To get pissed off some days with living with a fussy eater.

(132 Posts)
jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:07:12

DH.

He is perfectly capable of making his own meals but it's nice for us all to sit down and eat the same meal of an evening.

He is rubbing off on ds which pisses me off the most.

He has annoyed me tonight with his fussiness, I could happily tip tomorrow's tea over his head right now.

Frustrating is an understatement.

hoobypickypicky Tue 14-Jan-14 19:18:03

YANBU.

There's one of those in this house.

If they won't eat what's on offer that's tough, I don't cook separately for them. I don't pander to their fussiness. I don't discuss it any more. In this case a lot of it seems to be attention-seeking so I don't feed that either.

I'd feel very resentful if I was cooking separate meals or altering the nature/timing of the family mealtimes to accommodate a fussy eater.

WaffilyVersatile Tue 14-Jan-14 19:19:45

if OH was a fussy eater I would not let him eat with us. Just not worth the headaches of him rubbing off on little ones

StickEmUpBigStyle Tue 14-Jan-14 19:21:27

My dh is a bit fussy and I've. Consigned myself to a life of no chilli
Or mushroom
Or squid.

I could go on

Keeps th food bill down though!

JennyOnAPlate Tue 14-Jan-14 19:22:12

I can't abide adult fussy eaters. It's just so toddlerish!

justgirl Tue 14-Jan-14 19:23:11

I'm a fussy eater :-( definitely not something I feel great about

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:23:16

Won't eat ANY fruit or veg or salad items.
Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

I'm working tomorrow,won't get in till after 6 so I've done a Bolognese to put in the slow cooker tomorrow. I've grated carrot & chopped up a red onion into tiny bits. He looked in it and said "I'm not eating any of that".
Fine, he can sort his own tea out, mine is made & will be lovely.

Twat off twatty.....

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 19:24:06

Can you give us some examples op? What does he say when you call him on the fact that your child is starting to copy it?

Mintyy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:17

Yanbu. I would be pissed off every single day, every single meal.

Don't know how you can stand it.

Infact, I could never have settled down with a fussy eater. When it is your child you have no choice, but when it is an adult ...

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:20

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.
I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

princessalbert Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:27

Get him to do the cooking!

Sirzy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:26:32

Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

Sorry, with an adult being that fussy I would leave him to sort himself. No way would I be catering to such childish levels of fussiness, especially not if its rubbing off on your child.

SinisterSal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:28:04

Twat off twatty is right.

Fussy eaters are irritating (imo) but when they are rude with it they can twat off!

Everyone has a few preferences and pet hates and of course that's perfectly fine and I will accommodate it at home, but when the list of they Won't eat is longer than what they Will they can find someones to cater to them.

CynicalandSmug Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:43

He can make his own dinner.

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:48

Well ds (10) & dh are very close. They go everywhere together, do loads together. When they go anywhere to eat...usually McDonald's or some such, ds will have what dh has....without salad or veg.

I send a pot of grapes or an Apple with him & insist he eats these before he has any shit.
If dh cooks for them, it's always without veg.
If he makes ds a packed lunch for school, I have to insist he puts fruit in.

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:57

That would annoy me too. Child fussiness is one thing (and I know all about that, having an ASD child with food texture issues), but adults who are ridiculously fussy wind me right up. My friend's DH won't eat veg (including tiny bits of onion etc chopped up in sauce) - he always asks for no veg/ salad in restaurants and if they serve it up with a salad garnish for example, he sends it back!

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 19:31:46

When he's not looking you could separate a bit off into a different saucepan and pretend it's his own special unhealthy version and then laugh and point when he eats it.

Trapper Tue 14-Jan-14 19:32:16

Wouldn't let them eat with you, really? My wife is a VERY fussy eater and she eats at the table with us. Because, you know, we're a family and that's what families do. Maybe I should consign her to the scullery and rustle up a curry...

WaffilyVersatile Tue 14-Jan-14 19:32:27

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

why are you enabling him? hes a grown up. don't leave someone with these issues in charge of providing nutrition for your child but don't hide his fucking veg. Tell him to sort his shit out.

ikeaismylocal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:33:04

My dp was like this when I met him, he would disect every meal and pick out anything that looked like it might have vitamins in it hmm

I refused to ttc until he had dealt with his unhealthy attitude to food, I didn't want to be telling a child they had to try everything on their plate whilst dp ate chips with ketchup on.

Dp did sort out his eating issues and now eats everything apart from raw tomatos.

Sparklymommy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:33:25

We have one in this house sad

If he doesn't eat what I cook it is his own bloody fault if he's hungry!

ShoeWhore Tue 14-Jan-14 19:34:28

Oh ffs. Does he feel ok about giving your dcs the message that it's ok to eat no fruit or veg then? What grown adult willingly eats only spam or chicken nuggets?

I couldn't have married someone like this. (Dh was a bit fussy when I first met him but I educated him)

Sorry that's not v helpful but you are absolutely NBU!

To me, that's less about fussy, and more about rudeness and having bad manners.

Slainte Tue 14-Jan-14 19:39:53

I can't stand this self-indulgent crap from adults, of course they can eat fruit and veg they just choose not to. This is one thing that really gets my goat!

CoffeeTea103 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:40:43

Kids allowed to be fussy grow up into fussy adults.

Rhubarbgarden Tue 14-Jan-14 19:44:49

LTB

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 19:46:05

I am over-sensitive to bitter tastes and therefore it's taken me a while to learn to like some vegetables, and some (cooked broccoli and Brussels sprouts, to name a couple) are still pretty unpleasant for me. But as an adult, I know veg are healthy for me, so if I saw someone preparing a dish I knew I'd enjoyed before and noticed there was broccoli in it, I'd be pleased that this person had found a way of preparing broccoli that I enjoyed eating as this would, long-term, be beneficial to my health and maybe help me tolerate the vegetable in other forms. It's not as though it's one of those types of foods that can make people feel sick when they realise they've eaten it, like insects or snails or meat (for some veggies).

He must have quite a strong aversion if even the thought of eating veggies he can't detect puts him off dinner. You did tell him it's the same recipe he's eaten before?

clara26 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:46:24

My mum has had to make 3 meals every meal time for about 25 years. I swore I'd never put up with it like my mum has. I was wrong. My exh was fussy and my DP is crazy fussy! It's not that he doesn't like stuff it's just that if it's not junk, and it's not his favourite he won't eat it. Recently I've got him to eat my curries chillies and pasta dishes as long as there's no veg in them. What he doesn't know is that every week I make a giant pan of veg, carrots, courgette, red peppers, onion, celery and loads of tomatoes, cook it without water, blitz it and use it as a base for all these meals. He has no idea and often comments on how good food is without veg.

