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To replace piss soaked mattress

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MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 10:00:53

I think our houseguest pissed the bed in the spare room. One side is musty and soaked through to the mattress (through sheets, mattress topper and mattress itself!). I'm trying to be kind and think maybe he just suffers from night sweats possibly...but realistically it's piss.

Anyway, will replace bedding and mattress topper. What I'm wondering about is the mattress itself. It's a bloody nice, expensive one. Do I need to replace it? Or what else can I do. I need to get it completely clean and unpissy as I sometimes sleep in it with my new baby. Fuck fuck fuck!

Houseguest is in slightly poor health, which may explain, so obviously I won't make a song and dance about it, but I could cry.

Ugh. Replace I think. Which reminds me I still need to replace kids' mattresses

Whatisaweekend Mon 18-Nov-13 10:05:18

Surely your house guest should be replacing it?? I know you say they are in 'slightly poor health' but still. Quite an expensive thing to have to replace...

DameDeepRedBetty Mon 18-Nov-13 10:05:18

I'm sorry, I don't think it's curable. Replace.

LoofahVanDross Mon 18-Nov-13 10:06:25

replace - you could just get a cheapy if just for guests, then if it happens again not such a great expense.

CocacolaMum Mon 18-Nov-13 10:07:02

Gross, they should be offering to pay though

Jinty64 Mon 18-Nov-13 10:08:19

Replace and cover with waterproof sheet so that this doesn't happen again.

Shonajoy Mon 18-Nov-13 10:09:13

Did they turn the mattress? I think that's a foul thing to do, and not to mention it, despite being in poor health.

They should offer to replace.

Notcontent Mon 18-Nov-13 10:13:27

No matter how embarrassing, the house guest should have told you. And if I was in poor health and ran risk of wetting myself then I would take appropriate measures. But that's besides the point I guess...

I think you need to replace it unfortunately. I would be pretty upset too.

steppemum Mon 18-Nov-13 10:31:26

My Mum has had mattresses steam cleaned. A company came in and steam cleaned them in her house (2 mattresses I think), they were sort of instantly dry, and it removed smells and stains and leaves them sterile.

Can't remember why she did it, but it was cheaper than replacing with good mattresses.

You don't need to throw away bedding and mattress topper if they are washable, wash in hottest wash possible, bleach if you feel the need, but once washed should be nice and clean. Wash twice if necessary.

Katinkia Mon 18-Nov-13 10:36:50

Agree with Steppemum. Although I've never heard of this steam clean thing. My autistic son is 13 and still wets the bed. Expensive and good mattress protectors are definitely the way to go. Quality sheets that will stand being washed over and over at hot temps also.

Well that's not what you were asking about really but I think I'd either do this steam thing or buy a new one and get protectors. I wouldn't ask the friend to pay but you would be in your rights to do so.

steppemum Mon 18-Nov-13 10:56:02

I think the company did beds in old peoples homes, so they needed to be smell free and guaranteed sterile.

(although thinking about it, wouldn't beds be plastic covered?)

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 10:59:46

Thank you, I'll look into the steam cleaner. I'm trying not to let myself get angry about this...could scream though. Guest came down for breakfast not even slightly embarrassed, or maybe didnt realise

DeepThought Mon 18-Nov-13 11:04:50

Dont organise replacement til guest is gorn

poor you

GideonKipper Mon 18-Nov-13 11:09:27

Surely they couldn't not realise they'd wet themselves? Their nightstuff would be wet, the sheets they were lying on were wet! Maybe it was just sweat? I say just like that's nothing, but you know what I mean.

ophiotaurus Mon 18-Nov-13 11:18:29

My husband sweats a lot and the bed is always damp in the morning so have to air it (nice). It doesn't smell like pee though :-/

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 11:50:41

Hmm well the patch of damp is somewhat localised to the upper middle of one side of the bed...and the smell is, musty slash stale brown sugary (sorry!) not ammonia like, although it might be quite fresh. Any thoughts on what that could be? A spilt drink??

SootikinAndSweep Mon 18-Nov-13 11:56:15

Spilled Coke?

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 12:05:30

Is there any way I can know for sure?

gobbynorthernbird Mon 18-Nov-13 12:17:06

If you don't want to steam clean, John Lewis has 'value' mattresses that are really good for occasional use. Our spare was £100 or so for a king size.

But poor you. Who does that and doesn't tell their host?

SootikinAndSweep Mon 18-Nov-13 12:34:56

Can you ask your guest whether they spilled a drink? If it was a spilled drink I wouldn't replace the mattress, unless it was something like a milkshake.

I've sponged DD's mattress and aired it. If you're already thinking it's ruined experimenting with a wet cloth and some washing detergent can't make it worse!

girlywhirly Mon 18-Nov-13 12:35:40

I would soak the sheets and mattress protector in biological laundry solution, and then wash as usual. I think it would smell quite obviously of ammonia if it was urine.

