Unwilling to "share" medication with DH

(103 Posts)
PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:14:30

DH and I are on antidepressants, Sertraline (sp?). I am on 50mg a day and DH is on 200mg. My prescription is for a packet that contains 1 pill a day. DH prescription is a packet that is a double dose and he has to take 2 pills a day - therefore the equivalent of 4 of my pills a day.

Normally we keep our renewal prescription in the bathroom cabinet next to each others, so when I renew my medication, I renew DH too. For the last few months I pop both the pescriptions into the drs and 2 working days later the chemist has it ready to pick up.

This month DH moved his medication and also his form to repeat the prescription but I didn't know where. I told him that I was renewing mine last week but he forgot to give me his repeat form.

This Saturday morning DH said that he had run out of medication and could he take mine instead? I said no because even if I get his renewal form to the drs on Monday morning, the earliest his prescription would be ready would be Tuesday, perhaps even Wednesday. This would mean he would need to have 16 of my pills to cover the 4 days.

I couldn't even 'borrow' back as his individual pills are double my dosage. The drs will start asking questions if I hand in another renewal form 2 weeks early.

He went bananas and said I was selfish. I don't think I was. Was I?

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Mon 20-Jan-14 12:16:00

Not at all. It is not recommended to share meds.

He can get an emergency prescription so he has pills today. He would just need to organise it.

Mim78 Mon 20-Jan-14 12:16:34

I don't think you were.

Fifyfomum Mon 20-Jan-14 12:17:49

Of course you are being unreasonable. On this high a dose you will find he has serious side effects from not taking his dose.

Share, wait til Wednesday and then just halve some of his back.

mrstigs Mon 20-Jan-14 12:18:14

I dont think yabu at all. He has to take some responsibility for his own meds. Sure, if his were in 50mg tablets and you could have just taken his after then maybe it would have been a considerate thing to do, but like you say, you cant. If he wants to move the perscription and take responsibility for it himself then thats what he should do.


Why did he move his prescription out of the way if he was not prepared to go pick it up and deal with it it himself?

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:20:00

Fifyformum - I can't have his later because his are too high a dosage for me. He really notices his moods if he doesn't even take his for 2 days so I know why he was freaking out.

selfdestructivelady Mon 20-Jan-14 12:20:55

Not at all u IMO dh once sneakily took one of my sleeping pills and not only slept late for work but was drowsy all day prescriptions are not to be shared.

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:21:20

He moved his prescription to his work bag, apparently, because he was able to take it just before he left for work. If it was in the bathroom cabinet he would forget in the very early mornings and have to take it when he got home, which he would rather not do.

He can get an emergency script from the GP or 111. YANBU.

promote Mon 20-Jan-14 12:22:52

yanbu he should make sure he has enough pills and renew his in time .

GrandadGrumps Mon 20-Jan-14 12:23:23

You can just break one of his 100mg tablets in half to get your 50mg dose. That's why there's a line in the middle of the tablet.

bigbluebus Mon 20-Jan-14 12:23:35

As you pointed out, the computer system at the DRs will be programmed to make sure you are not over using/over ordering your prescription, so you may have difficulty next time you go to order your tablets if you use them up quicker because your DH has used some of yours. You won't be able to compensate by using your DHs tablets in that situation as his are a higher strength.
He needs to collect an emergency repeat prescription and take it to the chemist himself and tell them he wants to wait whilst his order is made up. If they don't stock it he can try another pharmacy.

puddock Mon 20-Jan-14 12:25:30

I suggest he - not you - phones the GP and arranges for an urgent repeat.
Fiftyformum said HALVE, not have. i.e. cut his in half. If they have a break line, this should be reasonably accurate, if you want to agree to his suggestion. You WNBU to say no though.,

AnaisB Mon 20-Jan-14 12:25:34

Why couldn't you just halve his pills when they are ready?

JenBehavingBadly Mon 20-Jan-14 12:26:39

If he's run out he can go to the pharmacy and they can call his GP and arrange an emergency prescription which means he's covered until the main one is ready. He could go to the GP direct as well as they won't leave someone without meds.

