am i the only one who dislikes christmas

(107 Posts)
FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 09-Dec-13 22:27:00

bah humbug alert.

I never get in the Christmas spirt, the christmas decs are already bugging me and I am glad to be working all over christmas.

FairyTiggybelle Mon 09-Dec-13 22:31:09

Yes. Just you.

Mintyy Mon 09-Dec-13 22:32:34

No, my mum hates Christmas as she loves to remind everyone everyfuckingyear.

Ihavemyownname Mon 09-Dec-13 22:32:57

I'm part of the bah humbug club

NoComet Mon 09-Dec-13 22:34:17

Just you, I love decorations, carols, naff Christmas music, driving out and seeing everyone's lights.

I just hate tidying the house and wrapping presents. DH gets presents all neat and square, mine look like a toddler wrapped them.

hyenafunk Mon 09-Dec-13 22:35:15

I used to before I had DC. It was only really because I had such naff ones growing up that it made me feel bitter. I'd just get wasted and rant to everyone about how it's all commercialised and a big money making scheme fgrin.

Since DC though I have a fire in my heart to make them extra special so they don't end up bitter drunk Scrooge's like I was.

seventiesgirl Mon 09-Dec-13 22:35:35

All the commercialism depresses me. Best Christmas ever spent in NZ. Fish and chips in a restaurant with absolutely no Christmas tat in view, heaven!

ZoeZoeZoe Mon 09-Dec-13 22:36:16

whispers

I wouldn't quite say that I hate it, but, shall we say, I do sometimes silently question the effort and hassle to enjoyment ratio and quietly think I wouldn't miss it if it weren't there...

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 09-Dec-13 22:36:45

It just hard work.

I been seeing christmas stuff in shops since september, it just feels like it drags on for months.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Dec-13 22:36:56

I feel it is something that has to be 'got through' and I certainly don't look forward to it. Bit of a chore. Every other year would be better for me.

Topseyt Mon 09-Dec-13 22:37:29

Nope, not just you.

I am more of a Christmas humbug every year. I go along with it for my kids, and admittedly I do enjoy it on the day, but all the run-up and chores such as writing the sodding Christmas cards I could really do without.

As for Christmas decs, if left to me they would go up on Christmas Eve (if at all), and come down on Boxing Day. I have three excited daughters though, so I am overruled, and I take it with a good grace. smile

ArtisanLentilWeaver Mon 09-Dec-13 22:39:57

Not keen on it at all. Christmas has turned into a greed fest and the true meaning is being forgotten.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 09-Dec-13 22:40:19

forgot to mention, the obsession with Fairytale of New York song.

plentyofsoap Mon 09-Dec-13 22:41:05

I don't like it really I just pretend to for others. I love taking all the decorations down grin

Nope not keen. Never have been. Used to like the pubs before I had DCs but those days of enjoying getting hammered in crowded bar a long gone.

Stressful, anti climax, expensive. Humbug though I love a good film on the tele at Xmas time and traditional carols

NuggetofPurestGreen Mon 09-Dec-13 22:45:12

You're not alone OP I could really do without it too. Lots of stress and pressure on people, money wasted etc etc. although I do like the lovely grub on the day itself and some tinsel. Would gladly do without that though if we could just abolish the whole thing.

I'm a member of the Bah Humbug group too. Ironic really that I was born on Christmas Day and df named me after a reindeer hmm
I only take part in it because of the dc. I can't wait until I don't have to bother once they are all grown up tbh. I plan on burning the tree and decorations and going away each year instead.

I fucking hate it. I just don't get it. Its such a bloody fuss about nothing.

I suppose it must be great if you have family that love you that you look forward to seeing, but we have no family that gives a shit about us - no one. Its just another day, except you have to make an enormous bloody fuss about it.

I must add that my kids are totally unaware of this and I go the whole hog with decorations, presents, ice skating trips, nice food, board games etc., but I find it a huge pointless strain.

We used to have a party on NY day called our annual THANK FUCK THATS OVER party, but I can't be arsed to do that anymore.

Do I win the bah humbug prize?!

I will add that I love Easter and go totally overboard on that!

Xmasbaby11 Mon 09-Dec-13 22:46:59

DH hates it too. Feels it's commercial and he isn't materialistic so doesn't want presents. Hates shopping. Hates forced jollity.

I understand all this, but still love it!

Bettercallsaul1 Mon 09-Dec-13 22:47:03

No, no - Christmas is wonderful! Just have a low-key celebration if you can't stand all the hoo-ha.

