He spent the first half crying.
It's rude and disrespectful. People will only respect people when shown it themselves.

Nomama Sat 08-Mar-14 09:00:59

I was in BKing years ago when a bloke with small children sort of rushed the ill formed queue and pushed his children in front of a buggy to make it to a till.

Lots of people looked and I said, how rude. He looked at me and said something about it being first come first served, and I pointed to the other people who had stepped back for the obviously pregnant lady with the pram. He asked the server for his opinion but he, apparently, just serves whoever stands in front of him.

The bloke looks at me triumphantly. And I am afraid I lost it a bit. I told him that if he was happy to teach his kids that pushing and shoving their way to the front in order to save themselves a minute or two and sod the rest of the world, pregnant women, old people, disabled people, then he shouldn't be surprised when they grew up to be rude entitled adults, rather like himself!

Sadly he had the last word "Your welcome to your opinion, but we have our food first" accompanied by a big grin. His wife looked mortified though.

There are pushy idiots all over the place and they usually feel perfectly entitled to act as they do - being so important and all!

dammitsue Sat 08-Mar-14 10:07:04

Tbf though op, some kids see the sauce dispensers as a fun game and I've often hovered behind a kid filling umpteen pots to then be called by his parents, abandoning the pots as they are leaving!

And...its always kids who run past the queueing adults on waterslides as well.

BudsBeginingSpringinSight Sat 08-Mar-14 10:43:34

YANBU the amount of times with children and adults my DD is waiting patiently in the queue and is totally ignored and over looked, it makes a mockery of me making her wait, another one, is her opening the door for me to go through with push chair then she wil hold it for the person behind me, then everyone flooods through ignoring her and dont even say thank you.

IDugUpADiamond Sat 08-Mar-14 10:48:28

Some people don't consider children to be actually human beings with rights, feelings, etc. YANBU.

domoarigato Sat 08-Mar-14 10:52:50

I would have gone up and said something.

shallweshop Sat 08-Mar-14 13:00:13

Thanks all.
Dammit - I know some kids muck about but DS wasn't and the queue jumper didn't even give him chance to show that he was being sensible (he is 7 by the way).
When I saw what happened I did immediately go over and say in a loud voice to DS 'are you ok there getting your ketchup?' whilst giving queue jumper a filthy look.

MrsLoada Sat 08-Mar-14 13:07:09

Only this morning I was 4th in the que at the cornered shop , one person getting served , then a 7 ish year old child , older man then me. The child stepped up to the counter handed over some sweets then started to count out the money was 5p 10p 20p pieces. While the child was counting the man tried to hand the paper over the child's head and said as this looks like it's going to take a while can you do my paper first . Was just about to say something when the lady serving I'm busy with a customer you'll have to wait and I will take as long as needed. Then she bend over the counter so she was at the childs level and helped them work out the money giving a little maths lesson as she did. Was only a few minutes of time to wait but it meant the world to the child . Was great to see them leave the shop proud they did it all by themselves.

shallweshop Sat 08-Mar-14 13:46:05

Mrsloada - that's really nice to hear smile. What a lovely lady.

pointythings Sat 08-Mar-14 14:03:37

I hate it when adults do this and if I'm in the queue behind the child I will always say something along the lines of 'excuse me, it's that girl/boy's turn to be served'.

Kudos to your corner shop lady, MrsLoada!

Petrol stations are notorious for this. You'll be in a queue and someone walks over, throws their £20 note down "Pump 7" and walks out.
There's a fecking queue here " shock

Driveway Sat 08-Mar-14 14:30:14

I can remember this happening to me as a child and it left me feeling very helpless and frustrated.
I would always say something on behalf of children but I don't understand why people push in, why they do it! Perhaps because really they'd like to all the time but they know they won't get punched in the face by a seven year old for being such a rude cock, with an adult that's always a chance you take.

Ooh and , and I've just remembered one ragey inducing incident angry

School Sports Day. Morning was Yr 3-4 afternoon Yr5-6
At lunchtime, there was an ice-cream van, serving till 13-10 because all the DC had to be back in class by 13.20 for the afternoon Sports to start.

One ice-cream van
One person serving and taking money confused
So the 'queue' became about 12 people wide as more surged in from the sides.
And when someone got to the front, they'd be taking orders for their friends (who weren't queuing but suddenly appeared)

I queued 35 minutes but got nowhere near the front sad

I did write to the school to suggest that they either have a barrier set up or maybe ask the ice-cream van to have more people processing the sales etc.

We didn't have the van the next years so I don't think I was the only one who was hacked off.

Probably would've been alot more civilised if it was just the school children not the parents queuing.

winterhat Sat 08-Mar-14 14:40:13


squirrel996 Sat 08-Mar-14 15:02:35

my dd was in a queue to get me a bottle of water in a theatre. Loads of people pushed in front of her and when I'd had enough and went and stood next to her and asked for some water a woman got all offended that she was there before me. I turned round and said my daughter has been waiting here for ages with adults pushing in front of her and she was here before you!

HadABadDay2014 Sat 08-Mar-14 15:19:55

Drives me insane , thankfully DS has social problems so will tell them. I alway watch him while he pays and some women had the cheek to say sort your kid out

I told her he wasn't rude, it was his turn and she shouldn't have tried to push infront of him and it was you that was rude.

shallweshop Sat 08-Mar-14 22:02:49

What is wrong with people? It's quite sad when you realise that it really is a case of survival of the fittest, fastest, strongest,tallest sad.

Queue jumpers bring the red mist for me. Even if it's not me they're pushing in front of!

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