to not understand why so many young ladies carry handbags on the crook of their elbow.

(127 Posts)
glasgowsteven Tue 14-Jan-14 13:52:38

Huge heavy handbags....this cannot be comfortable or even good for you...

fashion victims in the real sense of the word..

My granny with her cats bum faced used to carry a bug handbag this way...

Kids these days eh...harrumph etc

SaucyJack Tue 14-Jan-14 13:53:45

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Goldmandra Tue 14-Jan-14 13:59:23

I like it. It makes me laugh, especially when I think about them looking back in years to come and realising what they looked like.

It will their turn to laugh at the next generation in a few years grin

LadyVetinari Tue 14-Jan-14 14:00:29

I'm a young lady and carry mine in the crook of my elbow some of the time. It's not very big , and not very heavy. Am I still moronic, SaucyJack? wink

I do it because: A) I'm short and usually find shoulder bags of the same size awkward and unflattering, but can't use a smaller one as my Kindle wouldn't fit inside; B) I don't really like things on my shoulders; and C) I'm most comfortable carrying it this way.

The only thing that bothers me about it is the slightly increased potential for it to get stolen, but I don't worry too much about that as I know how easy it is for a shoulder bag to get pinched anyway.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 14-Jan-14 14:02:42

Saucy do you know what moron means and why it's an insult?


How else do you carry a handbag?

wobblyweebles Tue 14-Jan-14 14:04:30

I'm not a young lady but my mum (who obviously is not young either) just gave me one of those handbags with short straps for Christmas and I find myself carrying it that way.

I much prefer a strap over the shoulder, but OTOH it's a really nice handbag and everything fits in it perfect.

* Looks stupid but possibly doesn't care *

MeepMeepVrooooom Tue 14-Jan-14 14:05:08

I carry mine here because I don't buy handbags with long straps. I don't understand what's wrong with this.

My handbag is big but not full or heavy. I've never really thought about how I carry a bag before to be honest.

gamerchick Tue 14-Jan-14 14:05:36

With a long strap crossed over the chest grin

bebbeau Tue 14-Jan-14 14:05:51

i do it with my handbag, does it bother people? didn't know it did tbh grin

not having a go, just genuinely wondering?

Nancy66 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:06:05

I carry mine like that because I have really small shoulders and bags don't stay up. If I carry it by the handle down by my side it feels weird.

Pigsmummy Tue 14-Jan-14 14:06:14

Not all my handbags would fit onto my shoulder easily due to winter coat with suit underneath. Some do, some don't. Not sure why it's even on your radar. YABU

Doesn't a long strap really hurt your boobs?

I had no idea this bothered anyone either. I'm not young or fashiony.

RandyRudolf Tue 14-Jan-14 14:06:56
fluffyraggies Tue 14-Jan-14 14:08:32

I'm a laydee and i carry a bag like that sometimes. My shoulders are rather narrow and shoulder straps tend to fall off. If i put my bag over my arm i have two hands free.

Personally i think it looks more formal/dressed up to carry a bag like that.

Foxred10 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:09:08

I've never actually given any thought to how I grasp my handbag - although thinking about it now, I do the crook of the elbow thing, the reason being it leaves my hands free, and the bags I have are too short strapped to carry on my shoulder .Didn't realise another human being would even have an opinion on it, let alone think I was a 'moron' shock From now on I shall wrap the strap around my head and let the bag hang down behind me wink

steff13 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:09:25

My handbag has short straps, so I usually carry it in one hand. However, if my hands are full, I carry it in the crook of my elbow. I'm not young young, but I'm in my early 30s.

I don't see how it's not good for you. Certainly carrying it like that would be better than carrying a heavy bag on your shoulder, I think. I used to carry a shoulder bag and often found myself unconsciously raising my shoulder slightly to prevent the bag from sliding down, which caused some neck pain.

fluffyraggies Tue 14-Jan-14 14:10:44

I never carry a bag with the shoulder strap across my body. I have big boobs and i hate the way it feels and looks having a strap jammed between them.

I carry mine like that.
I'm not young.

Across body looks shit on me because I have big boobs.
On my shoulder annoys me, because sometimes people walk too close and knock it off my shoulder.

I had no idea it bothered anyone either.

