AIBU to have unfriended someone on FB for posting a "900 days til my wedding" status

(54 Posts)
dontsqueezetheteabag Mon 27-Jan-14 16:37:44

Seriously.... FFS.

I would not be able to stand the constant countdown. July 2016. Live in the now!!

MammaTJ Mon 27-Jan-14 16:38:43

It is a tad previous and would bug me! YANBU

TessTackle Mon 27-Jan-14 16:39:16

900 days seems such a bloody long time to count down!
I think it would make me less excited really.

5Foot5 Mon 27-Jan-14 16:39:38

Wow do people seriously need nearly three years to plan a wedding now? This is going to be one hell of a bridezilla!!!

LightsPlease Mon 27-Jan-14 16:40:14

Shes excited bless her.

Tigerstripes Mon 27-Jan-14 16:41:49

I don't have the patience to wait that long for something! I would just have to not think about it at all. Definitely not post fb statuses about it!

CaptainCunt Mon 27-Jan-14 16:42:54

Someone on my feed did a year long countdown to someone ELSE'S wedding at which she was a bridesmaid. I blocked her after a month.

jacks365 Mon 27-Jan-14 16:43:31

Yabvu just think of all the aibu you could have amused us with in that time grin

I take it that she isn't a nutter who hasn't met the OH yet?

StrawberryCheese Mon 27-Jan-14 16:43:55

I had three and a half years to plan my wedding blush but that was mainly saving money. I did post something similar on FB to that but I was taking the piss out of the situation more than anything! I knew hoe ridiculous it was, perhaps you're friend is the doing the same?

StrawberryCheese Mon 27-Jan-14 16:44:43

*how not hoe

MammaTJ Mon 27-Jan-14 16:45:21

My DD was proposed to on bonfire night, wedding in June this year! She will be 19 but too mature for constant countdowns!

IHaveSeenMyHat Mon 27-Jan-14 16:45:26

Hahaha, NINE HUNDRED DAYS? Amazing.

She'll explode before the wedding rolls around.

FanjoForTheMammaries Mon 27-Jan-14 16:45:29

YABA grinch

OpalQuartz Mon 27-Jan-14 16:45:47

I'd have waited to see how often she posted about it I think. If she just posted every 300 days or something it would be fine. If every day it would get a bit much.

Pigeonhouse Mon 27-Jan-14 16:48:22

At least she didn't say '900 sleeps'?

Clutching at straws here.

SlimJiminy Mon 27-Jan-14 16:48:46

YANBU. I've done exactly the same thing.

depends, was she proposed to recdenlty and just nailed down a date? And this is just a one off?


If you think she might actually count down YANBU

Chelvis Mon 27-Jan-14 16:50:39

Even she'll be sick of planning it by then!

Seeing as an average pregnancy lasts 280 days, if she's very very quick at getting pregnant after each birth, she could have three children in that time. Three extra bridesmaids / pageboys. Don't suggest it though!

Dahlen Mon 27-Jan-14 16:52:43

I completely fail to 'get' why other people fantasise about their perfect grand wedding. The typical perfect wedding is anathema to me.

Despite that, I can't help feeling leave her be. She's obviously very excited, which is surely the emotion she should be feeling at the prospect of getting married?

Trills Mon 27-Jan-14 16:56:16

You known you can remove someone from your news feed without unfriending them?

StrangeGlue Mon 27-Jan-14 17:02:35

Seems a bit OTT but if that's how you feel it's probably for the best.

Preferthedogtothekids Mon 27-Jan-14 17:03:08

One more sleep till 899 :-)

ohhifruit Mon 27-Jan-14 17:14:37

Ha! I would have kept her as a friend and made a status like '2700 poos until Sarah Smith's wedding.'
But I'm a dick.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Mon 27-Jan-14 17:16:24

I don't get it.
I think I must be a man.

WilsonFrickett Mon 27-Jan-14 17:29:06

YABU Because there would have definitely been a gazsquillion most excellent AIBU threads off the back of her facebook in the next 900 years. And now we'll never know.....

WilsonFrickett Mon 27-Jan-14 17:29:31

900 days, not years ^^ it would just feel like years grin

KippyVonKipperson Mon 27-Jan-14 17:33:11

Are you sure she wasn't just joking at how long away it is? Seems a bit harsh to unfriendly her. Ok, if she does a countdown for the next 900 days then maybe, but not for 1 status.

dontsqueezetheteabag Wed 29-Jan-14 10:08:15

They defo were not joking - since I unfriended and updated my status saying what I had done SOOOO many mutual friends have got in touch and said they thought exactly the same thing.

I knew I could removed their posts from my feed but what is the point in that?

I think FB is such a trouble maker - makes people look stupid and people end up bitching like mad behind the backs of others - just like I have done here!!

Lottiedoubtie Wed 29-Jan-14 10:14:34

They defo were not joking - since I unfriended and updated my status saying what I had done SOOOO many mutual friends have got in touch and said they thought exactly the same thing.

You did WHAT? You're worse than her.

I knew I could removed their posts from my feed but what is the point in that?

I don't know, something nice about not being a total bitch and hurting someone else's feelings isn't there?

LoveWine Wed 29-Jan-14 10:17:46

If you un-friended this person over this, it means you weren't such close friends anyway. I personally would be more selective with who I add as a "friend".