AnaisB Mon 20-Jan-14 12:26:54

x posts re the halving.

MadOldFeminist Mon 20-Jan-14 12:33:31

I imagine halving a tablet isn't an option as they are probably capsules. Hwr, my daughter and I are both on thyroxine ( as we both have had thyroidectomies), and we just tend to fill our containers from the same packet, rather than have two open. Tbh, if it's the same drug, I would share, and if it's going to be a huge issue at the GP I would just put a note on the form saying I'd lost a strip.

Blatherskite Mon 20-Jan-14 12:35:27

Every antidepressant I've ever taken has been a powder in a hollow capsule which would be impossible to halve.

It's a tough one. On the one hand, he's going to seriously crash going from 200mg to nothing for 3 days and could have physical as well as psychological issues but on the other hand, you can't top up your missing pills with his when he gets some as he has a higher dose. I think ringing the docs for an emergency script is the only option.

MammaTJ Mon 20-Jan-14 12:35:59

Not all pills are able to be halved, so it is not as simple as that. Also, there is always going to (minimal) loss when cutting a tablet in half.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 20-Jan-14 12:38:44

These tablets come in capsules,hard smartie looking tablets and lined ones.

Only one of those shoud be halved

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 12:45:23

Tell him to ring the GP for an emergency prescription. My GP has a 48 hour wait for prescriptions usually, however if you ring and say it is urgent they will usually rush it through for you.
You are right not to give him yours.

Leverette Mon 20-Jan-14 12:47:36

YABVU. It's the same drug, prescribed to both of you.

flowery Mon 20-Jan-14 12:50:46

You are right, and there is no reason for him to wait until Wednesday. There are various things he can do to get an emergency prescription. Some chemists will give a small amount as an emergency, or he can just ring the GP for an emergency appointment, or go in there and prostrate himself in front of the receptionists.

Not that I've done all those before, oh no

As much as they have rules about how much time they need to process repeats, they are not actually going to allow someone to go without essential medication for the sake of rules.

Get him to take responsibility for his own repeat requests. Do the GP not do a request online service so you don't need to go in there all the time?

PenelopePipPop Mon 20-Jan-14 12:52:17

I don't think you were selfish. I don't think he was totally unreasonable either (and I don't think you do either from your later posts). The side effects of a sudden withdrawal from a high dose of ADs would be scary for him so he may not have been thinking straight - not good and unfair you got the blame.

I have a good relationship with my GP and in an equivalent situation can imagine calling the practice and saying can I let DH take some of my meds for now and get an early refill of my prescription in a few weeks and that not be a problem. Whilst the system does monitor overuse etc people do lose meds so it does allow some slack. In my case I take a ton of drugs and for various reasons due to consultants wanting to see if we can tweak my regime the points I need refills keep going out of synch so I often refill early/late so as not to have keep going to the pharmacy. No one has ever questioned this even though at times I must look like I'm stockpiling one of my meds for after the apocalypse, whilst being down to next to nothing of another.

Obviously after that you either need a more robust mechanism in place for filling repeats (I know that can be a pain) or make it clear it is completely his job from now on and 'borrowing'your meds was a one off.

flowery Mon 20-Jan-14 12:52:20

Assuming it is possible to divide his medication up, which lots of people seem to be assuming, if he rang the GP and said "should I ask you to do an emergency prescription or take some of my partners medication and give her some of mine later", they'd definitely say the former rather than the latter IMO.

enriquetheringbearinglizard Mon 20-Jan-14 12:52:52

Not advice for now, but for the future OP our surgery does an online login where you can order repeat prescriptions.
If yours does the same and you had both your logins you could order the medication well in advance.

Ours go straight over to the pharmacy and all you need to do is go in and collect.