Well, my big handbag usually has a laptop in it. Is it stating the obvious to point out the bag has to be bigger than the laptop?

Those bags in the picture look a bit silly because they're obviously half empty, is all.

VacantExpression Tue 14-Jan-14 14:13:00

I have to have cross body bags, cant keep a bag on one shoulder it keeps falling off and really love bags with short handles but just cant be "doing" with it iykwim? Like having my hands free, I worry in the crook of my elbow my arm would go numb or id forget to keep my arm bent.... tis hard work this handbag lark!

Juno77 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:13:27


So, I look like a moron, and am a fashion victim, because I carry my bag in a comfortable way?

This is bizarre. How else would you carry it, if it doesn't have a long strap? And even if it does... why does it make me look stupid? Genuinely confused. How is it 'fashion victim'?! HOW?

BelaLugosisShed Tue 14-Jan-14 14:16:22

I laugh at DD for doing this, I call them granny bags, mind you she thinks I'm the weird one for holding them by the handles, you know, as it's what handles are for.
Not as bad as the 1970s prostitute coats they're all wearing now though - the ones that look like they're made from skinned rabbits.
Don't get me started on shiny leggings or jumpers with bits of plastic on them ( that make you look like a bin-man) !

A lot of handbags can't fit on shoulders
Also when I'm travelling on the tube (for example) I find it easier to hold it like the OP described because I use my free hand to grab my oyster/wallet (maybe it's a lazy thing too!)

MeepMeepVrooooom Tue 14-Jan-14 14:17:44


It is bizarre isn't it. Although the ladies at the top of the thread appear to have been vastly outnumbered by the people who do.

Can't quite fathom why anyone would care how another carries their handbag.

wigglesrock Tue 14-Jan-14 14:17:58

In the words of one time pop princess Billie Piper "because we want to" Does that help you out?

BelaLugosisShed Tue 14-Jan-14 14:18:26

I actually meant coal-man but you get the jist.

Damnautocorrect Tue 14-Jan-14 14:19:11

that's how I hold mine, get back ache with a cross crossbag. And as pp said I'm also ashorty so they are unflattering.

Juno77 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:20:23

Also, I can't work out how this makes a bag easier to steal - ladyVetinari please explain as I actually cannot work this out at all?!

I'm so confused at the OP's 'fashion victims in the real sense of the word..' comment.. I just really don't get it?!

It depends on which handbag I am using, some of them have straps long enough to go on the shoulder, some of them I can get up to my elbow and some have to be held in the hand.

I didn't realise that I am a fashion victim or moron on some days of the week and others not. I thought I was just doing what was more comfortable to me.

gaggiagirl Tue 14-Jan-14 14:21:40

Another moron here then.

My reasons?

Small shoulders

Short arse

Giant bag full of stuff.

Does it really matter? sorry my elbow crook offends you.

sydlexic Tue 14-Jan-14 14:22:06

So I can hide my wobbly bits behind it. Now that would be a big bag.

BillyBanter Tue 14-Jan-14 14:22:36

I have one bag I carry this way. It's not very big or full or heavy. It is funny I suppose how these things have fashions, but no funnier than how other things have fashions. How to wear a scarf is another one.

Handbags over the shoulder aren't good for you either.

I can only presume the people objecting all wear rucksacks on their backs using both straps etc.

Mitchy1nge Tue 14-Jan-14 14:23:42

I don't understand why people carry handbags at all really

have got some but is just a brilliant way of losing all your stuff at once if you forget it somewhere

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-Jan-14 14:24:48

Depends on the bag, but I often carry bags like that, it's actually often more comfortable. I need to carry big bags often because years of having changing bags have got me in the habit of carrying lots of stuff about and I can't travel light anymore but this means they can be uncomfortable if worn carried on the shoulder/in the armpit if you have a bulky coat on/have a lot in the bag. across the body is often uncomfy for boobs and can also mean it hits on your hip/bum as you walk (esp if you have a bouncy walk, I hated my satchel style bag hitting my arse as I climbed the escalators on the underground).

Plus if you commute, having the bag at your front so you are certain you aren't hitting anyone with it is good. When I commuted with a satchel style bag, I found it really stressful as it felt more vunerable for pickpocketers, it's hard to sneekily take something from a bag carried on the front on someone's arm, much easier from a bag hanging loose worn on their back/hip.

