To think people who call themselves mummy and daddy to their pets are just WEIRD?!

(80 Posts)
writingmynamewithsparklers Tue 05-Nov-13 22:46:46

Sorry, I know this is probably controversial and I'm donning my flameproof pants just in case it is but it just sounds WEIRD.
I see it on FB all the time by some couple (yes, it's a FB thread too. grin )
Pics of dogs/cats with captions and comments such as "being good for mummy" "having cuddles with Daddy."
It's. A. Dog. cat,dog, snake, rabbit, whatever
Makes you sound a tad strange. grin

FreudiansSlipper Tue 05-Nov-13 22:49:52

i talk to my cat in that itsy bitsy baby talk way

he loves his mummy grin

Anchoress Tue 05-Nov-13 22:51:27

YANBU. But I am not the right person to ask, as my toddler calls me by my first name...

BlueJess Tue 05-Nov-13 22:52:40

I suppose they aren't doing any harm but it does tend to be the same people who post way too many cat
pictures on fb.

Way too many = more than none btw...

AgentZigzag Tue 05-Nov-13 22:55:29

We made a deliberate decision not to be weirdos do this when we got DDog, although I have baby talked to her occasionally when nobody's around grin

She promised never to spill.

thehorridestmumintheworld Tue 05-Nov-13 22:55:30

Sorry I do it too, but it was dh who started it the big soppy.

AgentZigzag Tue 05-Nov-13 22:56:02

I had to give her cheese though to ensure her silence hmm

pianodoodle Tue 05-Nov-13 22:57:25

YANBU but that's all I'm saying.

I've had enough truck with over zealous animal enthusiasts here recently to keep me going for a while.

I wish you luck grin

MildDrPepperAddiction Tue 05-Nov-13 22:57:56

YANBU. I love my dog, but I am not her mother. She is our much loved pet. People referring to themselves as the dogs parents are odd IMO.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Tue 05-Nov-13 22:58:00

So I'm wierd. What's new?

Don't do it in public though.

Mmelindor Tue 05-Nov-13 23:00:24

Well, I call myself 'Mama' when speaking to the dog.

Its not that I think of her as my baby no, no. NOT AT ALL but what else would I call myself?

The Germans say 'Herrchen' and 'Frauchen', which I quite like.

LondonNinja Tue 05-Nov-13 23:00:59

YANBU. It's cringeworthy.

Ludoole Tue 05-Nov-13 23:02:25

I do it because the kids call me mum and the dog knows me by that name because they say it so damn much

DramaAlpaca Tue 05-Nov-13 23:04:16

YANBU. I love my pets dearly, but in no way am I their mum!

LadyVetinari Tue 05-Nov-13 23:06:48

I do, but my parrot is imprinted so she really does think we're her parents.

I get more weirded out when a friend of mine posts more pictures of her dogs than her new baby, AND calls the dogs her babies...

Morloth Tue 05-Nov-13 23:08:41

It is a bit weird, but hey doesn't matter.

Thinking about it, I tend to think of our cat as one of the 'adults' in the house.

Which is probably just as weird.

Amy106 Tue 05-Nov-13 23:17:28

I don't do it myself but I really don't mind what they call themselves as long as they take good care of their animals.

Maryz Tue 05-Nov-13 23:21:12

Hey, piano, what are you doing on another animal thread.

Will you never learn. [tsk]

sparklers, YAdefNBU, but I'm sure someone will be along soon to call you an animal murderer hater.

Hegsy Tue 05-Nov-13 23:27:12

YABVU you have no ideas for the motives behind being 'mummy' and 'daddy' after 4 years ttc the cat and the rabbit are the only children I'm likely to have yes they are wasted but they give me lots of affection in return and the cat especially has comforted me lots......whether he realises it or not.

sparklysilversequins Tue 05-Nov-13 23:30:56

I have made up a growly little voice for my dog. When I talk to him I answer for him using the voice. We have quite good conversations and yes, he calls me Mummy.

Heathcliff27 Tue 05-Nov-13 23:33:35

Yes a bit strange, so are the husbands and wives who call each other mummy and daddy

JoinYourPlayfellows Tue 05-Nov-13 23:34:24

"When I talk to him I answer for him using the voice. We have quite good conversations and yes, he calls me Mummy."


Heathcliff27 Tue 05-Nov-13 23:34:31

Each to their own though i suppose

Still18atheart Tue 05-Nov-13 23:41:28

Errrrmmmm I'm going to be a right hypocrite and say YANBU blush

It's been a thing with my parents dog that I am it's sister I was 10 when it was born so so at the time I thought it was cute. This means by default that my parents are ddog's Mummy and Daddy. And thus with regards to the dog thats what they are referred as.

