To think refering to your friends as aunty/uncle X is a bit strange?

(102 Posts)
GimmeDaBoobehz Wed 22-Jan-14 19:39:14

I have several friends with young children under the age of 10.

For some reason they all refer to me as 'aunty S' to their children.

I don't mind being referred to as this at all but just thought it a bit weird/strange as they also have biological aunties/uncles so why wouldn't they just call me S?

Am I the only one who finds it a bit bizarre and if you do this, is there any particular reason?

Lighthearted thread, just genuinely curious.

NigellasDealer Wed 22-Jan-14 19:40:47

all of our neighbours were 'aunties' and 'uncles' I know my mum thought it was weird but she went along with it......

No, I'd say that it's fairly normal. As a child I had hundreds of aunties and uncles and even an inherited granny. smile

LegoStillSavesMyLife Wed 22-Jan-14 19:41:30

You'd love me then. All actual aunts and uncles are just referred to by their name. Only non related friends are referred to as Aunty and Uncle.

hoobypickypicky Wed 22-Jan-14 19:42:39

It's a courtesy term, there's nothing odd about it. smile

Custardo Wed 22-Jan-14 19:42:40

i can't tell you how many 'aunties' my genuine uncle introduced me to when i was a kid wink

WaffilyVersatile Wed 22-Jan-14 19:42:48

My best mate came to my daughters scans, she held my hand when I had sickness at work, she ran for coffees when I had spd, she listened to me drone on about endless baby waffle (she has no kids), she dropped work at a moments notice to be at my side when my blood pressure went haywire and I passed out at home heavily pregnant and then because I had no family nearby she took care of my 5 yr old son while I went to have the baby and then took him shopping for a gift for his baby sister and brought him to visit the day she was born..

..she is Aunty x and she bloody well earned it. I don't think its weird at all even tho they have 3 "real" aunts..

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Wed 22-Jan-14 19:42:58

Im a child of the 70s. Northerer. We all did it. A child calling an adult by their first name was unthinkable! and I dont like it now so auntie / uncle x indicated an adult that was closer to your parents so the formal mr / mrs was used for teachers or strangers or those less close to / frienly with your parents.

BillyNotQuiteNoMates Wed 22-Jan-14 19:43:46

As a child I called pretty much all adults Auntie or Uncle. At the time it was seen as a sign of respect for someone you knew (less formal than Mr and Mrs) that was older than you. I think society has changed somewhat and it's no longer expected. I don't expect my own DCs to call anyone by anything other than their given name - except elderly relatives.

Bogeyface Wed 22-Jan-14 19:43:53

We always had that as kids, I think it goes back to when it was considered rude for a child to refer to an adult by their first name and family friends were too close for Mr or Mrs X. I know that my parents didnt like us referring to adults as anything other than Aunty or Uncle so and so, or Mr or Mrs.

LegoStillSavesMyLife Wed 22-Jan-14 19:44:03

Oh you wantd to know why..

I guess real aunts and uncles their relationship/specialness to the child is obvious and besides which say "Aunty/uncle so and so" is a mouth full.
But by referring to really close (godparents type) friends as aunt/uncle I guess it is also showing the child that these people are a bit more special than fed blogs down the road.

Lamu Wed 22-Jan-14 19:44:10

It's a form of showing respect to an adult. I too had lots of uncles and aunts. Although I can't stand being called auntie now because it makes me feel old.

DameFanny Wed 22-Jan-14 19:44:45

I used it as a code with ds until he was 5 or so - if I called someone uncle or aunty it was someone I would trust him with in an emergency - new friends, people I'd known a long time but didn't particularly trust and general acquaintances were just "name".

Not that I explained that to him, but I was expecting him to spot the difference himself :-)

Lamu Wed 22-Jan-14 19:44:51

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TallyGrenshall Wed 22-Jan-14 19:44:56

Our close friends are referred to as 'Aunty X' or 'Uncle D' because they are family to me. DS has an extra Granny who is our old flatmates Mum, she is an amazing woman and she is very dear to us.