And finally, if you've spent £800 on a bag, its nice to hold it in a way so that people can see the bag (mind you, I carry cheapo high street bags the same way). grin

bebbeau Tue 14-Jan-14 14:27:10

And finally, if you've spent £800 on a bag, its nice to hold it in a way so that people can see the bag

i wanted to say that dontmind , but daren't. well now i have lol grin

I carry my medium sized bag in the crook of my elbow, I'm in my 40's.

All of the reaserch and actual medical data shows that carrying a bag on your shoulder causes damage.

Most if the previous female generations behaviour and eating habits caused back and bone problems.

Big bags are in fashion, but some women use them as general shoppers as well.

I agree that carrying a bag nearly bigger than yourself, looks a bit silly, if you don't need a bag that big.

Other than that, we shouldn't be carrying a bag on our shoulder and the crook of your elbow is more difficult to snatch than just having it by the handles.

Pagwatch Tue 14-Jan-14 14:29:58

I'm very old and carry mine like that.

"And finally, if you've spent £800 on a bag, its nice to hold it in a way so that people can see the bag"

My spending limit is £100, there are some fabulous shades of blue bags just hitting the designer shops that will filter down quickly.

Bags are part of your outfit and should be showed off.

idlevice Tue 14-Jan-14 14:32:11

Slebs first started doing it cos carrying a massive branded bag in front of their body apparently makes them look smaller in comparison & they probably get more free stuff from the designer as it's so prominently on show in that position. Then it's just trickled down to the high street now. Same as wearing massive sunglasses is supposed to make your facial features look slimmer.

On the school run I see most of the girls from the local secondary schools carrying their bags in this way. At first I thought how can they lug all the books around like that then I realised all their work must be on a computer these days & what an old biddy I've become!

KatnipEvergreen Tue 14-Jan-14 14:38:01

Some bags are designed to go on the shoulder. Some bags are designed to go on the arm. That's it really. Fashion.

In the winter I don't need a bag at all as I've got a big padded coat with lots of pockets.

JohnCusacksWife Tue 14-Jan-14 14:41:43

I agree with the OP. I always think girls who carry their bags like that look a bit affected and daft. I think it's got something to do with the hand and wrist waving about aimlessly in mid air....just looks a bit "dolly-birdish".

HyvaPaiva Tue 14-Jan-14 14:47:38

I can only use top-handle bags that go over the elbow due to the hand and shoulder difficulties of my disability. I put the bag over the elbow of my non-dominant arm and then can reach into it using my dominant hand. Without this option, I'm not able to use a bag easily at all. I can't hold them in my hand or over my shoulder without either pain or the bag falling from me.

It hate to say 'I'm disabled that's why' but it's true grin It's just a fact that some of us need to carry a bag this way. So, YABU!

KitZacJak Tue 14-Jan-14 14:49:33

Mine doesn't fit on my shoulder so I do this but am hoping to get a new bag soon so I don't have to.

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 14:49:49

Just another thing for me to be exceedingly uptight about, yes! grin

Apparently I'll look back on my crazy bag-carrying style and be amused/ashamed...who knew. Because we all do that, fondly remember how we carried our handbags.

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 14:51:20

Oh yes, and I am a 'young lady'. A rather small one with annoyingly slippy shoulders. YABU

jacks365 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:53:18

Is it only "girls" carrying bags like that who look affected and daft so am I ok cos I'm in my 40's. Stupid shoulder strap is just the wrong length for me and bag gets caught up in the bottom of my coat unless it's on my arm. I should be ok though because I'm obviously not a dolly bird.

My bag is big because it doubles up as a changing bag.

BitOutOfPractice Tue 14-Jan-14 14:53:31

I am ancient and I often carry mine that way. If I'm on the phone / holding a child's hand / have a bad back / just because I can and I can't find a tiny fuck to give what anyone else thinks!

Binkybix Tue 14-Jan-14 14:58:43

It's one of my pet hates. I don't know why and I know I'm the one who's being silly about it but it really irritates me when I see it. Agree with whoever said it looks a bit 'dolly bird-ish' and trying to copy slebs.

