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to use my wedding dress for Halloween fancy dress?

(60 Posts)
Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 22:34:09

I should state at the start that it is the dress I wore when I married my ex husband so no issues there for me. Also, the bodice is lovely and unmarked but the skirt is knackered, absolutely filthy (chucked it down on our wedding day) and has a fag burn in it (thank you pissed up ex BIL).

So, I was planning on shortening it to mid calf length, muckying up the skirt a bit more and with make up, a fake slit throat and dead flowers etc, go as a corpse bride. My mother is horrified! She said that I should save it incase the girls want to wear it but the skirt is beyond saving, so I would look after the bodice as that could be detached and used with a seperate or new skirt, but I see no issue in trashing the bottom of it.

AIBU?

ITCouldBeWorse Tue 29-Oct-13 22:36:03

Fabulous,,cathartic idea.

iago Tue 29-Oct-13 22:37:21

No! Mine went in the dustbin when X left. Your idea is a much better use of a garment which has no sentimental value.

Twilightsparklesmama Tue 29-Oct-13 22:39:40

I find this distasteful a friend of mine went out in fancy dress with her wedding dress on not long after her divorce, she put the pictures on face book and it seemed general consensus was the same feeling as mine. Also just because the dress is meaningless to you doesn't mean her dcs will feel the same in years to come.

elQuintoConyo Tue 29-Oct-13 22:40:08

Wow, sounds great grin

Yanbu. Great idea. Mine lived in the dds' dressing up box for years and then I turned it into a Miss Havisham costume.

Twilightsparklesmama Tue 29-Oct-13 22:40:23

Your DCs not her DCs

I'd have done it even had I still been with him too - it's just a dress: what's the point of keeping a dress and never using it? waste of money.

LackaDAISYcal Italy Tue 29-Oct-13 22:43:35

Brilliant idea grin No separation from DH here, but mine still has our wedding day strawberries crushed into the bottom of the skirt as I never got it dry cleaned blush <disclaimer it was 2nd hand off ebay so I'm not guilty of ruining something that cost £££££>

Never thought that my DD would even want it, but saving the bodice might be a nice idea, thanks smile

Famzilla Tue 29-Oct-13 22:44:33

YANBU. I just don't get why people hang on to their wedding dresses (especially the £3,000 ones!) they're not going to be in fashion by the time their DC's wear them, and they probably won't be old enough to be 'vintage' either.

Sorry, I just don't get it. I've sold my wedding dress, my mums and MIL's both went in the dressing up box. My friends has been taken apart and the fabric used for a christening outfit, which I thought was the traditional thing to do anyways.

LackaDAISYcal Italy Tue 29-Oct-13 22:45:44

I can't imagine my DC would have any sentimentality about what I wore on my wedding day Twighlightsparklemama, given that they weren't even born yet confused

lilyloo Tue 29-Oct-13 22:49:16

Good idea I doubt most daughters would want to wear their mums wedding dress and accompanying stains, holes etc anyway.
It's only a piece of fabric albeit an expensive one.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Tue 29-Oct-13 22:52:39

I don't think it's nice for DC - they are a product of your union and it just seems a bit crass to wreak the dress in front of them. I know you keep it in a bag, but at least that's not destroying it as they watch.

gruffalosmile Tue 29-Oct-13 22:53:22

Great idea, my old wedding dress went to neices and apparently did quite a few halloweens in it's time

Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 22:57:10

To the naysayers. I would not be destroying it, it is currently unusable as a wedding dress, it really is that knackered. Even if it could be cleaned the massive hole and surrounding stains from the fag burn (right at the front, I was thrilled to walk around with that all day) render it rubbish.

However, the bodice which is cotton lace and could be used either seperately or attached to a new skirt, is salvagable and I will be looking after that in case the DD's want it.

Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 22:58:29

Re the burn, I only noticed when I smelled something burning, it went through the dress, the underskirts and singed the hooped petticoat, its a wonder I didnt go up in flames. He ruined it sad

GoingGoingGoth Costa Rica Tue 29-Oct-13 23:00:37

Sounds great, I keep thinking of cutting mine up to make something but don't have any ideas.

JumpingJackSprat Tue 29-Oct-13 23:07:27

Its your dress not your daughters. Do what you like with it smile

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps Tue 29-Oct-13 23:14:06

My mum saved stuff from her divorce so I could keep it. I chucked it all out because why the hell would I want it? You don't need 'proof of your union' because the kids are it!!