Everybody else is called their names

candycoatedwaterdrops Wed 22-Jan-14 19:45:08

YABU. As kids, my friends and I always called each other's mums Auntie X and we liked it. smile

Bogeyface Wed 22-Jan-14 19:45:43

Xpost with everyone!

Cinnamoncookie Wed 22-Jan-14 19:45:45

When I was a kid all my parents' friends were referred to as Auntie and Uncle. I always imagined it came about from the idea that it was rude for children to refer to adults by their first names alone.

bluebell8782 Wed 22-Jan-14 19:46:38

We did growing up as well.. everyone was Aunty this Uncle that.. even our teachers (I went to a tiny private school in South Africa).. I noticed it was less common here in England when we moved.

BadChat25 Wed 22-Jan-14 19:48:29

I think it's odd to if I'm honest. I never did it growing up and I don't encourage it with my DD.

miffybun73 Wed 22-Jan-14 19:51:03

I did it growing up in the 1970s, but I find it really strange and there's no way that I would refer to anyone other than my children's actual Auntie's as Auntie.

I just don't get it.

fluffyraggies Wed 22-Jan-14 19:51:11

My teens still refer to my best and oldest friends as Auntie X, Y and Z. These women were my friends before i got married and had my babies, so they saw my kids grow up.

I've never liked hearing young children call adults by their first name, and it's sort of stuck from when they were little. They don't call my friends from more recent years Auntie though.

Potol Wed 22-Jan-14 19:51:53

It is also an Asian thing. We would NEVER refer to an older person by their name especially someone of another generation. If my mother ever heard DS who is 2 calling any of my friends by their names she would faint. Luckily we have v specific terms for family members so my sister is 'Mashi' and her husband is 'Mesho' etc so they are not called Aunty or Uncle but by the vernacular equivalent. For me it would just be a mark of respect.

marssparklesdownonme Wed 22-Jan-14 19:52:01

Special friends of my parents were always referred to as auntie or uncle. As others have already said, we never called adults by their first names unless it was as auntie x etc. My dc's call their nonrelated godparents auntie and uncle too. Even my friends who have no kids and no intention of having them , like to refer to themselves as Auntie R and Uncle R, to my amazement.

GimmeDaBoobehz Wed 22-Jan-14 19:53:52

No hatred at all here Lego I think it's sweet they call me aunty S as my sister I speak to regularly has a little boy who is too young at the moment to say it (2 months old) and my other sister I rarely see, same with the children - once or twice a year and they don't refer to me as anything which is a shame.

I suppose it's probably whether you were used to it when growing up or not. I only ever called my aunts and uncles aunt x or uncle y. If my parents had called their best friend aunty/uncle x I'd probably not find it strange at all.

What a wonderful woman Waffily I can definitely see why you came up with this. Just one or two of the people I know whose children call me aunty S I only see a few times a year too, so it's not like we are incredibly close. If I was a best friend from childhood I could kind of see where they'd be coming from iyswim.

Maybe partially a generation thing. I'm only a baby 23, 24 this Saturday so it might not have been as popular when I was a young child. Or maybe it was living rurally with most of our friends at least 50 miles away.

HerrenaHarridan Wed 22-Jan-14 19:54:27

Yanbu to think its strange.

I do this and I think its perfectly normal smile

I reserve it for special and trusted friends who I would consider to be a long term positive influence in her life

hoppinghare Wed 22-Jan-14 19:57:04

Yep, I cringe when someone introduces me to their kids as aunty hopping. We all know I'm not their aunty.

GimmeDaBoobehz Wed 22-Jan-14 19:57:51

I'm very glad then as it seems to me that means I'm special in these peoples lives and in turn, in their children's lives. smile

Maybe I'll start using it myself then. Not sure, will have to see when the time comes. My daughter is only 9 months old so doesn't call anyone anything except mama, dada or baba.

EugenesAxe Wed 22-Jan-14 19:58:39

In my opinion it's normal but I don't like it and always refer to my friends as their name if talking to the DCs.

