To quite like having hairy armpits?

(89 Posts)
WingedPig Tue 28-Jan-14 20:40:22

I've always had hair free armpits but have left them to grow free for the last couple of months. I have decided I actually quite like it, I feel quite feminine and liberated. AIBU? Does anyone else feel like this?

KungFuBustle Tue 28-Jan-14 20:41:44

Yanbu, you like whatever you like. Your body, nothing unreasonable about that at all. smile

TalkieToaster Tue 28-Jan-14 20:41:52

Me! I've never let them grow for more than a month or two, but I like it.

Joysmum Tue 28-Jan-14 20:43:14

I don't.

I think my pits are more likely to stink if left unshaved. So from a cleanliness POV I prefer shaving.

DustyBaubles Tue 28-Jan-14 20:44:41

I've done it through sheer laziness, but I think it stops my anti-perspirant working as effectively.

There must be so much hair, that the stuff it doesn't even get through to the skin blush

Shallishanti Tue 28-Jan-14 20:44:49

YANBU
haven't shaved mine for about 40 years!
and I don't smell.

McFox Tue 28-Jan-14 20:45:03

I epilate so I always need to let them grow out a bit before I do, and I like it smile

Bearfrills Tue 28-Jan-14 20:46:06

I don't grow armpit hair, they're just naturally bald except when I'm pregnant, then I get half a dozen pathetic little wisps that fall out virtually as soon as the baby is born sad

FancyAnOlive Tue 28-Jan-14 20:46:07

I like my hairy armpits too. I don't know why but I have noticed that mine are much smellier if I shave them!

DaddyPigsMistress Tue 28-Jan-14 20:48:54

Epilating armpits?!

Yoy must be well ard!

I did a small section of my leg once and cried hysterically

woodlandsprite14 Tue 28-Jan-14 20:50:57

Yuck, it sounds disgusting to me. I know it's social conditioning that's made me feel like that but I always feel sick when I see hairy armpits.

WingedPig Tue 28-Jan-14 20:56:25

Funnily enough I don't really like having hairy legs, I prefer them smooth.

I'm surprised so many women feel so comfortable having hairy armpits smile, can I ask, do you feel as comfortable with hairy legs?

Are there any cultures where women don't shave their armpits?

DioneTheDiabolist Tue 28-Jan-14 20:57:47

Mostly it's down to laziness, but I have to acknowledge I get a fair degree of satisfaction shaving my hairy (as opposed to stubbly) armpits.

JohnCusacksWife Tue 28-Jan-14 20:59:43

Ugh, hate hairy armpits....

TalkieToaster Tue 28-Jan-14 21:00:17

I don't feel as comfortable with hairy legs. Probably because it's a larger surface area and depending on clothes, the hair is obvious. No-one sees my armpit hair.

DaleyBump Tue 28-Jan-14 21:00:25

I hate having my armpits hairy, I feel really uncomfortable. I wish I liked it but I just don't.

DesperatelySeekingSanity Tue 28-Jan-14 21:01:52

Why on earth would women's deodorants/antiperspirants not work on hairy puts when men's do?

Or are all men smelly because they don't shave?

Kleptronic Tue 28-Jan-14 21:05:08

Bloody good point Desperately.

Never shave mine, deodorant works. I just stink of fags!

ateddybearfromdelaware1 Tue 28-Jan-14 21:05:39

I don't shave mine in the winter much, no point. But in summer with little tops on I do

CoffeeTea103 Tue 28-Jan-14 21:07:52

Yuck would not want to see anyone else's hairy pits so I definitely do mine. Have lasered so no more worries.

mindalina Tue 28-Jan-14 21:08:53

yes! love my hairy armpits smile as you do. no not quite as comfortable with hairy legs but i did leave them alone for several months and did become a lot more comfortable about it - still don't like leg hair like i do armpit hair though

(i sound like a weirdo)

McFox Tue 28-Jan-14 21:09:33

I agree with Fancy, mine seem smellier if I shave, that's why I stopped!

