Is it me, or are people really really really rude these days?!

(49 Posts)
ChubbyFeets Sat 08-Feb-14 10:15:16

Yesterday I went to the shops twice with the pushchair and after school with pushchair and my 6 year old.

I can't believe how rude and selfish people are walking on pavements, driving, cycling.

Firstly, I was nearly reversed into by a driver not looking. I shouted at her to stop and the person inside put his hand up at me gesturing sorry I guess. The shop manager just gave me a blank stare (he was watching), didnt ask if I was ok even though I was clearly angry and shaken.

Then I went to pick up dc from school, went to shops again and as I began to cross a road a woman (who was parked) decided to drive off at exactly that point cutting infront of us! I shouted "how rude" but she ignored me making a "whatever" face and her kids at the back made faces at us as we walked around.

Then we got to a bus stop and as I approached a bus came and everyone jumped up and ran to the bus. We waited behind these people and they all kept cutting infront of me thinking I was getting on the bus. I said "excuse me" loudly and they moved a little bit but I think they thought I would cut infront. So I pushed pass and said "thank you" loudly. Yes I was PA. I'd had enough by then.

Are people generally more arseholey these days? Or am I just paranoid? Oh and I had to move over to the side on the pavement because a cyclist was riding on it on the way to pick up dc from school.

I've worked in retail for 20 years, people have always been arseholes ime. I might think differently if I had a different job.

persimmon Sat 08-Feb-14 10:19:45

People out in public interacting with strangers can be massively rude sometimes, but on the whole I find people pleasant and polite.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 08-Feb-14 10:23:48

Sounds like you had a bad run of it. Some days all I bump into are the nicies and a walk around with a spring in my step thinking what how lovely people are and what a nice place i live in. Then i'll have a day like yours and rant to my long suffering dh about how awful and rude everyone is.

On balance I don't think people are any ruder these days then they used to be. And i firmly believe the nicies outnumber the awfulies in the grand scheme of things smile

ChubbyFeets Sat 08-Feb-14 10:29:27

Maybe it was because it was a Friday?

chateauferret Sat 08-Feb-14 10:33:21

Took a defective handbag back to a shop where all the staff know me. Was a gift and not expensive, therefore no receipt, but distinctive product and obviously theirs.

"I can't do anything about it if you've no receipt".

"Well, maybe you recognise..."

(Interrupting, still not looking at the thing) "If you go into any shop without a receipt you will not get help."

"Well, actually I exchanged something at Next..."

(Old cow turns back on me and walks away while I am in mid-sentence)

OK so she might have a policy of insisting on the receipt but she doesn't really need it and she knew me, for God's sake. And even if she is going to refuse to entertain me, need she be so bloody rude?

I live in the Monklands and the shop is a pharmacy.

Crowler Sat 08-Feb-14 10:35:10

I'd say about 80% of the people I encounter out and about are rude, but then 20% are incredibly nice and provide intermittent restoration of faith.

Our corner shop has the most appalling clientele. Going in there post-9pm is a shocker.

Honeysweet Sat 08-Feb-14 10:35:39

I have noticed that car driving seems to be worse on fridays.
as does some posts on mumsnet on friday evenings

Crowler Sat 08-Feb-14 10:37:18

The driving in the UK is the least aggressive I've ever seen in any country.

FunkyBoldRibena Sat 08-Feb-14 10:37:40

Yes, up until last Tuesday everyone was pleasant. Then it all changed. I blame the Tories.

EmmaBemma Sat 08-Feb-14 10:40:15

There was never any halcyon time when everyone was lovely to each other. People are much the same as they always were, IMO. You just had a bad day.

Dominodonkey Sat 08-Feb-14 10:41:07

I agree with dawn . Some days everyone seems to be polite to the extent that everyone stands aside and you take ages getting anywhere as neither of you wants to go first and spoilt it and other times everyone seems rude and stroppy. Had a nice experience in a supermarket where a new till was opened and the lady behind waited and gestured for me to go ad then waited again while I asked the man in front of me (who had just started putting his things on the belt) if he wanted to go first. We all smiled at how polite we were!

PatTheHammer Sat 08-Feb-14 10:43:17

Yes what is it about Friday traffic?!

I have read threads over the years about Audi drivers on MN and just laughed at the generalisations but yesterday I got cut up on 3 separate occasions by 2 Audi A3s and an A4.

I don't even drive during what would be considered rush hours either.

PatTheHammer Sat 08-Feb-14 10:44:33

I do agree that some days you just bump into the wrong mix of people though. This is especially evident at the supermarket.

ShadowOfTheDay Sat 08-Feb-14 10:52:45

Sooooooooooooooo funny though to think of it from the other side though...

Driver 1... thought "silly woman walking behind me when I was reversing... " probably went home cursing you for nearly causing an accident (from HER point of view) ..... shopkeeper thought - how dopey was that and now she's all upset about it best steer clear.....

Driver 2.... thought "silly cow - walking right in front of me when I was setting off " (from HER point of view) and went home with tales of an idiot not paying attention and nearly getting run over....