My dearest friend (and about the only one I would genuinely consider a sister-supplement) is godmother to my son, so I get to call her 'Godmother X' to my DCs. This gets round the problem of my dislike of false titles but liking for wanting to make her special.

MsAspreyDiamonds Wed 22-Jan-14 20:05:07

In certain cultures, particularly Middle Eastern / Asian, it is regarded as disrespectful for a younger person to call an older by their first name. There is nothing odd about it, it is just a way of marking out boundaries & clarifying relationships between people.

Athrawes Wed 22-Jan-14 20:07:30

My mother hated me being encouraged to call non-Aunts, Auntie on the basis that they weren't.
But as a mother to a 3 yearold boy I now encourage him to address older adults as Auntie or Uncle and he has three adopted Grandparents of the age that my parents would be. It is a respect thing and common to many many cultures. A bit akin to American kids calling a respected older man Sir. I like it but don't mind at all if other kids don't call me Auntie.

We're Aunty & Uncle to one particular set of close friend's children - it means a lot as we're both only children and will never get to be 'real' ones sad
In return their Mum will be our PFBs fake aunty!

But I have another close friend who has such a complicated network of half, step and real siblings etc that she didn't want to make it more complicated by adding more aunties into the mix.

Each to their own.

harticus Wed 22-Jan-14 20:12:52

Bizarre? Nah.
It took me years to work out who my real aunties and uncles were and who were "just" neighbours and friends of the family.
But it really wasn't an issue - they were all great people.
It is commonplace where I come from and amongst my friends.

BackforGood Wed 22-Jan-14 20:13:01

Growing up, it would have been unheard of to call an adult by their first name. People were either Mrs/Mrs/Mis So and So or Aunty/Uncle X. People are just carrying on that tradition.
I'm happy for dc's friends to call me by my first name, but I have 'friends of the family' type friends that call me 'Aunty Back'

CecilyP Wed 22-Jan-14 20:19:01

It's not bizarre, just old-fashioned. Everybody did it when I was a child whereas DS, now grown up himself, just called our friend's by their first names. The only people he called Aunty and Uncle were actually DH's and my aunts and uncles.

Freyathecatt Wed 22-Jan-14 20:28:35

It's a cultural thing for me. We are expected to call anyone (reasonably) older than ourselves Aunty/Uncle as an honorrific. It's a term of respect.

elliejjtiny Wed 22-Jan-14 20:30:27

I used to call some of my mum and dad's close friends aunty or uncle x and my mum's best friend's mum was "nan nan". However my DC don't do this. All my friends are called by their name except for one. Her DS2 has the same name as mine so my DC's call her "the other DS2's mum" and her DC's call me that as well.

Onesleeptillwembley Wed 22-Jan-14 20:35:22

No, while I'm aware it happened we never did it. I grew up just in the late 60's 70's. And I wouldn't have encouraged my children to, it seems odd to me, not bad odd, just odd. We don't even use the terms within the family now, either.

NearTheWindmill Wed 22-Jan-14 20:37:35

I'm an only child of two only children. DH's sisters live abroad. The DC's godparents and our best friends are called auntie and uncle. Not their spouses though. It denotes their specialness to us. Not sure it would happen (and didn't for me) if we had more family though. I always wanted more family sad

We were brought up (in the 70s) not to do it. All my parents friends were and still are first names to me. I don't encourage my DCs to do it to be honest, but I really can see that it has a place in between Mrs and firstname, that is definitely a slightly awkward thing. I cringe if anyone calls me Aunty, even my real nieces.

Iwannalaylikethisforever Wed 22-Jan-14 20:42:38

I'm going against the majority but I think I don't like it.
I have a sister who tells her children to call me by my first name (fine, no problem, it's my name)
But her special friends she bestows auntie or uncle
It's alittle grating.

Pipbin Wed 22-Jan-14 20:45:02

There is a woman I call Auntie x who is my DH's mum's best friend. So he grew up calling her Auntie.