Floralnomad Mon 20-Jan-14 12:55:05

I would have shared and then explained what happened to the pharmacy so that when he got his script they could dispense some of it as 50 mg tablets so you could share them .provided you all take the correct dose it doesn't matter how you take it ( ie 2 tablets or 4) . Besides which if you usually deal with his repeat you must have known he was going to run out and could have asked him where his repeat was when you put yours in at the GP . It does look rather like you were making some kind of point or just being awkward.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 12:56:31

Leverette whilst it is the same medication the dosages are very different. Therefore OP would have to use up a large amount of her prescription for her husband to have just 3 doses at his rate. She can not then just take her needed doses from his pack as the suspention is a lot higher than her prescribed dose.
If she lends him hers then orders a repeat prescription sooner than usual it may cause her hassle as the GP will want to know why she is ordering 2 weeks early.
They say not to share meds for this very reason. He can easily just ring the GP for a fast prescription or ask for an emergency appointment with a nurse (that can prescribe) or a GP.

MistressDeeCee Mon 20-Jan-14 13:00:22

Why can't he sort out emergency/repeat prescription? I dont think its wise to share medication at all. Not sure what youre going to do this time around but he's got take responsibility for this, you arent there as his 'fallback' & besides, what would he do if you WEREN'T on anti-depressants then? He'd have to sort something out wouldnt he? I hope by now he's contacted GP.

Fifyfomum Mon 20-Jan-14 13:02:44

I wouldn't see a friend go without necessary medication when I had a packet of it. Let alone my other half.

kali110 Mon 20-Jan-14 13:04:39

Im on sertraline.been on 50 and 100 and they are easy to break in half

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 13:06:46

But the point is he won't go without if he rings the GP now and asks for an urgent prescription. Maybe had it been impossible for him to sort a prescription out it might be OPs only option. As it stands it is a Monday, the GP is available and they can get to the chemist.
He just needs to ring and ask and he can have his own.

msrisotto Mon 20-Jan-14 13:07:04

He doesn't have to go without though, he could always take responsibility for himself and arrange an emergency prescription whilst the normal prescription is on order

GobbySadcase Mon 20-Jan-14 13:08:34

DH always forgets his repeats and I have had the embarrassment of ringing our camp commandant receptionists to get an emergency script.

Last time this happened I made him deal with it. They gave him such a serve I hopefully won't have to do it again.

hootloop Mon 20-Jan-14 13:11:04

How well do you know your pharmacist, if I speak to to ours he will ring the surgery then give me a couple of tablets for the 2 days then give 2 less in the prescription when it comes.
But no not unreasonable to share.

hootloop Mon 20-Jan-14 13:11:28

*to not share I mean.

Floralnomad Mon 20-Jan-14 13:13:09

littleprincess it was Saturday when he found he'd run out so would have meant trying the OOH team .

flowery Mon 20-Jan-14 13:14:37

I wouldn't see a friend go without necessary medication when I had a packet of it. Let alone my other half.

Nor would anyone. And I'm sure if the OP and her DH were in the middle of the jungle with no access to a doctor/pharmacist for a few days, she would share.

But that's not the case. It's perfectly possible for him to get medication and no need at all for him to either go without or expect her to share hers. All it requires is for him to take a bit of responsibility and make a phone call or whatever.

Famzilla Mon 20-Jan-14 13:16:48

I would share with my DH if he forgot to sort it out himself. I would then ask the pharmacy to dispense half of his in a dosage that I could take.

Yeah the rules say you shouldn't etc but DH is my best friend, I would give him a kidney if he needed it! I'm on some pretty strong painkillers and don't mind him having some when his past injury flares up.

I'm the only one on regular medication though and obviously painkillers are a bit different to anti depressants.

MinesAPintOfTea Mon 20-Jan-14 13:19:36

If he rings now and tells the receptionist its an emergency and he's actually out of medication they will be able to have the perscription at the desk within a few hours. The delay is so that a doctor can sit down and do a big batch efficiently, and they will get pissed off if he does it regularly, but as a one-off they should manage it today.

Assuming its something reasonably common the pharmacist will be able to do it whilst you wait within a reasonable time. It saves you time if you drop it off and pick it up the next day, but I've never had to wait more than half an hour for a prescription when needing it urgently (usually as antibiotics etc).