Bus queue.... thought - "really rude pushy woman trying to get through the bus queue - why couldn't she wait... couldn't she SEE we were waiting to get on a bus and would be gone soon.... she shouted at us and pushed right through... people are sooo rude these days..."

the cyclist was just wrong...


ateddybearfromdelaware1 Sat 08-Feb-14 11:00:41

I had this yesterday!!

A girl walked out of a shop and I was right behind her with buggy. She opened it just enough for herself and walked out closing it in my face.

She then changed her mind and wanted to come back in right after I left so I purposely did what she did back to me (pa but was pissed off)

WanderingAway Sat 08-Feb-14 11:24:50

I find people who are walking have become ruder. Unless i am just noticing it more.

When i am walking and there are two people walking towards me they dont move. This is rude. We were always taught as children (and it is common sense) to move one behind the other if someone is walking towards you on a pavement.

fraiserno Sat 08-Feb-14 11:30:54

honeysweet agree re MN
OP i agree on the whole but have been fortunate to have only had the opposite for a few weeks at present!

Xfirefly Sat 08-Feb-14 11:34:53

I find I have days where everyone is rude but then have days where cars stop to let me cross with buggy, people hold the door open and people step aside for me to pass. I take the rough with the smooth.

SaucyJack Sat 08-Feb-14 11:44:39

It's just car drivers IME.

I remember the days when it used to be normal not to drive full pelt at people who were already crossing the road ahead of you.

Utter cunts the lot of you.

ChubbyFeets Sat 08-Feb-14 11:55:25

shadowoftheday very funny! grin

Well I've noticed drivers on a Friday do get aggressive, I remember driving home from work on a Friday and being more anxious to get home after a tiring week.

I'm going out again later and will see if pedestrians today are normal again!

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 12:06:24

I don't about deliberately rude. My problem is more with people who just don't look where they're going. Sometimes it's like being in a zombie film.

Not just people walking along texting or wearing headphones - but I hate them - but people who step out from shop doorways without looking to see if anyone's coming, or stand still for a moment on the pavement and then suddenly launch off just as you're walking past and bash into you.

They always look bewildered like I've sneaked up on them ninja-style.

I wonder if they drive like that. I'm sure it never used to be like this.

I live near a mainline station - don't get me started on fuckers who can't control their wheely cases.

Littleen Sat 08-Feb-14 12:15:11

Not more rude now than before. I find the rudest people are those over 50 (and worse over 70), so they've been rude for quite some time!

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 12:16:22

WanderingAway Yes. Two women were walking towards me on a narrow pavement yesterday and I got over to one side and the one nearest me to slip back, just a step behind her friend, so we could all pass happily and no one would have to stop, except she didn't and we all came to a halt.

They looked really confused. Not angry. Just no idea of how to share a crowded pavement.

So I seized the opportunity to slip through the small gap between them, poking them both with my umbrella grin

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 12:17:33

That should have read: I got over to one side and expected the one nearest me to slip back

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 12:27:11

The woman in front of me in Sainsbury's the other day was nattering into her mobile and hadn't noticed that the conveyor had cleared enough for her to start loading her shopping on. She was so oblivious she hadn't moved up either.

Suddenly an elderly woman nipped into the gap and loaded her own small basket of shopping on.

I don't know whether it was an accident or deliberate. Deliberate, I expect. In a way I admired it grin.

The phone woman woke up and said to me: 'Did you see that?' all outraged.

I said I had, but I thought I'd let it go but if she wanted to say something...

I was really not going to row with an 80 year old woman in the supermarket and find out she had Alzheimer's or was blind, or something, when if the woman in front had been paying attention it wouldn't have happened.

littledrummergirl Sat 08-Feb-14 12:39:14

Try running the checkouts. Management refuse to employ enough staff and everyone shouts at you because there are queues.
Supermarkets in my experience bring out the worst in people.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 08-Feb-14 12:43:42

I find 'day' people are much nicer than 'evening' people. When i'm pottering about during the day people say hello to me as i pass, they hold doors open and chat to me in a non scary way on the bus.

Then all the angry office workers come out and ruin it.... wink

*disclaimer: when not on mat leave I am also an angry office worker.

Sometimes everyone seems in such an angry hurry. What they are doing is much more important than whatever you are trying to do.
Nobody waits for the green man when crossing the road any more putting everyone in danger.

That car that has to overtake you at all costs, then you catch up with them at the next set of lights/roundabout. What is the point?

ChubbyFeets Sat 08-Feb-14 12:56:54

Oh the green man thing pisses me off. I never cross a busy road without waiting for the lights ever since I had children. Not only because I want to teach them it's good to use the crossings, but because I feel safer. Countless times Im at the lights and cars will slow down and stop when in traffic and gesture to me to cross. I always ignore and wait for the green man. When I don't cross, they zoom through the crossing angrily because I didn't cross when they offered me. I'm a driver myself and would never do this to pedestrians.

It does seem everyone is in a hurry these days.

PollyIndia Sat 08-Feb-14 13:07:08

Some people are definitely rude, but I travel loads with a pushchair on the underground in london, and every time I am struck by how nice people can be. I have had people of all ages and all backgrounds help lug the pushchair up stairs and had all sorts of random conversations.
So I would like to think you were just unlucky.