Also, both my grandmothers died when I was a baby and my grandfathers remarried. I called my step grandmothers Auntie.

wonderingsoul Wed 22-Jan-14 20:54:54

aunty is only kept fopr really close friends.. but the children dont use aunty much when talking to us/them..

for me, it shows that they are special and are like family and can be trusted.

MrsDeVere Wed 22-Jan-14 20:59:03

These threads come up fairly often (ish). This one is nice and friendly but some of them get really heated shock

People claim to hate it, think its stupid etc.

My family think its silly but they think a lot of things are silly (I shan't go into that, it deserves a thread all of its own). Me and OH think differently. Adults are called auntie and uncle by our children. OH is West Indian and you just don't call adults by their first names if you are a child! Its either Mr and Mrs or Auntie and Uncle.

My young children also call their adult cousins auntie and uncle. My DC5 is the youngest in the family (if we don't count the great nieces and nephews) and his oldest cousin is in his 30s.

MidniteScribbler Wed 22-Jan-14 21:01:08

My son calls his godparents Auntie Xxxx and Uncle Xxxx. Well actually they're 'Aurie Woop' and 'Unc Weeg" right now, but close enough. It was their choice. I don't mind because he has no grandparents or biological aunts and uncles, so it's nice that they think of themselves in that role.

I've never actually called my aunt and uncle by anything by their first names however.

Horsemad Wed 22-Jan-14 21:42:21

When I was 16, I was working as a waitress (not in a cocktail bar!!) with a family friend who I'd always known as Aunty P. She was horrified when I called out to her as Aunty P when I needed to ask something!! Said it made her feel old - I found it very difficult to just call her 'P'.

My own DC call my friends by their names.

BIL has signed his last 3yrs Xmas cards to my DC with a different 'Aunty' each year! hmm

MrsKranky Wed 22-Jan-14 21:45:01

My oldest friends DC call me Ayay. It is a aunty any my first name sort of all run together, it was the only way they could say it when they were tiny, and it stuck!

My DP's two youngest nephews call me aunty, they are 5 & 6 but the two eldest (10 & 18) just call me by my first name, as I think they're too old. Also I've been with DP nearly four years, so they haven't really grown up with me being around.

stayanotherday Wed 22-Jan-14 21:46:22

I love it. I'm called auntie by my friends son.

When I grew up adults were either Mr or Mrs Surname (strangers, authority figures, people we didn't regularly socialise with) or Aunty or Uncle Firstname (family friends or parents of friends).

I quite like it in theory - but in practice I like children to call me by my firstname.

I do this, I think it's nice. I don't really like young chldren calling adults by their first name on it's own.. but Mr/Ms would be a bit too formal for close family and friends.

LittleBabyPigsus Wed 22-Jan-14 21:54:07

Waffily that's lovely - me and my best friend have a similar relationship, although she has no DC yet. I am already auntie to her pets though blush

OP I am 24 and from the Midlands and it wasn't common for me growing up but best friend is the same age and Northern and it was quite normal for her - so maybe regional more than generational.

I used to call my mum's close friends Aunty, and buy extension their partners were Uncle. I think it's nice, shows a relationship.

My DC just tend to call my friends by their first names.

notso Wed 22-Jan-14 21:58:35

I think it is weird but didn't do it as a child so that is probably why. I don't like my actual DNs calling me Aunty Notso either I always say just call me Notso.

ivykaty44 Wed 22-Jan-14 22:00:16

My mate Ian in thinks its great my DDS couldnt say his name name and uncle, it become unclean smile

Its a term of respect to say auntie or uncle for mature friends of the family

KareKare Wed 22-Jan-14 22:05:46

It's very 1970s imo, to call friends aunt/uncle.

We never called actual relatives aunt/uncle and our kids never have either, so it sounds odd to me.