AdmiralData Mon 20-Jan-14 13:19:48

I think you'll find that the line on tablets is not ALWAYS indicative of you being able to split it to halve the dosage OP. I know this from my own medication, there is a line but the leaflet that comes with the meds specifically says not to take half a tablet as it is NOT equal to half the dosage in some cases. You are not your husbands personal assistant, or his mother. Your husband is responsible for his own medication. YANBU.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 13:20:02

Yes I realise that now. However he still had the option to ring OOH for a prescription. What would he have done had OP not have been on the same medication?
She gave him the opportunity for her to order his repeat a week ago, she asked for his form.
He could have rung OOH for advice, and I doubt they would have suggested using his wife's medication.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 20-Jan-14 13:22:17

Has anybody pointed out yet,that it s a criminal offence to give someone else your prescribed medication.

Laurel1979 Mon 20-Jan-14 13:31:56

YANBU. He's an adult and there is no reason why he can't request an urgent script himself. Indeed, the hassle of doing this would hopefully deter him from letting his meds run out again. I wouldn't recommend lending him yours, it'll show up on your computerised notes as poor compliance if scripts are ordered too early or too late (most GP computer systems have automatic programmes that will indicate beside each item on a repeat list what the % compliance is). If you start lending out your tabs etc your GP could even change the frequency of your script to weekly instead of 1-2 monthly to avoid this from happening.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 20-Jan-14 13:33:09

I think your DH needs to take responsibility for his own medication.

PenelopePipPop Mon 20-Jan-14 13:39:37

Sockreturningpixie no it isn't.

You can't supply drugs in the course of business dealings unless you are in an exempted profession (pharmacist doctor vet etc). But it is only a criminal offence to possess drugs if the drug in question is a controlled substance under the Misuse of Drugs Act 1971.

steff13 Mon 20-Jan-14 14:21:48

Does the doctor have to approve the prescription refill every single time? I wouldn't share with him, and I would make him call the doctor to get the emergency approval or whatever.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 20-Jan-14 14:28:55

I was under the impression setraline is a controlled substance in the uk

GrandadGrumps Mon 20-Jan-14 14:44:45

AdmiralData, the score-lines on tablets are there specifically to allow them to be split fairly accurately into half doses. You can even buy a little cutting gadget from the chemist to do it. I can't think of any reason to have the score lines other than to indicate that it's safe to split the tablet.

Maybe a pharmacist could comment?

PenelopePipPop Mon 20-Jan-14 14:46:36

Nope it definitely isn't.

It is a very safe anti-depressant and it is wrong to give the impression it belongs in the same category as drugs likely to be regulated under the Misuse of Drugs Act.

kali110 Mon 20-Jan-14 16:28:04

Dont know about ops surgery but mine will not take prescription requests over the phone, emergencies or not. Have to be in writing and takes 48 hours. I thought all surgeries were the same that all requests were not allowed over the phone ( thought they made exceptions for elderly and disabled)He could go to his pharmacy that he gets his medicine dispenses from and see if they will give him an emergency supply.

You should not share medicines with people yes, but when youre on the same drug i don't see the harm. Second what i said earlier, its very easy to split a 100mg tablet in half.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Mon 20-Jan-14 16:42:26

Would it be helpful if your DH had his dispensed in the smaller sizes that you take and just take more of them? That way you'd have a bit more flexibility if one of you forgets to renew their prescription? Having said that it's pretty unusual for both husband and wife to have the same prescription drugs so really he needs to make sure he orders in good time in future. I think I'd let him have tablets from yours today and get him to arrange a prescription for himself quickly (perhaps asking for the smaller size tablets).

flowery Mon 20-Jan-14 16:47:32

"Dont know about ops surgery but mine will not take prescription requests over the phone, emergencies or not. Have to be in writing and takes 48 hours. I thought all surgeries were the same that all requests were not allowed over the phone"

I expect surgeries get to set their own rules. But any surgery will be able to provide prescriptions quicker than their normal procedure in an emergency. Your surgery may require the person to come into the surgery, or to make an appointment to see the doctor.

Either way, there is always a way of getting prescriptions quicker in an emergency.

Leverette Mon 20-Jan-14 16:52:08

There is no issue with breaking scored tablets in half. That's what they are manufactured for.

