To not want to go to bloody buggering pirtsmouth?

(46 Posts)
AtYourCervix Tue 18-Feb-14 21:56:14

I have had the day from the pits of hell . Finally got home an hour late and bloody buggering D announces thst tomorrow is a buggering unuversity open day thing.


LittleBearPad Tue 18-Feb-14 22:07:52

Portsmouth isn't so bad. Hopefully the sun will be out. It's a bit grim when it's raining and windy and the foghorns are blaring.

persimmon Tue 18-Feb-14 22:08:43

Go to the new Mary Rose museum if you like history?

AtYourCervix Tue 18-Feb-14 22:12:57

I'd love to go to see the mary rose.

Instead i'll have to sit through another lecture getting more and more depressed about not being able to afford to help her through university financially, and working out just how much debt she'll be in at the end, poor thing.

And another set of depressingly foul halls of residence.

And another round of library, studenty, lecturing things. And my feet hurt.

newestbridearound Tue 18-Feb-14 22:13:15

If you've never been here the uni is very near the centre of the city, so if you have any spare time you can easily get to Gunwharf/the dockyard/main shops and Guildhall. From what I remember of my uni open days my mum mainly used to sit in the cafe with a tea and a cake grin

AtYourCervix Tue 18-Feb-14 22:14:19

But I am not a bad mother and I will summon up some enthusiasm.

Go shopping at Gun Wharf. It's a short walk from the Uni and there's lots to do there.

falulahthecat Tue 18-Feb-14 22:32:46

Chichester uni has new halls of residence, what does she want to study?

falulahthecat Tue 18-Feb-14 22:39:58

It's nearby thats the only reason I mention it!

Essiebee Tue 18-Feb-14 22:49:16

Why on earth are you going with her? If she can't go round an open day on her own, she shouldn't be considering university, and this is the problem with many university students. My parents didn't go with me, and I didn't go with my children. Can't she go with friends; most schools organise trips to Universities for their pupils.

falulahthecat Tue 18-Feb-14 23:36:41

Having a bf who helps out at the uni where he works on open days... it's extremely common for parents to accompany their children - if anything to save the travel costs for the DC!
Why shouldn't you want your parents opinion if you're a close family? :/ It's not always about 'can't'.

Lottiedoubtie Tue 18-Feb-14 23:39:23

Essiebee this is not 'what is wrong with' university students.

My parents accompanied me to open days. They wouldn't have dreamt of interfering with my life whilst I was actually there. But open days (mostly) took place before I was 18 and choosing a university is something that most people would want guidance on.

mumeeee Tue 18-Feb-14 23:41:02

Easier parents are often invited to university open days now in fact DD1 is 26 and DH took her to open days.

RandomMess Tue 18-Feb-14 23:41:50


Surely you just drop her off, go shopping for a few hours, go back and pick her up???

Helpyourself Tue 18-Feb-14 23:44:40

Drop DC off and go to Gunwharfs Quay. There's a cinema there as well as shops. Or if it's sunny go for a wander round Old Portsmouth.
It's a shame parents go now. I can see when my dcs go on open days I'll feel I'm letting them down if I don't if its all geared up to family groups rather than singletons.

Don't go to Commercial Road shopping centre, whatever you do. I love Portsmouth, but it is a shocker of a main shopping area for a city that size.

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone Tue 18-Feb-14 23:53:09

Ooh I hate Pirtsmouth

Worse than Sirthampton

No one's parents went to open days back in 1985, I still can't get my bead round the idea.

I've been a spare part at a couple of Sixform ones, but CD doesn't really need me.

furlinedsheepskinjacket Tue 18-Feb-14 23:55:16

don't go op

seriously dd can go on her own

my ds didn't even go to the open day for his uni - he made his decision and that was that

craftysewer Tue 18-Feb-14 23:57:55

I sympathise with you, we're off to Huddersfield tomorrow for DD's interview. She has already been offered a place at another Uni and is likely to take it, but still wants to attend this interview just to make sure she has made the right decision. It's a five hour round trip for a half hour interview, but at least we get to call in to see friends and have tea with them. smile

Go to the White Swan pub. It has a microbrewery on site and great food.

SparklyPandora Wed 19-Feb-14 00:03:33

I live NEAR Portsmouth! It's ok, Gunwharf good suggestion! Generally makes you feel quite cheerful smile As for Uni, don't know, I went to Southampton. There really are worse places to be........ smile

Mrsdavidcaruso Wed 19-Feb-14 00:08:17

Yeah Gunwharf is ace

Joysmum Wed 19-Feb-14 00:12:19

Another vote for gunwharf, one of my fav places. Also have a yearly ticket for the dockyard and never get bored if going there either.

The White swan was one of my regular hangouts in student days (25+ years ago). That and the Yorkshire Grey. Guildhall Walk was pretty quiet then, it was all little old man pubs in that area, it has changed a lot.