PatriciaHolm Wed 22-Jan-14 22:09:36

I'm not a fan; our children call our friends by their names. The children already have 7 much loved "real" uncles and aunts! I never did it as a kid so I guess that at least partly explains why I find it odd .

traininthedistance Wed 22-Jan-14 22:11:14

It was routine when I was small (possibly more of a northern thing, too). I don't think I called my parents' friends by their first names until I was at university! And adults who weren't close enough to one's family to be called auntie or uncle were always called Mr X or Mrs X (eg. you'd always refer to your friends' parents as Mr or Mrs, never ever by their first name). In fact I still always called my director of studies Mrs X and my tutors Dr or Mr/Mrs until after I had graduated! We just didn't do first names! I think things have become much more liberal in the last 15 years or so but I do remember it being absolutely unheard of in my childhood for a child to call any adult by their first name alone.

But then I remember lots of things like that that seem to have disappeared (and I'm not very old!) Even at secondary school if any adult entered the room all children had to leap to their feet in silence. It was routine for a child to give up a seat for an adult. My mum didn't let me speak to her if she was having a conversation with another adult ("unless there is a dire emergency, then you may pull at my hand to let me know you need to speak to me urgently") - I would never have dared to interrupt an adult conversation. Or to get down from a table without asking permission, whether I was at home or at someone else's house. Very old-fashioned - I don't think many parents enforce these things now! My mum is a total softie with all her grandchildren, I have no idea what happened!

bodygoingsouth Wed 22-Jan-14 22:13:54

no it's nice. yabu!

Jinsei Wed 22-Jan-14 22:19:44

We mix and match in our house. DH is Indian, and it would be unthinkable for dd to call any of our Indian friends by their first names, so they are all aunties and uncles. It would be disrespectful to do otherwise.

Most of our English friends are called by their first names, with just a couple of exceptions. One of my closest friends always referred to herself as auntie when talking to dd, and I was happy to go along with it.

Then we have friends who are neither English or Indian, and we tend to just go along with the cultural norms for whatever country they're from. You'd think dd might find this confusing, but she always seems to know who should be referred to as auntie or uncle and who can be called by their first name!

NigellasDealer Wed 22-Jan-14 22:23:24

possibly more of a northern thing, too
more of a 1970s thing i think = we were in the London area.
i went to the funeral of one of my 'aunties' last year - more sad than I would have been for a real one tbh

Moreisnnogedag Wed 22-Jan-14 22:26:35

Every adult is aunt and uncle to my son. Except when he's met my seniors at work in which case it's Mr so-and-so.

This'd probably drive you crazy but in SA an older adult who you don't know is referred to as auntie/uncle. My parents were probably upset to find out they'd graduated into that category when they went for their last visit - it means they're now proper old!

TamerB Wed 22-Jan-14 22:28:04

Just tell the child to miss off the Aunty and use your name. I am getting my nieces and nephews to drop it now they are older - I certainly don't want unrelated ones calling me Aunty, or Mrs, I just use my first name.

Jinsei Wed 22-Jan-14 22:28:05

Yeah, I agree it's more 1970s than northern. I grew up in the south of england with a northern mother. We didn't call my parents friends aunts and uncles, but loads of my friends did. I guess now that generation are parents themselves, it's all coming back!

TamerB Wed 22-Jan-14 22:29:10

If you insist with the child, and correct them every time, there is nothing the parent can do.

AbbeyBartlet Wed 22-Jan-14 22:31:39

I grew up in the 70s too and I always had to call parents close friends Auntie and Uncle. I don't like small children calling me by my first name tbh, it always seems a bit rude!

firesidechat Wed 22-Jan-14 22:32:33

I had non related aunts and uncles who were close friends of my parents. My children didn't though, so maybe it's a dying tradition. I think it's rather nice to recognise the place of older adults in a child's life.

MrsBungle Wed 22-Jan-14 22:35:02

Our closest friends are aunty and uncle - not every adult. I think it's nice not strange.

Where we live in virginia, the kids all refer to women as 'Miss x' or 'mama' and the men are 'mister x' or 'sir' with x being given name. I prefer auntie!

Maam not mama

BruthasTortoise Wed 22-Jan-14 22:41:47

I really don't like it but each to their own and I admit to always having had a very literal mind which my DC seem to have inherited.

squoosh Wed 22-Jan-14 22:45:07

I think it's a bit strange, think it must be a UK thing.