Make Christmas what you want it to be!

my mum used to say it should be like the olympics, every four years only!

member Mon 09-Dec-13 22:49:25

It feels like a chore. December is an interminable " to do" list for the sake of other people's enjoyment.

TheWanderingUterus Mon 09-Dec-13 22:49:36

Not so keen here. Don't like the whole culture of excess that has grown up around it and the fact that my workload triples with visitors and cooking and extra stuff required at school and nursery. Shops are busy and the whole Christmas stuff starts so early, August in some shops.

And most of all I hate the fact that you can't voice any dislike for the festive season without being called a fucking Scrooge.

BigusBumus Mon 09-Dec-13 22:51:21

I realised this year what it is that makes me feel utterly sick to death of Christmas by the 25th. It's the endless shite music, same crap songs wherever you go. So I've retuned to radio 4 and doing all shopping on the internet. It's those damn songs that make me all stabby.

myroomisatip Mon 09-Dec-13 22:51:30

I don't hate it as such but the media always seem to portray that others are having so much more fun than I am.

I have always had the IL's and Ex's family over the holiday period, which was quite nice but I only got to spend it with my own parents once and that haunts me a bit sad

Now I have reached a time in my life where I don't go to parties, don't dress up, and I don't have a partner so it will be a bit lonely.

All the hype just puts pressure on me to live up to the role of being a perfect mum, wife, hostess etc. It is just a huge expense and a lot of work. However, if you have a lovely family and it is a chance to get together then Christmas is wonderful, sadly that just isn't my life.

magimedi Mon 09-Dec-13 22:51:41

YANBU

I loved it when Dc were young & we had all the family round & all 'the olds' (DM, DD, DFIL & DMIL) were still alive - but no sign of the next generation & DC works abroad in an industry where Christmas is the busiest time of year, so DH & I can be left like old farts with one cracker between us.

But, we are going away later this week & return on 24/12 (late) to a quiet Christmas day! Win, win. We get a bargain holiday and we miss the worst of the run up to 25/12.

It's not easy to escape it & I know we are lucky to be able to flee for a bit - but I feel so sorry for all those people for whom it isn't a wonderful time.

I just wish the whole thing geared down a bit - start it in December - not September.

And the pressure to make it all wonderful and 'magic' ........ let alone providing the presents.

Hmmm - I am grumping of to bed!

SinisterBuggyMonth Mon 09-Dec-13 22:52:33

I love the whole idea of Christmas, the decorations, lights, food, colours, carols, presents, food, tv, cosy snuggling, food, the food...

But actual Xmas day is something I dread due to horrible relatives on my side (my df on Christmas Day) and ILs (well, BIL on Boxing Day). Come to think of it my Xmas is mainly ruined by male relatives. Grumpy fucking male relatives.

I am however really looking forward to 27th December

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Dec-13 22:52:58

I think of all the lonely people spending Christmas on their own, and those without money to have the Christmas they want. sad
And now FB is here, we can now see everyone else's piles of gifts, huge trees etc....

didireallysaythat Mon 09-Dec-13 22:55:34

Oh at last I think I found my mn thread. Seriously I've been torturing myself reading threads concerned with not having decided in October on what to serve for breakfast on christmas day, what to put in the stocking (I thought they were just for kids and that there are a lot of five year olds who like Jo Malone smelly candles and 8 hour cream), and what DVDs to watch while opening the xmas eve hamper wearing the compulsory new pyjamas.

I'm cooking curry for xmas. Washed down with beer. Not prosecco with floating cranberries. And I'm going to wear old pyjamas all day !

PowerPants Mon 09-Dec-13 22:55:45

It's just work to me - all those bloody cards, present buying, putting the decorations up, school play costumes, all fun for the first couple of times you do them and then just tedious.

Should be like a leap year, once every four years.

PowerPants Mon 09-Dec-13 22:56:30

didireallysaythat - we are having pizza!

Lazysuzanne Mon 09-Dec-13 22:56:33

I just dont do it any more no decorations, no cards, no presents, I carry on as normal, will spend the two bank holidays relaxing on my own.
I know some people like it but I just find it all irritating and pointless

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Dec-13 22:58:12

We are just having an all day buffet on Christmas Day. I am not fannying about with a roast dinner when I could be lying on the settee with a new book, After Eights and a glass of Prosecco.

didireallysaythat Mon 09-Dec-13 23:00:03

Oh f***. I'd forgotten the f**** cards.

