To think that a vast proportion of umsnetters are not having the Christmas they would like?

(90 Posts)
Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 21:19:46

They are either-

Going to other peoples' houses that they don't want to go to, and eat food they don't want to eat with people they don't want to speak to.


Having people round that they don't want round, who tell them what they want to eat (and when) and they don't want to speak to.

confused grin

Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 21:20:31

Or Mumsnetters even. <hic>

KatyMac Tue 24-Dec-13 21:21:09


I should be on a cruise hmm but it will be fine grin

ThisIsMeNow Tue 24-Dec-13 21:21:11

Dd will be visiting dp's family (long story) and I'll be left home alone for the morning.
Trying to look at the positives, can paint my nails in peace?!

HopelessCaseNumeroUno Tue 24-Dec-13 21:21:24

Usually I'm in the position you describe, but this year I am having exactly the Christmas I want, am going to really make the most of it.

LondonMother Tue 24-Dec-13 21:22:51

I think that those of us who are having exactly the Christmas we would like just aren't bothering to mention it. fsmile

MaryzBoychildCheeszuzCrizpz Tue 24-Dec-13 21:23:11

I'm happy about mine.

That could of course be because I'm not cooking this year fgrin

And because I'm fingers crossed ds1 will come with us tomorrow. If he refuses I will be very sad.

IamInvisible Tue 24-Dec-13 21:23:49

I'm not having the Christmas I would like, but it's not through choice. DH is away, he doesn't want to be, I don't want him to be but there's nothing we can do about it.

If he were here we'd be having it, "just us"! We decided when DS1 was 1 that we were having Christmas Day on our own and we have. People are welcome every other day, just not on the day.


MammaTJ Tue 24-Dec-13 21:24:35

YUP, I am having my exact ordered Christmas. I am not working (as a result of me being a student nurse), I get to spend the time with my DD2, DS and DP. DD1 and her DF will also visit. What's not to love?

Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 21:25:05

DH was telling me about a friend who usually hosts but is off to the ILs this year. And none of the ILs speak to him. sad

Scrounger Tue 24-Dec-13 21:25:52

I'm on the wine, at home and wrapping presents. I am happy....... I am not at the in laws watching TV that I hate in a cold house. There is a strong correlation between the two.

julieann42 Tue 24-Dec-13 21:26:27

I'm not having the Christmas I want..I'm working tomorrow..and have been unwell in the weeks preceding Christmas so haven't really organised things as much as I would have liked but there you go! We are better off than some people so I'm not going to stress about it

starofbethlehemfishmummy Tue 24-Dec-13 21:27:04

Wenare at home. No guests. Just hiw we like it but I have some horrible lurgy so it wont be great

I'm happy as Larry. But then again I'm in Florida (straight out boast, no stealth about it grin ) visiting the PIL, love my MIL and SIL and DNiece and the DDs love it here and are being SO good and we are about to have Tourtiere for dinner, a Canadian tradition. Sigh. smile

Almost makes up for all the crap of the last 6 months...

I am just so grateful.

gordyslovesheep Tue 24-Dec-13 21:30:11

oh I am - Christmas day has only ever been about me and my kids (and my ex DH until he became ex) so I do what I want and we are all chilled and happy grin

Sirzy Tue 24-Dec-13 21:30:24

I consider myself very lucky. I am spending tomorrow with the family I like, get to see my nephews enjoying their presents aswell as my son.

It will be chaotic, noisy and complete madness at times but we will all be together and thats what counts!

I'm having what I want. In-laws and parents are coming to us. Everyone gets on. shockfgrin Bonus- I don't have to see my SIL or my brothers. Happy!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Tue 24-Dec-13 21:30:44

I'm in work, so not having the Christmas I wish.

Once I am home it's going to be perfect, nobody wants to trouble me and had no invites as I will not be home till 3.

notanotherusername1 Tue 24-Dec-13 21:30:51

Sort of having the Christmas I would like. Parents are not the visiting sorts, they are separated and are happier alone, kind of broke my heart over it years ago, it's healed now and have had to accept it.

Have to just block out my brother is not with me.

I have dh and dc and inlaws and we are safe, happy and warm and are in our own home. It's the best it's going to be and so I am happy with just a small bit of sadness in my heart.

alphablock Tue 24-Dec-13 21:31:18

I am sure I will have a brilliant Christmas. I am hosting and everyone from both sides of the family is coming to us. We've done this for the last few years and has always been great. I love hosting and everyone else loves coming - perfect!

poorbuthappy Tue 24-Dec-13 21:31:52

Nope we put our foot down this year.
Our front door is open for anyone to come round but we decided after 12 years of having to drive somewhere on Christmas afternoon that we are staying at home.
Also dragging 3 kids out the house on Xmas afternoon is a pain.
Oh yes, and this means we can go to our local for a swift half in the morning because it doesn't matter if dinner is after 1pm.
grin So yes we are doing exactly what we want.