CitrusSun Tue 14-Jan-14 15:05:27

It looks so stupidly pretentious and as much as everybody tries to justify it, it's just another fashion trend for sheep, who just follow the pack. << mourns the loss of individuality >>

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 15:11:47

How is it a fashion trend for sheep? It's just sometimes the easiest way for me to carry a bulky bag which won't go over my body!

Paintyfingers Tue 14-Jan-14 15:16:18

It's a fashion.

I think it looks daft! I agree with whoever said they will look back and be blush - bit like the crimped hair of my yoof

MeepMeepVrooooom Tue 14-Jan-14 15:19:47

I don't get how it's a "fashion trend" the handbags themselves are surely the fashion trend. The way we hold them is just the comfiest way to hold them.

Juno77 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:20:59

citrus and painty what are you on about?!

Women have been carrying bags like this for years, centuries! Actually, carrying your bag over the body with a long strap is a more 'fashionable' way, as it wasn't how victorians did it.

I'm really confused as to how this is at all 'fashion'?!

I have never been quite as bemused by a MN thread before.

SharpLily Tue 14-Jan-14 15:24:31

I do this but am not young and had no idea this is apparently a trend among young people. I take my lead from the Queen.

Juno77 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:25:37

LRD I have to agree. This is the most confused I have ever been at a thread. And I have been here 10 years.

Is this a joke? Am I missing something?

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 15:29:02

I'm just going to add my confused face. Why, but WHY, will I look back and blush at the way I carried my bag?

BookWorm37 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:31:13

This really annoys me too. The perpetrator is usually doing a silly quick-stepping walk too and has bun right on top of their head.

jigsawlady Tue 14-Jan-14 15:35:29

Haha I love this - take my lead from the Queen grin

Nancy66 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:35:37

Carrying a bag on you arm is a fashion?

wigglybeezer Tue 14-Jan-14 15:53:21

I assume it's so that they can keep both hands free for texting, can 't do that when holding your bag by the handles. I think it contributes to the helpless female look, along with high heels, and hair and make up that can't survive weather.

wigglybeezer Tue 14-Jan-14 15:53:43

I forgot false nails!

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 15:54:17


Wuxiapian Tue 14-Jan-14 15:58:41

It's "fashionable" and thus, looks daft.

GhostsInSnow Tue 14-Jan-14 16:03:18

Another 'moron' here. I have a curve in my spine, my bag is heavy. Carrying it on my shoulder tends to put weight onto my spine causing me some serious pain whichever shoulder I use. I carry it on the crook with my arm forward, a lot easier for me.

MacaYoniandCheese Tue 14-Jan-14 16:10:09

Depends on the bag and whatever else you're wearing. YABU.

glasgowsteven Tue 14-Jan-14 16:20:11

This is not a joke thread.

Unless I have missed something, all of a sudden there are gaggles of girls between 15 and 25 who all hold handbags like this, I say hand bags they are bigger than most gym bags!

I am glad I am not alone in thinking it looks silly....

Juno77 Tue 14-Jan-14 16:22:57

Um, there's also thousands of women, of all ages who also carry their handbags in this way.

Because it's normal.

Kewcumber Tue 14-Jan-14 16:25:27

Why does how you hold a bag make you look silly? confused

Good lord just when I thought there was nothing left to judge people about....

Kewcumber Tue 14-Jan-14 16:26:42

I have arthritis in my collar bone and sternum on one side - I hold my bag however its possible that day... if thats OK with you of course

johnworf Tue 14-Jan-14 16:30:51

I think the OP is talking about the exaggerated upturned hand/clenched fist that's outstretched, that goes with the handbag in the crook of the arm. May have started with V Beckham.

Joysmum Tue 14-Jan-14 16:31:44

I don't understand why so many women need to carry big bags at all?

I'm 40, I've only ever need my keys, debit card and some money. Anything I need goes in my pockets, I don't even own a purse. I Certainly don't need a handbag and wouldn't want one.

MeepMeepVrooooom Tue 14-Jan-14 16:33:14

Looks like VB is just getting ready to clock someone who questions the way she holds her bag...