(Am a nurse used to prescribing and administering shedloads of meds and also on sertraline myself).

It just seems like an unnecessary "that'll teach you" attitude which leads me to speculate on the general wellbeing of the relationship esp as both parties are on ADs.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 20-Jan-14 17:06:06

Of course it's a safe drug I was not trying to imply it was not,I made a mistake that I tried to acknowledge by saying I was under the impression,I should have been clearer and included opps at the start and a red face at the end.

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 17:41:54

Hello, OP here. My DH realised he was down to his last dose of Sertraline on Saturday morning. He could have phoned the emergency doctor or gone to the chemist and spoken to them etc. But he wanted the easy route of just taking mine. When I said no, he didn't even bother with trying to call the doctor or the Chemist. Our doctors is not open on a Saturday.

He passed me his repeat prescription form this morning and I handed it in to the doctors at 9.30 asking for a quick turn around, but that was the only 5 mins I had in the day. I can only pick them up tomorrow. This means he has been without pills for 2 days.

Your DH has been a prat but, I can't believe how mean you're being, if the pills can be halved.

Moreisnnogedag Mon 20-Jan-14 17:52:06

PMDD I'm not sure why you'd be so off about this. Is there something else going on? Personally I'd have let him have mine and split his in half when I was low and if the doctors' asked either tell them the truth or said I dropped the packet in the loo.

You seem oddly smug about him being without for two days?

BonesAndSkully Mon 20-Jan-14 17:58:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

it's all very well saying 'he should have taken responsibility yada yada' but whether it's psychological or physical, suddenly not taking sertraline (and probably other ADs) can be pretty hellish. for that reason, i wouldn't deny dp this.

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 18:09:41

I'm not smug. I'm annoyed that he is angry at me. It is his cock up, but he wants to blame me. I guess if he had phoned the emergency doctor or gone to the chemist and explained on Saturday morning when he realised the problem, then I would have felt differently (not about sharing my medication but not been annoyed).

The fact was he couldn't be bothered to repeat his prescription via the normal channels and then couldn't be bothered to get an emergency supply either. He just wanted me to give him my pills.

I know that it is illegal. I wasn't prepared to do it.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Mon 20-Jan-14 18:11:07

Give him some of yours. Explain that it's a one off. We're all allowed to drop the ball sometimes surely? Me and my mum do this all the time as we're on the same bp meds.

"Illegal" trumps immoral then? hmm
Why can't you have one of his halved for 2 days?

I ran out of one of my drugs recently as the pharmacy had made a mistake.
DH takes the same and happily handed some over, I'd do the same for him without a thought.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 20-Jan-14 18:15:16

Why don't you do the free prescription renewal at the chemist.

DH is fit and well but his asthma meds he needs every month, so the chemist puts in form over the doctors and picks the prescription form up, dispenses them ready for collection.

Thants Mon 20-Jan-14 18:18:59

You can break one of his pills in half. That'd be your dose.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 20-Jan-14 18:21:48

I have taken DH meds when I have ran out of mine. Without them I wouldn't be able to move ( same medication) I think it cruel to deny him medication he needs.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 20-Jan-14 18:28:48

DO NOT split the tablet unless you have a BFN in front of you as not all tablets can be split.

kotinka Mon 20-Jan-14 18:31:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

kali110 Mon 20-Jan-14 18:31:59

No even in emergency that iv run out my surgery cannot take requests over the phone believe me iv tried when iv been desperate

kali110 Mon 20-Jan-14 18:34:03

And its still never been any quicker than the time set!i just go to my chemist, state iv dropped the ball and they give me an emergency supply and then take the ones iv had out of my new lot when my prescription comes in.

whatever5 Mon 20-Jan-14 18:51:06

If he can't get a prescription in time, he could go to the pharmacist for an emergency supply (although they may charge).

HicDraconis Mon 20-Jan-14 20:37:33

It isn't illegal and I can't understand why you wouldn't let him take his dose of your medication. Any GP would prescribe a repeat 2 weeks early if you explain why you are in need of one so soon (and having 5 pills a day taken instead of one is a good reason!)

