To have been really upset by my son and his own clothes day choice?

(54 Posts)
Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 14:43:28

DS is 15.

Today is own clothes day at school. In his infinite wisdom he decided that "for a laugh" he would wear his jeans with his sodding dressing gown!

I'm really failing to see the funny side. As all teens do, he is experimenting with finding his identity. MY DS has decided Mr Funny Man suits him best wink

I was livid though. I thought he looked really silly and that the school would too!

Was I unreasonable? I'd like to think I was as I'm still a bit cross 7 hrs later...

7 hours of anger?! Get a sense of humour!

BumpyGrindy Thu 06-Mar-14 14:45:55

Livid? Why? confused he's 15! They do daft things...which they think are "funny"

gamerchick Thu 06-Mar-14 14:46:11

ah he has a sense of humor.. that's a good thing in a 15 yr old I would think.

You'll know how it went down when he gets in.

Thumbcat Thu 06-Mar-14 14:46:58

Does it really matter that he wanted to wear something a bit silly? I'd be pleased that he wasn't taking himself too seriously as I well remember the angst that non-uniform day used to cause me. Sorry but I think YABU.

winterhat Thu 06-Mar-14 14:48:03

YABU. Sounds harmless enough.

JeanSeberg Thu 06-Mar-14 14:48:10

I have 3 teenage sons, one is 15 same as yours OP. After reading on MN about the problems and awful situations that some teens and parents have to face, I thank my lucky stars every day that I've had no major problems with any of mine.

I'd advise you to do the same.

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 06-Mar-14 14:48:40

Really? All the boys in ds2s class go in their onsies

mrscog Thu 06-Mar-14 14:48:51

Yabu be proud you have a son confident enough to experiment with humour in this way.

ShadowOfTheDay Thu 06-Mar-14 14:49:22

did he take a towel ??

World Book day and "Hitch-hikers guide" springs to mind.... just tell him how clever he was to link the own clothes day to world book day....

hootloop Thu 06-Mar-14 14:50:25

Don't be daft that is the kind of thing teenage boys do.
To be honest my brother still does stuff like that and he is nearly 26.

whodrankallthemilk Thu 06-Mar-14 14:50:43

i think i love your son! he sounds fab, and if he can take the flack for it... if there is any... good on him.

are you worried becuase the dressing gown is 'past its best'?

FunkyBoldRibena Thu 06-Mar-14 14:50:52

What has upset you exactly?

UnicornCrisps Thu 06-Mar-14 14:51:25

A few years back a lot of the boys in my brothers school went in morph suits , so it could be worse.

YABU it could have been worse my son would have dressed in his dragon onsie.

TulipOHare Thu 06-Mar-14 14:51:35

Don't know why you'd mind confused

Thought you were going to say he'd worn an offensive t-shirt or something.

You'd have had a conniption if you'd seen some of the ludicrous get-ups my little brother wore in his teens!

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 14:53:22

Okay...I'm being unreasonable!

I'm truly fine with that grin

I should have said it was light-hearted, and I do tend to throw the word 'livid' around a bit!

Actually, I suspect it was in defiance of the whole thing. Earlier he mentioned something on FB about it being difficult for those with self -esteem issues.

he has nice clothes though. I just bought him two lovely cardigans from next

JessePinkmansMom Thu 06-Mar-14 14:53:22

Well it's a bit odd - most teens are too self-consciously cool to want to waste the opportunity to wear something fashionable to school, but I certainly wouldn't feel angry over it. I think you are reacting a bit strangely to be honest.

MinesAPintOfTea Thu 06-Mar-14 14:53:52

Is he a big hitchhikers fan?

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 14:54:47

funcky I just think he looked stupid (if I'm honest)

I'd like him to look nice

The dressing gown used to belong to my Mother! grin

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 14:55:58

mines I don't know.

Might be. I'll ask. smile

Samu2 Thu 06-Mar-14 14:55:58

I would be really proud if my 15 year old wore that.

Mine is really self conscious and would be panicking about looking cool. It would be really refreshing if he went to school in a dressing down and jeans as it would show he has confidence in himself and doesn't take himself too seriously.

I think it is great.

meditrina Thu 06-Mar-14 14:56:22

So what does the dressing gown look like? Floral winceyette?

(One of my teens has a Jedi warrior one. Never worn it to school though).

Flicktheswitch Thu 06-Mar-14 14:56:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

It isn't exactly cutting edge wacky is it? Just slightly unconventional.

Are you worried that his teachers will think that you don't buy him proper clothes?

bellablot Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:07

Sounds like your embarrassed for him...maybe it reminds of of an episode at school where you were openly embarrassed by one if these events? YABU anyway, 7 hours of anger is utterly ridiculous.

You really shouldn't project your own fears and beliefs into your kids. If he's confident enough to do this then you should be proud of him.

whois Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:08

I you'd rather he was vain, hogging the bathroom and spending a fortune on designer labels and hair care?

HavantGuard Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:39

He sounds great. I'm a bit hmm that you are bothered by it.

