to butter both slices of bread in a sandwich?

(110 Posts)
IsabellaMilborne Tue 14-Jan-14 14:29:11

Could you help with this debate, which arose during the frantic buttering of sandwiches for a children's party?

My Dsis thinks that you only butter one slice of bread in a sandwich; I think you need the buttery stickiness on both slices of bread, to make sure that the top slice adheres to the filling properly, and to make it tastier and less dry.

Can you help me prove that I'm being eminently reasonable here...?

QueenofKelsingra Tue 14-Jan-14 14:30:37

definitely on both sides! otherwise the unbuttered slice will just fall off surely??

stinkysox Tue 14-Jan-14 14:30:39


Neither. Butter in sandwiches makes me want to vomit. You are both BU. <remembers children's parties from youth>

Iheartcustardcreams Tue 14-Jan-14 14:31:29

Yanbu! I have a friend who doesn't put butter on either slice of bread! A sandwich needs butter on both slices IMO

openerofjars Tue 14-Jan-14 14:32:24

You are right; she is wrong.

I go further when I make my own: mayo on the top slice and Dijon mustard on the bottom slice. It's like the last days of the Roman Empire round here, in sandwich terms, anyway.

mumofboyo Tue 14-Jan-14 14:32:57

You butter (or mayo) on both slices of bread. I've never heard of only doing one - that just seems odd!

Spottybra Tue 14-Jan-14 14:32:58


How do siblings disagree on this? Surely its the way you are brought up?

I can't stand shop bought sandwiches for the no butter reason.

cerealqueen Tue 14-Jan-14 14:33:07

Same issue wiTh my DP!!!! Both, the butter stops the bread going soggy with any filling too.

Why bother with just one or is it laziness?

If I am making for myself then its only the one side. If I am making for others then both.

jacks365 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:34:34

Depends on filling. Egg mayonnaise no butter, ham butter both, something with salad with mayonnaise on top then just butter bottom.

IsabellaMilborne Tue 14-Jan-14 14:35:08

We need to ask our mother, Spottybra; we have no idea how we've ended up differently on this one. I suspect that my real sister has been substituted for a sub-standard alien clone.

Wabbitty Tue 14-Jan-14 14:39:09

Both or nothing

Both. Anything else is just plain weird.

DaftSkunk Tue 14-Jan-14 14:41:27

Butter both pieces, most definitely.

stardustoddity Tue 14-Jan-14 14:42:33

Both bu tit needs to be the right temperature so you can do it really thinly.

stardustoddity Tue 14-Jan-14 14:43:12

But it, not Bu tit!

Why on earth wouldn't you butter both <boggles>

DS doesn't put butter on sandwiches at all, but I think that's just laziness rather than anything else.

wonderingsoul Tue 14-Jan-14 14:44:08

both.. why wouldnt you.. surely the point of the butter is to make the sandwhich not dry....

BlingBang Tue 14-Jan-14 14:44:22

Both sides unless I'm really counting the calories.

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 14:44:56

My Dsis thinks that you only butter one slice of bread in a sandwich

I swear to god this is the craziest thing I've ever read on the internet!

DaftSkunk Tue 14-Jan-14 14:45:46

Yes correct butter temperature is essential otherwise you end up with holes in your bread whilst trying to butter it. I've learnt the hard way on that one grin.

steff13 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:47:33

What sort of sandwiches are you making that you're putting butter on them? The only sandwich I've ever put butter on is a grilled cheese, that if you don't butter both sides of that, the bread won't brown.

I put mayo on ham sandwiches, and mustard on turkey sandwiches, but not butter.

BeautifulBlondePineapple Tue 14-Jan-14 14:48:06

We only butter one side in this house. The other side is for chutney / mayo / philly / other spready stuff.

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 14:54:37

We only butter one side in this house. The other side is for chutney / mayo / philly / other spready stuff

Woah, Beautiful, that is some serious out-of-the-box sandwich making going on there. I salute you!

newlark Tue 14-Jan-14 14:58:17

I would always put butter or something else which will hold the sandwich together on both sides- I'm not keen on butter so use mayo/mustard/houmous/pesto/pickle depending on the filling (or jam/nutella for ds!)

