to think you are NOT weary

(107 Posts)
DontPanicMrMannering Thu 31-Oct-13 00:33:25

DH and everyone else. You are not in fact tired of something that concerns/elicits caution of you. You are WARY of it.

Ok OK? I'm right and in no way unreasonable <<crosses arms>>

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 31-Oct-13 00:35:15

Unless you've been wary of it for a prolonged period? Then you could be weary of being wary?

timidviper Thu 31-Oct-13 00:36:13

Nope, I've never heard anybody say this myself but would hate it too

Not at all unreasonable part from the fact you have crossed your arms but forgotten to hoik your bosom!

YesterdayI Thu 31-Oct-13 00:38:18

Weary means you are tired of something - that it bores you.

Wary means you are nervous or scared of something.

OP YANBU and you should be weary of your DH's ongoing mistake. Your DH should be wary of repeating his mistake in front of you.

DH used to say irregardless, as do all his family. <shudders>

DontPanicMrMannering Thu 31-Oct-13 00:49:12

grin I am indeed weary which should make him wary but he just insists he is correct.

<<hoiks bosom onto crossed arms>>

<<buckles under the weight>>

MrsTP I refuse to believe my beloved TP would commit such a crime shock

Bwahaha, good point about my NN. No. MrTP would never say that, just my other DH. The bad one.

NatashaBee Thu 31-Oct-13 00:59:56


innermuddle Thu 31-Oct-13 07:31:07

This is nearly as annoying as people who claim to be 'unorganised'! ! Makes me unreasonably angry.

TheSmallPumpkin Thu 31-Oct-13 07:39:03

Yes I hear this more and more often. It's not hard to differentiate between the two but people do it a lot. My biggest bugbear is people saying words like assume, presume, insulation etc. with an 'sh' sound. It's horrible, please stop! listen here

Snargaluff Thu 31-Oct-13 07:44:26

Yes! Or 'Leary' which I have also heard

Snargaluff Thu 31-Oct-13 07:45:58

Oh. Apparently leery means suspicious or wary. Well.

'Disinterested' for 'uninterested'

Drives my dad crazy and he passed it on to me

Especially annoying as people are usually saying it to sound clever

And breathe...

WheresTheHoneyMummy Thu 31-Oct-13 07:51:58

My friend uses reprimanded when she means demanded, and she has "laminated" flooring.

RustyBear Thu 31-Oct-13 08:00:09

Sorry, where'sthehoney, but your friend is right - laminate flooring is laminated. It may not be what most people call it, but it's a perfectly accurate description.

TEErickOrTEEreat Thu 31-Oct-13 08:04:53

Well, I've had very little sleep so I am weary.

But I'd be wary of someone who said they were weary when they meant wary.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 31-Oct-13 08:10:38

Well I'm both wary and weary of so-called pedantic OPs who mis-spell their own nns: assuming you're referring to Dad's Army, it's ^Mainwaring^.
Just saying.

CombineBananaFister Thu 31-Oct-13 08:13:19

my mum says 'pacific' instead of 'specific'. makes my teeth itch and is endearing all at the same time.
My dad just makes words up as he goes along if he can't remember which one he needs or just misses words out altogether. He is from rural Yorkshire though so that's just how it is.

ChunkyPickle Thu 31-Oct-13 08:15:04

How do these things get confused?

Where I lived it was normal for people to ask you to 'revert to them' at the end of an email (they meant reply or respond)

The one that really, really winds me up, that I've had quite lively discussions with DP and his brother about is nuclear - it's new-clear not new-queue-ler.

DontPanicMrMannering Thu 31-Oct-13 08:52:38

Shotgun it's a nn that is written that way for a personal reason, there are a lot of them that don't reflect the original. And if you are going to pull me up on it you really should have mentioned it's Captain not Mr.

I also never claimed to be an expert on the English language just one irritated by this pacific grin word.

Mrs TP glad to hear it!

Littleredsquirrel Thu 31-Oct-13 09:00:57

I see (and use) revert in that context a lot in legal letters. What's wrong with it?

