To think some people are taking Christmas far too seriously...

(118 Posts)
Lagoonablue Sun 01-Dec-13 09:04:26

I don't normally post on here and yes 'each to their own' etc but seriously when I see some of the stuff about. Christmas on MN I am astounded.

Who has the time to devote to 'Xmas Eve hampers'. When were they invented? Agonies over how much to spend, whether to give baby a present or not, when to put the tree up........

Sheesh. I like xmas, it is fun! don't want to piss on your chips but some of the dilemmas aired with regard to ONE day are staggering. If you want roast parsnips as well as roast potatoes just bloody have them! If you can't decide between Polar Express and Arfer christmas as 'the Xmas film' then watch both!

I am prepared to be told to stay off the Christmas boards but the posts keep cropping up in active convos and honestly,I find myself clicking on them to see what very important dilemma needs to be sorted out before dec 25th.

Yes I know.....mind my own business. Bah humbug!

DameDeepRedBetty Sun 01-Dec-13 09:07:59

<passes paper bag full of humbugs>

Absolutely agree with you Lagoonablue.

My dream Christmas involves a flight out the moment school breaks up to a place where Christmas has never been heard of, and return a couple of days before term starts to make sure the uniforms are washed.

Mumof3xx Sun 01-Dec-13 09:08:57

It's christmas!!!

SomethingkindaOod Sun 01-Dec-13 09:10:50

YANBU... Mostly grin
Although having out the tree up last night I'm not sure how seriously you can take me!! Last year we had moved into a new bigger house and I half killed myself trying to do the 'perfect advert mum' thing as we were hosting for the first time. Never again, it actually inspired me to do less this year. Spend less, cook less food (not put the tree up later though, we love some nice decs in this house!) and just be more relaxed.
There's a thread floating around somewhere, I think it ended up in classics about a simple Christmas.

lovelilies Sun 01-Dec-13 09:12:14

with or without the dc though?

gordyslovesheep Sun 01-Dec-13 09:12:39

Oh I'll share those humbugs with you grin I can't get my head round the drama of it all

Sirzy Sun 01-Dec-13 09:13:42

I agree with you really, but I am very laid back about christmas and of the "if we have it great, if not then tough" mentality. I don't get the ten tons of food, fighting over the last loaf of bread mentality of some.

But if that is what people think is needed to make a happy christmas then thats their choice.

PlateSpinningAtAllTimes Sun 01-Dec-13 09:15:39

YANBU! We have a reason to keep all things Christmas to a minimum until half way through December: DD's birthday! Works well to stop us getting too OTT about it!

fuzzpig Sun 01-Dec-13 09:27:20

I put a fair bit of effort in, but don't find it stressful in the least. I LOVE it. Christmas music, practising carols on the piano (I just found Little Donkey sheet music on amazon!), finding lovely presents that I'm super excited to give, crafty stuff both on my own and with the DCs, baking, wrapping presents while watching telly... what's not to like? grin

The day I start feeling pressured, or like it's all too much, or like I'm martyring myself, is the day I'll stop. But I don't see that happening TBH grin

The key is not to have high expectations or some idea of 'perfection' IMO. Just enjoy the process smile

BTW our tree won't be going up til the last day of school. Our Christmas is actually pretty simple, I just spread out the preparation.

BringBackBod Sun 01-Dec-13 09:30:31

YANBU
Each to their own, obviously, but some people must absolutely exhaust themselves with it all.
I couldn't cope with that level of planning.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 18:35:45

I feel as if the stakes are raised every year. Of course, it's the women who are expected to do all the work, isn't it?

Read a post last night by somebody who has spent hours arranging a different advent gift or activity for her children for every day from 1 December to Christmas Eve and didn't want her husband to "get the credit" by participating in some of the fun with his kids! Isn't actual Christmas enough without having to keep the kids constantly delighted throughout December?

WTF is a Christmas Eve hamper? My guests will be eating fish and chips on Christmas Eve, and are very happy about it!

mumofbeautys Sun 01-Dec-13 18:44:19

yabu ... you may not find it important but to some families it is a time to make a big deal and make sure its perfect ! each to their own I say

soverylucky Sun 01-Dec-13 18:46:47

YANBU. I love, love, love Christmas and have my decs up but some people stress too much .

littlewhitechristmasbag Sun 01-Dec-13 18:47:45

I love Christmas but I really don't get all the fuss and stress. We have loads of fun and have developed lots of our own traditions over the years but we don't care if things are not perfect. The thing I like best is spending time with my family: laughing, eating, drinking playing silly games, taking the dog for a big walk. My children are 16 and 21 and still adore Christmas.

scaevola Sun 01-Dec-13 18:48:44

All the endless new ways to make folks part with their money..