WorrySighWorrySigh Tue 24-Dec-13 21:32:23

We are doing exactly what we wanted. All relatives have already been visited. We have been to the cinema to watch The Hobbit. We are now sat in front of improving television drinking wine and eating chocolate.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism Tue 24-Dec-13 21:32:33

I'd like a housekeeper, a big lady with a ruddy face who will cook and serve dinner for us in the dining room of our big country house.

Other than that, I'm happy.

DirtyThree Tue 24-Dec-13 21:33:25

I just wet myself throwing up so no - not really the Xmas eve I was hoping for! I'm 9+6 with dc2 so weak pelvic floor and morning sickness are to blame...

LadyAlysVorpatril Tue 24-Dec-13 21:33:45

Well... it was going great till we started getting the d and v bug at the weekend,3 of us have now had it and we still feel like crap, and the last one seems to be just getting it right now. And I put my back out throwing up and my toddler is hysterically clingy because he's been ill and wants me to pick him up all the time. Christmas is basically cancelled bar the presents.

Good one here, just us for lunch, for the first time as a little family, and only the second time me and DH have done it alone ever fgrin

DontCallMeDaughter Tue 24-Dec-13 21:35:20

Oh yeah! Sounds like my last 10 Christmases... Toxic family syndrome. This year it's just me, dh and dd. Eating what we want when we want with a couple of visitors in the afternoon! Bliss!!!

BrownSauceSandwich Tue 24-Dec-13 21:35:43

Exactly what londonmother said.

Onlyjoking Tue 24-Dec-13 21:36:41

I'm looking forward to Christmas,just me DP and our 4 teenager.
Thank goodness MIL is not talking to us, means we don't have to do dinner at their house.Its just us, we will eat trifle and raise a spoonful to remember my DH,the children's dad.

HermioneWeasley Tue 24-Dec-13 21:37:57

I'm having a lovely time! Exactly as I wanted it.

MammaTJ Tue 24-Dec-13 21:40:10

ILs hosting an none of them speak to him=not to bother, spend time with peoploe who actually like them!

Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 21:56:21

YY I suppose we couldn't have a 'I am having a fab Christmas doing what I want with people I really like' thread as that would be a bit boasty to the folk having a horrible time.

magicberry Tue 24-Dec-13 22:07:50

Most people having a great Christmas don't feel the need to come online and complain I guess, or to come online and boast (and certainly not on MN where they would immediately get a flaming for being smug…)

SugarHut Tue 24-Dec-13 22:15:04

I'm having the perfect Christmas. Except for the first time since having DS I'm single. As per usual everyone is coming to mine, I've got amazing homemade food, lots of games, filled to the brim with gorgeous presents. And having to put a big false smile on, as I sit there feeling like the only loser in the entire family who is partnerless over Christmas. Not so bad tomorrow, but at mother's on Friday? With about 30 of us? Many of whom it will be the first time they've seen me since becoming "just me." And every other one of them is sitting there all lovey dovey with their husbands/wives? That, is going to be the day from hell. I can see the pitying looks now.

FudgefaceMcZ Tue 24-Dec-13 22:25:08

My Christmas would be great if I'd not trapped my fingers in the door earlier with the fecking gale force winds and now having to try and wrap presents with a swollen hand, and trying to stop myself opening the big chocolate tin that I insisted to the kids was not to be opened until tomorrow as a way of handling the pain. I suppose it might be better if I had a mother in law to blame for the door-slamming event but alas none such available.

Inthequietcoach Tue 24-Dec-13 22:28:24

My Christmas Eve would be perfect if I did not now have to move off the sofa and do the dishes.

Forgot to put the reindeer glitter out though, and dc are asleep, so need to brave the storm and do that in case Santa does not come.

Sugar, there may be some pitying looks, but there will be others who, in their hearts, envy you. Last Christmas I was partnered and miserable. Strength to you, those who care will see you, not your marital status.