HeywoodMonkey Thu 31-Oct-13 09:04:56

My aged father keeps referring to the Equestrian Centre as an Aquarium. I know his eyesight is poor but he should be able to tell the difference between horses and sharks. Surely?
My neighbour says reaching instead of retching fact she malaprops all fecking day. I think she does it to wind me up.
Anyway, I have got to go and saddle up a shark...... Laters.

HarryStottle Thu 31-Oct-13 09:06:05

My DH would say you are being QUIET unreasonable - he cannot pronounce "quite".

HarryStottle Thu 31-Oct-13 09:07:23

I know a lot of people who travel to London via St Pancreas station

lastnightopenedmyeyes Thu 31-Oct-13 09:09:57

One of the best shirty emails I ever received from an old colleague simply said 'to be quiet frank, I don't care what you do'

It's become a bit of an in joke with dh and I since then.

UsedToBeNDP Thu 31-Oct-13 09:11:00

Otherwise well spoken senior person at work - "Fursday" (Thursday).


PeppiNephrine Thu 31-Oct-13 09:25:47

Brought and bought gets me in a rage. I see it on here all the time, how can you not tell the difference between the two especially when writing it down?
My dh told me yesterday he was on "tenderhooks" waiting for a call.

FuckyNellItsHalloween Thu 31-Oct-13 09:30:07

Discrete clothing. This was from sixth form grammar school. Seriously.

GiveItYourBestFucker Thu 31-Oct-13 09:33:47

My ex used to insist on arriving at London Houston.

sunbathe Thu 31-Oct-13 09:38:17

People saying flack when it's flak.


I'm weary of that. thlwink

sunbathe Thu 31-Oct-13 09:39:53

Ha! And of not seeing preview on my phone so I don't make mistakes. thlgrin

Antisocial and unsociable.

UriGHOULer Thu 31-Oct-13 09:42:22

I LOVE St Pancreas! I also love Eustachian Station. grin

timidviper Thu 31-Oct-13 11:12:49

I am irritated by all sorts of things! One is a family member who insists her FIL has "prostrate problems" despite having been told the word is prostate loads of times. Why a urinary problem would make him lie down I don't know! grin

RustyBear Thu 31-Oct-13 11:42:37

FuckyNell - perhaps they didn't want them to wear onesies to school grin

Argh that would irritate the living fuck out of me.

My in laws all say 'on myself' instead of 'by myself' and it makes me murderous.

nestee Thu 31-Oct-13 12:13:32

Pepi, what's wrong with 'tenderhooks'? Just wondering. dear friend who is also a vicar always pronounces the l in 'folks'. Makes me giggle.

PeppiNephrine Thu 31-Oct-13 12:16:10

its tenterhooks.

vladthedisorganised Thu 31-Oct-13 12:17:10

inamuddle - I couldn't agree more grin

My DP tells me not to 'ponder' to the children being babyish when he I fact means 'pander' I'm yet to crack and yell at him.

My old tutor at college says 'acrossed' rather than 'across' it make me cross.

Ev1lEdna Thu 31-Oct-13 12:26:13

OP I was just thinking that very same thing a few minutes ago.

harticus Thu 31-Oct-13 12:29:33

cache and cachet
unsocial and antisocial
adverse and averse
insure and ensure

All get my goat.

hareinthemoon Thu 31-Oct-13 12:32:35

DH (and everyone else) - not from New Zilland?

At DC's school they have to only wear discrete makeup, which I think is even more difficult than discrete clothing.

nestee Thu 31-Oct-13 14:41:01

What's a tenterhook then? I'm reasonably educated and well read and I always thought it was tenderhooks! [Hangs head in shame]

PaperSeagull Thu 31-Oct-13 14:52:52

When you're weary, feeling small
When tears are in your eyes
I will dry them all. . .

You are only being unreasonable for making me think of the lyrics to Bridge Over Troubled Water. Now I will be humming it all day. smile

A student once wrote that something gave him paws. I'm quite sure he meant pause.