I'd happily pay for a service that (found and) uploaded my address book and did the cards. I may suggest the privatised mail look into this.

Pizza - instead of a clove encrusted ham you marinated overnight and then slowly baked in maple syrup ? Why that sounds marvellous. That's boxing day sorted then !

thegreylady Mon 09-Dec-13 23:02:25

I love everything about it but especially Christmas Eve when everyone is home, the doors are locked, the tree is lit and the stockings filled. The wine is mulled, the cake and cheese are cut and it's, "Happy Christmas everyone!"

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 09-Dec-13 23:04:22

i love taking the decs down.

I don't think i have ever like christmas, my birthday was forgotten as people was always to busy. ( 10 days before)

PaulSmenis Mon 09-Dec-13 23:13:43

You're not alone OP. I don't hate it, but I don't feel enthusiastic these days. It was fun with small DC, but has lost its shine with teenagers!

It's a huge greed fest. Don't get me started on all the food. I buy myself whatever I want throughout the year if I fancy it, so I don't feel the need to eat the world during the festive period.

winkywinkola Mon 09-Dec-13 23:21:09

I really like it. The food, the tree, the wine, the jollity.

I loathe anything starting before December though and feel cross with shops for starting so early.

And I hate the pressure on my finances. I might just avoid going into overdraft but who knows.

I was looking at my dcs' gifts tonight and decided if I'd bought them ten times that amount they would probably unwrap it all in a frenzy and still look for more.

ZoeZoeZoe Mon 09-Dec-13 23:22:13

My work colleagues think I am being all festive spirit by organising a charity collection in lieu of cards (suggested that people just send one card 'to the office' and make a donation of what they have saved to an agreed charity), but really it just feels like doing this less of a chore than writing all the cards... and money to a good cause as well : )

ilovesooty Mon 09-Dec-13 23:31:34

I hate it. I'm counting down the days to January.

Kirk1 Mon 09-Dec-13 23:36:39

Not just you. I hate: the strain of trying to look cheerful while everyone is asking which family members you are going to be seeing and thinking "none cos not one of the fuckers that are still alive gives a shit" and giving non-committal answers when the question is turned to you.

The realisation that the only presents the kids will get are what I can scrape the cash to buy myself, and that this year is going to be all from the pound shop because we can't even afford to pay the mortgage let alone buy celebration food and presents.

The people reminiscing about childhood Christmases when mostly I spent mine in random foster homes wishing I could spend it with my family and knowing that they don't fucking want me. From age 6.

The way this always seems to get highlighted at fucking Christmas and ignored because no one wants to hear that you hate Christmas or why.

So no, you're not alone! I'm trying to make an effort and make new memories with my kids but it would take a major shift in my circumstances for this to be anything but a forlorn hope.

MrsTrellisNorthWales Mon 09-Dec-13 23:50:37

I hate it. A very close friend died on Xmas Eve many years ago. Hated Xmas for some years because of it. Got back into it a bit when I was in my last LTR but have been single now for 4 years and hate it again. I shall see my parents for about half the day, then spend all the rest of it on my own and see no one. All my friends are away on holiday or have their own children and families to be with. Boxing Day I shall see no one. Rest of the time I shall be working.

Caitlin17 Tue 10-Dec-13 00:02:15

I hate it. And I hate the way one is expected to go along with it. I can't stand Christmas trees. I used to bother with one when my son was small but he wasn't that interested either so I don't bother now.

CynicalandSmug Tue 10-Dec-13 00:28:06

I hate it, don't see the point in it. Someone on here called it retailmas, one giant con! I don't do presents or a roast dinner, or pathetic work dos. I spend the day drinking decent plonk and relaxing well away from the Christmas hysterical types, unless I have to work it. Thank you op, thank you! I'm glad there are a few of us out there.

NoComet Tue 10-Dec-13 01:06:31

Now cards, I do hate writhing Fucking Cards, trouble is I like receiving them, so I can't not bother.

Waya Tue 10-Dec-13 01:28:33

YANBU OP
I hate all things "christmas" - I don't understand the point of it. I'm always unwell in the colder months. I hate all the crap decorations and high expectations (especially of family members expecting presents who you have hardly seen all year hmm)
Don't get me started on the waste and shit xmas music.