KissesBreakingWave Tue 05-Nov-13 23:51:12

To my dogs, I am Boss. To the cats, I am 'that human who knows only one phrase in our language and it is a bloodcurdling threat'. (I do a pretty mean angry cat hiss. They scarper.)

QueenStromba Tue 05-Nov-13 23:57:07

You know the think that children do where you're not paying them any attention because you're wrapped up in something else and they keep tapping you on the arm going "mummy, mummy, mummy"? Our cat does that but without the talking so I ask her if she wants her "mummy, mummy, mummy". But I'm not her mummy and I never refer to myself as such otherwise.

Hegsy, I was going to post almost exactly what you just did. A very cuddly little puppy arrived in our lives right about the time that, after many years of ttc and 5 MCs, DP and I realised that we would probably never have children.

So, I talk to the puppy constantly, refer to him as my baby and myself as Mama, post photos of him on FB. It probably makes everyone I know want to puke. Yes, it's probably me channeling some need to care, nurture and parent into a dog. But tbh, if it helps me cope with our reality, then I don't really give a shit if it offends anyone else. It's most likely healthier and less irritating than me crying and feeling sorry for myself. And the dog cheers me up when it all feels horrible.

IamNotLegend Wed 06-Nov-13 00:16:17

Every evening I come home from work and ask my dp if he's fed the kids. The kids being River and Joaquin the goldfish. I swear they get excited when I approach their tank.


Mogz Wed 06-Nov-13 00:25:14

YANBU to think it's weird but that won't stop me doing it. I am mummy to our motley collection of cats, bunnies, fish and reptiles. But I do not treat them like 'fur babies', that's a step too far for me. I don't really care what other people do, so long as they look after their pets, that's what matters.

My dog is "my little girl" and I post more pictures of her, on beaches etc than I do of my children, it is a running joke.

My DD (15) has a cat, which I am "Nanny" to and she is treated by everyone, including my dog, like a baby.

She follows me up the road and I generally speak in baby talk to her, much to the amusement of my neighbours.

I speak to my pets with more affection than most of the children in my area get spoken to, I certainly would call my dog the names that I hear used to said children.

So I don't give a shit what anyone thinks, every living thing within my house is loved and spoken to as though they are.

That should of been, "wouldn't talk to my dog in the way the children in my area are."

QueenStromba Wed 06-Nov-13 00:30:58

Actually maybe I am her mummy since I covered her in a blanket when she fell asleep on the sofa.

Scarletohello Wed 06-Nov-13 00:31:44

Well I used to have a boyfriend who referred to his dogs as his " girlfriends".

That relationship didn't last long...

plinkyplonks Wed 06-Nov-13 00:33:29


QueenStromba Wed 06-Nov-13 00:39:00

Having furry babies is definitely normal compared with furry girlfriends. The furry baby thing is just expressing a love for your pet that is like familial love whereas the furry girlfriend thing sounds like you're romantically in love with your pet.

Zucker Wed 06-Nov-13 00:53:50

YANBU it is weird. I saw on facebook this week a woman sharing with us that her dog has an infection. Signed off the post with:

Mammy Loves You xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Now does the dog have a facebook account where they can read this and say thanks, who the hell is she posting that for?

everythinghippie29 Wed 06-Nov-13 01:51:37

I fully acknowledge we are weird but my cat is my fur-baby and both I and DP are known as mummy/daddy. blush

So I say YABU, it happened organically I swear!

fackinell Wed 06-Nov-13 02:08:54

YANBU, Mummy and Daddy? wink

In our house they're old enough to know us as Mum and Dad now. grin

AscoyneDAscoyne Wed 06-Nov-13 03:02:07

I know loads of people who do this (myself not included) So what? Its a bit harsh to write them all off as "weird" and "strange"

GoshAnneGorilla Wed 06-Nov-13 04:31:55

Calling yourself Mummy to your pets is ok.

Sharing that fact with the world via FB is not ok.

Being one of those people who hates children, bitches about parents and then talks about your pet more most parents would about their actual child is not ok. The OP didn't mention that, but it drives me crackers, so I thought now would be a good time to get it off my chest.

Full disclosure: I am Team Human in the Housefire Scenario.

claraschu Wed 06-Nov-13 04:44:14

The children are growing up and abandoning me. The cats will always be happy to sit on Mummy's lap. Children hate being talked down to; cats like my baby talk (it means wet food).

