To take our own food to soft play?

(29 Posts)
OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 20:21:04

Ive got no idea how strict they are, Ive only just remembered their rule of no food from outside coming in. Im not sure asking them if we can bring out own food in is the answer, I think just bringing it in and not saying anything would be the best way of doing it.

To put it into context, its my sons 7th birthday tomorrow and we are having it at soft play am I mad and they provide food and entertainment etc which is great.

But our youngest son is has a whole bunch of allergies.

The last time we were there I contemplated getting the, both lunch there and asked if I could see the ingredients list on the back of the curly fries. She waved her hand and said the allergy list is out the front. She meant the allergies that are 'usual' wheat, egg, nut, soya etc. I tried to explain that he is allergic to many more things than that and she looked at me blankly. I tried a few more times and eventually gave me the curly fries bag to check the ingredients list and he was allergic to them. This meant the only thing on their whole menu he wasnt allergic to was bacon.

This week Ive been planning to 'copy' what they might give which isnt easy since he can only eat 7 foods.

Im not looking forward to explaining at the beginning to blank faces that he really cant have anything on the menu.

I was just going to take it in and deal with the issue if its raised.

Thats alright isnt it?

Fucking hate us allergy bullshit, it rules Christmas and now its beginning to rule birthdays. Id give anything for him not to be made to feel 'different'.

Sparklingbrook Fri 03-Jan-14 20:23:09

Yes, just take it in. they probably won't even notice, and if they do just explain.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 20:23:49

Exactly what I was thinking, its doubtful they would even notice.

WaitMonkey Fri 03-Jan-14 20:23:56

In your circumstance, YANBU.

Jojay Fri 03-Jan-14 20:25:34

Totally ok. All the other kids will be eating their food, except one with serious allergies. Seeing as they cannot provide for him, yanbu to bring your own.

I feel your pain, j gave allergic kids too and I end up taking food everywhere. No one gas ever argued once I've explained why.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Fri 03-Jan-14 20:25:50

YANBU. As you're pretty sure based on previous experiences that they won't be able to cater for him, I would just take in what he wants and explain if they ask.

Hedgehog80 Fri 03-Jan-14 20:25:59

Take your own food. We do this for our very allergic ds1 and have not had problems, except when his party venue assured us they could cater for his allergies but on the day couldn't and he had a packet of crisps instead.

LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA Fri 03-Jan-14 20:26:12

So, its your sons 7th birthday and you are having a party for him and his friends and they are providing the food? I assume this is costing you ££s. If they complain about you taking food for your allergic DS I would be tempted to rip them a new arsehole! This really annoys me with soft play - you have to pay to go in, yet they don't want you to take your own food - so if you want your children to eat (their shitty turkey burgers and burns sausages) it adds to the expense - takes the piss it surely does.

HarderToKidnap Fri 03-Jan-14 20:26:23

Easier to seek forgiveness than ask permission!

Go ahead, it's fine.

MarmaladeBatkins Fri 03-Jan-14 20:26:27

YANBU.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 03-Jan-14 20:29:36

Yanbu I think it's the most sensible option.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 20:31:52

Good. I really needed to hear it.

This is new, we havent actually done any parties at all yet this is a first of many. It helps a lot that its our own.

NearTheWindmill Fri 03-Jan-14 20:32:33

You are buying a party package - spending tons. Just explain you have one who's allergic to everything and you can't take chances. It will be fine.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 20:38:13

You know what, this allergy thing floors me. Im usually bolshy assertive and confident generally. But bring allergies into it and Im weak and apologetic.

I need to grow some balls before my son feels like he should do the same.

I feel like a nob for starting this thread. It was a moot point, yet I needed to hear it justified. What a wuss. hmm

Right, I will be smiley yet assertive and not apologise to them if they bring it up.

2014 = allergy balls. <ahem>

phantomnamechanger Fri 03-Jan-14 20:52:19

DD is 14 and has been taking her own food to every party venue since the age of 5. As YOU are the customers here, they should be bending over backwards to keep you happy.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 20:58:48

Phantom has she ever been bothered or upset by it? Particularly when she was smaller?

phantomnamechanger Fri 03-Jan-14 21:30:32

no she hasn't, she has always (from age 5 1/2) just known that certain things will make her very ill and thankfully has always been sensible. It was take her own food or decline/miss out on party invites and we were not having her "punished" by missing out (and TBH, invites did drop off a bit, but I think that was more to do with parties getting smaller and not her specifically being dropped off the guest list). where possible she has similar food to what would be on offer at a venue, or something else that is a treat. for her 14th she is taking a small group of friends to a coffee shop chain after school that offers a gluten free range of cakes. sounds like yours has many allergies to contend with, must be very challenging.

phantomnamechanger Fri 03-Jan-14 21:33:43

she has also always felt that there could be many worse illnesses and disabilities to contend with, so although she'll have the very occasional moan of "it's not fair", she just gets on with it

OHforDUCKScake Fri 03-Jan-14 21:45:57

Thats good to hear, thank you.

deakymom Fri 03-Jan-14 22:52:35

i have allergies i take my own food and drink to places like this they scuttle over and tell me its not allowed i ask if they have allergy free foods /drink (i can only drink decaff) if they do i pay if i dont i eat my own one soft play centre allows me to provide my own teabag and gives me milk sugar and hot water! they freely acknowledge that i cant stay all day spending money on my children without eating and drinking i took my (baby) son to a party and he has allergies they didnt even charge me for him they usually would but because he cant eat the food they didnt charge me!!

MrsMook Fri 03-Jan-14 23:10:51

DS1 has 3 allergies that rule out most menus. I've frequently taken food for him to places where they don't have a range of foods that he can safely eat.

YANBU at all OP.

I just hope that lots of people don't pretend their DC have allergies to get away with bringing their own food / cos their DC are fussy etc as this undermines how serious a true food allergy can be.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Sat 04-Jan-14 00:27:04

DS has allergies, and took a packed lunch to a party at soft play last month. The staff were glad that we had catered for him, as they were worried about giving him something by accident.

So YANBU at all.

C3P0 Sat 04-Jan-14 00:51:27

You may well have a case under the disability discrimination act if they refuse to allow you to bring medically required foods. A letter from the GP should avoid any ambiguity.

wobblyweebles Sat 04-Jan-14 03:06:48

YANBU, you are being sensible.

scattergun Sat 04-Jan-14 08:33:10

Ds has a friend with lots of severe food allergies and when we take him out for meals with us we phone ahead to say we'll be bringing all his food as there's almost nothing he can risk having without his mum checking (i.e we are both happy for me not to be responsible). No one has yet caused any problems and all have been extremely accommodating.

This gets my goat too. DD1 reacts to aspartame (artificial sweetner in lots of things) I always take her a drink to softplay centres. We went to a new one for a party, and the manager came running over to me shouting that she couldn't drink it in there! I explained that she couldn't drink the squash provided for the party, so he demanded that I bought her something else, and was adamant they sold aspartame free squash. They didn't. The only drink without aspartame was a piddly box of apple juice for a pound! She drank the drink I brought in.

scattergun Sat 04-Jan-14 08:40:50

The phoning ahead has only because these have been small, busy pubs in the country so no alternatives if there was a problem. Ordinarily, I'd expect anyone to accept he needs his own food anyway if given a reason. If the whole party sat down to their own sandwiches, it might look more suspicious.

Norudeshitrequired Sat 04-Jan-14 08:43:33

One of my children has allergies and I have always taken his own food to the venue when we have held parties. You are still paying for his place and the food that he won't be able to eat, so the venue has nothing to complain about.

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