ChrisMooseMickey Wed 22-Jan-14 22:49:49

Friends are the family you get to choose for yourself. My baby has a few non related aunty and uncles ;-)

squoosh Wed 22-Jan-14 22:51:19

It sounds a bit Mike Leigh calling you Mum's friend 'Auntie'.

NinjaBunny Wed 22-Jan-14 22:55:00

I hate it.

Had friends who referred to me as Auntie Ninja to their child.

Made me very uncomfortable. Can't explain why.

Maybe because a relationship is being forced onto you.

DS's friends call me by my first name, anything else is unthinkable.

TaraLott Wed 22-Jan-14 22:55:50

I still call some of my parents old friends Auntie and Uncle, they were all called that back then, I think it's quite nice, I think it was common because it gave the adults a sort of friendly 'title' iyswim instead of saying Mr and Mrs SoandSo.

traininthedistance Wed 22-Jan-14 23:18:37

Is it really 1970s or just pre-1990s-ish? It was definitely the case that the same applied to my mum and dad when they were growing up. They still refer to elderly friends of my grandparents as auntie or uncle X!

BigBirthdayGloom Wed 22-Jan-14 23:30:14

I feel a bit guilty because close friends of ours started with their children calling us auntie bigbirthdaygloom and uncle bigbirthdaygloom dh. But it made my toes curl so I'm afraid we signed everything normally and it stopped. Also, my children call them by their names. But our other close friends have done the same as us. My mother used to insist on mr or mrs x or auntie or uncle back in the seventies and eighties but round here it seems to have died out.

I'm Welsh and it was very normal growing up - used as a mark of affectionate respect for adults around us. I think it's lovely.

TamerB Thu 23-Jan-14 07:29:35

It isn't lovely if the adult hates it! I would just keep telling your children that I am Tamer, not Aunty Tamer and not Mrs B until it became second nature and the parents had to drop it.

TheRealAmandaClarke Thu 23-Jan-14 07:39:27

I was expected to prefix names with auntie/ uncle as a child.
I can remember disliking it. It felt false. Not sure why I was so prickly about it tbh.
I don't do this with my friends. "aunty" and "uncle" are specific to my DC's aunties and uncles.

Lots of the Indian and African women I know, have their dcs refer to me as "auntie". I be.ieve it's the "done thing" for a grown up to be so called by a child. It seems different IYSWIM.

TheRealAmandaClarke Thu 23-Jan-14 07:40:51

maybe because a relationship is being forced onto you
Yes ninja I think that's why I disliked it as a child.

Bumpsadaisie Thu 23-Jan-14 07:40:56

I find this weird too. My DDs best friend calls me aunty bumps. My dd doesn't call her mum aunty sue.

Groovee Thu 23-Jan-14 07:43:25

My children call their godparents auntie and uncle. I do think of their godparents children as my niece and nephew as we are so close.

DrNick Thu 23-Jan-14 07:44:09

we do.
tis just what we always did.

DrNick Thu 23-Jan-14 07:44:31

its a bit like.. is it Sikhs? they have some term that is a sign of respect.. cant remember what

DrNick Thu 23-Jan-14 07:44:44

( ours northern based too)

princessalbert Thu 23-Jan-14 07:52:38

I think it's a polite way to address an adult.

fwiw I still call my (real) aunties and uncles - aunty x and uncle y - and I am 46!

jamdonut Thu 23-Jan-14 07:54:04

My Real Auntie once wrote in my birthday card" Now you are 10 you can drop the Auntie and Uncle"

My mum went ballistic!

I found I couldn't do it, and even know (Im 50 this year) I find it hard to just use her first name!!!

My parent's friends were always auntie this and uncle that.

OHforDUCKScake Thu 23-Jan-14 07:54:38

I hate it. My sons have 4 genuine uncles and no aunts.

Yet their father insists on them calling his best mate Uncle X.

It annoys me. Ive never said anything but it feels weird. Hes not an uncle hes a family friend and a pretty shit one at that.

jamdonut Thu 23-Jan-14 07:55:19

oops *now - not know blush

Stinkyminkymoo Thu 23-Jan-14 07:55:28

I do this with dd (17 mo) even though we never did it as kids (my mother's foreign and thinks it's weird!).