Many ADs are such that an abrupt cessation of a reasonable dose (which is what going without for 2 days will do) may cause other issues.

I cannot for the life of me understand why you would be so stubborn on such a non issue. Let him have a couple of days from your pack and request a repeat a week early. And tell him to leave his repeat out with yours if he wants you to pick it up with yours.

I wouldn't want the hassle of having to go to the chemist (and argue with a pharmacist - done it before for an inhaler) or hang around an ooh surgery for an emergency 3 day supply script on a precious weekend day off!

Yes it's his cock up but I'd be fuming if I were him. Annoyed at myself for forgetting to fill the repeat and annoyed at you for not helping out when it doesn't put you out at all.

ClaudiusGalen Mon 20-Jan-14 20:41:05

I came off 200mg sertraline cold turkey. It was awful. I couldn't stand up without the room spinning, my head thumped and I felt sick constantly. I wouldn't wish the withdrawal on anybody, let alone someone I loved.

FannyFifer Mon 20-Jan-14 20:47:15

He is surely having withdrawal symptoms.
It can be quite dangerous to stop just like that.
Do his usual tablets break in half or not?

AnUnearthlyChild Mon 20-Jan-14 20:52:26

Setraline Is bloody awful to come off.

He is being a numpty for not at least trying to get hold of his meds though. I have been known to share my same but much stronger meds with dh if he runs out, but only on the proviso he has exhausted all reasonable channels before asking me. And reasonable channels would include ringing the doctor and asking for more as and emergency case.

Our docs are really good, you can call reception and explain the situation and ask for a doctor to call you back. They generally ring you within a couple of hours and will prescribe there and then. You, or someone can then drop in and pick the stuff up from the dispensary. I've had to do this when I've had a bad migraine and taken the last of my stuff for that. I love my GP's

Blatherskite Mon 20-Jan-14 20:53:56

I came off Venlafaxine cold turkey as it in itself was making me ill. Just like Claudius I couldn't stand up without the room spinning and I was very, very ill. It was absolutely awful.

Can the tablets be halved or not Op?

JenBehavingBadly Mon 20-Jan-14 20:57:43

If he's not prepared to take responsibility for his own prescription or call the Dr or speak to the pharmacy, then I don't see how its the OPs fault that he's had no meds when he's had the means and opportunity to get them.

whatever5 Mon 20-Jan-14 21:08:12

OP, how long has he been on these tablets? Has he ever done this before? If it is a one off, I would help him on the condition that it doesn't happen again. I would be annoyed if he didn't at least try to get an emergency supply though.

PenelopePipPop Mon 20-Jan-14 21:15:44

It isn't the OP's fault. But people are suggesting that he sounds like he has quite bad depression or anxiety (implicit in the fact he's on a high dose of Sertraline) facing the risk of acute withdrawal symptoms which are at best unpleasant and at worst actively dangerous and that given the power to assist someone in that situation many of us would. It isn't ideal. He should have handled it differently. But if the OP's DH had the kind of mindset where he planned ahead, took positive action when he encountered minor setbacks, never blamed anyone else for his problems and dealt with adversity calmly you would have to wonder if he needed the sertraline at all.

PMDD - Deal with the crisis if necessary by giving him your meds. Explain what you did to your GP - you won;t have done anything illegal and no rational GP would blame you for helping your DH avoid acute withdrawal symptoms. If you share a GP he or she may be able to gently comment to your DH on getting prescriptions filled early.

But handle how to avoid this and the fact that he may well have behaved like a dick another time.

AndHarry Mon 20-Jan-14 21:20:51

YANBU - I would be hugely annoyed if my DH was angry at me for something it was his responsibility and within his capability to do but just couldn't be bothered. What a childish way to behave! I'd be telling him to sort out his own prescriptions from now on.

MiniSoksMakeHardWork Mon 20-Jan-14 21:36:03

Yanbu. Why should you potentially suffer because he's not organised himself.