Yes, I agree with you - risible. But it makes some peope happy. Perhaps they like being stressed - you know, better to have negative emotion/feedback than none at all.

DirtyDancingCleanLiving Sun 01-Dec-13 18:50:33

I never understand all the fuss about making a day 'perfect'.

You just stress yourself unnecessarily.

I haven't even started Xmas shopping yet shock I cannot get my head around people that start months before.

My decorations went up today, and Xmas shopping shall start tomorrow night via the internet, with my feet up and an alcoholic drink handy. I have ideas for everything, I will buy 90% of it online tomorrow evening, for delivery and will go to town one day next week for any odds that aren't available online and to visit the likes of the pound shop for some plastic tat stocking fillers.

Ta da! Done! Then a couple of evenings wrapping and hiding stuff in the attic next week and i'm finished.

Why the mad stress and panic? I don't see it.

Sirzy Sun 01-Dec-13 18:52:40

I start my shopping months before so I can enjoy the build up to Christmas without having to battle in shops and not be able to find things. My Christmas shopping is pretty much done which means no panic here and a nice relaxed Christmas

pianodoodle Sun 01-Dec-13 18:53:41

YANBU

My due date to give birth is Christmas day and I'm still not in uproar.. yet grin

mumofbeautys Sun 01-Dec-13 18:54:13

see xmas here is the perfect day lol but I suppose you may find other things that you find important not important ..

DearPrudence Sun 01-Dec-13 18:56:14

YABU.
One of the great things about Mumsnet is that you can post trivial crap alongside the really important things.

Just because someone wants to talk about Christmas films, doesn't mean they think it's a real dilemma. They just want to talk about it.

Ledkr Sun 01-Dec-13 18:57:21

I agree too but I think a lot of it is mumsnet fable.
I mentioned Xmas hampers pjs etc to a few people who all looked at me like I'm mad.
I hate all the cooking crap.
My sister makes me want to vomit with her home made puddings and stuffing, what's wrong with a bit of paxo?

And the adverts. Who actually goes to golden glowy parties in mansions in snow covered grounds and wears perfect clothes on their perfect figures and doesn't get pissed or drop crumbs on the carpet!

MiracleOntheM4 Sun 01-Dec-13 18:57:59

The build up is all part of the fun!

As for comment about it all being down to women - not so in this house. DH has decorated the tree and lounge today with DD1 and does so every year. He also does the cooking if it is our turn to host on Christmas Day.

1Madhouse Sun 01-Dec-13 18:58:29

Too much pressure is put on now to be bloody perfect. The perfect tree decorations presents food etc.A number of years ago I did the nigella / Kirstie allsopp bit. God I nearly had a breakdown ! Made the mincemeat the cakes the pudding. Hand made cards and wrapping paper. Beautiful tree up hand made garlands and wreathes. Cooked the perfect dinner for numerous people etc !! But in the end no one cares except you and no bugger even noticed probably !!! All different now and sooo much easier !!

Only1scoop Sun 01-Dec-13 18:58:34

"If you want roast potatoes as well as parsnips just bloody have them"

Only1scoop Sun 01-Dec-13 18:58:57

gringrin

Zucker Sun 01-Dec-13 19:00:49

Your post made me chuckle OP.

BUT its Christmas it's the season of highpitched overthinking of EVERYTHING.

This year I don't give 2 shiney hoots about it all. The day will come and go and we will eat drink and be merry [hic]

noblegiraffe Sun 01-Dec-13 19:01:49

Yanbu, I feel exhausted just reading about Elves doing naughty stuff, hand-crafted advent calendars and Christmas wrapping paper themes.

I suppose if people enjoy that sort of thing, then that's up to them. I think there's a possibility that the Big Day could be an utter anticlimax after all that build up though which has potential to be very upsetting.

YouTheCat Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:06

Me too, Sirzy. I have a couple of non-vital stocking fillers to get.

The best bit about the build up is knowing I can have a gentle meander around the Christmas market and mock the last minute shoppers.

Dp has just done all his Christmas shopping online - whilst he banished me to the kitchen. grin

Christmas is relaxed and fun in this house. I do Christmas baking on Christmas eve because I enjoy doing it, find it relaxing and can put on the Carols and have a good sing song. All the veg is prepped the day before and dinner is no more stressful than doing a Sunday roast.