It pisses me right off and as we are ttc I've told him when we have a dc he will eat what he's given. I'll do whatever it takes to not have fussy kids.

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:47:05

If it's rubbing off on your child you need to have a serious word with him.

To start with I agree with others that he will have to cook for himself if he's going to be so fussy. Also he is rude to say "I'm not eating any of that".

However the bigger picture is that it is rubbing off on your son. Your dh needs to educate himself about food so he realises that he is damaging himself and that it will damage your son if he goes on the same way.

My nephew (dh's nephew in fact but as such mine too) is terribly fussy eater even at 15 in exactly same circumstances - his Dad he looks up to is v fussy and so he won't eat anything either. Really similar stuff like only eating chicken and chips with ketchup. One Christmas wouldn't even eat turkey - it had to be chicken - as if they are not exactly the same! Your dh sounds lovely Dad generally, but he needs to realise as responsible parent that he is damaging his kid by acting like this!

FrillyMilly Tue 14-Jan-14 19:47:06

My DH is quite fussy but wishes he wasn't. He wants to come with us for Chinese or curry and not have to eat an omelette. He can't help the way he is. At meal times he either has a variation of what we are having or has something else. He's never rude to me about what I cook though. My DS is a fussy eater to the point that I have been in tears and taken him to see health care professionals. It is really not something that is easy to overcome and I do feel guilty for enabling his behaviour but I can't cope with him not eating and therefore not sleeping or the hours and hours he will cry for if I give him something he doesn't want to eat. If he grows up to be a fussy adult I'm very sorry that he will be irritating people.

CromeYellow Tue 14-Jan-14 19:52:46

yanbu, I've got one of those and if I had known how bad he was before moving in with him, I never would have. I didn't notice or care much for a long time because food had such a limited role in my social life and he rarely ate around me.

Now I have a toddler who used to be a fantastic eater, ate everything, loved vegetables in particular but is now refusing food because she only wants to eat the crap daddy eats. It drives me nuts, it's irritating in every way, can't go to many restaurants because of his fussiness, embarrasses me in the ones we can go to, fills the shopping with substandard crap, can't eat proper meals together as a family because dd ignores her own and tries to eat his. I hate that she's picking up his habits, being exposed to horrible attitudes about food and been given a 'want' for foods I don't want her to have.

It's annoying and at times, infuriating.

PrivateBenjamin Tue 14-Jan-14 19:54:14

How did your DP deal with it ikea?

ikeaismylocal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:56:49

I think the blending up of food has a lot to do with why my dp was so fussy, ds is 12 months old and we have been doing baby led weaning, ds happily eats all fruit and vegies infact he will always choose fruit/veg over carbs or meat to the point that we now give ds the carb+protein and then offer veg after otherwise he will just eats only veg.

Mil was telling me that she was terrified of dp choaking when he was a baby so he was only allowed pured food untill he had all his teeth--bonkers lady-- When she finally gave him actual food he refused everything.

He has slowly built up the food he eats and now eats everything. I think the adults who are increadably fussy need to take responsibility for trying at least to improve their fussyness especially before they have kids.

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:57:42

PS - you can probably tell that I am not keen on fussy eating.

I am pregnant for second time, and when dh cooks I will eat it all to set good example for dd even if he's inadvertently included something I have a real aversion to. So if I can eat whatever is in front of me while pregnant your dh has no excuse.

MrsOakenshield Tue 14-Jan-14 19:58:38

god, he sounds awful, like you have 2 toddlers. I would simply refuse to cook for him at all and tell him that until he learns to eat in an adult manner and set a good example to DS he can eat out of the home. For every single meal. I really would not have that in the house at all.

ikeaismylocal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:59:50

Dp delt with it by trying things and then once he realised peas for example were not that bad or even added to the flavour of a meal we cooked with them often and then added the next food, I think it was more about fear that a physical dislike of foods.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Tue 14-Jan-14 20:00:09

DW has texture issues with most non-starchy veg and will retch uncontrollably if she detects a piece in her mouth.

Flavours are no problem, although brought up on a rural poverty diet she has taken 20 years to tolerate any spice level above korma.

DD's a bit "urgh, greeeen!" but that's diminishing.

I however will eat anything including durian, andouillette and mushy peas.

hoobypickypicky Tue 14-Jan-14 20:00:49

Our fussy adult won't eat any main dish without meat in it. So that's no ratatouille etc, no pizza unless with ham on it. He won't eat quiche or omelette and will only eat pizza with ham on it, not even plain cheese and tomato. He refuses point blank to even try anything new. He refuses to eat any of the vegetarian meals which the rest of the household eat, often saying "I'm not eating that" or "I'm not eating that shit". He manages to eat corned beef and spam well enough (though I'm not cooking that shit! grin ).

He will eat certain items of salad but only without dressing. He asked if the salad I offered yesterday was without addition. I told him it was and he didn't notice that it had a liberal dash of dressing on it.

Tomorrow I'm going to give him the same salad vegetables but this time tell him that it's got dressing on it after he's taken a mouthful. I can guarantee you that he'll say he won't or "can't" eat it and that it's disgusting. hmm

I guarantee you he'll go hungry if he does, too!

MrsOakenshield Tue 14-Jan-14 20:04:45

My mum has had to make 3 meals every meal time for about 25 years.

not being mean to your mum (she's certainly not alone), but she hasn't had to do that at all. She has chosen to do that, to pander to fussy eaters. I made the decision to bring up DD veggie as DH is and all our main meals are veggie and the last thing I wanted was to end up with a child who was all about meat and I would end up having to do 2 meals half the time - no chance!

Methe Tue 14-Jan-14 20:05:37

This would be such a deal breaker for me. How pathetic!

clara26 Tue 14-Jan-14 20:24:02

Mrsoakenshield, you are quite right! The older of my two younger brothers and I always ate well but it's the baby of the family who was allowed to eat what he wanted. Now the older brother (who still lives at home at 31) is very fussy. The baby is 27 and still lives at home, both are pandered to. They don't have issues with food they are just bloody spoilt. I've told my mum time and again to cook what her and my dad want and let them make their own but she won't because they make a mess and don't clean up.!

