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Brushing hair in public places? The stuff on our heads?

(57 Posts)
Feminine Thu 14-Nov-13 14:59:04

Is it that my Mother just annoying me? or is it bad manners to bring out ones hair-brush and give it a good going over...whipping it in to a fluffy ball-no matter where you are?

The cafe,

The street?

The bus?

This is a lady who prides herself on good manners. When she does this though, she seems to have no respect for those sitting behind/around her?

I am positive she would have told me not to do it when I was younger confused

I think it should be done in the powder -room wink

sandfrog Thu 14-Nov-13 15:04:11

YANBU. You brush your hair, apply makeup etc. at home or in the ladies.

I read that as "Brushing hair in pubic places?"

KerwhizzedMyself Thu 14-Nov-13 15:08:12

Argh I can't bear it. Especially when you are on the bus and the person sat in front of you starts doing it. Moulting hair floating everywhere <vomit>

Frettchen Thu 14-Nov-13 15:09:28

I've done it in public... Well, on the way from my front door to my car (a bit of a trek) - if I'm running late it makes more sense to do it on the move.

Also, if I'd been doing something to mess my hair up (i.e. soft play with my niece & nephew) then I'd probably go ahead and run a brush through it rather than disappearing into a toilet to do it.

Maybe I've just got terrible manners...

lljkk Netherlands Thu 14-Nov-13 15:09:54

Food prep or consumption areas is yucky to me, rest I wouldn't mind in the least.

AnyFuckersfrogslegs35 Thu 14-Nov-13 16:46:48

I've done it at work - in the toilet and at my desk. Also done it on buses but anywhere there's food I don't.

SourSweets Thu 14-Nov-13 16:49:43

Bad manners fo sho.

KareninsGirl Thu 14-Nov-13 16:56:00

I brush my hair all the time. I am clearly very ill-mannered smile

Bad manners in a cafe or around others. Outside on your own in a field, fine.

I always think 'bathroom activity' about anything that attends to personal care.

I don't eat in the street either. (Apart from ice cream)

rwepi Thu 14-Nov-13 17:05:10

Yep very bad manners afaic

BeautifulBlondePineapple Thu 14-Nov-13 17:27:38

Shouldn't be done in public IMHO.

There is a woman at my work who puts her hand up her top and sprays deoderant on her actual armpits. At her desk. Every morning!!! Probably better than her smelling, but I have no idea why she can't do this at home or in the ladies loos.

Chivetalking Thu 14-Nov-13 17:32:55

Cafe?? shock

V. bad manners near others.

I have no wish to be showered with a stranger's stray dandruff particles or loose hairs. Can't see anyone else welcoming it either.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 14-Nov-13 17:33:56

A woman sitting on the seat in front of me on the bus brushed her very thick, very tangled hair. Dandruff and loose hair all over me. Bad manners.

fluffyraggies England Thu 14-Nov-13 17:51:41

I was taught it was bad manners. I think. I can't remember being taught it mind you.

I've always been a bit coy about putting on lipstick just any old where. Only now i'm older i give less of a damn, and will whip out the lippy and put it on when ever.

SirChenjin Thu 14-Nov-13 17:57:28

No, it's bad manners (and completely rank). It is just plain antisocial to spray bits of old scalp skin and hair over people in your immediate vicinity. Yuk yuk yuk.

Famzilla Thu 14-Nov-13 18:07:32

I had never heard of this being an issue before. Then again, I have long thick curls so it only gets brushed during it's once weekly wash

Feminine Thu 14-Nov-13 18:22:43

It annoys me as she would have been horrified if I had done it ( at one time)

Very odd that she has taken it up at 71! grin

Thanks for your replies, at least I'm not the only one.

SuperStrength Thu 14-Nov-13 18:47:12

I think I'm the most fussy in that case as I can't stand women brushing their hair in the ladies loos at work, it gets right on my wick. They spend up to 5 minutes in front of the mirror giving it a good brush...dropping hairs & dead skin into the basin then walk out leaving all the mess behind....eurghhh...makes my stomach turn.
I would mind less if they had attractive hair in anyway.
Dont get me wrong, I don't mind someone repairing their do\replacing pins's the thorough brushing through with the cascading detritus that grates on my nerves...makes me want to scream...'stop wasting time & go back to your bloody desk'....and breathe...

chandellina Thu 14-Nov-13 19:23:04

I'm totally an offender, I brush at my desk, in the lift, on the street but try not to be seen and literally just run the brush through once for a quick tidy. IMO it's nowhere near as bad as colleagues who cut their nails. For real.

dementedma Thu 14-Nov-13 20:26:08

Short hair here and don't even own a hairbrush, let alone straighteners, hairdryers etc.