I don't get all the fuss and drama.

littlewhitechristmasbag Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:26

We don't have parsnips as no one likes them much. However we do have broccoli. One of my colleagues was apoplectic with rage when I said we had broccoli as it is not a 'Christmas vegetable' tchconfused

mumofbeautys Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:55

I think to most mothers though the stress is making it perfect for there children surely ?

like I wouldn't put the effort in if it was just me but I love seeing my kids with there new pjs from the xmas eve hamper , watching the dvd from the hamper together .. making ginger bread houses... watching them decorate the tree and the singing snowmans. this year I actually attempted to rent out a santas grotto lol !!!
so me as the mum being stressed for a few weeks isn't a big deal.

SatinSandals Sun 01-Dec-13 19:06:10

YANBU
I think that people have such problems because they have the idea of 'the perfect Christmas', if you are laid back, don't have huge expectations you don't get disappointed.

Bonsoir Sun 01-Dec-13 19:07:38

Never take advertisements or anything in a women's magazine as inspiration for your Christmas celebrations.

YouTheCat Sun 01-Dec-13 19:08:40

I took my inspiration from men's magazines and so Christmas involves a lot of lager and telly. grin

Bonsoir Sun 01-Dec-13 19:09:39

IMVHO people want:

1. a few presents they really like
2. extremely nice food
3. a warm, comfortable, appropriately decorated home
4. not to have to frequent relations they hate
5. a relaxed atmosphere (so no tense timing)

Chivetalking Sun 01-Dec-13 19:09:44

YANBU.

Every fucking occasion seems to have been hi-jacked by the marketing men these days. Sometimes it seems the entire country has been suckered by the hard sell.

Wasn't like this in the olden days wink

tracypenisbeaker Sun 01-Dec-13 19:11:14

I want to kiss you OP.

I'm sick to death of it already, and it's just hit December. Walking around town today and seen the continental Christmas market absolutely crawling with people. I couldn't walk down the street at a normal pace because bloody people kept stopping dead (my pet hate) in the street to take photos of the market/ decorations. It's only the 1st of December and both shopping centres were choc-a-bloc with an insane amount of people buying tat that will end up in land-fill in a couple of months time.

Don't get me wrong, I like Christmas. For what it is. I can't stand people who put on the dramatics and create problems for themselves when they really don't need to- getting into a flurry of debt, agonising over sleeping arrangements/ travel arrangements months in advance, getting pissed off because they aren't happy with the gifts they have been given because they spent a considerable amount of time festering over what to get the other person. Granted, it's shitty when it happens, but giving to get is really not the point, is it? You might as well trade twenty pound notes to make sure that everyone is content and equal.

Honestly, to me Christmas day is so anti-climatic considering the amount of hype that goes along with it. My typical day consists of opening gifts (lasts about 20 mins if I pace myself) and then a turkey dinner. Shite on TV for a bit, and before I know it it's past twelve, making it officially Boxing Day. Can't exactly piss my pants in excitement this far in advance over that, I'm afraid.

Bonsoir Sun 01-Dec-13 19:11:50

Nigella is actually quite good at Christmas, though don't think you have to make every single recipe. And definitely buy your Christmas pudding. Waitrose Duchy Originals is lovely (with Nigella's brandy butter).

Lots of champagne always good.

Golddigger Sun 01-Dec-13 19:12:25

Perhaps you would be best starting a thread asking people to start threads on the Christmas board?

Heathcliff27 Sun 01-Dec-13 19:14:52

I personally couldn't give a rats arse what anyone else is or isn't doing. Maybe you're taking it all too seriously by starting a thread?....

IamInvisible Sun 01-Dec-13 19:17:53

YANBU.

I've done my shopping, most of it was done on line. I don't have a 'theme' for the wrapping paper, I just pick up what I like in the shop. The tree gets dragged out of the garage and the decorations are ones we've collected since we've been married and had kids.

The cakes are made, I've only done 2 because DH is away and won't be back till the end of January and the kids will have eaten the damn thing before he arrives. Dinner is a roast basically with a few extra bits.

There is no such thing as 'perfect' however hard you plan. One year I gave birth 3 weeks early on Christmae Eve, the following year DS2 was just out of hospital with pneumonia, the year after we were all still on bland food after the Norovirus.

In my mind, it's better to relax, go with the flow and take the pressure off a bit. Lower your expectations and don't run yourself ragged, it's supposed to be fun.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Who had the time to devote to 'Xmas Eve hampers?'

Erm, me! It's sticking some pjs and hot chocolate in a basket... Who doesn't have that time? confused

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sun 01-Dec-13 19:22:18

I go a bit nuts at Christmas - but I'm actually a lot less of a grumpy old sod than I am the rest of the year, so definitely no stress! I've done loads of present shopping (almost all online), will do the same for food shopping (online!) and pick up the Christmas tree from the nice quiet place up the road. I'm practically a hermit, so don't spend a lot of time in town centres / shopping malls anyway.