Blissx Wed 06-Nov-13 06:50:12

I have two cats and my DH and i call them our fur babies and "Mummy and Daddy" too. I accept that I am wierd! grin

WestieMamma Wed 06-Nov-13 06:58:19

YANBU it's bloody weird and not something I would do. Never. No, not me.

<Wanders off while whistling in a suspicious manner>

diddl Wed 06-Nov-13 07:01:13

I'm happy to be weird!

(Doesn't make it onto FB, though)

frustratedandfailing Wed 06-Nov-13 07:08:57

I think if it's weird to you it's weird to you but to other's it's fine but does it really matter. Would you choose to keep your distance from someone who chooses to use that terminology? Is that your basis for friend-filtering?

Each to their own.

littlewhitebag Wed 06-Nov-13 07:17:52

My DH and I are mummy and daddy to our lab. My DD are her sisters and she has granny, grandad and aunties too. I don't really care what anyone else thinks. We love her and have raised her from a tiny pup. I feel like her mummy. I don't have Facebook so no pictures of her in the public domain but i have more photos of her on my phone than i do of my children; 100's more. (kids are 16 and 21 and eldest doesn't live at home, they are not tots). What is it to you anyway?

WheresTheHoneyMummy Wed 06-Nov-13 07:25:05

Zucker - I discovered yesterday someone I know has fb accounts for each of her cats. And they're updated regularly. How? Why?

SharpLily Wed 06-Nov-13 07:28:48

We do call ourselves mummy and daddy to our dog, but I appreciate it's a bit dodgy. For what it's worth, I'm 38 and pregnant now, but for a long time it looked as if that would never happen. So when I got my dog he was a very conscious and deliberate child substitute and always has been, so mummy and daddy seems entirely appropriate. I would say that's a relatively healthy way of coping with childlessness.

I will always have more pictures of him on Facebook, because I will not be putting pictures or any other details of my child in a public domain, not because I value one or the other more or less.

See username. Not bothered if that makes me weird or a tad strange, tbh. My dogs don't have FB accounts, nor do I refer to myself as 'Mummy' on FB - in the privacy of my own home, it's a different matter :D

SoleSorceress Wed 06-Nov-13 09:21:13

My goldfish love me and my goldfish are my life
Yabu angry

Mumsex Wed 06-Nov-13 09:27:23

I refer to DH as "Daddy" when talking to the cat, just to make him cringe (DH cringe, not the cat).
We also mess about, calling him "Cat Son" in a rapid fire Oriental type accent (can I say that?) and he is the DSs' "Cat Brother".

My disclaimer is that it is all for comedic effect. We have had hours of fun singing to the cat; how lucky can a pussy be? We even sang "Happy Birthday" to him around what we guessed was his big day. We make up songs to sing to him and also with my best friend for her dog. It is known as "pet singing" grin. We are never bored.

I like weird and I think the OP wasn't being too scathing; she can call me weird.

thanks to those TTC. Pets are really helpful to have around.

TamzinGrey Wed 06-Nov-13 09:33:14

My cat calls me "Aunty Tamzin". She calls DH "Man Who gives Prawns". Each to their own. YABU.

I think it's a bit cringeworthy, but in the absence of a suitable alternative description of the relationship between pet and owner, I think it's fine.

'Come to your owner!' sounds a bit dictatorial and bonkers. 'Come to mummy!' sounds a bit bonkers too but at least it's slightly less sinister.

I guess on FB 'this is my cat playing with me/person's name' would suffice though.

Boaty Wed 06-Nov-13 09:45:13

We had DC at home when we got the cat and dog...DC refer to us as mum and dad..the dog picked up on it. If we say 'take your lead to dad' he will. The cat just treats us like servants..we call him the furry master!

curlew Wed 06-Nov-13 09:46:23

It's very weird indeed.

I like animals to be animals.

"Furbabies"makes me feel homicldal. Which will not surprise the massed ranks of Team Animal.

OnaPromise Wed 06-Nov-13 09:53:15

Hegsy and Shadows - I completely understand this, although I have one dd I couldn't have any more and so the arrival of the dog had more significance to me than just a pet or a possession. I think it's very judgemental to scoff at people about this.

KellyElly Wed 06-Nov-13 09:55:31

I am my cats mummy and noone is telling me any different grin

Bowlersarm Wed 06-Nov-13 09:57:40


Corygal Wed 06-Nov-13 09:57:47

Mr Cory the tabby calls me his Fat Servant, and addresses me as Oi! in mew form.

HarpyFishwifeTwat Wed 06-Nov-13 09:58:22

It's a bit weird but I'm definitely the cats' mummy. As Mackerel says there's no decent alternative. What totally creeps me out is my MIL referring to the cats as her "Grandson" and "Grandaughters" - I'm sure that makes me a total hypocrite though.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 06-Nov-13 09:59:01


Who's it harming?
I loved my cat. I love my rabbits. I take care if them I can call myself what I like when I talk to them.