Brokensoul Tue 10-Dec-13 01:38:07

I love Christmas and its the time of the year when I truly reflect on my memories and myself as a person.
I always try to be good person, do the right thing but I am not perfect and with all the madness of everyday life
I don't always get time to analyse myself as a mother, wife ,friend,work colleague , neighbour and someone who gives back to community.
It's my way of trying to do better in the new year ...

longingforsomesleep Tue 10-Dec-13 02:06:23

I loathe it because:

- it's rammed down your throat from September onwards
- weird people have all their shopping done in September and try and make me feel guilty cos I still haven't bought a thing
- I have teenage boys and never know what to buy them
- I never know what to buy DH
- people put their decorations up far too early
- there's too much pressure to have a wonderful time
- I feel guilty about not being with close family
- I feel stressed and resentful about having to host close family
- I hate mince pies, christmas pudding, turkey etc etc
- I can't help thinking of all the suffering that could be alleviated if everyone gave to charity the money they would otherwise spend on Christmas

In my late 20s I'd reached a point where I'd garnered enough courage to say to my family that I would be ignoring every aspect of Christmas other than to spend the day in a soup kitchen but then I met dh and we had kids so I'm stuck with it for the foreseeable.

Easter egg anyone?

AnyFuckersfrogslegs35 Tue 10-Dec-13 02:28:26

Yanbu

The fact that I don't like it is made worse because I have to do it twice each year, big celebration Xmas eve (traditional for Dp) then 'normal' Xmas day.
My smiles and forced excitement are for others.

Amy106 Tue 10-Dec-13 02:50:22

I love December 27 with all my heart. fsmile

conquita Tue 10-Dec-13 04:19:44

I live away from my family and friends, and for the last 6 years have always spent xmas with pils. This year I am spending it on my own while my bf goes away with his family. I am really really looking forward to it. We do not have children so there is no reason to celebrate. I can't stand the commercialism of it all, and the fact bf's mother starts to fret about what the family are doing from July onwards. We don't put up Xmas deccies. I don't buy xmas presents now either, I nipped that in the bud a couple of years ago. I do send xmas cards to the UK so friends and family know I am thinking about them, and I do do a secret santa with bf's family. Maybe it is because it is hot where I live at Xmas so I don't feel that same cozy feeling I used to get as a child.
But basically I am looking forward to chilling out on my own with a great tv dvd set and trying not to fall under the pressure of why I am not going away with bf's family.

autumnsmum Tue 10-Dec-13 08:29:32

I don't hate Christmas as much as the fuss and pressure have two Dcs with autism and feel overwhelmed without this on top

Lottapianos Tue 10-Dec-13 08:37:45

God no OP, its not just you. Never think that! I loathe it and would be thrilled if I never had to hear about it ever again. We don't put up a single decoration or card, don't go to work Xmas do, not doing gifts this year ( no DCs). If other people enjoy it then good for them but I can't stand the way its rammed down everyone's throat. We should form a support group OP!

ElleMcFearsome Tue 10-Dec-13 08:49:48

I've stopped hating it.

DM taught me to be Xmas-averse by sliding slowly into undiagnosed SAD related depression from the middle of Nov when I was young. By Xmas Eve (sometimes a few days before) she'd have picked a massive fight with my DF and we'd have a miserable Xmas with my parents in pronounced not-speaking mode, which would usually last through until end Jan/mid Feb. Since having her depression dx'd (after I'd left home) she's been better.

I really didn't understand, in adulthood, why I got into such a panic pre-Xmas. Some excellent talking therapy a few years ago finally made it all click. Don't get me wrong, I always made a big effort for the DDs but underneath I was panicky and seething.

Nowadays, I actually take small quantities of pleasure in it. That said, we're v lucky as neither DH nor I have demanding DPs who expect us to be with them on the actual day and are pleased with us visiting at some point between Xmas and NY. I get the cards sorted by writing 10 per day for a week. DDs are more than old enough (15 and 18) to decorate the house and tree and think about and buy the presents they want to give. I've clamped down on the quite mad levels of present buying that we used to do (DDs, nephews and nieces get pressies, adults get a decent bottle of wine, DPs get books) DH and I give token gifts to each other.

I don't find lunch a hassle - it's just a poshed up roast and I can cook those smile

I think the other thing that helped was just stopping that whole Woman & Home Xmas malarkey. I'm happy for those who wish to be ponce-tastic to have at it and have fun. I don't want to be, so I've stopped thinking I should be aiming for all that.