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 20:25:56

I do wonder if some of the people who congratulate themselves on not being fussy are actually not very sensitive to different flavours - a poster above claimed chicken and turkey are identical hmm and I see, for example, many people suggesting mashed cauliflower tastes just like mashed potato.

There are people who assume, because they can't taste the bitterness in sugarsnap pea pods or the pencillyness in Brita water, than anyone who can taste them and doesn't like it is imagining it.

Fussy people who suddenly claim to hate something they were previously enjoying when they discover it has an ingredient they thought they disliked are being babyish.

There may sometimes be an aspect of trying to spare someone's feelings, though:

An Illustrative Story

Over Christmas I fancied cocoa suddenly, and DP dug around, found some powder, and made me a cup specially. It wasn't great TBH but he was trying to do something nice for me and had put cream in it and put it in a nice mug, so when he asked, "How is it?" I said, "Mmm, lovely, thanks!" even though it wasn't at all chocolatey and a bit thin and bitter. He said "Sure?" so I said yes, and he gleefully produced the cocoa powder with a BB date of 2004. So I told him it actually wasn't very nice and didn't drink the rest as I now felt no obligation to pretend it was okay. So yeah, that sometimes happens when someone tries to trick you about the food you're eating. But OP's husband sounds too rude to be doing this.

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 20:27:27

^Brita water, THAT

noblegiraffe Tue 14-Jan-14 20:37:48

Not sure why being prepared to put anything in your mouth and swallow is seen as such a badge of pride, tbh.

Nanny0gg Tue 14-Jan-14 20:40:52

It would be lovely to eat everything put before me. I envy people who like a wide variety of food and can go out to eat anywhere, or don't worry if you're invited to someone's house for dinner. It really isn't funny being 'fussy'. And why you think having a limited diet is something someone would choose is beyond me.

The only thing I will say is that there is no need for children (unless they genuinely have issues too) to be the same.
I made absolutely sure that my children had a much wider (normal) diet available than me. And one of them has grown up to eat a varied diet and the other is getting there...

I'm better than I used to be, but I do think that's partly because my palate has changed with age (I was in my fifties before I could eat cheese!), but I still hate vegetables.

So stop being quite so nasty about people who probably can't help how they feel about food.

Sirzy Tue 14-Jan-14 20:43:04

There is a massive difference between someone being a fussy eater and someone eating a very restrictive diet and sulking when others don't follow the same way of eating. As an adult he should surely be making steps to try to stop his son follow in the same path anyway?

CaptainSweatPants Tue 14-Jan-14 20:46:23

I can't imagine how you'd date anyone who only ate chicken nuggets, spam & chips
Did you ever go to restaurants?
Is that really all he eats?
What does he have for breakfast for example

HumphreyCobbler Tue 14-Jan-14 20:48:27

It is being a rude git that is the problem here, not being a fussy eater.

Blueuggboots Tue 14-Jan-14 20:50:34

My exH was fussy - wouldn't eat food with certain things in - vegetarian lasagne (lovingly prepared for veggie bro and girlfriend!) because it had courgettes in it.

When I met him, his dd was 4 and he religiously cooked her skinless sausages and mash or fish fingers or shepherds pie (the ONLY 3 things she would eat!) when he had her to stay despite eating other things himself because she was so fussy.
It ruined a couple of family holidays because trying to find those things in a foreign country was a nightmare!
Suffice to say, my DS has never been given the opportunity to develop fussy eating habits!!

sooperdooper Tue 14-Jan-14 20:53:09

I've been put off dating someone before because of their fussy eating habits, it irritated me

How an adult can say they don't like any fruit or veg just makes no rational sense, a banana is nothing like a pea, an orange or a carrot, in taste or texture!

I totally understand everyone will have preferences on taste or texture of food but to lump all fruit and veg together is just daft

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 20:53:14

Jeez. I honestly would not cope well with a fussy-eater husband. YANBU.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Tue 14-Jan-14 20:54:47

I must say that if I had cooked for someone and the words "I'm not eating that shit" were used, the speaker would make a rapid acquaintance with my extensive collection of culinary metal.

Bahhhhhumbug Tue 14-Jan-14 20:57:11

Sounds like you have two children OP , frankly !

If ever we had the audacity to ask our mother what was for tea she would always give a sarcastic answer like 'Sheep's thing and a biscuit' or Shite and onions' or other such charming delicacies. In other words , mind your own business and you'll eat what's put in front of you or do without.

echt Tue 14-Jan-14 20:58:03

Shite and onions: o

Oblomov Tue 14-Jan-14 20:58:19

I would never have been able to date, let alone marry anyone this fussy.

echt Tue 14-Jan-14 20:58:23

I meant grin

BonesAndSkully Tue 14-Jan-14 20:59:02

<waits for this one to turn into fussy bashing again>

I will say only this.

There is a difference between fussy and being restricted because of a sensitive palette.

There is also a huge difference between being fussy and being an asshole.

its quite possible to be a 'fussy' eater without making everyone else dance to your palette.

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 20:59:40

To me, "sensitive palette" reads a lot like "fussy".

Ragwort Tue 14-Jan-14 21:00:02

I agree with Captain - how did you date someone with such fussy taste? Did you eat out before you got together confused - I can't imagine there are many restaurants that serve spam. What were his eating habits at home?

CaptainSweatPants Tue 14-Jan-14 21:01:37

He probably covered it up better when they were courting
It's only now he's turned into a rude twat sad

CiderBomb Tue 14-Jan-14 21:03:05

My dad is very, very fussy eater. At 63 it's very unlikely he's going to change now, but eating out with him is a nightmare and so embarrassing. If we ever go out with him and my mum for a meal we have to tailor the whole thing around him and what he'll eat. Indian and Chinese (which we all love) are out of the question, it has to be somewhere that serves traditional stodge, and even then he's awkward as hell. Doesn't like certain food touching each other, will only eat meat if it's been cremated.

Nightmare. My brother was the fussiest eater on the planet (even worse than dad) as a child and will now eat pretty much everything. It's possible to change these faddy habits, in my brothers case it was embarrassment.

lekkerslaap Tue 14-Jan-14 21:07:11

Well, I would refuse to cook for him if he was that much trouble.

