AIBU...or is she....?

(41 Posts)
SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 16:40:09

Having a clear out of a LOT of very expensive shoes, and have listed them on a facebook selling site initially as I loathe how long it takes me to list an eBay item.

Had a couple of pairs of boots, in very good condition. One pair, new cost £470, was asking £150. Second pair (a lot more desirable even though cheaper), new £260, asking £120.

A sort of friend (DCs attend same swimming lessons) privately messaged me on facebook asking how much for the two pairs together. I gave her a £70 discount which I think is vair generous and let her have the two combined for £200. She takes them.

Despite having posted numerous photos, she then messages me two days later to say she thinks they look worn (second hand shoes...no!!) and she wants more money off. I say it's fine, I can get at least £160 a pair on eBay, I've already knocked £70 off for buying them together, and as it's her, so just bring them both back for a full refund if she's not happy. She agrees to this.

I then get a message the next day saying, "actually I've been a little hasty, can I keep pair 1, and return pair 2" I say "no worries" So she's keeping the pair listed at £150, returning the pair listed at £120.

I then send this as well: Just to clarify...you're keeping the black ones, and returning the brown ones? As you took both, and as it's you, I knocked off £70 for you taking them both. I'm happy to let you keep the ones you want at a reduced price, but can't give the effective £70 off if you're not having both together. So...keeping the black ones (originally priced at £150) and returning the brown ones (originally priced at £120) would mean you would get £80 back. Make sense? So I get my brown ones back at the price they should be, you've lost nothing, and I've lost nothing, and you get the £150 pair for £120. So £30 off the one pair. Otherwise I'd be giving you £50 off just the one pair, which is just too much Hope that makes sense? x x

She mails back telling me I have a cheek, and she paid £100 a pair, so she expects to keep the £150 pair for £100 and return the other and get £100 back.

I say no sorry, I'm now giving you £30 extra off one pair for no real reason as a gesture of goodwill, but I'm not giving them away on their own at £100, I had only done that as I was being nice, and she was taking both pairs. Please can she return both and I'll refund in full.

Anyway, she's just come round with both, I've given her the £200 back, and she thinks I'm being really wrong about this.

AIBU? Or is she?

She is.

natwebb79 Fri 03-Jan-14 16:43:30

SIBU. This is why I try to avoid Facebook selling pages and only use eBay grin

Tbh, I'm a bit shock at anyone spending anything like that amount on a pair of shoes! Just Wow! Not critisising - just "wow! smile

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 16:43:53

Should add, have sold about 20 pairs on there now, and these were in the same condition as the rest I've sold. Very good condition, but clearly not brand new. No one else has complained, or returned anything.

Pancakeflipper Fri 03-Jan-14 16:44:58

Well mathematically you are correct.
Do you think she was pulling a fast one?

brunette123 Fri 03-Jan-14 16:45:19

She is. Highlights the problems when selling things to friends - you are being nice but people seem to always want a better deal. Shame she took them without paying you. I would just get them back, sell on ebay and not do any one favours like this again - sounds like you have been very fair to me. She is taking the mick in my opnion.

Ifcatshadthumbs Fri 03-Jan-14 16:47:07

She's a cheeky cow. Facebook selling sites do make me laugh though, there are some right chancres out there. It's worse than a car boot sale.

MrsSteptoe Fri 03-Jan-14 16:47:45

If I've understood correctly, she is expecting the full discount that you offered for both pairs of boots to be applied to the one pair of boots that she is keeping? If that's the situation, she is being unreasonable, IMO. What a shame - things like this can drag on, too.

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 16:49:44

It's not too much of an issue, I've got both pairs back, she's now got her £200 back, and I know I can sell them on for more on eBay (dammit, really hoped I could avoid sodding eBay listing torture) it was just the way she was quite adamant I was very much in the wrong here.

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 17:29:59

Wow. Sorry to drip feed, but just had a message saying that she'd still like the black pair so if I decide to honour the price she should be paying, she will come round and take the pair back for £100.

shock

I wonder if she's on MN...tempted to reply with "ODFOD. Hugz x x x"

Pancakeflipper Fri 03-Jan-14 17:31:24

Wear your MN scarf for her arrival and offer her naive ham and a pom bear.