WilsonFrickett Tue 24-Dec-13 22:32:06

Just us and DS got his over-excitement tantrum out of the way tonight so I am full of bliss. I think if you're happy with your plans you don't tend to post about it?

dancingwithmyselfandthecat Tue 24-Dec-13 22:34:27

depressing post alert

I had a stillbirth last year, following three miscarriages. So I can't have the Christmas I want, because my baby, who I should be organising Christmas around, making everyone eat at noon or keep quiet while they nap, isn't here.

That aside, my Christmas sounds depressing to outsiders. I have sent DH up to his mum so that we can go away together for new year. I am by myself in the morning, and then spending the afternoon with my parents, siblings and DNs before going back home to a house empty except for the cat.

But I think its fucking bliss. I've just got back from a friends dinner party, I'm drinking cava in front of an old film and I get a glorious lie in tomorrow morning. When I get home tomorrow night, I will run a big bath and call DH while I finish off the bottle I started tonight.

It might be a hard day in parts but after the year I've had ( I threw myself into work and set up my own business) I am fucking grateful for loved ones, alcohol and a good rest.

WilsonFrickett Tue 24-Dec-13 22:34:39

((Fudge)) that sounds really sore sad alternate paracetamol and ibruprofen. and wine

I am having the Christmas I want except for the fact my son has D&V.

We are hoping he'll be better in the morning.

FanFuckingTastic Tue 24-Dec-13 23:00:22

Christmas generally sucks once Santa no longer exists.

This year I don't have my children and I am with my partner who I told yesterday I would likely be leaving in the New Year. My step dad died last month and his funeral was just under two weeks ago. I had no money to buy presents so the kids only have a small stocking. My mother has been diagnosed with a shrinking cerebellum to go along with being widowed. I am about to receive a pile of well thought out generous presents and all I managed was some socks and vodka, and a break up. I feel like a horrible person, drinking hasn't helped with that any.

I think though that all the Christmases from now on will be amazing in
comparison. Life has ups and downs, and at Christmas as at any time of year, in fact I think the pressure of having an amazing Christmas makes it more stressful.

DENMAN03 Tue 24-Dec-13 23:01:19

My Christmas is turning out perfectly as I planned. I feel sorry for my poor next door neighbour who was due to travel to family today but couldn't get there due to the train cancellations. I have invited her to dinner too to make sure she is not on her own.
Family are coming round in the morning for presents and a big roast dinner with all the trimmings. I love it!

ouryve Tue 24-Dec-13 23:04:01

Just us and the boys with no social obligations. If either of them melt down (both have ASD), it will be without a huge audience. We will have the Christmas we expect. If it all becomes too much, it can just be an ordinary day with presents and extra food.

FanFuckingTastic Tue 24-Dec-13 23:12:00


Both my children are on the spectrum (HFA) and I dread Christmas with extended family as one gets completely hyperactive and the other has issues with expressing gratitude and says difficult to understand things for them. I get it as I am HFA also and he doesn't have a filter for thoughts to speech, just like me but more pronounced due to being a boy I think. It's caused so many arguments with people saying I should punish them etc, what I've decided is actually just not to over stimulate them out overwhelm them instead.

McPie Tue 24-Dec-13 23:24:00

I am sorry but I am having exactly the Christmas I want, and always have, me, dh and our three kids eating what suits us and nobody else. Boxing day will be spent at my mums with myself, my parents and 8 kids as everyone else has to work this year.

mrsjay Tue 24-Dec-13 23:27:16

I am doing what i want well i want to be in the sun and not in the cold UT i go to my mums I eat her food will come home put new Pjs on and sit and get pissed and watch recorded telly

expatinscotland Tue 24-Dec-13 23:28:21

I'll never have the Christmas I want because my daughter is dead.

ouryve Tue 24-Dec-13 23:29:47

The whole of December's been tricky, FFT. It took us over an hour to walk the 1km home from school the day the post box went up at School on Dec 2nd because DS1's engine broke down. A week ago, I had one boy ranting in one ear and the other wailing in the other, while I was trying to wrap TA gifts. That was a fun night.

I'm lucky that family is understanding, but I can imagine how family take umbrage at how ungrateful your DS might appear, on the surface.

FutTheShuckUp Tue 24-Dec-13 23:31:37

This thread is weird. Some people aren't having the Christmas they want as their family members loved ones are no longer hear or are dying. Sorry to sound blunt but this just appears insensitive

DeWe Tue 24-Dec-13 23:34:22

I'm having the Christmas I want!
We are on our own!!! A friend with two small ones might come round if she's feeling like company, but she's lovely and so are her dc, so I'm totally happy.

ouryve Tue 24-Dec-13 23:35:41

I don't see that, FutTheShuckUp. I think Sparkling was trying to acknowledge that we don't all have Hallmark perfect lives.

ouryve Tue 24-Dec-13 23:37:08

And she was picking up on the general theme of a few threads, today.