PeppiNephrine Thu 31-Oct-13 14:55:12

Woollen cloth used to be stretched on a tenter (the frame) by way of hooks (tenterhooks) after being washed to remove oils. From the french tendere, to stretch.

nestee Thu 31-Oct-13 15:56:05

Ooh thanks, you learn something new every day x

ElbowPrincess Thu 31-Oct-13 16:23:27

Someone at work keeps saying pattren instead of pattern. I want to stab her her with my pencil.

Ginfox Thu 31-Oct-13 16:47:54

Chunky during a long piece on Radio 4 last week, both the "expert" and the interviewer person kept saying "nucular" instead of nuclear. I was shouting at the radio (in the car, so just another mad woman on her way to work)

Supposably, pacifically - arrgh!

But I always pronounce St Pancras as Pancreas, Birmingham as Brummigham, Loughborough as Loogaborooga, etc. because it amuses me.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 31-Oct-13 16:59:54

Don't Panic I nearly did pull you up on the Captain thing - but then I remembered that Jonesey, in the saying, actually did say 'Mr' and was always reminded 'it's Captain Mainwaring' smile.
As you were.

springlamb Thu 31-Oct-13 17:10:55

A girl used to drive me bonkers by asking for Asti Blumanki. It was the 80s.
She graduated to vodka and has quite a problem now with Stolichnaya.

Calabria Thu 31-Oct-13 20:22:36


'Reach' is the proper pronunciation for the vomiting noise. "ORIGIN mid 19th cent.: variant of dialect reach, from a Germanic base meaning ‘spittle’."

My mother used to quip "Excuse me reaching across you, there is something I'd like to bring up".

happydaze77 Thu 31-Oct-13 20:36:58

'Would of' makes me mad. Very mad angry

Bue Thu 31-Oct-13 20:39:18

A manager at my old workplace wrote an email to my manager saying that she felt her team were being made escape goats in a project gone wrong.

I often get the characteristic Pedants' eye-twitch when talking to supposedly educated adults.
YY to "Nucular","could of" and "pacifically".
"Bockle" instead of "bottle" winds me up.

GiveItYourBestFucker Thu 31-Oct-13 20:58:51

grin at escape goats. Were they busy digging tunnels?

Kernowgal Thu 31-Oct-13 21:09:44

A friend says 'fink' instead of 'think'. She is an intelligent, educated woman, but it really annoys me. I suppose it might be an accent thing (Suffolk?).

I frequently see 'defiantly' when people mean to write 'definitely'.

Inertia Thu 31-Oct-13 22:07:17

smile at Escape Goats.

Meow75 Thu 31-Oct-13 22:17:18

Affect vs effect
Practice vs practise
Aks instead of ask

There are more ... But not just now!!!

EBearhug Thu 31-Oct-13 22:25:10

I know a lot of people who travel to London via St Pancreas station

We have an official printed and laminated sign in one of our London offices going on about St Pancreas station. I have not quite dared to get my marker pen out on it. (Actually, I'm not sure I can reach it.) One battle at a time. I did get them to change all the signs warning people about the men who might be working behind doors last time I was there. They did it very quickly once I'd put the request in, and I got a personal apology, which I wasn't at all expecting.

Minshu Thu 31-Oct-13 23:40:15

I once had a boyfriend who would not be convinced that the words supple and subtle weren't interchangeable hmm

HoneyDragon Thu 31-Oct-13 23:48:40

MrTP would never say that, just my other DH The bad one

That keeps giving me the giggles grin

SomethingOnce Fri 01-Nov-13 00:02:38

Ah, the Escape Goat - popularised by the late Jade Goody, iirc.

BOF Fri 01-Nov-13 00:06:56

I nominate people who are wondering around the place, rather than wandering. Or who are phased instead of fazed. Or who undergo rights of passage rather than rites.

pookamoo Fri 01-Nov-13 00:10:13

Yes, to "wandering/wondering", BOF
(Has anyone mentioned "bought/brought" ?)

PansOnFire Fri 01-Nov-13 00:16:19

Radio 1's insistent use of the phrase 'off of' really winds me up, especially when it's used in contexts such as 'Tom Cruise off of Hollywood' and 'Rooney off of football' Aarghh!