This means that:

A) I haven't spent a fortune panic buying tat
B) I don't have to deal with busy shopping places and people stopping dead for no reason
C) no big extended family to worry about cooking for or anything! Super laid back here!

Bunbaker Sun 01-Dec-13 19:23:13

I totally agree with every word. I think so many people stress themselves far too unnecessarily for the sake of one day of overindulgence.

Personally, Christmas stopped being special for me many years ago, and I can take it or leave it. I don't understand why some people love it so much that they get their knickers in a twist about it.

It is very much a first world problem isn't it.

Bunbaker Sun 01-Dec-13 19:24:10

Oh, and until I joined MN I had never heard of Christmas Eve hampers. I spend enough on DD without having to consider yet more things to spend my money on.

Golddigger Sun 01-Dec-13 19:26:59

I have just had a look at active convos. I have 100 threads showing.
14 are about Christmas, though one is about debt and one is about a relationship.
Other than that [and not counting yours that is not in the Christmas category!], 5 are on the Christmas board, and 7 are not.

Didnt realised that there were quite so many threads about Christmas right now!

Golddigger Sun 01-Dec-13 19:28:30

I had never heard of christmas pjs, but after someone started a thread against them, I ended up for them!

IamInvisible Sun 01-Dec-13 19:29:18

I'm another who had never heard of "Christmas Eve hampers" until I joined MN. I asked my kids if they felt like they missed out because they've never had one and they went tchhmm "Why would you do that?"

80sMum Sun 01-Dec-13 19:29:19

One of the nicest Christmas Days I had, we were in Florida and packed some sandwiches in the cool box and went to a beach. It was almost deserted. We sat at a picnic table under a palm tree, next to the turquoise sea, just chilling out and enjoying the peace and quiet. No alcohol, no turkey, no Christmas tree, no presents and no other people. Heaven!!

noblegiraffe Sun 01-Dec-13 19:30:58

I seem to remember a thread a while back where someone asked what people would think if they went to someone's house and Xmas dinner wasn't turkey. Salmon or something else nice.

It was bonkers, like they'd suggested serving up a sandwich, people saying they'd be gutted.

Over investment.

Monetbyhimself Sun 01-Dec-13 19:31:05

Has anyone dared to suggest having sweetcorn with Christmas dinner yet ? That was one of the best dilemmas I've ever read about on MN.

I love Christmas but prefer the relaxed approach.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sun 01-Dec-13 19:34:26

it doesn't stress me at all because.... i can afford it.... i am very organised by nature... i buy early, wrap early and book an online shop early... i only have my dh and ds's to deal with on the day ( family are visited a couple of weeks before) and finally... i buy a LOT of gin smile

CynicalandSmug Sun 01-Dec-13 20:03:52

I don't really understand christmas and am horrified at how over the top so many people get about it. I don't encourage presents (I'm an adult ffs) and I never cook on christmas day (often work it anyway). Food is buffet style and the wine flows...no bloody charades or other tedious games, just relaxation with a stiff drink or five.

CitrusSun Sun 01-Dec-13 20:13:55

Completely agree, think some people enjoy making a fuss over nothing, first world problems and all that, load of tosh.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Sun 01-Dec-13 20:19:10

I agree OP. some people are obsessed with perfection. Not just with christmas, but because christmas is the same day for everyone you see all the perfectionists out at the same time obsessing over their spuds.

DoJo Sun 01-Dec-13 20:32:50

Don't tell anyone, but we once served SALAD for Christmas dinner! It was alongside other things, but it was definitely the most outlandish idea some of my friends had heard when I mentioned it.

SatinSandals Sun 01-Dec-13 20:36:02

I still don't know what a Christmas Eve hamper is, we managed life without Christmas pyjamas because I didn't know about them pre MN.

Golddigger Sun 01-Dec-13 20:39:23

We always have soup for xmas eve tea. So that we' re ready to eat on xmas day.
It has become our own tradition. The kids used to hate it, but I think they would now miss it if we didnt do it!
So certainly no xmas eve hamper for us.

SatinSandals Sun 01-Dec-13 20:41:30

Am I supposed to know about Christmas hampers?

DrCoconut Sun 01-Dec-13 20:41:52

I'm always amazed how early people start. Buying so its not last minute is ok. Having the tree up in mid November is not (disclaimer it is up to everyone what they do but really, November? And no it's not someone's last Christmas or anything, the same few do it every year) advent only started today, there are three weeks plus until Christmas. Our tree will go up when we finish school, college and work on 20th. And stay up till 12th night. You see trees chucked out on Boxing Day or 27th. Again each to their own but why?

chickydoo Sun 01-Dec-13 20:46:28

I am just bored of Christmas.
Have done 100% of everything. Funded, shopped, cooked, entertained and cleared up for 23 years. I don't want to do it anymore.
My DH just refuses to do anything. If the kids want Christmas it's up to me.
BAH BLOODY HUMBUG

BabyMummy29 Sun 01-Dec-13 20:47:52

I feel like a really boring old fart, My cards and presents are all done and I'm putting decs and tree up next weekend.