Your dress dress sounds fab. Go for it!

fatlazymummy Tue 29-Oct-13 23:25:07

Saving your wedding dress for your children sounds really weird to me.
If it's not in good enough nick to be sold /donated to charity then you might as well have some fun with it.
Go for it!

I did a Corpse Bride three years ago.
I didn't want to alter or damage mine so I got some lace offcuts to tear and made an overskirt, then a long piece to make a veil (they were yellowy so looked old)
A tiara (it's a ti-ar-a) from Primark
Talcum in my hair (I'm not quite grey yet, need help)
Then white face, ghoulish eyes and red lips.

And a bouquet of black roses.

I looked lush
Go for it Bogeyface

Tweasels Tue 29-Oct-13 23:34:07

I've considered this and I'm still married. It's just a dress. Can't believe people can find an issue with this. It's your frock, do what you like with it.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Tue 29-Oct-13 23:36:14

I don't want DD to have my dress if she gets married neither does DH.

What we want to do is give her a generous budget for her the pick her own dress.

My dress is in the attic and that is where it's staying.

Op I love you idea.

Great idea for a fancy dress grin. It's your dress, yours to do what you want with. Anyway, it's not like you are ever going to wear it again. And if your DDs ever decide to get married, they will probably want to get dresses of their own, not wear yours that will probably be years out of date by then.

My Mum let my DSis wear her wedding dress for a Halloween costume, years ago when DSis was about 10 (she was the Bride of Frankenstein. DSis for Halloween, I mean, not my Mum...) The dress was utterly destroyed, but my Mum's take on it was, feck it, it was only sitting in her wardrobe never to be worn again, DSis had a brilliant time flouncing about in it, and my Mum had loads of cute photos of her dressed up in it. None of us were at all upset that the Mammy's wedding dress was in tatters and ended up in the bin.

70is, grin at 'it's a ti-ar-a'. My fave TBBT episode ever!

fanjofarrow Tue 29-Oct-13 23:51:02

grin Marvelous idea, OP!

Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 23:59:05

shadows just snorted at you having to make the point that your mum wasnt the Bride of Frankenstein grin

Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 23:59:41

I think the Ayes have it, will post a photo on my profile!

Bogey, if you saw my Papa first thing in the morning, all grumbling and shuffling, you'd well believe that my Mum could indeed be the Bride of Frankenstein wink.

Definitely post a photo of your costume when it's done, would love to see it. Also, a corpse bride makes a nice change from the proliferation of 'slutty / sexy (urgh) whatever' costumes at the moment. At a Halloween party on Sun night, my sisters and I encountered a 'slutty slice of pizza', a 'sexy Elmo', a 'sexy killer whale' and a 'slutty crayon' (their descriptions, not mine, btw). Seriously. Sexy killer whale will haunt my nightmares.

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 00:42:18

WTAF?!

Sorry but all of those need more description! How the buggery fuck can you dress as a sexy slice of pizza?!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Wed 30-Oct-13 00:48:30
Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 00:50:44

Wow!

Turns out that there are levels of stupid I had no idea existed!

fanjofarrow Wed 30-Oct-13 00:52:22

Slutty pizza? Yikes Uncle Scooby!

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 00:52:33

http://www.yandy.com/Whale.php

Orca "cutie"

My eyes hurt

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 00:52:39
17leftfeet Wed 30-Oct-13 00:53:42

Oh my word that pizza dress is something to behold!

Slutty slice of pizza was a tiny pizza-print dress (so cheese and pepperoni print) and a little pointed hat that was the 'tip' of the pizza slice. Sexy killer whale was a black and white swimsuit with a killer whale hood and tail stuck on. Sexy Elmo... Closest thing I can find is this, but there was less fabric. Slutty crayon was a tiny red dress with 'Crayola' printed on a piece of paper and pinned on it, with a red witches hat to represent the top of the crayon.

It was all very disturbing!

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 01:00:35

www.yandy.com/Deluxe-Tiger-Costume.php
With some effort and expenditure you can ensure that your children will never sleep again after seeing Winnie the Pooh

Shit, that site is fucked up!

fanjofarrow Wed 30-Oct-13 01:07:02

What the actual..... just look.

Ooh, you all found some! Sadly, that sexy pizza was a bit better than the one we saw (if any 'sexy pizza' urgh, can indeed be 'better'). The one we saw was clearly from Pizza Hut wink.

Fecking hell, that 'Orca Cutie' is, well, beyond words. Since when do Orcas have fluffy tassels??

