To think you are going to make a hot drink, you should at least boil the friffing kettle?

(75 Posts)
MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 10:49:55


I've wondered for years just what is wrong with the tea/coffee that DH makes for me; there's usually the right amount of milk, sugar and what-not but something is amiss.

Yesterday it all came clunking into place when he was making a coffee for us whilst I was putting some washing in; he doesn't leave the kettle to boil! He takes it off the heat just before it gets to boiling! shock

That is what has been wrong all these years! The lazy arsepart.

Obviously am going to LTB. He doesn't see what is wrong with this which makes it all the more devastating.



MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 10:58:05

Yes, sugar.

I even scrape my spoon around the bottom of the cup as I stir.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Thu 06-Feb-14 10:58:20

When I was a stroppy teenager and saw every request for me to make a cup of tea as tantamount to asking me to donate a kidney, I used to make tea for my parents by using the hot water from the tap.


If I could punch 15 year old me in the tit, I would do it.

ProudAS Thu 06-Feb-14 10:58:37

Is he a coffee drinker by any chance?

DejaVuAllOverAgain Thu 06-Feb-14 10:59:31

Definitely LTB grin

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:01:23

<boak> at hot tap. shock

He sometimes microwaves a cup of water to make a hot drink because the microwave uses less energy than the super-quick kettle we own. hmm

Yes he drinks coffee more often than not but be assured, it's naff all to do with optimum temperature for the coffee. He is just a lazy shit.

AlpacaPicnic Thu 06-Feb-14 11:03:34

I take the kettle off before it boils because I don't like boiling hot drinks and also boiling water makes instant coffee taste burnt.

You could make your own coffee just the way you like it?!

Heathcliff27 Thu 06-Feb-14 11:03:47

You shouldn't have to put up with behaviour like this!

Heres some hand holding.

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:05:52

I could make my own coffee the way I like it but I was under the foolish illusion that in a marriage, making a cup of drink for your spouse was a fair ask.

We split hot drink-making 50/50 FWIW.

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:06:03

Thanks Heathcliff <weeps>

ElleMcFearsome Thu 06-Feb-14 11:06:59

He sometimes microwaves a cup of water to make a hot drink because the microwave uses less energy than the super-quick kettle we own My DH also does this. Why????

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:08:08

I don't know, I don't know... the water always looks cloudy when he makes coffee/tea in the microwave. And it tastes like hotted-up Satan's jizz.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Thu 06-Feb-14 11:09:59

But but but... heating the hot water in a microwave is surely more energy consuming than just boiling one cup's worth in the kettle? You have to judge how long to leave it in for, and then stir it and check it and put it back in etc. There's just no logic to that!

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:11:01

That is what I say to him, Hop.

he is just a nob.

ElleMcFearsome Thu 06-Feb-14 11:12:14

When I suggested getting rid of the unnecessarily huge and ancient microwave (that we never use) he said we had to keep it to heat water in. I give up...

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Thu 06-Feb-14 11:15:07

Yeah, LTB and his manky hot drinks.

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 11:21:21

Our kettle boils in 60 seconds. He heats water up in the microwave for 60 seconds...

You see what I am up against.

TheListingAttic Thu 06-Feb-14 11:25:49

I am weeping for you. I really am. You poor, poor thing. Have brew brew brew - all made properly with proper boiling water!!

PumpkinPie2013 Thu 06-Feb-14 12:21:58

Gross - definitely LTB grin

HopAlongOn the hot tap made me laugh out loud! Did your parents never notice anything odd? smile

I'm lucky that my DH makes amazing cups of tea smile

Here's a brew for all those in need x

Mim78 Thu 06-Feb-14 12:36:03


Our kettle started doing this of own accord. Obviously this meant it was broken and needed to be replaced. The tea that it made with not quite boiling water during this time was horrible so I feel your pain.

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 12:40:44

Like, I can't quite explain what it IS with the water but it's not right?!

It's kind of like gravy.

Lemongrab Thu 06-Feb-14 12:54:04

* 'When I was a stroppy teenager and saw every request for me to make a cup of tea as tantamount to asking me to donate a kidney...'

I'll be sure to show your post to my Dh HopALongOn. Sounds exactly like our dd, and Dh can't understand why she suddenly turns into a stroppy po-faced madam when he asks her to make a cup of tea!

blahblahblah2014 Thu 06-Feb-14 12:59:35

Tea - Kettle must be boiling and poured right away

Coffee - Take it off the boil just before it pops - Otherwise you will burn the coffee (tis true) and it taste funny (unless you add the milk first so it doesn't burn)

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Thu 06-Feb-14 13:05:53

I think they wondered how I always managed to get it at the right drinking temperature.