That said, I agree with PPs who have said every other year/every four years. That would suit me down to the ground!

comingintomyown Tue 10-Dec-13 08:59:52

Growing up my Mum used to make a thing of Christmas and as she was quite disconnected the rest of the year I think I grew up liking Christmas

Then with young DC I really loved it and was lucky enough to have money and nice PILS

Now I am divorced and have all the taking in turns stuff with my teen DC and our break up happened over a December / Christmas when the festive season died for me and I still haven't really got the enjoyment I used to get back.

The plus side of that is I couldn't care less about being on my own on the 25th or not eating turkey but unfortunately it bothers everyone else especially my DC so I am going to a friends

Any real Christmas haters should google an article by Janice Turner in the Times a couple of weeks ago about why she hates it and described Christmas as a Bridezilla !

mrsjay Tue 10-Dec-13 09:04:10

I am quite bah humbug too it is just something you have to do i do like the day its self i suppose but i get a bit fangry when i see people all jolly and christmassy it feels very forced to me, yes i know i am grinchy but i cant help it

UriGeller Tue 10-Dec-13 09:15:27

You can take as much or as little of it as you want. Its not compulsory as the thousands of people who follow other faiths will testify.

I love the twinkly lights and the walking and that DP doesn't have to work, and the eating chocolate and drinking baileys for breakfast and the way the kids go daft. So I'll have that.

I hate the Christmas card bit (sending and receiving, what a pointless exercise!) visiting people I don't get on with. The fucking churchy bit where people get dressed up and sit like smug worthy gits in freezing church. Fake smiles and stupid buying frenzy and having a co-ordinated table for dinner so I don't do that.

Deep breaths and balance!

sashh Tue 10-Dec-13 09:51:08

Well I don't celebrate it, but I do get pissed of with all the music and lights when I'm just trying to shop.

Another reason to go to Lidl.

I think Christopher Hitchins had it about right, it's like being transported to a totalitarian regime for a few weeks. You can't go anywhere without listening to the same music, all songs, music, media are about the great leader.

mrsjay Tue 10-Dec-13 09:54:17

yeah i like all that too uri never had baileys for breakfast though might give that a go grin

I am working at a kids Christmas party on thursday somebody mentioned gleefully santa hats for us i had a bit of a face on me

ElleMcFearsome Tue 10-Dec-13 10:51:40

sashh That's a fab analogy grin

TheArmadillo Tue 10-Dec-13 11:13:11

I like it but we don't go over the top and I don't see the point in making stress for myself.

I like cooking so we do a turkey roast dinner at lunch and as no one can manage pudding after, we do pudding for dinner. That's all the special food we get. And leftovers keep us going for the next few days with little effort.

We make presents for adults and buy stuff for the kids. We have cut down the present list a lot over the years and tend to do it in bits over November and December.

Xmas day is laid back. No one comes over till lunchtime so kids open presents and laze about in the morning and we laze about again when everyone goes home in the evening.

And I don't do Xmas cards. I only tend to watch pre recorded telly so miss the adverts, and listen to mp3s while wandering around shops so don't hear the music. Am also quite oblivious in general so most of it passes me by.

It's difficult to do a relaxed Xmas though if your friends and relations can't/won't go along with it.

higgle Tue 10-Dec-13 11:19:10

From my point of view YABU. What's not to like? shed loads of lovely cards through your letterbox with updates from old friends, lots of chocky and booze, feasting, merrymaking and for me having my two lovely grown up sons home who will do all the baking and only expect a visit from Santa and for us to turn off the telly and play party games on two days out of the week. You can split up the extra work into bit sized chunks, buy the presents bit by bit through the year and get everything ready done from M&S on the food front, but it really is the high point of the year for me.

sandfrog Tue 10-Dec-13 11:30:28

Depends what you don't like about it really.

LickingMyWounds Tue 10-Dec-13 11:34:30

I pretty much have the xmas I want every year, which is at home with DH and kids. All family are seen on Xmas Eve and Boxing Day. Which means I spend Xmas Day with the arse about who said what on Xmas Eve and all Xmas Day dreading Boxing Day. lol actually yep 27th December is fab.

joydivisionovengloves Tue 10-Dec-13 11:53:07

I think it should be every four years, like the World Cup. I'm not a fan.

ephemeralfairy Tue 10-Dec-13 12:10:44

I am not keen. I find the whole 'happy families' thing very hard as my mum and I have suffered a number of bereavements and our 'family' is just the two of us.

One/both of us usually ends up crying on the day.

Ephiny Tue 10-Dec-13 12:17:45

I don't hate Christmas, but I wish we could get over this thing of it being an obligatory celebration. It's such a shame to see people going through unnecessary stress and family conflicts and feeling they have to spend money they can't afford etc. Fine for those who enjoy it to do it, but why does it have to be forced on everyone else?