He is lucky he has you that's all I can say!!!

VivaLeBeaver Tue 14-Jan-14 21:10:15

I see your dh and raise you mine.

Won't eat;

Meat
Cheese
Eggs
Rice
Pasta
Quorn
Tofu
Anything that's "processed". Apart from cup of soups and granary bread.
Cake
Pies
Chocolate

CaptainSweatPants Tue 14-Jan-14 21:11:35

Is he vegan viva?

VivaLeBeaver Tue 14-Jan-14 21:12:02

And I haven't cooked for him in years and years. I don't involve him at meal times at all. I cook for me and dd and us two sit down and eat. I don't discuss food or meals with him or acknowledge the fact I haven't cooked for him.

VivaLeBeaver Tue 14-Jan-14 21:13:44

He's vegetarian but not vegan.

He won't eat cheese because his cholesterol was high. He doesn't like the taste of eggs. He seems to use soya milk I've noticed now but he will sometimes have normal milk. He eats yoghurts and custard.

CaptainSweatPants Tue 14-Jan-14 21:16:24

I'm trying to think what his main meal would be?! Vegetables & potatoes I guess? Fish?

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 21:16:46

Lol at sensitive palette. How many people in the third world where food is in short supply do you think suffer from these issues?

CaptainSweatPants Tue 14-Jan-14 21:17:41

Or lots of toast smile

CiderBomb Tue 14-Jan-14 21:20:20

I know Jean. I wonder how many of these people would still have a "sensitive palette" if they were genuinely starving?

It's pathetic. We all have foods we don't like, I can't stand liver and it makes me heave just thinking about it. But when your diet is so limited it infringes on other peoples lives you need to get a grip and grow up.

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 21:24:28

Lol at sensitive palette. How many people in the third world where food is in short supply do you think suffer from these issues?

Also, there are toddlers who refuse to drink water. Like they would literally die of dehydration in the absence of apple juice.

VivaLeBeaver Tue 14-Jan-14 21:33:31

Captain, he doesn't eat fish either!

He eats salads, cabbage hot pot, jacket potatoes and soup. Yoghurts and home made fruit crumble. That's pretty much it.

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 21:35:24

Yeah, most people with what someone above described as a sensitive palate probably would eat the stuff they hate if they were starving. But then, people have eaten shoes, wood, and other people when they were starving, so I don't think it's a great benchmark.

BonesAndSkully Tue 14-Jan-14 21:41:44

no, fussy is what my dad is.

won't eat certain types of bread, doesn't like his food touching, only eats one brand of baked beans, ham.. sends my poor mother all over every shop in the search for a sausage because he doesn't much like the ones the store she usually shops at supply.

'fussy' is being in hospital and having to be threatened with a feeding tube because you're starving yourself to death because you dont like the bread they serve the sandwiches on because its sliced white and not crusty.

a sensitive palette is what i have, i am a 'supertaster' I eat well at home, but other peoples houses and restuarants where i cant adapt a recipe to suit my needs, can mean my diet is limited.

olidusUrsus Tue 14-Jan-14 22:08:14

I always enjoy breaking it to fussy eaters that coca cola contains vegetable extracts and "I thought you didn't eat those" <head tilt>

FrillyMilly Tue 14-Jan-14 22:16:14

I don't think it fair to say there's children starving in other countries so buck up. Do you want me to refuse food to my 2 year old until he's so hungry he will eat anything offered? Pre children I had an attitude of you will eat what you are given or go hungry but the reality of living with a fussy eater is much harder.

LittleBearPad Tue 14-Jan-14 22:24:41

But 2 is when children can become fussy as a stage and it's only a stage. We were always told we had to try what was on our plates. If we didn't like one bit then we could leave it. (We're always bits we would eat). Neither dsis or I was particularly fussy and after a while we ate most stuff. Dsis spent a fair bit of her early childhood thinking she only ate chicken (which came from chickens, sheep, cows, pigs).

There's a difference between managing a toddler's sudden fussiness and hopefully getting them through it to a 30 odd year old man chucking his toys out the cost because he's given a vegetable. And as for 'I'm not eating that shit'. How bloody rude.

LittleBearPad Tue 14-Jan-14 22:25:36

Cost should be cot.
We're should be were

sooperdooper Tue 14-Jan-14 22:54:55

I think it's funny how so much fussiness surrounds fruit and veg, you rarely get someone complaining how they can't eat eat processed foods, it's always some aversion to peas/cucumber/satsumas/anything green, generally makes me think it stems from a big deal being made about how healthy foods have to be eaten

SinisterSal Tue 14-Jan-14 23:00:55

You might have a point there, Sooperdooper

noblegiraffe Tue 14-Jan-14 23:03:31

My DS is majorly fussy about fruit and veg. But he is also majorly fussy about sweets, biscuits and cakes. He is an equal ops fusser hmm

minouminou Tue 14-Jan-14 23:11:03

I've got a v wide palate, but I think it's also very insensitive.
I was eating Danish blue cheese at just over a year old, apparently, I'm a huge chili fiend, love venison and aged beef (so maybe not all that insensitive, as I can tell the difference).

DS is a bit of a supertaster, like his dad, but he will also devour capers and olives.

DD is a blue cheese and chili fiend, like me - she found a bird's eye chili when she was two (I thought I'd picked them all out). She screamed for a minute or so then carried on chowing down.... Poor DS would still be in therapy!

Oddly enough, though, neither of them like potatoes!

I do get food aversions, though, although mine are texture-based and I wonder how many aversions are like this. Aubergines and the middle of courgettes make me heave, and nothing will make me eat them. Love a good moussaka, but I have to pick the aubergines out. Crunchy really does it for me....love crunchy things.

BonesAndSkully Tue 14-Jan-14 23:13:51

people who state children wouldnt starve themselves are welcome to come and try to feed my ds who's diagnosed as 'food phobic'.

if you can make him eat what drs, dieticians, therapists and years of tears and coaxing and cajoling can, please, show me your superiority and my failings as a mother.

not every child who goes through that 'fussy' stage aged 2 comes out the other side as a normal eater.

BonesAndSkully Tue 14-Jan-14 23:14:52

*cant

SinisterSal Tue 14-Jan-14 23:16:46

Most do though. Your son's experience wouldn't be typical, it would be outside most people's experience. Nobody thinks they are a better mother than you, but for most people the age 2 fussiness does fade away.

