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Who WBU? Mortifying train incident.

(421 Posts)
MikeReepySpooksard Sun 03-Nov-13 17:18:42

Ds, 15 months, has an unfortunate hair pulling habit. Today on the train he got hold of the hair of the teenage girl sitting in the seat behind his and yanked it. She screamed 'get the fuck off me' and glared at him. She kept turning round and glaring at him the rest of the journey.

FunkyFucker Sun 03-Nov-13 17:20:43

Presumably your son wasn't there on his own, in which case the parent he was with was being unreasonable for not ensuring that his hands were nowhere near someone's hair.

Svrider Sun 03-Nov-13 17:20:47

Wow
The girl wbu
Obv you need to keep an eye on your baby, but honestly most young girls wouldn't have reacted like thisshock
Hope you're ok
wine

Oh dear, clearly the girl WBVU but you WBU for allowing it to happen.

Nanny0gg Sun 03-Nov-13 17:22:18

I assume you apologised and told your son off (in an age-appropriate kind of way?)

Sirzy Sun 03-Nov-13 17:22:24

I wouldn't be best amused if a strange child pulled my hair either. I wouldn't have reacted like that but I would have been pissed off.

You shouldn't have let it happen and when it did you should have been very aplogietic.

UnexpectedFrightInShaggingArea Sun 03-Nov-13 17:22:35

Teenage girls will not always understand the levels of awareness that a 15 mo will have. I don't blame her for being upset but in a few years she will probably realise she could have been more understanding.

Maryz Sun 03-Nov-13 17:23:02

She probably got a terrible fright.

Were you sitting behind her? In which case she was sitting there minding her own business, when someone suddenly grabbed her hair and gave it a tug.

She probably shouted before she knew who it was.

And of course, your toddler should have been stopped before he got that close, especially if he was standing on the seat and leaning over.

DreamlessSleep Sun 03-Nov-13 17:23:17

Both.

ThisWayForCrazy Sun 03-Nov-13 17:23:25

Did she know he was a child before she said this?

CrohnicallyTired Sun 03-Nov-13 17:23:54

Did she realise it was a baby sitting behind her and grabbing her hair? She probably reacted in instinct, I am sure my reaction to being grabbed out of the blue would be similar (though she should have apologised as soon as she realised)

AngelsLieToKeepControl Sun 03-Nov-13 17:24:03

Did she see it was your ds pulling her hair. If it was from behind I would have probably reacted the same way (although not the glares afterwards).

ubik Sun 03-Nov-13 17:24:19

not everyone thinks your child is cute

freemanbatch Sun 03-Nov-13 17:24:32

did she know it was a toddler before she spoke or did she have no idea who had just grabbed her hair?

If I didn't know it was a child behind me I'd probably react in pretty much the same way to being assaulted whilst minding my own business. There could be many reasons she is on edge whilst travelling and lets be honest the child shouldn't have been in a position to do it in the first place.

MrPricklepants Sun 03-Nov-13 17:24:59

What Maryz said.

You haven't actually said if you apologised, or how you let him grab a strangers hair.

kali110 Sun 03-Nov-13 17:25:48

She prob was shocked!i may have reacted in same way. Im generally in my own world with ipod and book and it would have scared me

Ilovegeorgeclooney Sun 03-Nov-13 17:26:22

Both of you but how did you expect a perfect stranger, and teenager to boot, to react to having their hair pulled. It hurts! You need to supervise your child and she is entitled to travel without being assaulted.

DownstairsMixUp Sun 03-Nov-13 17:26:33

Maybe she didn't see it was a child before? Not saying the language is approp but if i felt my hair grabbed suddenly i think i might let out a swear word in shock.. not something you'd expect is it really?!

RevoltingPeasant Sun 03-Nov-13 17:26:59

Sorry but I think YABU and the was being understandably unreasonable if that makes sense.

Agree with Mary that she probably was in her own little world when suddenly some kid grabbed her and she just reacted. Also agree she probably had no real idea how little he was.

Also also, if you were not watching him closely enough that he could lean over and grab someone, how do you know he hadn't been annoying her for some time before? I mean, maybe she'd been gritting her teeth for ages and then suddenly YANK and she just lost it.

What did you do?

CiderBomb Sun 03-Nov-13 17:27:19

Why did you allow your child to pull a random strangers hair?

AllDirections Sun 03-Nov-13 17:27:44

Was it just the one pull or had your DS been pulling, touching or stroking her hair before that? Had the teenager shown earlier signs of not being happy about it, e.g. turning round, huffing, tutting, etc?

You were obviously unreasonable to allow your DS the opportunity to pull a stranger's hair knowing that it was one of his habits. I also hope that you apologised regardless of her outburst.

gobbynorthernbird Sun 03-Nov-13 17:27:52

Did you apologise immediately? And what were you doing so your son could grab her hair, or was Rapunzel behind you?
To be fair, she was probably glaring at you.

blueemerald Sun 03-Nov-13 17:28:00

If a stranger, potentially adult stranger, yanked my hair I would respond in the same way she did. She had no way of knowing it was a child. If you apologised properly and corrected your child then she shouldn't have kept glaring, but your post doesn't make that clear. Your son does need to realise that pulling hair will make people cross/upset with him.

IsThatTrue Sun 03-Nov-13 17:28:50

Wow Ywbu for your toddler being able to get that close.

If she knew it was a child SWB (a bit) U if not she reacted as many would when grabbed out of the blue.

MadAsFish Sun 03-Nov-13 17:28:52

Her no so much, you very. As others have pointed out, she probably got a shock, it hurt quite a bit (you said yanked, not just pulled), and for all you know, it was the last straw in a chain of rotten things that had happened to her today.
Also, not everyone thinks your child is cute, as ubik said.

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