For me it's not an issue. I don't have children, I don't really watch television, and rarely go into shops - and also don't care much what anyone thinks of me - so it's quite easy for me to just not participate in it at all if I don't want to. Which I usually don't.

Lottapianos Tue 10-Dec-13 12:23:44

sashh, that sums it up perfectly! I'm looking forward to sharing that with DP tonight, he hates the whole thing even more than I do grin

sashh Tue 10-Dec-13 15:29:17

Those who like the analogy, there are some videos of the late Christopher Hitchens outlining it much better than my version.

wasabipeanut Tue 10-Dec-13 15:43:03

I like the holiday part but it comes at the expense of a huge amount of hassle in the run up. I hate writing cards, wrapping etc. Our office looks like Santas grotto and I don't like the clutter. The school have lots of different festive plays/services/fayre etc. and I have children in diff years so. 2 x costumes, dates to remember etc. and the kids are exhausted and over excited. I fucking hate craft so all there Christmas craft jolly projects do nothing for me other than make more mess to clean up.

We don't go OTT and I enjoy the day itself but I do breathe a sigh of relief in January. Some friends were saying what
a sad month Jan was, anti climax etc. I bloody love it.

fay144 Tue 10-Dec-13 16:06:53

I love Christmas - I think at this time of year you really need some sparkly lights to distract you from the fact that it's dark at 3pm.

I can understand why some people hate it (though surely no one would really prefer the darkest months of the year to be unbroken by an excuse for a holiday?).

But what I don't understand is the people who hate it, but continue to go through the motions, when they have no kids who are expecting it. My in-laws hate it. Fair enough. But rather than just ignore it, they go all out with the baking, cooking, and following every tradition, complaining about it every step of the way. I don't get it - if I was them, I'd just ignore it and spend the day doing something I enjoyed.

Lottapianos Tue 10-Dec-13 16:29:32

I think we should keep the double bank holiday on 25 and 26 but just call it a midwinter bank holiday. Treat Christmas like all other religious festivals like Eid, Diwali, Hanukkah - celebrate it if you want but equally feel free to ignore it. Stop the orgy of commercialism everywhere you turn

susiedaisy Tue 10-Dec-13 16:42:05

Yanbu I don't like Xmas and resent being made to feel that I should be buying this and doing that etc etc it's become so food and money orientated it just feels wrong. Can't wait until about jan 5th when it's all done and dusted and everyone's back to work and school.

Orangesarenottheonlyfruit Tue 10-Dec-13 16:57:32

YANBU every year I fell utterly and completely overwhelmed by Christmas. It is hugely stressful and expensive and I resent the pressure to make the entire month about this one day.

TBH I'd actually quite enjoy the day itself IF it was just eating a roast and watching some telly, with a nice church service and some jolly carols but it hasn't been like that for years. Too many family members needing seeing/ taxing / feeding etc

I think partly it is because it starts to early each year with all the effing teacher presents, Christmas cards and bloody Christmas cake (which i don't even bloody like but faithfully make each year).

Cannot bloody wait for January!

fatlazymummy Tue 10-Dec-13 17:02:57

I hate the music in shops. I hate the fact that the shops are really busy. I hate those little square christmas cards that the kids bring home from school. I hate all the tinselly tat.
I do make an effort for the sake of my family, and I expect I will enjoy Christmas day.If I was alone though I wouldn't bother celebrating it at all. I have simplified it over the last few years - fewer presents, less food ,etc. I just don't get the same sense of excitement that I used to when my kids were younger.

somewheresomehow Tue 10-Dec-13 17:04:02

If I didn't live with mr misery guts I would probably love it but he has the knack of bringing everything down to his miserable scrooge level. I sometimes wish he would piss off for a month and I could have fun with the kids well adults now

Sunnymeg Tue 10-Dec-13 17:43:41

I too dislike it, mainly because we have the anniversary of three family deaths during Christmas week. All the attendant Christmas carp only reminds me of the unhappiness I felt when our relatives were actually dying and the false jolity that exists for a lot of a people at Christmastime. One relation died on Boxing Day and another on New Year's eve. It is very hard going, and I find it hard to care about the significant/insignificant details of the Christmas celebration.

thenamestheyareachanging Tue 10-Dec-13 17:51:23

I hated it before having children.

