To hate DH's beard?

(73 Posts)
DameMarjorieChardem Wed 30-Oct-13 23:50:04

DH has always been clean shaven. I'm not a fan of facial hair. He has grown a beard and I HATE it!! I love him but oh man I want to scratch my face off when he kisses me! I'm really hoping its just a phase but he really likes it. He is good looking but the beard hides his loveliness. Maybe I should LTB. (Leave the beard).

Help me Mumsnet, I'm NBU am I?

WorraLiberty Wed 30-Oct-13 23:52:36


I don't even know your DH and I hate his beard too

Beard hating by proxy

Hawkmoth Wed 30-Oct-13 23:52:40

My DH slipped while trimming his moustache and had to take his beard down to stubble while it grew back. I cried my little heart out.

You may learn to love it.

WorraLiberty Wed 30-Oct-13 23:52:58

Or to be more precise....

Beard hating by proxy server!

DameMarjorieChardem Wed 30-Oct-13 23:56:41

Just pmsl at beard hating by proxy. That's how I feel about beards. I mean it's just there ON HIS FACE. hmm He is so proud of it. He's never had a beard before. I'm stuck with wanting to scratch the very skin from my face aren't I?

ILoveAFullFridge Thu 31-Oct-13 00:11:03

Dh is getting a head start on Movember, but as he won't do a moustache (think Village People and you'll understand what it makes him look like) he's going for the full beard with shaved neck.

OMG but it looks so good on him! He looks like a rakish dastardly pirate, about to sweep me off my feet and carry me away to... (deep breaths, flutters fan)

OTOH it's not yet long enough to stop being prickly, and it's a bit eurgh kissing him when he's been outdoors because its all cold and amp with condensation.

AdoraBell Thu 31-Oct-13 00:14:05


I also hate beards, 'orrible prickly things.

Funghoul Thu 31-Oct-13 00:17:55

My dp's beard was soft and lovely...then he shaved and now has a face like sandpaper.

NoComet Thu 31-Oct-13 00:44:29

Horrid things

Ixia Thu 31-Oct-13 04:17:27

Urgh, beards. Makes me think of the The Twits, bits of food and other yack stuck in them (yes, I know IABU).

KissesBreakingWave Thu 31-Oct-13 04:32:08

I am honestly shocked at the thought of straight women being unhappy with the hair growth patterns of an adult male. Have you considered that a preference for the beardlessness of youth might be well, a bit ... dubious?

(Made a trimming error when the boys were little. Decided to start again. Emerged from bathroom. DS2 - "Daddy, where's your beard?" "I've shaved it off, son." "SHAVE IT BACK ON!" He's nearly old enough to grow his own now.)

fishybits Thu 31-Oct-13 05:50:04

DH came back from sea with a full set for the first time and DD aged about 14 months roared with laughter when she saw him coming to the car grin

Nothing quite like a little "hot fuzz" action blush after a few weeks away but then he shaves it off.

ZombieRevengeWiggle Thu 31-Oct-13 05:54:02

I hated my DHs beard too to start with but I love it now! You have to give it a little while to grow long enough to stop being stubbly and scratchy. When he shaves it off now it's awful and unsettling, like he's taken off a part of his face.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Thu 31-Oct-13 06:03:52

The day DH stops shaving so will I.

SuperiorCat Thu 31-Oct-13 06:09:31

If DH stops dealing with his facial hair then so will I. It's debatable who will have the fullest tache and beard. Yuck yuck yuck horrible things. LTB.

Even Ben Cohen can't make a beard sexy.

pictish Thu 31-Oct-13 06:16:31

Yabu - I prefer my dh WITH a beard! It makes him look all grizzly and manly and rawr!

ScaryBeardyDeadyman Thu 31-Oct-13 06:28:11

In the land of the smooth faced, the bearded man is king.

SuperiorCat Thu 31-Oct-13 06:37:25

No sorry SBDM you're wrong, in that land the beardy man is the one not getting laid.