Primrose123 Fri 01-Nov-13 00:27:25

Actually Peppi, tendere is Latin (since we are being pedantic on this thread). The French word would be tendre. smile

Primrose123 Fri 01-Nov-13 00:29:14

Although I agree it's tenterhooks. I like the explanation, I've never heard that before.

Someone is selling a "chest of draws" on FB today.
< hides post as it makes me twitchy >

3littlefrogs Fri 01-Nov-13 09:13:35

Dh has fond memories of childhood holidays to "Isly Wiggit".

Icyalittle Fri 01-Nov-13 15:26:59

'Bored of' drives me mad. Where I live people pronounce 'certificate' as 'susstificate' and look pityingly if it is corrected (not by me, I wouldn't dare).
I quite agree over 'Could of' / 'Would of'. Lack of grammar teaching leads to poor spelling ability.
And don't start me on apostrophes.....

Lissy31 Fri 01-Nov-13 16:49:56

Roll instead of role grrr...we do a lot of role-play as training at work...when I'm told it's roll-play makes me think of juggling bread buns.

Yes to pacific/specific

Haitch rather than aitch makes me want to punch someone

Oh and someone at nursery taught the kids to 'aks' nicely to 'go toilet'. Ask ask ask! go TO THE toilet! Grrrrrrrrr

My DH tells the children off for being 'twiney'. It seems his mother said it to him as both she and my SIL use it too.


CustardLover Fri 01-Nov-13 17:46:38

"Should of" instead of "should have" is like nails down a blackboard.

I also hate the use of 'myself' instead of 'me' eg 'could you address your reply to myself' NO SHUT UP SHUT UP.

Maybe all these people need a secuterry to sort them out

lynneinjapan Sat 02-Nov-13 22:07:03

I think "twiney/twiny" is a Scottish thing - we were forever being told to "stop twining" as kids. Tbf, though, I've just looked in three dictionaries and not found that definition.

My DH insists on using "myself" when "me" would be perfectly adequate, and on saying "... for Xxxx and I" when it should be "... for Xxxx and me" (you wouldn't say "for I").

Agree with most of these, inc. weary/wary, should of / should have, defiantly / definately / definitely, its / it's, your / you're, chest of draws, nucular.

Also their/there/they're and affect / effect: if you Affect something then it means you have an Effect on it. (Affect is NOT a noun; effect CAN be a verb but it has a different meaning.) Surprised nobody has mentioned those yet!

"Revert" annoys me but I think it's just an Americanism that's been adopted over here.

My OH says "mute point" instead of moot no matter how many times I tell him, drives me mad grrr.

amandine07 Sun 03-Nov-13 07:15:43

I had a few work colleagues who used to say 'weary' in the wrong context when they actually meant 'wary'.

Thought it was odd but so many people used to say it, I wondered if I was the one getting it wrong!

amandine07 Sun 03-Nov-13 07:18:32

Oooh don't get me started on Affect/effect!!

It reall hurts my eyes when I see it written down incorrectly, mainly at work within people's correspondence, the worst is in official documentation- does nobody check these things?!

Laquila Sun 03-Nov-13 07:34:09

CustardLover that's my biggest bugbear!...

"Good morning Mrs Laquila! Could I just have a quick chat with yourself about solar panel heating?"

"Is it yourself who pays the utility bills in the household? "

MorrisZapp Sun 03-Nov-13 07:47:00

Mmm, this starter has really wet my appetite.

I've seen that in proper newspapers.

Heavens. I just had to look up "discrete" and "discreet" (I had no idea there were two words!) shock

For me it is aks, pacifically and ambleeance.

The "could of, would of" thing is more to do with our Yorkshire accents up here I think, but I agree it is terrible written down!

goandshowdaddy Sun 03-Nov-13 07:52:18

I've noticed people have started to use 'his' instead of 'he's' on the dreaded FB. I don't get it.

Also, my DH says 'volnerable' instead of 'vulnerable'. He's also guilty of 'free' instead of 'three' though - grr.