FanFuckingTastic Tue 24-Dec-13 23:39:09

I'm definitely putting on my grinch t-shirt in the morning.

Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 23:40:59

My examples in the OP were meant to indicate the people spending Christmasses as they don't wish to but have a choice in IYKWIM Fut, like going through the motions just because they feel they have to. All the 'doing your duty' bit.

But if people want to state why they aren't having the Christmas they would like due to other reasons then they are saying why too.

Apologies if the thread is insensitive, or perceived to be. It was not my intention. I have read what everybody has posted, Good, bad happy or sad.

Sparklingbrook Tue 24-Dec-13 23:44:18

I think this thread is very thoughtful.

FanFuckingTastic Tue 24-Dec-13 23:45:03

It's tough for DS as his birthday and Christmas are in the same week, he just gets totally over hyped by all the stuff on TV and at school, along with the build up by people around us in the family, he gets given too much at once in a room filled with people, and he just blarts things out not thinking. He's only eight, I think adults should be more understanding of how difficult some children find it all under the surface, rather than getting angry, which gets picked up on and makes their coping worse. Makes me meltdown never mind the kids.

onetoomanytoo Tue 24-Dec-13 23:47:30

expat, i am so so sorry for your truely sad loss,

we will not be having the christmas we expected, our house got flooded in the storms yesterday, we are in the middle of a huge clearing up and drying out process, but it could have been so much worse, we are lucky compared to some, and we have been very lucky and have been offered the use of a friend's house to use over christmas while they are away, so we will host the christmas meals as planned, and enjoy ourselves, and finish the clean up on friday,

mean time i have opened the tin of roses, a bottle of wine, and am having a chill.

lifesgreatquestions Tue 24-Dec-13 23:49:26

My ideal Christmas is either a pipedream oen that I'd be able to have children, or if spend it once in a while with my family, but in reality they are to far away, or on my own with oh and not have to stay over at his parents. The reality is that I'm really looking forward to the way in which we ate going to mark it., its not ideal, but for reality its a pretty good second.

ILoveGlyfada Tue 24-Dec-13 23:55:13

I am shivering like crazy, been ill for a few days but tonight it has got a lot worse. Nicked dd's penicillin as paracetamol doesn't work. I just want to get better very soon :-(

ILoveGlyfada Tue 24-Dec-13 23:57:40

expat I am so sorry :-((

gobbledegook1 Wed 25-Dec-13 00:03:06

Definitely not the Christmas I would like, I wanted my partner and his kids here with me and DS, a fun evening followed by a rare lie in and a relaxed morning together (since quality time is infrequent as I work all weekend every weekend and we don't live together) before doing the rounds. Instead we've split up.

dancingwithmyselfandthecat Wed 25-Dec-13 00:04:00

Glyfada sorry you are ill but don't fucking nick penicillin. Your daughter should finish her dosage and if you need one get your own. Antibiotic resistence is a very big deal.

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking Wed 25-Dec-13 00:04:32

Or sharing their child with a nobhead who couldn't give a shit if he saw him but does so to be a dick to the mother.


That is all.

ouryve Wed 25-Dec-13 00:08:13

Ilove - you need ot find out if oyu actually have a bacterial infection that will respond to penicillin. If it does, you need a full course, several days long, of your own. Just taking the odd dose is how bacteria become resistant.

Call OOH. Hope you're better soon.

I'm spending tomorrow with ds, my dad, my cousin and her dh and 3 kids. Will be a nice day; it always is, but I can't help kind of wishing I was with dp who is visiting his folks at the other side of the country!

Twang Wed 25-Dec-13 00:10:44

Currently supping on the old whiskey whilst watching midnight mass on tv at the OLs alone whilst everyone else in bed. Don't even have milk and carrots out for Santa and his reindeer like we would at DD's older cousins told her yesterday that Santa doesn't exist. Petulantly wishing I was with my family who always manage to get into the spirit of Christmas despite losing two family members over this period.