MaxPepsi Wed 06-Nov-13 09:59:58

Ooh, me and DH are our beloved poochs mummy and daddy.

However we only do this in private, between ourselves.

We can't have kids, it's the only way I am ever going to be called mummy!

PTFO Wed 06-Nov-13 10:01:58

yanbu. my dh calls me mummy to the dog and I throw up a little in my mouth. its freakin weird.

DiseasesOfTheSheep Wed 06-Nov-13 10:02:45

I find it weird flipping mental

I am their master. It drives me crackers when vets refer to me as their mum. I have taken to pointing out that I have yet to develop the ability to produce something that is genetically not at least half human, and I certainly haven't managed to give birth to one either.

DiseasesOfTheSheep Wed 06-Nov-13 10:05:15

BTW, I am fully aware that "come and grovel before your master" sounds meglomaniacal. It sure is fun to call out in public places though!

mitchsta Wed 06-Nov-13 10:07:17

My ILs do it with their dogs "mummy will get your tea" and "daddy will take you for a walk" - and I find it really weird given that they have four human children.

Have to confess that I do baby-talk to my parents' cat though... sorry.

mitchsta Wed 06-Nov-13 10:08:19

MIL also calls FIL "dad" i.e. "what do you think dad?" which I also find weird. He's her husband, not her dad...

Catchhimatwhat Wed 06-Nov-13 10:12:05

Come and sit on your female owner's knee!
It is easier to say Mum.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 06-Nov-13 10:12:23

I don't put my dog and two cats on FB but at home I am their mummy.
I adopted them didn't I?

GemmaTeller Wed 06-Nov-13 10:17:43

Boy cat loves his momma, momma loves her ickle lickle bubba

Somehow, as much as I love them, I can't talk like that to my big slobbery boxers


LadyBeagleEyes Wed 06-Nov-13 10:20:20

My dog is my snuggle buggle boogle boy blush

bunnybing Wed 06-Nov-13 10:31:16

that's me weird then - I am my hamster's mummy. grin

diddl Wed 06-Nov-13 10:57:12

My daughter had three dwarf hamsters & used to refer to me as their Grangrin

horcruxmanzini Wed 06-Nov-13 11:10:39

YABU in that's not weird, because there are perfectly comprehensible reasons why some people do it.

Weird would be if you made your cats call you Coco, dressed them in legwarmers and tried to drill them in modern jazz dance while banging a large stick and yelling, 'Fame costs!' at them in Hungarian. Or made little cars for them and fined them for speeding. Etc.

Iwouldratherbemuckingout Wed 06-Nov-13 12:40:29

YANBU to find it weird, there are many things perfectly normal people do that I find very weird, and each to there own.

However, my whole family is bonkers in terms of the cats AND the horses, we are definetly Mummy and Dad to the cats, my Mum even sends them a Christmas card from grandma!!!!

I'm Mum to the horses, my Mum is Grandma, and my friends are Aunties! Tis fairly normal round our way.

I think more than anything it reflects the deep emotional connection people have with their animals, and the huge place they have in our lives and our hearts. After all its a relationship based on two way affection, both cats and horses!

Dahlen Wed 06-Nov-13 12:43:41

I don't have a problem with this. It's just a term of endearment, isn't it. Much like a nickname for a friend or a petname for a partner.

What I don't like though is people who treat their pets as substitute babies/children, because this can be quite unsettling and cruel for some animals and result in behavioural problems - particularly in dogs.

Pigsmummy Wed 06-Nov-13 13:19:27

I am Mummy cat at home, it's fun and hurting no one. Daddy cat doesn't mind either. YABU, live and let live

HellonHeels Wed 06-Nov-13 13:35:43

My Boo Boo loves his mummy (me)! He purrs loudly and headbutts me when I babytalk to him. He also likes being sung to. Fatty cat adores her Cat Daddy (DH), squeaks at him for attention and quivers her tail in happiness when she gets love and fussing.

My mum is Cat Grandma when she comes to visit.

I don't care at all if people think I'm weird. It's normal for me grin

Loving the animal family stories on this thread.

6cats3gingerkittens Wed 06-Nov-13 14:55:46

All these lovely catly posts. The 3 ginger kittens live with their real mum and dad, Isabella and Benson. I am not their mummy, just the human who loves them. However, I do have a friend who sent a welcome to the world card and two beautiful fleece baby blankets with love from auntie Lin.
So they aren't without human relatives entirely.

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