I shall not set foot in any more shopping centres and do the same every year.

Just can't understand the fuss some people go to - it's only one day for goodness sake!

Preciousbane Sun 01-Dec-13 20:47:54

Monet still on the cob or out of a tin? grin

The only thing I get a bit worked up about is how many pigs in blankets to make because I can never get enough.

Maybe christmas hampers are an urban myth and people pretend to do them to feel part of the in crowd.

AnAdventureInCakeAndWine Sun 01-Dec-13 20:50:43

You can just hide the Christmas board and then its posts won't show up on Active Conversations. And then if people post Christmas threads outside the Christmas board you would be justified in posting grumpily on them to tell people to take it to the proper forum.

DontmindifIdo Sun 01-Dec-13 20:51:44

Not going to do hampers or elves on shelves, or added faff. Although we all have Christmas PJs (this means everyone has new smartish jammies on for putting things out for Father Christmas/Christmas morning photos). And I've pretty much done my Christmas shopping, but that's more after the year that is always known as "the year Amazon cancelled Christmas" (roughly, I left it until December to order things, it was the first year that everyone ordered on line and lots of gifts didn't arrive until after Christmas).

I quite like December with pretty much nothing to do other than sit with a glass of wine next week and change the stuff in my Ocado basket from lots of Champagne to actual food, then wrap everything, which I'll do the weekend before Christmas. Oh and put the tree up, but it's still too early to do that.

(We do also have a fabric calander, but that's because DS is odd doesn't like chocolate and this way I get to put his favourite mini gingerbread men in for each day)

FoundAChopinLizt Sun 01-Dec-13 20:52:06

Yes, but what are you going to wear on Christmas day, OP? I presume you have planned your outfit? I'm having a nightmare dilemma here as I can't decide which Christmas bra to wear...

Golddigger Sun 01-Dec-13 20:52:27

For me Christmas lasts until past New Year. I do the bear minimum after Boxing Day. Read books, go for longer walks, visit friends and family etc etc.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Sun 01-Dec-13 21:21:08

grin @ xmas bra! do those exist?

Monetbyhimself Sun 01-Dec-13 21:24:06

Tinned sad

Can you imagine how sad Baby Jesus would be if he knew you were having tinned sweetcorn with gravy hmm

SomethingkindaOod Sun 01-Dec-13 21:33:46

I am very bad. I want a Christmas bra... tchgrin
I do my shopping early because I loathe and detest shopping in December and although online shopping is my preferred way the year we had horrendous snow in the run up and most of the presents were stuck in Scotland until Christmas Eve puts me off doing it so close!
Have people really got het up about no turkey for lunch? They would have loved us, we've served everything from fish and chips to bacon and eggs on the day, what's the point of serving up food nobody eats? Last year we couldn't all decide on lunch so I got a 3 bird roast and everybody took the meat they wanted!
This year we're seriously considering a BBQ...

shebird Sun 01-Dec-13 21:41:00

YANBU I like Christmas but the endless fuss about one day just drives me nuts along with the present giving. I do not want any more bubble bath, scarves, DVDs or celebrity cookbooks nor do I want to buy the same things for others. It's such a waste of money. If we could limit Christmas presents to kids only I would be very happy.

RhondaJean Sun 01-Dec-13 21:45:55

I've been planning since about August - buying presents etc. but only because I really enjoy it. We never had Christmas when I was little and DH let's me indulge myself including buying all the presents (except mine).

RhondaJean Sun 01-Dec-13 21:46:22

But we order takeaway on christmas day...

Morloth Sun 01-Dec-13 21:52:53

Potatoes.

All of my Christmas stress revolves around those giant golden piles of carbohydrates that I would not eat at any other time.

We peel about 10kgs of potatoes every year. I am pretty sure the rest of the dinner could be missing and no one would notice as long as the roasties and gravy are there.

We do a BBQ and salads usually, except for the potatoes.

MacaYoniandCheese Sun 01-Dec-13 21:53:42

I absolutely loathe Christmas but wish I didn't. I'm not religious and I feel a little bit sick at all the money spent and the waste created. It feels like an exercise in greed and consumerism. I have three children so feel like I have to participate but really, it's just going through the motions sad.

AndHarry Sun 01-Dec-13 22:21:21

Who delivers Rhonda?! I know McD's is open but there are limits.