What a bizarre thread, really can't imagine why someone would be irritated by this confused

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 16:33:26

Good for you hmm

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 16:33:44

That was to Joysmum...

nf1morethanjustlumpsandbumps Tue 14-Jan-14 16:35:52

Will ask my orthopaedic surgeon when I see him next week has he any other suggestions as how to carry my bag would obviously rather annoy my spinal curvature and rods than look like a moron. I not as sheep by the way and have carried my handbag like that for years, obviously I'm just an unknown trend setter. Tried over my shoulder but with my misshapen body and unequal legs I look like a bigger idiot when I landed on my arse.

UriGeller Tue 14-Jan-14 16:36:41

I don't care which appendage they hang them from but those MASSIVE handbags that are horrible and look ridiculous.

I've been away for a week and taken a smaller bag than some of those confused

Shodan Tue 14-Jan-14 16:38:54

You'd look back and laugh if you carried your bag like this though.

glasgowsteven Tue 14-Jan-14 16:41:41

it was indeed aimed at the groups of girls who look like mrs Beckham

CynicalandSmug Tue 14-Jan-14 16:47:16

I have always laughed at the daft bints with their bags like this tottering along on really high heels, with the white iPhone 5 and matching hairdos and enormous eyebrows - how easily they could be mugged, if only the muggers could stop laughing at silly they look!

JassyRadlett Tue 14-Jan-14 16:53:33

God. I'm in my mid 30s, look nothing like Victoria Beckham and often find myself carrying my bag this way, mostly because it's slipped off my shoulder cos I have weirdly slopey shoulders. If you add winter coat plus suit, it happens a lot. Plus, it gives you the chance to rest your shoulder for a bit.

Don't say put on your other shoulder, by the way. My other shoulder can't keep a bag on it for more than 5 seconds. It's fucking irritating. And holding the bag by the handle is stupid.

Christ. People get worked up by this? Seriously?

Beeyump Tue 14-Jan-14 16:55:32

Amen, Jassy.


kelda Tue 14-Jan-14 16:55:41

I have never owned a handbag, and never plan on doing so. I use a rucksack, a decent one that I can barely feel on my back even when it is full with shopping.

SharpLily Tue 14-Jan-14 17:01:15

*I don't understand why so many women need to carry big bags at all?

I'm 40, I've only ever need my keys, debit card and some money. Anything I need goes in my pockets, I don't even own a purse. I Certainly don't need a handbag and wouldn't want one.*

Right. You don't need to carry shit around but does that make it so strange that other people do?

DoJo Tue 14-Jan-14 18:01:28

Just when you thought everyone's judgy pants were hoiked so high that their eyes would be covered...they're looking out of a leg hole and forming an opinion on the way you transport your personal belongings around!

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-Jan-14 18:02:27

Joysmum - I'll bite. when not on mat leave (I'm currently toting a huuugggeee bag but that's full of nappies, wipes, pots of baby and toddler friendly foods and bottles and formula for my FF baby, mussies, plus changes of clothes for 2DCs who are incapable of staying clean for 2 minutes) my bag taken to work contains:
book for reading on train
pack of tissues
travel card
lunch box (I can't justify spending the best part of a tenner a day buying stuff for lunch when I have a full fridge)
smart work shoes (I'll travel in to work in trainers as I can't walk more than 10 minutes in heels, but I need to dress in grown up shoes for work)
Small make up bag (I'm that woman who doesn't have time to do her make up in the morning so does it on the train)

I don't do travelling light!

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-Jan-14 18:05:06

Oh, I forgot umbrella! I also carry a small fold up umbrella.

Mind you, this isn't a female only thing, I can't remember the last time I saw a bloke on the commute not carrying a bag of some sort. (I also think some men carry around more shit than woman because they have great big laptop bags and feel the need to fill them)

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Tue 14-Jan-14 18:06:49

I always thought they did it because they have large upper arms and the handles don't fit... but I don't really care and I'd notice the bag, not the method of carting it about.

SaucyJack Tue 14-Jan-14 18:06:51

It's just so stupidly impractical.

How are you supposed to use your hand if you need to have it floating pretentiously in mid-air in order to keep your bag balanced?

I do just cringe when I see silly girls prancing down the street looking like shop mannequins.