5OBalesofHay Tue 28-Jan-14 21:09:55

Have never removed any body hair (chin whiskers are different)

FancyAnOlive Tue 28-Jan-14 21:11:04

I shave my legs in summer, can't be bothered in winter though. I know this is a minority opinion but I actually really dislike the look of shaved armpits on anyone and far prefer hairy.

MaeMobley Tue 28-Jan-14 21:13:57

I don't like hairy armpits. I fantasize about having "Dove" armpits but I love having hairy legs. I like the hairs being blond.

WingedPig Tue 28-Jan-14 21:14:03

I wouldn't be brave enough to go out with hairy armpits exposed - sad really.....

ateddybearfromdelaware1 Tue 28-Jan-14 21:18:02

An old yoga teacher used to have the bushiest armpits that I couldn't take my eyes off. She was hardcore doing all the poses, not caring or conforming. That's hardcore ;)

mindalina Tue 28-Jan-14 21:20:10

see i think i could manage exposing my hairy armpits to the world, but i would struggle to expose hairy legs. it is weird

Devora Tue 28-Jan-14 21:22:05

I feel very comfortable with underarm hair - my own or other people's. I only bother shaving if they're going to be on show, and that is purely because of the social pressure.

I cannot in a million years see what is disgusting about it.

woodlandsprite14 Tue 28-Jan-14 21:24:22

It looks like a mans armpit, I just think to so unattractive.

Up to you.

I'm quite happy with leg hair I can plait but I shave my armpits. It is conditioning, I know.

It's not unreasonable at all, though!

Commander6 Tue 28-Jan-14 21:28:20

Dont like it at all. But am not remotely bothered whether others have it or not.

GiniCooper Tue 28-Jan-14 21:28:57

Hate it, although mine aren't very hairy anyway.
DH shaves his pits and also trims his pubes, it's not just a 'lady' thing.
He's almost 40 I'm 36, in case that's relevant to anyone.

volestair Tue 28-Jan-14 21:32:23

DP strokes mine when they're furry. smile

DukeSilver Tue 28-Jan-14 21:39:23

I don't bother shaving mine. I like it, dp doesn't care. I'm not a very sweaty person so it's not at all unhygienic. I hairy legs and an untamed muff too, feel very comfortable with it all.

Growing up I never say my mum with un-hairy legs or armpits so it was how I first saw the female body, that's probably the reason I have no qualms about it.

BOFtastic Tue 28-Jan-14 21:43:19

I rather like it too- it's only a bit of fluff, and not very dark. Likewise everywhere else. I have to be quite bored to shave anything, and if I do, I invariably get painful spots a day or two later, so it hardly seems worth it. I have never had any complaints.

FragglerockAmpersand Tue 28-Jan-14 21:45:01

I have armpit hair. There's not much of it. I think au naturel looks rather erotic and transgressive, like something that would turn on Toulouse Lautrec or Degas grin

Always shave my legs, mind. Not political for me really: more aesthetic.

pookamoo Tue 28-Jan-14 21:46:07

I left mine for ages [lazy] and then when I got round to shaving them, my deodorant felt all slimy when I put it on. Def prefer unshaved armpits in the winter.

elfycat Tue 28-Jan-14 21:50:10

I've been lazy for a while and I quite like armpit hair, but I do think I'm a bit smellier. That might be a hormone peri-menopausal thing rather than the hair.

I've also got hairy leg and DD2 (3) was stroking them saying 'nice' so I have approval over that, but haven't had any of it out in public.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 28-Jan-14 21:50:20

I am a lasered hair free zone, and love it.
I loathe dh's armpit hair...at least he trims it back like leylandi regularly.

SomethingOnce Tue 28-Jan-14 21:50:38

Yuck would not want to see anyone else's hairy pits so I definitely do mine. Have lasered so no more worries.

Anyone's or any woman's?

IceBeing Tue 28-Jan-14 21:53:55

Hairy armpits here....and legs....

I definitely smell way better with my body hair doing its antibacterial business than removing the protection and replacing it with 'orrible chemicals...