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 15:02:26

normally I'm quite impressed with his alternative ways. Maybe it is PMT? <ponders> anyway, no I've never been embarrassed at school (in a similar situation)

The dressing gown is purple toweling!

It is true, I should be proud he is himself. That is something I always wanted for my children.

Katiepoes Thu 06-Mar-14 15:03:37

I don't see the problem - he is The Dude. He abides.

Besides he's 15, it's his job to make you think his look is silly.

Burren Thu 06-Mar-14 15:04:01

I'd be thrilled if my son was confident enough not to follow the sartorial party line and wear his granny's knackered dressing gown to school. Be proud, OP.

It sounds slightly as if you still think of him as an aspect of you, and as if his clothes choice - and his decision not to wear the nice, new clothes you bought him - thus reflects badly on you. In an 'Oh, look, there's the mother of the boy who wore that dressing gown to school' way...?

Dawndonnaagain Thu 06-Mar-14 15:06:50

I don't see anything wrong with going in as Arthur Dent. It's cool!

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 15:08:39

burren I don't know any of the other parents in his year!

But, you are correct. I do still see him as an aspect of me. That I know, is a bit silly as he is 15 and very much his own person. Actually he has had his own mind since 10! grin

DoJo Thu 06-Mar-14 15:09:31

My son thinks his dressing gown is a coat - he loves it and wears it all the time. I think it's sweet and funny on a toddler, and would find it even sweeter and funnier on a teen. He must be very confident in himself to do that, you are lucky!

Evie2014 Thu 06-Mar-14 15:28:13

I think that sounds cool. I remember being 15 and I'd probably have had a crush on the guy who wore a dressing gown to school!

MY 13 year old DS went to his last non uniform day in a pink monkey onsie and proceeded to twerk in front of the entire school as part of a bad dancing competition. He says he doesn't care what anyone thinks because he's secure in his masculinity and girls onsies are fluffier than boys ones.....

kentishgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 15:42:17

Good for him! He's got a sense of humour and confidence.

(I don't want to sound horrible but I can't imagine any 15 year old wearing a 'nice cardigan from Next' without getting the piss taken out of them).

mercibucket Thu 06-Mar-14 15:48:57

as shadow said . . .
all he needs is a towel

comicsansisevil Thu 06-Mar-14 15:54:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SuburbanRhonda Thu 06-Mar-14 15:55:50

kentishgirl, was just about to post exactly the same about the "nice cardigans from Next", but I wasn't sure whether I was more alarmed about the items or the fact that the OP still chooses her 15-year-old's clothes shock

tigerbread123 Thu 06-Mar-14 15:57:47


My teenage DD and her friends all go out in their onesies regularly, and the lad who lives opposite us is always out and about in his dressing gown!

I think it's funny

PolterGoose Thu 06-Mar-14 16:01:19

He sounds fantastic and you should be really proud of him grin

formerbabe Thu 06-Mar-14 16:08:35

Another vote here for it's hilarious!!

Theas18 Thu 06-Mar-14 16:12:47


dobedobedo Thu 06-Mar-14 16:17:56

YABU. Good on him!

My own ds (who is 9) went to school dressed as a grumpy girl called Delia, complete with dressing gown and sunglasses. It just made me proud that I was raising a kid with confidence. Something I never had.

So you were doing well until you had a meltdown over his outfit! wink

ouryve Thu 06-Mar-14 16:20:03

Be thankful that this is the most you have to be distressed about, regarding your DS. YABU to be so enraged by something so silly.

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 16:21:13

I don't choose his clothes. He did. I just paid for them. Actually, if they are not in a hoody, they do wear cardigans round here! <smiling>

mrssnodge Thu 06-Mar-14 16:22:22

My DS at 15 ,dressed in his sisters old prom dress,complete with rock star wig, and my make up for a non uniform day- it was just totally funny and I was so proud of him! He fitted the dress better than his sister ever did BTW! lol

DramaAlpaca Thu 06-Mar-14 16:27:41

I totally get it OP. I have a DS who is much the same.

For his school graduation ceremony a couple of years ago my DS1 insisted in going in a T shirt with a lumberjack shirt over it and his scruffiest jeans.

Every single other teenage boy there was in a suit, and all the girls were dressed up to the nines.

I was mortified blush. He didn't care. He's always been a bit of a rebel with his own way of doing things & he didn't care what anyone thought of him.

He's right in the middle of the graduation photos too blush

maddening Thu 06-Mar-14 16:27:54

If it is due to world book day then I'd second the hitchhikers suggestion

SuburbanRhonda Thu 06-Mar-14 16:33:08

they do wear cardigans round here

Where in earth are you, OP? I'm intrigued now!

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 16:37:57

Dorset :-D

SuburbanRhonda Thu 06-Mar-14 16:39:05

Ah, that explains it, OP grin

chrome100 Thu 06-Mar-14 16:54:31

I thought you were going to say he went to school dressed as Adolf Hitler or something! YABU.

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