And where I live, everyone says 'was you' instead of 'were you' and 'I done' instead of 'I did'. I'm desperately trying to snap DS(5) out of these bad habits before it's too late!!!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 03-Nov-13 08:52:28

Goand, I notice some people also do the opposite with 'he's' and 'his;' 'he put he's coat on' shock.

GiveItYourBestFucker Sun 03-Nov-13 09:04:44

It could be worse, ducks - at least he doesn't think it's a Moo point, like Joey from Friends grin

GiveItYourBestFucker Sun 03-Nov-13 09:07:08

I bet they do "he's" because they've been taught adding an apostrophe is the way to show ownership - "that coat is GiveItYourBest's" - so "he" and "he's".

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Sun 03-Nov-13 09:10:41

I saw a sign in my local shopping centre asking everyone to "bear with us while ongoing car park improvements are made", but someone had cleverly crossed out "bear" and written "bare" above it in marker pen. Hahaha.

HarryStottle Sun 03-Nov-13 10:23:17

I get irrationally annoyed with the use of "at all" at the end of a sentence when the only possible answer is yes or no. "do you have a nectar card at all?"; "are you married at all?" no, not even slightly.

that is how we need to answer
"Do you have a nectar card at all?"

"Are you married at all?"

oh you are absofuckinglutely not being unreasonable.
My example is people who say 'reach'...
'oh the smell was really bad, it was making me reach'
'I wasn't sick, I was only reaching'
wtf? Do you not think retch is a real word?

AndHarry Sun 03-Nov-13 14:42:49

OP are you me? DH says this and it is excruciatingly annoying.

All these things annoy me too...

One that gets me is all this "popping" people expect you to do for them. Doctors and nurses are the worst for it. "Can you just pop yourself on the bench for me...that's it, now pop your top off for me"

Kernowgal Sun 03-Nov-13 15:04:56

I think 'go toilet' is a regional thing - colleague from Devon used to say this. Made my skin crawl.

persimmon Sun 03-Nov-13 15:33:38

The newsreaders on local radio here say amble-ance not ambUlance. Makes them sound 6.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 03-Nov-13 19:58:12

One of my tutors talks about the course's well-known alumini (pronounced 'aloo-min-eye.' He also thinks the plural of 'medium' is 'mediums.' Pretty basic knowledge for an artist, you'd think.

FestiveEdition Sun 03-Nov-13 20:10:34

"we went to mine" "shall we go to mine" me absolutely insane.

Also HAITCH, which just makes me suicidal as half the country appear to use it.

FestiveEdition Sun 03-Nov-13 20:24:19

Just spotted on a thread: "reigning in"
I had forgotten how much I am irritated by the failure to understand rein/reign

frogspoon Sun 03-Nov-13 20:26:18

I am weary of all these spelling and grammatical errors.

I am wary of making them myself.

CustardLover Sun 03-Nov-13 20:55:53

My mother and I had a huge row last year as she told me my ds had 'ravished up' his dinner. She meant something like 'devoured ravenously' and was thoroughly offended and refused to believe me when I explained the meaning of ravished.

Festive, "shall we go to mine?" is a bit lazy/colloquial but not wrong, is it?

At least she didn't say he'd "radished" his dinner grin

DuchessFanny Sun 03-Nov-13 21:02:01

Defuse/diffuse !

And my parents say to my utter annoyance 'he woofed it down'

Wolfed ! It's wolfed !!

ElephantsEye Sun 03-Nov-13 21:04:39

Had a meeting last week in which the most senior person there kept saying "gambit" instead of "gamut".

gambit = a manoeuvre which you are using to give you an advantage;
gamut = the whole range.

Quite different!

A colleague says "relative" when she means "relevant".

Both bring on my nervous tic. But them I'm well known as a the office pedant.

Except I guess they call you the office pendant

FestiveEdition Sun 03-Nov-13 21:22:04

Stealth - I hold up my hand to having frequent, quite irrational, response to some colloquialisms. I find them wearisome smile

oooh aye they are that'm

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