Juno77 Wed 29-Jan-14 10:18:47

They defo were not joking - since I unfriended and updated my status saying what I had done SOOOO many mutual friends have got in touch and said they thought exactly the same thing.

shock you really did that?

msmoss Wed 29-Jan-14 10:20:39

One of your friends got a little bit over excited about her wedding and posted one facebook status so you defriended her, created a status so that you and her other friends could bitch about her behind her back and then started a thread about her on an internet forum?

Why has this bothered you so much? Are you always this horrible to people who dare to be a bit happy?

LoveWine Wed 29-Jan-14 10:23:03

Wow you probably did her a favor by defriending her.

ephemeralfairy Wed 29-Jan-14 10:23:48

I would have been tempted to comment along the lines of, 'a lot can happen in 900 might have split up by then'.

I am a horrible nasty person though.

(disclaimer: I wouldn't have actually done it though, just fantasised...)

HarpyFishwifeTwat Wed 29-Jan-14 10:31:01

I think there must be something wrong with me. I can quite happily ignore status updates on Facebook. And can certainly let them wash over me without posting my own bitchy updates pissing on other people's parades.

wimblehorse Wed 29-Jan-14 10:33:38

YWNBU to unfriend or remove her from your feed.

since I unfriended and updated my status saying what I had done

^^This on the other hand IVU

She's naiive, happy & excited about a big life event.

You, on the other hand, I'm struggling to say what I think without it being a personal attack!

Bit sad to talk about a wedding 900 days in the future.

WHole lot sad to make fun of people via a FB status

dontsqueezetheteabag Wed 29-Jan-14 10:43:23

I was not anywhere near close friends with this person so maybe yeah, I shouldn't have been friends in the first place.

FFS though..... a 900 day count down. She IBU expecting people not to get pissed off with her going on about it for the next 900 days.

Lottiedoubtie Wed 29-Jan-14 10:48:13

But you don't know she actually will. You're judging her on the possibility. All she actually did is post one 'countdown' status, which sounds tongue in cheek to me.

You on the other hand have behaved appallingly.

Juno77 Wed 29-Jan-14 10:49:10

Probably wasn't a 900 day countdown through.

She was probably not intending to post every day for the next 899 days.

Defriending her was probably best but you shouldn't have posted about it. That's not nice.

SlimJiminy Wed 29-Jan-14 11:02:38

Delete/hide her = fine.

since I unfriended and updated my status saying what I had done = really unkind.

She probably won't care that you've unfriended her, but she might care that you're bitching to your friends about her. Time to leave her alone now?

Nanny0gg Wed 29-Jan-14 11:05:52

You updated your status about it??


<wonders how many people have Unfriended the OP now...>

Topaz25 Wed 29-Jan-14 11:08:00

It depends whether she was posting once as a joke like StrwaberryCheese or whether she was going to update every day!

absoluteidiot Wed 29-Jan-14 11:10:43

Probably only 950 days to the divorce.

feathermucker Wed 29-Jan-14 11:12:26

Unfriending her is obvioulsy not the real reason, there has to be more to it.

If that's the only reason you've unfriended her then YABU. Her wedding, her choice - you could have just blocked her from your news feed.

I think it was kind of you to unfriend her.

CalamitouslyWrong Wed 29-Jan-14 11:15:14

Tbh, you now just look like a bitch for putting a status up about it. Even if you thought her status was crap and you don't consider her much of a friend, that's still a shitty thing to do.

If you have a problem with someone you have two reasonable choices:
1. Speak to them about it and sort it out; or
2. Say nothing and leave them be.

Since this situation doesn't actually affect you in any meaningful way, 2 would be the best option.

Publicly bitching about someone is never a good option.

GiniCooper Wed 29-Jan-14 11:31:55

You sound worse than she does TBH.

YANBU for unfriending someone you obviously have no reason to be 'friends' with.

YABVU to post your own even more annoying status.

WilsonFrickett Wed 29-Jan-14 11:32:07

You know if mutual friends have commented on your status, she can probably see it? That is really mean. She was a bit daft and carried away, fair enough, but you've posted something mean and now she probably knows about it so will be feeling like shit. Not cool.

OpalQuartz Wed 29-Jan-14 13:33:50

Bit odd to unfriend after one update. If she was counting down every day would be more understandable.

FootieOnTheTelly Wed 29-Jan-14 13:42:02


900 days! What is she thinking!

WallyBantersJunkBox Wed 29-Jan-14 13:54:43

In my old home town if you want a wedding with a decent amount of friends and family attending, say 80+, with convenient, decent accommodation, good food and service, there are only two venues that are anywhere near suitable.

When I attended a family wedding at one of these venues last year the mother of the groom told me that they had to book it two years in advance due to waiting lists, and that it was now booked up for the next three years.

It wasn't an ott princess fairy castle place, just quite nice. I was quite surprised, but since hearing this the 900 days wouldn't make me hmm now. As long as it wasn't a daily update from here on....

She had probably made the major booking and wanted to share her excitement that it was all going ahead.

Far better than our 41 yo friend and his now DW daily postings to each other in baby talk of how many sleeps before I'm Mrs. Fi-Fi (surname) in the month countdown to the big day.

Still I didn't feel the need to de-friend, I just blocked his status feed.

Topaz25 Wed 29-Jan-14 14:36:33

Oh I missed the bit where you made a big deal about unfriending her and bitching about her on your status. YABVU. If you don't want to be friends with someone just don't be, don't gossip about them behind their back.

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