CardiffUniversityNetballTeam Tue 10-Dec-13 18:02:07

I love the idea of Christmas, the principle of it.

The reality if it always seems like a bit of an anticlimax.

Absy Wed 11-Dec-13 09:48:31

I don't celebrate xmas (Jewish - we have like 20 days of festivals of our own, I'm not lacking in the holiday department) but what I resent is the forced participation and the fact that it's everywhere from October onwards. I've had to politely nod at a colleague going on about making a cake, what cake, what decorations, what xmas jumper (for xmas jumper day! Donate £1 to save the children but spend £15 in Primark to buy a jumper Surely it would make more sense to just donate £16 to Save the Children and not wear a stupid jumper?), the presents she's buying, what she's eating, what am I eating? (normal food?), what she's wearing, aren't I excited?, the tinsel on her desk ("why don't you have tinsel? I also have a mini tree!") and buying a tree, decorating the tree and on and on. Seriously, by about the 10th of December every year I get a bit stabby. I've to the conclusion that the only people who actually like xmas are advertisers, shops and a certain type of woman (I don't see men working themselves into this frenzy).

Mrswellyboot Wed 11-Dec-13 09:53:21

I always hated it. I don't like clutter. I don't see the point in swapping soap sets. I never lost all the weight I wanted to to get into the dress for the Christmas party.

Have a newborn here and feel happier about it. But we are running the road the whole day to different counties to keep everyone happy.

I love the school nativity and mass.

I was much more organised this year so when I potter around the shops now I don't have to panic buy, I got lots of bargains.

snowed Wed 11-Dec-13 12:34:01

You could say the same about many other festivals, social events or parties though. They often involve consuming more food, wearing clothes you might not otherwise have bought, travelling somewhere you might not have otherwise been to, giving a gift to your host or someone with a birthday.

NuggetofPurestGreen Thu 12-Dec-13 12:32:11

It's all well and good if you have some sort of traditional family set up but I hate the pressure and stress Christmas creates for people that don't. I'm perfectly happy to spend Christmas (which is just another day) alone in my house and eat Pringles and watch the telly but other people hassle me about that and think it's some kind of terrible tragedy and you "can't spend Christmas on your own!!!" etc etc. I've ended up lying to people about what I'm doing so Ty don't try and pressure me in to coming up their houses for dinner. Opting out isn't actually that easy.

mrsjay Thu 12-Dec-13 12:34:52

you are right opting out isn't easy me and Dh would love to sit in the house and not go anywhere but convention is you need to celebrate in someway I said to adult dd the other day Oh i think when you and your sister move out me and dad wil go on holiday or something she was horrified

Ephiny Thu 12-Dec-13 12:41:41

Yes it's difficult to opt out when people won't accept your choice. You can do it if you're very stubborn and don't care if people think you're weird (that would be me then smile) but it's not easy.

Just look at the post above where the poster calls her partner 'misery guts' etc just because he doesn't want to join in her 'fun'. Why can't people just get on with it if they want to, and leave the rest of us alone? I don't expect the rest of the population to share all my hobbies and interests, or think it makes them 'miserable'.

NuggetofPurestGreen Thu 12-Dec-13 12:49:16

Exactly ephiny I don't care if people think I'm weird (it's them who are weird I think if they can't accept other people's choices) but sometimes I get sick of explaining myself and it's easier just to pretend I'm going to someone's house and then just stay on my own in my own house secretly!

mrsjay you should definitely go away!

Lazysuzanne Thu 12-Dec-13 12:55:36

How many actual christmas refusers are there on here? (I'm one)

CarolineDeWinter Thu 12-Dec-13 14:22:28

I'm like the Ghost of Bleeding Past Present & Future at Christmas! I pine for departed loved ones especially pets. I fret about the future when DD (who's only 8 ffs) might decide to spend Xmas Eve with her in-laws! And I yearn for a stylish low key Scandinavian Xmas but without the snow confused

I don't do cards, DH has to buy and wrap his own presents blush and I grind my teeth throughout visits to and from relatives.

However, I love that DH and DD are much more easy-going and fun-loving than me and I know how bloody lucky I am to have them and the means to enjoy whinging in warmth, comfort with enough food and money to go round. Were that we were all so lucky, eh?

Just don't get me started on New Year's Eve ...

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Thu 12-Dec-13 15:27:51

I could so easily give the whole thing a miss. It would suit me just to have a few quiet days at home, pottering about and going for a few walks in the countryside.

