To fire my cleaners for throwing away my last box of breast pads

(53 Posts)
Geneticsbunny Tue 21-Jan-14 19:09:46

I have had mastitis three times in the last three months. Just went to get some new breast pads out of my new box and it is missing. Dh denies all knowledge. Oh and the cleaners are a bit rubbish anyway.

formerbabe Tue 21-Jan-14 19:11:31

Bit extreme...maybe you lost them or didn't have as many as you thought?

Crowler Tue 21-Jan-14 19:12:26


Gossipmonster Tue 21-Jan-14 19:12:37

How big is your house to need more than one cleaner?! shock

Rosencrantz Tue 21-Jan-14 19:13:43

You don't actually know it was them though.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 19:13:52

Umm maybe ask them first! Maybe you have misplaced them yourself. And when you say 'last box' what exacyly does that mean- its only the last box til you get another box, which you can do for very little money in asda/tesco/boots. Calm down maybe.

HoratiaDrelincourt Tue 21-Jan-14 19:14:13

It was your husband. He fears your rage.


Are you feeling a bit feverish? Ok - so this mastitis - is it always the same boob?

Fairy1303 Tue 21-Jan-14 19:16:58

I don't want to rush to giving you a biscuit


whereisshe Tue 21-Jan-14 19:17:59

How old is your baby? Since DD was born I've discovered just how debilitating sleep deprivation is, particularly for the memory! Are you sure you didn't just run out?

But by all means get rid of the cleaners if they are rubbish at cleaning. Ours doesn't tidy (she's a cleaner not a maid), so maybe that's the solution in future?

Steady on, get shot of them for legitimate reasons if they're shoddy.

Send dh out for more breast pads and dont get the rage over this.

Oblomov Tue 21-Jan-14 19:28:56

This is a wind up, right?

Mim78 Tue 21-Jan-14 19:33:45

Maybe don't fire them but I would ask them about it.

A cleaner I had threw away a present I'd bought for dd's friend (5). I asked her about it and she said no way would she have chucked. Then I found it in a bin bag she had emptied bins into (only she had put things in there). It had previously been on side board in a see through bag.

I told her she had found it and she resigned!

So moral could be either to say nothing or to say something because now I have much better/ nicer cleaner...

Geneticsbunny Tue 21-Jan-14 19:54:26

Dh has retrieved some more pads for me. Pretty sure it was the cleaners as the new box was next to the bin. they might have thought they had fallen out? More concerned about their quality of clean tbh. I assumed the point of Aibu was to be a bit inflammatory with the headline, like the daily mail, so that more people commented?

formerbabe Tue 21-Jan-14 19:57:47

I feel a bit sorry for your cleaners now! Mastitis is pretty shit but its only breast pads ffs!

I also thought it was a wind up!

paxtecum Tue 21-Jan-14 20:11:52

OP: Line your bra with cabbage leaves and change them every day or twice a day.

Hope it gets better soon.

itsnotthateasy Tue 21-Jan-14 20:45:40

Buy some more .. If you can afford two cleaners then Im sure breast pads should be a doddle !
Their quality of clean ? Perhaps you should do your own housework then like sooooo soooo many others have too,

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 21:52:27


Ah OP you are very cute. No the point of AIBU is to ask a question about any particular topic to garner opinion on whether you are being unreasonable or not. However you have clearly noticed that some posters have gotten this backwards and post dramatic titles to gain attention for what turn out to be very dull and not at all AIBU related OPs. Sometimes people post deliberately inflammatory treads and we calm them goady fuckers or trolls and they get deleted and/or banned. Inflammatory threads are best avoided if you want to stay here.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 21:54:51

Itsnotthateasy OP has recently had a child and he pays two people to clean her house- she is entitled to expect good quality work in return for that money. And i speak as a cleaner! If i was doing shit work i would expect to be given my marching orders. If i regularly went roud telling my clients to do their own cleaning i'd find they might take me up on that offer and i mightnt eat for a while!

gamerchick Tue 21-Jan-14 21:55:16

use half a nappy or panty pad.

SpagBogs Tue 21-Jan-14 22:00:49

How about you stop being lazy and clean your own house!

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 22:12:25

hmm @ spagbogs

Do you tell people to sweep their own streets or take their own wheelie bins to the dump? What about cutting their own hair or making their own clothes? Why the hell should she clean her own house if she can afford to pay someone else to do it?

willyoulistentome Tue 21-Jan-14 22:16:30

Antibiotics is what you need. Mastitis is grim. Get thee down to the gp.