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 13:07:18

I don't always wait for the green man. I know this annoys people trying to teach their children to cross.

It's just that sometimes there really is nothing coming. Feel free to say: 'Look at that silly lady.'

I'm always a bit peeved when people stand dumbly on the opposite pavement and refuse to step aside to let me out of the road.

But I suppose it would serve me right if I got squashed in front of them.

Oh no, it's the dodging traffic when there is something coming that bothers me limited. If there really is nothing coming from either way I will walk across if I am honest.

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 13:23:11

sparklingbrook I always look both ways but there's one road near me where there's no way I'd walk against the green man.

It's part of a busy one-way system and even if nothing's coming people come round a blind corner so quickly they can be on you in seconds.

I've never seen anyone hit but seen plenty of near-misses and heard plenty of angry tooting - usually from people who are probably going a little bit too fast.

I don't want to be hit and neither to I want to run out of the way looking all sheepish.

MsAspreyDiamonds Sat 08-Feb-14 13:27:39

I was crossing at a zebra crossing with my ds in a buggy when a car just sped through not making any attempt to stop. The female driver wound down the window and told me to "get out of my *&%#@+ way"! Charming. She had two toddlers strapped in childseats at the back.

I was waiting in one of those rope queue things. Two cashiers on the tills. Both serving. The person being served at the second till paid and went to walk off. The man behind me grabbed my elbows from behind and steered me toward the till saying 'that one's free now'. shock

Oh and while I am at it. Parking. If you are waiting for my space please note i have to put my shopping in the car and get in before I can reverse out. So sitting there impatiently indicating doesn't speed things up any. Nor does not giving me enough room to reverse out. hmm

And please don't follow me in your car as I walk across the car park because that is just creepy.

limitedperiodonly Sat 08-Feb-14 13:39:43

The man behind me grabbed my elbows from behind and steered me toward the till saying 'that one's free now'.

Pfft! Nothing. I was at the doctor's and the receptionist said in the packed waiting room: 'If you could just pop your tights off, Limited, it would save doctor time.' shock

I had an infected toe. Last time I ever made small talk with the receptionist about my ailments.

Crowler Sat 08-Feb-14 13:42:26

Pfft! Nothing. I was at the doctor's and the receptionist said in the packed waiting room: 'If you could just pop your tights off, Limited, it would save doctor time.'

Bloody hell. shock

WanderingAway Sat 08-Feb-14 13:53:41

Limited - it is like people walking have no common sense. Where do they expect the people walking towards them to go if they wont move.

JadedAngel Sat 08-Feb-14 13:57:09

Location makes a difference.

I found in Surrey people were often insufferably and shockingly rude whereas in other places I've lived there has been far, far less rudeness (Cardiff, Cornwall and, surprisingly, parts of south London).

manticlimactic Sat 08-Feb-14 14:08:18

So sitting there impatiently indicating doesn't speed things up any. Nor does not giving me enough room to reverse out

I sit there with my indicator on, not impatiently but to let others know I'm waiting for that space. Take all the time you want.

I think I may be projecting a teeny bit mantic. had to strap two DC in as well, all the time the man sat there in his car with his arms crossed and a hmm face while a huge queue of cars built up behind him.

As soon as I started the engine he moved forward giving me hardly any room to get out........

ChubbyFeets Sat 08-Feb-14 14:23:35

limitedperiodonly shock!! I hope you shouted out "no thanks I don't want to expose my INFECTED TOE"!!! God.

The other day in town, I was walking and a couple walked out of a shop and straight into my pushchair and they both stood there and gave me death stares so I laughed back nervously.

Another day my DS threw his comfort cloth out of the pushchair and a woman behind me just walked over it and didnt even pick it up. She was looking down too.

Honeysweet Sat 08-Feb-14 14:32:02

I am still feeling unnerved by the man who manhandled you by the elbows and steered you towards a till, Sparkling.
I told my husband, near the beginning of our marriage, to never do that to me again, after he did it once. Perhaps it is a pet hate of mine.

I know what you mean Honey. I could see full well that the till was becoming free but you have to let the other customer put their purse away and leave. The man must have thought I hadn't noticed or I wasn't quick enough to get over there and hover over the customer.

No need for manhandling is there? sad

BeetlebumShesAGun Sat 08-Feb-14 14:36:09

I had similar experience to limited yesterday in the Post Office. It's one of those that is just a counter in a very small corner shop. It's lunchtime and the queue stretches round the shelves of the shop back to the door. Man at the front of the queue does something to do with car tax but before he pays proceeds to have a lovely twenty minute rant with the cashier about how "anyone could tax a car with no insurance now, gippos could steal a car and tax it with no insurance". Cue much shuffling, foot tapping, sighing. He looked round a few times to see the queue as well. Knob.

I do wish people could complain more quickly though. Just explain to the staff what is wrong, let them speak and try to help.

Don't shout and rant for 15 minutes, going on and on.

Well as it happens I am off to the shops now. I need to exchange something in Burton. I will return to regale you with tales of courtesy and patience........

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