Secret Santa

(46 Posts)
MaxPepsi Wed 18-Dec-13 13:23:20

I've just put my 'gift' straight into the bin.

AIBU??

quesadilla Wed 18-Dec-13 13:25:22

YANBU. I hate secret Santa. It works passably in an office or friendship group where people know each other really well. Doing it in a standard office set-up is just awful, cringeworthy and a total waste of money.

MaxPepsi Wed 18-Dec-13 13:28:51

I quite like the idea between friends, saves money when you only need to buy one present.

This is a work one, not a massive budget £5-£10. I got a bargain present for £3.99 as it had been reduced from £10.00

I doubt the person who got my 'gift' even spent £1.50. If they didn't know what to get why not a cheap bottle of plonk like some of the rest were given??

Bah Bloody Humbug!

Middleagedmotheroftwo Wed 18-Dec-13 13:29:27

It's particularly hopeless where men are involved. I generalise, but they have no interest in present buying, and usually buy the easiest commedy present/cheap soap that they can find.
YANBU.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Wed 18-Dec-13 13:29:37

No, it's why I don't do it anymore. I don't understand when there's a £5 or £10 limit people just go to the pound shop or give something that was clearly some crap unwanted gift.

If you can't afford it or aren't planning on spending the amount you shouldn't join in, in my opinion. I've had some right crap given to me, it's really disappointing.

It's not like SS is compulsory where I work. Some years people have had no presents bought back for them! I think that's terrible.

tinselkitty Wed 18-Dec-13 13:33:33

Hotel chocolate is my friend for secret Santa. Most people appreciate even a small packet of yummy chocolate.

I hate it when people buy crap. Mine was obviously re gifted to me last year

MaxPepsi Wed 18-Dec-13 13:44:32

I'm going to have to share it with you all. after retrieving it from the bin

It's a book entitled 'don't wanna!' The official rule book of the refuse to grow up club, with a key ring saying I refuse to grow up.

I'm a 38 year old woman ffs not a 12 year old child!

I'm genuinely astounded at how crap it is. And what makes me more angry is the rest of the floor have fucked off out on a team lunch which I wasn't invited to as I'm not part of their team! Makes me feel really wanted in my workplace. NOT!

Are they trying to tell you something?

Middleagedmotheroftwo Wed 18-Dec-13 14:09:09

Learn your lesson, and don't participate next year - if you're still there! biscuit

Oh dear-I'd think whoever bought it for you was indeed trying to tell you something... Sorry.

lessonsintightropes Wed 18-Dec-13 15:29:03

I usually give a 'Secret London' guidebook or other unusual London-related thing for our office (as we are based there and employ a lot of graduates who aren't necessarily that au fait with some of the more odd corners of the capital). It's something I'd like to receive and I'd be delighted with the Hotel Chocolat chocs too. Last year I got a really nice Cath Kidston mug.

The present was ridiculous OP and if your colleagues are so cheap and inconsiderate I probably wouldn't participate (very quietly) next year.

Gossipmonster Wed 18-Dec-13 15:30:13

I buy something really nice and thoughtful every year and always get something smutty - I also feel like chucking mine in the bin hmm

happygirl87 Wed 18-Dec-13 15:37:08

I bought hotel chocolat this year! Was a £10 limit though and I spent £12.50 (shhh!)

I received a book called "how to work with difficult people"- whcih I know was from a guy on my team as a joke, and made me smile. fsmile

LineRunner Wed 18-Dec-13 15:40:37

OP, if you PM me your address I'll send you a nicer present that may or may not involve chocolate. That's for making me fsmile