NatashaBee Tue 14-Jan-14 23:19:08

YANBU. I had an ex whose entire diet consisted of cereal, toast, crisp sandwiches, burgers and fishfingers. He would eat sausages (the processed type like you get from burger vans) if there was nothing else. My dad took us out for dinner once to a nice restaurant and ex ordered the sausages which were pork and herb ones... and picked out every single fucking piece of herb. We were there for hours.

AnotherWorld Tue 14-Jan-14 23:22:21

OP YANBU

DP had a far more limited diet when we got together. I think it's something to do with how food and mess when eating was handled when he was growing up.

Much better now. Combination of maturity and having to eat well with the kids I think.

msvenus Wed 15-Jan-14 01:47:51

Mine wont eat cheese, yogurt, exotic fruit or veg, fish other than cod and cheesecake. He is a traditional meat & 2 veg man but it has to be carrots & potatoes man as aubergines (which I love) are too fancy).

CouthyMow Wed 15-Jan-14 03:28:28

I am fussy. Not purposely, but a lot of foods are quite bitter, and I can really taste it. Broccoli is just about bearable, but cabbage, sprouts and cauliflower are just so bitter they make me gag. Coffee is so bitter that just the smell makes me retch.

I dish up all of these things to my DC's, and all bar one love them. So I'm not passing on my food issues to them, but equally I can't just suddenly not gag at how bitter they are.

CouthyMow Wed 15-Jan-14 03:34:50

<<Sticks hand above parapet>> I can't eat many processed foods, because anything that contains sweeteners gives me a massive headache, makes me vomit copiously, and get itchy hives. I'd far rather eat the contents of my fruit bowl than a low fat yoghurt...

Bodicea Wed 15-Jan-14 03:41:47

My dh insists he is not that bad. But winges when I make anything fish related. However when I put it down in gr

Bodicea Wed 15-Jan-14 03:44:18

Sorry posted too soon. Put down in front of him he invariably eats it.
Have been training him over the years - he now eats salad and meat other than chicken and beef - still winges when I tell him what I have made - then wolfes down and pronounced it is good! Then forgets he liked it last time and winges the next time!!!! Like living with a child!

birdmomma Wed 15-Jan-14 04:35:01

My younger daughter became fussy around 2, and this developed into extreme fussiness until at 6 years she would only eat 1 variety of white bread, 1 variety of cheddar and cherry tomatoes (and any amount of sweets and ice cream). When she started to get funny about tomatoes, we decided to see a specialist psychologist who worked with eating disorders. She identified it as a type of anxiety disorder - a food phobia. We had to gradually reintroduce foods with her agreement, in small amounts, starting with ones that she had most recently dropped off. We were told to use ice cream as a reward for eating the food alongside her usual dinner. It was slow progress at first, but then as she added new foods in, she gradually lost her anxiety about food, and it became faster. At age 11, she made a decision to try all new foods and not be fussy any more.

She is still a bit fussy compared to the rest of us. She often prepares her own meals (aged 13 now) but also eats a lot of our food. It is more noticeable when we travel or are away from home. Extreme fussiness can be treated, but takes determination. I'm glad we got help when we did.

Euphemia Wed 15-Jan-14 04:53:09

Sheep's thing and a biscuit

FFS it's 5am and I'm crying with laughter! Don't do that to a person!

grin

CouthyMow Wed 15-Jan-14 05:50:36

My response to my DC's is similar - poo on a plate. It stemmed from a joke when I was crap at cooking (now thankfully vastly improved). When DD was tiny, and I first attempted a beef stew, I dished it up, and her question was "why have you given me poo on a plate?!" grin

And it kind of stuck. She was 3yo then, almost 16 now. And the stock response when asked what's for dinner is still "poo on a plate".

Don't worry, my stews now look like stews, the DC aren't going to starve!

JeanSeberg Wed 15-Jan-14 07:17:03

I don't think it fair to say there's children starving in other countries so buck up

My comments weren't aimed at fussy toddlers, rather at grown men who can't stand the texture of a certain vegetable or won't eat beef that the gravy has touched or can only eat processed shite or whatever. The 'sensitive palettes'.

And I stand by my statement that I'm damned sure that these issues don't exist in the third world.

Marcelinewhyareyousomean Wed 15-Jan-14 07:25:51

I think I know where Bones is coming from.

I am at the end of my tether with my friend. I don't care about what her dds will or won't eat. Rude comments about food and screaming matches when forced to sit at the table have spoilt every meal they have ever eaten in my house. Both girls are chubby and won't eat anything remotely healthy. I've told my friend that in future, she can bring them what they will eat to my house herself. I've also said we need to get to a place we can sit around the table nicely. If they can't, they can eat in the other room. They are lovely girls in every way, other than at bedtime but that isn't my problem.

My DN is restricted about what she will eat. We sort out things she likes and don't pressure her to try new things or comment about the different food my ds is eating. Nothing is good or bad and there is no judgment about food choices. She has lovely manners and doesn't make rude comments about food or pretend to be sick like my friend's DC. Mealtimes are tranquil and enjoyable.

threebats Wed 15-Jan-14 07:44:03

Exasperation! My 20 year old son has Aspergers - he will only eat yellow(ish) food. Every single day he has to have different food to us, this has been a lifelong thing. It drives me demented - its the only thing about the whole Asperger's I can't get a handle on even today all these years on from him being diagnosed. It costs a fortune to feed him as his shopping list is different to the main house one. When he was little, he was physically sick if he had food that was not yellow - to the point the doc's told me to just give him what he wanted as he was underweight and needed to eat. He had therapy - people would sit with him and get him to try foods, he would vomit. We couldn;t do a thing about it.
Yellow - pizza, cheese, yoghurt, fish fingers, swede mash, breadcrumb coated chicken. Cheese spread - you get the jist, yellow or almost yellow. Aside from the chicken, he is a virtual vegetarian. Perversely, he will only drink Dr Pepper though. Argh! I was told peer pressure would change this - at school he would do as others did - not a chance of it. He is the exact same now at 20 as he was at 6.
I feel your pain!!