Bizarrely, whenever I go back and stay with my parents, I still have to resist the urge to strop 'but I have to do everything!!!!' when they ask me to put the kettle on. I'm nearly 30.

Lemongrab Thu 06-Feb-14 13:26:51

HopALongOn grin

Unfortunately for dd, Dh is very particular about his tea (it must be very hot, not too milky or generally weak) and he sends her back to the kitchen to do it again if it doesn't meet his high standards!

Lemongrab Thu 06-Feb-14 13:28:25

Op - Yanbu. Tea made with not quite boiled water? Yuck.

Feminine Thu 06-Feb-14 13:31:42

I feel for you.

While I was pregnant with severe nausea, the only dish I could tolerate was plain spaghetti.

DH used to serve it to me with break neck speed! Found out later that he had been using the water from the hot tap to get it going confused

I was quite done in after finding out. wink

maras2 Thu 06-Feb-14 14:20:36

A few weeks ago DH decided to make me supper < guilty conscience > of chops, veg and instant gravy. So far so good. He made the Bisto granules with water from the tap as he'd run out of patience. He then poured said tepid, clotty gravy all over the food. It looked like brown frogspawn. He's usually a good cook but on this occasion was very , very pissed , hence the guilty conscience.

Coffee shouldn't be made with boiling water as it scolds it....therefore your DH is making coffee correctly. You are not.

Tea on the other hand should be boiling.

GlitzAndGiggles Thu 06-Feb-14 14:33:01

Oh no you poor thing! No one should have to put up with this! Next time you're making the hot drinks he can have hot sodding tap water! I'm a coffee drinker btw but it has to come out the boiling kettle!

GlitzAndGiggles Thu 06-Feb-14 14:34:49

Feminine I use tap water to boil pasta blush

LilacBreastedRoller Thu 06-Feb-14 14:36:45

Eurgh. I bet you are sat there in tears. <hand holdzz>

Enb76 Thu 06-Feb-14 14:40:27

Scolds it... Brilliant. I can just imagine the water giving the coffee a good telling off.

ViviPru Thu 06-Feb-14 14:46:14

Our kettle is being a dick atm. It doesn't automatically flick off when it boils so every usage is a guess at optimal temperature....

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 14:53:14

Thanks for the support hunz. Haterz fuk of.

"Coffee shouldn't be made with boiling water as it scolds it....therefore your DH is making coffee correctly. You are not."

HA! Well, I put the milk in first so it does not scald it. HA!

LOL at kettles being dicks.

I am doing the hot water tap thing tonight. Rewengay will be MINE.

ComposHat Thu 06-Feb-14 14:58:06

I don't drink tea. But coffee shouldn't be made with boiling water. Coffee made with boiling water is rank and tastes bitter.

starfishmummy Thu 06-Feb-14 15:01:49

I always have coffee if Dh is making it because he thinks that boiling the kettle and then leaving it ten minutes before makes the drink is fine.
If I say anything, he always says it has boiled.

(Can I suggest that if it tastes different it has been scalded, hence it tasting just prefer the taste of scalded coffee...nothing wrong with that but the correct statement would be that dh does not make coffee how I like it rather than him making it wrong...many argue that the volume of milk is insufficient to disipate enough heat and prevent scalding)

LilacBreastedRoller Thu 06-Feb-14 15:02:09

Clamp a hot water bottle between you thighs for twenty mins then use the water out of that.

starfishmummy Thu 06-Feb-14 15:04:45

Enb the premises manager at my office has put a big notice on the water boiler, saying that hot water scolds
No one dares to take it down though!! I may have to take my red marker pen in one day!!

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 15:05:30

WTF though? My stove-top coffee maker boils the water.

MarmaladeShatkins Thu 06-Feb-14 15:06:24

Also, you must boil the water and then leave it for a couple of minutes if we're doing things properly. But the water must have been boiled.

MrsVamos Thu 06-Feb-14 15:12:03

Don't boil a kettle to make coffee ?

Really ?

I put coffee whitener in mine, then add milk afterwards.

I am clearly a heathen.

I have never, ever heard that boiling water scalds coffee. Are we talking about instant coffee, or 'proper' coffee ?

I have got to nearly 40 and never knew this.