I'm not too fussed about the actual Christmas day being ad-worthy. To me it's more of a religious day. I love the run-up to Christmas though and like doing Christmassy activities throughout December.

ElfontheShelfIsWATCHINGYOUTOO Sun 01-Dec-13 22:28:20

YANBU

I was aghast too at the extra work and effort involved with the hampers and Elf on the shelf.

Of course I got suckered in and am getting our Elf next week blush.

However if your not that bothered about xmas, it must seem like a lot of talking about the details but its just people sharing and talking about what they love, which happens to be something we are all involved in, Christmas.

If there was a thread about the finer art of upholstery you wouldn't look, but christmas effects you too. Never say Never, the Elf kinda creeps up on ya'. grin

SantaIKnowHimIKnowHim Sun 01-Dec-13 22:28:37

I haven't read the whole thread,but I LURVE Christmas (my recent name change alludes to this fact grin )
I'm with you on the Xmas hamper thing though. That sounds like extra expense and dragging out Christmas. Christmas Day is supposed to be SPECIAL. How is it special if you get presents on Christmas Eve too?! Smacks of overload and present fatigue to me. smile
Sometimes I want to know what other people are eating on Christmas Day though as I love Christmas food inspiration and am a nosy cow
Likewise with film recommendations. I LOVE ELF as my name suggests but I also love others and want family film watching recommendations!

RhondaJean Sun 01-Dec-13 22:29:53

Our local Chinese is open but DH walks round to collect it and if it's a nice day we will go with him.

It makes a world of difference. We go out on Xmas eve for a turkey dinner and then Christmas day we just chill. No potato trauma!

Snowbility Sun 01-Dec-13 22:32:26

I loathe Christmas but every year I make it happen. Dh is too busy. Kids are too small to help...I'd love to go away mid Dec and come back on the 2nd Jan. The whole thing is just a pile of fuss over nothing.

IneedAwittierNickname Sun 01-Dec-13 22:38:54

Yanbu. I hate how commercialized Christmas has become, and was shock when a friend posted a picture of her ds' 'advent eve hamper'... Yes that's right, advent eve! we don't even have chocolate advent calendars here

Our decorations go up when the dc finish school for the holidays, no elves on shelves or hampers to be seen. Bah humbug!

ImagineJL Sun 01-Dec-13 22:43:38

Never mind Christmas dinner, there's a whole thread about Christmas breakfast !! I always thought you ate chocolate, or maybe a bit of toast or something, and kept space for dinner and more chocolate. But apparently many people have big plans for breakfast, homemade muffins featured big. As if there wasn't enough to do already on Christmas eve, what with wrapping all those presents!

SantaIKnowHimIKnowHim Sun 01-Dec-13 22:50:55

Never mind Christmas dinner, there's a whole thread about Christmas breakfast !!

I loved that thread, as I love breakfast and liked to see what others were eating to get inspiration for this year! :-)
It's usually bagel with smoked salmon on here and far too many selection box chocolates so a variation would be nice but I lack imagination lol!

YouTheCat Sun 01-Dec-13 22:50:56

I always do bacon butties on Christmas morning.

I do love Christmas. I just don't like the amount of fuss and stress and the load of pressure that some people seem to put on themselves. Then they get all moody if no one else shares their enthusiasm.

fuzzpig Sun 01-Dec-13 22:55:37

DD started talking about Xmas about a month ago, the first thing she said was "I love Xmas because we get pancakes for breakfast!" so it looks like that's going to become a tradition. It's special, but no stress (DH is excellent at pancakes so it's easy) tchsmile

elQuintoConyo Sun 01-Dec-13 23:03:10

All the faff passes me by.
Presents are bought for parents and children, doing secret santa with friends with a strict budget.
I send cards, always have done, homemade, they're finished by 1st December.
Pick up bits in January sales. Make decorations. Tree goes up 14th December.
DS's birthday is also December, so that saves usgoing mad on decorating early but also caps gift budget. We bought his birthday present in April!
DS is 2, so far we've bought 8 gifts and spent £32. Just got to pick up some play doh and we're done.
Christmas lunch is simple roast plus stuffing. Christmas cake I made the first weekend in October along with mince pies, which I have frozen.

Completely stress free, simple, enjoyable, light, relaxing etc.

I live abroad and King's Day, 6th January, is far more important than Christmas Day, so the season lasts longer. they also eat prawns and canelone for Christmas Day lunch, the loons

ShylaMcClaus Sun 01-Dec-13 23:08:22

I went over the top on the meal planning last year and the DC had norovirus. DD was hospitalised. All I remember is the outrageous cab fare home on Boxing Day night and the price of my canteen fish pie grin

We sat at the table on Christmas Day for about five minutes.