DayAfterYesterday Tue 28-Jan-14 21:55:07

I don't think I've ever had hairy pits, I shave them every other day without fail always have so no chance for hair to grow, I'd be rather put of a woman with hairy pits and prefer it minimal on men. Each to their own though as with any body hair

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking Tue 28-Jan-14 21:58:02

I can not remember the last time I had armpit hair. I just routinely shave them everyday in the shower. No offence at all to anyone who likes the fluff but I just couldn't go a day without shaving (everywhere).

I do love my dp's armpit hair though, I stroke and play with it often.

Weegiemum Tue 28-Jan-14 22:02:39

2 years ago I developed a neurological illness tat reduces the sensation in my skin.

I basically can't shave as if I knick/cut/graze I can't feel it and then I end up with infections.

My lower legs are badly scarred from all my falls over the last while and I wear trousers/long skirts/maxi dresses so feel no need to shave my legs (though at my 6-weekly pedicure with the podiatrist she waxes my hobbit-like toes!) and underarms are so complex I'd have to get dh to do it and ...... No ...... Just no!!

SecretNutellaFix Tue 28-Jan-14 22:08:52

I had to stop shaving when I had a massive allergic reaction to spray deodorant a couple of years ago. Basically the whole area debrided and for ages afterwards the new skin was too sensitive to touch more than gently with a roll on deodorant.

I recently tried a new one and the same thing happened.

I shave underarms and legs every single day. Neither are ever on show though, even in summer I am completely covered up and DH only sees me with the lights off grin Just cannot stand the feel of body hair! I used to shave my arms too but realised there was so little there it wasn't worth the extra time so stopped.

That said I don't think there is anything unreasonable with liking body hair, its personal surely?

Ilovexmastime Tue 28-Jan-14 22:11:32

I only bother shaving my pits if I'm wearing a sleeveless top, so not often in the winter. It doesn't bother me at all, I don't notice it really. I definitely smell more of sweat when they're shaved though.

ouryve Tue 28-Jan-14 22:11:53

I prefer the feeling with hair. Less sticky and less smell prone. I get horrible BO when I do shave.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 28-Jan-14 22:14:32

I have hairy pits, 70's bush and hairy legs
don't think it is anyones' call just mine. every now and then I shave them cos I want to then they grow out again

that said because I am a bit of a wierdo I measured the length of my ubes the otherday and they are over 3 inches long and dead straight.

pussycatdoll Tue 28-Jan-14 22:17:47

How do people have the time or inclination to do it everyday ???
I do it about 6 times a year
Legs included
Never wear skirts or shorts though

SoulJacker Tue 28-Jan-14 22:23:48

I go through phases of trying to grow mine just for fun. It never seems to get beyond half a cm though which is rather disappointing.

MostWicked Tue 28-Jan-14 22:43:14

I don't like hairy arm pits or hairy legs. It just feels better smooth.
But it is entirely up to every woman to choose for themselves.
I don't think feminism is even relevant.

SPsMrLoverManSHABBA Tue 28-Jan-14 22:46:34

I shave it they are going to be in the public eye. My legs currently have a fur coat on as they do most of winter grin

I don't like having hairy puts though really. Annoys me more.

irishe Tue 28-Jan-14 23:00:44

Hairy everything here. I was a seventies child, and I don't remember hair removal ever being important. Times seem to have changed for the younger generation though, it's as much as I can cope with in the morning to get up, get showered, get dc up, grab breakfast to eat in car. The thought of de fuzzing everything in the shower every morning does not compute! But each to their own of course.

GatoradeMeBitch Wed 29-Jan-14 00:00:29

70s child here too. It makes me laugh when young women act so repulsed and 'eewwwwwwww!' about body hair, I just wonder how they can cope with their boyfriends' bodies!