I would have thought that chicken nuggets were the last thing that someone with a 'sensitive palette' would eat - they're revolting! My DH told me that he was allergic to curry, back when we got together. He was sick every time he ate it. Turned out he'd only ever tried it after a night out with the lads, and it was the copious amount of beer that was making him sick, not the curry smile

TOADfan Wed 15-Jan-14 08:03:02

I dont think im fussy. I love sprouts and lots of vegetables and have a varied diet, but others say im very fussy.

I wont eat meat on the bone as it makes me gag, I wont eat bananas or mushrooms even if buried in smoothies or pie for example, I don't eat left overs or pre packaged sandwiches, rare/medium rare meat etc. Also any oven potato products make me vomit..not good if eating with someone who is also eating, I have put my DP off his food due to being sick over him when served potato wedges.

For me it's mainly texture issues and also fear of food poisoning.

NotNewButNameChanged Wed 15-Jan-14 08:37:27

Another one here who is a "fussy" eater.

Where is the line between "fussy" and "don't like something"? Because, quite honestly, as an adult, I don't see why I should eat something if I really don't like it. I LOATHE cooked or melted cheese and the smell alone makes me heave. Eggs are the same. It's not a question of being "not keen", I really HATE quite a lot of foods - usually taste, but sometimes texture (fruit, for instance). If I like the taste of something but the texture is an issue, I have tried to make myself like something but trying it regularly but it just makes me gag. Which is unpleasant for other people when dining out.

My friends and family are aware of this and, bless them, they make allowances and occasionally will cook something separate for me from other people, just as I do if I am having people round for dinner and one has a nut allergy, or one is a vegetarian.

I have to say, I don't LIKE not liking a lot of foods. It limits where I can often go out to eat. At a wedding recently, I literally ate NOTHING off the menu (interestingly, there were eight on my table and three of us didn't touch a thing, so maybe I'm not so "fussy" after all).

My ex was vegetarian. We managed for 10 years. Sometimes we cooked for ourselves, sometimes we cooked for each other, sometimes we cooked something we could both have and just add in one other item.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 15-Jan-14 09:09:22

threebats

One of mine with asd does this as well only his is green.

Have you ever tried food colouring? It's not ideal and you wouldn't want to do it all the time but it may help you save a bit on one or two meals.

Not sure how well yellow colouring would work but its worth a try

noblegiraffe Wed 15-Jan-14 09:55:29

I agree with the 'not liking lots of foods' comment re being fussy.

Blah blah children in the third world would eat pigs toenails or whatever. That doesn't mean that I should eat tomatoes. I don't like them, the texture is horrible and they don't taste nice. I don't like a lot of other foods. People seem to think that I should eat them just so as not to be 'fussy'. Fuck off, I'm an adult and can control what I eat. I had enough miserable time as a child choking down stuff I didn't like just because I was told I should. It didn't change the fact that I didn't like it, it just made me unhappy and anxious around food.

clara26 Wed 15-Jan-14 09:56:03

To me there are people who have food related issues and then there are fussy eaters. In my experience the fussy eaters are the annoying ones because they choose to be awkward (again in my experience)

Example, Christmas Day at my mums, dp eats carrots sprouts peas parsnips and gravy. - it's self service in the middle of the table due to the fussies in the room, he chooses to eat them. At home all he wants is chicken nuggets and chips or pizza and he would never eat veg.

When all they want is junk food it makes me think they are fussy. A person with real food issues for what I've seen and what I've read here doesn't seem to single out healthy food, generally it's specific tastes of textures.

I do eat pretty much anything but I HATE tuna, so I understand how strongly you can dislike something.

Either way there it's never a reason to be rude.

whatsagoodusername Wed 15-Jan-14 10:01:26

I am fussy. I hate it. But I hate eating foods that I don't enjoy. As an adult, I don't see why I should have to.

But, that said, if I am presented with a meal that I don't like when at someone's home, I make an effort to eat as much of it as I can. It is polite, so I do it.

At home, I cook the meals. So they do tend to reflect my tastes. Because I feel sorry for DH about this, I have tried to expand our meals. I hate have vegetables in mixed up in my food, but accept that in some meals, they should be there. So I chop them up either into very small pieces so I don't notice them (hiding from myself) or I chop them into very large pieces that I can pick out. But I often do genuinely forget to add vegetables to a meal if it's not in the recipe - as sides, I never remember. DH occasionally makes a plaintive request for vegetables.

I loathe going out to places like Indian restaurants. Not because I dislike the food (I have tried it!) but because I find it horribly embarrassing to order the English food. I don't want to order the English food, make special requests, be the fussy eater.

There is being fussy and there is being rude. I try to be polite, I don't object to going out to places I don't like if that's where the majority want to go and I try to find something that will work for me.

Being fussy is not a choice for me. I don't choose to live like this. I don't enjoy it. I find food stressful. Fussy eater bashing threads don't help. Most of them are actually that X is being rude about being fussy. There is a very big difference.

Stellaface Wed 15-Jan-14 10:35:08

I get called a fussy eater and I definitely was as a child but I don't think I am now. I will try anything and eat most things unless I already know I don't like them (e.g. loathe aniseed and coriander, but can manage coriander in strong curries if it's not the main flavour).

I accept that some people just cannot or will not face some foods for whatever reason. The problem I have is when it's an adult refusing to eat anything other than kids' food. This sounds like what OP's husband is doing.

We had a wedding guest who was like this. I was pretty stressed organising the whole thing mostly on my own whilst also doing a stressful job and a part-time degree, so was overreacting to lots of things anyway, but when I got this RSVP from this chap's wife, re her Fussy Eater H, I really lost it. We didn't send out a menu with the invitations, just asked people to say if they were veggie or had any allergies. This is what his wife said: "FEH requires a simple diet and would like to have haddock and chips (not chunky) for his meal. If not, plain chicken breast and potatoes (no bones or veg please)." WTAF. Sure, we'll get our venue with its rather niche style of catering to do something just for him, because after all, it's all about him... oh wait, no it isn't. Not like it was complicated cooking he was asking for, but the 'requires a simple diet' and 'no veg' and not chunky chips and 'haddock' as opposed to cod, cos heaven forbid they taste slightly different... He bloody well doesn't 'require' anything, he's just a 45yr old child! And if he doesn't like veg then just leave it on your bloody plate. Etc.

breathes

I did lose it ridiculously at poor DH even though he agreed with me. In the end we arranged for FEH to have 2 child's meals instead, which wasn't much hassle tbh but still annoyed me as we had to pay the price of the adult meal for 2 x portions of the kids' meal - chicken nuggets vs steak, not exactly the same price range.