Lemongrab Tue 14-Jan-14 15:00:41

I would definitely say both sides as a general rule, even with sandwiches containing chutney or mayo etc.
I always butter both sides for myself and Dh, but none at all for dd's as they both hate butter in sandwiches.

starfishmummy Tue 14-Jan-14 15:03:25


newyearhere Tue 14-Jan-14 15:45:22

Both sides.

pixwix Tue 14-Jan-14 15:48:01

Yep - both sides.

pixwix Tue 14-Jan-14 15:48:29

sorry - both slices!

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:49:15

No - that is surely the standard way - butter on both sides.

I rarely butter both sides for myself as not keen on butter, but I really think both sides is traditional way.

LittleBearPad Tue 14-Jan-14 15:50:35

Both. Why wouldn't you butter both, it's not like butter is a part of the filling. It's there to stick stuff together.

Normally both sides, although I have been known to be lazy/ forget when doing sandwiches for DCs in the morning blush
When I first read the title of the thread, I thought you meant both sides of the same piece of bread [seriously dufus emoticon] and thought that you'd get greasy fingers grin

MrsOakenshield Tue 14-Jan-14 15:54:26

butter on sandwiches is disgusting. But both pieces of bread need something. I do a thin spread of mayo to help things stick, then pickle, chutney or whatever.

EasterHoliday Tue 14-Jan-14 15:56:09

good god. Only one side. THink of the arteries!
This is going to end up like "whether you wear pants to the gym" in terms of polarising opinion I suspect.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 14-Jan-14 15:59:36

DH doesn't like butter, so will have mayo or - horror of horrors - a dry sandwich shock.

I only butter one slice of bread if there is going to be mayo, soft cheese etc. involved. Otherwise you are putting a double layer of fat down on one side confused.

ErrolTheDragon Tue 14-Jan-14 15:59:37

It depends on the filling. Anything moist (eg tomato or chutney) you need the butter to stop the bread going soggy. 'Spread' type fillings, no.

Buttering one slice only is odd. Why would you do that?

wobblyweebles Tue 14-Jan-14 15:59:37

butter on sandwiches is disgusting. But both pieces of bread need something. I do a thin spread of mayo to help things stick, then pickle, chutney or whatever

Mayo and chutney in one sarnie! * faints *

ErrolTheDragon Tue 14-Jan-14 16:00:42

My DD detests butter and mayo so she only has fillings like plain ham or cheese. Her weird choice.

ppeatfruit Tue 14-Jan-14 16:03:02

DM had a clever wheeze at parties ;she would mix the marmite with softened butter or whatever. And then spread on both sides of the sandwich grin

MomsStiffler Tue 14-Jan-14 16:10:25

I always used to do just one side, then my other half told me off & I've done both sides ever since!! grin

It does make the sarnies less dry....

CasperGutman Tue 14-Jan-14 16:11:54

I normally only butter one side, because I'm lazy, but I know I should be buttering both sides.* The butter's especially important if the sandwiches are to eat later (e.g. in a packed lunch for a day out) because it stops the bread going soggy if there's something moist like tomato in there.

*or neither for OH who doesn't like butter.

IsabellaMilborne Tue 14-Jan-14 16:13:38

Although there are a few outliers, I think I can show DSis this thread and claim victory at the moment.

For the record, I would definitely have butter, mayo and pickle in the same sandwich. Though would probably only go for pickle and mayo on one of the slices...

MrsOakenshield Tue 14-Jan-14 16:17:42

is that very extravagant, weebles? Or unhealthy? Or just grim? It's only a thin spread of mayo, literally enough to stop the bread being dry, and is completely drowned out by the filling.

MrsOakenshield Tue 14-Jan-14 16:19:25

I scrape the seeds out of tomatoes which really helps in stopping the sandwich going soggy. And the tomatoes never touch the bread, so there's say cheese on one side and lettuce on the other, thus adding a further protective layer.

needaholidaynow Tue 14-Jan-14 16:23:29


needaholidaynow Tue 14-Jan-14 16:25:42

YABU to even butter one side! I hate butter unless it's melted like on toast.