FanFuckingTastic Wed 25-Dec-13 00:15:06

Antibiotic resistance sucks too, I'm allergic to penicillin and get regular bugs due to kidney issues and am down to only two oral antibiotics which work, although only fifty per cent of the time too as I get two different bugs which only respond to one of the two left.

pollypocket99 Wed 25-Dec-13 00:15:48

I am 33 and have not had a Christmas doing something I want to do. It's always about pleasing/not upsetting my parents. I am away from my wonderful partner on our first very special Christmas together and am missing him incredibly. My family don't quite seem to grasp this and, together with the usual lacklustre welcome I've received since I arrived tonight (my dad did his oh so happy to see me retreat to the living room, shutting the door behind him, nice), I wonder why I bother.

How on earth do I break the pattern of coming here every year?! I actually had to ask permission tonight to have another half glass of wine (cue much tutting) and when I said I wanted to watch a prog at 11 - IT Crowd if you want to know - was told "I think that's a bit late", plus knowing glances exchanged between my parents as I am a 15 year old wanting to go and hang out down the rec just so I can smoke weed (that is pretty tempting right now). Followed by a PA lecture about when I get to 65 ("but we won't be around to witness that"), you'll know what tired is. FFS. By the way I am perfectly pleasant, well behaved, quiet, respectful... I give up!!!

Families eh?! grin

RodneyTheChristmasElf Wed 25-Dec-13 00:18:45

I'm happy about mine. Apart from the fact that the bastard turkey still isn't cooked despite being in the oven for 9 fucking hours.

YoniGetAnOohWithTyphoo Wed 25-Dec-13 00:41:28

I'm having a terrible time, truth be told.
Was supposed to be spending it with DH at sisters house.
Yesterday missed a delivery of online christmas presents.
Thought i'd be clever by going to 24h tesco late at night. Was staying at DMs house, didn't want to wake DM (dog whines when i go out) so thought i'd take him with me.
Bloody thing chewed nearly the whole way through both seatbelts.
Got up at 6am this morning after 3 hours sleep to collect presents from depot, and put car in garage. They ordered the wrong type of seatbelt, so couldn't be fixed today. Is gonna cost £300 on friday, which i really can't afford.
Rang up sister in tears, told her we couldn't drive 2.5h down motorway with no seatbelt.
DM reluctantly agrees to take me instead, but it's gonna make her late for her to spend xmas at other sisters house. Also cannot fit DH and dog, so they have to go to MILs.
BIL has got hump at DH not coming. Mum and other sister guilt tripping me for making them late. I feel like shit and have spent most of the day crying. All because of a stupid dog, no sleep and feeling lonely and like i 've pissed everyone off.

I need a big, un-mumsnetty hug sad

ComposHat Wed 25-Dec-13 00:51:44

I am 33 and have not had a Christmas doing something I want to do.

Right, sounds a bit like Christmas with my parents, no real jollity, not much booze, plus we had my Gran determined to suck the joy out of the whole proceeding and determined to make everyone miserable.

I played the long game. Once I got together with my wife, I said 'oh we're going to alternate between going to your house, her mum's house and a year at home.' That gets them out of the idea that you are going to be there every year. Once every three years and having a partner for moral support with you makes it more bearable. Also the rota seems to have become more loose so we spend nearly every year here. Tomorrow morning will be spent in bed eating Just Brazils and drinking Babycham. Also a pet is a good excuse. 'We can't leave the cat for three days' is a perfect excuse for not going.

Or for a quick and dishonest break from the parental snooze fest, tell them you are staying with your partner's parents and he can tell them he's visiting yours and then stay at home.

HappyCliffmas Wed 25-Dec-13 08:15:49

Dancing & Expat <hugs>

My DB died many years ago. Time takes the sting away but Christmas is always hard as there is someone missing, who will never join us. Consequently my DPs don't really celebrate it as - understandably - they still find it very hard. They have lots of GC though and enjoy visiting relatives to watch the kids open their presents. Me & DH tend to stay at home (different country) as we aren't too fussed about it - it's more an opportunity to spend some time together.

Sugar - keep your head held high and smile. In a room full of 30 people I'd bet money that there will be at least one person envying you the fact that you are single thanks

What Fut? Should those who have lost people just not talk about it because it makes you uncomfortable and it isn't sensitive of the rest of us to give them comfort?


Talk about an insensitive post.

Hugs to everyone who is missing someone this Christmas, no matter the circumstances.

MaryzBoychildCheeszuzCrizpz Wed 25-Dec-13 09:27:54

There are some very sad posts on this thread. flowers to all who are grieving.

dancingwithmyselfandthecat's post really stood out to me because 20 years ago I was in exactly the same position as her and it was awful.