Holy buggering shite! I thought sexy killer whale would haunt my nightmares, but that Tigger takes the creepy, disturbing cake. A.A. Milne is forever ruined for me!

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 01:16:27

Shadows are you in the UK?

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 01:17:21

101 Dalmations and The Starlight Barking are my 2 favourite books, but now I feel....icky.

Monty27 Wed 30-Oct-13 01:22:07

Go for it, mine got screwed up and put in one of the black bin liners of his stuff that that I was rolling down the stairs when I discovered him shagging my bf grin (it was a long time ago which is why I can do grin but it wasn't so funny at the time)

If you haven't got sentimentality attached to it do it smile

I'm in Ireland, Bogey. Why, were you hoping I could ask one of the ladies I met the other night to loan you their sexy Whale / Elmo / Fire Hydrant costumes? wink.

fanjo, that dalmatian costume kind of makes me want to cry. How, well, just yucky.

AdoraBell Chile Wed 30-Oct-13 01:30:20

Brillante ideathlgrin, can kind of see DM's point but would DDs want to use a knackered dress, really?

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 01:49:08

Monty I am impressed you didnt try to strangle them with it, and good for you that you grin about it now smile

Shadow No, I have theory! I suspect they spent an evening together googling and then realised that the cost of the outfits, plus shipping time, meant that they had to make their own! Hence the Sexy Pizza Hut Slice grin

Nicely done, Monty! A friend of mine was living in Playa Del Carmen when her husband fucked off, so she rolled her wedding dress up in a ball and fucked it in the Caribbean. She says it was rather cathartic grin.

Ahh, good thinking, Bogey. I did see a hot dog at that party, he and sexy pizza may have gone halfsies on the buffet wink. It's just a pity they didn't come across a hunky potato wedge, then they could have really cut costs grin

AveryJessup Wed 30-Oct-13 02:23:32

Great idea! Kind of wish I had a wedding dress of no sentimental value lying around the house now so I could do this...I love Corpse Bride.

Bogeyface Netherlands Wed 30-Oct-13 02:26:41

Well thank you shadow it is rare that I literally LOL but "hunky potato wedge" just made m laugh like a drain!

Orangesarenottheonlyfruit Wed 30-Oct-13 08:11:50

I'm happily married but I use my wedding dress for fancy dress all the time. I've been the Woman in White and worn it to a bad taste anniversary party where we had to wear the worst wedding outfits we could think of, I thought wearing my dress to someone else's wedding was pretty bad taste! oh yes and I've worn it to a fancy dress party, with wellies and a fluffy tiara, on a campsite! It is really liberating to actually use something that would otherwise be sitting in a box on top of a wardrobe gathering dust.

HonoraRogers Wed 30-Oct-13 08:17:25

I think it's a great idea for a costume. I am surprised that so many grown women attach sentimentality to what is, after all, just a dress.

That pizza dress made me laugh.

I sold mine the other day after seeing a wanted ad on a local facebook page for one to be used as a Halloween costume. As my marriage turned into something of a nightmare it seemed a rather apt use for it. I spent the cash on my dcs and the grandchildren so everyone was happy!

WhereIsMyHat Wed 30-Oct-13 08:28:12

Brilliant idea. I'd do it with my dress and we're still happily married.

AnkaretLestrange Wed 30-Oct-13 08:33:13

That is a great idea for a bad taste anniversary party grin

notadoctor Wed 30-Oct-13 09:16:36

I think it's a great idea! I'm happily married but I still sold my dress on eBay and this is definitely a better use of it than that!

Cuddlydragon Wed 30-Oct-13 09:46:26

God yes, use it and have fun with it. It's only a dress. Post pictures.

KhunZhoop Wed 30-Oct-13 10:05:01

My wedding dress cost £40. I might start wearing it around the house to freak out the husband.

killpeppa Wed 30-Oct-13 10:08:35

I did this a month after I got married!

I wasn't going to wear it again and if I ever had a daughter she wouldn't wear a maternity wedding dress with fake tan stains on it!

Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:14:34

I think you should do whatever the hell you want with your wedding dress and can't believe some would be offended?!!

Sounds like an ACE costume.

Twilightsparklesmama Wed 30-Oct-13 19:40:50

I wouldn't expect my DDs to want to wear the dress for their own wedding!!!! However I do think the dress has meaning, and will do to them. lack my daughters weren't born on my wedding day either but the dress is not just a dress its the wedding dress from when their parents got married. Maybe I'm just sentimental!

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