What about hot chocolate ? Although everybody knows hot chocolate is best when made with milk, squirty cream on top and flake sprinkles/marshmallows.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh !

MinesAPintOfTea Thu 06-Feb-14 15:14:17
MinesAPintOfTea Thu 06-Feb-14 15:14:38
lyingpartnerworries Thu 06-Feb-14 16:03:42

At my parents....

1. Turn tap on, let water run for 5 minutes to clear the pipes!!!!

2. Rinse kettle out, fill up required amount.

3. Boil kettle

4. Tea - Warm pot,

5. Empty kettle, fill kettle, boil kettle

6. Tea in teapot, boiling water in. Brew. Milk in cups then pour tea in.
Coffee - leave for a few minutes then make

We must always use fresh water as pre-boiled water tastes different and spoils the taste.

We get constant remarks like - 'have you run the tap', 'is it fresh water', 'did you warm the pot' etc. did you let it brew long enough etc.

I want to scream at them - Make your own flippin' tea!

HobbetInTheHeadlights Thu 06-Feb-14 16:27:53

DH reheats cold coffee - left and forgotten or left over from peculator thingy. Tastes rank at least to me- I don't know why but he won't have it - its a variation on the you can't be cold because I'm not argument we sometimes have.

When DD1 was bf DH took to bringing me breakfast in bed - so I'd wake up I think - couldn't work out what the issue was with the porridge and why it seemed to be disagreeing with my digestive system so much.

Turned out he was taking the oats - and pouring hot water over them then serving them.

ZingSweetApple Thu 06-Feb-14 16:47:12

I just want to say I like the word friffing

it's good.

that's all

Think she may have stoled it, Zing.


LittleBabyPigsus Fri 07-Feb-14 01:58:25

When I was homeless and in a B&B, I only had a kettle to making food with so I drank a lot of tea. When it broke I had to use the hot tap. I'm sure you can feel my pain MNetters sad

LittleBabyPigsus Fri 07-Feb-14 01:58:34

^for making food with

HelpTheSnailsAreComingToGetMe Fri 07-Feb-14 02:34:39

*How I make tea*:

Empty kettle of any old water while checking for loose scale - swill to remove, if any.

Fill from cold tap.

Put tea bags and sweeteners/sugar if desired in mugs.

Boil kettle - once boiled, pour over bags immediately. Stir enough to get bags swirling and take spoon out. Brew 3-4 minutes.

Remove bags, gently holding against side of mug until they stop dripping.

Add milk to taste. Serve and enjoy.

*How DP makes tea*:

Take kettle full of manky cold water and scale, and fill to the brim from tap. No need to make sure it's running cold; it's only going to be boiled, isn't it?

Add tea bags and sweetener to mugs, preferably ones already damp with washing-up water or random previous drinks. Set kettle to boil. Wander off.

Return to kitchen and notice water has gone lukewarm. Set kettle to boil again.

Pour hot water into mugs; about two thirds of the way up is ample. Stir, but leave the spoon in one of the mugs to make sure the water can't circulate.

Wait 60-90 seconds. Alternatively, at this stage you can wander off until the tea is stewed and nearly cold.

Add the milk. Stir a little, then squeeze the bags like a motherfucker to make sure you extract all the astringent tannins.

Deposit milk-seeping tea bags in a small cup, leaving the teaspoon with them so it develops an attractive dark brown patina.

Place mug on table far enough away from partner that from the angle she's at, assuming you've been careful not to fill the mug to within an inch of the rim, it looks like an empty mug and she doesn't realise it's a fresh cup of tea until it's cold.


HelpTheSnailsAreComingToGetMe Fri 07-Feb-14 02:37:06

Bold fail sad

scantilymad Fri 07-Feb-14 05:42:58

I used to put cold water on coffee granules to make a paste before pouring on boiled water to stop the scorching. Am now a Nespresso snob but imo the best coffee in the world is made by my DM. A mug of milk heated in the microwave with coffee stirred in at the last minute. Beautifully frothy and a drink reserved for poorly days off school.

ZingSweetApple Fri 07-Feb-14 06:07:21


copy dat


Misspixietrix Fri 07-Feb-14 07:22:30

Yep! LTB.

MadAsFish Fri 07-Feb-14 07:32:48

I just want to say I like the word friffing

I'm enjoying rewengay

At least your Dh doesn't say he's making a cuppa and go boil the kettle thereby using all the energy needed to boil a kettle. Leave for 20 minutes then go back and as the water has cooled boil it all over again therefore wasting more energy and money
Drives me potty and makes me cross. He also leaves the light on in a room and walks away and leaves his radio on. He also never puts the bathroom back the the way he found it when he has a bath.
Phew I feel better for getting that off my chest.
Yanbu by the way.