Luckily DH thinks this couple (his friends) are more than a bit mental so we don't really see them often. We married a few years ago and I'm still not over it (obvious much?) so I don't think OP is being remotely U to complain about dealing with this every single day!

Stellaface Wed 15-Jan-14 10:37:08

Sorry that was such a long vent!

The point was just that while some people have genuine reasons, I think some are just being difficult/immature/whatever you want to call it. When it affects other people beyond reason, that isn't on, and it's affecting OP's DS.

Nanny0gg Wed 15-Jan-14 11:00:42

agree with the 'not liking lots of foods' comment re being fussy. Blah blah children in the third world would eat pigs toenails or whatever. That doesn't mean that I should eat tomatoes. I don't like them, the texture is horrible and they don't taste nice. I don't like a lot of other foods. People seem to think that I should eat them just so as not to be 'fussy'. Fuck off, I'm an adult and can control what I eat. I had enough miserable time as a child choking down stuff I didn't like just because I was told I should. It didn't change the fact that I didn't like it, it just made me unhappy and anxious around food.

This ^^

If I were to be forced to eat a food I dislike (cauliflower for example) I would heave. Continue to force me and I would be sick. I am sure that if this were done enough, to the exclusion of any other food, eventually I would eat it and hopefully keep it down.
Why on earth would I do that? Like the above poster, many mealtimes as a child consisted of me being made to sit there crying and gagging until I finished.
Food shouldn't be a punishment.

However, there are many polite ways of evading the foods you dislike/cannot tolerate. There is no need to be rude or extra difficult about it.

Biedronka Wed 15-Jan-14 11:18:31

I think of myself as fussy but after reading I don't think I'm that bad.
I won't eat mince, offal, beef, lamb under any circumstance - I don't like them. I'm not a natural carnivore and only eat meat as I know I should for protein.
Eggs - I'll eat them but never soft/hard boiled or fried with a runny yolk. Nothing and no one could force me I'd vomit.

I love all fruit and veg though, with the exception of mushy peas.

My own DC's were not really fussy as children, they each don't like a few different vegetables/fruits. 2 like cheese 1 doesn't really - that kind of thing.

My Dp will literally eat anything, the only thing he has an aversion is butter and that's because of his mum spreading it thick on sandwiches when he was young.

I feel for all those who have to cook different meals at mealtimes it must be a huge pita.

peppinagiro Wed 15-Jan-14 11:23:08

Fussy eaters are a right royal PITA. My DH has genuine allergies which require an epipen, and even he is reluctant to mention his dietary requirements and not just eat what's in front of him. In fact, he has eaten meals before that have then made him ill, just so as not to offend the person who made them. Now that is stupid, I agree. But the reason he feels embarrassed to make a fuss is because he doesn't want to be lumped in with all the hordes of annoying fussy people with 'mild intolerances' or 'sensitive palates'.

If he can sodding well choke down something that will then turn his lips blue and make him vomit all night, overgrown adult children can damn well eat some vegetables. And stop whining about it.

Unfortunately, I seem to attract fussy eaters like unpleasant moths to a flame. I make a new friend, think they're lovely, invite them round for dinner and BAM. Lengthy email with long list of exclusions. FFS! I'm not sure how it keeps happening.

DH wS fussy (no veg, no gish, no cheese to name a few), but he has come around to most of them. He has slways been grateful if I cooked for him, even if it was not on his ok list, and gradually got used to my way of eating. He fors not eat mussels or carrots, but everyone is allowed a few dislikes.

DS was fussy from the start (powder milk refuser, went from boob to cow's milk at 1). But I don't pander to it. i am sympathetic and tell him I know it is not his favourite, but he should at least try a bit, and never be rude about it. It has taken years and years , never any pressure, but always asking bim to try a tiny bit. He now eats most things, so gentle perseverance works well, IMO, with afults AND kids.

You can still cook veg OP, and if uour H doesn't eat it, so what. You do not have to adapt your diet to his! If he wants something else, he can buy and cook it himself.

It is not fussy eating I mind, it is a rude ungrateful attitude that would offend me!

Your husband is a grown man and can eat what he likes.

It is not your job to prepare food for him, so either do it with grace or (as is your right) don't do it.

Easy.

LittleBearPad Wed 15-Jan-14 11:50:42

I think there's a difference between fussiness and not liking raw tomatoes or mushrooms, neither of which dh likes or mackerel (I can't face it) and being generally fussy.

Noble if you came to my house I wouldn't use tomatoes. It isn't difficult to make dishes without them. But wider fussiness as in all vegetables is rather wearing and being 40 odd and only eating nuggets and chips for example is childish and people with fussiness this extreme should try to widen their eating range a little, if only for health reasons. Surviving on proceeded chicken and chips isn't great for anyone.

Andro Wed 15-Jan-14 11:52:35

My DH has genuine allergies which require an epipen, and even he is reluctant to mention his dietary requirements and not just eat what's in front of him. In fact, he has eaten meals before that have then made him ill, just so as not to offend the person who made them. Now that is stupid, I agree. But the reason he feels embarrassed to make a fuss is because he doesn't want to be lumped in with all the hordes of annoying fussy people with 'mild intolerances' or 'sensitive palates'.

I feel for your DH! I have a severe allergy and although I know I have a very real medical reason to make a 'fuss', it can still be horrifically embarrassing when I have to check that the meal I'd like is allergen free.

Most people are far more understanding of a serious allergy than 'fussyness' and acknowledge the difference, but there are a few who assume that saying 'I have an allergy' means you're trying to be trendy/cool/whatever.

Andro Wed 15-Jan-14 11:55:08

Fussyness = fussiness

squoosh Wed 15-Jan-14 12:13:37

YANBU OP, the kind of fussiness that your husband display would drive me to absolute bloody distraction.

Everyone has a few foods they really don't like, that's perfectly fine, but for an adult to refuse all fruit and veg and for their favourite meal to be chicken nuggets and chips is pathetic. What a baby.

Fussy eater, Celine Dion fan, lives with his Mum - all good reasons for me to ditch someone after the first date.

WorrySighWorrySigh Wed 15-Jan-14 12:48:00

I'm another who doesnt like certain things. A lot of it is to do with texture. Not keen on wet savoury food of any sort and will actively avoid soups, stews, casseroles.