ChunkyPickle Tue 14-Jan-14 16:26:36

Both. Butter is for waterproofing/stickiness.

However it can be taken to far - DP's family butter everything, including burger buns and hot dogs rolls.

Huitre Tue 14-Jan-14 16:32:37

I can't believe all you butter-haters. Odd, the lot of you. And both sides, of course.

FruitbatAuntie Tue 14-Jan-14 16:39:02

Both sides!

I have come across people who don't use any butter on either slice, and that is acceptable I suppose if you really hate butter (but how do you get fillings such as cheese to stay inside when you pick it up?).

But just one side? Never come across this - it is seriously odd!

FTRsGotAShinyNewNN Tue 14-Jan-14 16:39:44

Both of course, just one is where madness lies!!
I am open to one butter and one mayo/pickle/chutney/mustard etc but both sides must have something

magnumicelolly Tue 14-Jan-14 16:44:26

Both, unless you use mayo instead for some sandwiches. And always butter, never ever that grim spread/marg stuff- that just ruins a sandwich!

AnneOfCleavage Tue 14-Jan-14 16:52:20

Both unless I am using cream cheese then I just do the one side as the cc is sticky enough. I butter right up the to the corners too which not everyone does either I find shock

AnneOfCleavage Tue 14-Jan-14 16:53:00

...perhaps that's why my DD has always eaten her crusts as they are moist and not dry smile

Dahlen Tue 14-Jan-14 16:55:22

I don't use anything unless it's mayo to hold together grated cheese or relish because I fancy the taste. I was brought up like that and honestly didn't realise that most people butter their sandwiches. If you are a butterer however, I'd have thought both sides would be the norm.

MamaJazzHands Tue 14-Jan-14 19:30:24

I was brought up to do only one side as that's what my mum always did, (am sure it was to make the butter go further as we were skint!!)

It was totally alien to me when I met dh that he insisted it was both, (he also spreads it too thick as well, I cant eat his sandwiches, it tastes vile!).
So continued to butter my own on one slice and his and the dc's on both.

My dad eats his sandwiches dry as he doesn't like butter.

StickEmUpBigStyle Tue 14-Jan-14 19:31:17


Pinkje Tue 14-Jan-14 19:36:33

I only butter one side. Thought it odd when our au pair started buttering both sides, thought it was an Icelandic thing! She's away now and I'm back to buttering one side only - as others have said, leaves a dry piece of bread to add mayo or chutney.

TwinkleSparkleBling Tue 14-Jan-14 19:43:43

Just the one here too.

It's the 'base', then filling goes on top, next a squirt of something like salad cream or a 'wet' product-think beetroot, gherkin etc

DH is a man of both buttered. My argument is how do you then know which side is the top?! grin

ILoveAFullFridge Tue 14-Jan-14 19:48:37

Usually both slices. Sticks the top to the filling, especially if its something dryish, like cheese or sliced meat. Slightly waterproofs the bread if it's something wettish, like tuna-mayo or sliced tomato.

But if I'm just piling up stuff for a sandwich I'm going to eat straight away, then I don't usually bother buttering the top slice.

mamij Tue 14-Jan-14 19:50:29

Usually both sides, unless we have hummus in the fridge, then one side with butter and the other with hummus

SecretNutellaFix Tue 14-Jan-14 19:53:52

Both. Especially with more basic sandwiches

cardibach Tue 14-Jan-14 20:08:15

Both or neither. Neither in the event of a spreadable filling. It needs to be thin, though, I like butter but don't want it to taste stronger than the filling.

Mellowandfruitful Tue 14-Jan-14 20:16:35

Both - whether you're using butter or mayo (I do use mayo only when that's my choice, which it is for certain fillings like chicken) you need to put the bread coating substance grin on BOTH sides, absolutely.