Gruntfuttock Thu 14-Nov-13 20:48:17

I'm a bit baffled by this TBH. I've never brushed my hair in a public place, because it has never been necessary so it wouldn't even cross my mind. confused

Thants Thu 14-Nov-13 21:06:05

I brush my hair at work and on the bus but wouldn't in a food place. I do my makeup on the bus too.

SirChenjin Thu 14-Nov-13 21:10:11

Yuk. Don't do it. Have some respect for the people around you.

Thants Thu 14-Nov-13 21:40:37

I don't think it disrespectful. It does not bother me if other people do it.

WhizzFucker Thu 14-Nov-13 21:48:34

Generally I'd say yuck, but she's 71 - you're entitled to be rude in public at that age I reckon. There have to be some perks to being old.

SirChenjin Thu 14-Nov-13 22:09:27

Just because you don't mind doesn't mean it isn't disrespectful or antisocial. Save your skin and hair shedding for the privacy of your own home.

livinginwonderland Thu 14-Nov-13 23:07:49

I've never seen it happen. I brush my hair at work in the loos sometimes if it's been windy on my walk in, but I wouldn't do it anywhere else. Just seems unnecessary you end up with your elbows everywhere.

LittleBearPad Thu 14-Nov-13 23:18:42

Brushing seems fine to me. The girl I sat next to recently who was biting her split ends off and spitting them in to the floor of tube I did judge though. 'Twas minging.

BackforGood Thu 14-Nov-13 23:25:01

I just love the fact you felt you had to specify in your title that you were talking about the hair on her head grin

mrsWast Thu 14-Nov-13 23:28:18

you should NEVER brush your hair in public. my nan taught me that. mind you, she also told me that women with ankle bracelets were prostitutes, so your mileage may vary.

giraffesCantGoGuising Thu 14-Nov-13 23:36:03

I bloody hate people putting on deo in public places - sends my lungs in to a coughing fit

jellyboatsandpirates Thu 14-Nov-13 23:44:53

What the hell's wrong with brushing your hair?! confused Picking your nose, yes. Loud snorts into a hanky followed by a loud "A WHOOOSHOO" sneeze into the air to be wafted about, yes. Could see your point.
Were they doing it around food? If so, I can see your point. If not, YABU.

lessonsintightropes Fri 15-Nov-13 00:02:55

Mmmm, love the fact MN is anonymous. I do my face on the train in the morning but I'm usually in an empty carriage where no one can be upset. And occasionally I brush my hair too but not often. My rules are never deodorant, nail clipping, eyebrow plucking, but make up is okay if you're not within a few feet of someone else. I do live in London and think there are slightly different standards down here (wouldn't do this up north). Ready for a flaming!

I would brush my hair in public if I was outside, not in a crowd or on a bus or anywhere it's going to leave stray hairs somewhere annoying. It's a bit disgusting to be shedding hair all over people.

lesson I've seen women doing their makeup on a train/bus 'up north' why do you think it's OK in London but not the north? I've put my lippy on on a train myself.

EmmaBemma Fri 15-Nov-13 06:12:05

I've never needed to brush my hair in public - even when it was long, I brushed it once, in the morning, before I left the house, and that was it for the day. Now it's cropped short I don't even own a brush. That said, I was amazed the first time I saw a thread about this - had no idea that public hair-brushing was such a faux-pas! Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Everyone merrily goes round shedding skin cells and probably tiny bits of snot and saliva and phlegm and whatever else anyway.

SpecialAgentFreyPie Fri 15-Nov-13 06:17:58

I wouldn't do it anywhere food is served but I used to do it in public often, it was an anxiety release for me.

That's why I always have my hair braided now!

Crowler Fri 15-Nov-13 06:35:08

I can't imagine brushing my hair in close quarters with someone sitting in proximity. Isn't this kind of attention-seeking behavior?

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 06:35:43

But as we have seen on this thread sirchenjin more people think it's fine so it isn't anti social!
I may personally not like people smoking in public but that doesn't make it anti social. Just my personal taste. Same with this.

SirChenjin Fri 15-Nov-13 07:55:37

No, most people think it's either not fine/hadn't thought about it/don't own a brush. The ones who think it's totally fine anywhere are in the minority.

nooka Fri 15-Nov-13 08:07:15

I really don't like people putting on eye make up anywhere near me because they are poking around at their eyes which makes me feel really uncomfortable. Brushing hair I don't really care about unless they are poking me with their brush. I've never seen hair or skin floating around in any great volume.