However, DC would be hugely upset, so I do enough to make it seem as though I've made an effort. I'm not doing any special cooking though, it'll be Sainsburys mince pies and pudding.

Yes, once every few years as several previous posters have said. Once a decade anyone?

mrsjay Thu 12-Dec-13 16:45:11

mrsjay you should definitely go away!

we probably will in a few years but then there might be grandchildren and it starts all over again might just leave the dds to it grin

Lottapianos Thu 12-Dec-13 17:25:36

I'm pretty much a refuser. No cards, no decorations, no wishing anyone a 'happy Christmas', I just say 'have a good break' instead. DP and I not doing gifts this year, will get gifts for PILs as we will be staying with them. The only Xmas things I do are eat mince pies, Christmas cake and Christmas dinner. Coz I'm a pig.

Mim78 Thu 12-Dec-13 17:51:32

I like it in many ways.

However don't like culture of excess and over spending / gettin paralytic either.

Feel for emergency services having to deal with all the extra unnecessary crap. Also for people going through difficult time as Xmas makes it all worse.

PaulSmenis Thu 12-Dec-13 18:19:07

I don't appreciate being plied with alcohol. People can get very huffy when you refuse. Same with Mince pies, Christmas pud and Christmas cake. Why? They are totally minging.

BreakingGood Thu 12-Dec-13 18:32:57

I like some aspects of it but hate others.
I loathe the 'tick list' gift giving - exchanging tat or stuff you could have easily got yourself...I only want to buy for my own DC. It is just plain silly. Hate the fact opting out of it is such a big deal.
I don't like Christmas cards - would much rather give and receive birthday cards.
I do like the decorations (but for a couple of weeks max), the parties and just staying at home all warm whilst it is cold outside.

LouiseAderyn Thu 12-Dec-13 18:43:11

I love my Christmas tree and all yhe fairy lights and I enjoy the school nativity and carol concert.

But I hate the financial pressure and the obligation to be sociable and see people I am quite happy not to spend hours with. I am really scared about the amount of money I have spent and this year I was trying to cut down and not spend the equivalent of the national debt on gifts!

Dollslikeyouandme Thu 12-Dec-13 19:29:52

You're not the only one, I don't hate it, but it's always such a chore, the true meaning is often lost and replaced with a greed fest, I have to socialise with people who I don't really want to, and then there's a big anti climax.

I do make a big effort for ds, and I'm quite looking forward to this year as we're eating out so I don't have to cook.

I really hate NYE and completely ignore it.

Bah humbug.

LoveAndDeath Thu 12-Dec-13 19:32:11

I used to love it till my baby daughter died.

Now I dread it but have to pretend to love it for my sons.

LucyLasticKnickers Thu 12-Dec-13 19:32:35

it is SO stressful, i was wondering about going to church, to actuallyh remember what its all about.
we have forgotten what it is all about.

autumnsmum Thu 12-Dec-13 20:01:16

Love and that is so sad

Lottapianos Thu 12-Dec-13 21:19:28

Oh Love I'm so sorry to hear that x

FortyDoorsToNowhere Thu 12-Dec-13 21:24:06

Bless you Love.

I can't even book a holiday due to work.

There are parts I do like, but I can cook a storm anytime

PaulSmenis Fri 13-Dec-13 08:37:07

I actually enjoy Christmas eve and Christmas day, it's what comes after that really grinds my gears.

The days between Boxing Day and New Year seem to endlessly drag on. It's like some sort of twilight zone of endless bank holiday Mondays - only you have to visit relatives you see once a year who force feed you mince pies and you end up with constpation and heatburn.

If I had got my shit together earlier in the year I would have made sure that I was working apart from Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Years Day.

Golddigger Fri 13-Dec-13 08:40:15

Love sad

Golddigger Fri 13-Dec-13 08:41:06

Do you work in a shop op?

Forty. Happy Birthday for 2 days time!
That is awful that people forget or are to busy.

comingintomyown Fri 13-Dec-13 08:54:07

Love sad

I agree about how you are marked as a figure of pity if there's any suggestion of being by yourself on Christmas Day and it's quite hard to not get drawn into that. I capitulated and I am joining a friend and her family for lunch but really what am I doing there except not being on my own ! I considered lying but felt bad in case my DC ( who will be with XH) found out because they would then feel bad

Fortunately next year they will be with me and I won't have to think about this

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 13-Dec-13 09:22:06

No I work in a hospital

CarolineDeWinter Fri 13-Dec-13 13:52:50

Love - so sorry about your DD.

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