LedareAnsley Tue 14-Jan-14 18:07:24

DD carries her school bag like this, won't put it on her shoulder. It's a big pointy one. One thigh is covered with bruises front and back from where she gets knocked in corridors. She then complains about them <sigh>

jacks365 Tue 14-Jan-14 18:10:08

Just checked my hand bag. Make up bag, purse, nappies, wipes, change of clothes for toddler rarely needed as long as I have phone and keys are always on my person if possible.

ConnectFourChamp Tue 14-Jan-14 18:31:57

I have narrow, slopey shoulders and bags fall off. I tend to carry across my body, even though I am large of boobage and men stare. I don't carry it over elbow, it would feel weird and it does look silly though I think young girls can get away with it in the interests of fashion. I've also wondered how people carry their baby seats in their elbow. I'm pretty sure my arms would have snapped if I did that.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Tue 14-Jan-14 18:35:37

I do it so that everyone I walk past has a good chance of noticing that my bag cost £2k. If I'm going to spend it you might as well admire it.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Tue 14-Jan-14 18:36:57

Oh and it is a double whammy because the hand floating in the air bit allows me to wave my nice diamond ring at you grin

Sunshineonsea Tue 14-Jan-14 18:37:38

I think you will find it's women and young lady's of all ages and not just 'silly girls, bints and morons'
Fashion isn't meant to suit everyone that's why there are different styles etc
You may think it looks ridiculous but I'm sure there are things you wear/the way in which you dress that other people dislike

KatnipEvergreen Tue 14-Jan-14 18:41:00

Women judging other women for having a different style to them. Urgh.

SaucyJack Tue 14-Jan-14 18:53:59

For £2K I'd expect it to come with someone to carry it for you property!

johnworf Tue 14-Jan-14 18:58:07
JassyRadlett Tue 14-Jan-14 19:05:56

Aw, thanks Beeyump.

My bag does double duty for work and leisure. It needs to be able to fit small laptop or tablet, wallet, two phones, a small tube of moisturiser, lipstick, gloves and hat in winter, toddler snacks for nursery pickup, keys, various security passes, occasionally sanitary wear. Today it also seems to have tissues, a small umbrella and some briefing papers.

I have an hour's commute each way. I have a visible role and a rucksack would be hopelessly inappropriate even if it were practical - I need to be able to get at my phones quickly and prefer to have them in my bag if I'm not wearing zip up pockets.

My point being that some posters' lives and needs may be admirably simple and they happily carry very little with them and/or always wear clothes with pockets. Others have quite different lives and lifestyles and judging people for having a handbag, let alone giving a flying fuck about how they carry it, makes you look insular, weird, or both.

Ach, typed all that and only JUST noticed my handbag was on my elbow again. I'm going to get weirdly aware and paranoid about this now, aren't I?

Sunshineonsea Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:42

john did you actually look at the pic properly before you linked it? If you did you will notice how small the handles are making it uncomfortable to wear over the shoulder
These style of bags are designed to be worn this way

Cookie08 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:40:25

Carry your bag on the crook of your elbow. It's the nearest you'll ever come to feeling like the Queen. Helps if you have a perm and red lippy.
She can rock it.

johnworf Tue 14-Jan-14 19:40:30

Why not just hold the handles? Isn't that what they're for? I thought shoulder bags had longer handles to be erm, worn over the shoulder?

To, er, have your hands free? Like everyone has said?

GatoradeMeBitch Tue 14-Jan-14 19:44:09

When I was a teenager in the late 80s, early 90s carrying a handbag in the grandma fashion would have had people taking the piss wherever you went, asking if you thought you were the Queen. I think it's funny that it's the preferred way of carrying one now.

sykadelic15 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:45:23

Mine is crook of elbow too. Can't do the across the chest because of the boob issue, can't carry on shoulder because my boobs knock it off my shoulder when I move my arms... gets old.

Sometimes I'll hold it in my hand too.. depends on my mood and its weight.

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-Jan-14 19:47:58

Actually, I think the op mentions young ladies doing this because it's often more noticeable on younger woman. Old/elderly woman carrying their bags like this looks perfectly normal (like the queen), I'd be more surprised to see the queen carrying a shoulder bag.

Middle aged woman smartly dressed in office wear also look like they should be carrying bags like this so it's less noticeable again.