I'll shave my armpits and legs if I'll be walking round in public with them out on display, just because I don't want to be bothered by judgey randoms, but otherwise my follicles are left in peace. A GP friend of mine actually told me that body hair reduces body odour, and I never get B.O so I think she's right!

stilllearnin Wed 29-Jan-14 00:16:15

I actually managed to frighten my daughter with mine- she was unexpectedly confronted by them during a cuddle!! Currently clean shaven because I am very hairy and, honestly, if i let it go you could plait it!

learnasyougo Wed 29-Jan-14 00:17:40

dp won't let me shave my pits. well, he doesn't forbid it, but he's let me know he'd be disappointed if I did. so I don't (lazy). then I did for some do and hated the sticky feeling and definitely smellier, sweatier, stickier without hair than with. so I haven't shaved again since (4 years ago).

however, it does bother me what others think. . it keeps nee getting swimming and I never go sleeveless anymore sad

sykadelic15 Wed 29-Jan-14 03:32:53

Bacteria under the arm is why it smells and the hair helps trap more bacteria and thus it smells worse. Total fact.

Most likely those saying that shaving makes it worse are either caking on the deodorant so it's coating your armpit hair, or thinking that no hair means you don't have to wash under your arm.

The only time my underarms smell is if I forgot to put deodorant on (which happened once and even then it wasn't majorly vile or obvious because I keep my armpits clean).

nooka Wed 29-Jan-14 03:50:54

I very rarely touch my armpit hair because I hate the feeling when it's bald. Too sticky and too sensitive. Plus it does feel more smelly to me, and that's not because I treat my armpits any differently when they are shaved than when they are hairy. I never wear deodorant/antiperspirant and I shower every other day. I'm not a very sweaty person, and when I do sweat I don't smell (I have dry earwax and so genetically have lower BO).

In case you imagine I delude myself on this I can tell you I do have smelly feet and my family are very relaxed about telling me about them!

I use veet when I very occasionally wear summer dresses that show off armpits, and I hate doing it, but the dislike of armpit hair is so strong I don't feel that I can do anything else. I take the same approach to my legs and shave when I feel anything else is unavoidable. Given the choice I would leave them alone too.

MadIsTheNewNormal Wed 29-Jan-14 03:55:24

YANBU to like them for yourself, whatever floats your boat and all that, but don't be the least bit surprised if they disgust and bemuse everyone else.

MadIsTheNewNormal Wed 29-Jan-14 03:59:17

nooka I'm sorry but I bet you smell more than you think you do. I am not a very sweaty/smelly person at all and if I skip a shower one day no-one would be any the wiser, but only if I wore deodorant. It would be another matter if I didn't.

And if you have smelly feet to the point where others are mentioning it then perhaps you should be showering daily? hmm

Or at least washing your feet.

Someone always manages to amaze me with their cavalier attitude to personal hygiene on these threads.

MadIsTheNewNormal Wed 29-Jan-14 04:02:52

Yes sykadelic on the odd occasion I have forgotten the deodorant by the afternoon (esp. if it's a warm day) I am aware of a low-level muskiness but it's probably only me who can smell it, if I stick my nose in there - I doubt it's obvious to others. But on the second day with no shower, it would be a whole lot less pleasant.

bryte Wed 29-Jan-14 07:38:10

YANBU

Labeling women's unshaven armpits disgusting seems a bit of an extreme reaction.

Armpits with hair do not smell more. Body hair is designed to pull bacteria away from the skin, where it does smell. I've always shaved my armpits but over the past few months, for some reason, stopped shaving them. I kept meaning to, but then I realised that I did not smell under my arms at all with longer hair there. I use deodorant but can sweat in situations which make me nervous. Recently I had to do one of those cringy team building days at work and I could feel myself sweating, but there was no smell because it didn't stay on my skin. I couldn't believe it when I got home. I even sniffed my clothes that night!

I don't know how anyone can 'feel' that they have hair under their arms. I think armpit hair can look womanly but I'm so conditioned by the 'disgusting' reactions that I would never venture out publicly with hairy pits on show. I could happily drop wearing sleeveless clothing but swimming would be a problem. Do they make non-sleeveless swimsuits!?

GatoradeMeBitch Wed 29-Jan-14 10:12:55

I think as long as someone showers daily there's no need to worry about body odour anyway.

I couldn't get away with washing every other day though, but more power to you nooka if you can! smile

WingedPig Wed 29-Jan-14 11:22:13

I find it depressing that we're so conditioned to think women's bodies should look a certain way that even women themselves find body hair disgusting.

goblindancer Wed 29-Jan-14 12:32:25

I hate hairy armpits on me. I shave armpits and lady garden every day and legs twice a week so am always smooth! It just feels nicer!
I don't care what others do though would probably do a double take at a woman with hairy armpits because it's so unusual.