WooWooOwl Tue 21-Jan-14 22:18:30

If you are concerned about the quality of their work, you discuss it with them. If it doesn't improve, then you find another cleaner.

SpagBogs Tue 21-Jan-14 22:27:43


You're reply was useless.Taking wheelie bins to the bin is a complete different subject that IBU to ask someone to take their bin. If you cut your own hair you will look ridiculous, so giving me that sort of reply is useless. Many of us are busy and have too many rooms to clean but do not employ cleaners it not whether you can afford it or not.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 22:43:26

Its up to you whether you clean your own house or not- its not up to whether OP cleans her house or not. She doesn't need you to give her permission to have a cleaner or have to justify it to anyone. She has just had a baby- an even if she didnt wanting a cleaner is reason enough to have one. And yes my examples were comparable. There is bo reason other than not wanting to and being able to have someone else do it that you dont take your own rubbish to the tip every week.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Tue 21-Jan-14 22:46:29

Fwiw i cut and hilighted my own hair for years and it looked great. Ive had no training at all to show me how. I just learnt from observing the hairdresser when they did it and some youtube tutorials. I could also easily fling my black bin bags in the car and take it to the dump on my way to somewhere else- it would actually involve less walking than taking my bin down the alley to the road involves.

HellonHeels Tue 21-Jan-14 23:00:13

FFS the OP is unwell and not long had a baby and all some posters can do is have a go about her getting some household help?

Obviously she is B rather U but cut her some slack. Don't you have a loo that needs scrubbing or something instead of posting mean comments?

whereisshe Tue 21-Jan-14 23:35:19

Spag, cleaners are wonderful. I hate cleaning and am genuinely shit at it - my cleaner is good at it and much faster. The upshot is my house is clean, my cleaner is employed and we're all happy. Why would you clean your house if you didn't have to [baffled]?

Spag - I have always had cleaners, I pay them well and have no guilt about having them. I don't work but have plenty of other interesting and rewarding things to do with my days that don't involve rubber gloves and toilet brushes.
I don't understand why someone would disapprove of having cleaners. confused

wannabestressfree Wed 22-Jan-14 06:54:45

I am not lazy spagbogs and I have a cleaner! I teach fulltime and am a single parent to three boys. I could justify it by talking about the illness I have or the problems I have with my oldest son but I won't. I am far from lazy but once a week a lovely lady bleaches my floors and hoovers my carpets and I love that day. For a couple of hours it's just bliss.......

MadAsFish Wed 22-Jan-14 08:01:21

How about you stop being lazy and clean your own house!


Judgy much? If I had the means, employing a cleaner would be top of the list. Have done in the past, and it was lovely.

formerbabe Wed 22-Jan-14 08:16:05

Its not the fact she has a cleaner(s) that goads me...its the whinging about a pack of breast pads. How much are they these days? Jeez!

WooWooOwl Wed 22-Jan-14 08:29:13

What difference does it make how much a packet of breast pads cost?

Whether they cost 20p or £20 is irrelevant, you don't employ a cleaner to throw away stuff that you want to use.

OP has said that the cleaners are a bit rubbish and that she's concerned about the work they do more than once, she is not obliged to put up with a shit service just because she has the luxury of being able to afford a cleaner.

flowery Wed 22-Jan-14 08:35:55

"Many of us are busy and have too many rooms to clean but do not employ cleaners it not whether you can afford it or not"

So if you can afford it and could be giving someone gainful employment, why aren't you?


I have a cleaner. I'm not sure how that makes me lazy and would love to be enlightened.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 22-Jan-14 08:42:55


It's a shame that people don't. Cleaners are not exempt from being tax payers.

It's a huge industry

SinisterBuggyMonth Wed 22-Jan-14 08:49:42

Yeah sack them, they are only cleaners confused

I don't know if you've ever mucked up at work OP, probably not, but I'm sure most of us have accidentally broken, chucked or stollen items that cost about the same as some breast pads.