DM used to serve these always regularly because that was what DF liked.

Now I am an adult I can choose not to eat them. DH does the cooking and knows this. I would think he was being pretty unpleasant if he insisted that I ate them.

Of course I never look at what he is cooking and say yuk but being grownups we discuss meals and agree on things we will both like.

NotNewButNameChanged Wed 15-Jan-14 13:09:23

Meant to say my father hates cheese. I'll eat it cold and love it but not cooked at all, but he won't go near cheese full stop. He has always hated it.

When he was young, his parents realised it wasn't just a bit of dislike, he seriously had a problem with it. Whether now he'd be checked for some allergy or something, who knows. Anyway, at his primary school, they were often served cheese, which he would leave. Unfortunately it was a rather old-fashioned school and they would make him eat it. At which he would be sick. The school continued with this lovely policy and every time, he would be sick.

Understandably, his made it even worse for my dad. And one day he just couldn't bear to be sick again. So he bit the end off his own tongue so they couldn't make him.

enormouse Wed 15-Jan-14 13:18:31

peppin I identify with your DH. I have an egg and nut allergy and carry an epi pen. I hate making a fuss about it as I don't like putting people out or seeming like I'm being difficult about not eating something.

squoosh Wed 15-Jan-14 13:23:20

enormouse if you have allergies so severe that you need to carry an epi pen you should absolutely make a 'fuss', although in your case it isn't a fuss at all, it's ensuring you stay alive.

hopskipandthump Wed 15-Jan-14 13:27:24

I think I could cope with fussiness (to some extent) as long as it wasn't accompanied with rudeness.

I do nearly all the cooking at home. My DH is a fussier eater than me, though not majorly fussy. If it's a meal he doesn't really like, he'll still be perfectly polite about it - occasionally he'll leave something, or have a small portion.

We are both really strict with the kids about that too - it's okay for them to leave stuff, but no shouting 'Yuk' or wailing 'Dooooonnnn't liiiiiiike iiiiiiiit' or similar. It's just rude.

volestair Wed 15-Jan-14 13:35:55

I wish people would stop assuming that people in "third world" countries wouldn't dare to be fussy. People in developing countries aren't all living in a constant state of famine. The reason that, say, the famous Ethiopian famine was such a disaster was that previously there had been enough food in that part of the world for plenty of people to live on, and moreover, at the same time that the famine was happening, other parts of the country, and other countries in the region, were barely affected.

I am willing to bet large amounts of money that plenty of women in developing countries have exactly the same problems spoken about on this thread - husbands who will only eat a tiny range of childish foods or children with autism and Asperger's who have unusual or limited things they will eat.

justgirl Wed 15-Jan-14 13:38:56

How is it anybody's business to be able to say it's pathetic and childish if an adults favourite meal is chicken nuggets and chips? How rude! So what if it bloody well is?!

squoosh Wed 15-Jan-14 13:42:24

Fine if someone likes chicken nuggets and chips, but saying 'ewwww yucky' to all fruit and vegetables and disliking anything that isn't chicken nuggets and chips is absolutely ridiculous in an adult!

Not rude, factual.

enormouse Wed 15-Jan-14 13:43:56

squoosh I do but I don't like having to do it. Luckily dp is very vocal and makes a point of double checking things and stressing that it's perfectly reasonable for me to do so.

A few times I've been made to feel like I'm really putting people out. My ex was awful about the whole thing - if I made a fuss I was being difficult, if I had a reaction I was being difficult and it was my fault for not stressing the point. I've also had comments made along the lines of 'you're worse than a vegetarian', 'you're not allergic, you just don't want to get fat from eating cakes' etc etc.

squoosh Wed 15-Jan-14 13:46:18

Sound like you made a good swap between ex and dp enormouse!

Anyone giving a person with life threatening allergies grief over their menu choices is a grade A *****.

FuckingWankwings Wed 15-Jan-14 14:26:24

Fussy eaters piss me right off, so YANBU! Especially adults.

The things he eats are limited and, while not the work of the devil, NOT varied or good enough for him, or more importantly your household, to be eating. Chicken nuggets, spam and chips are not a balanced diet.

And it's downright irresponsible for him to leave fruit and veg out of what he cooks for your DS just because he doesn't eat them. Does he not care about DS's health?

You need a sit-down and a proper talk, OP. He needs to let or make DS have fruit, veg or salad when he's feeding him. If he cooks for the family he needs to cook you balanced meals with veg. If you are cooking and he says he won't eat what you're making, your response is 'Fine, make your own or go hungry but DS and I are having this and we're eating at x o'clock.'

Squitten Wed 15-Jan-14 17:46:28

IMO, it's completely reasonable not to like some things, e.g. I dislike avocados. To cut out an entire food group with the blanket statement of "not liking vegetables", for example, is childish. It's also an unhealthy attitude to food and I would not be happy with that being passed down to the children.

AdmiralData Wed 15-Jan-14 17:51:03

YANBU Op. I live with my Son (10 months) Husband and Dad atm. It's chaos. My dad won't eat any carbohydrates, only meat/fish. My husband won't eat any kind of fish, only carbohydrates. Husband also not fussed on fruit or veg but I am slowly turning that around. Bloody nightmare.

harriet247 Wed 15-Jan-14 17:52:01

Very rude too! To turn his nose up at your cooking I mean :/ its just horrendous manners more than anything and a terrible example to your ds

frugalfuzzpig Fri 17-Jan-14 14:56:35

How rude of him.

Of course it's reasonable to have a few foods you don't like and therefore never eat. But as others have said the whole "ALL fruit and veg are evil" thing is just silly, and when you have children, irresponsible.

LittleBabyPigsus Fri 17-Jan-14 15:24:30

I also don't get the idea that people with Aspergers, supertasters etc don't exist in developing countries. Of course they do! Being a supertaster is down to how taste buds develop, it's not fussiness but a medical issue.

I am not fussy at all and like strong flavours but have IBS which means that there are some foods that I love but can't eat, and others I can only have a little of. I also have a few textural issues - beans are out, as are anything wet and crunchy like cucumber or raw onion. But that's really not much and as an adult I have every right to decide what I do or don't want to eat. What I DON'T have the right to do is be rude to people because of what they've served me, or to refuse all foods in xyz category, or only eat chicken nuggets ffs.

kind of want chicken nuggets for dinner now though oops

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