However, check whether your surgery offers an auto repeat service. Dh, our dc and I all have a card which gets stamped with the date our next script is due. When we collect them, we just tick the boxes on the meds we need and hand them straight back. No worrying about getting a script in on time. I've done it before where I've missed my own anti-d's repeat and the few days wait was hell.

Thants Mon 20-Jan-14 22:03:45

I was under the impression you can't get ad's on repeat?

Thants Mon 20-Jan-14 22:06:14

I've been told by my doc directly that I can halve sertraline. They aren't coated or sustained release and have a split line down the middle for breaking. I know some tablets you shouldn't break, but sertraline are fine .

Wantsunshine Mon 20-Jan-14 22:18:45

I feel sorry for the ops husband. Just cannot see why you would make such a big issue of this.

XiCi Mon 20-Jan-14 22:28:50

I cannot believe that you would rather see your dh suffer than give him a couple of your pills to tide him over

Do you actually like him?

CouthyMow Mon 20-Jan-14 22:58:38

For a med where you will suffer instant effects from sudden withdrawal of, such as antidepressants or anti seizure meds in my case as I forget to renew scrips frequently due to memory issues, you can go to ANY pharmacy and they will telephone your GP to do an emergency prescription of the pills, though your DH will have to wait whilst they make up the prescription.

OR if he goes into his surgery, most will do an emergency repeat in a situation like this - but again, he will have to wait for the GP to be free, possibly until the end of the GP's clinic hours, to get the GP to sign the prescription.

He will also need to go to his GP and request a repeat prescription.

Does your surgery do repeat prescription requests online? Mine has just started doing this, which is making my life much easier.

No, unless your DH's pills have a score line in them, I would NOT be letting him use yours, as any other type of pill / tablet / capsule is NOT meant to be split.

Tbh, I'd be making HIM sort out this issue himself without taking your pills anyway, as it's the only way for him to take responsibility for his own repeat prescriptions.

In future, he has a choice - he has his meds in the med cupboard along with the repeat slip, your system, and you sort out the repeats, OR he keeps his meds and repeat slip where HE wants, and HE sorts out his own repeats.

YANBU to refuse to let him take your pills when there ARE solutions available to him.

CouthyMow Mon 20-Jan-14 23:12:31

If I was faced with the effects of not having my seizure meds or going to a pharmacy and waiting for them...I'd go to the bloody pharmacy. Even if the OP's DH ISN'T thinking clearly - the OP TOLD him he could do that.

And yet, he still chose not to. And then has the gall to moan at the OP for not giving up her meds.

What gives him the right, depression or not (and yes, I HAVE been depressed before, so much so that I've been an inpatient for it) to decide that the OP WILL do what he wants to fix HIS fuck up or get moaned at / shouted at??!!

He is a grown up, as am I. If I make a fuck up on ordering repeats of my seizure meds (and I do often enough that my GP's receptionist one eye rolls me when I ask for an emergency scrip...) then I am the one to fix it.

The OP's DH had a choice - he couldn't change the OP's refusal to share her meds, which we are ALL told not to do. But he COULD change HIS actions after that point. He had a choice between seeing an OOH doctor for a prescription, getting an emergency short term prescription from a pharmacy, or deciding not to bother and to suffer the side effects of a sudden withdrawal.

If HE chose the most stupid of those actions, then he has nobody to blame but himself!

CouthyMow Mon 20-Jan-14 23:14:34

And the OP even asked him for his repeat slip - HE chose not to give it to her. The cynic in me says that he engineered this as a WAY of shouting at her.

CouthyMow Mon 20-Jan-14 23:21:01

Look at the evidence - chooses to move his meds and repeat slip, thus thwarting the OP's 'system' of remembering to order repeats.

Chooses not to give OP repeat slip when asked for it as OP noticed hers needed doing, so asked for his.

Does nothing to put in repeat slip himself.

Runs out of meds.

Asks OP to use hers, despite knowing that the OP can't easily replace them with his due to different dosages.

(Maybe trying to avoid censure from GP / Receptionist about it, yet expecting OP to take the rap if she needed to renew HER prescription a full 2 weeks early?! - that's just conjecture though)

OP suggests calling OOH for an emergency prescription. He refuses.