Purplefrogshoe Wed 18-Dec-13 15:51:17

YANBU I spent a lot of time on my secret Santa gift, lovely candles and wine wrapped really nicely and I got £1 shop tat

clarinetV2 Wed 18-Dec-13 15:55:47

YANBU. I once worked in an office where we knew each other reasonably well. The way we did Secret Santa was to draw the recipient's name out of a hat so that you knew who you were buying for, and it was fun trying to find (or make!) something within the price range that the person would like. In my current workplace we just put all our gifts into the sack, and draw one out at random. It's useless. I have given up trying to put much thought into the present I buy, because a) I don't know all my colleagues very well, and b) they all vary in tastes and interests. So I buy a candle-holder or something equally unimaginative from the local German Market which is full of such tat, and bung that in. I suspect most of the presents I've had are 're-gifts' from previous Christmases. Waste of time and energy.

makemineabacardi Wed 18-Dec-13 16:03:51

YANBU. It's even worse when its a SS within a friendship group - my present last year was astonishingly shite. Limit was £15, I got a shitty tiny board game of 'gender questions'. Played it once on opening when I inflicted it upon the whole of said friendship group then it went to charity. I made myself even angrier by looking it up online to find it was selling at Hawkins Bazaar for £5. angry

I've refused to participate this year.

Chocolate is a go-to gift, never fails! smile

Could they have seen the book in the bin and that's why they left you out of the meal?

I don't think either side has behaved particularly well tbh.

Joysmum Wed 18-Dec-13 18:21:42

Did you put it in the bin at work? Hope not as that wouldn't be very bright.

And yes, YABU because shit presents can still be donated to charity shops to make money.

Bloodyteenagers Wed 18-Dec-13 18:33:36

So you did the mature thing of chucking the book in the bin and are now having a strop about the present you received.

FetaCheeny Wed 18-Dec-13 18:50:44

Don't blame you for putting it in the bin, that kind of gift is only funny from someone who knows you, otherwise it's insulting!

RobotLover68 Wed 18-Dec-13 19:23:58

I pulled out of friendship group SS this year - I gave it one last go last year and I got (for £10)

A packet of tictacs
A tin "think tobacco sized tin"
A squidgy soap which I wasn't 100% sure what it was

I cried. I know that sounds pathetic but i hardly get any presents and they are never surprises because my DH is rubbish at surprises

Over the years, same group, I've sent beautiful chocolates, a scarf, necklace/earring set - really made an effort and every single year I've got a "oh that'll do" gift

This year I said no more

OP YANBU

Owllady Wed 18-Dec-13 19:27:00

The last Time I was in one at work I got a penis corkscrew hmm

BabyMummy29 Wed 18-Dec-13 19:29:42

I've always hated it in the past as it just consisted of (some people) giving and receiving rude gifts which was quite embarrassing in some cases.

This year we all bought a gift and they were just pulled out at random from a sack.

Much better for 90% of those concerned.

Littlefish Wed 18-Dec-13 19:36:10

I've knitted a pair of hand warmers in my recipient's favourite colour. We had a £5 limit, so it's difficult to get anything nice. I bought a ball of nice wool, and got knitting!

tearoomtrash Wed 18-Dec-13 19:37:12

I hate the £5 spending limit! It's so hard to buy something thoughtful / relevant on such a small budget. I'm afraid I succumbed to buying a mug containing hot chocolate & marshmallows. Far from imaginative! I was embarrassed giving it, but I had genuinely searched for days for something nice...

Whatnamenext Wed 18-Dec-13 19:42:21

I hate it. It's such an invitation to contribute to landfill.

EmmaFreudsGivingMeJip Wed 18-Dec-13 19:52:42

Yanbu. OH received a 'the joy of sheds' book for his secret santa. They should have saved themselves the bother and just put the £2 or whatever it was in a card.

ginmakesitallok Wed 18-Dec-13 20:01:41

I always give something I'd like to receive. One year I gave a nice Burt's bees set, to our office manager. Bitch didn't know it was me who bought it and spent the afternoon moaning to everyone about how shit it was. Caahhhh! This year olds gotten the new office manager a pair of silver card earrings ( only thing I know about her is she plays bridge) and some lindt chocolate reindeers.....