Did a few nice things leading up to it, but the experience did teach me that it really is just one day.

Lagoonablue Mon 02-Dec-13 06:55:12

Just noticed someone asking if you were supposed to wrap stocking fillers or not, on the Xmas thread.

Sorry poster , whoever you are but that is just the sort of daft question I have been talking about.

SatinSandals Mon 02-Dec-13 07:57:52

I think the whole point is that you are not 'supposed' to do anything. Children won't grow up resenting you because you didn't get 'Christmas pyjamas'!
Do I gather that a 'Christmas hamper' is presents and not food? (Still in the dark about that one, but someone did kindly explain the 'elf on a shelf'.)

Snowbility Mon 02-Dec-13 09:12:22

Christmas Eve hamper just contains a collection of Christmas Eve activities, things like the pjs maybe a few chocs, Christmas books and DVDs - not necessarily new, stuff from your cupboard is fine, maybe a board game if that's your thing...maybe a bath bomb or bubble bath.

I think the theory behind the 'Xmas Eve hamper' is that if you have reluctant to sleep children, you give the a hamper with some exciting bath goodies, new pjs and hot chocolate, so you sit and watch a film, drink the hot Choc then bath and into new pjs ready for bed so Santa can come read parents can drink Baileys

noblegiraffe Mon 02-Dec-13 09:35:29

Why a hamper? Just makes it sound like another thing you need to go out and buy. How about a Christmas Eve carrier bag. Or Amazon box.

SatinSandals Mon 02-Dec-13 09:37:39

Or why not just some family time?

Golddigger Mon 02-Dec-13 09:43:27

Some of these things catch on because your child comes home from school and says "mummy/daddy, can we have a xmas hamper/christmas pjs like molly's family"?

pudseypie Mon 02-Dec-13 09:48:25

Someone pass the humbugs over here please... I'm in a strop as dh said we should have a xmas tree this year now ds is 2. I don't like the clutter of decorations and my house is tiny. Normally just put a wreath on front door and some berries on mantelpiece. Have managed to have a xmas tree only twice in last 12 years living with dh...

Golddigger Mon 02-Dec-13 09:51:38

Teeny tiny xmas tree? smile

noblegiraffe Mon 02-Dec-13 09:52:39

I have actually bought new pjs for wearing on Xmas eve because I like the thought of them wearing something nice in the photos in the morning. Because it will go on Facebook <shallow>

I'm trying to think of any Christmas Eve traditions we had as a family, but I can only remember me and my siblings going drinking Christmas Eve and turning up to midnight mass and singing all the carols very enthusiastically. Not sure that one will catch on.

CaroBeaner Mon 02-Dec-13 09:53:33

No one I know in RL does all this Christmas eve hamper business, or elevates hot chocolate and pyjamas to some sort of sacred status.

D0oinMeCleanin Mon 02-Dec-13 09:55:14

My sister makes and sells x-mas eve hampers. I just give her the money. I have no idea what is in them, I always work on x-mas eve sad

There's usually porridge and glitter on my front step when I get home, so I assume that has something to do with it.

She does quite well from them, afaik.

Golddigger Mon 02-Dec-13 09:55:59

Ah, another mumsnet myth!
There seem to be a number of them. As I have said before mumsnet is a whole other world to me.

Golddigger Mon 02-Dec-13 09:57:04

Drr. You posted in between there D0oin, and ruined my post to boot!

D0oinMeCleanin Mon 02-Dec-13 09:58:32

grin

MILLYMOLLYMANDYMAX Mon 02-Dec-13 10:06:21

Its a (vegan) roast dinner with nibbles and presents for the kids. The tree is put up on the 14th December and decorated by the kids with tinsel, baubles and tree chocolate and looks like an explosion in a tinsel factory.
Df one year actually over wrapped all the presents from other people in either red or gold matching wrapping paper so they would not stand out when she put the presents under the tree. Everything had to be colour co ordinated

wordfactory Mon 02-Dec-13 10:14:06

I think everyone should make as much effort/fuss as they feel comfortable with.

If peeps want a magic-orama, month long fandango, then cool. If peeps want to give it a miss, then cool.

But what I can't abide is people making huge amounts of effort, then whinging endlessly about fatigue and stress!

Similarly, those who don't want to make a fuss but walk around like bleedin' Hamlet for the duration, ruining everyone else's vibe, wagging a patronising finger...fuck off.

BlackBorderBin Mon 02-Dec-13 10:16:30

The school is now covered in decorations.
The Xmas jumble sale Fayre was last week.
Carol concert in school, carol concert when they troop down to church.
Panto done in school
God bothers special assembly
Class nativity
Watching other classes special Jesus assembly
Art is nothing but cards and decorations
Support local shops trail heavily promoted by school
Class parties in school and Christmas trip to soft play

That's all I can remember off the top of my head - pretty much a daily mention since half term.