LadyPenny Wed 19-Feb-14 00:27:05

The White Swan was the Mucky Duck iny student days.

MrsDavidBowie Wed 19-Feb-14 07:33:45

Yes I went to uni in 1978, just told my parents which one I was going to. No one's parents went to open days then.

Dd is yr 12 so us starting to look but she is quite half hearted..would much prefer to be told "you're going there" than traipse round endless in is.

The financial situation has changed a lot though; I can see why parents want to be involved in the decision.

SlightlyTerrified Wed 19-Feb-14 07:41:37

Agree with the others, Gunwharf and the dockyard are fab. See if you can sneak off at,some point. The actual city centre shopping is rubbish (and the dodgy housing estates near it) but the city and seafront itself is lovely.

cory Wed 19-Feb-14 07:56:06

While it is common to accompany your children to university open days these days, it is by no means compulsory. There won't be a tannoy call of "who is in charge of this child" if you drop her at the door and quietly sneak off to see the Mary Rose or keep warm at the Sealife centre. wink
After all, your dd is supposed to cope with organising her studies, so maybe she could cope with organising enough information to give you at the end of the day?

DarlingGrace Wed 19-Feb-14 07:56:18

I've only ever heard good things about Portsmouth Uni

SlightlyTerrified Wed 19-Feb-14 08:01:42

Yes the Uni is very good and at least she is going somewhere you can visit and is near some interesting places to see, if she was at Southampton it's grim (other than the fabulous shopping!)

RedFocus Wed 19-Feb-14 08:02:30

I haven't been to Portsmouth for ages...might take the kids and do some touristy stuff...

Hazelbrowneyes Wed 19-Feb-14 08:06:05

I also live near Portsmouth grin

The uni is very good - I'm still gutted I turned down my place 10 years ago.

Gunwharf is lovely for a wander & the seafront is also pretty (on a clear, sunny day).

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Wed 19-Feb-14 08:18:49

Funny how opinions differ - I don't like Gunwharf, it's very expensive to park, the shops are soulless and the wind whips through it.

Ilovegeorgeclooney Wed 19-Feb-14 08:22:10

Albert Rd has some lovely, quirky shops though.

AtYourCervix Wed 19-Feb-14 08:24:22

I don't 'have' to go. She asked me to. It saves a long convoluted public transport journey. I may well drop her off and go for a mooch around the harbour if I can't face the money stuff. There's bugger all I can do about it now anyway.

Yes, I'm not that bothered about Gunwharf either, it's OK, but expensive (parking and restaurants etc, shops not so much as they are outlets) and a bit soulless. And that wind, brrr. I like wandering around Southsea and Old Portsmouth. The Mary Rose museum is brilliant since it reopened last year.

5Foot5 Wed 19-Feb-14 08:31:40

To Essiebee and several others questioning why parents go to these - I thought exactly that until a few months ago. I went to Uni in 1980 and it never crossed mine or my parents mind that anyone but me should go.

When DD went to her first Open Day last summer I put her on the train to London by herself, determined not to be a helicopter Mum. When she came home she said she had been only one of about two prospective students who had gone alone. Subsequently we went to a UCAS evening at the school where we were told it is a very good idea for parents to go to as we are likely to ask the questions the students don't think to.

One or both of us have been with her to all subsequent ones and, indeed, it is very much the norm for parents to go along now and the Unis seem to expect it.

Actually I have quite enjoyed the experience but I have never had to travel all the way down to Portsmouth from here. DDs friend went last Saturday and they had to leave at 4amshock

Portsmouth is a good Uni. I went there had a great time...!

OnBoytox Wed 19-Feb-14 09:55:46

I hope the OP managed to get to Portsmouth today.

I have a DS in his first year at Portsmouth University and he absolutely LOVES everything about it, unfortunately that includes the fabulous nightlife!

I loved it too but it was 25 years ago.

I didn't even go to any open days let alone my parents go with me.
I went there for an interview on my own (early 80's)
My DDad did drive me there with my stuff for Freshers Week though ie. when I actually started Uni.
That doesn't mean I think it should be like that now though -
I think I might quite enjoy a few open days with DD AYC - don't stress about the finance side - I think you just have to look on it as a graduate tax, or a bit like taking out a mortgage?
But, I know, it is a worry.

bobbywash Wed 19-Feb-14 10:18:52

Didn't go to open days with eith of my DD's they didn't want their parents there. Portsmouth is a good up and coming Uni, my DP lectures there. Many worse places to go.

whatsonyourplate Wed 19-Feb-14 10:27:04

I went to Portsmouth 92-96. Never lived in halls, shared a flat in Southsea. Southsea shopping parade is nice to wander round ( or at least it used to be).

AtYourCervix Wed 19-Feb-14 18:02:21

I'm back. Nice and easy to get to. Bit hungry now.

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