I think the steam cleaning sounds a good idea for the mattress itself, and buy a good waterproof mattress cover to use thereafter. You can get some very discreet ones that just look like the quilted-top styles, so guests wouldn't realise. Occasionally sleeping in it with the new baby, did you not worry about nappy leaks or sickness soaking through? Or you possibly leaking milk or a maternity pad fail?

I used to have a waterproof mattress cover on our guest bed, especially when elderly FIL stayed in case of accidents, he never had any, but better to be prepared and in the event be able to genuinely tell him not to panic that he had ruined the mattress.

seriouslion Mon 18-Nov-13 13:52:54

Spilled tea? I think you'd be able to smell urine.

Gruntfuttock Mon 18-Nov-13 13:57:27

I think you'll have to ask your guest what it is. I'm not sure why you haven't already.

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 14:06:04

Yes I guess I will have to ask, I don't know why I feel awkward about it

There's a definite smell, like I said sugary, quite strong but musty not ammonia like, although the mustiness is increasing as day goes on. The mattress protector has a wet patch that is yellow around the perimeter and it's still damp. The whole room smells like this and it certainly didnt before. Not sure coke would do that, and pretty sure he only took water to bed.

ratspeaker Mon 18-Nov-13 14:13:00

If it was urine you'd smell it, even more so after a few hours.

Sponge down the area on the mattress with bicarbonate solution,dab with towel or paper towels and leave to air dry. You could use a hairdryer to speed things up
Wash the bedding.

Invest in a water resistant mattress protector, can be found on Amazon or in Argos,tesco and the like

Retroformica Mon 18-Nov-13 14:15:44

Can you get a attic bed protector for next visit?

Retroformica Mon 18-Nov-13 14:15:54

Plastic

WilsonFrickett Mon 18-Nov-13 14:17:39

You would definitely be able to smell pee. I don't have a clue what it is but if it doesn't smell like wee then it isn't. Sprinkle whole area liberally with bicarb of soda to help absorb/dry it off, hoover it off after a couple of hours.

ophiotaurus Mon 18-Nov-13 14:19:04

Spilled tea or coffee?

Just ask what was spilled so you can make a decision how to clean it. Just be matter of fact.

Waterproof under mattress topper in future.

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 14:27:47

Possibly spilt tea then, he has it with about six sugars so might explain the sweet smell. Still why not fess up?
I wish I could send the smell to you to tell me, though, it's really strong as soon as you walk into the room. Surely tea wouldn't do that. Will any ammonia scent become stronger as day goes on do you think? Or do I need to buy a pee detector!?

I just want to know whether I'm facing a big steam cleaning/mattress replacing bill or not!!

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 14:28:07

I know, I know, I need to ask!

wee often start of not smelling much at all of anything.

Shonajoy Mon 18-Nov-13 15:06:51

Wee doesn't smell of ammonia til it dries out in my experience.

grimbletart Mon 18-Nov-13 15:10:30

This happened to us once - the guest fessed up. The mattress did not smell at all to start with. As Shonajoy said, it will once it dries.

For info: we replaced ours on our house insurance, no problem.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasExhausted Mon 18-Nov-13 15:16:20

Thank you for reminding me to buy another waterproof cover for the mattress. More of a child issue than incontinent guests - but you never know.

A friend of ours stayed over when he was going through an extraordinarily difficult time in his life. His personal hygiene was incredibly poor at this time and he drank too much. The bed he stayed in smelt really musty after he stayed over, it wasn't a urine issue more of a unwashed booze soaked bloke issue. The main smell was musty though - could that be the problem oh the sheets did look brown after he had slept in them for nearly a week

MintBaileysMilkshake Mon 18-Nov-13 15:21:42

Thanks for advice and thoughts all
I am in sniffing every hour- ugh, really hope it is something innocent but I don't know. The fact that the patch is localised around the middle of one side, where you'd expect someone to piss the bed, is what worries me. If you were drinking something, it'd more likely be up the top right?

mirry2 Mon 18-Nov-13 15:33:54

I would replace the mattress. I've never heard of steam cleaning one but definitely don't jist leave it to air and dry out because when you sleep on it your own body heat is likely to activate the smell. I've done this (slept on a urine dried mattress i mean) and it's foul to wake up in what seems like a urine soaked mattress

Callani Mon 18-Nov-13 15:51:16

Is there a chance that your guest could be diabetic?

It sounds gross but sweet smelling urine is an early symptom of diabetes / not handling diabetes properly.

steppemum Mon 18-Nov-13 15:52:40

just to re-iterate, steam cleaning does work, google and find a company, they come to the house so it is obviously cheaper to have more than one done. It may not be worth it just for one, unless a very good quality mattress that you want to replace with the same.