GigiDarcy Thu 31-Oct-13 06:39:53

Are you me?! DH growing a beard for the first time, he loves it and I hate it! I am reconciling myself to the general beard but I cannot stand the moustache bit-I can't have a kiss without it going up my nose or just prickling me.
And yes, I do think of the twits which makes me shudder!

livinginwonderland Thu 31-Oct-13 06:41:05

Threads like this make me SO glad that my DP has to be clean-shaven for his job. I hate beards - thankfully he doesn't like them anyway but he can't change his mind this way!


A beard improves any man's face. They're great.

<strokes DP's awesome beardage>

DH's beard is the stuff of legend & I love it. He's bored with it & threatening to shave, and I have begged him not to!

ScaryBeardyDeadyman Thu 31-Oct-13 07:03:03

I have a name for people without beards: women wink

ScaryBeardyDeadyman Thu 31-Oct-13 07:04:12

Superior I've managed to produce 2 kids whilst bearded. I think I do ok wink

FruOla Thu 31-Oct-13 07:04:27

I wonder if one of you is Mrs Malone? Sparkling had one of her Gareth Malone appreciation threads the other day which turned into a bit of a debate about his new bearded look grin

MadCap Thu 31-Oct-13 07:05:49

I love dh's beard. He looks twelve without it.

Branleuse Thu 31-Oct-13 07:10:33

its his face, his choice.
its perfectly normal for men to have beards. Theyre supposed to, plus beards are hot <3

Just live with it

BerryLellow Thu 31-Oct-13 07:21:38

I've developed a bit of a thing about beards. I think it's largely the fault of Sons Of Anarchy.

ILoveAFullFridge Thu 31-Oct-13 07:26:12

Branleuse I disagree. In a partnership it's just not on for one partner to make a lifestyle choice that turns the other off.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism Thu 31-Oct-13 07:31:02

DHs beard is the best. I can understand your feelings tho. I see other men's beards and think, 'oh no, your poor DW'.

(Stealth beard boasting.)

Is a beard a lifestyle choice?

Lovecat Thu 31-Oct-13 07:36:15

DH grew a beard.

It was gingery (he is blond).

He looked like Henry VIII

And not in a Jonathan Rhys Meyers way.

I didn't ask him to shave it off, thankfully he saw the resemblance too and did it himself.

What is he doing to it, though, if it's making you itchy? Once DH's was actually fully grown it was all soft & plushy and rather nice to kiss (disclaimer, this was not a beard you could hide a badger in, it was trimmed and all). The growing in stage was a bloody nightmare though, like sandpaper on my skin!

Branleuse Thu 31-Oct-13 07:38:37

ive never even seen my dp with a bare face

ithaka Thu 31-Oct-13 07:39:27

I feel your pain, OP. My DH is gorgeous, but weirdly drawn to growing facial hair. Not a beard, but things like a huge handlebar moustache with mutton chop whiskers is one of his faves. I bet you feel lucky now?

He knows my views, but the cheeky sod doesn't care. Sometimes he will just shave the lot off and look wonderful and young for a while, but he always falls of the wagon in the end.

My friends say things like 'I don't know how you put up with that' so I assume their husbands are gentle, easily manipulated souls, unlike my big, strong stubborn man.

ImAlpharius Thu 31-Oct-13 07:44:57

Dh grew a beard 2 and a half years ago and it's still here. I don't like it but he does. It's his body so I just live in hope he gets bored of it.

KissesBreakingWave Thu 31-Oct-13 09:12:06

A man without a beard, it has been said, is like a woman with one.

Seriously, I'm a little concerned by by all the latent pederasty on display here. It's little boys that don't have beards.

FruitOwl Thu 31-Oct-13 09:22:12

My OH has a massive beard (Mr Twit territory) and I love it. It's all soft and snuggly. Random strangers frequently come up to him when we're out to give it a stroke! Only downside is that yes, he does get food in it.
Men without beards look a bit wrong to me now, like something is missing!

zipzap Thu 31-Oct-13 09:39:44

Noooo. Beards are horrible. They're all scratchy and itchy and tickly and yuk. Haven't ever seen a man who looks better with a beard and/or moustache than without.