I like tomatoes (plum, tinned) on toast for breakfast. Once, in the middle of an enthusiastic run at Weight Watchers, I thought 'maybe I could just do without the butter on the toast, and put tomatoes straight on it'. <bleurgh emoticon> It was claggy to the max. That's what an unbuttered sandwich is like, even half-unbuttered one.

shewhowines Tue 14-Jan-14 20:35:03

Both sides unless it is a bacon sandwich and then no butter at all. My pet hate is buying a bacon sandwich and being given it with butter. I can't eat it. Why don't they ask...

ohmymimi Tue 14-Jan-14 20:45:26

Butter on both slices, whatever the filling, but amount of butter reduced or increased depending on type of filling. E.g. ham - meagre smear, but plenty of mustard; marmite - liberal smear to enable lots of marmite marbling. It's an exact science which requires years of testing and experience to perfect.

WaitMonkey Tue 14-Jan-14 20:46:10


ohmymimi Tue 14-Jan-14 20:48:25

she - nooooo, bacon sandwiches need oozy butter and mustard melting from the heat. And now I need one.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Tue 14-Jan-14 20:51:46

Both, and always to the corners.

Whoever said about arteries - there is increasing evidence that it is not butter and other 'real' fats that cause artery damage, but fake processed foods.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Tue 14-Jan-14 20:53:15

Bacon sandwiches need marmalade.

Mmmmmmm grin

blackteaplease Tue 14-Jan-14 20:54:06

I butter one side for me as I have mayo/ chutney/ hummus which is wet enough. But for dd I butter both sides otherwise her sandwiches fall apart when she waves them around

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 14-Jan-14 20:55:58

I hate butter in sandwiches (or indeed anything that doesn't result in the butter melting) but I'd butter both sides for someone else. Always thought that was the norm!

WandaDoff Tue 14-Jan-14 20:57:09

Both, anything else is sacrilege.

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 20:57:53

Gag. This is the reason I cannot abide store-bought sandwiches in the UK. Butter has no place on sandwiches.


MyGrandmaToldYourGrandma Tue 14-Jan-14 21:00:58

Since starting to diet last week, I butter one side. It tastes no different.

morethanpotatoprints Tue 14-Jan-14 21:03:33

I butter one side if we're running out of spread or if its something like tuna &mayo.
Something like jam is ok on one, but cheese I think you need both.

If I was frantically buttering bread for a dcs party, running out of time, i'd do one slice if I could.

ohmymimi Tue 14-Jan-14 21:06:00

crowler - is that because you're a forriner? wink

GreyGardens Tue 14-Jan-14 21:11:25

How is it a sandwich without butter? That makes NO sense. Really.

GreyGardens Tue 14-Jan-14 21:11:40

obv both sides

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 21:12:37

I'm a forriner. Yes. Guilty. No butter please!

I do like cream cheese on a sandwich.

Primadonnagirl Tue 14-Jan-14 21:16:17

Can I ask you all to picture a chip butty made with buttered bread so the butter runs when you bite into it???? It's impossible not to want one!

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 21:21:01

By chip butty, you mean a sandwich of chips i.e. potato?

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 14-Jan-14 21:23:49

EXACTLY Crowler grin

nopanicandverylittleanxiety Tue 14-Jan-14 21:25:06

yadnbu - both is must. ideally with full fat lurpak, fish and chips .....

WitchWay Tue 14-Jan-14 21:26:05

If the butter's cold I butter one slice as it's rather too thick & put a smear of mayo on the other. I have had sandwiches using mashed ripe avocado instead of the butter - yum

RuinedAndNotorious Tue 14-Jan-14 21:26:15

I only ever butter one side. And I'm not your sister, honest! I had no idea I was in such a minority on this issue.

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 21:26:43

Sorry, you've lost me here with the potato sandwich. You're kind of disrespecting the sandwich in this case.

WhenWhyWhere Tue 14-Jan-14 21:28:22





a posh hamwidge, for those in the know

Primadonnagirl Tue 14-Jan-14 21:30:50

Yes a chip sarnie! bread buttered, fill with chips salt and vinegar if you wish and then another slice of buttered if you are low carbing obvs!