Christmas is a time for children, and those who have lost children, or lost the children they should have had, will feel that grief very strongly at this time of year sad

I think reading this thread has made me truly grateful, and it does put into perspective some of the whinging threads about in-laws, and trifle, and distances to travel, and the fucking "mil wants to do Santa traditions differently" that crop up a lot at this time of year.

So to everyone, I wish you the happiest Christmas you can have in the circumstances, and to those who are really struggling, wishing you a better (even a little bit better) next year.

MaryzBoychildCheeszuzCrizpz Wed 25-Dec-13 09:29:06

Tee, I think fut was saying that the minor whingers seemed insensitive to those who have lost loved ones, not the other way around.

I don't think that's anyone's intention, but it's worth bearing in mind.

Usually my Christmas is like that. But this year after going no contact with my mother 6 months ago we decided to go away for Christmas. So we've rented a cottage and its just me, DH, dd1 & 2 and DSD. Its fantastic! We're staying in our PJ's all day, watching TV, kids playing with their toys and eating lots and lots of food. No where to go and no one we have to please. fgrin

MidniteScribbler Wed 25-Dec-13 10:08:45

I had the christmas I wanted, with my DS and an elderly aunt, which is all the family that we have. We slept in, had a late lunch and spent the afternoon in the pool with a bottle of Moet and the dogs. I would have loved for my parents to still be with us and to spend the day, but sadly it was not to be, so I just enjoyed what we had. I have spent many years upset over what I don't have, and it's taken me many years to appreciate that Christmas day can be what I make of it.

FutTheShuckUp Wed 25-Dec-13 10:33:49

Exactly Maryz.
Ive seen people on here whining about cards, presents that are not to their liking, in laws, not getting a lie in etc whereas some people will be 'celebrating' their last christmas or first one without a loved one. I know all problems are relevant to the person suffering but sometimes a bit of perspective wouldn't go amiss

moldingsunbeams Wed 25-Dec-13 10:48:58

I would like to be on a beach in the sun however I am with family and my mum is rather poorly so taking each Christmas as it comes because who knows what happens next year.

Mary, someone always has it worse than everyone else. That's life.

That doesn't mean people aren't allowed to whinge about their own lives.

That's also life.

Our Christmas sucks. Kids got a tummy bug a few days beforehand. I was ill until Xmas Eve so we had to miss the big family Polish Xmas Eve and postpone Christmas dinner, which I cook, till Boxing Day. Finally thought we were all okay and going to have a good day... And now it is 6am and my husband is throwing up. Another 48 hours minimum before we can do all the family things we love. And one child hasn't been sick yet...

Im on my own, was going to enjoy a nice chilled day with my dogs but my oldie daisy could only manage half her walk as the pins in her front leg are going. Its become apparent this will be our last bit of time together so feeling very teary.

HerculaPoirot Wed 25-Dec-13 11:51:32

It's not ideal for us as DH has been called in for nightshift (emergency services). However, for the first time ever, it's just the three of us for Christmas morning. We are watching Santa themed films, eating selection boxes and I'm the only one dressed yet.

We will have a light lunch at about one, then head off, me to my family (I'd rather stay home but my brother is home with his family for first time in four years) and DH to work.

Maybe next year we will get our Christmas. I'm still having fun though. Hope everyone else does too.

RodneyTheChristmasElf Wed 25-Dec-13 18:12:36

This is my first Christmas without my dad, doesn't stop me being annoyed/irritated by relatively minor stuff.

FanFuckingTastic Wed 25-Dec-13 22:45:58

I think having a moan is fair enough, I whinge about little things too, but I have gotten some perspective on how sometimes I was moaning about things that now I'd be grateful for, my step dad and I argued loads and I am sure I have had loads to say about that, but being without him now just makes me see how insignificant those little quarrels were. I let them be bigger in my own head, now I'd love to have him here, even if we had a Christmas day nag about the same old stuff.

YouTheCat Wed 25-Dec-13 22:56:30

I really don't get the whole 'I don't like this present' attitude at all, even if you get something worth a tenth of what someone else is given. It is the thought. Especially when there are those who have got bugger all because their dps haven't been bothered and that kind of thing.

JingleBrains Wed 25-Dec-13 23:06:16


LadyBeagleEyes Wed 25-Dec-13 23:22:36

Well I've had a lovely day and even been able to cater very well for a veggie who ate more than anyone else.

merryduckingchristmas Wed 25-Dec-13 23:47:28

This has officially been the worst Christmas ever.

There was a massive blown out of all proportion arguement this morning between my brother and sister which has split the family.

I don't usually drink but now find myself a little drunk very pissed off and wish to just curl into a ball and die

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