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 08:07:32

If they hadn't even thought about it then obviously it doesn't bother them! Unless someone had seriously bad dandruff or hadn't brushed their hair in a long time it would not cause a mess. You see people get ready all the time on public transport by doing their hair or makeup and I've never seen anyone tut, stare or ask them not to. Anti social activities usually get called up and this doesn't ergo it isn't anti social. I can't see why this bothers you so much.

AgathaF Fri 15-Nov-13 08:25:26

Yuck. I wouldn't like that at all. Common sense tells you that you will get stray hairs floating around and landing on other people. Worse if you have dandruff.

Not surewhy people need to really. Can't they just sort it out in the morning at home then leave it alone for the rest of the day? Wouldn't occur to me to take a brush out with me.

KerwhizzedMyself Fri 15-Nov-13 10:08:02

Just because people don't ask people to stop, doesn't make it not anti social. I think it's rank and when you can see the hair (and dandruff) falling from the persons head and sometimes land on you, it's disgusting. I wouldn't ask someone to stop though because I'm wary of asking the wrong person and getting a punch for my trouble. I just move so the gross person probably continues in a little bubble of "yay it's okay to put my body sheddings on other people".

UriGeller Fri 15-Nov-13 10:10:30

She's obviously decided she doesn't give a fuck!

Can't wait til I get to that stage grin

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 11:10:29

Bad Weather, time restrictions and the need to be smart for work are the reasons people need to do their hair on public transport.
There was another recent thread about should it matter what we look like a professional setting. Most posters said it should matter a lot! Therefore your gonna get people hair brushing on public transport. You can't have both!

AgathaF Fri 15-Nov-13 11:44:21

You can though Thants. You should get up early enough in the morning to sort your hair out, and I would think all work places have a toilet that can be used for hairbrushing. There's just no need to do it on public transport/in the cafe/in the lift.

KerwhizzedMyself Fri 15-Nov-13 11:48:29

You can have both. Whenever I've had to look professional for work and been caught in bad weather, I've never needed to shed hair all over the person sitting next to me. There's plenty of places where you aren't less than a foot away from another person where you can fiddle with yourself.

CuttedUpPear Fri 15-Nov-13 11:54:21

My mother used to be up in arms at us carrying around combs in our back pockets to fluff up our 80's flicks old gimmer

She was wont to say 'Would you wash your ARMPITS in the street??"
Apparently it was no better than that.

I don't understand why you would. Fine in the ladies though.

The thing that really pisses me off though is deoderant spraying at your desk...just why? There are a few repeat offenders who march back in on a lunchtime, past the toilets and then start spraying their pits whilst others are eating. Grim!

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 12:22:50

I've seen women doing this in the gym, making a big performance of putting their hair up whilst walking on the treadmill.
The message seemed to be 'look at my gorgeous long hair, I'm so much better than you with your inferior short hair'

Extravagant public personal grooming is surely done to draw attention to one's appearance ?

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 12:25:17

This is not just routine maintenance, there's much flicking and tossing and displaying of the locks going on

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 13:32:34

Nope it's entirely routine maintenance. And you can do it very discretely. My work would not be happy if I spent so long in the toilets redoing my hair. People eat on trains and I'm veggie I don't wanna be near that but I don't say it's anti social cos it's not!

squoosh Fri 15-Nov-13 13:40:07

I wouldn't brush my hair in a café/restaurant etc. as that's a bit minging, but have no problem with giving my hair a quick brush on the street for example, don't see how two stray hairs of mine can be more objectionable than car fumes for example. I was at the train station this morning and the wind had made my hair like a whin bush so I gave it a quick whoosh and all was well again on my bonce. I don't stand there like a mermaid dreamily combing my hair.

SirChenjin Fri 15-Nov-13 13:49:51

Thants - given that there are plenty on here who do see it as antisocial, so you'll just need to accept that whilst some people don't mind others do. Maybe it's just something to bear in mind next time you're doing it - and maybe you could make sure that there's no-one in your immediate vicinity who might mind?

Don't veggies eat on trains too down your way? They do up here.. confused

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 13:56:54

SirChen, I think Thants means that, being a vegetarian, she may find it unpleasant if people eat meat in a public place but she doesnt object because to do so would be unreasonable (?)

Speaking via my own vegetarian identity it has never occurred to me that I might object to people eating meat (I might think it a bit much if they were slaughtering and butchering right next to me)

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