And why are they becoming so much more common than they used to be? (excluding the Movember thing, I get the doing something silly to raise money for charity for just a month.). It's the lifestyle choice of having a beard when you live somewhere that it's easy to shave, you look better and not bothering that I don't get.

cashmiriana Thu 31-Oct-13 09:58:44

DH is threatening to shave his beard off at the end of November.
I am begging him not to. I think he looks gorgeous in a 6' 4" blond Viking kind of way. For anyone who is struggling with the slightly scratchy stage, invest in some beard oil - it softens it up nicely and smells heavenly.

peggyundercrackers Thu 31-Oct-13 10:09:08

i quite like them when they are fully grown - its when they are not quite there that they are horrible and stubbly. i quite like handlebar moustaches - i think they look very gentlemanly and proper for some reason - not sure about the mutton chop whiskers that go with them though smile

iloveafullfridge - i take it if your man didnt like you shaving under your arms/legs and other bits because it turned him off you would be fine with not shaving?

Halfrek Thu 31-Oct-13 10:10:28

I like beards, DP is blonde and looks all Viking-like when he has one <shivers pleasantly>

jamdonut Thu 31-Oct-13 10:18:21

My Dh has had a beard for about 26 out of the 28 years I've known him. He's always had a moustache...never seen him without one!

I like well kept beards on men!

Poledra Thu 31-Oct-13 10:22:28

DH grew a beard last year. He did ask me if I liked it and did I think he should keep it. The answer, as far as I am concerned, is 'It's your face - do you like it?'. He never comments upon my shaving choices either grin

Raddy Thu 31-Oct-13 10:24:34

I hate beards.

My dh gets a black, Desperate Dan face of stubble by evening and that is bad enough.

RiffyWammal Thu 31-Oct-13 10:29:36

I love my DH's beard, it looks and feels lovely (so much better than stubble) and traps his nice smell. Try to embrace the beard, OP. You never know, one day you may want your DH to accept your beard! smile

FruOla Thu 31-Oct-13 10:35:41

"I love dh's beard. He looks twelve without it." Ah, MadCap, are you Mrs Malone? grin

I commented on the GM thread that I thought it made him look like Rex Harrison in The Ghost & Mrs Muir.

uncomfortablydumb Thu 31-Oct-13 10:40:05

I think you're in beard shock. Let it bed in a bit and you might change your mind.

The initial stubbly period is a bit of a challenge, but DH's is always silky after that. And much better than the daily danger of stubble that I had before.

Although given the season, if he has long hair aswell he might get Jesus comments by bored yoofs grin

caruthers Thu 31-Oct-13 10:51:03

I have a beard maybe 50% of the time and clean shaven the other 50% of the time and my Wife quite likes either.

But some mens beards are scruffy and unkempt and if your husbands beard is like a busted mattress you're not being unreasonable.

absentmindeddooooodles Thu 31-Oct-13 10:54:07

Not a fan of a full bushy foody beard. But hate hate hatethe clean shaven llook.

Dp is convinced that he only looks smart after a shave.

He looks like a 12 year old boy.

ScaryBeardyDeadyman Thu 31-Oct-13 10:56:05
EldritchCleavage Thu 31-Oct-13 11:05:41

His chin, his choice.

You don't have to kiss him though.

McAvity Thu 31-Oct-13 11:14:01

Is that you Mrs Paxman?

uncomfortablydumb Thu 31-Oct-13 11:20:32

grin at Mrs Paxman

oakmouse Thu 31-Oct-13 11:20:37

I quite like beards. I suppose a man can do what he likes with his own damn face, but a woman is also entitled to her sensory preferences. Please trim the bits of your moustache that come over your mouth. And for the love of God, don't call it a 'flavour saver'.

chocolatemartini Thu 31-Oct-13 11:23:21

Yabu. Beards are sexy. The prickly stage will pass as it gets longer wink

vichill Thu 31-Oct-13 11:29:31

I generally like beardies but it doesnt suit my dh at all. He looks homeless.I dyed my hair blonde as he defied my request to shave. He finds me more attractive as a brunette so until he gives in we will continue to find each other physically repugnant.

Lazysuzanne Thu 31-Oct-13 11:37:50

If I was a man I'd have a beard...great for covering up a less than firm jawline!