Here's an idea, why don't you talk to your cleaners about it?

flowery Wed 22-Jan-14 08:49:46

Presumably I am also lazy for paying for my son to have school dinners rather than making him a packed lunch, for paying a hairdresser to highlight my hair rather than cracking open the Clairol, paying for a decorator to paint my house, paying for car wash people to wash my car.....?

mrsjay Wed 22-Jan-14 08:54:26

you sound really dismissive of the people who work for you maybe keep your breastpads somewhere that you can use them and not beside the bin

Heathcliff27 Wed 22-Jan-14 08:55:23

My goodness, what a dilemma....

formerbabe Wed 22-Jan-14 08:59:03

I don't know about the standard of their work but really...sacking someone for throwing out a box of breast pads...slight over reaction and a little lady of the manor.

trixymalixy Wed 22-Jan-14 09:01:59

Oh well, I'm a lazy fucker too. I had been thinking of cutting down the hours my cleaner does, but she was telling me how much she is struggling financially so I didn't. She needs a job, I could do with some help around the house as I work, I can afford to pay her. It's win win. I don't see why people have an issue with that, but are happy to employ a painter for example.

trixymalixy Wed 22-Jan-14 09:03:34

Oh and my cleaner has in the past thrown out things I need such as a carrier bag containing a receipt that I needed to take a top back. I blame myself for not putting it safe, not the cleaner.

Lonecatwithkitten Wed 22-Jan-14 09:15:37

I think when you employ other people you have to accept that sometimes they make mistakes. I would expect breast pads to be something that was kept either in a bathroom cupboard or with underwear so would possibly assume box with only a few in it in close proximity to the bin could be rubbish.
However, if you have other concerns about the quality of the clean then you need to sit your cleaner down and talk to them about it. If they don't know you don't like what they are doing they can't change.

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath Wed 22-Jan-14 09:19:29

Ah, OP, I understand. Just this morning I was considering firing the scullery maid as I found a trace of poppy seeds on some of the crockery.

Actually, no, no I didn't, because I am human and think about others.
Here's a novel idea: why not talk to your cleaners and ask them to check before throwing something away?
Mastitis sucks but really? hmm

GlitzAndGiggles Wed 22-Jan-14 09:27:36

Seeing as you left the box by the bin maybe they thought it was rubbish?

Fecklessdizzy Wed 22-Jan-14 09:30:28

Ask them! ( And maybe don't store stuff next to the bin in future ... )

The lady who does for us doesn't tidy - I do that - and she shoots around scrubbing stuff after I've picked up all the grot. It's a great system, she gets paid and I have a lovely house for about 10 minutes until DP and the cats and DSs descend and muck it all up again! grin

As for the judgy-pants-you're-a-lazy-slapper-if-you-have-a-cleaner brigade ... How is employing a professional to do a job for you a bad thing?

Geneticsbunny Wed 22-Jan-14 09:48:23

sillybilly thanks. Honestly did think that was what you were meant to do. Not trolling.
gamerchick great idea thanks. If you rip a nappy in half do all the aborbant bits fall out?
Spagbols there are only 2 cleaners because that is how my cleaner chooses to work. then they only need to be in my house half the time. I agree that they are a luxury but with a 4 year old with special needs, a 2 year old and 8 week old I need the extra help at the mo.

So I have mentioned to them a couple of times that they are missing bits and that I don't want them to clean certain areas and they have ignored me. This seems like good reason to change cleaners right?

Mabelandrose Wed 22-Jan-14 10:20:22

I have no children, I work pt, I have a cleaner. I'm not lazy I just prefer to spend my time doing things I enjoy (cleaning is not one of them).

If I am blessed with a baby I will have the cleaner come even more often!

I would discuss their efforts with them op. You don't want to resent paying them if you are not happy with their service. Do you have any other recommendations from friends. I think I'm so happy to pay for my cleaner because she really is excellent and can do far more in a few hours than i can do all week!

peppinagiro Wed 22-Jan-14 10:33:00

OP, YANBU! I almost posted the same Aibu two weeks ago when our useless cleaner binned our half empty, but clearly still going, tube of toothpaste. I only found out at 10pm, and had to get re-dressed and trudge to the corner shop for more.

But I thought maybe it was an honest mistake, or it had just got lost unlikely

THEN last week she binned the baby's bonjela. OMFG. Imagine the scene - screaming exhausted teething baby at 3am and no bonjela. I was raging. Especially as she never ever picks up empty toilet rolls, wipes packets, tissue boxes etc that are unmistakeably finished!

I did consider firing dh when he ironed my reusable breastpads, and melted the waterproof backing so they were useless. I decided to put him on probation instead - come to think of it, that must be nearly over now, as the baby concerned is 17 this year.... grin

Fecklessdizzy Wed 22-Jan-14 12:42:50

SDTG We really need a cackles madly and chokes on coffee emoticon. grin


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