Pancakeflipper Fri 03-Jan-14 17:32:26

Naice ham not naive ham.... Poor innocent naive ham.

WooWooOwl Fri 03-Jan-14 17:32:39

She is wrong. Get them on eBay and if she still wants them, send her the listing.

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 17:35:09

Naïve ham!!!! Roar!!!!! grin

"You bought the shoes with a bulk-buy discount. If you only want one pair, then the discount doesnt stand. I will refund you X should you wish to return one pair"

YANBU.

tillyann2013 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:35:35

What selling page are you using on fb? I'm intrigued to see these shoes!

MrsBungle Fri 03-Jan-14 17:36:30

She is being a cheeky mare.

hoobypickypicky Fri 03-Jan-14 17:39:01

Either she's a cheeky cow or she can't do the math. I'm veering on the side of cheeky cow at the moment.

Mia4 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:39:48

She is being unreasonable and trying to pull a fast one. I'd relist with 'no time wasters please' added to it.

brunette123 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:41:31

"honour the price she should be paying" she is a cheeky cow and she is starting to get on MY nerves now!

Tell her you ARE honouring the original price for ONE pair and even knocking another £30 off so she can get herself a maths course! wink

Pooka Fri 03-Jan-14 17:45:08

I need to know more about the shoes before I can comment wink

I don't really. Am just nosey.

YANBU

Buzzardbird Fri 03-Jan-14 17:45:09

I wanna see the boots!

birdybear Fri 03-Jan-14 17:46:03

Link her to this thread!

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 17:47:37

Na´ve ham

Sorry I couldn't help it....

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 17:51:02

I have replied explaining (again) that she can have them for £120 but no less. She has come back with the rather epic "Why don't we both sleep on it? Don't let them go, let me know first"

Grrr....

AwfulMaureen Fri 03-Jan-14 17:54:22

Just tell her you've changed YOUR mind as she's being difficult and no money back as it's already spent.

ReluctantBeing Fri 03-Jan-14 17:57:35

She sounds like a bloody nightmare.

SugarHut Fri 03-Jan-14 17:59:02

I can't be cocky..I have to see her around in RL. I am debating whether to just message back "I've been offered full asking price, it's your first refusal if you'd like to match that? Otherwise, I'm afraid consider them sold"

vestandknickers Fri 03-Jan-14 18:01:28

She's a nutter!

Respond and say that you have other interest so if she doesn't want them at the asking price that's fine but she needs to let you know now.

And don't forget the passive agressive smiley smile

hoobypickypicky Fri 03-Jan-14 18:10:21

Absolutely tell her you've other interest so it's the full asking price or nothing. Forget about "I can't be cocky" and "I have to see her in RL". She has to see you in RL and she should be red-faced at her own sheer audacity.

Chippednailvarnish Fri 03-Jan-14 18:12:56

I want to shove the shoes up her arse and I don't even know her!

SugarHut Sat 04-Jan-14 14:42:57

Update: I told her that someone else was taking them at full price. So they would be sold this afternoon. She hurried round this morning and gave me the full asking price.

Hurrah!!

And won't be letting her have anything else. Daft bint grin

AlpacaPicnic Sat 04-Jan-14 15:40:25

Ooh, well done!!!

You won! No returnsies now, buyer beware etc ;-)

Ha! Delighted!!!

mrsjay Sat 04-Jan-14 15:59:25

she is chancing her arm you set the price you offered a discount blah blah you just say that is the price, i want to see what 400 quid boots look like

mrsjay Sat 04-Jan-14 16:00:01

oh well done see she was chancing her arm, suppose no cheek no chance eh grin

SomewhereBeyondTheSea Sat 04-Jan-14 17:38:13

Well done! I was going to say send her a link to the EBay listing and say 'here you go, knock yourself out'.

Ledkr Sat 04-Jan-14 17:47:46

What boots were they? Come on tell us.
Do they have a red sole?

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