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 14-Jan-14 21:35:14

Oh wait - no crowler I was agreeing with you re no butter on sandwiches!

Not a chip sandwich kind of person either.

1974rach Tue 14-Jan-14 21:36:26


I REALLY want a chip butty....

thick sliced white
salty and vinegary chips

squish samidge till butter drips out and runs right down to your elbows grin

ooooh nowt better

coffeespoons Tue 14-Jan-14 21:40:13

You butter both sides. And if you want your pickle/chutney/cranberry sauce separate from the butter, you put it in between layers of meat or other substance in the sandwich for true perfection.

WitchWay Tue 14-Jan-14 21:40:16

mmm chip butty - with a cup of tea

Primadonnagirl Tue 14-Jan-14 21:43:11

I am sorry to have lowered the tone of the thread!

1974rach Tue 14-Jan-14 21:45:34

gotta be a mug of builders tea though - none of that namby pamby darjeeling malarkey

ohmymimi Tue 14-Jan-14 21:59:06

crowler - next you'll be dissing the fish finger sandwich! A sandwich made with hot chips, loads of butter and tomato sauce is a gastronomic wonder.

Chip butty!!!

How mean to mention it at this time of night sad

AwfulMaureen Tue 14-Jan-14 22:10:04

I only butter one side. I think two buttered is over the top and bordering on gluttony. blush Sorry but it's true! As for the top falling it does not! You just have to hold it properly!

Huitre Tue 14-Jan-14 22:28:24

Chip butty! I want one! Actually, I would settle for plain chips and butter. Butter is so very lovely.

Also, what is the point of buttering any of it if you can have a non-buttered side? I mean, why not just have dry bread, you weirdos? Butter both sides or none, IMO.

Rubybrazilianwax Tue 14-Jan-14 22:34:24

Both. Times may be hard but we're not at that stage yet

MrsKoala Tue 14-Jan-14 22:41:22

I don't butter at all if the filling is with mayo - tuna or egg. I also spread Mayo on both sides of a ham or cheese sandwich. Butter would only get used (on both sides) if there was going to be chutney or pickle involved.

DH only has butter on hot bread/toast (it has to melt in) everything else is butterless.

BeautifulBlondePineapple Tue 14-Jan-14 22:57:28

I'm going to out myself to any family members here.

My father was recently tasked with making a cheese sandwich for my 2yr old DS. I asked him to butter both sides of the bread and he looked utterly confused. I then explained that the cheese would stick better if he buttered both sides.

He proceeded to butter the OUTSIDE of the sandwich as well as both the insides. And then stuck cheese to the outside too!!!

PMSL @ buttering both slices is over the top. It's butter, not crack grin

I bet you only eat one finger of a kit kat and weigh out your cereal in the morning, eh Maureen? wink

1974rach Wed 15-Jan-14 21:55:55

My long departed Nana used to leave her (white bread only) toast to go stone cold and then slather on butter - only anchor butter thank you very much - about half a centimetre thick. When she took a bite you could see the imprint of her false teeth in the butter grin

God bless all Nanas!

MamaJazzHands Thu 16-Jan-14 22:49:26

He proceeded to butter the OUTSIDE of the sandwich as well as both the insides. And then stuck cheese to the outside too!!!


MrsBungle Thu 16-Jan-14 22:53:37

shock I've only ever buttered one side! I might 'clean' the knife ie spread the remnants of butter on the other side. I'd never butter both sides and my top half has never fallen off!

chateauferret Thu 16-Jan-14 23:34:38

YANBU. Our staff canteen persistently refuses to butter the other slice even when asked and today I ended up with sun-dried tomatoes In my bloody lap. Drives me round the twist.

Sharaluck Thu 16-Jan-14 23:44:49

Of course you butter both. The butter 'protects' the bread from sogginess etc

The only time you don't need to is if you have other moist fillings and you want to eat it straight away.

But for sandwiches for a party/packed lunch etc always butter both slices.

I'm a one sided butterer.

In other news.. hummus on a sandwich?? A humwich? That can't be right.

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