As Athiests and people who shop for necessarties rather than as a leisure activity it's overwhelming on both accounts.
We will have a nice few days, decorate a tree, celebrate the middle of winter but it would be all the more special and out of the ordinary if it had n't been dragged out for weeks before.

D0oinMeCleanin Mon 02-Dec-13 10:19:15

I got told off on the school run for being miserable last week. Dd2 asked why everyone has their decorations up and we don't. I replied "Because it is not Christmas yet, it is November. It's supposed to be the 12 days of Christmas not 12 weeks! It gets longer and longer every year, before long people just won't bother taking their decorations down" Cue the little girl in front of us asking why they had their decorations up if it's not Christmas yet, mum loudly replied "Because we are not miserable, darling, that's why!" blush

BlackBorderBin Mon 02-Dec-13 10:21:41

DoinMeCleanin bet the mum who made the 'miserable' comment will be itching to take the decorations down by the 27th.

ZombieMojaveWonderer Mon 02-Dec-13 10:25:42

I was poorly last Christmas and this year will be the first time I get to spend Christmas with my brother in 20 years so I'm super excited and hoping it goes well but I am not going to make a huge deal out of it. I'm not going to get stressed, I'm just going to enjoy it for what it is grin

What about my 'Boxing Day box for the Bubs'

grin

Snowbility Mon 02-Dec-13 10:30:27

Sorry just to explain further on the hamper idea - it's a cardboard box -wrapped....no proper hamper....just a box of stuff for Christmas Eve.

D0oinMeCleanin Mon 02-Dec-13 10:49:18

I'm itching to get mine down the day they go up grin

I love christmas, but hate the decorations. We do a big declutter and clean up around now, every year. It's the only time of year my entire house is clean and tidy at the same time. Then people go and stick glittery shite all over it, the cat is constantly attempting to climb the tree, the children steal all of the tinsel off the tree to wrap around the bunk beds and DH sticks things to the ceiling with blue tac, which inevitably melts, so they all fall off again <bah humbug!>

pudseypie Mon 02-Dec-13 10:54:59

D0in just do what I do and don't put them up at all! I actually love Christmas I just don't like decorations and faff.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 02-Dec-13 10:58:51

beware making what you do xmas traditions. you will have to do them forever if my boys are anything to go by (17 and 21) last year there was nearly a mutiny because we dared to get out of of bed before stockings, they made us go back so they could come in and sit on the bed to open stockings 'cos that's tradition' followed by the wtf breakfast scene when DH and I wanted eggs benedict instead of smoked salmon scrambled eggs and croissants 'cos that's tradition' grin

Arabesque1 Mon 02-Dec-13 11:09:10

YANBU. The problem, in my view, is that the run up to Christmas is so long nowadays that people have far too much time to worry about it, analyse every aspect of it and invent problems around it. In the 'olden days' the run up was about three weeks which really just gave people time to buy and wrap presents, hang up a few battered and well loved decorations and queue for a turkey and ham.

Golddigger Mon 02-Dec-13 11:48:58

StepAway. Ditto re traditions.
One daughter has now announced[even though she lives miles away and wont be back for days], that we not to put the decorations up, because she will do it when she gets there! [aka just how she wants them!]. So we are supposed to look at an empty house till she gets here!!

ElfontheShelfIsWATCHINGYOUTOO Mon 02-Dec-13 12:04:52

fgrin @ wordfactory

Both the Hamlet and the fatiguer are just ways of garnering attention arnt they, both as annoying as each other.

I think you get out what you put in, I have had a few xmas by myself when younger, didn't bother me, now i have DC i go to town more.

I do have a reli though who does nothing, and sort of hangs round bored on the day, doesn't like buying gifts, like pulling teeth to her, fair enough...but then waits for me, and my family to sprinkle some xmas magic her way....

that annoys me. her and her husband don't really seem happy shunning xmas like they do, but then seem miserable on the day, becaue neither has made an effort to make it special then come and cadge our xmas, with long faces confused then moan xmas is miserble for them.

I quite relaxed about Christmas. Some presents the DC will like, a big ol' dinner, and a lounge on the sofa eating chocolates, and watching telly without feeling guilty is all I need!

I do the Christmas eve hamper though, mainly because (and this is v shallow) DS gets very attached to his pjs, and without 'the elves' leaving him a nice smart pair, he would go to bed wearing manky, too short ones, and I would have to try to avoid them showing in photos the next day!

*I'm

Quite relaxed about spelling too it appears. fwink

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