Xmas2013MN6510 Wed 18-Dec-13 20:05:35

Last time I did secret santa at work I got something nice and was given cream filled chocolate penis lolly's hmm

BlueStones Wed 18-Dec-13 20:06:03

So far I've always got nice things, but I have felt sorry for colleagues who got shite. One young woman got given a massager, and I know the (much older, male) boss gave it to her. Thought that was creepy.

If people are really stuck, surely chocolate/wine/nice mug are always good?

(That said, last year my 45 year old brother got me a mug with World's Smelliest Farter on it hmm)

Xmas2013MN6510 Wed 18-Dec-13 20:06:26

oops forgot to name change!

We had a charity shop rule one year, and I got a rather silly sequinned handbag that I still roll out when a glitzy bag is required. Most of the women did quite well that year with bags and scarves. Another year it was charity shop again, but drawn out of a sack and everyone who'd already drawn could request to swap with the present just pulled out. That was quite fun, people got a choice and there were no insulted faces cos someone had been specifically given a crap present. The one that kept getting swapped was a box of chocs (not second hand!) that everyone wanted ... I got a block of notepaper which was actually just what I needed at the time, AND it fitted neatly in aforementioned blingy handbag for the rest of the do. smile

That said, this year we didn't do one, and I really didn't miss it.

superstarheartbreaker Wed 18-Dec-13 20:25:33

Five pound limit= decent bottle of wine on offer= everyone is happy. I JUST WANT WINE!!!!!!!!!!! N

lowra Wed 18-Dec-13 20:32:32

Secret Santa is only a bit of fun. Don't have any expectations and you won't be disappointed.

HmmAnOxfordComma Wed 18-Dec-13 20:48:37

Wine is not that handy to teetotallers (well, yes, you can regift it, but, still).

KatOD Wed 18-Dec-13 20:53:16

Completely agree. I got the exact same box of Thorntons chocolates as I did last year (which i know is on offer)... Despite being vegan and not being able to eat any of them (most of our team know, must have been a newbie!).

Hey Ho, my husband's happy...

notsomuchroomattheinn Wed 18-Dec-13 21:01:37

The first year I did it I got a broken vase fhmm the second year I got some edible knickers fhmm so for the next years I picked out the one I brought ensuring I got something lovely fgrin

CombineBananaFister Wed 18-Dec-13 21:17:30

We didn't used to bother with secret santa as everyone was skint/had better things to spend their money on/had ishoos with bitter disappointment from previous SS.
Now we say £1 limit pound shop present, do your worse and it's much more amiable but perhaps not environmentally friendly and slightly wasteful.

pizzachickenhotforyou Wed 18-Dec-13 23:00:06

My friend bought someone she didn't like in femfresh for SS.

lessonsintightropes Wed 18-Dec-13 23:07:40

pizza ewww nasty!

Caitlin17 Thu 19-Dec-13 02:16:58

We have an office one for about 20 . Names drawn from hat but only the junior who organises it knows who got whom. I got 12 scented read lights from The White Company which are lovely and still had a £15 price sticker. Our budget is supposed to be £10.

I had to buy for the head of department and got him a slightly more flamboyant tie than usually wears which was 3 times the budget but I got stuck.

Littlefish yours would be perfect. I love hand warmers/fingerless gloves.

Caitlin17 Thu 19-Dec-13 02:33:54

Scented tea lights obviously.

Tapiocapearl Thu 19-Dec-13 06:47:40

What a rubbish gift. 10 pounds they could have got you a bottle of prosecco or port. With a few chocolates even!

Tapiocapearl Thu 19-Dec-13 06:55:46

You need to find who gave you the book and innocently give it to them for their birthday.

Better still suggest to managers that SS changes to be a lucky dip?

Last year I got a pair of pants made from sweeties, the buyer was a young girl, I'm an overweight 40 something hmm went straight to the charity shop fgrin

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