I like men with hairfree armpits too- they smell nicer !

Ilovexmastime Wed 29-Jan-14 12:32:28

"Most likely those saying that shaving makes it worse are either caking on the deodorant so it's coating your armpit hair, or thinking that no hair means you don't have to wash under your arm."

err, no actually. I'm well aware I still need to wash and I spray on the same amount of deodorant whether I've shaved or not. It's definitely never "caked on" hmm.

TheWitTank Wed 29-Jan-14 12:46:59

I don't think hairy armpits or legs on a lady are a bad/ugly thing, but I prefer to be clean shaven in all areas. Nothing to do with pleasing my husband or being universally accepted, just because I like the way it feels. I feel cleaner and fresher hairless, and it doesn't bother me shaving every day at all.

MostWicked Wed 29-Jan-14 14:52:31

What I can't work out, is what grooming is a woman allowed to do, in order to be considered a feminist and not a victim of social pressure?

Brush hair, style hair, cut hair, colour hair?
Shower daily?
Pluck eyebrows?
Remove facial hair?
Trim nails, file & buff nails, paint nails?
Wear make up?
Camouflague scars?
Wear jewellery?
What clothes are purely practical?
At what point do clothes become too sexy to be feminist?

If a man grooms, has he sold out on his masculinity.

Why can't I just shave my legs because I prefer the feel of it? They are never on display in winter, so it doesn't worry me what they look like.

I think I like being female too much to be a feminist, if being a feminist means that I can't do any grooming beyond what is needed to stay healthy.

LurcioLovesFrankie Wed 29-Jan-14 15:26:54

Thing is, Most, that's a hell of a long list. Which is fine if you like that sort of thing, so the time spent doing it is enjoyable to you. But if that sort of level of grooming doesn't entertain you, why feel forced to by social pressures.

From your list:
I shower every day (basic hygiene).
Remove facial hair (because we are all subject to conditioning, and I feel unfeminine with a beard and moustache - would be nice to live in some sort of utopia where I didn't feel that way, but I do).
Occasionally wear jewellery because it's pretty.
Occasionally wear something other than a top which doesn't need ironed and jeans, again because it's pretty, and sometimes even hairy menopausal feminists like to feel pretty grin.

But that's about it. What do I do with the time I save? A precious extra 20 minutes in bed, which with a 5 yo is badly needed!

But if you like those things, I don't see what's wrong with doing them. That's fine.

Feminists aren't going to stand up and say "don't do them." What they might say is "but we'd like to be free to make the point that you don't choose to do these things in a cultural vacuum, free from any social pressures, and isn't it interesting that the typical male grooming regime (one of my male friends described this as 'shit, shower, shave') takes much, much less time than the typical female grooming regime?"

LurcioLovesFrankie Wed 29-Jan-14 15:29:48

PS I should add the hairs I really hate are the ones under my double chin because they're so bloody hard to get at and grow to mammoth proportions.

Strangely, I am totally laid back about going swimming with my hairy armpits, and like others on this thread, have found that when I shave, my pits feel uncomfortably clammy and seem to sweat more.

Lydiejo Wed 29-Jan-14 15:32:49

Hairy armpits are supposed to smell less. The hair helps wick sweat away from the body. (Although I shave mine about once a week.)

Fakebook Wed 29-Jan-14 15:33:35

I feel feminine and liberated without hairy armpits.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism Wed 29-Jan-14 15:40:53

Hairy armpits (only on a woman, presumably) disgust and bemuse!

John Ruskin, you walk among us.

sleepyhead Wed 29-Jan-14 16:04:02

I only shave when I can be bothered, which is if I go swimming or wear sleeveless tops, and only then because I know some random woman will be looking at me and thinking ewwwwwww (I know this because people on here tell me that's what they think wink). Don't know why I care about the opinion of this random woman, but I do. Conditioning probably. Mustn't make a scene, must conform.