OTheHugeManatee Thu 31-Oct-13 11:46:01

YABU. I love beards. Provided they're neat and trimmed, that is. Not sure I'd like a long tickly whispy beard on DH, but a gentleman's beard is always an improvement grin

ILoveAFullFridge Thu 31-Oct-13 12:37:57

peggyundercrackers dh couldn't give a monkeys whether or not I shave grin

But he does dislike dangly earrings so, while I mostly wear dangles for comfort, if I'm going out with him I will wear studs. Similarly, he prefers me to have longer hair, so I don't cut it very short without first discussing it with him.

harticus Thu 31-Oct-13 12:41:50

Me too Lazysuzanne. I love beards. Think I am developing a bit of a fetish for them actually.
I would have one of those whacking great Edwardian ones. grin

APartridgeAmongThePigeons Thu 31-Oct-13 12:45:18

It's his face so yabu.. However it's your face being torn up so you have a right to ignore him... if that leads to a beard free face so be it

I quite like a sexy beard grin

SignoraStronza Thu 31-Oct-13 12:53:41

YABVVVU. Real men have beards. Fact. I don't mean those stupid trendy Lahndon hipster jobbies either. I'm talking the full on Brian Blessed. Phnarrr!

DH had lovely, clean, well maintained beard and resembles a pirate. No scratchiness if properly grown out and no issues with snogging or <ahem> other matters.

So, imo, every man should sport one, especially metalheads, bikers and pirates. grin

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Thu 31-Oct-13 13:00:32

love DHs goatee tash and beard but would hate a full on shaggy Growth. a few years ago I rrealised that I had never actually seen his face without one and asked him to shave it off so I could. he refused then one day without telling me went and did it. I didn't notice shock he went to work and no one there noticed either. part way through the day someone said 'are you ok... you look pale' he laughed and told them it was cos he had shaved they were shock one girl said 'oh I did not realise you even had a beard! obviously not a very observant lot are we smile its' stayed on since.

misskatamari Thu 31-Oct-13 13:00:35

I love my DHs beard. It's why I approached him in the first place. If the beard is quite new it might be scratchy but once it grows a bit it should be softer and lovely. Give it time, soon you will realise the awesomeness of beards and you'll never want him to shave it off grin

Lazysuzanne Thu 31-Oct-13 13:09:42

Beards allow men to do creative things with their faces, mitigating the effects of lipstick and eyeliner envy.

I think beards should be encouraged grin

RealAleandOpenFires Fri 01-Nov-13 02:32:55

Ok beard lovers & haters....My beard is just about 18 inches long & about 8-10 inches wide.

My DP & DC have never seen me without my 'tache nor beard.

ZombieRevengeWiggle Fri 01-Nov-13 07:05:00
WhoeverHeardOfAFucker Fri 01-Nov-13 07:13:16

My DP had a gorgeous beard when we met. He shaved it off a couple of years ago and has grown the most awful handlebar/70's moustache. He looks like my dad. hmm

FruOla Fri 01-Nov-13 07:30:01

EcclesCakes, your story about your DH shaving off his beard and nobody noticing has reminded me of my Dad. He always had a 'tache, but on the day he and Mum got married he decided to shave off his 'tache. She didn't notice either, even when it got to "you may now kiss the bride" grin. Their wedding photos are the only time I've ever seen Dad without a tache!

foofooyeah Fri 01-Nov-13 07:31:03

There is no sitting on the fence when it comes to beards! This thread has made me grin

Chopstheduck Fri 01-Nov-13 07:39:39

jsut grin at leave the beard. That's all!

cheeseandpineapple Fri 01-Nov-13 07:54:12

DH knows I'm a bit luke warm about his newish beard but secretly, I've got used to it and think it would look like something was missing if he shaved it off. Don't like it too long but a little longer than stubble is my favourite.

Wonder if Jamie Dornan will be clean shaven for 50 shades... Not a fan at all of the books and wasn't that fussed about the film but knowing he's in it might make me take a peek when it comes out..

They are definitely versatile Zombie

This is my DP.

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