OP suggests going to pharmacy for emergency short term scrip. He refuses.

STILL does nothing about having run out of meds.

Then starts getting angry with OP when she still won't share meds.

OP ends up putting in his repeat prescription.

He won't collect prescription from surgery.

Hmmm...I may be an over cynical old bag here, but that chain of events doesn't say to me that this was ALL genuine oversight IYSWIM.

kali110 Mon 20-Jan-14 23:22:41

Yes they can be put on repeat.mine have been on repeat for years

FanFuckingTastic Mon 20-Jan-14 23:33:01

You need to take responsibility for your own meds, I speak as a long term medication user. If I forget, I suffer the consequences. I know what options are available to me if I run out, most chemists will give you a couple of days worth, and an emergency doctors appointment will give you a prescription you can use straight away.

Part of getting better is being able to manage your own medication and know your needs, if you can't and someone else sorts it for you it's a form of dependence and when you are suffering from mental health problems, that can be a bad thing, it allows you to remain ill and not take full responsibility.

The only time I ever rely on anyone is when I am too sick to take care of it myself, and it doesn't sound that way. A couple of days of withdrawal are more than enough to ensure I don't forget again, remembering to always take my medication means I get well. Forgetting a prescription is a big thing and I think he does need to take charge more of his own health.

livelablove Mon 20-Jan-14 23:51:04

I can see there is a potential for conflict in a situation where two people are suffering from the same serious health problem. You will tend to need sympathy and emotional and practical support from your partner when you are sick or feeling bad but if they are sick too they may not be able to give you that. Not just that but there is also a potential for competition in who is the sickest or who is coping better or whatever. I can just see a lot of places where problems could arise.

I know this is not the point of your aibu but I think that you may need some help with this issue. You need to arrange something so that you can both get that support you need from other people if your OH is feeling bad and can't do it for you. Maybe some relationship counselling to help you work out how best to deal with this difficulty of you both being ill at the same time.

Letitsnow9 Tue 21-Jan-14 07:00:29

I would ask the doctors to fax the prescription or go and pick it up. I can see why you won't share but can also see his point. I've shared medication before but ONLY with someone who was on the exact same thing at a lower dose (and it was a CD)

bumbumsmummy Tue 21-Jan-14 07:16:28

If it was in his bag surely he just needs to take that script to pharmacy

This sounds dodgy to me

Yanbu at all

Tmrgl Tue 21-Jan-14 07:44:45

Agree with CouthyMow
YANBU he is playing games - I recognise the symptoms from my own DH.
Even if he had to put meds in work bag he could have left repeat slip behind.
He should be taking responsibility for his own treatment - including organising his own repeats.

Kali - my GP has a dedicated repeat prescription phone line. I can also order them online. I never have to go into the Dr's to order a repeat.

My ADs are on repeat.

Coumarin Tue 21-Jan-14 14:11:53

He can get an emergency supply from a pharmacy whilst he waits for his new prescription.

I say 'he' but to be honest that'll soon be 'you' if it isn't already. After 2 days going from 200mg to 0 he's going to be feeling very, very ill. He won't be able to drive and will soon be at a point where he'll barely be able to stand.

You are being cruel. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't help someone in this situation. Especially someone they're supposed to love.

Coumarin Tue 21-Jan-14 14:14:30

That said he needs to take responsibility for his own medication and health. He can't rely on someone else all the time. In future tell him he'll have to get his own prescription and pick the tablets up himself.

Gruntfuttock Tue 21-Jan-14 14:15:37

Coumarin I agree with you. I wouldn't dream of behaving like the OP, but it seems she thinks its more important to 'teach him a lesson' than to help him.

kali110 Tue 21-Jan-14 14:42:11

Coola im so jelous i wish mine did!

AdmiralData Tue 11-Feb-14 00:24:08

Sorry for being a pedant but ... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pill_splitting. Copy and paste if it doesn't work. My AD's CANNOT be split in half to halve a dosage. The information leaflet provided specifically says so. I am therefore assuming it applies to other meds.

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