The rest of the time I'm happily fuzzy. It's not that much fuzz, 1cm long maybe? It feels quite silky and nice actually.

Daykin Wed 29-Jan-14 16:07:47

I don't like my armpits to be hairy but I love them on other women I find it a massive turn on

YANBU op.

Anyone who thinks you must smell has clearly only been with men who reek (or shave their armpits I guess). Unless people think women smel worse than men?

nooka Thu 30-Jan-14 02:20:09

Sorry my personal hygiene upsets you Mad, but no I do not smell nor do I need to use deodorant because I don't have smelly armpits, whether they are shaved or hairy.

My feet smell when it's hot in the summer and of course I wash them frequently then. I only mentioned that because otherwise I knew I'd get people telling me that of course I am smelly and disgusting because I am blind to it, I'm not, I am perfectly capable of recognising when I have bodily odour, and have plenty of people who would tell me if there was a problem. I shower every other day because otherwise my skin gets quite painfully dry. It's not good for skin to shower too frequently and it wastes a lot of water too.

Some interesting research: www.theguardian.com/science/sifting-the-evidence/2013/feb/14/wasting-money-deodorant-ears

MadIsTheNewNormal Thu 30-Jan-14 03:18:28

But you could wash instead? On the second day. No need to not wssh at all, especially if you don't ever wear deodorant.

Ilovexmastime Thu 30-Jan-14 07:33:28

I'm pretty sure that you can be a feminist and still be a victim of societal pressure. I am smile

Joysmum Thu 30-Jan-14 09:26:38

I know personally I smell more when my pits are hairy. I'm pretty active and shower a couple of times a day even with shaven pits.

Like to shave my pubes too (already been flamed for that on another thread!) but don't bother with my legs so it's not about looks for me.

The hair slows down the evaporation process and can I sweat a lot. It also prevents antiperspirant from being applied to the skin where it is most effective which is a double whammy.

If I didn't benefit from shaving, I wouldn't do it, razors are really expensive and it's time consuming and not great for the skin.

I feel sorry for those of you who feel put defensive for not needing to shave (not a good feeling and something I hated when on the public hair thread), you are actually the lucky ones and I'm very envious. smile

IceBeing Thu 30-Jan-14 09:53:40

The hair slows down the evaporation process

This is simply the opposite of true.

You may well smell less with shaven armpits (its a big world and everyone is different) but hair improves evaporation. Thats its job.

IceBeing Thu 30-Jan-14 09:58:16

bryte your experience exactly mirrors mine. I get sweaty in pressure situations and seem to have some sort of reaction to most deodorants that makes me smell even worse.

I stopped shaving on maternity leave and it was SUCH a revelation.

Regarding swimming - I wouldn't worry about it. I have never noticed anyone else's body hair while swimming....too much water and everyone is busy doing their own thing.

I have been swimming for two years now with hairy pits and had only a couple of random comments (and that might have been about the leg hair tbh!) and only in the scummiest of the local pools I tried out.

puddock Thu 30-Jan-14 10:06:21

That's really interesting about the body hair being designed to wick bacteria/moisture, it bears out my own impression that I'm more smelly when I do shave. I don't remove hair from my oxters unless some occasion seems to demand it (e.g. being friend's bridesmaid in sleeveless frock).
I started using salt deodorant when I had a newborn and trying to cut down on chemicals, and it's surprisingly effective, hairy or not, so I still use it five years later smile

puddock Thu 30-Jan-14 10:08:13

oh yes and I go swimming all the time, both doing lengths by myself and splashing about with DSs. I don't expect other people to be peering too closely, or concerning themselves with other people's underarms, and I'm mostly underwater anyway!

ClockWatchingLady Thu 30-Jan-14 10:17:16

Yep, I'm another one who likes her hairy pits. I don't even think about it now, until I see someone looking surprised/horrified at the gym smile.

However, I can't, for some reason, completely get used to letting my leg hair grow (it's very thick and dark), but I'd like to comfortable with it one day.

Shallishanti Thu 30-Jan-14 11:39:16

what are oxters??

puddock Thu 30-Jan-14 17:04:33

oxters = armpits
www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/oxter

Much nicer word IMO wink

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