But it's a smart /stylish way if carrying a bag, combined with being carried by someone dressed down a bit who otherwise looks like the bag they should be carrying is a more casual one, looks odd, often the formal smart bag with informal clothes stands out.

it is really only in the last 10 years or so you've seen a lot of younger woman choosing structured bags as day bags even if the majority of the time they aren't smartly dressed (when previously you'd expect this group to pick less structured bags or even backpacks or messenger bags for woman).

In the same way a backpack or messenger bag for a woman dressed in office wear would stand out and look odd, the structured bag on a young woman, however it's carried looks wrong so catches your eye, and then you notice how she's carrying it.

JassyRadlett Tue 14-Jan-14 19:49:55

John, why the hell do you even care?

For the record: hands free. Easy access to bag. Hate holding by handles, feels uncomfortable.

SirRaymondClench Tue 14-Jan-14 19:53:16

I think it started after a show called Wags Boutique.

I can't remember women carrying bags round like that before (but that was also the start of HUGE bags)
I am guilty of carrying my bag like this too.

AngelinaCongleton Tue 14-Jan-14 19:54:16

I think it's so your hands are free to hold your phone, keys, childrens hand. The bag doesn't have long enough straps to go over your shoulder and you feel it's more secure than just at your side. I'm going to enjoy holding it like that now I know people are feeling smug and superior to me because they don't like the way I hold a bag.

Caitlin17 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:56:26

I'm a not so young lady and if it's that sort of bag that's how I'll carry it.

Magix Tue 14-Jan-14 19:58:22

I have tried this and cannot do it . It takes so much effort to keep your arm like that and hold weight on it it's so uncomfortable

Caitlin17 Tue 14-Jan-14 20:01:24

There seems to be a bit of assumption from some on MN that liking shoes, bags, clothes, dressing up makes you at best shallow or at worst an evil gold digger who is marrying your son just for his money. Owning a structured handbag is probably indicative of being that type.

Weelady77 Tue 14-Jan-14 20:07:16

Oh I love a big bag infact just bought a gorgeous new one today smile

Why would people get worked up about how people carry bags surely there's more to annoy you than that!

Caitlin17 Tue 14-Jan-14 20:15:06

Citrus re lack of individuality, my pet hate is jeans.The most boring garment invented, worn by almost everyone. Maybe, like me you never wear jeans, but if you do, then really criticising bag carriers for not being individuals is a bit rich

printmeanicephoto Tue 14-Jan-14 20:24:39

My DD does this elbow thing with bags! She's 6!! I nearly wet myself laughing when she does it!

CaffeinatedKitten Tue 14-Jan-14 21:06:54

I don't care how you carry your bag, but please for the love of all that is handbaggy please take the damn thing off your arm/shoulder when shoving down the bus or train aisle as the next person who tries to knock my head off with theirs will find it defenestrated in short ordergrin

<has issues, and bruises>


I like a big bag, my DM couldn't understand why, then a pulled a bottle of wine out of it. grin

BellaVita Tue 14-Jan-14 21:11:02

Elbow here too.

johnworf Tue 14-Jan-14 21:13:45

jassyradlett why shouldn't I care?

Bootycall Tue 14-Jan-14 21:13:48

looks messy on a shoulder I think.

what's a young lady? is that a female child or a woman in her 20s? what an old fashioned term op!

johnworf Tue 14-Jan-14 21:14:05

Actually, did I actually say that I cared? No. grin

Crowler Tue 14-Jan-14 21:16:24

I think it's quite jaunty and chic on the crook of the elbow.

I don't understand why you care, incidentally.

msvenus Tue 14-Jan-14 21:32:34

The straps arent ways long enough to go over the shoulder.

Sparklysilversequins Tue 14-Jan-14 22:24:27

Some styles of bag look good like that, certain sizes and shapes feel more comfortable that way.

Personally I like an across body messenger or satchel type bag, I like to have my hands free, can't stand shoulder bags slipping down all the time.

glasgowsteven Wed 15-Jan-14 11:03:19

They will have one popeye type forearm :P

Lasvegas Wed 15-Jan-14 14:20:51

i am mid 40's and always carry mine that way, how else are you to carry a bag that does not have shoulder straps. I swap it from hand to hand to even out the amount of time the left and right arm is holding it.

If you want to carry a bag on your shoulder then surely you would buy a shoulder bag.

I didn't know it was controversial.

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