I suppose I do it because these friends are closer to me than others, they are special to me and I guess that it shows it. Weird though really!

1974rach Thu 23-Jan-14 07:57:35

I am a biological auntie to the worlds most gorgeous baby (biased much?) and auntie rach to a number of other children who are either children of close family or lifelong friends.

My mum is auntie x to just about all my cousins friends, but it is a term of endearment really.

I don't mind if DN refers to me in the future as auntie rach or just rach. I think the choice is hers - the relationship will not be affected by what she chooses to call me.

EeyoreIsh Thu 23-Jan-14 08:03:26

A friend calls me and DH 'aunty' and 'uncle' when talking about us to her daughter. I love it, makes me feel part of a close and trusted group.

I grew up calling someone 'granny' who wasn't biologically my granny, but in every possible other way she was.

To me the blood tie isn't really that important.

EeyoreIsh Thu 23-Jan-14 08:04:39

That last sentence came out wrong. The blood tie is important, but isn't essential for someone to behave/feel like an aunty/uncle/grandparent.

LaundryLegoLunch Thu 23-Jan-14 08:59:46

I don't do this at all. My kids refer to my and dh's siblings and spouses only as Auntie/Uncle. All other adults are just their names.

As a child (and I am über-Northern wink) we called all adults aunty/uncle and I found it confusing and odd. My mum still expects me to call her friends Aunty Pat or whatever and I'm 38!

LinghamStyle Thu 23-Jan-14 09:14:59

It was very commonplace when I was growing up (Scotland). I lived in the north of England when my DC were born and they called my close friends Auntie/Uncle. I have no siblings and neither does Ex.

When I moved back to Scotland, my cousins and friends DC called me Auntie first name. I didn't dislike it but it felt weird at first!

pollyputthekettleonagain Thu 23-Jan-14 09:16:28

my DD has an honorary auntie and cousins, becuase she has been closer than my own family members. i have three sisters, one of which my dd has never even met!

But i know what you mean, at the local nursery they call all the assistants there aunty and it makes me feel a bit weird. but hey-ho they can call them whatever they like its no business of mine

PonceyPeas Thu 23-Jan-14 09:17:30

This is a really enlightening thread! I always thought it was weird to call non-relatives 'auntie' and 'uncle'. One of my good friends always tells her sons to call me 'Auntie Pea' - I've always hated it and on purpose have always signed birthday/christmas cards tk the kids as from 'Pea and DH' so she would try to get the message. However I now have a different point of view having read this thread. Although I still think I only want my own relatives calling me Auntie...

cory Thu 23-Jan-14 10:02:05

I never felt it was false growing up: I think I just understood that the word "auntie" had a wider semantic field so could cover several meanings. It could mean either "sister of parent" or "term of respect for older female", depending on context.

(Just like I used the word "field" just now to refer to something that wasn't half an acre of grass and soil- that didn't feel false either)

To me, it's whether it's an accepted usage in whatever culture I happen to find myself. So I don't use it now to my dc because it is not the norm around here. But felt my own parents were perfectly justified to use it because it was normal usage in that time and place.

itsnotthateasy Thu 23-Jan-14 13:26:30

My children call my best friend Auntie as she is as close to a real Auntie they will ever get as I do not have a Sister.

They do not call my other friends Auntie or Uncle though and when I was a Child I only called my Mums best friend Auntie and to this day when talking of her I say "Aunt *".

CiderBomb Thu 23-Jan-14 13:31:33

All of my mum and dad's friends were called "auntie and uncle" when I was little. Obviously I don't say it now, but it was something my friends used to do as well.

I don't find it odd.

MyBaby1day Fri 24-Jan-14 04:19:47

Ha ha, you'de think I was strange then, long story but I am an only child until last summer when my Mum (unofficially) adopted a young man. He's now supposed to be my Big Bro.....but I call him Dad!! grin. It's all part of my gimmick! cute too

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