I have cleaned wee off when my kids have had accidents, and no protector on. Wet and soak up with lots of towels, I use a weak bleach or bicarb. If you do it properly, the mattress does come clean and not smell. Not sure if I would want to do it for a guests accidents (as opposed to a child's)

I would be matter of fact - I noticed there was something spilt, can you tell me what so I know what sort of cleaner to use?

Hendricksandcucumber Mon 18-Nov-13 15:59:48

Callani has a good point, the diabetes issue may explain the incontinence too if it is new onset your houseguest may be producing much more urine than usual. This happened to an old housemate of mine who developed T1 diabetes in her 20s, bedwetting for the first time in over a decade was the first noticeable sign.

IHadADreamThatWasNotAllADream Mon 18-Nov-13 16:00:20

Hippy Chick mattress covers are fantastic for future reference - you'll need something for nappy leaks/breast milk leaks/vomit if you're going to share it with a baby.

ChrisTheSheep Mon 18-Nov-13 16:34:29

We've used a steam cleaner on a pissed-on mattress before: it was the first time anyone had ever slept on it, and it had to be made to order, so replacing it was unfortunately not an option. It's absolutely fine now: no stain or smells or anything. It took some time, but we got there. We did also use some upholstery cleaner from John Lewis to deal with potential staining.

Mind you, the guest in question was mortified and actually bought us the steam cleaner by way of apology...

nanny2mummy Mon 18-Nov-13 16:36:46

Oh I'd replace eww

ChrisTheSheep Mon 18-Nov-13 16:36:48

I guessing you could hire a steam cleaner from somewhere which hires out Rug Doctors and the like?

Leave it to air for a few days if it starts to honk then it's piss and then I'd replace

unlucky83 Mon 18-Nov-13 17:03:28

Get waterproof mattress protectors on all beds - you can get ones with a terry cotton top that don't feel like plastic, aren't particularly sweaty. Last for ever (don't bother with the cheapo ones - they split after a year or so and that defeats the purpose! )
Good for Dcs, even on your bed - in case you spill a drink, hotwater bottle bursts, Dc gets in with you etc etc
I've been thankful for them on numerous occasions...
DD1 started getting nosebleeds in the night - one night her bed was soaked - would never have got the stain out...
And when poorly DD2 vomited in her bed so I brought her into ours and she vomited again - we would have been bed less...
With the terry type ones though you need spares - cos the top does absorb the spill (so not for a bed wetting DC - you can get them that are more plasticky (less comfortable) but you can just wipe them over)

unlucky83 Mon 18-Nov-13 17:10:26

Meant to say -if it is piss doubt you will ever get it out -although it might not smell if it is always covered up.
I had to replace some floor boards in a house I bought from old people...think they had had a chamber pot and kept spilling it - tried everything I could to get rid of it - bicarb, vinegar, soaked it and vacuumed up the water, steaming etc etc but as soon as the sun shone on it it stank again ...didn't smell until the bed had been moved and the sun could get to it though...

BeigeBuffet Mon 18-Nov-13 17:11:17

I think it's solvable. I would be looking into steam cleaning but also scrubbing at it with disinfectant and boiling hot soapy water. Bicarb is also good. A friend of mine spilt tea on a very expensive duvet and even dry cleaning didn't solve the issue so you may have to live with a stain.

SomethingOnce Mon 18-Nov-13 20:37:10

My first thought was diabetes when you mentioned the sweet smell.

John Lewis do a decent cotton-faced waterproof mattress protector. You do need to take them off regularly though to let the mattess air properly as, inevitably, moisture in the air gets into the mattress from the open underside.

cathpip Mon 18-Nov-13 20:56:31

I used a pet urine deodoriser to get rid of the wee smell after my ds emptied his bladder all over our bed, had tried scrubbing with bleach, febrezze and putting the steam cleaner over it. It did work, and at about £5 from the pet shop it's worth a try.

HappySeven Mon 18-Nov-13 22:04:46

Try sprinkling with sodium bicarbonate, leaving for a couple of hours and then hoovering up. It can clear nasty smells and is worth a go?

Oldraver Mon 18-Nov-13 22:33:06

DS's mattress cover failed and I used a Vax on the mattress, it worked very well. I sprinkled Bi-Carb on when it was dry and hoovered it and also gave it a going over with the steamer.

Idespair Mon 18-Nov-13 22:38:05

Anything that can go in the washing machine can be salvaged. I think I would chuck the mattress and make sure there was a waterproof protector for next time. Poor you.

Jude89 Mon 18-Nov-13 23:41:04

This Stuff works on wee, (and everything else)

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