DuchessFanny Fri 07-Feb-14 07:48:50

I've got one of those fancy kettles that does different temperatures, which is brilliant when you all want the same hot drink ... Plus we never use the green tea button and there's another button too that I can't be bothered to go and look at to see what it is.
I sometimes get jaw-clenchy if I see a member of the family press the tea button for coffee or visa versa.
Someone mentioned hot milk and coffee - definitely the way to do coffee - lovely !

ComposHat Fri 07-Feb-14 13:36:37

So do we. Brilliant isn't it? I feel a bit buck Rodgers in the 21st century when I make a drink!

Seff Fri 07-Feb-14 13:50:38

To make tea and coffee is simple, no? Boil kettle, pour over teabag. Leave to brew. Remove teabag, then use the ever so slightly cooled kettle water to make coffee.

Although, I have 2 sugars in my brews so it makes sod all difference what I do to them. In our house, the kettle is usually boiled at least twice per brew anyway because we're forgetful. Or we're playing "who's going to make the brews chicken" A game I like to play when DD wants breastfeeding. "Sorry DH, I can't possibly get up to make them!"

Misspixietrix Fri 07-Feb-14 14:40:26

Help grin.

LittleBabySqueakSqueak Fri 07-Feb-14 15:31:39

My uncle has a special tap for boiling water. I'm deeply suspicious of it but haven't been to visit since they had it installed.

MrsVamos Fri 07-Feb-14 17:11:56


Great name !

Completely agree re coffee made with milk.

Being the heathen that I am, I only have it occasionally. DH will sometimes make me one just before bed, but I get all

Surely milky drink before bed = good. Coffee = bad. ?!

ApacheIndian Fri 07-Feb-14 18:56:41

like a motherfucker grin

winterhat Fri 07-Feb-14 19:41:29

YANBU. Print out some instructions and leave by the kettle!

Don't see why it would make a difference cooking spaghetti from the hot tap water, it's the same water.

However, wouldn't like a tepid brew, yuk.

whitesugar Fri 07-Feb-14 22:22:45

I feel your pain Marmalade! I would LTB. I take my tea so seriously and I expect my loved ones to make it exactly how I like it. In the early days when my now teenage DC started making tea I regularly sent them back to the kitchen. My DD is a bit flaky and sometimes will still bring me a cup of swill. When I send it back she looks at me like she could kill me. I am suspicious that she spits in it when she makes the new cup. I bought myself a book for Christmas called Put the Kettle On and it is all short stories about people who love their tea and how tea is about so much more than just a hot drink. I have told a few people about this book and they look at me like I am missing a few screws. My DCs just shook their heads!

One day in work about 10 years ago the electricity went off. Myself and my colleagues were all fine and laughing until half ten came and went. By 11 o'clock we were climbing the walls. We actually had to leave our workplace to get some tea. Another time I went to visit a friend in hospital who had just had a really serious heart attack. He told me that he had to lie on his back for 6 weeks and was not allowed to sit up. Instead of consoling him I was horrified with the thought that if that happened to me it would mean I wouldn't be able to have a cup of tea. As I am writing this post I realise that very soon I am going to find myself amongst a group of people in a room saying 'My name is whitesugar and I am addited to tea'.

DuchessFanny Sun 09-Feb-14 11:47:23

Thank you mrsvamos I stole it from a character in a book.

My DH is always offering a coffee just before bed, I'm all confused it's because his parents only ever drink coffee ( we have to buy in extra when they visit !) or alcohol ( we always have that in the house - obvs !)

nickymanchester Sun 09-Feb-14 11:59:06


Do you mind me asking, what's the name of your fancy kettle?

DuchessFanny Sun 09-Feb-14 12:15:43

It's a solis, my friend has one and I always liked it, so when my last ( hated !) kettle died i got one.

Pigsmummy Sun 09-Feb-14 12:22:47

For coffee you are not meant to boil the water, just before boiling is perfect. For tea the water needs to boil and never boiled twice. I read this in a 1970's Good Housekeeping book, maybe he read the same book?

nickymanchester Sun 09-Feb-14 12:39:41

Thank you Duchess

DuchessFanny Sun 09-Feb-14 12:49:26


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